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Quitting toxic environments is self-respect.
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Quitting expectations that force you to compromise your values is integrity.
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Not all quitting is failure.
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Sometimes quitting is clarity.
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Sometimes quitting is alignment.
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Sometimes quitting brings on a whole new life that you never thought possible.
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Welcome to Mojo Co., the podcast for unapologetic midlife women who are done playing small, done guessing, and done fighting their body instead of understanding it.
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I'm your host, Katie Fleet, and this podcast is for women who are ready to get their mojo back.
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Their confidence, their power, and the connection to their body back.
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We talk hormones, confidence, body image, relationships, and real life with zero filters and absolutely no BF.
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Nothing is off limits here.
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If you're ready to feel powerful in your body again and remember who the heck you are, you're exactly where you belong.
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Let's go.
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Well, hello, beauty queens, and welcome back to Mojo Co.
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Podcast.
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So there is a lie that gets drilled into us from the time we are little.
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And it's this you've probably heard this.
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Quitters never win.
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In fact, you might have even said it before.
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I know I have, right?
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Okay, so we grew up believing that quitting is failure.
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And there are instances when that is true.
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Okay, I'm not saying that, but I do want you to listen to this.
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We're told the answer is always to push harder, stay committed, you know, keep grinding, stay in something, maybe even if you're uncomfortable.
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But I want to challenge that belief today because some of the most powerful transformations in my life and in other people's lives that I've watched, that I've got the privilege of witnessing didn't happen because I pushed harder or because they pushed harder.
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They happened because I quit.
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Think about that for a second.
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Bad habits.
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Yeah, it's a good thing.
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It's a great thing if you quit.
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Bad habits.
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I quit environments that didn't align with my values.
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That's a really great thing.
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Quitting expectations that were never yours to carry.
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That's a great thing.
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But here's the thing that a lot of people actually end up missing.
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You cannot become a better version of yourself without quitting the things that are keeping you stuck.
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Okay, so let's think about something for a second.
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Nobody questions quitting when it comes to bad habits.
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So if someone quits smoking, like we celebrate them, right?
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And we should.
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That is a really big deal.
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If someone quits drinking because it's hurting their life, we applaud them.
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That is a well, most people do.
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Okay.
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That that is a beautiful form of discipline.
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If someone quits eating food that makes them feel terrible, that's a really great thing.
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Okay.
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We understand that quitting the wrong things is how people actually evolve.
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Would you agree?
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I would say that you probably would.
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Okay.
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But the second you're thinking about quitting a job, quitting a relationship, quitting an environment, quitting an identity, suddenly everyone says, just push through.
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Suck it up.
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Don't give up.
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Stay committed.
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You know?
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But I'm gonna challenge that because what if the thing you're pushing through is actually the thing that's holding you back?
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Think about that.
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And this is where so many women, so many people get it wrong.
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They assume that if something isn't working, the solution needs to be more effort, more discipline, more grinding, more sacrifice, more whatever.
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So they stay.
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They keep pushing in environments that absolutely freaking drain the living crap out of them.
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Okay.
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They stay loyal to roles that we that require them to compromise who they really are.
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They st they stay committed to habits, routines, um expectations that don't actually serve or align with the life that they want.
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And so when it doesn't feel right, they blame themselves, right?
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They assume that the problem must be their effort.
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Okay.
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The problem is that they just don't want it bad enough.
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But sometimes the problem isn't that, it's not your effort.
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Sometimes the problem is your direction.
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And if you are running, think about it.
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If you are running full speed in the wrong direction, all that effort just takes you further away from the life that you actually want.
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All right, quick pause to talk about my company, MojoFitCo, because this deserves a moment.
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MojoFitco is built for midlife women who feel off in their body and are just tired of being told to eat less, move more, and deal with it.
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All right.
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Women babbling hormones, belly fat that comes out of nowhere, low energy, mood swings, and the constant feeling of why do I not feel like myself anymore?
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Now look, this is not a basic fitness program, and it is definitely not built by Jim Rose or 20-year-old influencers.
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Mojo Fitco is built for women by women, designed specifically for this phase of life.
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Inside, we don't guess, we don't punish your body, and we don't hand you another plan that you gotta figure out on your own.
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We look at the full picture.
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For moments, metabolism, stress, lifestyle, everything that you need, all under one roof.
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Because you are never too old to get your mojo back, I can assure you that.
