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Speaker 1: Welcome to the She Rises podcast.
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Speaker 2: I'm Ashi.
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Speaker 1: And I'm Tiana.
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Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.
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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. We're going to laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone else is too afraid to talk about.
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Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level self.
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Speaker 1: That'd be the biggest piece of advice I would give for anyone feeling really stuck right now is just to actually carve out some time where you can sit with yourself, whether it's in the sunshine, at the beach, sitting in nature journaling, and just sit with and be really fucking honest with where you're at and how you're feeling. Are you happy being a stay-at-home mom? Would you like to go back to work? Are you happy running this corporate job with no freedom, but you're in big money? Or would you like something a little bit more free-flowing? are you really happy in your relationship? Or do you feel like it's hit its point where there's no more growth in that? Yeah. Do you feel like you're stagnant in that? Really be honest with yourself and let those feelings come up and then you can have clarity around what you do with that. It's always a choice.
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Speaker 2: It's like being okay with what you might find. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Which is scary. I get it.
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Speaker 2: No, but don't fear what comes up. It's like, use it, leverage curiosity, just get curious. And Like it doesn't matter what you explore or, you know, what option you might want to go in, whether it's your career or your relationship. Be okay to explore both options, whether you want to stay, whether you want to go, pros and cons. Like what would it look like for both sides? What do you really want? Like that's how you get to know what you really want out of life. And it's really important that we allow ourselves to get clarity but also not put pressure on yourself for clarity. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: You know, explore it.
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Speaker 2: Have fun with it.
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Speaker 1: Take time.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, give yourself time.
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Speaker 1: And you know what too? Staying where I was was going to be hard. Taking a risk and changing my whole life, hard. It's in that moment. It's like, okay, well, which heart am I going to choose? That's right. What's going to benefit my future the most? Both are uncomfortable. Both are going to rattle me, but I'm going to choose the heart that feels more aligned and that I know that will benefit. And it's meeting me where I'm at right now, not where I was two years ago.
00:02:17
Speaker 2: Permission to grow, permission to evolve. You're a new person every single time that you change and grow. Yeah. And like being willing to choose yourself over what other people might have to say around that change and growth. Yeah.
00:02:28
Speaker 1: Like you're congruent. Yeah.
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Speaker 2: It's congruent with what you want or your heart desires and needs now. And it's okay that that changes. If we hate the discomfort that we're feeling right now, okay, what's going to be the action that I can take to get me out of this place of discomfort? Well, it's doing the hard thing so that I can create ease. So instead of it being the problem, what if that was the solution?
00:02:48
Speaker 1: Oh, my God. Mic drop.
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Speaker 2: Game changer, right? Yeah. And then like what we were talking about earlier, you can change. Like give yourself permission to change. Just because you advocated for one thing, 10 years ago, five years ago, two years ago, fucking three days ago. It doesn't matter. You can choose to change in this very moment simply because in your brain, you decided you were different now. Simply because in your mind, you decided I actually don't resonate with that anymore. I actually changed my mind. I actually don't believe in that. Wow. I changed my mind. Everything that happened from here in the past actually is irrelevant. None of it matters, but we hold on to it.
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Speaker 1: Don't we?
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Speaker 2: We hold on to it because we think I've been this way for so long. I said that. That's right. Now I need to continue being this way. But that's what keeps us stagnant. A lot of the times fearing what other people think about us will keep us more stagnant than actually us not changing.
00:03:42
Speaker 1: Isn't that fucked up too? We're so worried about what other people think of us. We will continue to choose pain and suffering and discomfort and because of what old maid at work might say or Sally underscore 88 says online or what fucking mom or grandma thinks of us, we would choose to stay in that pain.
00:03:58
Speaker 2: Or our friend that we drink with on the weekend and we're scared of their judgment because we're changing and becoming a different version that they don't resonate with. Like all that matters is what you choose from right in this moment. Actually, not even in the future. The only thing that matters is what you choose in the next 24 hours. Imagine how much less pressure you would feel to just show up and do the things that you want to do that make you fucking happy in the next 24.
00:04:21
Speaker 1: Hours and who are you living for like us having this conversation it's just like i hope this lands for everyone listening who are you actually living for are you choosing your life decisions based on what everyone else thinks of you if i was to do that i wouldn't be here today if i was to listen to everyone online that told me not to do this not to do that that shit that's wrong whatever oh my god i would live in so much regret yeah so much regret Even this is like I've done a couple of different podcasts and the amount of shit I copped when we started this new podcast, here she goes again. Oh, man. I'm not listening to you.
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Speaker 2: No.
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Speaker 1: Look at my past as a failure. All of that has led me to be able to be in this position to do a fucking good job with this podcast because I had the practice runs, you know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: And you can apply that to all areas of your life. So cool. But irrelevant.
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Speaker 2: People are just hating for the sake of being haters. It's irrelevant. People's words don't matter.
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Speaker 1: No, they really don't.
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Speaker 2: Not unless you give them weight.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, stop living your life for other people. What do you actually want? If you're feeling stuck, it probably is because you're so concerned with what everyone else is thinking or because you think you have to stay or remain the same who you were a year ago or five years ago or because you said you're going to do something or commit to something, go to uni, do this job, fulfill this job, commit to the marriage because you said your vows.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the She Rises podcast.
00:00:12
Speaker 2: I'm Ashi.
00:00:13
Speaker 1: And I'm Tiana.
00:00:14
Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.
00:00:21
Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. We're going to laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone else is too afraid to talk about.
