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What are you waiting for?
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It's an interesting paradox.
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There's an old saying you can piss in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.
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Now I know somebody just said, KR, did you really just say that?
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Yeah, I did.
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Because sometimes we say we're waiting when really we're just wishing.
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And I wonder how many times we wish for something.
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We call it waiting on God.
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This is Second Win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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Fellas, what are you waiting for?
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I don't mean, man, what are you waiting for in the sense of get up and do something?
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No.
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I'm asking, what are you waiting for?
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An answer?
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An opportunity?
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Perhaps a confirmation?
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Maybe you're waiting for something to change or somebody to change.
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Or maybe you're trying to figure out whether it's time to move at all.
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And I want to talk to you about this because I don't have it all completely figured out.
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I'm living this as a matter of fact right now.
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I'm waiting.
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I'm in what I would call a holding pattern.
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And maybe you are too.
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You've been working, you've been praying, preparing.
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I mean, you've got the vision.
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And you've seen enough to believe that you're headed in the right direction.
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But right now, nothing seems to be moving.
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And waiting hits differently when you're a man in your second win.
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Here's what I mean.
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When you're 25, somebody tells you to be patient.
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Okay, you've got plenty of time.
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Or so you believe.
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But when you're 40, 50, 60 plus, and you still believe there's something you're supposed to build, somebody you're supposed to help.
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Maybe an assignment with your name on it, waiting can start to feel a whole lot like wasting.
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Maybe now you're looking at the clock, you're looking at your age, and if you're not careful, right, you'll start looking at everybody else.
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And eventually start asking God, God, what are you waiting on?
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Fellas, gentlemen, my good men.
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That's where I am.
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I'm not talking about the stuff as if it's something I'm teaching.
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No, no, no.
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I'm talking to you from the other side of this thing.
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I'm talking to you while I'm still in it.
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You get what I'm saying?
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So maybe we can figure this thing out together.
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And before I forget, I want to bring something to your attention.
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I've created on Facebook a page called The Brotherhood for Second Wind.
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Now there I wanted to dialogue about some of these topics offline as men in a private setting, if that makes sense.
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So I want you to go there and join that group, please, so that we can start to comment.
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I mean, you can comment in the chat.
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None of you ever do, but I encourage you to do so, but certainly in the group.
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Anyway, I digress.
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So now I said I'm in a holding pattern, right?
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Well, let me tell you why I use that phrase.
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Because in my transportation business, I spend a lot of time around the airports.
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Every now and then I'll have a client text me or call.
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Hey, we landed early.
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Oh, that's great news, I'm thinking.
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Alright, that means, hey, I'm about to get out of here and get home early too, right?
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But then ten minutes go by, no client.
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Twenty minutes go by, still nobody.
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Thirty minutes sometimes.
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Sometimes I've had it up to an hour, hour and a half.
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But now I'm looking at my phone or my watch, like, didn't you just tell me you landed?
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And they did.
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That's what's interesting.
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They landed, they're at the right airport, the plane isn't lost.
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Nothing's wrong with the aircraft.
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They've reached their destination, but there's a problem.
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They don't have a gate.
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Let that sit for a second.
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There may be another plane sitting at the gate that they're supposed to move into.
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There may be traffic on the ground.
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Could be something happening with the passengers sitting on the plane.
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Nobody absolutely knows anything about.
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Man, doesn't life feel like that sometimes?
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I mean, you know where we're trying to go.
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You've done the work, you've got the experience, you're ready for it.
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You believe you're headed in the right direction, and yet you're sitting there thinking, okay, so why aren't we moving?
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And here's the frustrating part about sitting on that airplane waiting to get off.
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That's a holding pattern for fellas.
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There's another kind of waiting.
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Sometimes circumstances make you wait.
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That's just the way it is.
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You don't have control over the gate, you don't have clearance, so you wait.
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But then there are times when you choose to wait.
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Because you're trying to figure everything out.
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Or you're just trying to figure out something.
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Did I really hear God correctly?
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Huh?
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That's what happened to me with Second Win.