00:07:21.199 --> 00:07:28.000
And you also need support from someone that actually understands the female body at this stage of life.
00:07:28.160 --> 00:07:45.360
So if you're ready to feel strong, sexy, clear-headed, and confident again in your body, and you're done with all of the free or cheap VS out there, and you want a forever solution, you can apply by clicking the link in the show notes.
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All right, now let's get back to it.
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Often, the thing we're afraid of quitting isn't the situation itself, it's the identity attached to it.
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The title, the reputation, the image people have of who we are.
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Walking away forces you, it's terrifying, right?
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I get it, I know it.
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And and walking away forces you to ask a really scary question, really.
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Like, if I'm not this anymore, then who am I?
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And that question alone keeps women stuck in the wrong rooms for all the wrong reasons for years.
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Real growth always requires quitting something.
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You cannot become disciplined without quitting lazy habits.
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You cannot become healthy without quitting behaviors that sabotage your body.
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You cannot become aligned without quitting environments that force you to shrink.
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Every new level of your life requires the courage because that's exactly what it is.
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It requires the courage to release something from the previous one.
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And the women who build the most powerful, beautiful lives, they understand this.
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They don't cling to things simply because you know they started them.
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They pay attention to alignment, they pay attention to how they feel.
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Now, when I found myself at a crossroads, and I have many times, many times in my life, there were a few questions that I start asking that completely changed how I look at a situation.
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Okay.
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And if you're feeling stuck right now, I'm gonna bet that, or I'm gonna hope that these help you too.
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So if I removed everyone else's opinions from the equation, what would I choose?
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No pressure, no expectations, like just you.
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Ask yourself that.
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What would your gut tell you to do?
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Ask yourself, like, am I staying because I truly love this, or am I staying because I'm afraid of what change might mean for my identity?
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Another thing I always think back to is this.
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What would I advise my daughter or my sister to do if she were in my position?
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Clarity shows up pretty quickly when we step outside of ourselves.
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So, what parts of my current role energize me and what parts actually drain me?
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You know, pay attention to that.
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If I make this change and it doesn't work out, what's the worst that could happen?
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A lot of times, what you might find is like you're actually living your worst case scenario.
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Not all the time, but a lot of times you are.
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Like ask yourself, could I recover?
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Yeah, you could.
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I'm already gonna tell you.
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The answer is yes, you could.
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Okay.
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Most high-achieving women are far more resilient than they give themselves credit for.
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That is for dang sure.
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I see it all the time.
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Okay.
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Last question that I want you to ask yourself.
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Think about it this way.
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Ten years from now, which choice will I regret not making?
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Regret is a much, much heavier weight than change.
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So let's redefine something, shall we?
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Okay.
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Quitting bad habits is discipline, quitting toxic environments is self-respect.
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Quitting expectations that force you to compromise your values is integrity.
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Not all quitting is failure.
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Sometimes quitting is clarity.
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Sometimes quitting is alignment.
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Sometimes quitting brings on a whole new life that you never thought possible.
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And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit that the version of life you built simply no longer fits the woman that you're becoming.
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If something in your life that feels heavy right now, if you're constantly forcing yourself to stay in something that no longer feels right, give yourself permission to ask the hard questions.
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Because the life you want is not built by just endlessly grinding through something that is just misaligned, you know?
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It's built by having the courage to pivot when something no longer serves you or no longer serves your family.
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Sometimes the next chapter of your life begins when you know you do push harder and you push through.
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Yeah, and I get it.
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And and there are seasons for that, by the way.
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But also, sometimes your next chapter begins the moment you decide to quit.
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Let that land and really think about that.
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So if you're like nod in your head, like, oh my gosh, yes, girl, preach.
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You're speaking to me.
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I I literally want you to rewind this episode.
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And if you're really struggling with making a dish a decision or figuring something out really important in your life, rewind this episode and go back through those questions, write them down if you have to.
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And then I really want you to sit with yourself and answer those questions honestly.
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And you will find the answers.
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All right, queens.
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You have an amazing day, and I will see you on the next episode.
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Bye.
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Quitting toxic environments is self-respect.
00:00:04.959 --> 00:00:10.880
Quitting expectations that force you to compromise your values is integrity.
00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:14.320
Not all quitting is failure.
00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:16.879
Sometimes quitting is clarity.
00:00:17.199 --> 00:00:19.519
Sometimes quitting is alignment.
