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Hey, hey, hey, time out of this world story from
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our space. You ever noticed how some families don't just
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have a black sheep, They have a whole petting zoo
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of bad decisions today on our space people who should
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know better but somehow don't. Fiance got pregnant with my
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brother's baby. Family celebrated. Now she's chasing me when brother ghosted,
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I thirty six male, never thought my life would take
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such a humiliating turn. I've been in her relationship with
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this woman, Carol thirty female for the last three years.
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A year back, I put a ring on her finger.
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She was dancing with joy and couldn't stop talking about
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the wedding. Since then, I had been saving up to
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fulfill all her desires. She one of the best venue
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in town, best decoration and cake. I was happily doing
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it for her, taking extra shifts at work, saving every
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penny I could so that she could have the best
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day of her life. And you know how she returned
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the favor. She slept with my brother. Not only that
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she got knocked up. A little background about him, Tim
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thirty mail is my younger brother. If there's one word
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to describe him, it's directionless but somehow. He has always
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been the golden child in my parents' eyes, not because
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he achieved anything, but because he stayed and remained close
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to them, running errands, driving them to the bank appointments,
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taking them to health check aps, fixing their phone issues.
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He did all the surface level, dutiful, sudden things that
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looked good from the outside. However, it was never out
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of love. Everything he did came with an ulterior motive.
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He gave himself useful so he had a place to
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return to whenever he was broke. He used my parents
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as a safety net for food, shelter, money, and emotional validation.
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His life has basically been one long string of half
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starts and disasters. He dropped out of college, pulled out
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the tuition money, and blew it on some business idea
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that died in a few months. After that, he bounced
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between odd jobs trying to make ends meat before deciding
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he wanted to go to music school. That didn't last either.
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He quit halfway to start a band that only survived
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a year. Then it was back to odd jobs and
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free loading. Every now and then he'd land a gig
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to play guitar at some event that paid well. He'd
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blowed through the cash in weeks and spend the next
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few months broke borrowing from anyone who would pick up
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his call. I lent him a few times too, Before
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I realized all I was doing was enabling him. I
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pulled away, never imagined he would repay me by stabbing
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me in the back. One afternoon, I got a call
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from my mother inviting me to dinner. Her tone felt off.
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I asked if everything was okay. She said yes, just
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that they wanted to discuss something important. I dreaded it
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might be about their health or finances. Never, not even
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for a second that I considered the nightmare waiting for me.
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When I reached the house, the atmosphere felt heavy. Carol
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was already there, sitting on the couch with pale, distressed,
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swollen eyes. Tim was sitting right next to her, unusually
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quiet and avoiding eye contact. I felt that not form
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in my stomach. I walked closer and asked Carroll if
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everything was all right, but she didn't answer. My mother
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told me to sit down. My heart sank. I thought
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someone was dying or diagnosed with something. I kept asking,
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what's happening. Mom held Carol's hand and said Carol's pregnant.
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For a moment, my mind completely blanked. I was like,
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how did it happen? I'm always so careful, and children
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are something I'm always scared of. I didn't want them.
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Don't get me wrong. I love kids and respect people
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who give their all to raise them, but they are
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not for me. I don't think I'm capable of raising one.
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I've had this talk with Carol, and she too wanted
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to live a child free life. Having said that I
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wasn't so rigid that if something unexpected happened I wouldn't
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step up. I leaned in closer to Carol and tried
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to assure her that I was there for her. She
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shouldn't worry. I'm almost clapped, you see, I told you
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all my son is very responsible. He won't abandon his
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family no matter what. Others were still tense, and it
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confused me. I smiled and tried to calm down Carol
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and asked, why didn't you tell me first? My mother
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quickly jumped in and without hesitation, let her out the
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harsh truth. Because you're not the father. Everything inside me froze.
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I flipped, what do you mean I'm not the father
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in her same oblivious tone. She goes, it's Tim's baby.
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What the hell? I was lost for words. There was
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a light bulb moment, and now it made perfect sense
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why she came to them and not me, and why
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Tim was around because it's his business. The sher betrayal
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made my head spin. I turned to Carol and asked,
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what the hell is going on? She broke down into
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tears with a shaky voice, and did her whole performance.
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We've been seeing each other for four months. I swear
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it wasn't intentional. We were just talking and hanging out innocently.
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We were so much alike we didn't realize when we
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fell in love. I screamed, why didn't you tell me
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that you fell for this bum? I would have stepped back.
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She sobbed harder.
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We were waiting for the right opportunity. I snapped at her,
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and this was the right time. You were waiting to
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get knocked up. Tim stepped in, man. We didn't mean
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to hurt you. We just fell in love. She can't
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connect with you. You're too old for her. She finds
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you boring. I make her laugh, and she wants to
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be with me. I punched him in the face. We
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almost got into a scuffle if my father hadn't intervened.