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Before there was a podcast, before there was an episode, before you're not late, you're a son, there was just a vision.
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I saw myself talking to men at a different stage in life.
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Men who became fathers later.
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Some men started over.
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Some men just rediscovered their purpose or just discovered their purpose.
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And I could see it.
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But I didn't immediately move on it because I kept wondering, hmm, is there really an audience for this?
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Do men need this?
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Or is it just something that was important to me because of where I am in my own life?
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So I waited.
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I didn't move immediately.
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I remember hearing Zig Ziggler talk about vision years ago.
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And I'm paraphrasing, but the idea was that once you get a picture in your mind, your mind starts working on that picture.
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It's trying to develop that picture.
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You start noticing things you may have walked right past before.
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And that's exactly what started happening to me.
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One day I bumped into a well-known entertainer.
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I'm not gonna say his name, but we got to talking, and I found out he was over 60 and had a 14-year-old daughter.
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I thought, hmm, maybe I'm not the only one.
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Then I'm at church one day and I run into a 55-year-old gentleman dropping off his eight-year-old daughter.
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Now I'm paying attention.
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Once, interesting, twice, now I'm looking up like, okay, God, are you trying to tell me something?
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But I still didn't move.
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Then came the third conversation.
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I was picking up a young lady and we started talking about her and her father.
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The parents had divorced when she was a young girl.
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Her father had struggled with an addiction.
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Eventually he got clean and remarried.
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But now his wife is struggling with an addiction.
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So he's raising a young daughter, right?
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He's got a young daughter, and his young daughter had reached one of those developmental stages in a young girl's life, and dad didn't know what to do.
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He had to call his ex-wife and say, hey, I need some help here.
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And that hit me differently because now I'm just seeing older fathers.
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It really wasn't.
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I started seeing them everywhere.
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But now all of a sudden, after the third one, I was seeing the question that those cop fathers were carrying.
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I mean, men who love their children but who didn't always have a roadmap.
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Starting over, rebuilding, trying to figure out fatherhood, manhood itself at a different stage in life.
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And that's when I say, okay, God, I hear you.
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And I moved.
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That's when second wind stopped being something I was thinking about and became something I started doing.
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Looking back, I learned something.
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Once I could see the picture, I started recognizing the pieces.
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I was watching, I was listening, I was paying attention.
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And brothers, waiting isn't always an activity.
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Sometimes waiting is observation.
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Second win.
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Knowing when to start.
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Sometimes the answer you're asking, or I'm asking, or we're asking, right?
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God doesn't always come with a flashing sign, right?
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He doesn't.
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Sometimes, I mean, you got to pay attention because the confirmation you've been asking for may be walking right past you.
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And maybe that's another part of second wind that we don't talk about enough.
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Second wind isn't always about starting over.
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I say this all the time.
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Sometimes it's about knowing when to start.
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Because what do you do when you figured out where you're going, but you're still trying to determine when it's time to move?
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Think about that.
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Sometimes you know where you're going, you just don't have clearance to move yet.
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Let me give you an example.
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David.
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In scripture.
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Y'all remember him.
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After being anointed king, guess what?
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He went back to the sheep.
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How about that?
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After being anointed, he goes back in the field.
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Wait a minute.
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I thought you said king.
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But sometimes God gives you a glimpse of where you're going.
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And you assume he means right now.
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David was anointed long before he sat on the throne, big fellow.
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So maybe that's part of what we missed.
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We spend so much time asking, when is it going to happen?
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Maybe we ought to be asking, who am I becoming while I'm waiting for it to happen?
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How about that?
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And gentlemen, this is where whoa, work harder on yourself comes in because I can't control when the gate opens.
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You can't.
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I can control.
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I mean, I can't control every opportunity, but what I can control is working harder on me.
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I can get better.
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I can be prepared.
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I can strengthen relationships.
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Because waiting doesn't have to mean wasting.
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Maybe while I'm waiting for the opportunity to change, God has given me an opportunity to change.
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And fellas, that's a full-time job right there.
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Because apparently God has found plenty around here that I still need to work on.
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So here's what I'm learning.
