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You will never be perfect.
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It is unattainable.
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You need to learn to appreciate where you are right now.
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Welcome to Selfdom Beautiful Humans.
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I'm Dominika Lisa, your host, and I'm so grateful you are here.
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Selfdom is a safe space for meaningful conversations around wellness, nutrition, personal growth, and becoming the best version of you.
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Welcome back to Selfdom, beautiful humans.
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This week feels like a bit of a pregnancy week, but I'm back and I'm so excited.
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As I mentioned on Monday, this is going to be the 10 lessons I have learned over the past nine months.
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So pregnancy is such an eye-opening experience.
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You're sacrificing so much for this little being in your belly before pregnancy.
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You've even given birth.
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I've had some real awakenings on what health really means.
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I think that's kind of the overarching theme of what this episode will be.
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So whether you're pregnant, whether you want kids or whether you are just living your best single life, there is so much to take away from this episode.
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And I'm really, really excited to share it with you.
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OK, I'm going to jump straight in.
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Number one.
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Ordering the healthiest thing on the menu isn't always the healthiest thing.
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Okay, I'm going to say that again.
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Ordering the healthiest thing on the menu isn't always the healthiest thing.
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So my old self, if I was going out for food, I would look at the menu in advance and always order the healthiest thing.
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That's quotation marks.
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What's the point of going out for a meal if you're going to order fish and vegetables when you're at a stunning Italian restaurant?
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I am saying this because I probably go out once a week for a meal.
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It's not like I go out all the time.
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Yes, if you're someone who gets all your meals out, you do have to be conscious.
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But if you are like me and you maybe go out with friends once or twice a week, the healthiest thing you can do for yourself is to order the thing that you want and to enjoy it.
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with your friends and to laugh and to not think about the macros in your food.
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So that was such an eye opener for me.
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I think being pregnant really leaned in.
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Like when we go out for food, I look at the menu and I pick the thing that I want to eat, not because it is the healthiest thing.
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This is something I'm going to take away postpartum and for the rest of my life and also really embed this in my children.
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Like pleasure and indulging are all beautiful things of life and we should not be demonizing certain foods and going out for food is literally one of life's greatest pleasures.
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Okay, my second learning is being a human being is so much better and cooler than being a human doing.
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Okay.
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Okay, guys, we are in this world of optimization right now.
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Every single person is waking up at five, going to the gym, counting their macros, going to bed at a certain time, like so, so, so strict.
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And don't get me wrong, I love routine so much.
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But you don't need to be doing all the time.
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Being is more productive in my eyes.
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So being pregnant, you need to rest a lot more.
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You need to look after yourself in a more gentler way than maybe before.
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And I have to say these moments of stillness have allowed creativity to flow out of me.
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I feel like I'm more present with the ones that I love because I'm just being.
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When you're someone who is like overachieving and wanting to do all the things, you're
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You can be at a social arrangement and be thinking about the next thing you've got to do or the workout you're going to do after and this and that.
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You're not in the moment and you're not present.
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And I think if you continue living your life like this, constantly doing, you're going to look back and regret it because you were never present.
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So yeah, I think celebrate just being.
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You don't always need to look at your phone.
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You don't always need to be making a hundred plans.
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Like I was that girl on the weekend that would have plan, plan, plan, plan, like,
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Didn't ever want to be alone.
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Didn't ever want to be doing nothing.
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Needed to do.
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But now I honestly love like a nap.
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I love reading a book on the couch and just leaning into that slower phase of life.
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I feel more connected to the people in my life than ever before because I feel that present peace is such a big part of it.
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And I think especially in the culture that we live in here, you know, in the eastern suburbs of Sydney.
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It's very big on optimization.
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And I think just on social media, I think we really glamorize people who are like burnt out.
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Like it's seen as something to be super proud of.
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If you're burnt out, your body is exhausted.
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You're probably doing too much.
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You might even get sick.
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Let's start glamorizing the people who go sit at the beach or sit in a park without a phone, with a book and just go.
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be my third learning is chasing perfection won't make you happy my whole life I think being a model from such a young age is like striving perfection like if I had a blemish if I had this if I had that it's like life isn't good
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Oh my God, doesn't that sound silly?