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I slumped on the couch, rewinding the past all the
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cues that I missed, which probably was a red flag.
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A year and a half back, I introduced her to
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my family. My parents adored her. She've hid in so well.
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She and Tim bonded over trending music and new gen lingo,
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of which I was unaware. During family gatherings, I saw
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them talking, laughing, and sometimes sitting together. If I intervened,
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I would hear them talking about some viral trend on TikTok.
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I'm not on social media, hence these never interested me.
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I work for twelve hours a day to build the
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life that I have. I don't have time to waste
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on social media. But I didn't judge them. I didn't
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think anything of it. A few times I saw his
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name flashing on her screen and late at night. I
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even asked her, what's up with Tim? Why he's bothering
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you so late? She laughed about it and said he
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had a problem and was taking her advice and sorting
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this stuff out. I trusted her. How on earth would
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it occurred to me that he was banging my fiance
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on my back. The worst betrayal, though, was my parent's reaction.
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They weren't shocked or even angry. They were happy that
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Carol was expecting that they were getting a grandchild. My
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mother even said, it's part of God's plan. I shouted,
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do you not see any problem? He betrayed me? He
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knocked up my fiance. Tim cut in again. We were
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in love, I screamed, Then why didn't you have the
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balls to come up to me and confess? He defended,
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We were going to tell you soon. But then this happened.
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Really just two days back. She was showing me the
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dress she wants to have in our wedding dinner, while
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having his baby inside her. I ranted about everything that
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came to my mind. Then my father, with a straight face,
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told me to calm down, be you a man, except
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the reality Carrol chose Tim, it happens. Don't get angry
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at her. It's not good for the baby. I was stunned.
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They said I was overreacting and she had a right
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to choose better options. I didn't wait for another second.
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I walked out, slammed the door behind me, and drove away,
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without knowing where I was going. I sat near the
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deserted lake for hours when I got a message from her,
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leave me.
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My keys beneath the rug outside.
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She had moved out. I checked my door cam to
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find my parents and Tim helped her move out. The
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betrayal felt so planned out. I went back to my
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place to find it almost vacant. The apartment looked deserted.
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It took me months to overcome the betrayal. I moved
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out to a different part of the town, cut off
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my family, disconnected with my relatives because I didn't want
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any unnecessary updates coming from them. Your parents are hosting
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a baby shower for Carol, Go to hell with that,
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thinking play happy family stuff as much as they want.
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I don't want to be updated. I had to seek
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therapy to come to terms that you can love someone
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deeply and they can still choose some one else without hesitation.
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And sometimes the people you think will stand with you
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will abandon you in the very moment you need them
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the most. And that's okay. It's their choice, and I
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also got to choose how I want to deal with it.
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I cut off everyone who brought me down, worked on myself,
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and moved on. It's been almost a year since everything
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fell apart, and it has been the most brutal year
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so far. No matter how positive I sounded, I was
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pathetic inside. Had to force myself to get out of bettery.
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Morning went for therapy, and slowly I was able to
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cope with the betrayal. At least that's what I thought
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until yesterday. She suddenly appeared and months of therapy and
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self work went for a loss. Around nine thirty p m.
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My doorbell rang. I was expecting a delivery guy, so
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I answered without checking. The moment I opened the door,
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I froze. It was her standing there with a baby
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wrapped in a blanket or arms. My first instinct should
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have been concern or sympathy, but seeing a woman with
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a baby at such a late hour, instead, it was
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pure burning rage that shot up from my gut. Her
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first words were, please help me. I almost slammed the
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door in her face right away, but she shoved her
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foot forward just enough to keep the door open. I
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was shocked at her audacity. After everything she did, she
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dared to show up here with this baby and asked
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me for help. She was pleading, I'm.
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In trouble, tim abandon us. I can't do this alone.
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How am I going to raise this baby?
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She charted crying profusely, and her tears rolled down her
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cheeks and fell on her baby's face. This should have
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melted a lot of people, I know, but it didn't
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work for me. Sorry. You can call me whatever you want,
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but I remained unmoved. There's just so much hatred inside
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me that I just couldn't even look at that baby.
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He was the living evidence of the betrayal. I snapped
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at her, not my problem, you went for a better person.
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It's not my problem that it turned out to be
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a trash and slammed the door so hard it echoed
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down the hall. She knocked a few times, but I
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didn't answer. Then knocking stopped. After some time, those few
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minutes of encounter scratched all the old wounds. I thought
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i'd moved on for my past. Looks like the pain
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was still buried inside me. Maybe I hadn't moved on
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the way that I thought I did. This was the
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first time I had seen her after that D Day,
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until the truth came out. She was the love of
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my life, and after that she was a cheater, nothing
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in between. Maybe I didn't get the chance to release
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my hanger not only on her, but on my whole family.
