Speaker 1: Seven o two Weekend Breakfast and Parenting with Mickey Bush.
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Speaker 2: It's twelve minutes after eight o'clock time Press to talk at parenting for this week, and this week we're looking at how parents can help their kids understand the importance of teamwork and also the importance of collaboration. And it's the kind of listen that you kind of need your whole life. You need to be able to be a team member and work with other people at home, especially if you have siblings, but even if you don't, you need to be a team member, and the house you live in, you need to be a team member. At school, you need to be a team member in sports. You need to be a team member and know how to work with people throughout your life, in your work career and your extra murals. So it's just a foundational skill, this ability to be able to be a team player and work well with people. And so that's what we're talking about this morning, and I'd love to hear your experiences about how you're teaching your kids teamwork the importance of collaboration. Let us don't own double one eight three or seven oh two. Send us an SMS on three one seven oh two and send us a what's up message? And seven two seven O two one seven oh two, joined as always by a residence human potential and parenting expert Nikki Bush. Nikki a very good morning too.
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Speaker 1: Good morning googs, and I'm coming from a farm in the Free State where the electricity went down this morning in a storm. So teamwork to get me online right now, thank you so much. Now no internet, no nasense. Everyone's running around trying to fix it for me.
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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
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Speaker 1: Okay, but here we are.
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Speaker 2: Hopefully the line holds because sometimes when the electricity dips, the line also drops as well. So today we're talking about quite an old school idea, the idea of teamwork and collaboration. And it's the kind of idea that even as you know we become more connected on the internet, there is ai. It is an idea that still remains quite relevant even in this very modern age.
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Speaker 1: Talk to us about that absolutely. In fact, I presented a corporate.
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Speaker 2: With oh having a bit of trouble with Nikki's line there. As she mentioned, she is coming to us from the Free State and power is an issue. As we know, sometimes when the power goes down, network connectivity also goes down with it, so we will try get her back on the line. But we are talking about teamwork, which is really it's such an old idea at not a new idea, the importance of being a team player. But I think you needed more now, especially in this digital world. Are you able to work with other people? Are you pleasant to work with? It's not enough to be good at your job, sometimes you also oftentimes you also need to be pleasant to work with, And I think that's where the teamwork and the collaboration works in. Very few companies will tolerate people who are ill tempered or disruptive, or even if your work is good, because that would have said the balance unless you are exceptional, you like as Steve Jobs, who was notoriously sometimes bad tempered, but he was by many people considered a genius. And so this idea of needing to teach kids teamwork and collaboration is still very very relevant. I think it's going to be one of those soft skills we often hear about the importance of soft skills. Kids having these skills that they can transfer between jobs, between industries, between activities. I think the importance of teamwork and collaboration and being able to work with people and have people like working with you is one of those things that's going to stand the test of time, even as technology and the way we work changes. I think that's always going to be a thing all of us need. And so we're talking about it this morning. I think we have Nikki back on the line. It'sy if the Internet and network gods are on outside Nikki, good morning.
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Speaker 1: Yes here we are again us another time.
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Speaker 2: So I was saying, this idea of teamwork and being able to work with people am well with people. It's not a new idea, it's an old idea, but it's one that remains relevant even in this time of you know, progress and AI and tech, and it feels like the kind of thing that will be relevant well into the future as well.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, no great success happens in a vacuum. In fact, even mobile prizes in scientific fields, which have been awarded for over a century, you know, they're often being awarded to teams now, not just individuals. So it often takes you know, teamwork to make the dream work, as they say, And so something we need to teach children from an early early age, and this starts in a home just by doing chores. You know, there are many homes in which the parents do everything and the children watch TV and play online games. That's about teamwork. When we have meals, we should be planning, we should be prepping together. We should be laying the table together. We should be carrying the dishes and packing up the dishwasher together. The word is togetherness where everybody takes you know, has a role to play, where everybody is a contributor, not just taker. And it's the super super important in the in building activities to bring people together, to provide common ground, to give people opportunities to take part in an activity and have different roles in the bookwork and in group And then of course one of the best ways to teach teamwork is to encourage your children to be involved in sporting activities or a school play for example. And the school play is a wonderful way of showcasing teamwork because everybody has different roles, whether you have a part to play on the stage or whether you are in lighting or costume or design or stage management. You know, a play cannot come together without everybody participating in their particular role. And is there's no one job that's more important than the job. Even in a building for example, or a business, you're the person who's in charge of the internet and keeping the internet. Talking of the internet and electricity go and the light bulbs you know, replaced when they blow. That's important. And children need to learn that they will play various roles in their lives and every role they play is important. All right.