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The fact that you can't live your life to the fullest because you have a small blemish or an insecurity.
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You have to let it go.
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Chasing perfection, you are going to be on a hamster reel for your whole life because you will never be perfect.
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It is unattainable.
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You need to learn to appreciate where you are right now.
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I think about the happiest people in my life.
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I think about my nonna.
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She is like 93 years old and she gardens every day.
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She is always laughing.
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She is so present, so incredible.
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She's not chasing perfection.
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She's not worrying about the lines on her face.
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She's just so happy to be here.
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And I think there's so much to learn from people like that.
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If you chase perfection, you will never be happy.
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So I think, again, it kind of ties really nicely to the point before in this world of optimization, like you can never be completely optimized.
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You can never be perfect.
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So if you strive for these things, you really will not be happy and you're going to miss all the joys in life.
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And just from my personal experience and why pregnancy has taught me this is because I can't do the treatments I once did.
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I can't, you literally can't do anything when you're pregnant.
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And, you know, I've had like a little bit of Botox on my forehead and things, but I haven't had any this year.
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So I've got my lines back and then this, and I'm like, I'm the happiest I've ever been.
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I feel like I giggle all the time.
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I'm laughing all the time.
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Yeah, it's just, it's so freeing.
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And I think it's beautiful in this world of perfection to just be authentic and to be.
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My fourth tip, though, is never underestimate the power of a lip liner and an eyebrow gel.
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A little bit goes a long way, guys.
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During this pregnancy, there are days where I feel horrible.
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Let's be honest, everyone feels horrible some days, but when you're unable to control anything, your body's changing, everything's changing, the power of putting on a little bit of makeup is incredible.
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Like you show up to the world as a different person.
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And yeah, it's just really showing me that little bit of a beauty routine is such a self-care ritual.
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And I've been loving playing around with different brands.
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I love Merit.
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I'm loving Chanel.
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I'm loving Ere Perez.
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Yeah.
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There's quite a few brands.
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So yeah, let me know if you want me to put a little shot of my favorite beauty brands, maybe my go-to brands and the colors.
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And I'll put in the show notes below.
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Okay, number five is movement is a non-negotiable at every stage of life.
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So I've always been super active as a kid.
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I did ballet, soccer, like rugby.
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I did everything.
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My mom was exhausted dropping me all over the place.
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I've always been super active and...
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And as I've entered this pregnancy era, I have stayed active the whole time.
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And I've never been chasing a look or you actually can't.
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Your body's changing.
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There's nothing you can do about it.
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And as I've spoken before on another episode about training during pregnancy, your body's actually creating fat and making fat and not prioritizing muscle at this moment because it's preparing you for your milk supply.
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So it's actually...
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incredible and survive.
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It's actually a survival mechanism for your body.
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So movement has just been so important for my mental health.
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Like the days I do not train, I am, it's day and night.
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And so even if it is just going for a walk, like this morning we had our walk club and the sun shining and getting outside and I just feel so good.
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And it was just such a reminder that movement isn't just for aesthetics.
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Like, don't get me wrong.
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Like, I'm not naive.
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Of course, people go to the gym to look a certain way.
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But it is so much more than that.
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And I hope that I'm old and gray.
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One of those nonas still walking up the stairs with their groceries.
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And it's just, yeah, that's why those blue zones, people live so long.
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Because they're super active.
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And it's just activity throughout your day.
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So if you're someone who has struggled with movement and you feel like you need to
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go to a certain workout class or do something.
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This is your message to you that it's getting movement throughout the day.
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I know we all know the saying of instead of taking the lift, take the stairs.
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Get off the bus a few stops earlier.
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These things really do make a difference.
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And you'll notice a change in your mental health because you committed to that.
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Yeah, I've just found moving through this pregnancy has been so important for my mental health.
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And it's made me really excited postpartum to train again and to move and to feel good because it's not like I'm trying to –
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you know, bounce back as they say, but I'm just moving because I genuinely love it.
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And I do believe that my body will, whatever it goes back to, whatever it wants to be is exactly where it needs to be.
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So yeah, just have this newfound love for movement more so than ever.