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I had entirely cut myself off from everyone. I'm having
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a sleepless night thinking about all this and how I
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actually move on. I really don't know if my therapy
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ever helped or my emotions were just buried inside. Do
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any of you relate to this like even though you
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feel you have moved on, but when the past comes
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right in front, you lose track of everything. Your fiance
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maintained a whole double life for months while accepting your love,
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your money, your time, and your future plans. She let
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you work extra shifts to build a dream wedding. She
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knew she'd never actually walk into you with you. That's
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straight up cruel. And then your brother didn't have the
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courage to step up, say the truth, or act like
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a man. Instead, he waited until your fiance got pregnant
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and then tried to act like you are the problem
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for being upset coward. Then the moment Tim bailed, which
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is exactly what a person like him does. She tried
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to fall back on you, not because she loves you
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or regrets what she did, but because you were always
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the stable, responsible one update one looks like my past
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is following me like a ghost. Before the update, I
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wanted to thank everyone who engaged on my post. It's
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reassuring to know that I am not a loser to
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feel that way. I was disturbed, not because I wanted
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her back or anything such. I was curious about how
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she thought she could waltz into my life after betraying
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me so badly. She cheated on me, said I was
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boring and old, and now she appeared asking for help.
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My brain has been repeating the conversational loop. I hate
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that she still has the power over me. Today was
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no different. I was drained and just wanted to crash.
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But as soon as I entered my building, she was
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sitting on the stairs near the elevator, clutching her baby
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like a sympathy prop. For a second, I thought about
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turning around and running like hell, but she saw me
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before I could even try. Her eyes lit up like
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she genuinely believed I would melt seeing her again. She begged,
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I just need a minute, please hear me out. I
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didn't even look at her. The elevator doors opened, but
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I couldn't bring myself to get inside with her. Even
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the thought may be nauseous. I turned and walked toward
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the stairs. She followed me while blabbering.
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Tim left us with nothing. He didn't answer my calls.
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He doesn't even want to look at his son.
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I cut her off. That really sucks. But isn't this
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what you'd signed up for when you got knocked up?
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She cried, for.
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God's sake, he's your nephew. Don't talk like that about
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the baby.
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At least that word nephew hit like a punch. The
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affair baby she had with that loser bum was suddenly
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pinned to me as my nephew. I ignored her and
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just kept moving, But I realized if I go home,
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she would create a mess would be difficult to get
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rid of her. Instead, I turned back and climbed down
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the stairs. She followed me until my car, trying to
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hold my arms, begging and pleading to talk to her.
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I got into my car and drove until I reached
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a small park I sometimes stopped at to clear my head,
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grabbed a sandwich from a food truck nearby, and sat
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there for hours. No matter how much I tried to
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calm down myself, I couldn't. I am dang so angry
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that her existence still disrupts my peace. It was pretty
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late when I returned. Didn't realize she would still be there,
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but she was. As I unlocked the door, I heard
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footsteps approaching from the stairs. I really didn't think she
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was still here following me. I immediately turned inside to
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lock the door before she came near. She ran and
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tried to push the door with her shoulder, but I
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shot back harder, blocking her way. She begged, please let
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me explain. I was so dumb with her that I screamed,
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if you don't leave me alone, I'm calling the car.
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She laughed like she thought I was bluffing. Was like,
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you won't do that. I know you. You still love me again.
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Tried to slam the door, but she kept pushing.
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I love you too, I always did. I made a mistake.
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I never loved Tim. It was just once I was
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scared when the pregnancy test came positive and things got complicated.
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You know how he is. He manipulated me.
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I didn't let her finish. Not my problem this time.
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I slammed the door with every ounce of strength left
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in my body. I locked the dead bolt, then the
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safety latch. Then I shoved a chair against the door
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because my heart wouldn't stop racing. She knocked and cried
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and begged that I help her, at least for the baby.
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I shouldn't punish him for his parents mistakes. That moment
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was so hostile and vulnerable for me. Eventually she laughed,
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But I'm still feeling heavy. I hated so much that
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she still holds so much power over my emotions that
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one glance of her effing face and all the wounds
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came popping up. I just hope this is it and
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I don't have to deal with her anymore. Update two,
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I'm just so pissed off right now. I guess I'm
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blessed with the worst people in my life. Today my
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mom called me, and this was the first call after
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that D day. She didn't care to check on me
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how I was dealing with everything, But now when they
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need me, suddenly they were concerned about me. She started with,
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how are you, honey? You don't drop by like before.
