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Before I get started today, I gotta give a shout out to a young lion.
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His name is Keyshawn Henderson, number one quarterback in the country.
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Headed to the University of Houston.
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Man, I'm proud of you, youngster.
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Keep working, keep your head down, stay focused.
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The work is just beginning.
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And let me add to that, I want to tip my cap to Eric Henderson, his grandfather, aka Tone.
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Man, it's been a long journey.
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I want to thank you for your consistency, your ocular demonstration to the young man of what a grandfather, grandparent is supposed to look like.
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The time that you deposited and the wisdom and the knowledge that you gave this young man.
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Amen.
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It doesn't go unnoticed, big fella.
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Go kooks.
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Now, gentlemen, let's talk about it.
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I started noticing some things this past week, and I had an epiphany.
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I did.
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Somewhere along the way, you know, you start noticing some things.
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You know, you look in the mirror and your hair starts changing colors.
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Some of us look in the mirror and our hair starts changing locations, right?
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But I mean you don't have quite the energy that you used to have.
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Your athleticism isn't what it used to be, but your mind tells you you still got it.
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I know mine does.
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I jumped a fence the other week and it looked like a long way down to me.
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But your knees start shaking, and they start saying, maybe we need to have a meeting once you land.
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And if you're not careful, okay, you start drawing conclusions from the changes that you see.
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You get what I'm saying?
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I mean, maybe my best days are behind me.
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These are some of the conclusions we come up with.
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Maybe my time is past, maybe I'm finished.
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Stick a fork in me, I'm done.
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Man, I'm here to tell you you're not.
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Maybe you're not finished.
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Maybe you're just in the second half.
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Vince Lombardi has a quote that says something like this.
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He said, The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.
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Think about that for a moment.
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I want that to sit with you.
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See, when you work too hard on yourself, I mean your health and your marriage, working hard on these children, I mean raising these children, right?
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Working too hard, discovering your purpose.
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Surrender starts getting expensive, doesn't it?
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You know what I'm saying?
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I mean, you've got too much invested to quit now.
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And that's what I want to talk about today.
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Surrender gets expensive.
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This is Second Win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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Gentlemen, think about when you were younger.
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I mean, man.
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Youth will let you get away with a lot of stuff, right?
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You could eat 10 p.m.
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at night, go to bed, wake up the next morning and not gain a pound.
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I used to have a friend of mine, we used to play pool together a lot.
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He know who I'm talking about, too.
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I used to beat him to death, but that's a topic for another day.
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But he would eat a jumbo jack at 10 p.m.
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And every time I saw him, it it looked like he still could run track for Rice University in Houston, Texas.
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Okay?
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You could skip a meal and swear you lost five pounds.
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Man, now I can walk by a piece of cake too slow and gain two pounds.
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You work out for three days, and you could eat whatever you could stomach and look in the mirror, and somehow everything was still where it was supposed to be.
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You could stay up half the night, get two, three, four hours of sleep, and then go to work the next morning.
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And we thought we were disciplined, right?
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No, we were young.
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There's a difference.
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Youth can cover up a lot of bad habits, but somewhere around 40, the bills start showing up.
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The bills start showing up.
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I mean, now late-night meals don't disappear quite as easily.
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The weight doesn't come off if you skip lunch.
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Three days in the gym doesn't undo four days of eating whatever you want.
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Now you've got to pay attention to your blood pressure, your cholesterol, your blood sugar, your sleep, not to mention your regular checkups.
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And yeah, fellas, your sexual health matters too.
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Some of us wouldn't be looking for Viagra, La Vitra, and Syalis if we understood, hey, you can't eat fried chicken and hamburgers every day.
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Carrying an extra 30 or 40 pounds and never exercise and expect your body to perform like you're still twenty five.
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Now let me be clear.
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There are legitimate medical reasons why man may need those medications.
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I get it.
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That's between you and your doctor.
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I'm talking about the things we can control.
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Because you can't control second half, you can't expect second half energy using first half habits.
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Excuse me.
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Let me say that again.
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You can't expect second half energy using first half habits.
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The second half requires something the first half didn't always require.
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Intention.
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And I don't mean intentionally in ordering a Big Mac and fries at McDonald's once or twice a week.
