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Welcome to the Optimizing Beyond podcast. I'm
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Josh Negron, and this show's all about sharing
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lessons, ideas, and strategies that sharpen your
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thinking, strengthen your habits, and push you
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to grow beyond comfort zones. Let's dive in.
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Do you ever feel like you're one decision away
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from changing your life, but aren't sure which
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way to turn? Today, we're breaking down the secret
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formula that so many top -level achievers use
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to untie their knots and activate crazy momentum.
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We're diving into Danelle Delgado's four Gs.
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Gratitude, why you need exactly 10 specific items
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every day. Goals, the simple three -goal method
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that stops overcomplicating goal setting. Growth,
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how to turn learning and growth into action with
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daily training sessions. And finally, grace,
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the antidote to pain that stops your past from
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slowing your progress. It may sound simple, but
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this daily practice will change your life. If
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you're ready to go all in on your potential,
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let's get started. This is starting year five
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of me doing this practice, using Donnell's four
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Gs, because I genuinely think that they've had
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such a tremendous impact in my life. I wanna
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take a deep dive into why these four are so transformative,
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starting with what I think is the core, gratitude.
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Now, let me preface this with saying that If
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you already have some of these habits, then this
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might offer you some additional tips or tricks
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or maybe some tweaks that you can use to make
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the habit better for you. If you're starting
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on the ground floor and you've never done any
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of these or you've only done them inconsistently,
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then we're gonna cover multiple arrays that you
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can apply to cement them as daily habits that
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you can grow, tweak, and change over time. The
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first one's pretty simple, gratitudes. Write
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down 10 things you're grateful for every day
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and watch them stack up. A lot of people oversimplify
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this because they think they're always going
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to write down the same exact things every day.
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You know, for example, my wife, my kids, my dog,
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my house. And those things are great to be thankful
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for. Don't get me wrong. My advice is to keep
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it fresh by... writing the things that you're
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grateful for that happened in the last 24 hours.
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Some people like to do gratitudes in the morning
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so they can start their day right. Other people
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like to do them in the evening so they can reflect
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on their previous day. I do them in the morning.
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My wife does them in the evening typically. And
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so it just depends on how you want to do it.
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Now, if you're going to be doing them in the
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morning, I do recommend Glenn Lundy's advice
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of doing them first thing before you even pick
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up your phone. Because believe it or not, sometimes
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if I go too long into the day, I start having
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difficulty remembering the previous day and the
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specifics of the things that I want to be grateful
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for. So it always does me best to do them first
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thing in the morning before I have any additional
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information flooding into my brain from social
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media, from texts, emails, or anything like that.
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So by reflecting back on the previous 24 hours,
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that gives you a little bit more nuance into
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not writing things that are extremely repetitive
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that will potentially dilute the effect. of the
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practice itself. Now, like we talk about often
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on this channel, reps are important. So I'd rather
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you just get started, look at the last 24 hours,
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and just write down 10 things. If you're looking
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to ramp that up into being more specific, there
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are some additional things that you can do to
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kind of focus in what to maximize this habit
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even more. The first one is detail. The more
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you can write, the more you can reflect and the
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more you can grow. In fact, Michael Cirillo,
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when he was talking about gratitudes, is he loves
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to put reasons in his gratitudes. So for example,
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if he says, I'm grateful for a conversation I
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had yesterday with someone, he'll often write
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a because as a part of the gratitude as well,
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because that helps him connect the emotion and
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how he felt to the thing he's grateful for, because
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it made me feel seen or understood or heard,
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whatever. So the thing you're grateful for. and
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then the reason why. That why is really a powerful
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thing if you reflect on it 10 times a day every
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single day. Additionally, I believe that a detailed
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gratitude is going to be way more powerful than
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a super generic one. My house. Why your house?
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What are you grateful for in your house? Or maybe
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you write down your spouse. Why your spouse today?
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Did they do anything specific? Did they make
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you feel great today? What did they do? Why did
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they do it? How did it make you feel? So just
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ask some simple questions on the things that
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pop up in your mind, and then write them down
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in a little bit more detail. Now, we all have
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days that aren't ideal. So if you're one of those
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that's like, well, I never claim a bad day, well,
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good for you. But you're going to have days that
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aren't ideal, right? So because of that, what
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do you do when you have a rough day? Well, this
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is exactly what gratitudes are meant for. So
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this is going to be a thing that, especially
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initially, is going to stretch you beyond what
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you're used to because I don't think humans are
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naturally wired to be grateful when things aren't
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great. So when you have a rough day, it's even
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more critical to find things that you're grateful
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for. And over time, that will start to transform
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your mind and reframe even the worst day as a
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day that can stretch and grow you and make you
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better, essentially unlocking the lessons of
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that day. sometimes even helping you not repeat
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them depending on how much control you have over
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the things that happened that day. Either way,
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it's a great reflection tool. Now, Danelle has
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some tips and tricks of her own that she's said
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to us over the years, and these can get a little
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intense. So for example, if you're someone that
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has some areas of challenge with the way you
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view yourself, maybe having grace for yourself,
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maybe thinking you're less than or you're not
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good enough or any of those things that are pretty
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common with insecurity and battling with one's
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past. then you might not think super highly of
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yourself. In which case, she would encourage
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you every single day for 30 days to write down
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10 things you're grateful for about yourself,
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like attributes, physical, mental, ability. And
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here's the kicker. You can't repeat yourself
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in those entire 30 days. It's brutal, but so
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rewarding. What are you grateful for about yourself?
