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Mindfully Her episode 8, Reintroducing Yourself.
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Subtitle is Meeting the Woman You Become.
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This is Mindfully Her podcast with your host Kay Chine.
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I want to welcome everyone back and talk to you about becoming is the main topic for this episode.
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So we'll jump right in.
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Not the version of you that everybody remembers.
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Not the version of you that existed five years ago.
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Not the version of you that your family, friends, partner, coworkers, or even social media expect you to be.
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I want to talk about the woman, the man, or the young man or the young woman standing in front of you right now.
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Sometimes we spend so much time trying to get back to who we used to be that we don't stop long enough to meet who we become.
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And maybe it's time to reintroduce yourself.
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So who are you now?
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You can start by asking yourself a few questions about who you are.
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Simple questions.
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Who are you?
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What are you like now?
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What don't you tolerate anymore?
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What makes you happy?
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What drains you?
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What are you passionate about?
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What are you afraid of?
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What are you finally willing to say no to?
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What are you finally willing to say yes to?
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You've changed is the truth.
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And it's okay.
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Life is supposed to change us.
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Experience is supposed to change us.
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Things like heartbreak, motherhood, friendships, loss, success, failure, healing, even can change us.
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Sometimes we look in the mirror and realize I don't even recognize myself anymore.
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But there's two sides to this.
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Sometimes we say, I don't recognize myself anymore, and we feel it as a negative thing.
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But what if it was a good thing?
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Doesn't always have to be that that is a negative thing.
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Maybe you don't recognize yourself and it doesn't mean that you're lost in this instance.
00:01:50.400 --> 00:01:56.560
Maybe you don't recognize yourself and it just means that you have a new version of you for the good.
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So if it is, stop introducing yourself by your past.
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Sometimes we go along with our old version of ourselves and we we speak and our verbiage is in the past.
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For example, I've always been shy.
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I'm not good at that.
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I've never been the type to do that.
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I've always struggled with that.
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Just some examples.
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But if that was true for who you were and not who you are, you don't have to keep carrying an identity simply because you've carried it for a long time.
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So that's where we'll leave the past version in the past.
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You can change and you can grow, you can evolve, and you can surprise yourself.
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And you can say, That's who I was, this is who I am now.
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There's power in that simple statement.
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And getting rid of that past or introducing that old version can do a lot for your mindset, for moving forward, for healing, for it all.
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Man or woman, don't forget.
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Young man or young woman.
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So let's move on to the woman you become, or the man you've become, or the young woman you've become, or the young man you've become.
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Maybe you've become softer.
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Could be in your tone and your in your speech.
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It could, it could, it varies.
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Maybe you've become stronger.
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Maybe you've become more selective.
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Maybe you don't need a room full of people anymore.
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Maybe peace means more to you than being understood.
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Maybe you don't need to explain yourself as much.
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Maybe you've learned that everybody doesn't deserve access to you.
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Maybe you're finally learning how to say no without feeling guilty.
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Maybe you're finally learning that choosing yourself isn't selfish.
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Maybe you become the woman or man or young woman or young man you once needed.
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If that is you, I want you to celebrate that.
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It deserves to be celebrated.
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So you don't have to go back.
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Sometimes we romanticize who we used to be.
00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:58.400
We remember the fun, the laughs, the jokes, and the freedom, but forget the things that that version of us survived.
00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:06.080
We forget the confusion and the tears and the sleepless nights and the lessons and the heartache and the pain of it, the things we didn't understand back then.
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So maybe you don't need to go back.
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Maybe you need to move forward.
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You don't have to become who you were.
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You get to become who you are meant to be.
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Give yourself that permission.
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Reintroduce yourself.
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And today say, I want you to reintroduce yourself to the new you.
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Not to Instagram, not to your coworkers, not to family, to yourself.
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Write your name down and underneath it, write, this is who I am now.
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Then tell yourself what I love now is, what I value now is, what I no longer tolerate is, what I'm learning is, what I'm learning from is, what I'm proud of is, when I'm becoming is.
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And when you write these things, don't judge your answers.
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Let them come naturally.
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You deserve to know yourself outside of everyone else's expectations.
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This is mindfully her.
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And we're gonna take a mindfully her moment.
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Take a deep breath.
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Look at yourself and say, I see you.
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I see the woman or the man or the young woman or the young man you've become.
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I see what you survived.
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I see what you've learned.
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I see what you're still figuring out.
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I see the parts of you that are healing.
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I see the parts of you that are growing.
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And I give you permission to become someone new.
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Maybe the goal isn't to find your old self.
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The woman or man or young woman or young man who has learned, survived, grown, has boundaries, still dreams, has questions, is still becoming, so you haven't heard it lately.