00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:25.280
Sometimes quitting brings on a whole new life that you never thought possible.
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Welcome to Mojo Co., the podcast for unapologetic midlife women who are done playing small, done guessing, and done fighting their body instead of understanding it.
00:00:39.439 --> 00:00:46.240
I'm your host, Katie Fleet, and this podcast is for women who are ready to get their mojo back.
00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:50.399
Their confidence, their power, and the connection to their body back.
00:00:50.799 --> 00:01:02.000
We talk hormones, confidence, body image, relationships, and real life with zero filters and absolutely no BF.
00:01:02.399 --> 00:01:04.640
Nothing is off limits here.
00:01:04.879 --> 00:01:13.680
If you're ready to feel powerful in your body again and remember who the heck you are, you're exactly where you belong.
00:01:13.840 --> 00:01:14.879
Let's go.
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Well, hello, beauty queens, and welcome back to Mojo Co.
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Podcast.
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So there is a lie that gets drilled into us from the time we are little.
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And it's this you've probably heard this.
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Quitters never win.
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In fact, you might have even said it before.
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I know I have, right?
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Okay, so we grew up believing that quitting is failure.
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And there are instances when that is true.
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Okay, I'm not saying that, but I do want you to listen to this.
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We're told the answer is always to push harder, stay committed, you know, keep grinding, stay in something, maybe even if you're uncomfortable.
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But I want to challenge that belief today because some of the most powerful transformations in my life and in other people's lives that I've watched, that I've got the privilege of witnessing didn't happen because I pushed harder or because they pushed harder.
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They happened because I quit.
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Think about that for a second.
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Bad habits.
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Yeah, it's a good thing.
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It's a great thing if you quit.
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Bad habits.
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I quit environments that didn't align with my values.
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That's a really great thing.
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Quitting expectations that were never yours to carry.
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That's a great thing.
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But here's the thing that a lot of people actually end up missing.
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You cannot become a better version of yourself without quitting the things that are keeping you stuck.
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Okay, so let's think about something for a second.
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Nobody questions quitting when it comes to bad habits.
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So if someone quits smoking, like we celebrate them, right?
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And we should.
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That is a really big deal.
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If someone quits drinking because it's hurting their life, we applaud them.
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That is a well, most people do.
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Okay.
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That that is a beautiful form of discipline.
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If someone quits eating food that makes them feel terrible, that's a really great thing.
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Okay.
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We understand that quitting the wrong things is how people actually evolve.
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Would you agree?
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I would say that you probably would.
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Okay.
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But the second you're thinking about quitting a job, quitting a relationship, quitting an environment, quitting an identity, suddenly everyone says, just push through.
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Suck it up.
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Don't give up.
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Stay committed.
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You know?
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But I'm gonna challenge that because what if the thing you're pushing through is actually the thing that's holding you back?
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Think about that.
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And this is where so many women, so many people get it wrong.
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They assume that if something isn't working, the solution needs to be more effort, more discipline, more grinding, more sacrifice, more whatever.
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So they stay.
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They keep pushing in environments that absolutely freaking drain the living crap out of them.
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Okay.
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They stay loyal to roles that we that require them to compromise who they really are.
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They st they stay committed to habits, routines, um expectations that don't actually serve or align with the life that they want.
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And so when it doesn't feel right, they blame themselves, right?
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They assume that the problem must be their effort.
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Okay.
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The problem is that they just don't want it bad enough.
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But sometimes the problem isn't that, it's not your effort.
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Sometimes the problem is your direction.
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And if you are running, think about it.
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If you are running full speed in the wrong direction, all that effort just takes you further away from the life that you actually want.
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All right, quick pause to talk about my company, MojoFitCo, because this deserves a moment.
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MojoFitco is built for midlife women who feel off in their body and are just tired of being told to eat less, move more, and deal with it.
00:06:28.240 --> 00:06:28.639
All right.
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Women babbling hormones, belly fat that comes out of nowhere, low energy, mood swings, and the constant feeling of why do I not feel like myself anymore?
00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:49.040
Now look, this is not a basic fitness program, and it is definitely not built by Jim Rose or 20-year-old influencers.
00:06:49.279 --> 00:06:58.720
Mojo Fitco is built for women by women, designed specifically for this phase of life.
00:06:59.040 --> 00:07:06.800
Inside, we don't guess, we don't punish your body, and we don't hand you another plan that you gotta figure out on your own.
