"Frequencies"

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Oh ay, Jay McLaughlin, I'm Ryan Ruie, I'm DJ Rich
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receives the tough for of Clinny Martinez and we are
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the hosts of Opinions and Consequences, the podcast, the show
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where Europeans can lead to consequences.
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So choose your words wisely. Joy the show. Guys, man,
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welcome back to another episode of a Penis and Consequences. Listen.
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I know I've been gone for a minute, but I'm
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back at the jump off. Guys. Guess what, man, I
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got a guest in the building. I got Melanie in
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the building. What's Popper? How you doing?
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I'm great? How are you n.
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I'm right, I'm all right, yeah, just all right, just alright,
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you know what I mean. First of all, I like
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you had women's are portal? Okayden and what makes him
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a portal? Oh? Hello, toast toast cheers, guys, cheers, guys.
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Mm hmm. So tell me how was your How was
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your mother's that?
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It was amazing?
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Okay, okay, amazing, anything fun or you just kind of
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kept it.
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You just had a brunch with the family and then afterwards, hello,
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and my son surprised me with some flowers and you know,
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little card.
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So it's an amazing.
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Time clad little clap well. By the way, Happy Mother's
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Day for all you beautiful, lovely single couple mothers out there.
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You know, you guys are true superheroes and fathers too.
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This credit all those that portray moms.
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There you go, not just not just by you got that,
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You got that. Any plans for the summer.
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Hopefully taking a few trips, narrow down anywhere in particular,
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maybe go back home, because that's just you know.
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From again, Okay, cowboy, better than negative.
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Negative, that's just how are you gonna have a guest
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on the show and have no experience?
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I'm sorry. I haven't been a lot of places, all right,
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So okay, so for the viewers out there, I know
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you guys probably know where cave Verdi is at. Who's
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a Africa? Yeah, South Africa, West west coast, West Coast Africa,
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ambar rows cave Verdian, cave Verdian. Okay, okay, first of all,
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all the people, Okay, well listen, that's the only one
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that A lot of calmer people. Okay, you name me
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someone else that's.
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From I never said that I can name, but I
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just I'm just saying there could be any other males.
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What's that actor, that guy that played and soul Food,
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the one who cheated on his wife with a cousin.
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He's cave Verdian. I remember his name. Yeah? Do you
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know what the one who slept with the cousin.
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Oh, okay, I don't remember his name.
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Yeah, I don't remember his name.
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Is the one who had a long time Yeah, like
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an attorneys.
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Yeah, okay, I'm sorry. You forgot it too, ma'am.
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I didn't. I said, I don't remember his name, but
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I quoted the movie.
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It's different.
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Okay. So okay, let me ask you this. Where would
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you recommend if you were a listener to go in
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caveverb like as a first time and how long should
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they go for?
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That's a difficult question because cave Verdians normally we don't
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go anything less than forty five days. However, I would
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say money long. Oh, we have family this, so it's
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different for someone who's going for the first time, I
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would say two weeks minimum. Maybe like a week and
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a half would work for someone who's just not foramiliar
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with that type of environment. However, there's ten islands to
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choose from Pria.
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As a capital.
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So I would say this, if you're gonna go without
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any without knowing anyone that's from there, I would go
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to maybe like sal Or, Sami, santy, places like that.
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That's more Americanized, I guess for lack of better terms,
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because it's more of like a tourist location. However, Fogo
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Praya is more like I don't say the motherland because
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I would come be undermining the rest of the island.
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FOG's more laid back. That's like the foundation of things.
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Prior is a capital, so it's a lot. It is
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Americanized because it's busy.
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So where where could you Where could you relate it
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to like anywhere in the United States, like if you
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if you could relate certain places to different places.
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And Maya can be a blend of like New York
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and Boston. I would say, just because it's kind of
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fast paced and can be chaotic and it's rough and
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still fun at the same time. Like date nights, really
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nate nights.
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Do they have like beaches in okay An Island? That's me,
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that's me, that's.
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You live a little bit too, But yes, it's all
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of us arounded by water. Folk was more laid back,
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it's like more I don't want to see the countryside,
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but it's kind of like countryside.
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So that's more like.
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Mm hmm.
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That's like uh maybe like a for river or like
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it's like laid back.
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You go at the scenery and things like that.
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It's not too not too busy, correct, not too busy.
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Okay, I haven't been to all ten islands, m hm, so,
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but from what I've been told, so, I mean, Cynthia
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is more of like Brazil. Okay, that's when you see
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the woman, like obviously where we're from, the most beautiful women.
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But however, I digress.
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There's a beautiful women in every single island ahead, but
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soby Cynthia is more of like I don't want to
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say the uppit eat side.
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It's like a bad phrase to use, but you'll see more.
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I would say, it's more of like compared to Brazil,
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like the women, like the focus is more on like
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body and stereotypical like expensive high end stuff like that.
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The other sounding like to list all of them is
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a lot, but yeah, just google it.
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So okay, okay, these these are good. These are good.
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So let me let me ask you this then, how
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much would you would you tell somebody like I know,
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if someone can't go for forty five days, you know
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what I mean? Like, how much would you say I.
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Would say, I would say that they should go for Yeah,
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Like I would say like a week and a half minimum,
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just because the first day, because it's a it's a
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I think it's what three hour difference, So you want
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to the first day you're just suggusting right and flying in.
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So by the second to third days when you're really
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like right, yeah, getting into things. So I would say
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a week and a half would be suffice. Nothing less
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than that, it wouldn't be worth it unless you're going
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with someone from there who's gonna guide you. And if
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you're yeah, but if you're just going just to go and.
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You know no one, then then just like a week
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and a half.
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But it's very welcoming, so like everyone will treat you like.
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You're from there.
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Okay, So what's what's the currency? Like, like like how actuates?
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It's school dous, so it fluctuates. Yeah, it's different.
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It's different.
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So like what like you know what I mean? Like,
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because I'm in exchange. Listen, I've never been there, people, guys,
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you know why I travel a lot, but like you
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know what I mean, I've never been to this particular
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part of the world, so I'm always curious in terms
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of like, you know, how how how long is your
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money in different areas? You know what I mean? Because
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it's it's it differs everywhere in the world, you know
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what I mean.
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So you can go I would say in that week
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and a half. Again, it's depended on on entirely what
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your intentions are. If you're going to relax, you can
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go for like a week and a half. You can
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bring maybe like I would say two thousand two to
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three thousand, just because you might want to. You might
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want to, you might want to island hop right, relax.
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I think that's crazy. Yeah, that's because that's but that's
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doing a lot, right, that's if you're going to island
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hop and do the most. But it's different. That'd be
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hard for me to answer because again I have family.
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Yeah, because you don't you don't go there for you
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don't go there most mostly for like tourism. Correct, you're
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not going there for tourism.
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But even if I'm going around, I know how to shop,
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I know how to it's all a hustle it's hustle
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and bustles, but it's always going to exchange, like, oh,
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I can give you this for that. So that's everywhere. However,
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I can stay home. I don't have to go out
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all night, you know what I mean every single night.
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I will cook at home, like I'm more of like
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a home body. So that scene is like, yeah, it's like.
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You're over it. It's like you're over it. And and
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I guess you know what I mean, considering that you're
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in your conf like in your country. Yeah, you know
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what I mean. You got the fam there and all
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that stuff. It's kind of like if I go back
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to Hunters, like.
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Yeah, he's from Hunter, I'm in the quib like tuna
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fish inside.
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I did not get that at any level when he
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first said that. I'm like what.
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It still doesn't even fully make sense though, because like
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not he claims everyone's house has I mean, yes, I
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would say that would work, but.
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You guys say, yeah, what is this better?
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Okay, there we go, there we go comparing the contras.
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Can you make it? You not a cook it exactly?
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No, I don't know.
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You can't speak on it until you can and make it.
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Then that's when you can speak on it. So until
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then hours.
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Listen for the next one. I'll show you guys that
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I could cook.
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Okay, okay, so is what your your version of it?
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It might be, But do you guys make it in
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like because we make it in like posiblyos like you know.
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What I mean, we put it in like different versions.
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But I'm saying like, because I know, I know sometimes
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like they put the bac ala on like the rice
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and all that extra stuff.
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But you can make a platter.
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You can make it in like different pastries looking stuff
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like there's many different versions of but that is just
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the actual fish. But that's not what the actual thing
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you're making Like you're saying that you're making it.
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In a guys. If you guys want to see the
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battle between this, like, let me know and I'll get it.