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I didn't want to dig into the matter, so I
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just said, yeah, I've been busy lately. She sharply replied,
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too busy to check on your parents. That was infuriating,
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pure gaslighting move. I shot back, why did you call
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that after so many years? She replied with nothing, just
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like this, Can I check on my boy? I said, cool,
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thanks for the call and hung up. She called me
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again within seconds, goes, why he are you so snappy?
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Can't you talk properly? I said, okay, tell what you
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want to talk about. Until then I had no clue
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what was happening in the background. The next thing, she told.
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The last few months have been so rough. Your dad
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fractured his knee, he's still getting pusio. Our business suffered
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due to that. Only God knows how we are managing.
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And in the same breath, she goes, your brother also
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got it so overwhelmed with the baby that he's took
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a break. Carol had to take a work break for
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four months to recover, and the baby's responsibility fill squarely
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on us. I was like, wait a minute, why am
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I hearing this? I don't want to know what's happening
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in your stupid, lazy, but golden child's life. She said, son,
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you've always been our pride. We really look upon you.
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Don't disappoint us. The baby needs your help.
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I snapped at her, I'm not running your charity.
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Here.
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She stopped me midway. Son, Please don't be selfish. That
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baby is your blood. What my blood? The same people
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who told me I should accept that Carroll chose a
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better option are now calling that better options baby my blood.
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I was like, you know what, I'm done, and don't
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bother calling me ever again. I hung up. She called
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me twice after that, but I didn't answer. Then she
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sent a voicemail. We can't abandon a child. He's your bloodline.
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You're an uncle, you have responsibilities. We know you earn well.
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You can definitely spare a few bucks on your brother's family,
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can't you. I almost shattered my phone right there and
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blocked her. A few hours later, I got a call
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from Dad. I blocked him too. Any sane people would
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have backed off, but no, my folks are different. The
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next thing I know, they are standing on my door
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waiting for me. I cursed myself for not noticing their
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car in the driveway. As soon as I saw them,
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I stopped and started walking down. Too late. They already
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saw me. Dad said, in a commanding tone, you don't
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get to run from this. She needs help. The baby
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needs stability. You're a mature one in the family, step up. Really,
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you guys are now demanding this. Where was that energy
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when they committed adultery. I was so enraged that I
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was like, it has to end to day, and I
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am going to face it. I walked right in front
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of them and said, I don't know you guys a
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second of my time. My dad was about to snap
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at me, but Mom came in between let out of
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manipulated smile. We understand you're still hurt, but we can't
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abandon our blood. I screamed, for the last time, I
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have nothing to do with you or your blood. Dad
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stepped forward. Don't you dare talk like that. He's your nephew.
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I let out a bitter laugh. You two didn't give
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a dang when you're golden child. Stole my fiance, but
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now you want me to swoop in and fix his mess.
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Mom's eyes flashed irritation. It wasn't stealing. Carol made a choice.
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I shot back, yes, and now I am making mine.
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Dad clenched his jaw. Listen, Carol has nowhere to go.
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Tim needs some time to understand her responsibility. You're financially stable,
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you have a good job. You can support her until
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they get back on track. I stared at them, stunned.
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Oh so now my hard work should fund their happy accident.
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Mom huffed, Stop being so dramatic.
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You're older. You never gave us grandchildren.
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At least contribute that one's sentence tore away whatever scraps
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of the last ounce of respect I had for them.
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I told them to leave right now. Mom glared, watch
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your tone. Where're still your parents? I said, no, you
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watch yours. You're awarded their cheating with a baby shower.
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You celebrated my misery. Dad rolled his eyes and nov
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with the self pity. Men up and take responsibility, I
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snapped back, You know what My responsibility is protecting myself
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from toxic people, and right now that means protecting myself
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from you. Mom choked up, like she suddenly remembered how
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to pretend to care. But son, I snapped to know,
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don't sun me. Your son is Tim the golden child.
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Don't bother to pretend. I unlocked my apartment, went inside,
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and slammed the door in their face. I don't know
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if it was respectful or not, but I did what
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I had to do to protect myself. It's been a
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couple of days since then, though, it is silent for now.
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I'm not sure how long this piece is gonna last.
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One thing is for sure, won't let them walkle over me,
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even if that means cutting everyone off for the rest
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of my life. Thanks for reading this. Your parents coming
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back into the picture, that's a whole new level. They
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ignored your pain when you were the one who was betrayed.
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They supported your brother's relationship with your acts. They minimize
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what happened and blamed you. And now that golden child failed,
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now that their lives are getting inconvenient, suddenly you matter again.
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Suddenly your money matters, Suddenly family matters. You're right to
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block them. You're right to shut the door literally and figuratively.