00:07:07.040 --> 00:07:09.199
We look at the full picture.
00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:15.519
For moments, metabolism, stress, lifestyle, everything that you need, all under one roof.
00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:20.959
Because you are never too old to get your mojo back, I can assure you that.
00:07:21.199 --> 00:07:28.000
And you also need support from someone that actually understands the female body at this stage of life.
00:07:28.160 --> 00:07:45.360
So if you're ready to feel strong, sexy, clear-headed, and confident again in your body, and you're done with all of the free or cheap VS out there, and you want a forever solution, you can apply by clicking the link in the show notes.
00:07:45.519 --> 00:07:47.600
All right, now let's get back to it.
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Often, the thing we're afraid of quitting isn't the situation itself, it's the identity attached to it.
00:08:00.560 --> 00:08:07.759
The title, the reputation, the image people have of who we are.
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Walking away forces you, it's terrifying, right?
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I get it, I know it.
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And and walking away forces you to ask a really scary question, really.
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Like, if I'm not this anymore, then who am I?
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And that question alone keeps women stuck in the wrong rooms for all the wrong reasons for years.
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Real growth always requires quitting something.
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You cannot become disciplined without quitting lazy habits.
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You cannot become healthy without quitting behaviors that sabotage your body.
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You cannot become aligned without quitting environments that force you to shrink.
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Every new level of your life requires the courage because that's exactly what it is.
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It requires the courage to release something from the previous one.
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And the women who build the most powerful, beautiful lives, they understand this.
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They don't cling to things simply because you know they started them.
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They pay attention to alignment, they pay attention to how they feel.
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Now, when I found myself at a crossroads, and I have many times, many times in my life, there were a few questions that I start asking that completely changed how I look at a situation.
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Okay.
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And if you're feeling stuck right now, I'm gonna bet that, or I'm gonna hope that these help you too.
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So if I removed everyone else's opinions from the equation, what would I choose?
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No pressure, no expectations, like just you.
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Ask yourself that.
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What would your gut tell you to do?
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Ask yourself, like, am I staying because I truly love this, or am I staying because I'm afraid of what change might mean for my identity?
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Another thing I always think back to is this.
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What would I advise my daughter or my sister to do if she were in my position?
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Clarity shows up pretty quickly when we step outside of ourselves.
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So, what parts of my current role energize me and what parts actually drain me?
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You know, pay attention to that.
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If I make this change and it doesn't work out, what's the worst that could happen?
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A lot of times, what you might find is like you're actually living your worst case scenario.
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Not all the time, but a lot of times you are.
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Like ask yourself, could I recover?
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Yeah, you could.
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I'm already gonna tell you.
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The answer is yes, you could.
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Okay.
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Most high-achieving women are far more resilient than they give themselves credit for.
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That is for dang sure.
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I see it all the time.
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Okay.
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Last question that I want you to ask yourself.
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Think about it this way.
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Ten years from now, which choice will I regret not making?
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Regret is a much, much heavier weight than change.
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So let's redefine something, shall we?
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Okay.
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Quitting bad habits is discipline, quitting toxic environments is self-respect.
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Quitting expectations that force you to compromise your values is integrity.
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Not all quitting is failure.
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Sometimes quitting is clarity.
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Sometimes quitting is alignment.
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Sometimes quitting brings on a whole new life that you never thought possible.
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And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit that the version of life you built simply no longer fits the woman that you're becoming.
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If something in your life that feels heavy right now, if you're constantly forcing yourself to stay in something that no longer feels right, give yourself permission to ask the hard questions.
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Because the life you want is not built by just endlessly grinding through something that is just misaligned, you know?
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It's built by having the courage to pivot when something no longer serves you or no longer serves your family.
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Sometimes the next chapter of your life begins when you know you do push harder and you push through.
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Yeah, and I get it.
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And and there are seasons for that, by the way.
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But also, sometimes your next chapter begins the moment you decide to quit.
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Let that land and really think about that.
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So if you're like nod in your head, like, oh my gosh, yes, girl, preach.
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You're speaking to me.
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I I literally want you to rewind this episode.
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And if you're really struggling with making a dish a decision or figuring something out really important in your life, rewind this episode and go back through those questions, write them down if you have to.
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And then I really want you to sit with yourself and answer those questions honestly.
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And you will find the answers.
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All right, queens.
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You have an amazing day, and I will see you on the next episode.
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Bye.