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Yeah, you guys know you're going to make so many.
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D it's right yo. Wow Wow, your.
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Mom can't make it. You can't tell her.
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I'm gonna tell Okay, first of all, I don't do that.
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Don't do that. Don't do guys. We're gonna get right
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into the video tales. Guys. We got a dope episode
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for you guys here today, man, Listen, man, a lot
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of dope conversation. Guys, get your pens and papers out,
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because this is I feel like this is gonna be
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very impactful for not only you guys as viewers and listeners,
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but possibly for other people that you might share this
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with and on that phone. So listen. Our first question
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or question of episode is what does being healed really
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look like? And who decides that? Once again, what does
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being healed really look like? And who decides that? Talk
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to me? Let me okay, well you know what. First
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of all, let's let's let's define healing, because you know,
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I feel like I feel like everybody has their own
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definition of everything. Yes, and and now I feel like
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that is very important to understand everyone's viewpoints in terms
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of what or how do you define that? So, like,
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what's your definition of healing.
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Of being healed, of being healed?
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Yes, I would say balance, being able to not allow
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well healed in what perspective relationships or just healed.
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There is there is healed in the sense of trauma.
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I guess.
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Okay, even that has different well, I guess overall being able.
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I feel like acknowledgment of that trauma is the hardest
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part for a lot of people to connect with. Well,
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once they've acknowledged that part of the journey, then everything
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else is kind of like smooth sailing, because then they'll
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be able to learn how to adapt, learn how to
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identify triggers and things like that. So part of the
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healing is should be identified as like a never ending
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process because you grow into you grow into a healing stage. Right,
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Because you make in reference to like there's many different versions, Well,
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everyone has their own version of heal being healed. For
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me personally, with trauma that I've had, I've it took
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me time to actually acknowledge like, all, right, where do
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I actually stand in this? Where am I at fault?
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What could I have done better or done worse? What
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were my triggers? How did I choose to adapt? Right?
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Because I feel like everything is a choice. Ultimately, people like, oh,
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I can adapt any environment, But then it's it's still
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a choice because you're acknowledging what that environment is like
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and you're making a sound decision to be like, well
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I'm going to behave this way, I'm going to respond
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this way. So there's many different I feel like attributes
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that come with being healed, and I would not. I
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would be a fool to sit here and say I'm
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one hundred percent healed, because I'm still going through that journey, right,
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but I'm acknowledging that I've overcome a lot and being
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able to acknowledge that I when I'm being triggered, I'm calm.
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I'm much more calm, and I'm aware. This is self
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awareness that I've created around myself to be able to
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know the difference of a reaction, like a cause and
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effect of having a reaction and just not reacting at all.
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Okay, okay before.
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Myself, not for the other person.
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No, I like that because I do. I do believe
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the same thing with me healing. You know, I don't
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let the past trauma conflict with the possibilities, if that
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makes any sense. So meaning that if if if past
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trauma that I had in the past, this is my
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definition of being healed with people, by the way, I
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don't let it conflict with future possibilities. So if I
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had trauma in the past, I'm like, you know what,
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A that's in the past. You know what, Let's move forward,
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Let's move this, Let's let's go into this with a
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clean slate because obviously, like you're not healed if you're
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going to bring this into the next into a next
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chapter where you're just like, Okay, you're not healed about this.
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But do you think that people carry things over to
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the next chapters because they have yet to acknowledge that?
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Correct? I think? I think I think that you have
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to be emotionally mature stable to be able to make that,
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to be able to separate that, you know what I
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mean to to be able to leave that in the
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past and where it doesn't allow yourself to be affected
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by it, and you have to be an adult about it.
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You got to be like, you know what, this this,
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this person, this job, this human being or whatever the
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case is, don't deserve this trauma from the past as
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on them.
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Well, how would you connect that if that person's a trigger,
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Like if that person is doing something that was originally
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a trigger for you.
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And that's what I'm saying, you have to you have
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to be emotionally mature about it, Like you have to
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sit there and you have to you know, and I
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feel like a lot of times you have to create
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I don't know, different exercises that allow you to I
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don't know if you breathe in WUSA, is that still
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a thing? I don't know.
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I don't know, you know, no, you gotta there's like
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certain different days.
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That's what I'm saying though, So like I don't know,
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Like there may be certain exercises I don't know, if
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you allow yourself to, you know, create a space between
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between you and another person to be able to to
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fill that void and be like, Okay, I got to
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detach myself from this really quick. Let me get through this.
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I boom, I'm back, like you know what I mean.
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A lot of people have their own methods on being
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able to detach themselves from you know, actually pouring that
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trauma onto the next person.
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I think that is the most important piece to that
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is communication though, because I feel like that's and it
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seems like it's leading more into the relationship aspect. Now.
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Communication is a big thing when it comes to any
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type of trauma, anything in general, but especially to trauma
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because as you say that, everyone reacts differently, so being
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you detaching yourself in that moment is how you process
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and how you manage. However, from the opposite end, it's
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looking at as if you're dismissing me right, Regardless of
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how emotionally mature you feel you are, there's still that
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presence that's there, and it's on the outside looking in.
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It's considered like a disconnect and if you're not communicating,
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then you're leaving too much room for assumption. And then
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it's kind of like, all right, how long do you
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do you take where you're detached? Are you a person
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who leaves? Are you a person who takes a nap?
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Or your person who yells and screams, and you a
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person who just go out like There's many different ways
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to deal and none of those are wrong at all,
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but it's just your method of coping. But at some
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point you need to cycle back and then say, hey,
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I just needed a minute, right. But then again, that
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also doesn't be being emotionally mature, because if that person's
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with you, that type of communication should be something that's
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shared slightly. I'm not big on sharing everything in the beginning,
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because you also want people to be authentic. Let me
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say that authentic, and too many people create like a script,
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you know what I mean?
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Yeah? Correct? They off you like you know what I mean?
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You like this? I don't like carrots?
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Oh me?
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Neither you know what I mean, stop it. You've been
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eating carrots all your life, right, you know what I mean?
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Like a salad and they're bringing a salad.
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But all right, okay, so like, okay, now we're coming
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back to the question. All right, So since we've defined
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what healing means for us, what does it really look
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like when you're healed? And who decides it? Who decides that.
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When I'm here? Who decides when I'm healed? I would
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say myself, m because ultimately I'm healing for me. If
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your decision to heal and overcome something is not truly
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from your core and for yourself, it's you're always gonna
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break that whatever lesson it is that you feel you
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if you overcame. So that's why I don't feel like
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people should disconnect. You should absolutely, in some sense kind
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of go towards things that triggered you, because that's only
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when you actually realize that you've been healed. Like it,
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I don't think like every situation you should walk away from.
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No, you should walk away from every situation. However, I
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just feel like, like you said, that whole communication part
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is very key, just because your definition of being healed
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might not be my definite correct. So then you might
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be like, oh my god, you're not healed, right, don't
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know I am healed any like, you know what I mean.
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So it's that back and forth banter where it's just like.
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Well, what makes you us right and my wrong correct?
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And that's what I'm saying, so I agree with you.
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It's it is tough two to actually be able to
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sit there and be like, yo, I'm I'm healed without
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having the judge and jurors there being like, uh no,
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you're not. Sis.
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I don't think anyone's ever fully you're not.
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I don't know.
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Everyone needs everyone got a band aid on, you know
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what I mean. We're all like, guys, guess what, guys?
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Heads up? We all got a clear and sticker. Okay,
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we're all open box. We're all open box for best,
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were all open box for best. But we all listen
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some of us, some of some of us are missing wires,
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some of them are missing the batteries.
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That's crazy, but it's true.
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Though. It's true though because I want but okay, no
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one does want to listen. But at the same time,
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it's true because I feel like a lot of times
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people go into this, go into certain situations, thinking that
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everything is glittering, glamorous, like and I'm like, yo, we're
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all damaged goods, like we just got to figure out,
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but we don't. We can't change what's damage. We just
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gotta be like, I it Outkay, cool, I know I
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got a crackscreen, But you can't complain about the crackscreen later,
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like you're like, bro, you want this like this, you
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know what I mean. But but I feel like a
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lot of us and you know I'm guilty of it.
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You know we're all guilty of it. Try to fix
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that crackscreen and not realizing that. I'm like, yo, bro, like,
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you can't fix the crack screen. You can enhance it,
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you can enhance the image, but you can't fix the crackscreen. Bro.
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Like it's cracked. Bro, it's a rap. Either get rid
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of the TV or you don't.