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I did also want to share for my preggie ladies there that if you are having an uncomplicated birth, they do recommend
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per week.
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So it actually is recommended for you.
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I actually saw on Instagram, this lady in her third trimester just ran the Sydney marathon in sub three, like
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If that's not going to inspire you, I don't know what else will.
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But yeah, if you've never done exercise before, don't go doing a marathon.
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But if you were moving before and you're feeling good, continue moving now.
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It's just beautiful.
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So yeah, that's a little one for the preggy girls.
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It is officially warming up in Australia and I can genuinely feel that shift in energy around me.
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If you've been waiting for the right time to reset your mindset, there really couldn't be a better time than now.
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I created the Selfdom Gratitude Journal as a simple daily ritual that takes just a few minutes in the morning and evening to ground yourself and train your brain to notice more of the good in your life.
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I'm so passionate about gratitude because this practice helped me through severe insomnia, anxiety and disordered eating.
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And it's still something I come back to every single day.
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My sixth learning is asking for help is a strength.
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It is not a weakness.
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Why in our society do we feel this need to be so independent?
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We can do it ourself.
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We don't need help.
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Asking for help is a strength and it's something I've really had to learn to do.
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And I've leaned into it now and I feel like I have the best support with me.
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I feel like I can ask my friends without judgment.
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And yeah, we're meant to be in a village.
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Like we're meant to have support.
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We're meant to have human connection.
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And so, yeah, I really think that it's something we've grown up with that we need to let go of, especially as I enter motherhood, because I'm really going to need to be asking for favors and help and encouragement and support.
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So letting go of that mentality during my pregnancy, I think is going to be one of my greatest superpowers postpartum.
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I also want to share some studies.
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So they did a review and found that lower social support during pregnancy was associated with higher odds of antenatal depression and anxiety.
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So if you let yourself be in the dark, you're going to feel that postpartum.
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So really learn to be okay regularly.
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With just sharing your needs with the ones that love you.
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Because if they love you, they'll want to help you.
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Number seven is rawness and authenticity will always connect more than perfection.
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So I recently put a post up the other day and it was my five lows of 2026.
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I was flooded with love.
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And then I'll put a post up of my perfect pregnancy photo shoot.
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And like, of course you get support, but nothing connects people more than when you're raw and you're vulnerable, especially in a world where everyone's trying to be so perfect.
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And I think I've had so many reminders of that throughout my life.
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like when I shared a lot of the hard stuff with my mom and then now during pregnancy, like sharing the acne, sharing the anemia, sharing those hard moments, people feel more connected to you.
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And so, you know, Brené Brown's the queen of this and the queen of talking about vulnerability.
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So I think allowing yourself just to be true, when people ask how you are, if you're not okay, like be true.
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Like, why do we all say, good, how are you?
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If you're having a shit day and you're with a friend, tell them, ask for the support, vent to them.
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And as well, if you're someone trying to build a social media following, don't just try to copy the crowd.
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Be authentic, be you.
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And yeah, I think that's been my favorite part of the podcast and long form is that I can share my authentic self the entire time.
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and connect with people.
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And even today at Walk Club, I met a beautiful woman who lost her mom a few months ago and she's pregnant.
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And I just started feeling so emotional and I feel so connected to this woman now.
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Whilst before it's like, you know, I felt connected to her.
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Obviously she's being pregnant, but this just built this whole other dimension of connection.
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And it was just such a reminder to me of the importance of being real and raw, right?
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Okay, number eight, sleep is an act of radical self-care.
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All right, I love sleep.
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Everyone knows I love sleep.
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I have a really crazy sleep routine and all of that.
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But pregnancy has like highlighted this even more.
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Like when you have a bad sleep, everyone knows you feel so shit the next day.
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So let's stop glamorizing it.
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If you wake up one morning to go to a gym class at 5 a.m. but you feel shit,
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like you need to sleep, sleep, sleep.
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Your body needs rest.
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That's why I'm so passionate about our journal called Flow State because every morning you're checking in with yourself.
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These boring things are so important.
