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Champions.
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I heard a question recently that followed me home.
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I couldn't shake it.
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Not because it was a bad question.
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It was actually a very good question.
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But I kept thinking, is there another side to it?
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Why would you want to write a book?
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Why would anybody want to write a book?
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Why would you why would someone want a podcast?
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Why would you want to teach a class?
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The reason my eyebrows raised and I couldn't shake that question, or why I couldn't shake that question, is because I've spent years in corporate America working with some of the very successful companies.
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And during that time I noticed something.
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Promotions didn't happen overnight.
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They never have.
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Nowadays, folks want a promotion after three good Tuesdays, right?
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But the people who were eventually promoted had spent months, sometimes years, working alongside supervisors, managers, directors, VPs, and even corporate executives.
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Those leaders observed them.
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I mean, we watched them.
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We watched how they handled pressure.
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We watched how they manage their time.
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We actually watched how they treated people, whether they were consistent.
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The truth is, we spent time with these people.
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We worked with these people six months, a year, sometimes longer.
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I mean, to observe character and leadership, consistency, trying to figure out who they were.
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Then we promoted them.
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The truth is, many people were ready long before they ever received a promotion.
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Some of you know what I'm talking about.
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The company didn't promote them because they wanted to.
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Now, come in for a minute.
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Let me put this in Christiocentric terms for you.
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The kingdom works the same way.
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God doesn't assign people simply to elevate them.
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That's not the mission.
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He assigns them because the assignment benefits his vision and the body of Christ.
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People benefit, right?
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Families get better, marriages thrive, communities start coming together.
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You see what I'm saying?
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See, assignment is never just about the person carrying it, it's about the people who were meant to be served.
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Does that make sense?
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Here's something I've learned.
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And I want you to understand what I'm saying.
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Sometimes we don't know who's sitting in the room.
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My mentor used to always tell me, always know where you are or who you are in the room.
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See what I'm saying?
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There are people sitting in meetings, in organizations with gifts that haven't been recognized yet.
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Teachers, business leaders, mentors, counselors, coaches, even authors.
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Many women, many men who've life experiences could help someone else.
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And make no mistake, that's not a criticism.
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Not at all.
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No leader can know every gift that sits in front of them.
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You have to spend time with them.
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But it's a reminder that God often plants extraordinary gifts in ordinary seats.
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Sometimes the better question, sometimes really the better question or the best question, the more potent answer.
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You understand what I'm saying?
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So the better question here is isn't necessarily why you want your own class.
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Sometimes the better question is what gift has God already placed inside of you that the rest of us haven't discovered yet.
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It is the assignment.
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Not the applause.
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It's the assignment.
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And when I say applause, I mean the attention or likes.
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I mean I believe that's a fair question.
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Because some people are chasing money.
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I agree.
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Some do want popularity.
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Some follows, likes, clicks, but I don't believe that's the whole story, my good man.
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Sometimes it's what you're carrying, it's what you see.
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Because all the time it's not ambition.
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Sometimes, man, it's sometimes it's a burden, man.
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Sometimes it's gratitude, obedience.
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Sometimes it's something a person has been carrying for years.
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Whether really whether your gifts are recognized today or not.
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Don't abandon your post.
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I'm talking to men now.
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This is my really my entire conversation today.
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You know how, and I mean, you know how we are.
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Somebody starts doing something positive, and before long, somebody says, Who does he think he is?
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Right?
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That's what we do.
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Maybe he's just trying to be who God created him to be.
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Maybe that's who he is.
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And let me tell you the story about my first book.
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But before I do, let me let me say something.
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I've been doing some research on Ancestry.com and I found out that there were three ministers, I'm proud to say this, that were my grandfather's brothers.
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I never met my grandfather.
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Alright?
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I want you to understand.
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But three people were big ministers who came out of the church of God in Christ.
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And I'm in that line, I'm in that lineage.
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And I thought about it.
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I said, wow.
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Have I been sitting on my gift?
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Have I abandoned my post?
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But anyway, so let me tell you about my first book.
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Okay.
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That book was not about becoming an author.
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I never said I was gonna be an author.
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I didn't really care about it, to be honest with you.
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It was really my thank you letter to Orange Henderson.
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She told me all my life I could do whatever God wanted me to be.
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I could be that.
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And by the time I finished that book, mother had already gone on to be with the Lord.
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So in my heart, I handed it to her and said, Here you go, Mother.
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We did it.
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She never, she never taught me to chase applause.
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You know what she taught me?
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And and Daddy.
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She taught me to stay at my post.
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Be careful judging motives.