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I mean, it's it's why not replace it?
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Then you just you're starting all over. You gotta get
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a new one. Do what you mean? Replace it?
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I'm saying.
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Someone will be like why not just replace it? Why
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go on and continue with something that's cracked. You keep
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looking at that crack and it's just a cycle over
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and over.
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But that's what you signed up for it, That's how
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you bought it. You see what I'm saying, Like, I
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just relectician.
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Is there that we can say, Hey, I'm gonna let
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go over this, but let's start new.
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Correct if you decide that you don't want that, but
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I feel like a lot of us we.
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Yeah, it's easier to find comfort in that routine of
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pain and seeing that because it's something that you're familiar
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then rather starting somewhere something new.
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Yo. See listen, this is a good segue, guys, because
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that's what this next question is. This was good. This
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was good.
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Mhm.
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Are we choosing partners based off potential or proven character? Hello? Hello, guys,
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get your pens and papers out. She's off. We did
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man like you?
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I mean, how personal? Are we getting?
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Like? No?
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Because it is interesting because I feel like, you know,
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I'll start you know what I mean?
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I would hope so because I started the last one,
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go ahead.
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I could say it's different for for potential, for me.
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For potential obviously, if you're if you're new like in
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my life, if you're new in my life and all
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that extra stuff, I would have to base it off
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a potential right, you can't base it off a proven
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character because you don't know the person, right, Cool, But
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I would say based off like ninety I would say
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ninety ninety percent of like emustal relationships is based off potential.
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Other ones, it's like if like proven character, because you
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obviously proven character means you have to have a track record,
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you know what I mean. So I would say based
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off potential. Yeah, Yeah, I.
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Would say it's off and character initially because that's that's
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what you're presenting to the person initially, and it's either
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attracting you or not, whether it's a facade that you're presenting,
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whatever it may be. This is what you're presenting in
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front of me now, and I'm like, am I going.
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To go forward or not? However, once the conversation.
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Starts and then you do your meetups and things like that,
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then it's off of potential because then you're starting to
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go off of like the vibe and you're like, all right,
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this person's making me feel like this this you know,
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they might be you read into things a little bit more.
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For me, that's my perspective because I can definitely read
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the room and I'm being on energy and vibes, so
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I can I learned people. I listen and I'm very
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very very observant X men yes and then some so yeah,
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so because of that, but I'm also I'm also very supportive.
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So my potential in people is genuinely because I want
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the best in you. That has definitely brought a lot
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of It's done me a major disservice.
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To a lot of things.
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It sounds bad. I don't regret any any of it
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ever in my life.
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Yeah, even that.
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I will never look at anything, any experience to be
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in relationships or anything in life to be a negative
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for me, because I was always genuinely me at my core,
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and that's I do it because I want to do
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it and because I feel like it's whatever the connection
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or something like, it's something that I sensed that you
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needed or wanted or deserved, so I provided that if
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I'm the vessel, then I.
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Will be that for you.
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However, I don't ever say do or anything of that
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in expecting anything in return. If it's received, great, but
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I don't ever do or say to with the expectation
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of return. However, when I can definitely see when a
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person's taking advance, so holding on to that potential.
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Sometimes can cause a person.
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To overstay because they lose sight of what the reality is.
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Complacent, Like, yeah, people, people get complacent. They don't you
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00:26:13.359 --> 00:26:15.440
know after like you know after like like you said,
485
00:26:15.480 --> 00:26:20.119
like after when you showcase that you don't have to
486
00:26:20.160 --> 00:26:21.839
do this, or you don't have to do this, you
487
00:26:21.839 --> 00:26:23.759
don't have to do that. It's kind of like you're
488
00:26:23.799 --> 00:26:26.519
living leaving no window of opportunity for them to grow.
489
00:26:26.799 --> 00:26:30.279
It's the cliche statement of like you can't really see
490
00:26:30.279 --> 00:26:32.079
the full picture if you're the part of like if
491
00:26:32.079 --> 00:26:34.000
you're in the frame, both of you guys are in
492
00:26:34.000 --> 00:26:39.079
the frame. I can't really see my next half, the
493
00:26:39.079 --> 00:26:41.079
next show. I'm indicting myself.
494
00:26:42.160 --> 00:26:43.279
That's a long sentence.
495
00:26:43.680 --> 00:26:45.759
You gotta put on a T shirt, but you gotta
496
00:26:45.759 --> 00:26:47.319
make it cool though, you gotta put like a frame.
497
00:26:47.480 --> 00:26:50.000
I gotta make it cool. So what you're trying to say,
498
00:26:50.279 --> 00:26:50.720
nothing I have.
499
00:26:50.839 --> 00:26:51.240
It's cool.
500
00:26:51.920 --> 00:26:55.960
It's now.
501
00:26:59.400 --> 00:27:07.000
Oh he's like, yo, let me ask you this. Are
502
00:27:07.039 --> 00:27:11.640
we truly preparing ourselves for the partner we want we
503
00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:16.400
say we want, or just expecting them to accept us
504
00:27:16.519 --> 00:27:20.319
as is? So once again, people, are we truly preparing
505
00:27:20.359 --> 00:27:24.759
ourselves for the partner we say we want, or just
506
00:27:24.960 --> 00:27:28.640
expecting them to accept us as is.
507
00:27:31.319 --> 00:27:34.240
I think everyone will say the first part, but I
508
00:27:34.359 --> 00:27:38.200
really feel like everyone's more so for the second. Like
509
00:27:38.680 --> 00:27:43.079
it's almost like I'm talking a good talk, but I'm
510
00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:45.599
not walking the walk, you know, because when you're in it,
511
00:27:45.680 --> 00:27:50.319
you're in it. In it. The reality we live in
512
00:27:50.359 --> 00:27:52.160
now is a lot and I feel like there's a
513
00:27:52.160 --> 00:27:55.400
lot of fear, Like so many people have been, like
514
00:27:55.440 --> 00:27:56.599
you said earlier.
515
00:27:56.400 --> 00:27:57.200
Damage goods.
516
00:27:57.920 --> 00:28:01.319
You know, yes, but no one wants to present that
517
00:28:01.400 --> 00:28:03.640
damage stick and no one's walking outside like yeah.
518
00:28:03.640 --> 00:28:07.079
But this is me, You're You're right. It's like it's
519
00:28:07.160 --> 00:28:10.039
but it's just like but I feel like if everybody
520
00:28:10.160 --> 00:28:14.119
has that mindset that yo, I'm damaged goods bro like,
521
00:28:14.799 --> 00:28:16.440
but like, you know what i mean, obviously you know
522
00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:19.039
what damaged goods And I'm like, oh, ship, hold on now.
523
00:28:20.759 --> 00:28:22.200
You know what I mean automatically like.
524
00:28:24.039 --> 00:28:29.319
You need to call you call so like, but like,
525
00:28:29.400 --> 00:28:33.759
I just feel like a lot of times with people
526
00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:38.119
not understanding that you are damaged goods, they're never going
527
00:28:38.160 --> 00:28:40.599
to go into a situation that's got.
528
00:28:40.440 --> 00:28:43.680
To switch that that sounds bad. Why damaged goods?
529
00:28:43.799 --> 00:28:45.680
We all know I'm a part of damage.
530
00:28:45.680 --> 00:28:46.279
Good, get it.
531
00:28:46.279 --> 00:28:48.480
But we got to see that's that psychological thing where
532
00:28:49.079 --> 00:28:50.839
this moment right here, right, I'm just like, that's that.
533
00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:53.839
I can't say that, but you don't make it more lighter.
534
00:28:55.880 --> 00:28:59.079
It's okay, we all got it, we all got the
535
00:28:59.200 --> 00:29:00.440
we all got the orange sticker.
536
00:29:01.440 --> 00:29:01.599
Yeah.
537
00:29:03.519 --> 00:29:08.440
Ok, So like do you do do you feel like
538
00:29:08.519 --> 00:29:11.039
we're truly preparing ourselves for our partner? But you said
539
00:29:11.079 --> 00:29:14.119
there's more lean into the we're just expecting them to
540
00:29:14.200 --> 00:29:15.000
accept this as it.
541
00:29:15.319 --> 00:29:20.640
Yes, because everyone says everyone thinks that they're preparing themselves
542
00:29:21.680 --> 00:29:24.559
or rather, rather you go into it saying like, all right,
543
00:29:24.599 --> 00:29:27.160
I'm gonna start new. I've had this experience in my life.