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Speaker 2: You mentioned right at the beginning that this lesson, this teaching starts in the home, and sometimes parents find themselves or some parents find themselves doing everything for their children. And we've spoken about this before where you said, you know, parents don't intend to, but not allowing your kids to be involved to learn how to do things, especially independently, can be really really bad for them. They will struggle at school, they'll struggle later on in life because they are unable to do things themselves. And this also is just I guess, another branch or another way in which parents wanting to do everything for their kids will disadvantage them because then they'll they'll be unable to be team players. They won't be the kind of people people think, oh, I want this person around. They pull their weights, they show up, they show initiative because they're so used to getting things done for them.
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Speaker 1: Well, the problem with that scenario is that you raise a child who is helpless. So that's a situation called learned helplessness. They learn to be helpless, they don't learn them life skills that allow them to contribute when they're in a group, when they're in a team. So you know, you send them after university and suddenly they have to live with a dorm partner and they don't know how to tirely up their room, they don't know how to pluck, they don't know how to do any of these things. And so we really are doing our children at the service by not upskilling them with life skills. And this is the easiest place to start is at home, in the family, because family is your team, and within the we of family, within the of the family team, your children will discover the me So it's important for children to be involved in groups, to be socialized, and that is one of the big advantages of sending children to school, of course, because as they are part of a crowd at home, it's too easy to be one on one. But in real life it's not a one on one situation. We will be part of teams, we won't be part of you know, a bit a larger number. Your children need to learn how to survive any groups, how to float to the top, how to contribute, how to crow out a niche for themselves within a group. So family is the first team. It's very, very vital that children learn how to be a contributing member of the family group, and then a contributing member of their class group, and then any extremeal activities that they may do.
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Speaker 2: And so it sounds as though, you know, you mentioned that it's quite important to do teamwork or we're involved in teams because it teaches you how to socialize, You learn how to be with other people, consider other people. And so it sounds as though teamwork and being part of a team also is a great opportunity to teach kids about empathy, about consideration about Yes, you are you, You are very important to yourself, but you are not the only person to think about consider your actions or your words in relation to other people, how you show up in different circumstances. So a great way to teach kids to start thinking about other people other than themselves.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, empathy is such a huge thing. Human connection is a huge thing, and The other thing that you know being in a group, Participating in a group teaches children is that they also have the ability to help each other. So if one person is struggling with something and you know how to do it better, you can teach them. So peer to peer learning social learning is a very big part of child development and learning. And I see this in the corporate environment as well. I do a lot of process work in my facilitation workshops, and there's often one or two people on a table of eight or ten but don't quite get it, don't quite get the instruction, or can't quite solve the problem. And when you look at it a table, always say, you know, you can help each other. And as soon as I give permission for people to help each other, we create common ground, we create connection, we create support, And in this way you also learn how not to duplicate efforts. You know, so often we need to save time, we need to upscale people quickly, and if we can do it by helping another and teaching another, then we don't have to duplicate, we don't have to waste time. And I love, I love watching it when people get that concept. And there's a lot you know, in any kind of situation where you can create ways of work processes at work, you work out the most efficient way to do something and then nobody has to reinvent the wheel. So this is all part of being a part of a team is that you don't all have to learn everything from scratch. You can each be given some part of a challenge or a task and you can each go and and learn how to do that part or execute that part well based on your skills. So that's part of teamwork, is discovering who is good at what and then diving divving up the task according to the skills in the team, and that's very important for efficiency and effectiveness. And that's what we're after when we're part of a team is delivery. And at the end of the day, when you're in the world of work, you're going to be paid for delivery. The team will be paid for delivering project on time according to the agreed scope of work. And so when kits are part of teams, whether they are sports teams or whether they're part of the project team at school, this is just practice for the real world.