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You may see a book, right?
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You may see a book, but God sees gratitude.
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You may see a podcast, but God sees obedience.
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You may see a platform, but God sees something someone has been carrying for a long, long time.
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Assignment touches the soul.
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I believe that.
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And here's what nobody really talks about.
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One way you know it's assignment instead of applause is what happens inside you.
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I cried my first podcast.
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When it brings tears to your eyes, when it brings chills to your body, when it puts a smile on your face when there's nothing to smile about because something deep inside says, This is what I created you to do.
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Applause excites the ego, right?
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It probably does.
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But assignment grips the soul.
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You understand what I'm saying?
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And let me tell you, in my days of working on in the workforce, man, it was it was challenging a lot of days.
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But time taught me sometimes, every now and then, people will only see where you are.
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They won't be able to see anything else, but God sees where He's taking you.
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Some people saw a salesman, some people see a business owner, some people saw a sales manager, some people saw a Sunday school superintendent, a steward in the AME church.
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But God saw an assignment.
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I believe that.
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Sometimes we're looking at a person present.
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But you know what God's looking at?
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He's preparing their future.
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And maybe, I don't know.
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Maybe the better question is why do you want your own class?
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Maybe the better question is, what gift has God already placed inside of you?
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Because we know he's giving us something.
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But what is he giving you that the rest of us haven't discovered yet?
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And let me bring this back to second wind.
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Every man needs a place where he can put down the weight long enough to remember who he is.
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This is why Second Wind was born.
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It wasn't born for applause.
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Second wind was born for assignment.
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It was not born with a microphone.
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I keep saying that.
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It was born with a conversation I had with myself.
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Some conversations change your day, right?
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They can.
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That conversation changed my life.
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I truly believe that.
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But there were breadcrumbs, I tell people along the way.
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Those books to me were breadcrumbs.
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But I hope this changes yours because I knew I couldn't be the only man feeling behind after having children late and having purpose late.
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I couldn't be the only man becoming a father later.
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I couldn't be the only man discovering purpose later.
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This is why the mantra has always been you're not late, you're assigned.
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Because men carry weight differently.
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And it doesn't show up on a scale.
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We internalize, right?
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We compartmentalize.
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We stay quiet.
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We keep showing up while wondering if anybody notices what we're carrying.
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This is one reason men are likely or less likely to seek counseling.
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I want you to hear me, gentlemen.
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And far too often suffer in silence.
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And my personal opinion, I think every man over 50 should at least consider talking to someone you trust.
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I'm talking about an intimate, personal conversation.
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A counseling conversation, if necessary.
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I mean, if if that's what you feel like you need.
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I'm talking about a qualified counselor.
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Not because you're weak, man.
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No.
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Because we've carried enough, we've seen enough, we've heard enough.
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Now somebody might be thinking, KR, if that's true, then why did you start second win?
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Fair question.
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Somebody might say you just wanted applause.
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No, I just told you.
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Mother didn't, mother man, my parents taught me to live for other people's approval.
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She never taught me to live for that.
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She taught me to do what's right, whether anybody applauded or not.
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She's one of those mothers that didn't stand behind me when I was wrong.
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Some of you know the mom that I'm talking about.
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Somebody else might say you wanted followers.
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Hmm.
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Nah.
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Now when you already led in corporate sales teams, own businesses.
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I got that t-shirt in the house.
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Followers don't pay nearly as well as people think they do.
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Okay?
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Followers are never the goal.
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They're attracted to the gift.
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Somebody might say, You just wanted a microphone.
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Negative.
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Not hardly.
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I can tell you that.
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My mother stuck a microphone in my hand when I was a little boy.
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Christmas and Easter programs.
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Come on now.
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When I came home from college, I became the Sunday school superintendent at Payne Chapel AME Church, right there on Quidman and Gens.
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Corporate America gave me opportunities to teach, to stand up, to speak, to lead.
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I've had microphones most of my life, trust me.
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I wasn't praying, Lord, if you really love me, please give me another microphone.
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Come on, man.
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So if it wasn't applause, if it wasn't followers, if it wasn't the microphone, then why does second win exist?
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Gentlemen.
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Brothers.
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My good men.
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Applause is optional.
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Assignment is not.
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Don't abandon your post because nobody's clapping.
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Don't walk away, man, because somebody questioned your motives.
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Who cares?
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Don't bury your gifts, man, because it's not celebrated.
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If God gave you the assignment, stay at your post.
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Because your assignment was never dependent on applause.
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Never.
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This is K.R.
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Henderson with Second Win.
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You're not late, you're assigned.