544
00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:29.160
I'm not dating right now, I'm not doing anything, and
545
00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:31.599
the next person i'm with I have this this is
546
00:29:31.720 --> 00:29:34.880
this is my intentions. Right. But when you meet someone,
547
00:29:34.960 --> 00:29:38.759
everyone feeds off of that person. So if you're feeding
548
00:29:38.799 --> 00:29:43.400
off of whatever introduction you had with a person or
549
00:29:43.799 --> 00:29:48.759
wherever you guys met, it's always a connected dot situation.
550
00:29:48.880 --> 00:29:51.640
I feel like, no, no, you're right, you're right, And guys,
551
00:29:51.680 --> 00:29:56.160
I will tell you this though. This is a little medicine.
552
00:29:56.559 --> 00:30:01.799
So I will tell you this, guys, I think that
553
00:30:03.400 --> 00:30:07.640
for me, I think that what is best for you
554
00:30:07.640 --> 00:30:09.319
know you could you guys do what you guys are
555
00:30:09.319 --> 00:30:11.839
gonna do, But I think you should just always upgrade
556
00:30:11.839 --> 00:30:14.440
the version of you, you know, become a better version
557
00:30:14.480 --> 00:30:17.400
of yourself. You know, So, say if you had trauma
558
00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:22.880
or you've had a bad situation in your past relationship,
559
00:30:23.200 --> 00:30:27.519
you try to see how could you level up based
560
00:30:27.559 --> 00:30:30.519
off of that last pass one. So like things that
561
00:30:30.599 --> 00:30:33.440
you that your significant other were saying, like you wasn't
562
00:30:33.480 --> 00:30:36.960
doing right, or you didn't you didn't get this done,
563
00:30:37.200 --> 00:30:41.680
or you wasn't grown as fast or anything like that.
564
00:30:41.960 --> 00:30:45.440
I think you personally should work on it for yourself
565
00:30:45.759 --> 00:30:49.440
to prepare yourself for your next one, because then you're
566
00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:51.640
kind of gonna be ahead of the curve. Because if
567
00:30:52.000 --> 00:30:54.559
if the same thing keeps happening every time that you
568
00:30:54.640 --> 00:30:57.319
meet somebody, then it's kind of like, uh, yeah, bro,
569
00:30:57.480 --> 00:30:59.200
you're the problem. So you know what I mean, You're
570
00:30:59.200 --> 00:31:02.680
never gonna level up. So like, if you become a
571
00:31:02.720 --> 00:31:07.279
better version of yourself based off of the past, then
572
00:31:07.400 --> 00:31:13.039
I think that you will be able to separate yourself
573
00:31:13.039 --> 00:31:16.480
from being like Okay, you know what I didn't. I
574
00:31:16.519 --> 00:31:19.079
didn't give it. I didn't give it my own, you
575
00:31:19.160 --> 00:31:20.480
know what I mean. I feel like a lot of
576
00:31:20.480 --> 00:31:21.759
people they do that, you know what I mean?
577
00:31:22.359 --> 00:31:22.640
Fast?
578
00:31:23.559 --> 00:31:25.119
Yeah, because you know what I mean, it's easier to
579
00:31:25.119 --> 00:31:26.920
give up. It's easy, it is. Yeah.
580
00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:29.400
And again that falls in line with people just not
581
00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:31.720
being able to identify what their trauma is or they
582
00:31:31.839 --> 00:31:34.480
they've they've accepted that this is my trauma.
583
00:31:34.559 --> 00:31:35.160
So poor me.
584
00:31:35.559 --> 00:31:37.160
I'm going to live in this and I'll be fine
585
00:31:37.160 --> 00:31:43.319
with it. Sad story, but twitch their own. But to
586
00:31:43.359 --> 00:31:45.400
go off of what you just the statement you just made.
587
00:31:45.440 --> 00:31:49.000
As far as like leveling up, I think the leveling
588
00:31:49.079 --> 00:31:54.599
up is more within yourself because if you're not acknowledging,
589
00:31:54.680 --> 00:31:57.680
like where your fault was, if someone's saying something to you.
590
00:31:57.920 --> 00:31:59.519
I mean, it's also cliche because a lot of the
591
00:31:59.519 --> 00:32:01.759
times when real quick to point the finger, it's usually
592
00:32:01.759 --> 00:32:04.440
looking at themselves. It's easy to point to you and
593
00:32:04.440 --> 00:32:06.480
blame me for something when it actually stems from you.
594
00:32:08.920 --> 00:32:13.000
But it's definitely looking at yourself first and being comfortable
595
00:32:13.039 --> 00:32:16.200
with your own presence in your silence, and if you
596
00:32:16.240 --> 00:32:18.559
can be confident to look at the your of reflection
597
00:32:18.640 --> 00:32:20.680
in the mirror and say, you know what, this is
598
00:32:20.680 --> 00:32:23.319
where I went wrong. This is where I lacked understanding.
599
00:32:23.400 --> 00:32:27.160
This is where the good and the badge. Finding that
600
00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:30.240
balance is then is like all right, am I even
601
00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:33.359
and then even asking yourself, am I truly ready to
602
00:32:33.400 --> 00:32:35.400
move on or go on to the next person. So
603
00:32:35.400 --> 00:32:36.519
I feel like a lot of people are like, oh,
604
00:32:36.519 --> 00:32:38.799
I'm here, I'm good, I'm cool because I'm I got
605
00:32:38.799 --> 00:32:40.640
a little extra cash here, I got this. You know,
606
00:32:40.920 --> 00:32:46.119
everyone uses just life's day to day as that ammunition.
607
00:32:46.319 --> 00:32:52.839
Rightfully so, rightfully so. But that's something that you would
608
00:32:52.880 --> 00:32:57.319
notice immediately upon meeting someone. So meeting someone new, thinking
609
00:32:57.359 --> 00:32:59.960
that you've upgraded, not even upgrade, but thinking that you've
610
00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:03.000
leveled up, and then you'll ignow, you'll realizing that one
611
00:33:03.039 --> 00:33:06.519
moment like no, I'm above this person. This person is
612
00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:08.519
like reminding me of the past or something like that.
613
00:33:08.559 --> 00:33:10.960
But it may not even be that that person's reminding
614
00:33:10.960 --> 00:33:12.319
you of the past. It could just be that you're
615
00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:15.720
just still stuck in that lack of understanding or ability
616
00:33:15.799 --> 00:33:17.599
to process correct.
617
00:33:17.720 --> 00:33:19.799
You know, And I know you're right though, because I
618
00:33:19.839 --> 00:33:22.440
feel like a lot of us we we we dwell
619
00:33:22.480 --> 00:33:24.240
on the past. But then at the same time, we
620
00:33:24.400 --> 00:33:28.680
always feel that we could either one fix somebody or
621
00:33:28.759 --> 00:33:31.000
upgrade them, and then that's the problem. The problem is
622
00:33:31.039 --> 00:33:33.079
it's like I like, my whole thing is, it's like
623
00:33:33.160 --> 00:33:36.640
I can't go into a situation thinking I could change
624
00:33:36.640 --> 00:33:40.000
somebody like I can't because it's just like I'm gonna
625
00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:41.880
I'm gonna fall flat on my face because it's just
626
00:33:41.880 --> 00:33:43.519
one of those things. Whereas it's like you're gonna get
627
00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:47.799
You're gonna I'm gonna drain myself so much more by
628
00:33:47.920 --> 00:33:50.119
trying to change you. I'm not even living my own life.
629
00:33:50.119 --> 00:33:52.960
I'm like, yo, God, damn iv yourself. You do you
630
00:33:53.000 --> 00:33:55.359
do because you lose yourself in that path of being like,
631
00:33:55.400 --> 00:33:58.039
hold on, we're supposed to be growing together, right, I'm
632
00:33:58.079 --> 00:33:59.200
just over here, just.
633
00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:03.839
Carrying the weight. And then when I when you when
634
00:34:03.880 --> 00:34:04.640
I stop, and then.
635
00:34:04.559 --> 00:34:14.000
It's like, wait, okay, God, story time, what's the boldest
636
00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:17.079
thing you've ever done? For love? Talk to me? What's crazy?
637
00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:19.760
Let's get crazy?
638
00:34:21.079 --> 00:34:23.760
Wait you go for us? It's your turn, is it?
639
00:34:27.280 --> 00:34:29.360
Oh my god, off of where you go?
640
00:34:31.559 --> 00:34:34.079
That's not a fair question. I don't have to answer
641
00:34:34.119 --> 00:34:34.519
the question.