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You know what I'm saying?
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I'll give you an example.
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I used to go to bed whenever I felt like it.
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And some of you know what I'm talking about.
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Didn't matter what time it was, I stay up late, get a few hours of sleep, get up early, and keep moving, just go.
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I don't do that anymore.
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Most nights, somewhere between 9 p.m.
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and 10 p.m., I'm going to bed.
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Not because somebody told me I have to.
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Well, somebody might tell me I have to.
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But not because I'm old or I can't stay awake.
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Purpose changed my bedtime.
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Make sense?
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I've got a a new assignment and a new focus, and I've got things to accomplish, and I don't want to waste tomorrow recovering from what I did tonight.
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Does that make sense?
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I mean, man, I got something to do.
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See, gentlemen, when you find purpose, you don't need an alarm clock.
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Purpose will wake you up, I promise you.
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When you've got something you're excited about building, when there's something you know you're supposed to finish.
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I mean, when you believe God has given you another assignment, you start, you start protecting your time.
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You start protecting your energy, you start protecting your mornings, and you start looking at your discipline differently.
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Because discipline isn't always about denying yourself something.
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Sometimes discipline is simply what happens when you finally know what you're living for.
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Think about that.
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I mean, I'm not trying to prove I can still live life like the younger version of me.
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I'm preparing myself for the next version of me.
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Because I've got another assignment.
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And this is where I want to talk directly to Second Win Men.
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You see the gray, you feel yourself slowing down a little bit.
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Recovery might take a little bit longer.
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You you look around, and people your age are starting to retire or talk about retiring.
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Okay?
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And somewhere in your mind, you can start thinking, man, maybe I'm supposed to be winding down two.
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But here's the addendum.
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Sometimes you don't even get to decide if you're finished.
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God has a way of bringing circumstances and situations into our lives that require us to keep going.
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Sometimes purpose shows up late, opportunity shows up late, fatherhood shows up late.
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Or another child shows up late, let me tell you.
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And sometimes the assignment you were created for doesn't become clear until you've already lived enough life to think you ought to be slowing down.
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You ever think about that?
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I mean, then just all of a sudden, you got another reason to get up.
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That's second win.
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We're not trying to become 25 again.
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Understand me.
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I don't even want to be 25 again.
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There were some things that I didn't know at 25.
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And there were some things I thought I knew at 25 that I definitely didn't know.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Excuse me.
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But I've got something that the younger version of me didn't have, and so do you.
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Experience, perspective, wisdom, failures, successes.
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Not to mention scars, right?
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Things I've gotten wrong.
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Things I've finally learned to get right.
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And maybe all of that wasn't wasted.
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Maybe everything you've gone through was preparing you for something you couldn't have handled at 25.
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I'm just saying.
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Maybe you're not winding down is what I'm saying.
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That's really what I mean.
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Maybe you're being reassigned.
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I mean, I've got some of my boys talk about retirement, and some of them have retired.
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And I salute them.
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But we rave about retirement.
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And I understand it.
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Retirement from working for somebody else, absolutely.
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I mean, retirement from punching somebody else's clock.
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I understand that.
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Retirement from somebody telling you when to come in, when to leave, and when to go on vacation.
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I've done that.
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I've did that.
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I understand that too.
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As a matter of fact, some of y'all need to retire Friday.
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But I'm not talking about retiring from a job.
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Okay?
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I'm talking about retiring from purpose.
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You see, retirement meaning I'm done?
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There's nothing else for me to do.
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Really?
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I'm just, I mean, I'm just going to sit down somewhere and wait this one out?
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No.
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I've never looked in my life that way.
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I'm going to be doing whatever I'm supposed to be doing as long as God gives me the ability to do it.
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Because I've come to understand something.
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There's no retirement on God's program.
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And quiet as it's kept.
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There's no retirement on God's program.
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You can retire from God's career, but you don't retire from being a father.
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You don't retire from leadership.
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You don't retire from pouring into someone else.
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And you certainly don't retire from becoming a better man.
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You get what I'm saying?
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You don't retire from an assignment that God gave you.
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And that's what Second Wind is supposed to be about.
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More energy, purpose, leadership.
