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All right.
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I should warn you that I am on call tonight.
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So I have my phone mostly on silent, but if it were to ring while we were here, there's a chance that I would have to jump up, run to my car, and drive the hour back to the hospital.
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Okay, sounds good.
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That is just part of being an on-call nurse in the cat lab.
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But that's okay, because for right now, we're out in the shed.
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We're at the end of the day.
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Hopefully we're pretty cozy and we're gonna sit down and we're gonna record an episode.
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Yeah.
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Are you ready?
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Mini episode.
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Yes.
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Okay, yes.
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Emphasis on the mini.
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Yeah.
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All right, well, let's get into it.
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Welcome to messy as hell with Krista and Kim.
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No filters, no fixes, just real life.
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Welcome to Messy as Hell.
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I'm Krista.
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I'm Kimberly.
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All right, well, I'm gonna just lay out the truth for you.
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Today we had every intent of doing a full-length, fully researched episode, but then life got in the way.
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And we thought, why not just be real?
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We don't have the bandwidth right now.
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Shit happens and things come up.
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So for today, we're gonna do a special, shorter episode.
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We're calling it When You Don't Have the Bandwidth.
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And I can imagine that this is something that everyone listening right now can resonate with.
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Your plate is full, you're maxed out, and you just do not have the energy for anything extra.
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Would you say that's where you are right now?
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Oh yeah.
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Would you say that's where you were three days ago?
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Uh yeah.
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I feel like the past week plus has been, yeah.
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Stretching the bandwidth.
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Well, I just want to say to start out, I appreciate you being here with me.
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Just seeing you just seeing your smile is already making my day so much better.
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I'm coming off a long day at work.
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I got up at five and got my 22,000 steps in.
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Some of that is at work and some of that's intentional.
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Some of that's me like taking walk breaks.
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That makes my, you know, 6,500 look like shit.
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No, hey, anything is good.
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I mean, I am also in a job that focuses on standing and moving.
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Sure.
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Wow.
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Walking.
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That's impressive.
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What was your work day like today?
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Oh, you know, it's my first day back in like a week.
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Oh, it was your first day back.
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Okay.
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Yeah, managing all the things that from just this past week, which was a lot.
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So I was trying to play catch up.
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Yeah, catch up.
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We have like, I think like 12 different properties we're prepping right now for the market.
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And so a lot of them are different, you know, hand holding.
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And then I've got three closing this week.
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And one of them has been really challenging with a challenging agent on the other side.
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So it's just lots of stuff.
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So you came back to a bit of a shit storm, would you say?
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Okay.
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That's a fair assessment.
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Super fair.
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All right.
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So today we're just going to kind of move through some segments of basically just highlighting how busy a woman's life can be in everything that we're dealing with as we go.
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So we're going to start out with our usual, with our messy moments, and we're just going to share some of those moments from the week that just are not the most buttoned up and the most tidy, but they're real life.
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And this is what it's like to be a woman.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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Do you want to go first or should I go first?
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If you have something, please, by all means.
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I mean, this is more embarrassing because I just felt stupid in general, but that's messy.
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Yeah.
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So I spent some time with family over the past few days that I have not seen in a decade.
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One of which is my sister.
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You know, it was all for, as I told you, um, uh family funerals.
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We ended up, her and I ended up locking ourselves out of this short-term rental.
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We we like did the code like five times.
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Yes.
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And then it locked us out of the house.
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And we had just gone grocery shopping.
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So we got an ice cream and chocolate, basically all the things that you drowned your emotions in.
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Yes.
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So we're just sitting outside, there was a box of sea chocolates that I got, and we were just sitting there, just trying each chocolate.
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And then my cousin called and she goes, Well, did you press enter?
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And I was like, No, we didn't press that would have been really helpful.
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And so we turned around after sitting there for 20 minutes and pressed enter, and we could we got in the house.
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So it's just one of those moments where I'm like, you know, it's like that mental overload.
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Yes, where your brain totally failed you.
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Yeah.
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I'm like, well, it's you know, we went through a box of chocolates.
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And you just could not think of what to do.
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No, hey, I can resonate with that.
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You know, so my moment, it's just a highlight of I think of what real life is really like.
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So my husband and I recently celebrated our anniversary.
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We've been married for 15 years, which is, I feel like it's a major accomplishment because you know, marriage is hard.