642
00:34:37.960 --> 00:34:46.480
Damn, the boldest thing I guess, I guess, you know
643
00:34:46.559 --> 00:35:00.480
what is proposing hoping that my significant other would would
644
00:35:00.519 --> 00:35:05.320
fought like would would would understand my grind to understand
645
00:35:05.440 --> 00:35:11.079
that this is what I would like for her. That
646
00:35:11.159 --> 00:35:15.719
was probably the boldest thing because I wasn't sure. But
647
00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:17.800
at the same time, it was one of those things
648
00:35:17.840 --> 00:35:20.960
where I was like, yo, you know what, what if
649
00:35:22.960 --> 00:35:27.880
I were to do this propose and you know, say
650
00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:30.159
that I want to marry you and all that extra stuff,
651
00:35:30.199 --> 00:35:35.840
and me hoping that, you know, throughout my career and
652
00:35:35.960 --> 00:35:41.880
journey playing football with all my inspiration, my drive, my hustle,
653
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:47.239
my motivation would spill off on her to be motivated
654
00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:51.639
to do what she wanted to do. And she didn't happen.
655
00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:54.920
So I think that was probably the boldest thing I
656
00:35:54.920 --> 00:35:58.079
did for love. Propose.
657
00:35:59.320 --> 00:36:01.360
That isn't part of love proposing?
658
00:36:02.360 --> 00:36:06.039
It is? Is it? I think? So? Like I was,
659
00:36:06.280 --> 00:36:08.880
it was, it was it was I was hoping that
660
00:36:09.039 --> 00:36:12.679
you know, that would be the yeah, okay, wow, okay,
661
00:36:12.679 --> 00:36:14.800
this is serious, Like you know what, let me take
662
00:36:14.840 --> 00:36:17.480
this serious, like I'm gonna go ahead.
663
00:36:17.679 --> 00:36:21.280
You made the decision to make her your forever. Yes,
664
00:36:22.480 --> 00:36:25.519
So your boldest decision of love is to make someone
665
00:36:25.599 --> 00:36:29.159
your friend, decide to make them your Yes, okay, she
666
00:36:29.239 --> 00:36:30.880
said yes, She said yes.
667
00:36:31.800 --> 00:36:35.679
Then I tripped fell on my face. Pie everything pie.
668
00:36:36.000 --> 00:36:37.239
It was. It was all fox.
669
00:36:37.280 --> 00:36:41.599
It was like all fox, but there was some sweetest
670
00:36:41.599 --> 00:36:41.800
in it.
671
00:36:41.880 --> 00:36:47.760
Pie sweet. Just think be a little pie. Sweet could
672
00:36:47.760 --> 00:36:52.639
have been so sweetest in this. No, no, it was.
673
00:36:52.679 --> 00:36:53.360
It was all right.
674
00:36:53.519 --> 00:36:55.960
Then it was bittersweet. There you go, there you go.
675
00:36:56.119 --> 00:37:01.039
Okay, the boldest thing I have done for love.
676
00:37:03.639 --> 00:37:04.280
To love.
677
00:37:08.360 --> 00:37:11.400
I don't know if this if you considered bold. See
678
00:37:11.400 --> 00:37:14.599
I'm different. I'm not your average because I don't feel
679
00:37:14.639 --> 00:37:17.920
like there's ever a limit if I'm loving someone. I
680
00:37:18.000 --> 00:37:22.760
never said like a a bar. Yeah, if I love you,
681
00:37:23.440 --> 00:37:24.079
there's no bar.
682
00:37:24.599 --> 00:37:29.079
Okay, Yeah, no, I mean yeah, like you know what
683
00:37:29.119 --> 00:37:29.320
I mean.
684
00:37:31.239 --> 00:37:36.559
But I would say overstay.
685
00:37:34.920 --> 00:37:39.079
Okay, Yeah, that's fair, that's well.
686
00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:43.880
Overstaining feel like a lot of people, I think that's
687
00:37:44.000 --> 00:37:48.400
like yeah, because I feel like physical materialistic things is
688
00:37:48.480 --> 00:37:52.760
kind of like, okay, big deal, it might be big
689
00:37:52.800 --> 00:37:53.960
somebody else with me, I'm just like.
690
00:37:53.920 --> 00:37:59.400
Okay, whatever, Yeah, like overstaying like because because I see
691
00:37:59.400 --> 00:38:01.199
so grew, or.
692
00:38:03.199 --> 00:38:06.159
Because for me, I don't walk away easy. I like
693
00:38:06.199 --> 00:38:11.760
to exhaust every single possible option, Yeah, to try and
694
00:38:12.519 --> 00:38:16.199
fix and then it hits me like hard, and it's
695
00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:19.840
like right, life to saits you and it's like all right,
696
00:38:19.840 --> 00:38:21.800
well they walk away because it's like I should have
697
00:38:21.880 --> 00:38:23.480
left long time, but you know what I mean.
698
00:38:24.719 --> 00:38:26.960
But it's like despite what you see, you know what
699
00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:29.400
I mean? When you love, you love hard, and it's.
700
00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:31.119
Like and that's what I'm saying. You and I feel
701
00:38:31.119 --> 00:38:32.880
like we we do that a lot.
702
00:38:33.000 --> 00:38:36.840
But I'm an old soul, so I was raised culturally
703
00:38:37.000 --> 00:38:42.239
by my grandparents, So grandmothers, I should say. And it's
704
00:38:42.280 --> 00:38:44.719
those Yeah, those are from the Islands under would understand
705
00:38:44.760 --> 00:38:45.119
what I mean.
706
00:38:45.159 --> 00:38:46.800
So yeah, it's it's more traditional.
707
00:38:46.920 --> 00:38:53.320
Yeah, over saying okay, I don't know, am I have you?
708
00:38:54.280 --> 00:38:59.119
People? Have you ever had a crush you weren't supposed
709
00:38:59.159 --> 00:39:01.800
to have? Once again, people, have you ever had a
710
00:39:01.840 --> 00:39:04.199
crush you weren't supposed to have?
711
00:39:04.320 --> 00:39:05.000
Where that's what.
712
00:39:04.960 --> 00:39:07.800
We're going, Oh that I was not supposed to have
713
00:39:12.039 --> 00:39:13.880
a crush, like a hard crush, just like okay, I
714
00:39:13.920 --> 00:39:19.840
like that guy, Like it was like, yeah, oh do
715
00:39:20.039 --> 00:39:23.599
I answer this? My son's gonna be like mom, no,
716
00:39:23.679 --> 00:39:24.119
you don't.
717
00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:28.440
Have to put the person out there on blast you can, yes,
718
00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:38.159
was it was? It? Was it hard to like separated
719
00:39:38.440 --> 00:39:38.960
or was it?
720
00:39:39.000 --> 00:39:39.039
Was?
721
00:39:39.079 --> 00:39:39.800
It kind of like.
722
00:39:40.440 --> 00:39:46.440
Okay, deciding crush, I see you, Hey, I never fell
723
00:39:46.480 --> 00:39:46.960
into it.
724
00:39:47.000 --> 00:39:58.280
But no, do what that's so wrong? Absolutely no, put.
725
00:39:58.119 --> 00:40:07.480
The shades on, like, okay, I like everybody has disrespect.
726
00:40:07.920 --> 00:40:11.440
I feel like everybody has. I feel like everyone's crushed
727
00:40:11.480 --> 00:40:12.760
on somebody that was supposed to.
728
00:40:12.719 --> 00:40:16.599
Crush like, but then crushing on someone that you're not
729
00:40:16.599 --> 00:40:18.599
supposed to crush on is like somebody that's already taken.
730
00:40:19.320 --> 00:40:22.960
Yeah, someone that someone's not taking, someone someone that's not
731
00:40:23.320 --> 00:40:28.760
already taken, or somebody's that not in your reach. Because
732
00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:30.800
you can still crush on someone that's in your reach. Yeah,
733
00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:31.079
you can.
734
00:40:31.960 --> 00:40:33.519
What's considered not in your reach.
735
00:40:33.880 --> 00:40:39.159
Not in your reach meaning that it's a long.
736
00:40:39.039 --> 00:40:42.159
Distance, that's a flight or train.
737
00:40:43.239 --> 00:40:52.719
Wow, it's like a flight, train ride. What's up? I'm outside,
738
00:40:52.880 --> 00:40:55.000
We've grown outside.