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What are your gifts? What are your talents? What
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are you good at? and how can you use those to
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help others, it can really be a powerful tool
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to reframe how you see yourself and maybe allow
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you to see yourself how others do, especially
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the ones you love and trust. And if you're a
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person of faith, maybe how God sees you. And
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just how powerful that is, it can also be super
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powerful when you feel stuck with somebody else.
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If you're currently at odds with somebody, very
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powerful thing you can do is write down 10 things
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in the next moment you can. of why you're grateful
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for them. And I would argue it's probably a great
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thing to do because it's absolutely the last
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thing you want to do. And because of that, you
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should do it. And like we said earlier, reps
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are the key. So James Clear talks about in his
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book, Atomic Habits, that reps are even more
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critical than daily. So because of that, Danelle
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has told us, if you have an absolutely wrecked
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day, write down 100 gratitudes. That is absolutely
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intense. But if you want an extreme level up,
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go for it. And let me know how it goes. I think
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this is the first step in the four G's because
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it is the single most transformative one, in
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my opinion, especially if you do it daily, especially
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if you do it over years. It can really reframe
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how you approach things, circumstances, people,
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and challenges. And over time, you can help others
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who feel stuck and bring them alongside with
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you. The second G is goals. Now, if you're anything
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like me, as a recovering perfectionist, I didn't
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write down goals for most of my life. And I think
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there were a couple things tied to that. Fear
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of failure was definitely one of them. If it
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wasn't written down, you can't fail it, right?
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If you don't commit to it, then it doesn't matter.
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But also, I was scared of setting especially
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time boundaries. They'll tell you smart goals
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are ones that have an expiration date. You have
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to accomplish said goal by what date and time.
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And I don't know why, but that always just freaked
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me out. But I can tell you, five years ago I
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started this, and I am so thankful that I did.
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Now, so many people, when they start this out,
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really overcomplicate it. Like, what should my
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goal be? Like, what's my aspiration? Like, I
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don't want to think too far ahead and then get
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stuck or not see what I should have known before
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or whatever. Sometimes thinking that far ahead
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scares people. Then other people don't want to
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write things that seem super silly. They're like,
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well, I feel like if I'm going to write down
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only three, like they have to be ambitious and
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intense and very forward thinking. And they discount
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anything that might be a daily goal. And I think
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that's a mistake. You have flexibility here.
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You can certainly write down something that is
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ambitious and maybe a little long -term thinking.
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And you can absolutely write down something that
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is very short -term. So for example. We're still
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in February, almost at the beginning of the year,
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so you may have a fitness or a weight goal by
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the end of the year. You want to lose X pounds.
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That's a pretty far -thinking goal, but by that
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very same token, you could also have a goal that
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you want to complete for a single day. And then
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moving on, you want to do it for a week. Maybe
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you want to do it for a month. Depending on where
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you're at and what you need to do, it's completely
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acceptable to have goals like that. I always
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like to say that it also depends on your mental
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situation. For example, a therapist for somebody
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in deep deep depression, is going to have them
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start with extremely small goals. Their mental
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state is typically pretty fragile, and failure
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can be something that causes someone to spiral
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even further. Therapists know this, so they set
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really, really small goals. Like, hey, today
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I want you to change out of your pajamas. So
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for example, they might set goals for a particular
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week. Say, hey, next time we meet, I want you
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to have accomplished all three of these. One
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day, you need to change out of your pajamas and
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just get dressed for the day. Another day, I
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want you to go to the store. You don't even have
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to buy anything. Just get out and about, get
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some sunshine, get some movement. And then finally,
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send one encouraging text to someone you love
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and see how that goes. These are goals that are
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very specific to that individual in that state
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that they're in. So have some wisdom, look at
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yourself and reflect where you are in life, where
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you are mentally. and what might be the best
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thing for you from a goal -setting perspective.
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Remember, you're starting this out. If you're
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starting this out fresh, you don't have to start
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with home runs. Just start getting some reps.
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In Danell's goal setting, you will notice that
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there are specific headers in the goals. There's
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going to be why, when, who, sacrifice, result,
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and reward. Now let's run through those. Now
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why is going to be your motivation. Why are you
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doing this to begin with? So for example, fitness
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goal, it's easy. I wanna lose weight, I wanna
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feel better, I wanna move better, whatever. My
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health, my kids, being around longer, being around
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for my daughter's wedding, whatever that reason
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is. The more you can tie it into something specific,
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something that pulls on your heart, obviously,
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the more motivated you would be to accomplish
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that goal. The second one is a dreaded one. This
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one was the one that, again, kept me from writing
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down goals, and it's the when. You gotta have
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a deadline. When are you gonna accomplish this
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by? Now, one of Donnell's principles is assets
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always adjust. So listen, this isn't set in stone
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and concrete, okay? So if you decide to set a
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quarterly goal and you get a month in and realize,
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hmm, I greatly misjudged this. Sometimes you'll
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misjudge it in the other way where you're like,
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man, I'm over halfway there and it's only been
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a month. Maybe I need to reevaluate this. And
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sometimes it'll be the opposite. So just because
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you set a date doesn't mean you can never change
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it, and if you change it, it's failure. That's
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dumb. So have enough grace for yourself to understand
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that changing the deadline isn't Armageddon,
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but you do need to write a date when you plan
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on accomplishing this. Now, who is identifying
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the key players for you accomplishing this goal?