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These people don't respect you, they don't value you, they
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don't support you. They only show up when you're useful
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to them. If your family suddenly expected you to fix
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someone else's mess, what would you do? Let us know
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in the comments below, And I think you for joining us
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Hey, hey, hey, time out of this world story from
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our space. You ever noticed how some families don't just
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have a black sheep, They have a whole petting zoo
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of bad decisions today on our space people who should
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know better but somehow don't. Fiance got pregnant with my
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brother's baby. Family celebrated. Now she's chasing me when brother ghosted,
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I thirty six male, never thought my life would take
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such a humiliating turn. I've been in her relationship with
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this woman, Carol thirty female for the last three years.
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A year back, I put a ring on her finger.
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She was dancing with joy and couldn't stop talking about
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the wedding. Since then, I had been saving up to
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fulfill all her desires. She one of the best venue
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in town, best decoration and cake. I was happily doing
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it for her, taking extra shifts at work, saving every
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penny I could so that she could have the best
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day of her life. And you know how she returned
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the favor. She slept with my brother. Not only that
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she got knocked up. A little background about him, Tim
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thirty mail is my younger brother. If there's one word
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to describe him, it's directionless but somehow. He has always
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been the golden child in my parents' eyes, not because
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he achieved anything, but because he stayed and remained close
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to them, running errands, driving them to the bank appointments,
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taking them to health check aps, fixing their phone issues.
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He did all the surface level, dutiful, sudden things that
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looked good from the outside. However, it was never out
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of love. Everything he did came with an ulterior motive.
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He gave himself useful so he had a place to
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return to whenever he was broke. He used my parents
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as a safety net for food, shelter, money, and emotional validation.
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His life has basically been one long string of half
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starts and disasters. He dropped out of college, pulled out
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the tuition money, and blew it on some business idea
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that died in a few months. After that, he bounced
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between odd jobs trying to make ends meat before deciding
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he wanted to go to music school. That didn't last either.
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He quit halfway to start a band that only survived
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a year. Then it was back to odd jobs and
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free loading. Every now and then he'd land a gig
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to play guitar at some event that paid well. He'd
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blowed through the cash in weeks and spend the next
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few months broke borrowing from anyone who would pick up
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his call. I lent him a few times too, Before
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I realized all I was doing was enabling him. I
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pulled away, never imagined he would repay me by stabbing
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me in the back. One afternoon, I got a call
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from my mother inviting me to dinner. Her tone felt off.
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I asked if everything was okay. She said yes, just
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that they wanted to discuss something important. I dreaded it
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might be about their health or finances. Never, not even
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for a second that I considered the nightmare waiting for me.
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When I reached the house, the atmosphere felt heavy. Carol
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was already there, sitting on the couch with pale, distressed,
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swollen eyes. Tim was sitting right next to her, unusually
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quiet and avoiding eye contact. I felt that not form
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in my stomach. I walked closer and asked Carroll if
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everything was all right, but she didn't answer. My mother
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told me to sit down. My heart sank. I thought
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someone was dying or diagnosed with something. I kept asking,
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what's happening. Mom held Carol's hand and said Carol's pregnant.
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For a moment, my mind completely blanked. I was like,
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how did it happen? I'm always so careful, and children
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are something I'm always scared of. I didn't want them.
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Don't get me wrong. I love kids and respect people
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who give their all to raise them, but they are
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not for me. I don't think I'm capable of raising one.
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I've had this talk with Carol, and she too wanted
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to live a child free life. Having said that I
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wasn't so rigid that if something unexpected happened I wouldn't
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step up. I leaned in closer to Carol and tried
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to assure her that I was there for her. She
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shouldn't worry. I'm almost clapped, you see, I told you
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all my son is very responsible. He won't abandon his
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family no matter what. Others were still tense, and it
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confused me. I smiled and tried to calm down Carol
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and asked, why didn't you tell me first? My mother
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quickly jumped in and without hesitation, let her out the
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harsh truth. Because you're not the father. Everything inside me froze.
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I flipped, what do you mean I'm not the father
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in her same oblivious tone. She goes, it's Tim's baby.
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What the hell? I was lost for words. There was
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a light bulb moment, and now it made perfect sense
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why she came to them and not me, and why
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Tim was around because it's his business. The sher betrayal
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made my head spin. I turned to Carol and asked,
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what the hell is going on? She broke down into
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tears with a shaky voice, and did her whole performance.
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We've been seeing each other for four months. I swear
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it wasn't intentional. We were just talking and hanging out innocently.
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We were so much alike we didn't realize when we
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fell in love. I screamed, why didn't you tell me
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that you fell for this bum? I would have stepped back.
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She sobbed harder.
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We were waiting for the right opportunity. I snapped at her,
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and this was the right time. You were waiting to
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get knocked up. Tim stepped in, man. We didn't mean
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to hurt you. We just fell in love. She can't
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connect with you. You're too old for her. She finds
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you boring. I make her laugh, and she wants to
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be with me. I punched him in the face. We
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almost got into a scuffle if my father hadn't intervened.