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Champions.
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I heard a question recently that followed me home.
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I couldn't shake it.
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Not because it was a bad question.
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It was actually a very good question.
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But I kept thinking, is there another side to it?
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Why would you want to write a book?
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Why would anybody want to write a book?
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Why would you why would someone want a podcast?
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Why would you want to teach a class?
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The reason my eyebrows raised and I couldn't shake that question, or why I couldn't shake that question, is because I've spent years in corporate America working with some of the very successful companies.
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And during that time I noticed something.
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Promotions didn't happen overnight.
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They never have.
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Nowadays, folks want a promotion after three good Tuesdays, right?
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But the people who were eventually promoted had spent months, sometimes years, working alongside supervisors, managers, directors, VPs, and even corporate executives.
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Those leaders observed them.
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I mean, we watched them.
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We watched how they handled pressure.
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We watched how they manage their time.
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We actually watched how they treated people, whether they were consistent.
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The truth is, we spent time with these people.
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We worked with these people six months, a year, sometimes longer.
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I mean, to observe character and leadership, consistency, trying to figure out who they were.
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Then we promoted them.
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The truth is, many people were ready long before they ever received a promotion.
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Some of you know what I'm talking about.
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The company didn't promote them because they wanted to.
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Now, come in for a minute.
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Let me put this in Christiocentric terms for you.
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The kingdom works the same way.
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God doesn't assign people simply to elevate them.
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That's not the mission.
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He assigns them because the assignment benefits his vision and the body of Christ.
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People benefit, right?
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Families get better, marriages thrive, communities start coming together.
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You see what I'm saying?
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See, assignment is never just about the person carrying it, it's about the people who were meant to be served.
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Does that make sense?
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Here's something I've learned.
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And I want you to understand what I'm saying.
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Sometimes we don't know who's sitting in the room.
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My mentor used to always tell me, always know where you are or who you are in the room.
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See what I'm saying?
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There are people sitting in meetings, in organizations with gifts that haven't been recognized yet.
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Teachers, business leaders, mentors, counselors, coaches, even authors.
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Many women, many men who've life experiences could help someone else.
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And make no mistake, that's not a criticism.
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Not at all.
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No leader can know every gift that sits in front of them.
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You have to spend time with them.
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But it's a reminder that God often plants extraordinary gifts in ordinary seats.
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Sometimes the better question, sometimes really the better question or the best question, the more potent answer.
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You understand what I'm saying?
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So the better question here is isn't necessarily why you want your own class.
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Sometimes the better question is what gift has God already placed inside of you that the rest of us haven't discovered yet.
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It is the assignment.
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Not the applause.
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It's the assignment.
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And when I say applause, I mean the attention or likes.
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I mean I believe that's a fair question.
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Because some people are chasing money.
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I agree.
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Some do want popularity.
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Some follows, likes, clicks, but I don't believe that's the whole story, my good man.
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Sometimes it's what you're carrying, it's what you see.
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Because all the time it's not ambition.
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Sometimes, man, it's sometimes it's a burden, man.
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Sometimes it's gratitude, obedience.
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Sometimes it's something a person has been carrying for years.
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Whether really whether your gifts are recognized today or not.
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Don't abandon your post.
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I'm talking to men now.
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This is my really my entire conversation today.
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You know how, and I mean, you know how we are.
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Somebody starts doing something positive, and before long, somebody says, Who does he think he is?
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Right?
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That's what we do.
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Maybe he's just trying to be who God created him to be.
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Maybe that's who he is.
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And let me tell you the story about my first book.
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But before I do, let me let me say something.
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I've been doing some research on Ancestry.com and I found out that there were three ministers, I'm proud to say this, that were my grandfather's brothers.
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I never met my grandfather.
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Alright?
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I want you to understand.
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But three people were big ministers who came out of the church of God in Christ.
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And I'm in that line, I'm in that lineage.
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And I thought about it.
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I said, wow.
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Have I been sitting on my gift?
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Have I abandoned my post?
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But anyway, so let me tell you about my first book.
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Okay.
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That book was not about becoming an author.
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I never said I was gonna be an author.
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I didn't really care about it, to be honest with you.
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It was really my thank you letter to Orange Henderson.
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She told me all my life I could do whatever God wanted me to be.
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I could be that.
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And by the time I finished that book, mother had already gone on to be with the Lord.
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So in my heart, I handed it to her and said, Here you go, Mother.
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We did it.
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She never, she never taught me to chase applause.
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You know what she taught me?
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And and Daddy.
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She taught me to stay at my post.
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Be careful judging motives.