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Who can help you? Who do you need to rely on
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to accomplish this goal? So for a fitness goal,
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it's going to be obviously you, maybe your trainer,
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maybe your family, in supporting you or maybe
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even going with you. If you have nutrition goals,
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sometimes your family needs to be somewhat on
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board with those goals so that maybe you don't
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have that kind of tempting food in the house,
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right? And next is sacrifice. We all have the
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same 24 hours in a day and there's so many things
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biting for our time and empty space gets so easily
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filled by entertainment, our smartphones, and
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things like that. So you have to be willing to
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recognize what you're willing to give up. and
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not give up to get to your goal. So this might
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mean knowing what you're going to say no to during
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this time so that you can accomplish this goal.
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And identify your non -negotiables. No, I will
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not bend or sacrifice this. Something for me
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was that I hit a period where I was trying to
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accomplish so much, I was willing to sacrifice
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sleep to get things done. Long term, that's obviously
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not a great idea for optimizing your health.
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And I had some health issues because of it. So
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that made me realize there's definitely things
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that you can sacrifice to get to a goal and to
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accomplish something you want to do. But there
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are definitely some things that you shouldn't
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give up. So you got to know what those are. And
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if you write them down every day, you're not
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going to forget. Now, the last one is lumped
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together. It's result and reward. Unfortunately,
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a lot of people get these two confused because
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they think they're the same thing. So for example,
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a lot of people will write under result and reward
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for a fitness goal. They might write down, well,
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I lost the weight. Well, that's great. But a
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result and a reward aren't the same thing. The
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result is what you gain from achieving the goal,
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which is going to be you lost the weight, you're
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fitter now, you gain knowledge from reading a
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certain number of books that you targeted, learning
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a new skill, learning a new language, whatever.
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And while those things might be rewarding, that's
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not the point of the reward. The point of the
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reward is to play on a little bit of the brain
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science behind achieving a goal, chasing after
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something, and achieving the goal. There's dopamine
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circuits that you activate in the chase and ultimately
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in the accomplishment. And the reward is a huge
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part of that. So you want to start practicing
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now, recognizing what you're going to reward
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yourself with when you accomplish whatever it
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is. Now, granted, only you can determine what
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is appropriate for you. and what is a proportional
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reward for a particular goal. If waking up and
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brushing your teeth is your goal, no judgment,
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the reward being a Rolex Submariner probably
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isn't the right proportional choice, you know?
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But if you have a crazy goal that you've written
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down for a long period of time that has a tremendous
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amount of meaning, then a really significant
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reward like a vacation is totally acceptable.
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This is also an area where you can get your family,
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friends, and loved ones involved as well. particularly
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if maybe they could play a part in the reward.
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Danelle talks about this often. She'll get her
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kids involved in saying, hey, if I accomplish
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this goal, we're going to take this vacation
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to this place. Naturally, they get all excited
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and then they're interested. They're always asking,
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hey, how many more deals have you closed? How
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close are we? What's the number? Are we on pace?
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Those kinds of things. It's really exciting to
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get your entire family involved. So I highly
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recommend that you do that. And what you'll notice
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is the more you follow through with rewarding
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yourself for accomplishing goals, the more excited
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you'll be to continue this habit. It's an extremely
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powerful thing. And I'll tell you from personal
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experience, I've not always rewarded myself,
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and it's a type of cheapening and can even be
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a lack of integrity with yourself. I had someone
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call me out on that once. I kept moving the goalposts
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for myself on a reward, a goal and a reward,
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and someone said, man, you value integrity quite
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a bit, but it's weird that you keep lying to
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yourself. And I was like, all right, I gotcha.
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So be mindful of that. Don't cheapen yourself.
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If it's something that you need to do anyway
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and you maybe feel like, well, I need to do this
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goal and maybe there's even a degree of self
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-punishment involved with trying to achieve the
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goal. I've seen that happen sometimes and people
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are like, you know, I don't feel right about
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rewarding myself because this should just be
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what I should do anyway. Well, then maybe you
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need to rethink that goal. I'm also not a huge
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fan of the negative emotion swirling around there.
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So you need to kind of do a little self -assessment
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there. And I think you also need to get over
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yourself and set that reward. Whatever it might
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be, whatever's proportional to it, you probably
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need to do it. Let's just go ahead and do it.
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And the third one is growth. Simply put, this
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is 30 minutes a day, at least, of some kind of
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learning. This can be reading, podcasting, videos,
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even chatting with AI on a particular skill and
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something you want to get better at. Honestly,
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when you get in the habit of this one, it can
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be one of my favorites. And it changes for me.
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There was one year where I wanted to get through
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as many books as possible. So I asked a bunch
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of people that I knew. I made social media posts
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of like, hey, what have been the top three most
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impactful books in your life? And people just
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flooded in with their answers. This was at the
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beginning of a year. I just bought all of them
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on Audible and just went to town. I think that
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year I read 20 to 25 books and it was a super
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powerful year. Since then, I've done things like
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courses in Peterson Academy, learning new skills,
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and finding a bunch of ways to grow. And honestly,
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podcasts and YouTubing are two of my favorite
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things. But what I love about this is that's
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not where it stops. In fact, you have to identify
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one thing from that session that you're going
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to implement moving forward. And what's great
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about that is it takes the things that you learned
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and allows you to identify how you can leverage
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that in the future. And all of this plugs into
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the daily anything changes everything because
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if you're growing every single day and finding
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one thing to implement from that growth, then
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by the end of the year, can you imagine how different
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you might be? So this one gives you some creative
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license. What's something that you've been wanting
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to learn about but just haven't had the time?
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Well, this habit cements you having to find 30
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minutes at least to dedicate to that one thing.