739
00:40:55.960 --> 00:41:01.559
No, that's crazy, I'm outside. You know well, you know what, yes,
740
00:41:02.039 --> 00:41:06.039
you forget it, never mind not that I've done.
741
00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:08.920
But no, but that's that that is interesting. I feel
742
00:41:08.920 --> 00:41:12.440
like I feel like we've all had that that one
743
00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:16.880
one crush that we were Yeah, Okay, what about this.
744
00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:19.719
What's something that you ignored that you knew was a
745
00:41:19.760 --> 00:41:22.840
red flag? Guys? I know everybody has this. What's something
746
00:41:22.840 --> 00:41:25.719
that you ignored that you knew was a red flag?
747
00:41:26.920 --> 00:41:27.960
That you was asch.
748
00:41:30.519 --> 00:41:44.360
Ignored anything everything joking, guys, sort of kind of something
749
00:41:44.360 --> 00:41:48.360
I ignored that I knew was a red flag? Again?
750
00:41:48.400 --> 00:41:51.239
And what are we just speaking relationships or were speaking
751
00:41:51.239 --> 00:41:52.559
to speaking relationship?
752
00:41:57.280 --> 00:41:58.800
Because I know in general it was just you.
753
00:41:58.719 --> 00:42:01.159
Know what I mean, I mean, no, I just want
754
00:42:01.199 --> 00:42:03.239
to know what direction to go in, you said in
755
00:42:03.280 --> 00:42:04.559
the tone you're asking the questions.
756
00:42:04.719 --> 00:42:06.719
Yeah, no relationship, because you know what I mean, I feel
757
00:42:06.719 --> 00:42:09.719
like that's the only that's the only that's the indication
758
00:42:09.800 --> 00:42:11.400
of a red flag. I guess you know.
759
00:42:14.840 --> 00:42:20.599
Something that I knew that was a real flag the
760
00:42:20.719 --> 00:42:23.719
lack of communication or inconsistency.
761
00:42:24.559 --> 00:42:26.519
Okay, okay, I'm.
762
00:42:26.320 --> 00:42:27.400
Big on consistency.
763
00:42:28.000 --> 00:42:28.320
Okay.
764
00:42:28.360 --> 00:42:35.239
And when I noticed the rhythm of being inconsistent and like,
765
00:42:35.280 --> 00:42:39.360
oh well maybe you know beautiful justifications.
766
00:42:40.440 --> 00:42:44.119
No, I'm want you ye Mines, was you know, obviously.
767
00:42:44.559 --> 00:42:48.519
Mhm, the pie in the face.
768
00:42:50.960 --> 00:42:52.360
I knew it was a red flag, but I was
769
00:42:52.400 --> 00:42:58.119
just like, you know what, but she said yes, yeah, okay,
770
00:42:58.239 --> 00:43:00.559
that's fine, as she said yes. But at the same time,
771
00:43:00.599 --> 00:43:02.039
it was just like I was a red flag. I
772
00:43:02.079 --> 00:43:04.639
was like seen the red flags. Like I'm like, damn, like,
773
00:43:04.840 --> 00:43:07.480
is this is this gonna be it for the whole
774
00:43:07.559 --> 00:43:10.159
time or before? That's what I'm saying.
775
00:43:10.480 --> 00:43:11.519
But that's asking.
776
00:43:11.599 --> 00:43:16.679
Before you know, you did that, you did a little home,
777
00:43:17.440 --> 00:43:19.639
you did a little hom you did something like.
778
00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:23.800
I mean, you still chose you overlooked it.
779
00:43:25.599 --> 00:43:28.480
I mean, so I'm the do dude.
780
00:43:29.079 --> 00:43:37.559
Yeah, I don't know.
781
00:43:35.880 --> 00:43:38.920
What sounds like a dish.
782
00:43:41.119 --> 00:43:45.360
I hit you right, it sounds like a dish. Really disrespect.
783
00:43:47.039 --> 00:43:48.559
We're gonna have a little bit of a hot take
784
00:43:48.639 --> 00:43:49.199
really quick.
785
00:43:50.079 --> 00:43:50.559
Were hot?
786
00:43:51.079 --> 00:43:52.800
No? These were not hot? All right, so listen, this
787
00:43:52.880 --> 00:43:58.360
is fast, uncomfortable course, honestly, okay, all right, to be
788
00:43:58.440 --> 00:44:04.079
honest always, what's the last lie you're told in the relationship?
789
00:44:04.119 --> 00:44:07.079
Stop it? Come on, yo, listen, yo, listen, listen. I'm
790
00:44:07.079 --> 00:44:09.639
gonna tell you right now. I'm telling you right now.
791
00:44:10.679 --> 00:44:15.480
You want some reckless stuff, let me see these questions.
792
00:44:14.679 --> 00:44:15.840
Because you on a whole.
793
00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:27.559
What was the last lie you told in relationship? The
794
00:44:27.679 --> 00:44:31.760
last lie told in the relationship that was like Yo, I
795
00:44:31.840 --> 00:44:36.880
was out, I was out with the boys. I downplayed
796
00:44:37.159 --> 00:44:39.920
that we was having fun. I'm not gonna lie. It
797
00:44:40.079 --> 00:44:43.159
was having bad fun like you know how like you
798
00:44:43.159 --> 00:44:44.599
know what you know when you get that phone call
799
00:44:44.679 --> 00:44:47.000
like this, you know you you get here? What's up?
800
00:44:47.639 --> 00:44:48.079
Wow?
801
00:44:48.960 --> 00:44:55.960
No we just here know when she knows you lying? Wow?
802
00:44:57.599 --> 00:45:07.199
No, we might just chill for the night. Yeah, okay,
803
00:45:07.320 --> 00:45:08.639
I get some rest. Love it too.
804
00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:11.039
That's crazy.
805
00:45:10.280 --> 00:45:13.840
You realize that all the men that's watching this right
806
00:45:13.880 --> 00:45:15.559
now is like, why are you putting a sound blast
807
00:45:15.639 --> 00:45:18.199
right now? Even though we already know we can tell
808
00:45:18.320 --> 00:45:21.320
because okay, guys, guys, I didn't put nobody on blasts
809
00:45:21.320 --> 00:45:22.519
because you know you.
810
00:45:22.639 --> 00:45:24.440
Okay, God, I'm talking to you.
811
00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:25.599
I'm just talking to you, big dog.
812
00:45:25.960 --> 00:45:29.239
Listen. Look, remember your girl. Remember what you did with
813
00:45:29.280 --> 00:45:32.360
your girl? Right, Remember the last time you had fun
814
00:45:32.679 --> 00:45:36.280
and she was so big mad, like nobody wants you
815
00:45:36.280 --> 00:45:38.440
to hear you having fun, like oh my god, like
816
00:45:38.599 --> 00:45:43.519
oh you out there so yo. But you know what
817
00:45:43.559 --> 00:45:46.079
I'm saying, like, Yo, there's certain people that could understand
818
00:45:46.159 --> 00:45:49.559
having fun, and then other people they heat on your
819
00:45:49.639 --> 00:45:51.639
fun like they don't want you to be happy. Like
820
00:45:51.880 --> 00:45:53.599
I feel like there's a lot of times that people
821
00:45:53.639 --> 00:45:56.559
do that. They'll sit there and they'll be like, that's
822
00:45:56.599 --> 00:46:02.360
what's up, that's what up. But it's both ways.
823
00:46:02.559 --> 00:46:06.679
But are you communicating going out to have so?
824
00:46:06.719 --> 00:46:08.480
Then why not just saying we're having a great time.
825
00:46:08.920 --> 00:46:12.159
But let me say something women never ask, well, let's
826
00:46:12.159 --> 00:46:14.719
say mature women never ask a question they don't already
827
00:46:14.800 --> 00:46:17.679
know the answer to it number one or we're.
828
00:46:17.480 --> 00:46:21.840
Close enough to it. And sometimes it's like call it petty,
829
00:46:21.880 --> 00:46:22.920
call it what you want whatever.
830
00:46:23.239 --> 00:46:25.199
It's like a petty game that we both play right
831
00:46:25.239 --> 00:46:27.639
on both sides, kind of like hey, just checking in, like, oh,
832
00:46:27.679 --> 00:46:29.440
how's it going, just to see because we already know
833
00:46:29.480 --> 00:46:31.039
you're going to bullshit. We already know you're not going
834
00:46:31.119 --> 00:46:32.840
to say, hey, I'm having a great time because as
835
00:46:32.920 --> 00:46:36.119
the exam prime example, you just presented it as no
836
00:46:36.119 --> 00:46:41.159
one wants to know, it's gonna hate. Okay, no one
837
00:46:41.159 --> 00:46:41.760
wants to know.