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Again, let me introduce you.
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This is you, the new you, the growing you, the healing you, the becoming you, and he or she deserves to be known.
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He or she deserves to be celebrated, he or she deserves to be loved, and most importantly, he or she deserves to meet herself or himself without judgment.
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Remember, this is a safe place for your journey no matter what that journey looks like.
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So until next time, be mindful, be honest, be gentle with yourself, and don't be afraid to reintroduce yourself to the new woman or man or young woman or young man that you become.
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Healing begins when we stop hiding.
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Mindfully Her episode 8, Reintroducing Yourself.
00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:05.599
Subtitle is Meeting the Woman You Become.
00:00:05.839 --> 00:00:09.199
This is Mindfully Her podcast with your host Kay Chine.
00:00:09.599 --> 00:00:16.079
I want to welcome everyone back and talk to you about becoming is the main topic for this episode.
00:00:16.239 --> 00:00:17.359
So we'll jump right in.
00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:20.399
Not the version of you that everybody remembers.
00:00:20.559 --> 00:00:24.000
Not the version of you that existed five years ago.
00:00:24.160 --> 00:00:30.960
Not the version of you that your family, friends, partner, coworkers, or even social media expect you to be.
00:00:31.120 --> 00:00:39.200
I want to talk about the woman, the man, or the young man or the young woman standing in front of you right now.
00:00:39.359 --> 00:00:46.399
Sometimes we spend so much time trying to get back to who we used to be that we don't stop long enough to meet who we become.
00:00:46.560 --> 00:00:49.039
And maybe it's time to reintroduce yourself.
00:00:49.200 --> 00:00:50.159
So who are you now?
00:00:50.320 --> 00:00:54.640
You can start by asking yourself a few questions about who you are.
00:00:54.799 --> 00:00:55.679
Simple questions.
00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:56.479
Who are you?
00:00:56.640 --> 00:00:57.920
What are you like now?
00:00:58.159 --> 00:00:59.920
What don't you tolerate anymore?
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What makes you happy?
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What drains you?
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What are you passionate about?
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What are you afraid of?
00:01:05.120 --> 00:01:07.920
What are you finally willing to say no to?
00:01:08.159 --> 00:01:10.480
What are you finally willing to say yes to?
00:01:10.640 --> 00:01:12.400
You've changed is the truth.
00:01:12.560 --> 00:01:13.359
And it's okay.
00:01:13.519 --> 00:01:15.200
Life is supposed to change us.
00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:17.439
Experience is supposed to change us.
00:01:17.599 --> 00:01:26.239
Things like heartbreak, motherhood, friendships, loss, success, failure, healing, even can change us.
00:01:26.400 --> 00:01:30.640
Sometimes we look in the mirror and realize I don't even recognize myself anymore.
00:01:30.959 --> 00:01:33.280
But there's two sides to this.
00:01:33.599 --> 00:01:39.359
Sometimes we say, I don't recognize myself anymore, and we feel it as a negative thing.
00:01:39.599 --> 00:01:41.680
But what if it was a good thing?
00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:45.280
Doesn't always have to be that that is a negative thing.
00:01:45.519 --> 00:01:50.159
Maybe you don't recognize yourself and it doesn't mean that you're lost in this instance.
00:01:50.400 --> 00:01:56.560
Maybe you don't recognize yourself and it just means that you have a new version of you for the good.
00:01:56.799 --> 00:02:01.200
So if it is, stop introducing yourself by your past.
00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:08.719
Sometimes we go along with our old version of ourselves and we we speak and our verbiage is in the past.
00:02:08.960 --> 00:02:11.280
For example, I've always been shy.
00:02:11.439 --> 00:02:12.639
I'm not good at that.
00:02:12.800 --> 00:02:15.439
I've never been the type to do that.
00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:17.599
I've always struggled with that.
00:02:17.919 --> 00:02:19.280
Just some examples.
00:02:19.599 --> 00:02:30.000
But if that was true for who you were and not who you are, you don't have to keep carrying an identity simply because you've carried it for a long time.
00:02:30.240 --> 00:02:34.719
So that's where we'll leave the past version in the past.
00:02:34.879 --> 00:02:39.680
You can change and you can grow, you can evolve, and you can surprise yourself.
00:02:39.759 --> 00:02:43.520
And you can say, That's who I was, this is who I am now.
00:02:43.680 --> 00:02:46.000
There's power in that simple statement.
00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:54.719
And getting rid of that past or introducing that old version can do a lot for your mindset, for moving forward, for healing, for it all.
00:02:55.039 --> 00:02:56.639
Man or woman, don't forget.
00:02:56.800 --> 00:02:58.400
Young man or young woman.