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And like Glenn Lundy said a couple episodes ago,
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scientists have discovered that if you commit
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yourself to one thing for 17 minutes a day, every
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single day for 365 days, you will be better than
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95 % of the people in the world. Remember, that's
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8 billion people. You'll be better than 95 %
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of people. That's still a lot of people in that
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5%. But that's still pretty significant statistic.
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You're not going to be world elite, but that's
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okay. If you practice piano for 17 minutes every
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day for a year, you're not going to be in a symphony
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orchestra, but that skill is probably going to
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be pretty impressive. So let's do it. 30 minutes
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of growth every single day and watch and see
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what can happen. The fourth one is grace. Now,
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this is identifying one pain point, which can
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be something like a mistake, a hurt, a frustration,
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releasing it and writing it off. It's a way of
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using forgiveness as an antidote every single
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day. Now, for me personally, there's two ways
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I like to frame this step, and I like to look
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at it from the past or the future. I'll explain
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what I mean. So for the past, it's easy. It's
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what most people would associate with something
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like grace and forgiveness. What's something
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in the past that is affecting you in the present
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that you need to release, that you need to forgive?
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Now, a couple notes on this. This is obviously
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a difficult thing for people because they feel
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like if they forgive, they forget. And some things
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you just can't forget. Now, I don't think forgiveness
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is forgetting, but we might need to get into
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that in another episode. But from a top overview,
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We do know that if we hang on to bitterness against
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someone else, it's equivalent to drinking poison
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to try to hurt them. It is not a long -term strategy
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for mental health. I don't think anyone would
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dispute that. But in practice, it's harder to
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do for sure. And because of that, I think daily
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focus in this area is super critical. So for
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me, I reflect back. You know, what's something
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in the last 24 hours or in this week, or if you've
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never done the practice, it might be going back
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years or maybe even decades. What is something
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that keeps nagging at you that would benefit
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you to release? So that would involve putting
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people's names down. If you're really hard on
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yourself, maybe putting your name down. Again,
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recovering perfectionists, I had to put my name
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down quite a bit. And when you do that, you are
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releasing that. You are giving that person grace,
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which you may not be ready for, but that's what
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we're trying to get to. And when you get in the
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habit of doing this every single day, maybe...
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you're not ready to write down a name that continually
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pops up in your mind. That's fine. I get it.
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But the hope is someday you'll be ready to put
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that on the altar of that line and actually write
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down their name. The final detail about looking
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back in forgiveness is that it can be a cycle.
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I say a lot of times that forgiveness is similar
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to grief. It comes in waves. And so have some
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grace with yourself. And I've heard people say,
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man, I thought I released that. And it's just
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come back. Yeah, for sure. Just release it again.
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It's no big deal. Don't be hard on yourself,
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especially depending on the severity of the situation
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and what it was and what you're trying to release.
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It could take some serious time to get in that
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habit and to truly free yourself from the grasp
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of that situation. Now, I said I also sometimes
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focus on the future. Now, this one I always kind
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of joke about, but it can be something that can
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be really transformative for you as well. So,
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for example, if I know I'm going to spend the
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entire day with my wonderful wife, I might choose
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to write her name down for grace. Why? Am I saying
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that she's that hard to be around? No. However,
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being in close proximity to somebody for 8 to
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12 hours increases the chances that that person
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might frustrate you, get on your nerves, or whatever.
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And so sometimes I will preemptively write her
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name down because that proximity might require
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me to have some additional grace for her. Not
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because she's a basket case, but because I need
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that grace. And I can tell you, I have loved
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it because it reframes my mind from the beginning
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of the day of having grace for my wife from the
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start. And combined with all the other habits
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we've talked about of using the law of positive
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intent, it can turn what could have been an average
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day to an incredible day. Wraps up all four Gs.
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Now you can certainly do this on a blank piece
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of paper, in a notebook, every single day, in
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an iPad if you're into that kind of thing. Yet
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out of respect for Danelle, I also tell you she
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has a journal. It's about an inch thick, has
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pages for every single day of the year. and that
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journal is a handwritten one on purpose. There's
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a lot of neurological evidence to prove that
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writing things down on pen and paper activates
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different parts of your brain than typing and
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can have a significant impact on how something
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like this, a practice like this, like journaling,
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can affect your growth and optimize that into
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the future. If you're going to do something,
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you kind of want it to have the maximum impact,
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right? You're like, if I'm spending the time
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to do it, I want it to be as effective as possible,
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right? If you're going to invest money into a
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stock, you'd like it to go not just kind of high,
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not just mildly up. You want it to go to the
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moon, right? Well, the same thing with this.
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Why would you do a habit to only get half the
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benefit? If you're into typing, I get it. So
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am I. I'm a techie guy. However, I've handwritten
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this either in pen and paper or on an iPad with
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an Apple Pencil. So she sells the journals. They're
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mostly blank structure. There's not a lot of
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reading or anything like that. There's just blanks
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with simple prompts that you just fill in every
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single day. Super, super powerful. I'll link
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those in the description for you if you want
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to pick one up. But I just love how powerful
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and transformative these four habits have been
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in my life. And I wanted to go into a little
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bit more depth to explain why, some of the tips
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and tricks on how, and hope it can be a blessing
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for you as it has been for me. And what I love
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more than anything is people in my life that
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I care about have seen this bless me over the
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last five years and have jumped on board, including
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my wife, other people really close to me, and
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even my colleagues and employees, and some people
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I don't even know really well, and so many others.
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So if you're looking for a way to optimize your
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mind, do this for a year and tell me how you
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feel. Thanks for listening to the Optimizing
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Beyond podcast. Remember, growth happens when
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forward because daily anything changes everything.