00:00:28
Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level self.
00:00:32
Speaker 1: That'd be the biggest piece of advice I would give for anyone feeling really stuck right now is just to actually carve out some time where you can sit with yourself, whether it's in the sunshine, at the beach, sitting in nature journaling, and just sit with and be really fucking honest with where you're at and how you're feeling. Are you happy being a stay-at-home mom? Would you like to go back to work? Are you happy running this corporate job with no freedom, but you're in big money? Or would you like something a little bit more free-flowing? are you really happy in your relationship? Or do you feel like it's hit its point where there's no more growth in that? Yeah. Do you feel like you're stagnant in that? Really be honest with yourself and let those feelings come up and then you can have clarity around what you do with that. It's always a choice.
00:01:15
Speaker 2: It's like being okay with what you might find. Yeah.
00:01:18
Speaker 1: Which is scary. I get it.
00:01:20
Speaker 2: No, but don't fear what comes up. It's like, use it, leverage curiosity, just get curious. And Like it doesn't matter what you explore or, you know, what option you might want to go in, whether it's your career or your relationship. Be okay to explore both options, whether you want to stay, whether you want to go, pros and cons. Like what would it look like for both sides? What do you really want? Like that's how you get to know what you really want out of life. And it's really important that we allow ourselves to get clarity but also not put pressure on yourself for clarity. Yeah.
00:01:49
Speaker 1: You know, explore it.
00:01:50
Speaker 2: Have fun with it.
00:01:51
Speaker 1: Take time.
00:01:52
Speaker 2: Yeah, give yourself time.
00:01:53
Speaker 1: And you know what too? Staying where I was was going to be hard. Taking a risk and changing my whole life, hard. It's in that moment. It's like, okay, well, which heart am I going to choose? That's right. What's going to benefit my future the most? Both are uncomfortable. Both are going to rattle me, but I'm going to choose the heart that feels more aligned and that I know that will benefit. And it's meeting me where I'm at right now, not where I was two years ago.
00:02:17
Speaker 2: Permission to grow, permission to evolve. You're a new person every single time that you change and grow. Yeah. And like being willing to choose yourself over what other people might have to say around that change and growth. Yeah.
00:02:28
Speaker 1: Like you're congruent. Yeah.
00:02:30
Speaker 2: It's congruent with what you want or your heart desires and needs now. And it's okay that that changes. If we hate the discomfort that we're feeling right now, okay, what's going to be the action that I can take to get me out of this place of discomfort? Well, it's doing the hard thing so that I can create ease. So instead of it being the problem, what if that was the solution?
00:02:48
Speaker 1: Oh, my God. Mic drop.
00:02:49
Speaker 2: Game changer, right? Yeah. And then like what we were talking about earlier, you can change. Like give yourself permission to change. Just because you advocated for one thing, 10 years ago, five years ago, two years ago, fucking three days ago. It doesn't matter. You can choose to change in this very moment simply because in your brain, you decided you were different now. Simply because in your mind, you decided I actually don't resonate with that anymore. I actually changed my mind. I actually don't believe in that. Wow. I changed my mind. Everything that happened from here in the past actually is irrelevant. None of it matters, but we hold on to it.
00:03:27
Speaker 1: Don't we?
00:03:28
Speaker 2: We hold on to it because we think I've been this way for so long. I said that. That's right. Now I need to continue being this way. But that's what keeps us stagnant. A lot of the times fearing what other people think about us will keep us more stagnant than actually us not changing.
00:03:42
Speaker 1: Isn't that fucked up too? We're so worried about what other people think of us. We will continue to choose pain and suffering and discomfort and because of what old maid at work might say or Sally underscore 88 says online or what fucking mom or grandma thinks of us, we would choose to stay in that pain.
00:03:58
Speaker 2: Or our friend that we drink with on the weekend and we're scared of their judgment because we're changing and becoming a different version that they don't resonate with. Like all that matters is what you choose from right in this moment. Actually, not even in the future. The only thing that matters is what you choose in the next 24 hours. Imagine how much less pressure you would feel to just show up and do the things that you want to do that make you fucking happy in the next 24.
00:04:21
Speaker 1: Hours and who are you living for like us having this conversation it's just like i hope this lands for everyone listening who are you actually living for are you choosing your life decisions based on what everyone else thinks of you if i was to do that i wouldn't be here today if i was to listen to everyone online that told me not to do this not to do that that shit that's wrong whatever oh my god i would live in so much regret yeah so much regret Even this is like I've done a couple of different podcasts and the amount of shit I copped when we started this new podcast, here she goes again. Oh, man. I'm not listening to you.
00:04:52
Speaker 2: No.
00:04:53
Speaker 1: Look at my past as a failure. All of that has led me to be able to be in this position to do a fucking good job with this podcast because I had the practice runs, you know.
00:05:01
Speaker 2: Yeah.
00:05:01
Speaker 1: And you can apply that to all areas of your life. So cool. But irrelevant.
00:05:06
Speaker 2: People are just hating for the sake of being haters. It's irrelevant. People's words don't matter.
00:05:10
Speaker 1: No, they really don't.
00:05:11
Speaker 2: Not unless you give them weight.
00:05:12
Speaker 1: But yeah, stop living your life for other people. What do you actually want? If you're feeling stuck, it probably is because you're so concerned with what everyone else is thinking or because you think you have to stay or remain the same who you were a year ago or five years ago or because you said you're going to do something or commit to something, go to uni, do this job, fulfill this job, commit to the marriage because you said your vows.