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The first thing is not every season of waiting is the same.
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Sometimes you need to sit still.
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Sometimes we need to prepare, and sometimes we just need to pay attention.
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And other times we've already gotten enough confirmation, it's time to move then.
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The challenge is knowing which season you're in.
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But whatever season you're in, gentlemen, don't waste the wait.
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Because you don't want to become so consumed about when something is going to happen that you miss what can happen in you while you're waiting.
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You get that?
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And there's one more thing that I'm learning.
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While I'm waiting for the outcome, God is still present.
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Make no mistake.
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Jeremiah 17, 14 says, Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed.
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Save me and I shall be saved, for thou art my praise.
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Now I love that last part.
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For thou art my praise.
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You see, what Jeremiah is asking God, he's asking him for something.
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There's an outcome that he wants, but his confidence is still in God while he's waiting for the answer.
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Man, I'm learning.
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I'm learning something from that.
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I can pray for what I want.
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I can work toward what I believe, right?
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I can even ask God to open doors.
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But I don't want to I don't want to praise.
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I don't want my praise held hostage by the outcome.
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Waiting on God is one thing.
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Walking with God while you wait is another.
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So brothers, if you're in a holding pattern right now, I understand.
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I'm on the tarmac with you.
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I don't know when clearance is coming, yours or mine.
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And I can't promise you everything you're waiting for will happen exactly the way you want it to.
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I can't tell you that.
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I wish I could.
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But I can tell you this.
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Don't turn the engine off, baby.
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Don't abandon the vision because it doesn't look like what you expect.
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And don't confuse somebody else's movement with your failure.
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Keep working, keep listening, keep praying.
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And when it's time to move, move.
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Because sometimes the destination hasn't changed, the timing has.
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And remember what I told you when we started, you can piss in one hand and wish in the other.
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Stop wishing.
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If God told you to wait, wait and work.
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And man, when he tells you to move, hear me now.
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When he tells you to move, roll.
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Why?
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Because you're not late.
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You're assigned.
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This is second win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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What are you waiting for?
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It's an interesting paradox.
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There's an old saying you can piss in one hand and wish in the other and see which one fills up first.
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Now I know somebody just said, KR, did you really just say that?
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Yeah, I did.
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Because sometimes we say we're waiting when really we're just wishing.
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And I wonder how many times we wish for something.
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We call it waiting on God.
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This is Second Win with K.R.
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Henderson.
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Fellas, what are you waiting for?
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I don't mean, man, what are you waiting for in the sense of get up and do something?
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No.
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I'm asking, what are you waiting for?
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An answer?
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An opportunity?
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Perhaps a confirmation?
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Maybe you're waiting for something to change or somebody to change.
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Or maybe you're trying to figure out whether it's time to move at all.
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And I want to talk to you about this because I don't have it all completely figured out.
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I'm living this as a matter of fact right now.
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I'm waiting.
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I'm in what I would call a holding pattern.
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And maybe you are too.
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You've been working, you've been praying, preparing.
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I mean, you've got the vision.
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And you've seen enough to believe that you're headed in the right direction.
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But right now, nothing seems to be moving.
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And waiting hits differently when you're a man in your second win.
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Here's what I mean.
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When you're 25, somebody tells you to be patient.
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Okay, you've got plenty of time.
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Or so you believe.
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But when you're 40, 50, 60 plus, and you still believe there's something you're supposed to build, somebody you're supposed to help.
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Maybe an assignment with your name on it, waiting can start to feel a whole lot like wasting.
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Maybe now you're looking at the clock, you're looking at your age, and if you're not careful, right, you'll start looking at everybody else.
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And eventually start asking God, God, what are you waiting on?
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Fellas, gentlemen, my good men.
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That's where I am.
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I'm not talking about the stuff as if it's something I'm teaching.
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No, no, no.
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I'm talking to you from the other side of this thing.
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I'm talking to you while I'm still in it.
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You get what I'm saying?
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So maybe we can figure this thing out together.
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And before I forget, I want to bring something to your attention.
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I've created on Facebook a page called The Brotherhood for Second Wind.