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um tom's been taking it and he's been feeling amazing so that's a brand called forage really recommend them and then a little bit more about my supplements obviously as i said i have food aversion so maybe not eating as much fish okay let's take omega-3s iodine calcium certain nutrients i know that i'm not getting from my food so i supplement them where i can and yeah i just think food of first supplement second guys it doesn't need to be the other way around
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If you love this episode, please share it on your story.
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Please comment and maybe send it to someone who needs a little brightening of their day because I feel like there's a lot of positivity in this one.
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This might be my last solo before I give birth.
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You will never be perfect.
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It is unattainable.
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You need to learn to appreciate where you are right now.
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Welcome to Selfdom Beautiful Humans.
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I'm Dominika Lisa, your host, and I'm so grateful you are here.
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Selfdom is a safe space for meaningful conversations around wellness, nutrition, personal growth, and becoming the best version of you.
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Welcome back to Selfdom, beautiful humans.
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This week feels like a bit of a pregnancy week, but I'm back and I'm so excited.
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As I mentioned on Monday, this is going to be the 10 lessons I have learned over the past nine months.
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So pregnancy is such an eye-opening experience.
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You're sacrificing so much for this little being in your belly before pregnancy.
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You've even given birth.
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I've had some real awakenings on what health really means.
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I think that's kind of the overarching theme of what this episode will be.
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So whether you're pregnant, whether you want kids or whether you are just living your best single life, there is so much to take away from this episode.
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And I'm really, really excited to share it with you.
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OK, I'm going to jump straight in.
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Number one.
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Ordering the healthiest thing on the menu isn't always the healthiest thing.
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Okay, I'm going to say that again.
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Ordering the healthiest thing on the menu isn't always the healthiest thing.
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So my old self, if I was going out for food, I would look at the menu in advance and always order the healthiest thing.
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That's quotation marks.
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What's the point of going out for a meal if you're going to order fish and vegetables when you're at a stunning Italian restaurant?
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I am saying this because I probably go out once a week for a meal.
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It's not like I go out all the time.
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with your friends and to laugh and to not think about the macros in your food.
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I think being pregnant really leaned in.
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Like when we go out for food, I look at the menu and I pick the thing that I want to eat, not because it is the healthiest thing.
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This is something I'm going to take away postpartum and for the rest of my life and also really embed this in my children.
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Like pleasure and indulging are all beautiful things of life and we should not be demonizing certain foods and going out for food is literally one of life's greatest pleasures.
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Okay, my second learning is being a human being is so much better and cooler than being a human doing.
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Okay, guys, we are in this world of optimization right now.
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Every single person is waking up at five, going to the gym, counting their macros, going to bed at a certain time, like so, so, so strict.
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But you don't need to be doing all the time.
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Being is more productive in my eyes.
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I feel like I'm more present with the ones that I love because I'm just being.
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You don't always need to look at your phone.
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You don't always need to be making a hundred plans.
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I feel more connected to the people in my life than ever before because I feel that present peace is such a big part of it.
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be my third learning is chasing perfection won't make you happy my whole life I think being a model from such a young age is like striving perfection like if I had a blemish if I had this if I had that it's like life isn't good
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The fact that you can't live your life to the fullest because you have a small blemish or an insecurity.
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You have to let it go.
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Chasing perfection, you are going to be on a hamster reel for your whole life because you will never be perfect.
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I think about the happiest people in my life.
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A little bit goes a long way, guys.
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During this pregnancy, there are days where I feel horrible.
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Let's be honest, everyone feels horrible some days, but when you're unable to control anything, your body's changing, everything's changing, the power of putting on a little bit of makeup is incredible.
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Like you show up to the world as a different person.
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And yeah, it's just really showing me that little bit of a beauty routine is such a self-care ritual.
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And I've been loving playing around with different brands.
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I love Merit.
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There's quite a few brands.
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So yeah, let me know if you want me to put a little shot of my favorite beauty brands, maybe my go-to brands and the colors.
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And I'll put in the show notes below.
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Okay, number five is movement is a non-negotiable at every stage of life.
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So I've always been super active as a kid.
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My mom was exhausted dropping me all over the place.
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Your body's changing.
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There's nothing you can do about it.
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It's actually a survival mechanism for your body.
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Like the days I do not train, I am, it's day and night.
