ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Contempt doesn't start with violence. It starts with a comment about your skin, a look, a tone you're told to ignore. By the time it escalates, most people have spent years telling themselves it wasn't a big deal.
In this episode, family law attorney Diana Romanov joins Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker to talk about the manipulation patterns she sees every day in high-conflict divorce, custody, and domestic violence cases, and what she wishes every client understood before they ever hired a lawyer.
What we cover:
- Why contempt is the precursor to domestic violence, and how to recognize it before it escalates
- How manipulation shows up in divorce, co-parenting, and custody disputes
- The "fish in water" problem: why it can take 10, 20, even 40 years to see the pattern you're living in
- Why gray rocking is a technique, not a strategy, and what to use instead
- How to tell when you're actually winning against a manipulator (hint: it doesn't feel like winning)
- Real client examples of using shame, boundaries, and a manipulator's own words against them
About our guest:
Diana Romanov Esq., CFLS is a family law attorney based in the San Francisco Bay Area, practicing family law, prenuptial agreements, and high-conflict custody cases.
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https://romanovlaw.com
Outwitting the Manipulator is hosted by communication coach Robin Golinski and Dr. Dennis Becker. You can't change the manipulator, but you can change the outcome.
Get the book: http://mybook.to/outwitthemanipulator Visti us at https://outwitinrealtime.com