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Now there I wanted to dialogue about some of these topics offline as men in a private setting, if that makes sense.
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So I want you to go there and join that group, please, so that we can start to comment.
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I mean, you can comment in the chat.
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None of you ever do, but I encourage you to do so, but certainly in the group.
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Anyway, I digress.
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So now I said I'm in a holding pattern, right?
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Well, let me tell you why I use that phrase.
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Because in my transportation business, I spend a lot of time around the airports.
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Every now and then I'll have a client text me or call.
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Hey, we landed early.
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Oh, that's great news, I'm thinking.
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Alright, that means, hey, I'm about to get out of here and get home early too, right?
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But then ten minutes go by, no client.
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Twenty minutes go by, still nobody.
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Thirty minutes sometimes.
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Sometimes I've had it up to an hour, hour and a half.
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But now I'm looking at my phone or my watch, like, didn't you just tell me you landed?
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And they did.
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That's what's interesting.
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They landed, they're at the right airport, the plane isn't lost.
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Nothing's wrong with the aircraft.
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They've reached their destination, but there's a problem.
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They don't have a gate.
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Let that sit for a second.
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There may be another plane sitting at the gate that they're supposed to move into.
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There may be traffic on the ground.
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Could be something happening with the passengers sitting on the plane.
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Nobody absolutely knows anything about.
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Man, doesn't life feel like that sometimes?
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I mean, you know where we're trying to go.
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You've done the work, you've got the experience, you're ready for it.
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You believe you're headed in the right direction, and yet you're sitting there thinking, okay, so why aren't we moving?
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And here's the frustrating part about sitting on that airplane waiting to get off.
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That's a holding pattern for fellas.
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There's another kind of waiting.
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Sometimes circumstances make you wait.
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That's just the way it is.
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You don't have control over the gate, you don't have clearance, so you wait.
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But then there are times when you choose to wait.
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Because you're trying to figure everything out.
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Or you're just trying to figure out something.
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Did I really hear God correctly?
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Huh?
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That's what happened to me with Second Win.
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Before there was a podcast, before there was an episode, before you're not late, you're a son, there was just a vision.
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I saw myself talking to men at a different stage in life.
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Men who became fathers later.
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Some men started over.
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Some men just rediscovered their purpose or just discovered their purpose.
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And I could see it.
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But I didn't immediately move on it because I kept wondering, hmm, is there really an audience for this?
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Do men need this?
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Or is it just something that was important to me because of where I am in my own life?
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So I waited.
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I didn't move immediately.
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I remember hearing Zig Ziggler talk about vision years ago.
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And I'm paraphrasing, but the idea was that once you get a picture in your mind, your mind starts working on that picture.
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It's trying to develop that picture.
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You start noticing things you may have walked right past before.
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And that's exactly what started happening to me.
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One day I bumped into a well-known entertainer.
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I'm not gonna say his name, but we got to talking, and I found out he was over 60 and had a 14-year-old daughter.
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I thought, hmm, maybe I'm not the only one.
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Then I'm at church one day and I run into a 55-year-old gentleman dropping off his eight-year-old daughter.
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Now I'm paying attention.
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Once, interesting, twice, now I'm looking up like, okay, God, are you trying to tell me something?
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But I still didn't move.
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Then came the third conversation.
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I was picking up a young lady and we started talking about her and her father.
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The parents had divorced when she was a young girl.
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Her father had struggled with an addiction.
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Eventually he got clean and remarried.
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But now his wife is struggling with an addiction.
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So he's raising a young daughter, right?
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He's got a young daughter, and his young daughter had reached one of those developmental stages in a young girl's life, and dad didn't know what to do.
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He had to call his ex-wife and say, hey, I need some help here.
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And that hit me differently because now I'm just seeing older fathers.
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It really wasn't.
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I started seeing them everywhere.
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But now all of a sudden, after the third one, I was seeing the question that those cop fathers were carrying.
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I mean, men who love their children but who didn't always have a roadmap.
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Starting over, rebuilding, trying to figure out fatherhood, manhood itself at a different stage in life.