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And I do believe that my body will, whatever it goes back to, whatever it wants to be is exactly where it needs to be.
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So yeah, just have this newfound love for movement more so than ever.
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I did also want to share for my preggie ladies there that if you are having an uncomplicated birth, they do recommend
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I actually saw on Instagram, this lady in her third trimester just ran the Sydney marathon in sub three, like
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If that's not going to inspire you, I don't know what else will.
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But yeah, if you've never done exercise before, don't go doing a marathon.
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It's just beautiful.
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So yeah, that's a little one for the preggy girls.
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It is officially warming up in Australia and I can genuinely feel that shift in energy around me.
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If you've been waiting for the right time to reset your mindset, there really couldn't be a better time than now.
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I created the Selfdom Gratitude Journal as a simple daily ritual that takes just a few minutes in the morning and evening to ground yourself and train your brain to notice more of the good in your life.
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I'm so passionate about gratitude because this practice helped me through severe insomnia, anxiety and disordered eating.
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And it's still something I come back to every single day.
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If you've been feeling flat, unmotivated, craving a reset, consider this your sign.
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Use code selflove for 20% off sitewide at selfdom.au.
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My sixth learning is asking for help is a strength.
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It is not a weakness.
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Why in our society do we feel this need to be so independent?
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We can do it ourself.
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We don't need help.
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Asking for help is a strength and it's something I've really had to learn to do.
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And I've leaned into it now and I feel like I have the best support with me.
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I feel like I can ask my friends without judgment.
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And yeah, we're meant to be in a village.
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Like we're meant to have support.
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We're meant to have human connection.
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And so, yeah, I really think that it's something we've grown up with that we need to let go of, especially as I enter motherhood, because I'm really going to need to be asking for favors and help and encouragement and support.
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So letting go of that mentality during my pregnancy, I think is going to be one of my greatest superpowers postpartum.
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I also want to share some studies.
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So they did a review and found that lower social support during pregnancy was associated with higher odds of antenatal depression and anxiety.
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So if you let yourself be in the dark, you're going to feel that postpartum.
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So really learn to be okay regularly.
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With just sharing your needs with the ones that love you.
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Because if they love you, they'll want to help you.
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Number seven is rawness and authenticity will always connect more than perfection.
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So I recently put a post up the other day and it was my five lows of 2026.
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I was flooded with love.
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And then I'll put a post up of my perfect pregnancy photo shoot.
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And like, of course you get support, but nothing connects people more than when you're raw and you're vulnerable, especially in a world where everyone's trying to be so perfect.
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And I think I've had so many reminders of that throughout my life.
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like when I shared a lot of the hard stuff with my mom and then now during pregnancy, like sharing the acne, sharing the anemia, sharing those hard moments, people feel more connected to you.
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And so, you know, Brené Brown's the queen of this and the queen of talking about vulnerability.
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So I think allowing yourself just to be true, when people ask how you are, if you're not okay, like be true.
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Like, why do we all say, good, how are you?
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If you're having a shit day and you're with a friend, tell them, ask for the support, vent to them.
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And as well, if you're someone trying to build a social media following, don't just try to copy the crowd.
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Be authentic, be you.
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And yeah, I think that's been my favorite part of the podcast and long form is that I can share my authentic self the entire time.
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and connect with people.
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And even today at Walk Club, I met a beautiful woman who lost her mom a few months ago and she's pregnant.
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And I just started feeling so emotional and I feel so connected to this woman now.
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Whilst before it's like, you know, I felt connected to her.
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Obviously she's being pregnant, but this just built this whole other dimension of connection.
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And it was just such a reminder to me of the importance of being real and raw, right?
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Okay, number eight, sleep is an act of radical self-care.
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All right, I love sleep.
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Everyone knows I love sleep.
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I have a really crazy sleep routine and all of that.
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Like when you have a bad sleep, everyone knows you feel so shit the next day.
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So let's stop glamorizing it.
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If you wake up one morning to go to a gym class at 5 a.m. but you feel shit,
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like you need to sleep, sleep, sleep.
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Your body needs rest.
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That's why I'm so passionate about our journal called Flow State because every morning you're checking in with yourself.
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Like what movement do I need?
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What nourishment do I need?