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Welcome to the Optimizing Beyond podcast. I'm
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Josh Negron, and this show's all about sharing
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lessons, ideas, and strategies that sharpen your
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thinking, strengthen your habits, and push you
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to grow beyond comfort zones. Let's dive in.
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Do you ever feel like you're one decision away
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from changing your life, but aren't sure which
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way to turn? Today, we're breaking down the secret
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formula that so many top -level achievers use
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to untie their knots and activate crazy momentum.
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We're diving into Danelle Delgado's four Gs.
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Gratitude, why you need exactly 10 specific items
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every day. Goals, the simple three -goal method
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that stops overcomplicating goal setting. Growth,
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how to turn learning and growth into action with
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daily training sessions. And finally, grace,
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the antidote to pain that stops your past from
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slowing your progress. It may sound simple, but
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this daily practice will change your life. If
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you're ready to go all in on your potential,
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let's get started. This is starting year five
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of me doing this practice, using Donnell's four
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Gs, because I genuinely think that they've had
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such a tremendous impact in my life. I wanna
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take a deep dive into why these four are so transformative,
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starting with what I think is the core, gratitude.
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Now, let me preface this with saying that If
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you already have some of these habits, then this
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might offer you some additional tips or tricks
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or maybe some tweaks that you can use to make
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the habit better for you. If you're starting
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on the ground floor and you've never done any
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of these or you've only done them inconsistently,
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then we're gonna cover multiple arrays that you
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can apply to cement them as daily habits that
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you can grow, tweak, and change over time. The
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first one's pretty simple, gratitudes. Write
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down 10 things you're grateful for every day
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and watch them stack up. A lot of people oversimplify
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this because they think they're always going
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to write down the same exact things every day.
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You know, for example, my wife, my kids, my dog,
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my house. And those things are great to be thankful
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for. Don't get me wrong. My advice is to keep
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it fresh by... writing the things that you're
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grateful for that happened in the last 24 hours.
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Some people like to do gratitudes in the morning
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so they can start their day right. Other people
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like to do them in the evening so they can reflect
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on their previous day. I do them in the morning.
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My wife does them in the evening typically. And
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so it just depends on how you want to do it.
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Now, if you're going to be doing them in the
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morning, I do recommend Glenn Lundy's advice
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of doing them first thing before you even pick
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up your phone. Because believe it or not, sometimes
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if I go too long into the day, I start having
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difficulty remembering the previous day and the
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specifics of the things that I want to be grateful
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for. So it always does me best to do them first
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thing in the morning before I have any additional
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information flooding into my brain from social
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media, from texts, emails, or anything like that.
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So by reflecting back on the previous 24 hours,
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that gives you a little bit more nuance into
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not writing things that are extremely repetitive
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that will potentially dilute the effect. of the
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practice itself. Now, like we talk about often
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on this channel, reps are important. So I'd rather
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you just get started, look at the last 24 hours,
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and just write down 10 things. If you're looking
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to ramp that up into being more specific, there
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are some additional things that you can do to
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kind of focus in what to maximize this habit
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even more. The first one is detail. The more
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you can write, the more you can reflect and the
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more you can grow. In fact, Michael Cirillo,
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when he was talking about gratitudes, is he loves
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to put reasons in his gratitudes. So for example,
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if he says, I'm grateful for a conversation I
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had yesterday with someone, he'll often write
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a because as a part of the gratitude as well,
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because that helps him connect the emotion and
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how he felt to the thing he's grateful for, because
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it made me feel seen or understood or heard,
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whatever. So the thing you're grateful for. and
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then the reason why. That why is really a powerful
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thing if you reflect on it 10 times a day every
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single day. Additionally, I believe that a detailed
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gratitude is going to be way more powerful than
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a super generic one. My house. Why your house?
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What are you grateful for in your house? Or maybe
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you write down your spouse. Why your spouse today?
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Did they do anything specific? Did they make
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you feel great today? What did they do? Why did
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they do it? How did it make you feel? So just
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ask some simple questions on the things that
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pop up in your mind, and then write them down
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in a little bit more detail. Now, we all have
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days that aren't ideal. So if you're one of those
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that's like, well, I never claim a bad day, well,
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good for you. But you're going to have days that
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aren't ideal, right? So because of that, what
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do you do when you have a rough day? Well, this
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is exactly what gratitudes are meant for. So
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this is going to be a thing that, especially
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initially, is going to stretch you beyond what
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you're used to because I don't think humans are
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naturally wired to be grateful when things aren't
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great. So when you have a rough day, it's even
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more critical to find things that you're grateful
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for. And over time, that will start to transform
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your mind and reframe even the worst day as a
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day that can stretch and grow you and make you
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better, essentially unlocking the lessons of
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that day. sometimes even helping you not repeat
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them depending on how much control you have over
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the things that happened that day. Either way,
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it's a great reflection tool. Now, Danelle has
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some tips and tricks of her own that she's said
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to us over the years, and these can get a little
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intense. So for example, if you're someone that
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has some areas of challenge with the way you
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view yourself, maybe having grace for yourself,
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maybe thinking you're less than or you're not
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good enough or any of those things that are pretty
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common with insecurity and battling with one's
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past. then you might not think super highly of
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yourself. In which case, she would encourage
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you every single day for 30 days to write down
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10 things you're grateful for about yourself,
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like attributes, physical, mental, ability. And
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here's the kicker. You can't repeat yourself
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in those entire 30 days. It's brutal, but so
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rewarding. What are you grateful for about yourself?