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And that's when I say, okay, God, I hear you.
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And I moved.
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That's when second wind stopped being something I was thinking about and became something I started doing.
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Looking back, I learned something.
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Once I could see the picture, I started recognizing the pieces.
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I was watching, I was listening, I was paying attention.
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And brothers, waiting isn't always an activity.
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Sometimes waiting is observation.
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Second win.
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Knowing when to start.
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Sometimes the answer you're asking, or I'm asking, or we're asking, right?
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God doesn't always come with a flashing sign, right?
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He doesn't.
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Sometimes, I mean, you got to pay attention because the confirmation you've been asking for may be walking right past you.
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And maybe that's another part of second wind that we don't talk about enough.
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Second wind isn't always about starting over.
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I say this all the time.
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Sometimes it's about knowing when to start.
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Because what do you do when you figured out where you're going, but you're still trying to determine when it's time to move?
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Think about that.
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Sometimes you know where you're going, you just don't have clearance to move yet.
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Let me give you an example.
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David.
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In scripture.
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Y'all remember him.
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After being anointed king, guess what?
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He went back to the sheep.
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How about that?
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After being anointed, he goes back in the field.
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Wait a minute.
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I thought you said king.
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But sometimes God gives you a glimpse of where you're going.
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And you assume he means right now.
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David was anointed long before he sat on the throne, big fellow.
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So maybe that's part of what we missed.
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We spend so much time asking, when is it going to happen?
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Maybe we ought to be asking, who am I becoming while I'm waiting for it to happen?
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How about that?
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And gentlemen, this is where whoa, work harder on yourself comes in because I can't control when the gate opens.
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You can't.
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I can control.
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I mean, I can't control every opportunity, but what I can control is working harder on me.
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I can get better.
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I can be prepared.
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I can strengthen relationships.
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Because waiting doesn't have to mean wasting.
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Maybe while I'm waiting for the opportunity to change, God has given me an opportunity to change.
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And fellas, that's a full-time job right there.
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Because apparently God has found plenty around here that I still need to work on.
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So here's what I'm learning.
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The first thing is not every season of waiting is the same.
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Sometimes you need to sit still.
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Sometimes we need to prepare, and sometimes we just need to pay attention.
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And other times we've already gotten enough confirmation, it's time to move then.
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The challenge is knowing which season you're in.
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But whatever season you're in, gentlemen, don't waste the wait.
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Because you don't want to become so consumed about when something is going to happen that you miss what can happen in you while you're waiting.
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You get that?
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And there's one more thing that I'm learning.
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While I'm waiting for the outcome, God is still present.
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Make no mistake.
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Jeremiah 17, 14 says, Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed.
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Save me and I shall be saved, for thou art my praise.
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Now I love that last part.
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For thou art my praise.
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You see, what Jeremiah is asking God, he's asking him for something.
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There's an outcome that he wants, but his confidence is still in God while he's waiting for the answer.
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Man, I'm learning.
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I'm learning something from that.
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I can pray for what I want.
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I can work toward what I believe, right?
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I can even ask God to open doors.
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But I don't want to I don't want to praise.
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I don't want my praise held hostage by the outcome.
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Waiting on God is one thing.
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Walking with God while you wait is another.
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So brothers, if you're in a holding pattern right now, I understand.
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I'm on the tarmac with you.
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I don't know when clearance is coming, yours or mine.
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And I can't promise you everything you're waiting for will happen exactly the way you want it to.
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I can't tell you that.
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I wish I could.
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But I can tell you this.
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Don't turn the engine off, baby.
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Don't abandon the vision because it doesn't look like what you expect.
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And don't confuse somebody else's movement with your failure.
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Keep working, keep listening, keep praying.
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And when it's time to move, move.
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Because sometimes the destination hasn't changed, the timing has.
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And remember what I told you when we started, you can piss in one hand and wish in the other.
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Stop wishing.
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If God told you to wait, wait and work.
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And man, when he tells you to move, hear me now.
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When he tells you to move, roll.
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Why?
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Because you're not late.
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You're assigned.
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This is second win with K.R.
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Henderson.