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In a nutshell.
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Energy because you gotta have the health, right?
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And something in the tank to be able to carry the assignment.
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And then purpose because you've got to know why you're getting up every day.
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There was a while that I may have told you I didn't really know that.
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And leadership, because at this stage in life, this can't just be about you or me or us anymore.
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Somebody's watching.
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And guess who that is?
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Children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, uh, young church members, younger men are watching.
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Somebody needs something that you have learned.
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They need something that you've survived from, bro.
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Somebody needs the wisdom that may have cost you 20, 30 years, maybe 40 years to acquire.
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I mean, I got that t-shirt.
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Your first half gave you experience, but the second half, you get what I'm saying, gives that experience an assignment.
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Am I making sense?
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This is why your health matters.
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And maybe we'll do a maybe maybe we'll have a conversation about health at some point.
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I think that's coming.
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But this is why your energy and your discipline matters because Second Wind isn't about trying to become young again.
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It's about becoming the man your next assignment requires.
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And that brings me really back to Lombardy.
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He's way before his time.
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The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.
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Check that out.
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We understand that now, don't we, fellas?
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When you've worked on yourself, you've got too much invested.
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And my good men, some of us are not tired because we're finished.
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We're tired because we're working.
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There's a difference.
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Rest if you need to, right?
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Adjust if you need to.
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Change, maybe change your strategy if you need to, but don't surrender.
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The late great Kobe Bryant said one of his instructors gave him a quote: rest at the end, not in the middle.
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But don't surrender.
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You see, for those of you uh biblical scholars, Paul gets to the end of his life.
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End of his journey, what does he say?
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I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.
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Man, I like that.
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Because at the end of the day, that's what we're talking about.
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Finishing.
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Not perfectly.
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I mean, that would be facetious to even think that way.
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Not without getting tired, not without having to make some adjustments along the way.
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Just don't surrender.
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You've come too far.
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You've put too much in, you've deposited too much, and surrender is getting expensive.
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I'll leave you with that.
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It's not how you start, it's how you finish.
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You're not late.
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You're assigned.
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This is second win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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Before I get started today, I gotta give a shout out to a young lion.
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His name is Keyshawn Henderson, number one quarterback in the country.
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Headed to the University of Houston.
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Man, I'm proud of you, youngster.
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Keep working, keep your head down, stay focused.
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The work is just beginning.
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And let me add to that, I want to tip my cap to Eric Henderson, his grandfather, aka Tone.
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Man, it's been a long journey.
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I want to thank you for your consistency, your ocular demonstration to the young man of what a grandfather, grandparent is supposed to look like.
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The time that you deposited and the wisdom and the knowledge that you gave this young man.
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Amen.
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It doesn't go unnoticed, big fella.
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Go kooks.
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Now, gentlemen, let's talk about it.
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I started noticing some things this past week, and I had an epiphany.
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I did.
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Somewhere along the way, you know, you start noticing some things.
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You know, you look in the mirror and your hair starts changing colors.
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Some of us look in the mirror and our hair starts changing locations, right?
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But I mean you don't have quite the energy that you used to have.
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Your athleticism isn't what it used to be, but your mind tells you you still got it.
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I know mine does.
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I jumped a fence the other week and it looked like a long way down to me.
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But your knees start shaking, and they start saying, maybe we need to have a meeting once you land.
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And if you're not careful, okay, you start drawing conclusions from the changes that you see.
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You get what I'm saying?
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I mean, maybe my best days are behind me.
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These are some of the conclusions we come up with.
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Maybe my time is past, maybe I'm finished.
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Stick a fork in me, I'm done.
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Man, I'm here to tell you you're not.
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Maybe you're not finished.
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Maybe you're just in the second half.
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Vince Lombardi has a quote that says something like this.
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He said, The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.
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Think about that for a moment.
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I want that to sit with you.
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See, when you work too hard on yourself, I mean your health and your marriage, working hard on these children, I mean raising these children, right?
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Working too hard, discovering your purpose.
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Surrender starts getting expensive, doesn't it?
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You know what I'm saying?
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I mean, you've got too much invested to quit now.
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And that's what I want to talk about today.
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Surrender gets expensive.