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What are your gifts? What are your talents? What
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are you good at? and how can you use those to
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help others, it can really be a powerful tool
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to reframe how you see yourself and maybe allow
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you to see yourself how others do, especially
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the ones you love and trust. And if you're a
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person of faith, maybe how God sees you. And
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just how powerful that is, it can also be super
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powerful when you feel stuck with somebody else.
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If you're currently at odds with somebody, very
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powerful thing you can do is write down 10 things
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in the next moment you can. of why you're grateful
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for them. And I would argue it's probably a great
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thing to do because it's absolutely the last
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thing you want to do. And because of that, you
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should do it. And like we said earlier, reps
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are the key. So James Clear talks about in his
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book, Atomic Habits, that reps are even more
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critical than daily. So because of that, Danelle
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has told us, if you have an absolutely wrecked
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day, write down 100 gratitudes. That is absolutely
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intense. But if you want an extreme level up,
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go for it. And let me know how it goes. I think
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this is the first step in the four G's because
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it is the single most transformative one, in
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my opinion, especially if you do it daily, especially
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if you do it over years. It can really reframe
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how you approach things, circumstances, people,
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and challenges. And over time, you can help others
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who feel stuck and bring them alongside with
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you. The second G is goals. Now, if you're anything
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like me, as a recovering perfectionist, I didn't
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write down goals for most of my life. And I think
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there were a couple things tied to that. Fear
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of failure was definitely one of them. If it
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wasn't written down, you can't fail it, right?
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If you don't commit to it, then it doesn't matter.
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But also, I was scared of setting especially
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time boundaries. They'll tell you smart goals
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are ones that have an expiration date. You have
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to accomplish said goal by what date and time.
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And I don't know why, but that always just freaked
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me out. But I can tell you, five years ago I
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started this, and I am so thankful that I did.
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Now, so many people, when they start this out,
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really overcomplicate it. Like, what should my
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goal be? Like, what's my aspiration? Like, I
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don't want to think too far ahead and then get
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stuck or not see what I should have known before
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or whatever. Sometimes thinking that far ahead
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scares people. Then other people don't want to
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write things that seem super silly. They're like,
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well, I feel like if I'm going to write down
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only three, like they have to be ambitious and
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intense and very forward thinking. And they discount
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anything that might be a daily goal. And I think
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that's a mistake. You have flexibility here.
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You can certainly write down something that is
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ambitious and maybe a little long -term thinking.
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And you can absolutely write down something that
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is very short -term. So for example. We're still
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in February, almost at the beginning of the year,
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so you may have a fitness or a weight goal by
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the end of the year. You want to lose X pounds.
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That's a pretty far -thinking goal, but by that
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very same token, you could also have a goal that
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you want to complete for a single day. And then
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moving on, you want to do it for a week. Maybe
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you want to do it for a month. Depending on where
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you're at and what you need to do, it's completely
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acceptable to have goals like that. I always
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like to say that it also depends on your mental
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situation. For example, a therapist for somebody
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in deep deep depression, is going to have them
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start with extremely small goals. Their mental
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state is typically pretty fragile, and failure
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can be something that causes someone to spiral
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even further. Therapists know this, so they set
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really, really small goals. Like, hey, today
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I want you to change out of your pajamas. So
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for example, they might set goals for a particular
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week. Say, hey, next time we meet, I want you
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to have accomplished all three of these. One
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day, you need to change out of your pajamas and
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just get dressed for the day. Another day, I
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want you to go to the store. You don't even have
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to buy anything. Just get out and about, get
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some sunshine, get some movement. And then finally,
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send one encouraging text to someone you love
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and see how that goes. These are goals that are
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very specific to that individual in that state
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that they're in. So have some wisdom, look at
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yourself and reflect where you are in life, where
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you are mentally. and what might be the best
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thing for you from a goal -setting perspective.
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Remember, you're starting this out. If you're
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starting this out fresh, you don't have to start
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with home runs. Just start getting some reps.
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In Danell's goal setting, you will notice that
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there are specific headers in the goals. There's
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going to be why, when, who, sacrifice, result,
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and reward. Now let's run through those. Now
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why is going to be your motivation. Why are you
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doing this to begin with? So for example, fitness
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goal, it's easy. I wanna lose weight, I wanna
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feel better, I wanna move better, whatever. My
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health, my kids, being around longer, being around
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for my daughter's wedding, whatever that reason
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is. The more you can tie it into something specific,
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something that pulls on your heart, obviously,
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the more motivated you would be to accomplish
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that goal. The second one is a dreaded one. This
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one was the one that, again, kept me from writing
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down goals, and it's the when. You gotta have
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a deadline. When are you gonna accomplish this
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by? Now, one of Donnell's principles is assets
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always adjust. So listen, this isn't set in stone
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and concrete, okay? So if you decide to set a
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quarterly goal and you get a month in and realize,
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hmm, I greatly misjudged this. Sometimes you'll
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misjudge it in the other way where you're like,
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man, I'm over halfway there and it's only been
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a month. Maybe I need to reevaluate this. And
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sometimes it'll be the opposite. So just because
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you set a date doesn't mean you can never change
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it, and if you change it, it's failure. That's
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dumb. So have enough grace for yourself to understand
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that changing the deadline isn't Armageddon,
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but you do need to write a date when you plan
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on accomplishing this. Now, who is identifying
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the key players for you accomplishing this goal?