838
00:46:45.039 --> 00:46:47.239
Now I'm yogi, no tell them how what you call
839
00:46:47.320 --> 00:46:47.840
me the other day?
840
00:46:47.920 --> 00:46:51.719
That need to hear that. Yeah, I'll tell you guys
841
00:46:51.760 --> 00:46:59.920
before we disrespect. But you deflected what was the lie?
842
00:47:06.400 --> 00:47:07.920
We were going in another direction?
843
00:47:08.559 --> 00:47:10.840
I was like an open up for the next a
844
00:47:10.960 --> 00:47:16.159
lie that I've told, the worst lie or the last.
845
00:47:18.000 --> 00:47:21.840
I'm okay, okay, that's it. That's nasty. That is a
846
00:47:21.960 --> 00:47:24.760
nasty lie. That's a nasty one. Guys, you know what's
847
00:47:24.760 --> 00:47:27.320
a nasty lie? IM okay, it's all right, I'm sure.
848
00:47:28.360 --> 00:47:36.000
Wow are you? Wow? Wow? Okay? We we did address this,
849
00:47:36.039 --> 00:47:41.079
so I'm gonna skip that one. Do you actually want
850
00:47:41.159 --> 00:47:49.039
an independent partner or someone who just sounds independent? Once again?
851
00:47:49.280 --> 00:47:54.039
Do you actually want an independent partner or someone who
852
00:47:54.239 --> 00:47:56.639
sounds independent? I mean, like you know what I mean?
853
00:47:56.920 --> 00:47:58.800
In other words, I feel like, you know, somebody that
854
00:47:58.880 --> 00:48:01.639
can't like that can carry themselves like that, they don't
855
00:48:01.679 --> 00:48:02.880
need nobody really like.
856
00:48:02.840 --> 00:48:05.239
You know what I mean, I would want someone independent.
857
00:48:05.400 --> 00:48:07.599
I don't I can't imagine someone's sounding.
858
00:48:07.239 --> 00:48:12.039
Independence well because you know, talk to talk like everyone
859
00:48:12.039 --> 00:48:13.800
can talk to with a game, talking to a game, you
860
00:48:13.840 --> 00:48:16.400
know what I mean, versus the actions where they speak. Okay,
861
00:48:16.440 --> 00:48:18.840
hold on, I just think it seems needy as hell,
862
00:48:18.920 --> 00:48:21.159
like you know what I mean. So there's just different
863
00:48:21.239 --> 00:48:23.000
levels of you know what I mean? So you say
864
00:48:23.039 --> 00:48:23.960
you would like someone, I.
865
00:48:23.880 --> 00:48:27.440
Would say not the highest level of independence, because again
866
00:48:29.360 --> 00:48:31.360
I guess, well, my level language is all of them.
867
00:48:31.400 --> 00:48:35.760
But the way that I give is I would still
868
00:48:35.760 --> 00:48:38.159
want you to want me, like allow me to still
869
00:48:38.440 --> 00:48:41.639
help and provide. But it's a healthy balance. But yeah,
870
00:48:41.639 --> 00:48:45.320
I wouldn't want someone independent because that shows maturity and
871
00:48:45.360 --> 00:48:47.840
being able to just handle things and not being like
872
00:48:49.360 --> 00:48:52.880
needing me every single second, because I still need to
873
00:48:53.079 --> 00:48:55.760
have a silence for myself to kind of regroup, right,
874
00:48:55.800 --> 00:48:58.039
and you and being independent, you can regroup and figure
875
00:48:58.079 --> 00:48:59.559
your shit out yourself and then come back.
876
00:48:59.599 --> 00:49:02.039
And yeah, so I would dependent with her.
877
00:49:02.119 --> 00:49:07.760
I'm with her independent. Same here here is needing space
878
00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:14.760
real or just a soft breakup? See listen, guys, guys.
879
00:49:16.519 --> 00:49:17.800
Is there a timeline?
880
00:49:18.719 --> 00:49:23.000
Is need space real or is it just a soft breakup?
881
00:49:23.440 --> 00:49:29.400
I would say it depends on a soft breakup.
882
00:49:29.440 --> 00:49:30.000
Don't do that.
883
00:49:31.000 --> 00:49:34.159
Here's why I looked at I look at things in
884
00:49:34.199 --> 00:49:36.800
both perspectives, right. I was raised on my grandmother's I
885
00:49:36.840 --> 00:49:38.800
was also raised around a lot of men, so I
886
00:49:38.880 --> 00:49:41.559
kind of can see a man's perspective. As I know
887
00:49:41.639 --> 00:49:43.239
no one will agree with that, but whatever, not that
888
00:49:43.280 --> 00:49:50.239
I asked, I I would say, it's not a soft
889
00:49:50.480 --> 00:49:52.519
it depends on how long you've been involved with the
890
00:49:52.519 --> 00:50:00.760
person because again finding the balance. Sometimes you just your space.
891
00:50:00.880 --> 00:50:04.199
And sometimes if we're like right now we're conversing, right,
892
00:50:04.239 --> 00:50:06.760
and then this thing that we just can't agree to disagree,
893
00:50:07.760 --> 00:50:08.519
you may need a second.
894
00:50:08.519 --> 00:50:10.079
I'm may need a second, Like it's okay to kind
895
00:50:10.079 --> 00:50:10.679
of like, hey, I'm.
896
00:50:10.599 --> 00:50:12.559
Gonna go here, you're gonna go there, and then we'll
897
00:50:12.920 --> 00:50:15.760
regroup and then and a lot of times you can't
898
00:50:15.800 --> 00:50:21.039
really have a productive discussion, especially when there's emotions evolved
899
00:50:21.199 --> 00:50:26.119
because it's your everyone's on high guard, like everything's.
900
00:50:25.400 --> 00:50:26.480
Like the top.
901
00:50:26.559 --> 00:50:28.400
Everybody wants approvable, right.
902
00:50:28.599 --> 00:50:31.679
It's over the top. Well, you're not listening to understand.
903
00:50:31.719 --> 00:50:34.639
You're listening to respond rather than listening to understand. And
904
00:50:34.679 --> 00:50:39.360
that happens more often than we even realize. No, I
905
00:50:39.360 --> 00:50:41.920
think space is good, it's just how long of a space.
906
00:50:41.960 --> 00:50:44.840
Like if your space is like, oh, you're here's the
907
00:50:44.840 --> 00:50:47.119
other thing. People like to justify their space or use
908
00:50:47.119 --> 00:50:48.639
it as an excuse to be able to go out
909
00:50:48.719 --> 00:50:50.599
and things like that. Right, so it's like I need
910
00:50:50.639 --> 00:50:52.000
my space. I'm gonna go all my boys like for
911
00:50:52.079 --> 00:50:53.840
the next three four days or whatever. And it's like
912
00:50:53.840 --> 00:50:55.920
wait a minute, like what are we doing here, right,
913
00:50:56.000 --> 00:50:58.280
So it depends on the situation.
914
00:50:58.519 --> 00:51:00.400
But I don't think that it's a soft take up
915
00:51:00.960 --> 00:51:01.320
mm hmm.
916
00:51:01.559 --> 00:51:06.320
If it's if it's short lived, if it's a day, right, yeah, but.
917
00:51:06.280 --> 00:51:10.760
Then it's like you live the person. Yeah, has a
918
00:51:10.760 --> 00:51:11.559
lot to do with it.
919
00:51:12.039 --> 00:51:13.960
I don't know if you've ever seen a movie the
920
00:51:14.000 --> 00:51:19.800
breakup with Vince Vaughan and what's her name, Jennifer Anderson.
921
00:51:20.880 --> 00:51:24.079
That's good because they was living together whatever, Reverend, But
922
00:51:24.840 --> 00:51:27.639
I hear what you're saying. I guess it is it
923
00:51:27.719 --> 00:51:32.239
is the turrent based off of the length of that
924
00:51:32.599 --> 00:51:33.920
of that actual space.
925
00:51:34.360 --> 00:51:36.039
And if you're living with a person, or if your
926
00:51:36.079 --> 00:51:38.239
routine is the kind of like you're there every night
927
00:51:38.400 --> 00:51:40.559
like whatever, that I feel like that routine plays a
928
00:51:40.599 --> 00:51:43.400
major part.
929
00:51:41.719 --> 00:51:47.199
Okay, guys, answer your question.