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You're connecting to your intuition.
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I think as women, we've also forgot.
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We have a 28-day cycle.
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Obviously, I do not right now.
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But if you're listening to this, you have a 28-day cycle.
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You're going to feel so different when you're in your follicular phase compared to when you're in your menstruation phase.
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Honor that.
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Rest when you need.
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It's so powerful.
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So if you're someone who puts sleep kind of as a second thing, this is your sign to prioritize it because everything else in life feels so much more seamless and easy when you are well rested.
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I think for me, a little story is that
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Before I was pregnant, as I said, I was always doing, I was always doing, but then I'd complain that I'm so tired and then I'd be on the weekend and it'd be an opportunity for me to have a nap, but no, I need to do, I need to do.
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But pregnancy now, you lean into it.
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The most productive thing you can do as a pregnant woman is sleep.
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So yeah, now when I have that opportunity to rest, I take it and I'm really excited to kind of continue with this learning throughout my life postpartum and into this next chapter.
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Okay, number nine is food is the foundation.
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Supplements, supplement it.
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Okay, so food is so important and I feel that one of my tips had to be about nutrition because being pregnant, you have food aversions.
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Like you do not feel like certain things.
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So then you don't eat well and then you feel shit and it's like a roller coaster, right?
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And so I have really leaned on, again, the support in my life.
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Like my husband, he's been cooking us slow cooks and that's been allowing me to eat red meat and to get veggies in that I wouldn't usually be eating.
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And I feel so much better for it.
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There's only so much a supplement can do if you don't have the foundations correct.
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So I think a lot of us rely on supplementation to get all these vitamins, but it should be a food first approach.
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Really focus on eating in season, really focus on hitting your protein goals, really focus on getting your fiber in.
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These boring things are so important.
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And then you focus on the supplementation.
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Then you get your blood work and you figure out what's missing.
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What do I need?
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So on this food is medicine kind of topic, I discovered this brand called Foraged and their powders actually are made out of food.
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So they use beef liver, they use kelp, they use spleen.
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There's a whole bunch of stuff, food that I wouldn't usually eat in my diet.
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But because it's a powder form, I put it into my smoothies.
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I put it into my brownies.
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And it's kind of like a habit stack, I guess, to increase the nutrient density of my food.
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So I've been loving that brand for any mamas, but also not mamas.
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um tom's been taking it and he's been feeling amazing so that's a brand called forage really recommend them and then a little bit more about my supplements obviously as i said i have food aversion so maybe not eating as much fish okay let's take omega-3s iodine calcium certain nutrients i know that i'm not getting from my food so i supplement them where i can and yeah i just think food of first supplement second guys it doesn't need to be the other way around
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My last learning is mothers are incredible.
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Oh my God.
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And I just know I'm going to have even more appreciation for moms when I go through birth because all my friends who have gone through birth are like, holy shit, women are so strong.
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Women are incredible.
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So I wanted to have my last learning.
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as appreciation for mothers, the sacrifice they make going through pregnancy.
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Then as well, like even doing a nursery, getting all the stuff for the baby, preparing for it, knowing that your life's about to change so much to love and support this little being that's in your belly, like just amazing.
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So, you know, if your mom's around or you have mother figures in your life, send them a message right now.
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Tell them you appreciate them, you love them because yeah, that's definitely my final learning.
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Yeah, they're my 10 learning.
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over the last nine months during my pregnancy.
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And as you can see, it is a huge part of it is, is that being well isn't being perfect.
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And I think so many of us have gotten it wrong and are chasing the wrong things.
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I think being well is being happy.
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And so, yeah, I'm going to leave you with that little note.
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If you love this episode, please share it on your story.
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Please comment and maybe send it to someone who needs a little brightening of their day because I feel like there's a lot of positivity in this one.
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So, yeah, thank you guys so much for tuning in.
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This might be my last solo before I give birth.
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That's crazy.
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So that means my next solo will probably be my birth story, which I'm so excited to record.
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I'm so excited to give birth.
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I'm actually feeling really, really excited and positive about it.
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Probably naive as well, but, you know, rather be naive than stressed the whole time.
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Thanks for tuning in and I will see you next week.
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Bye.