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I slumped on the couch, rewinding the past all the
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cues that I missed, which probably was a red flag.
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A year and a half back, I introduced her to
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my family. My parents adored her. She've hid in so well.
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She and Tim bonded over trending music and new gen lingo,
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of which I was unaware. During family gatherings, I saw
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them talking, laughing, and sometimes sitting together. If I intervened,
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I would hear them talking about some viral trend on TikTok.
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I'm not on social media, hence these never interested me.
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I work for twelve hours a day to build the
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life that I have. I don't have time to waste
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on social media. But I didn't judge them. I didn't
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think anything of it. A few times I saw his
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name flashing on her screen and late at night. I
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even asked her, what's up with Tim? Why he's bothering
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you so late? She laughed about it and said he
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had a problem and was taking her advice and sorting
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this stuff out. I trusted her. How on earth would
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it occurred to me that he was banging my fiance
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on my back. The worst betrayal, though, was my parent's reaction.
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They weren't shocked or even angry. They were happy that
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Carol was expecting that they were getting a grandchild. My
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mother even said, it's part of God's plan. I shouted,
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do you not see any problem? He betrayed me? He
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knocked up my fiance. Tim cut in again. We were
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in love, I screamed, Then why didn't you have the
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balls to come up to me and confess? He defended,
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We were going to tell you soon. But then this happened.
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Really just two days back. She was showing me the
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dress she wants to have in our wedding dinner, while
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having his baby inside her. I ranted about everything that
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came to my mind. Then my father, with a straight face,
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told me to calm down, be you a man, except
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the reality Carrol chose Tim, it happens. Don't get angry
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at her. It's not good for the baby. I was stunned.
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They said I was overreacting and she had a right
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to choose better options. I didn't wait for another second.
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I walked out, slammed the door behind me, and drove away,
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without knowing where I was going. I sat near the
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deserted lake for hours when I got a message from her,
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leave me.
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My keys beneath the rug outside.
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She had moved out. I checked my door cam to
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find my parents and Tim helped her move out. The
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betrayal felt so planned out. I went back to my
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place to find it almost vacant. The apartment looked deserted.
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It took me months to overcome the betrayal. I moved
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out to a different part of the town, cut off
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my family, disconnected with my relatives because I didn't want
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any unnecessary updates coming from them. Your parents are hosting
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a baby shower for Carol, Go to hell with that,
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thinking play happy family stuff as much as they want.
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I don't want to be updated. I had to seek
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therapy to come to terms that you can love someone
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deeply and they can still choose some one else without hesitation.
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And sometimes the people you think will stand with you
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will abandon you in the very moment you need them
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the most. And that's okay. It's their choice, and I
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also got to choose how I want to deal with it.
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I cut off everyone who brought me down, worked on myself,
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and moved on. It's been almost a year since everything
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fell apart, and it has been the most brutal year
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so far. No matter how positive I sounded, I was
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pathetic inside. Had to force myself to get out of bettery.
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Morning went for therapy, and slowly I was able to
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cope with the betrayal. At least that's what I thought
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until yesterday. She suddenly appeared and months of therapy and
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self work went for a loss. Around nine thirty p m.
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My doorbell rang. I was expecting a delivery guy, so
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I answered without checking. The moment I opened the door,
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I froze. It was her standing there with a baby
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wrapped in a blanket or arms. My first instinct should
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have been concern or sympathy, but seeing a woman with
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a baby at such a late hour, instead, it was
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pure burning rage that shot up from my gut. Her
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first words were, please help me. I almost slammed the
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door in her face right away, but she shoved her
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foot forward just enough to keep the door open. I
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was shocked at her audacity. After everything she did, she
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dared to show up here with this baby and asked
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me for help. She was pleading, I'm.
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In trouble, tim abandon us. I can't do this alone.
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How am I going to raise this baby?
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She charted crying profusely, and her tears rolled down her
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cheeks and fell on her baby's face. This should have
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melted a lot of people, I know, but it didn't
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work for me. Sorry. You can call me whatever you want,
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but I remained unmoved. There's just so much hatred inside
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me that I just couldn't even look at that baby.
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He was the living evidence of the betrayal. I snapped
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at her, not my problem, you went for a better person.
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It's not my problem that it turned out to be
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a trash and slammed the door so hard it echoed
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down the hall. She knocked a few times, but I
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didn't answer. Then knocking stopped. After some time, those few
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minutes of encounter scratched all the old wounds. I thought
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i'd moved on for my past. Looks like the pain
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was still buried inside me. Maybe I hadn't moved on
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the way that I thought I did. This was the
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first time I had seen her after that D Day,
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until the truth came out. She was the love of
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my life, and after that she was a cheater, nothing
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in between. Maybe I didn't get the chance to release
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my hanger not only on her, but on my whole family.