930
00:51:48.599 --> 00:51:50.119
I mean, have I been answering the question?
931
00:51:50.440 --> 00:51:52.039
Yeah you have? Okay, we got two more. We got
932
00:51:52.039 --> 00:51:52.400
two more.
933
00:51:53.159 --> 00:51:54.960
Just mhm.
934
00:51:57.920 --> 00:52:03.079
Do you prefer giving love or controlling how you receive it?
935
00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:04.480
Talk to me?
936
00:52:05.320 --> 00:52:06.760
Why am I answering all the questions? First?
937
00:52:06.800 --> 00:52:07.559
Okay? First of ok.
938
00:52:09.280 --> 00:52:13.239
Anyway, I already answered anyway, I prefer giving Okay, I
939
00:52:13.280 --> 00:52:15.639
would never want to control how I'm receiving it, because
940
00:52:15.639 --> 00:52:19.360
then it's nothing. It's not I want you, you say,
941
00:52:19.440 --> 00:52:21.639
because you genuinely want to you out.
942
00:52:23.039 --> 00:52:25.760
That or she was like, yeah, I'm with you. I'm
943
00:52:25.760 --> 00:52:28.280
the same way. I'm the same way. I'm a very
944
00:52:31.519 --> 00:52:35.000
great listener, a great listener. So you know what I mean.
945
00:52:35.599 --> 00:52:41.239
I tend to do little things that will, you know,
946
00:52:41.519 --> 00:52:43.639
possibly put a smile on someone's face, you know what
947
00:52:43.679 --> 00:52:44.000
I mean.
948
00:52:44.039 --> 00:52:46.760
So does that make you smile?
949
00:52:46.840 --> 00:52:49.039
Though? It does make me smile, like you know what
950
00:52:49.079 --> 00:52:50.960
I mean, Like I'm like, oh, like this, you know
951
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:52.159
what I mean. It's like it's just one of those
952
00:52:52.199 --> 00:52:56.599
things where and you know, obviously like I thought about you,
953
00:52:56.599 --> 00:52:57.840
you know what I mean, it's one of those things
954
00:52:57.840 --> 00:53:00.599
where you wasn't expected or you know what I mean.
955
00:53:00.639 --> 00:53:06.320
It's it's the unexpected, the unexpected things that that you get,
956
00:53:06.360 --> 00:53:09.840
like or unexpected gifts, and you're like, oh damn, all right,
957
00:53:10.239 --> 00:53:10.719
she brought me a.
958
00:53:13.639 --> 00:53:17.599
Crazy I'm sorry, but yeah, I get it, I get it.
959
00:53:17.760 --> 00:53:21.840
I've done it all right. Last one you didn't answer it.
960
00:53:22.039 --> 00:53:25.400
I did. I said love, I thought you were just.
961
00:53:25.400 --> 00:53:27.960
A lot example. Sorry my apologies.
962
00:53:28.639 --> 00:53:33.280
I didn't get all loud mic though, because like you
963
00:53:33.400 --> 00:53:34.360
real loud on my end.
964
00:53:39.880 --> 00:53:45.239
Listen, what's one thing that you want in a partner
965
00:53:45.320 --> 00:53:51.199
that you don't bring to the table. It's tough. What
966
00:53:51.199 --> 00:53:53.320
what's one thing you want in a partner that you
967
00:53:53.400 --> 00:53:54.320
don't bring to the tab?
968
00:53:55.320 --> 00:53:59.599
I am the same, not the sucking.
969
00:53:59.320 --> 00:54:02.320
The tea here. I can't reach the top shelf.
970
00:54:02.400 --> 00:54:05.679
I So we talked about height. Nobody even knows how
971
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tall I am. We looked similar. Right now, who's talking
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about height? That's not even part of the questions ahead?
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What was a question?
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What's one thing you want in a partner that you
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don't bring?
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Uh? That one? I mean, there's nothing that I don't bring.
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I don't know.
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That's a tough one. I gotta sit on that one.
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I gotta sit on that one. I don't know because
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mm hmmm, that I don't bring. I mean, I can't
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say masculinity because I definitely.
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Feel like I prom.
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I have to wander down, like.
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You have to water me down. That's cute, you tell.
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Uh, I don't know, you.
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Go that I don't bring to the table. I feel
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like you know, I you know, I'm obviously more of
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a masculine guy, like I don't bring the.
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Oh, I don't go flow.
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Everyone knows that.
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I bring that I don't.
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Don't. Don't do that. Stop that. Yo. It's like, yo,
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you got crazy right there. I would I would say,
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you know, the soft touch, I don't have too much
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of a soft touch, you know, I could. I could
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say that, you know, meaning that I'm you know, I
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you know, like I feel like you know, every like
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like strong masculine man like I just don't. I don't
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have I don't have soft touch at certain certain periods
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of time.
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Like you know, like physically or just.
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Yeah, physically, like you know what I mean. Like I
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just don't have like the soft touch for certain things,
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like you know, like the core or like like the
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little things like you know, I feel like I lack
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in that department where you're not only making a home
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feel a home, but like you know, just just that
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certain things like me even like like my niece, Like
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I could, I would show you guys a picture, but
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like I was like, oh, this is crazy, you know
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what I mean, Like I don't have like I don't
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it's you know what I mean. For for a female,
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it's more just natural. Oh my god, and blah blah bah.
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I'm like, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You know. But
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see that's what I'm saying. So like that's what I'm saying.
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I don't have that, you know what I mean. That's
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so that's what I don't. You know, that's not the
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relationship what you mean, Yes, it is the soft touch
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in a relationship.
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Of course, I'm not convinced that your real reasons. That's
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not a greatest sample. Give me another Sorry, I'm sorry.
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It didn't make sense to me.
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No, I'm talking about the soft touch though, like the
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soft touch with certain things, like I feel like a
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lot of males like to like you know, like they.
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Don't have very like you don't know how to cater
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to the woman to find like moments where she got
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at ease or oh.
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I do like I've had to learn it. I have
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to learn it. I've had to learn So where's just
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one of those things where it's it's it's a gradual progression,
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but I need working in that department where having like
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the soft soft touch, like you know what I mean
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very you know, like I don't want to say like
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emotionally more like oh my god, again out there something you.
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Was asked.
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You might as well just for something.
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Right now.
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A voice is not deep, it's my voice deep. My
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voice is not deep.
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Mhm.
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It's nice though, like you're doing the most now. I'm
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not justifying anything, but for you to say that sound
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like jadakiss is crazy.
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Okay. First of all, that I didn't you did?
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I definitely did. It was like late, I was tired.
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None of that was considered.
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Whatsoever?
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You don't know, jadakiss?
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What like?
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Who says that?
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That's listen, listen before we get out of who else
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get here? Do you have any positive or negative.
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Feedback to gives positive and negative feedback?
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Like any any any words of wisdom that you would
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like to give to them, like you know in terms
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of you know, love, growth, happiness, whatever yours.
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True to yourself always learn to be comfortable with yourself
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and your nearror image is your true competitor only and
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true competitor.
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When it comes to love.
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You gotta love yourself first and most always, and be
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strong with communicating and just find your balance with your
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pro because everyone deserves torue.
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Love, damn ship. Sound like you been.
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What Yeah, we'll see.
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You better be the first purchase my whole stack. I mean,
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that's being supportive.
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What do you mean you gotta walk the logs?
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Don't just talk the talk? All right?
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I do do that, guys. A little bit of words
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wisdom before we get out of here. I believe that
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maybe love, maybe the problem isn't finding love hard, but
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more so, maybe we're asking for stuff that we haven't
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become yet.
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Mm hm say that again, say in a nice tone,
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very very white.
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Yeah, can you do very white?
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I don't just like.
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Okay, words of wisdom? People, you know, maybe the problem isn't.
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No rewind because.
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You gotta know what you mean.
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You're a masculine out of it. You gotta stick.
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All right? Listen, all right, So a little bit of
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words of wisdom, people, listen. Maybe the problem isn't that
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love is hard, but more so, maybe that what we're
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asking for we haven't become yet. Right more the story, people,
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niggas be thinking, just because you're laid back, you won't
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lean forward the guys man, listen, man, I want to
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thank you guys for walking out for us for another episode. Listen,
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where could they get you at?
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Nowhere?
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Okay, they can't catch me on the next one.
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The next one, I'm gonna put the thing on the
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bottom so you can deep.
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I don't like people follow me but.
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Negative until the next time. God situtations