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For couples where one of you keeps reaching and the other keeps shutting down, this episode goes underneath the pursue-withdraw pattern to the two attachment fears driving it, "I will be abandoned" and "I will never be enough," and explains why the partner who looks calm is often the most flooded person in the room. By the end you will know why "just calm down" fails the anxious partner, and the two-part agreement (a named return time, a lowered reach) that actually interrupts the cycle. Free consultation with our couples team: https://therapevo.com/couples-counseling/?utm_source=podcast
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