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I had entirely cut myself off from everyone. I'm having
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a sleepless night thinking about all this and how I
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actually move on. I really don't know if my therapy
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ever helped or my emotions were just buried inside. Do
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any of you relate to this like even though you
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feel you have moved on, but when the past comes
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right in front, you lose track of everything. Your fiance
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maintained a whole double life for months while accepting your love,
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your money, your time, and your future plans. She let
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you work extra shifts to build a dream wedding. She
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knew she'd never actually walk into you with you. That's
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straight up cruel. And then your brother didn't have the
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courage to step up, say the truth, or act like
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a man. Instead, he waited until your fiance got pregnant
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and then tried to act like you are the problem
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for being upset coward. Then the moment Tim bailed, which
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is exactly what a person like him does. She tried
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to fall back on you, not because she loves you
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or regrets what she did, but because you were always
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the stable, responsible one update one looks like my past
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is following me like a ghost. Before the update, I
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wanted to thank everyone who engaged on my post. It's
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reassuring to know that I am not a loser to
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feel that way. I was disturbed, not because I wanted
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her back or anything such. I was curious about how
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she thought she could waltz into my life after betraying
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me so badly. She cheated on me, said I was
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boring and old, and now she appeared asking for help.
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My brain has been repeating the conversational loop. I hate
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that she still has the power over me. Today was
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no different. I was drained and just wanted to crash.
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But as soon as I entered my building, she was
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sitting on the stairs near the elevator, clutching her baby
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like a sympathy prop. For a second, I thought about
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turning around and running like hell, but she saw me
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before I could even try. Her eyes lit up like
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she genuinely believed I would melt seeing her again. She begged,
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I just need a minute, please hear me out. I
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didn't even look at her. The elevator doors opened, but
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I couldn't bring myself to get inside with her. Even
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the thought may be nauseous. I turned and walked toward
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the stairs. She followed me while blabbering.
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Tim left us with nothing. He didn't answer my calls.
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He doesn't even want to look at his son.
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I cut her off. That really sucks. But isn't this
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what you'd signed up for when you got knocked up?
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She cried, for.
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God's sake, he's your nephew. Don't talk like that about
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the baby.
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At least that word nephew hit like a punch. The
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affair baby she had with that loser bum was suddenly
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pinned to me as my nephew. I ignored her and
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just kept moving, But I realized if I go home,
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she would create a mess would be difficult to get
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rid of her. Instead, I turned back and climbed down
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the stairs. She followed me until my car, trying to
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hold my arms, begging and pleading to talk to her.
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I got into my car and drove until I reached
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a small park I sometimes stopped at to clear my head,
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grabbed a sandwich from a food truck nearby, and sat
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there for hours. No matter how much I tried to
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calm down myself, I couldn't. I am dang so angry
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that her existence still disrupts my peace. It was pretty
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late when I returned. Didn't realize she would still be there,
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but she was. As I unlocked the door, I heard
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footsteps approaching from the stairs. I really didn't think she
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was still here following me. I immediately turned inside to
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lock the door before she came near. She ran and
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tried to push the door with her shoulder, but I
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shot back harder, blocking her way. She begged, please let
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me explain. I was so dumb with her that I screamed,
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if you don't leave me alone, I'm calling the car.
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She laughed like she thought I was bluffing. Was like,
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you won't do that. I know you. You still love me again.
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Tried to slam the door, but she kept pushing.
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I love you too, I always did. I made a mistake.
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I never loved Tim. It was just once I was
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scared when the pregnancy test came positive and things got complicated.
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You know how he is. He manipulated me.
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I didn't let her finish. Not my problem this time.
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I slammed the door with every ounce of strength left
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in my body. I locked the dead bolt, then the
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safety latch. Then I shoved a chair against the door
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because my heart wouldn't stop racing. She knocked and cried
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and begged that I help her, at least for the baby.
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I shouldn't punish him for his parents mistakes. That moment
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was so hostile and vulnerable for me. Eventually she laughed,
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But I'm still feeling heavy. I hated so much that
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she still holds so much power over my emotions that
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one glance of her effing face and all the wounds
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came popping up. I just hope this is it and
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I don't have to deal with her anymore. Update two,
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I'm just so pissed off right now. I guess I'm
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blessed with the worst people in my life. Today my
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mom called me, and this was the first call after
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that D day. She didn't care to check on me
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how I was dealing with everything, But now when they
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need me, suddenly they were concerned about me. She started with,
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how are you, honey? You don't drop by like before.