00:02:58.560 --> 00:03:04.719
So let's move on to the woman you become, or the man you've become, or the young woman you've become, or the young man you've become.
00:03:04.879 --> 00:03:06.080
Maybe you've become softer.
00:03:06.400 --> 00:03:09.360
Could be in your tone and your in your speech.
00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:11.280
It could, it could, it varies.
00:03:11.439 --> 00:03:12.800
Maybe you've become stronger.
00:03:12.960 --> 00:03:15.120
Maybe you've become more selective.
00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:18.479
Maybe you don't need a room full of people anymore.
00:03:18.639 --> 00:03:22.000
Maybe peace means more to you than being understood.
00:03:22.159 --> 00:03:25.599
Maybe you don't need to explain yourself as much.
00:03:25.840 --> 00:03:29.360
Maybe you've learned that everybody doesn't deserve access to you.
00:03:29.520 --> 00:03:33.360
Maybe you're finally learning how to say no without feeling guilty.
00:03:33.520 --> 00:03:37.680
Maybe you're finally learning that choosing yourself isn't selfish.
00:03:37.840 --> 00:03:43.199
Maybe you become the woman or man or young woman or young man you once needed.
00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:45.840
If that is you, I want you to celebrate that.
00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:47.520
It deserves to be celebrated.
00:03:47.599 --> 00:03:48.639
So you don't have to go back.
00:03:48.800 --> 00:03:51.520
Sometimes we romanticize who we used to be.
00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:58.400
We remember the fun, the laughs, the jokes, and the freedom, but forget the things that that version of us survived.
00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:06.080
We forget the confusion and the tears and the sleepless nights and the lessons and the heartache and the pain of it, the things we didn't understand back then.
00:04:06.240 --> 00:04:07.919
So maybe you don't need to go back.
00:04:08.080 --> 00:04:09.439
Maybe you need to move forward.
00:04:09.599 --> 00:04:11.599
You don't have to become who you were.
00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:13.759
You get to become who you are meant to be.
00:04:13.919 --> 00:04:15.280
Give yourself that permission.
00:04:15.439 --> 00:04:16.879
Reintroduce yourself.
00:04:17.040 --> 00:04:22.160
And today say, I want you to reintroduce yourself to the new you.
00:04:22.319 --> 00:04:26.560
Not to Instagram, not to your coworkers, not to family, to yourself.
00:04:26.720 --> 00:04:30.399
Write your name down and underneath it, write, this is who I am now.
00:04:30.560 --> 00:04:44.399
Then tell yourself what I love now is, what I value now is, what I no longer tolerate is, what I'm learning is, what I'm learning from is, what I'm proud of is, when I'm becoming is.
00:04:44.560 --> 00:04:47.680
And when you write these things, don't judge your answers.
00:04:47.839 --> 00:04:49.279
Let them come naturally.
00:04:49.360 --> 00:04:53.439
You deserve to know yourself outside of everyone else's expectations.
00:04:53.600 --> 00:04:55.120
This is mindfully her.
00:04:55.279 --> 00:04:57.680
And we're gonna take a mindfully her moment.
00:04:57.759 --> 00:04:59.360
Take a deep breath.
00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:02.000
Look at yourself and say, I see you.
00:05:02.160 --> 00:05:06.959
I see the woman or the man or the young woman or the young man you've become.
00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:08.560
I see what you survived.
00:05:08.720 --> 00:05:09.920
I see what you've learned.
00:05:10.079 --> 00:05:12.319
I see what you're still figuring out.
00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:14.319
I see the parts of you that are healing.
00:05:14.480 --> 00:05:16.160
I see the parts of you that are growing.
00:05:16.240 --> 00:05:18.879
And I give you permission to become someone new.
00:05:19.040 --> 00:05:21.839
Maybe the goal isn't to find your old self.
00:05:22.000 --> 00:05:35.519
The woman or man or young woman or young man who has learned, survived, grown, has boundaries, still dreams, has questions, is still becoming, so you haven't heard it lately.
00:05:35.680 --> 00:05:37.519
Again, let me introduce you.
00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:45.120
This is you, the new you, the growing you, the healing you, the becoming you, and he or she deserves to be known.
00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:54.160
He or she deserves to be celebrated, he or she deserves to be loved, and most importantly, he or she deserves to meet herself or himself without judgment.
00:05:54.319 --> 00:05:58.319
Remember, this is a safe place for your journey no matter what that journey looks like.
00:05:58.480 --> 00:06:09.839
So until next time, be mindful, be honest, be gentle with yourself, and don't be afraid to reintroduce yourself to the new woman or man or young woman or young man that you become.
00:06:10.079 --> 00:06:12.560
Healing begins when we stop hiding.