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This is Second Win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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Gentlemen, think about when you were younger.
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I mean, man.
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Youth will let you get away with a lot of stuff, right?
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You could eat 10 p.m.
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at night, go to bed, wake up the next morning and not gain a pound.
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I used to have a friend of mine, we used to play pool together a lot.
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He know who I'm talking about, too.
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I used to beat him to death, but that's a topic for another day.
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But he would eat a jumbo jack at 10 p.m.
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And every time I saw him, it it looked like he still could run track for Rice University in Houston, Texas.
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Okay?
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You could skip a meal and swear you lost five pounds.
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Man, now I can walk by a piece of cake too slow and gain two pounds.
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You work out for three days, and you could eat whatever you could stomach and look in the mirror, and somehow everything was still where it was supposed to be.
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You could stay up half the night, get two, three, four hours of sleep, and then go to work the next morning.
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And we thought we were disciplined, right?
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No, we were young.
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There's a difference.
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Youth can cover up a lot of bad habits, but somewhere around 40, the bills start showing up.
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The bills start showing up.
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I mean, now late-night meals don't disappear quite as easily.
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The weight doesn't come off if you skip lunch.
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Three days in the gym doesn't undo four days of eating whatever you want.
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Now you've got to pay attention to your blood pressure, your cholesterol, your blood sugar, your sleep, not to mention your regular checkups.
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And yeah, fellas, your sexual health matters too.
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Some of us wouldn't be looking for Viagra, La Vitra, and Syalis if we understood, hey, you can't eat fried chicken and hamburgers every day.
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Carrying an extra 30 or 40 pounds and never exercise and expect your body to perform like you're still twenty five.
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Now let me be clear.
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There are legitimate medical reasons why man may need those medications.
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I get it.
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That's between you and your doctor.
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I'm talking about the things we can control.
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Because you can't control second half, you can't expect second half energy using first half habits.
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Excuse me.
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Let me say that again.
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You can't expect second half energy using first half habits.
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The second half requires something the first half didn't always require.
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Intention.
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And I don't mean intentionally in ordering a Big Mac and fries at McDonald's once or twice a week.
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You know what I'm saying?
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I'll give you an example.
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I used to go to bed whenever I felt like it.
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And some of you know what I'm talking about.
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Didn't matter what time it was, I stay up late, get a few hours of sleep, get up early, and keep moving, just go.
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I don't do that anymore.
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Most nights, somewhere between 9 p.m.
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and 10 p.m., I'm going to bed.
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Not because somebody told me I have to.
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Well, somebody might tell me I have to.
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But not because I'm old or I can't stay awake.
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Purpose changed my bedtime.
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Make sense?
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I've got a a new assignment and a new focus, and I've got things to accomplish, and I don't want to waste tomorrow recovering from what I did tonight.
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Does that make sense?
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I mean, man, I got something to do.
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See, gentlemen, when you find purpose, you don't need an alarm clock.
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Purpose will wake you up, I promise you.
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When you've got something you're excited about building, when there's something you know you're supposed to finish.
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I mean, when you believe God has given you another assignment, you start, you start protecting your time.
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You start protecting your energy, you start protecting your mornings, and you start looking at your discipline differently.
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Because discipline isn't always about denying yourself something.
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Sometimes discipline is simply what happens when you finally know what you're living for.
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Think about that.
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I mean, I'm not trying to prove I can still live life like the younger version of me.
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I'm preparing myself for the next version of me.
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Because I've got another assignment.
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And this is where I want to talk directly to Second Win Men.
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You see the gray, you feel yourself slowing down a little bit.
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Recovery might take a little bit longer.
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You you look around, and people your age are starting to retire or talk about retiring.
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Okay?
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And somewhere in your mind, you can start thinking, man, maybe I'm supposed to be winding down two.
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But here's the addendum.
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Sometimes you don't even get to decide if you're finished.
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God has a way of bringing circumstances and situations into our lives that require us to keep going.
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Sometimes purpose shows up late, opportunity shows up late, fatherhood shows up late.
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Or another child shows up late, let me tell you.
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And sometimes the assignment you were created for doesn't become clear until you've already lived enough life to think you ought to be slowing down.
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You ever think about that?