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Who can help you? Who do you need to rely on
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to accomplish this goal? So for a fitness goal,
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it's going to be obviously you, maybe your trainer,
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maybe your family, in supporting you or maybe
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even going with you. If you have nutrition goals,
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sometimes your family needs to be somewhat on
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board with those goals so that maybe you don't
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have that kind of tempting food in the house,
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right? And next is sacrifice. We all have the
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same 24 hours in a day and there's so many things
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biting for our time and empty space gets so easily
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filled by entertainment, our smartphones, and
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things like that. So you have to be willing to
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recognize what you're willing to give up. and
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not give up to get to your goal. So this might
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mean knowing what you're going to say no to during
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this time so that you can accomplish this goal.
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And identify your non -negotiables. No, I will
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not bend or sacrifice this. Something for me
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was that I hit a period where I was trying to
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accomplish so much, I was willing to sacrifice
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sleep to get things done. Long term, that's obviously
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not a great idea for optimizing your health.
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And I had some health issues because of it. So
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that made me realize there's definitely things
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that you can sacrifice to get to a goal and to
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accomplish something you want to do. But there
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are definitely some things that you shouldn't
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give up. So you got to know what those are. And
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if you write them down every day, you're not
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going to forget. Now, the last one is lumped
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together. It's result and reward. Unfortunately,
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a lot of people get these two confused because
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they think they're the same thing. So for example,
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a lot of people will write under result and reward
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for a fitness goal. They might write down, well,
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I lost the weight. Well, that's great. But a
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result and a reward aren't the same thing. The
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result is what you gain from achieving the goal,
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which is going to be you lost the weight, you're
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fitter now, you gain knowledge from reading a
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certain number of books that you targeted, learning
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a new skill, learning a new language, whatever.
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And while those things might be rewarding, that's
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not the point of the reward. The point of the
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reward is to play on a little bit of the brain
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science behind achieving a goal, chasing after
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something, and achieving the goal. There's dopamine
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circuits that you activate in the chase and ultimately
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in the accomplishment. And the reward is a huge
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part of that. So you want to start practicing
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now, recognizing what you're going to reward
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yourself with when you accomplish whatever it
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is. Now, granted, only you can determine what
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is appropriate for you. and what is a proportional
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reward for a particular goal. If waking up and
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brushing your teeth is your goal, no judgment,
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the reward being a Rolex Submariner probably
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isn't the right proportional choice, you know?
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But if you have a crazy goal that you've written
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down for a long period of time that has a tremendous
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amount of meaning, then a really significant
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reward like a vacation is totally acceptable.
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This is also an area where you can get your family,
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friends, and loved ones involved as well. particularly
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if maybe they could play a part in the reward.
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Danelle talks about this often. She'll get her
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kids involved in saying, hey, if I accomplish
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this goal, we're going to take this vacation
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to this place. Naturally, they get all excited
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and then they're interested. They're always asking,
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hey, how many more deals have you closed? How
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close are we? What's the number? Are we on pace?
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Those kinds of things. It's really exciting to
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get your entire family involved. So I highly
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recommend that you do that. And what you'll notice
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is the more you follow through with rewarding
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yourself for accomplishing goals, the more excited
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you'll be to continue this habit. It's an extremely
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powerful thing. And I'll tell you from personal
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experience, I've not always rewarded myself,
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and it's a type of cheapening and can even be
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a lack of integrity with yourself. I had someone
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call me out on that once. I kept moving the goalposts
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for myself on a reward, a goal and a reward,
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and someone said, man, you value integrity quite
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a bit, but it's weird that you keep lying to
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yourself. And I was like, all right, I gotcha.
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So be mindful of that. Don't cheapen yourself.
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If it's something that you need to do anyway
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and you maybe feel like, well, I need to do this
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goal and maybe there's even a degree of self
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-punishment involved with trying to achieve the
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goal. I've seen that happen sometimes and people
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are like, you know, I don't feel right about
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rewarding myself because this should just be
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what I should do anyway. Well, then maybe you
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need to rethink that goal. I'm also not a huge
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fan of the negative emotion swirling around there.
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So you need to kind of do a little self -assessment
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there. And I think you also need to get over
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yourself and set that reward. Whatever it might
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be, whatever's proportional to it, you probably
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need to do it. Let's just go ahead and do it.
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And the third one is growth. Simply put, this
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is 30 minutes a day, at least, of some kind of
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learning. This can be reading, podcasting, videos,
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even chatting with AI on a particular skill and
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something you want to get better at. Honestly,
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when you get in the habit of this one, it can
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be one of my favorites. And it changes for me.
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There was one year where I wanted to get through
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as many books as possible. So I asked a bunch
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of people that I knew. I made social media posts
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of like, hey, what have been the top three most
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impactful books in your life? And people just
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flooded in with their answers. This was at the
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beginning of a year. I just bought all of them
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on Audible and just went to town. I think that
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year I read 20 to 25 books and it was a super
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powerful year. Since then, I've done things like
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courses in Peterson Academy, learning new skills,
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and finding a bunch of ways to grow. And honestly,
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podcasts and YouTubing are two of my favorite
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things. But what I love about this is that's
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not where it stops. In fact, you have to identify
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one thing from that session that you're going
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to implement moving forward. And what's great
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about that is it takes the things that you learned
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and allows you to identify how you can leverage
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that in the future. And all of this plugs into
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the daily anything changes everything because
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if you're growing every single day and finding
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one thing to implement from that growth, then
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by the end of the year, can you imagine how different
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you might be? So this one gives you some creative
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license. What's something that you've been wanting
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to learn about but just haven't had the time?
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Well, this habit cements you having to find 30
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minutes at least to dedicate to that one thing.
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And like Glenn Lundy said a couple episodes ago,
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scientists have discovered that if you commit
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yourself to one thing for 17 minutes a day, every
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single day for 365 days, you will be better than
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95 % of the people in the world. Remember, that's
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8 billion people. You'll be better than 95 %
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of people. That's still a lot of people in that
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5%. But that's still pretty significant statistic.