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You may see a book, right?
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You may see a book, but God sees gratitude.
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You may see a podcast, but God sees obedience.
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You may see a platform, but God sees something someone has been carrying for a long, long time.
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Assignment touches the soul.
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I believe that.
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And here's what nobody really talks about.
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One way you know it's assignment instead of applause is what happens inside you.
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I cried my first podcast.
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When it brings tears to your eyes, when it brings chills to your body, when it puts a smile on your face when there's nothing to smile about because something deep inside says, This is what I created you to do.
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Applause excites the ego, right?
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It probably does.
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But assignment grips the soul.
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You understand what I'm saying?
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And let me tell you, in my days of working on in the workforce, man, it was it was challenging a lot of days.
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But time taught me sometimes, every now and then, people will only see where you are.
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They won't be able to see anything else, but God sees where He's taking you.
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Some people saw a salesman, some people see a business owner, some people saw a sales manager, some people saw a Sunday school superintendent, a steward in the AME church.
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But God saw an assignment.
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I believe that.
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Sometimes we're looking at a person present.
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But you know what God's looking at?
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He's preparing their future.
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And maybe, I don't know.
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Maybe the better question is why do you want your own class?
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Maybe the better question is, what gift has God already placed inside of you?
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Because we know he's giving us something.
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But what is he giving you that the rest of us haven't discovered yet?
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And let me bring this back to second wind.
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Every man needs a place where he can put down the weight long enough to remember who he is.
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This is why Second Wind was born.
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It wasn't born for applause.
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Second wind was born for assignment.
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It was not born with a microphone.
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I keep saying that.
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It was born with a conversation I had with myself.
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Some conversations change your day, right?
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They can.
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That conversation changed my life.
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I truly believe that.
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But there were breadcrumbs, I tell people along the way.
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Those books to me were breadcrumbs.
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But I hope this changes yours because I knew I couldn't be the only man feeling behind after having children late and having purpose late.
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I couldn't be the only man becoming a father later.
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I couldn't be the only man discovering purpose later.
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This is why the mantra has always been you're not late, you're assigned.
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Because men carry weight differently.
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And it doesn't show up on a scale.
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We internalize, right?
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We compartmentalize.
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We stay quiet.
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We keep showing up while wondering if anybody notices what we're carrying.
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This is one reason men are likely or less likely to seek counseling.
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I want you to hear me, gentlemen.
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And far too often suffer in silence.
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And my personal opinion, I think every man over 50 should at least consider talking to someone you trust.
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I'm talking about an intimate, personal conversation.
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A counseling conversation, if necessary.
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I mean, if if that's what you feel like you need.
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I'm talking about a qualified counselor.
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Not because you're weak, man.
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No.
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Because we've carried enough, we've seen enough, we've heard enough.
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Now somebody might be thinking, KR, if that's true, then why did you start second win?
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Fair question.
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Somebody might say you just wanted applause.
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No, I just told you.
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Mother didn't, mother man, my parents taught me to live for other people's approval.
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She never taught me to live for that.
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She taught me to do what's right, whether anybody applauded or not.
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She's one of those mothers that didn't stand behind me when I was wrong.
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Some of you know the mom that I'm talking about.
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Somebody else might say you wanted followers.
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Hmm.
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Nah.
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Now when you already led in corporate sales teams, own businesses.
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I got that t-shirt in the house.
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Followers don't pay nearly as well as people think they do.
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Okay?
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Followers are never the goal.
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They're attracted to the gift.
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Somebody might say, You just wanted a microphone.
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Negative.
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Not hardly.
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I can tell you that.
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My mother stuck a microphone in my hand when I was a little boy.
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Christmas and Easter programs.
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Come on now.
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When I came home from college, I became the Sunday school superintendent at Payne Chapel AME Church, right there on Quidman and Gens.
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Corporate America gave me opportunities to teach, to stand up, to speak, to lead.
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I've had microphones most of my life, trust me.
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I wasn't praying, Lord, if you really love me, please give me another microphone.
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Come on, man.
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So if it wasn't applause, if it wasn't followers, if it wasn't the microphone, then why does second win exist?
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Gentlemen.
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Brothers.
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My good men.
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Applause is optional.
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Assignment is not.
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Don't abandon your post because nobody's clapping.
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Don't walk away, man, because somebody questioned your motives.
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Who cares?
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Don't bury your gifts, man, because it's not celebrated.
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If God gave you the assignment, stay at your post.
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Because your assignment was never dependent on applause.
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Never.
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This is K.R.
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Henderson with Second Win.
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You're not late, you're assigned.