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I didn't want to dig into the matter, so I
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just said, yeah, I've been busy lately. She sharply replied,
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too busy to check on your parents. That was infuriating,
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pure gaslighting move. I shot back, why did you call
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that after so many years? She replied with nothing, just
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like this, Can I check on my boy? I said, cool,
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thanks for the call and hung up. She called me
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again within seconds, goes, why he are you so snappy?
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Can't you talk properly? I said, okay, tell what you
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want to talk about. Until then I had no clue
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what was happening in the background. The next thing, she told.
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The last few months have been so rough. Your dad
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fractured his knee, he's still getting pusio. Our business suffered
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due to that. Only God knows how we are managing.
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And in the same breath, she goes, your brother also
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got it so overwhelmed with the baby that he's took
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a break. Carol had to take a work break for
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four months to recover, and the baby's responsibility fill squarely
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on us. I was like, wait a minute, why am
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I hearing this? I don't want to know what's happening
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in your stupid, lazy, but golden child's life. She said, son,
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you've always been our pride. We really look upon you.
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Don't disappoint us. The baby needs your help.
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I snapped at her, I'm not running your charity.
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Here.
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She stopped me midway. Son, Please don't be selfish. That
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baby is your blood. What my blood? The same people
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who told me I should accept that Carroll chose a
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better option are now calling that better options baby my blood.
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I was like, you know what, I'm done, and don't
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bother calling me ever again. I hung up. She called
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me twice after that, but I didn't answer. Then she
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sent a voicemail. We can't abandon a child. He's your bloodline.
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You're an uncle, you have responsibilities. We know you earn well.
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You can definitely spare a few bucks on your brother's family,
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can't you. I almost shattered my phone right there and
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blocked her. A few hours later, I got a call
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from Dad. I blocked him too. Any sane people would
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have backed off, but no, my folks are different. The
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next thing I know, they are standing on my door
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waiting for me. I cursed myself for not noticing their
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car in the driveway. As soon as I saw them,
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I stopped and started walking down. Too late. They already
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saw me. Dad said, in a commanding tone, you don't
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get to run from this. She needs help. The baby
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needs stability. You're a mature one in the family, step up. Really,
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you guys are now demanding this. Where was that energy
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when they committed adultery. I was so enraged that I
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was like, it has to end to day, and I
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am going to face it. I walked right in front
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of them and said, I don't know you guys a
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second of my time. My dad was about to snap
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at me, but Mom came in between let out of
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manipulated smile. We understand you're still hurt, but we can't
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abandon our blood. I screamed, for the last time, I
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have nothing to do with you or your blood. Dad
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stepped forward. Don't you dare talk like that. He's your nephew.
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I let out a bitter laugh. You two didn't give
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a dang when you're golden child. Stole my fiance, but
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now you want me to swoop in and fix his mess.
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Mom's eyes flashed irritation. It wasn't stealing. Carol made a choice.
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I shot back, yes, and now I am making mine.
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Dad clenched his jaw. Listen, Carol has nowhere to go.
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Tim needs some time to understand her responsibility. You're financially stable,
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you have a good job. You can support her until
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they get back on track. I stared at them, stunned.
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Oh so now my hard work should fund their happy accident.
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Mom huffed, Stop being so dramatic.
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You're older. You never gave us grandchildren.
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At least contribute that one's sentence tore away whatever scraps
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of the last ounce of respect I had for them.
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I told them to leave right now. Mom glared, watch
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your tone. Where're still your parents? I said, no, you
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watch yours. You're awarded their cheating with a baby shower.
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You celebrated my misery. Dad rolled his eyes and nov
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with the self pity. Men up and take responsibility, I
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snapped back, You know what My responsibility is protecting myself
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from toxic people, and right now that means protecting myself
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from you. Mom choked up, like she suddenly remembered how
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to pretend to care. But son, I snapped to know,
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don't sun me. Your son is Tim the golden child.
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Don't bother to pretend. I unlocked my apartment, went inside,
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and slammed the door in their face. I don't know
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if it was respectful or not, but I did what
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I had to do to protect myself. It's been a
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couple of days since then, though, it is silent for now.
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I'm not sure how long this piece is gonna last.
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One thing is for sure, won't let them walkle over me,
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even if that means cutting everyone off for the rest
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of my life. Thanks for reading this. Your parents coming
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back into the picture, that's a whole new level. They
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ignored your pain when you were the one who was betrayed.
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They supported your brother's relationship with your acts. They minimize
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what happened and blamed you. And now that golden child failed,
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now that their lives are getting inconvenient, suddenly you matter again.
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Suddenly your money matters, Suddenly family matters. You're right to
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block them. You're right to shut the door literally and figuratively.
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These people don't respect you, they don't value you, they
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don't support you. They only show up when you're useful
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to them. If your family suddenly expected you to fix
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someone else's mess, what would you do? Let us know
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in the comments below, And I think you for joining us
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