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you mentioned that. One of the other things that's quite important is getting involved in sort of extramural activities like theater plays, and often with things like you know, theater plays or that kind of thing, people think they are more important roles than the others. So if you are the lead, you might think, well, that's more important than me who's doing kind of the lights or doing the sound or doing the costumes backstage. But that also kind of teaches you when you're involved in a production, whether there's a small role or a big role, you learn that all of those roles, like you were saying, are quite crucial. The play can't happen without the person doing lights, The play can't have without the person you know, turning the page for you know, the piano player, whatever is. All of those roles big and small are quite important. And that feels also like a really great lesson for kids to learn that you can make a really great contribution regardless of what role you have, whether it is a big one or a small one, whether it is you know, a senior or a junior level, you can make a difference in your contributions.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the word that comes to mind when you say that is interdependence. And you don't need to learn that interdependence is a concept. You can't be the star of the show if the lights don't work. I mean it's as simple as that. If the focus of you know, somebody, if you're doing laughing, is not pointing the light at the person who's busy doing a dialogue on the stage, nobody can see that person. So it's so important that children learn that the contribution that they can help other people shine as well. And sometimes it's really good for a child who is, say a first team rugby player, to be the sound manager or the lighting manager in a production where they're not front and center. Then they learn that even though they're not the one standing, you know, on the front of the stage being looked up as the star of the show, that their role is critical. And you also see this, say you watch your rugby match, the person who actually scores to try. Sometimes you get a runaway try, but often it's the build up where you have eight or ten players passing to each other that gets the person who gets the ball over the tryline to their place. And I think Russia Erasmus has given us that big window into what teamwork looks like by what he's done with the spring box. So there's lots he can teach our children not just by their own experience, but by watching something like rugby on television or soccer on television and talking about the setup, the moves where it's not just one person who runs from one end of the field to the other to score the goal. And then look at techs of top tennis players when they've won the trophy, you know, open, whatever it is, they always thank their team, and their team consists of physiotherapists and fitness therapists and fitness coaches and uh, you know, different kinds approaches for different kinds of strokes and family members. It takes a village to raise a child. It also takes the team to be successful. And so that interdependence is almost hunter to what we've been talking about in society and seeing in society for the last few years of becoming as independent as possible, not needing anybody, and that actually is counterintuitive to being human. We actually do exist in groups. We don't survive and we don't thrive in a vacuum.
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Speaker 2: It also sounds that teamwork is also a great way for kids to start learning conflict resolution because like in any teams where it is a family, a friend, group, a sports team, the theater cast, the play cast. There will be disagreements, we won't have the same outlook, we'll have a difference of opinion. But part of being in a team is also figuring out, well, we don't and so how do we resolve this amicably? But also how do you manage your feelings if there is conflict or something that makes you unhappy in a group, which is also such a vital life skill for children and adults.
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Speaker 1: Conflict resolution, yeah, self regulation.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: And so if you are then a parent that's looking to start your kids learning how to be part of a team or be a better team member, where do you begin?
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Speaker 1: So I would suggest that people get a hold of future Proof your Child for betweeny twenties and beyond, where we talk about the.
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Speaker 3: X fact Yes, yes, many.
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Speaker 2: Xy Oh sorry, Nick, you were really struggling with your line there. Yeah, it's not helping us.
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Speaker 1: Sorry.
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Speaker 2: So you were saying a great way to start as your future with your children. And there's a bit in that book about your child's X factor or helping your child find the X factor.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's an entire section on the X factors for success and that includes what we're talking about. Today. It includes curiosity, it includes communication skills, it includes being good with technology. There's so many X factors for success that can help your child to succeed in the future that are way beyond being the star of the show. So there's X factors of things that really will get them the job. Won't just open the door, but we'll keep them in the job in the future. So so get hold of future Proof your child. You can get it at Nikkybush dot com and at good bookstores and just really celebrate family. There's so much you can teach your children by being an exer contributing member of your family.
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Speaker 2: NICKI, thank you very much for your time this morning. Is always a great pleasure to have you on the show.
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Speaker 1: Thanks a great weekend.
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