ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Join Dr. Megan Anna Neff and Brett from Neurodivergent Insights as they discuss the conflict between neurodivergent needs and personal values, especially during the holiday season. This conversation expands on insights from Dr. Neff's newsletter, offering valuable perspectives for AuDHD individuals navigating holiday stress relief. Learn about nervous system regulation and how to find neurodivergent support during emotionally complex times.
What do you do when your values and your neurodivergent needs collide — especially during the holidays? In today’s conversation, Dr. Megan Anna Neff (she/they), an autistic ADHDer and clinical psychologist, explores why holiday gatherings often create a painful disconnect for autistic and ADHD adults, even when we deeply value family, connection, and tradition.
We talk about:
Sensory overwhelm during holiday events
The pressure to “enjoy” family gatherings
Why connection can feel out of reach in overstimulating environments
How autistic shutdowns and sensory barriers block access to our values
How to identify your core values (autonomy, stability, meaningful work, etc.)
How to realign holiday expectations with your neurodivergent needs
The difference between cultural expectations vs. authentic connection
What “values-based decision making” looks like for autistic/ADHD adults
How to create holidays that actually support your nervous system
This episode expands on Dr. Neff’s original essay about experiencing their first Thanksgiving after their autism diagnosis, and the surprising insight that helped her understand why holidays had always felt so hard, which you can read here: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/navigating-clashing-values/
🧰 Resources Mentioned
Free Values Sort Tool:
https://www.think2perform.com/values/
Use the same tool we referenced in this conversation to explore your own core values.
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Self-Care for Autistic People:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1507221932?tag=myndwebsite20-20&linkCode=osi&th=1&psc=1
The Autistic Burnout Workbook:
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autistic-burnout-workbook/
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🧡 About Neurodivergent Insights
Dr. Megan Anna Neff (she/they) is an Autistic-ADHD clinical psychologist who blends research, clinical insight, and lived experience to make sense of adult neurodivergence. She creates clear, compassionate, neurodivergent-affirming education for autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, and for the clinicians who support them.
Dr. Neff is also the author of Self Care for Autistic People and The Autistic Burnout Workbook. They are also the creator of NeurodivergentInsights.com
Each video offers practical tools, grounded explanations, and honest conversations about sensory health, burnout, masking, identity, and everyday neurodivergent life, living with ADHD and Autism.
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