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You're not going to be world elite, but that's
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okay. If you practice piano for 17 minutes every
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day for a year, you're not going to be in a symphony
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orchestra, but that skill is probably going to
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be pretty impressive. So let's do it. 30 minutes
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of growth every single day and watch and see
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what can happen. The fourth one is grace. Now,
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this is identifying one pain point, which can
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be something like a mistake, a hurt, a frustration,
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releasing it and writing it off. It's a way of
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using forgiveness as an antidote every single
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day. Now, for me personally, there's two ways
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I like to frame this step, and I like to look
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at it from the past or the future. I'll explain
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what I mean. So for the past, it's easy. It's
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what most people would associate with something
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like grace and forgiveness. What's something
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in the past that is affecting you in the present
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that you need to release, that you need to forgive?
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Now, a couple notes on this. This is obviously
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a difficult thing for people because they feel
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like if they forgive, they forget. And some things
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you just can't forget. Now, I don't think forgiveness
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is forgetting, but we might need to get into
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that in another episode. But from a top overview,
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We do know that if we hang on to bitterness against
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someone else, it's equivalent to drinking poison
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to try to hurt them. It is not a long -term strategy
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for mental health. I don't think anyone would
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dispute that. But in practice, it's harder to
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do for sure. And because of that, I think daily
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focus in this area is super critical. So for
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me, I reflect back. You know, what's something
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in the last 24 hours or in this week, or if you've
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never done the practice, it might be going back
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years or maybe even decades. What is something
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that keeps nagging at you that would benefit
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you to release? So that would involve putting
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people's names down. If you're really hard on
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yourself, maybe putting your name down. Again,
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recovering perfectionists, I had to put my name
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down quite a bit. And when you do that, you are
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releasing that. You are giving that person grace,
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which you may not be ready for, but that's what
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we're trying to get to. And when you get in the
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habit of doing this every single day, maybe...
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you're not ready to write down a name that continually
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pops up in your mind. That's fine. I get it.
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But the hope is someday you'll be ready to put
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that on the altar of that line and actually write
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down their name. The final detail about looking
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back in forgiveness is that it can be a cycle.
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I say a lot of times that forgiveness is similar
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to grief. It comes in waves. And so have some
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grace with yourself. And I've heard people say,
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man, I thought I released that. And it's just
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come back. Yeah, for sure. Just release it again.
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It's no big deal. Don't be hard on yourself,
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especially depending on the severity of the situation
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and what it was and what you're trying to release.
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It could take some serious time to get in that
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habit and to truly free yourself from the grasp
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of that situation. Now, I said I also sometimes
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focus on the future. Now, this one I always kind
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of joke about, but it can be something that can
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be really transformative for you as well. So,
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for example, if I know I'm going to spend the
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entire day with my wonderful wife, I might choose
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to write her name down for grace. Why? Am I saying
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that she's that hard to be around? No. However,
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being in close proximity to somebody for 8 to
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12 hours increases the chances that that person
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might frustrate you, get on your nerves, or whatever.
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And so sometimes I will preemptively write her
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name down because that proximity might require
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me to have some additional grace for her. Not
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because she's a basket case, but because I need
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that grace. And I can tell you, I have loved
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it because it reframes my mind from the beginning
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of the day of having grace for my wife from the
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start. And combined with all the other habits
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we've talked about of using the law of positive
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intent, it can turn what could have been an average
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day to an incredible day. Wraps up all four Gs.
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Now you can certainly do this on a blank piece
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of paper, in a notebook, every single day, in
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an iPad if you're into that kind of thing. Yet
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out of respect for Danelle, I also tell you she
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has a journal. It's about an inch thick, has
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pages for every single day of the year. and that
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journal is a handwritten one on purpose. There's
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a lot of neurological evidence to prove that
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writing things down on pen and paper activates
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different parts of your brain than typing and
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can have a significant impact on how something
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like this, a practice like this, like journaling,
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can affect your growth and optimize that into
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the future. If you're going to do something,
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you kind of want it to have the maximum impact,
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right? You're like, if I'm spending the time
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to do it, I want it to be as effective as possible,
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right? If you're going to invest money into a
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stock, you'd like it to go not just kind of high,
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not just mildly up. You want it to go to the
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moon, right? Well, the same thing with this.
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Why would you do a habit to only get half the
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benefit? If you're into typing, I get it. So
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am I. I'm a techie guy. However, I've handwritten
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this either in pen and paper or on an iPad with
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an Apple Pencil. So she sells the journals. They're
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mostly blank structure. There's not a lot of
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reading or anything like that. There's just blanks
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with simple prompts that you just fill in every
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single day. Super, super powerful. I'll link
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those in the description for you if you want
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to pick one up. But I just love how powerful
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and transformative these four habits have been
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in my life. And I wanted to go into a little
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bit more depth to explain why, some of the tips
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and tricks on how, and hope it can be a blessing
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for you as it has been for me. And what I love
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more than anything is people in my life that
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I care about have seen this bless me over the
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last five years and have jumped on board, including
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my wife, other people really close to me, and
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even my colleagues and employees, and some people
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I don't even know really well, and so many others.
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So if you're looking for a way to optimize your
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mind, do this for a year and tell me how you
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feel. Thanks for listening to the Optimizing
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Beyond podcast. Remember, growth happens when
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you take action. So subscribe, share this with
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a friend, and most importantly, put what you
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learned into action. Until next time, keep moving
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forward because daily anything changes everything.