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I mean, then just all of a sudden, you got another reason to get up.
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That's second win.
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We're not trying to become 25 again.
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Understand me.
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I don't even want to be 25 again.
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There were some things that I didn't know at 25.
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And there were some things I thought I knew at 25 that I definitely didn't know.
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You know what I'm saying?
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Excuse me.
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But I've got something that the younger version of me didn't have, and so do you.
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Experience, perspective, wisdom, failures, successes.
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Not to mention scars, right?
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Things I've gotten wrong.
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Things I've finally learned to get right.
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And maybe all of that wasn't wasted.
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Maybe everything you've gone through was preparing you for something you couldn't have handled at 25.
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I'm just saying.
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Maybe you're not winding down is what I'm saying.
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That's really what I mean.
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Maybe you're being reassigned.
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I mean, I've got some of my boys talk about retirement, and some of them have retired.
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And I salute them.
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But we rave about retirement.
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And I understand it.
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Retirement from working for somebody else, absolutely.
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I mean, retirement from punching somebody else's clock.
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I understand that.
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Retirement from somebody telling you when to come in, when to leave, and when to go on vacation.
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I've done that.
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I've did that.
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I understand that too.
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As a matter of fact, some of y'all need to retire Friday.
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But I'm not talking about retiring from a job.
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Okay?
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I'm talking about retiring from purpose.
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You see, retirement meaning I'm done?
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There's nothing else for me to do.
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Really?
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I'm just, I mean, I'm just going to sit down somewhere and wait this one out?
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No.
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I've never looked in my life that way.
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I'm going to be doing whatever I'm supposed to be doing as long as God gives me the ability to do it.
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Because I've come to understand something.
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There's no retirement on God's program.
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And quiet as it's kept.
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There's no retirement on God's program.
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You can retire from God's career, but you don't retire from being a father.
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You don't retire from leadership.
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You don't retire from pouring into someone else.
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And you certainly don't retire from becoming a better man.
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You get what I'm saying?
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You don't retire from an assignment that God gave you.
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And that's what Second Wind is supposed to be about.
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More energy, purpose, leadership.
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In a nutshell.
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Energy because you gotta have the health, right?
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And something in the tank to be able to carry the assignment.
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And then purpose because you've got to know why you're getting up every day.
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There was a while that I may have told you I didn't really know that.
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And leadership, because at this stage in life, this can't just be about you or me or us anymore.
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Somebody's watching.
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And guess who that is?
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Children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, uh, young church members, younger men are watching.
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Somebody needs something that you have learned.
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They need something that you've survived from, bro.
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Somebody needs the wisdom that may have cost you 20, 30 years, maybe 40 years to acquire.
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I mean, I got that t-shirt.
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Your first half gave you experience, but the second half, you get what I'm saying, gives that experience an assignment.
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Am I making sense?
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This is why your health matters.
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And maybe we'll do a maybe maybe we'll have a conversation about health at some point.
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I think that's coming.
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But this is why your energy and your discipline matters because Second Wind isn't about trying to become young again.
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It's about becoming the man your next assignment requires.
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And that brings me really back to Lombardy.
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He's way before his time.
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The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.
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Check that out.
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We understand that now, don't we, fellas?
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When you've worked on yourself, you've got too much invested.
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And my good men, some of us are not tired because we're finished.
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We're tired because we're working.
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There's a difference.
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Rest if you need to, right?
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Adjust if you need to.
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Change, maybe change your strategy if you need to, but don't surrender.
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The late great Kobe Bryant said one of his instructors gave him a quote: rest at the end, not in the middle.
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But don't surrender.
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You see, for those of you uh biblical scholars, Paul gets to the end of his life.
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End of his journey, what does he say?
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I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.
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Man, I like that.
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Because at the end of the day, that's what we're talking about.
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Finishing.
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Not perfectly.
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I mean, that would be facetious to even think that way.
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Not without getting tired, not without having to make some adjustments along the way.
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Just don't surrender.
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You've come too far.
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You've put too much in, you've deposited too much, and surrender is getting expensive.
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I'll leave you with that.
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It's not how you start, it's how you finish.
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You're not late.
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You're assigned.
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This is second win with K.R.
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Henderson.