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And we were able to spend kind of a staycation locally.
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We were here just about an hour away from home, but my mom was really sweet and kind and she came to watch the kids so that we could do that.
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And we had this wonderful weekend.
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It was so relaxing.
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We spent a lot of like really quality time together.
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We ate meals out together, we talked, we sat and read our books together over coffee.
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It was just really lovely.
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And then we came home and we were instantly bombarded.
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As soon as we walked in the door, it's like the kids, the dog, everyone's running at us, everyone has questions, everyone needs their problems solved, everyone wants to tell us about something that was really unfair that happened.
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Always, always.
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And it was just so much.
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And by the end of it, my husband and I ended up in this little tiff.
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It was really small, you know, it wasn't a big deal at all.
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But it was how did we go from being so perfectly in love and feeling so happy, having all the hard hives, to then like two hours later being kind of snippy with each other?
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Yeah.
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And by the end of the night, everything was fine.
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You know, the kids were in bed, we were back to homeostasis where we had been.
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But it was just an example of okay, this is what happens, you know.
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As soon as you throw in the factors of kids and life and responsibilities, it just gets a little complicated and a little messy.
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And you just have to roll with the punches.
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Exactly.
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That's exactly what it's like.
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We came back to real life, we came back to responsibilities, and you just kind of it hits you in the face.
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Yeah all at once.
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Absolutely.
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And sometimes it's hard to recover and to just handle things smoothly.
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Yeah.
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But we managed and I'm very grateful for it.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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So today, as we're talking about, we're both just filled to our maxes.
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We don't really have, you know, for me, it's election season.
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So that means that there's lots of campaigns going on in our town, in the county.
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And so I've kind of been called to help with some of those.
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So I'm helping to campaign.
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I know you were just saying you've got 12 properties that are waiting to be listed.
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I'm guessing that's not even counting the properties that you currently have under contract, or those are those are all active projects prepping for the market.
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So that's yeah, exactly.
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So you've got a whole nother mess of things there.
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So sometimes when you have so much going on, the tiniest things can just like set you over the edge, or the tiniest uh tasks can feel insurmountable.
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So I'm curious for you looking at your week, thinking about like your mental to-do list.
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What is something that's small?
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And that on a normal, like non-busy day would be just the simplest little task to go take care of that.
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Right now, you're like, I can't even deal with this.
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This is my Everest.
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God, there's, I mean, there's there's so many things that this one is, it's kind of, I'm sure every person struggles with this.
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So Amazon is kind of like a lifeline for me.
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Yes.
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And it's not that I support the certain, you know, person or anything.
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It's really just phase of life.
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And I so appreciate the ease and accessibility for my life.
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Well, and it saves your ass a lot too when you forget something.
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Yes.
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I mean, again, next day, right?
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And so, but oftentimes things, you know, as it goes, things need to be returned.
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And so I got this screen for the back of my car to try to keep the dog in the back of the car so he wouldn't always be jumping at me.
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Yes.
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And so I got it and I set it all up, and it was too short for the side so he could still come through.
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And so it's been sitting on my fucking board for like two weeks.
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Yes.
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And every day I walk out, I see it and I'm like, yeah, I'll get to it.
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I'll get to it.
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And but I haven't.
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I haven't.
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Well, that's hilarious because that was actually mine, is that I ordered it's so silly.
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I ordered an iPad cover for my daughter before we went on our trip because hers had broken.
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And I bought the wrong size.
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I ordered it for an old iPad.
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And so I was like, okay, well, I'll just order another one because that's what you do.
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It's still need to be fixed.
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And I was like, and I'll just return this one because it is so simple, right?
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I literally just have to drive to the UPS shop.
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I don't even have to package it.
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I just go and scan the QR.
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But this thing, it's right by my door, it's right by my car keys.
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It's just staring me in the face every day.
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And I'm like, I mean, at this point, fuck it.
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It's probably not gonna get returned because I think I've got 10 days left.
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Like, I'm gonna eat the four window for exactly right.
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I will get it done.
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Okay, maybe that's my goal for Wednesday.
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Yeah.
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I've got a list already of to do for Wednesday, but there you go.
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You know, want to take mine.
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Well, you know what?
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Maybe if you get it to me, if it's still here in the car, maybe I'll throw it in with mine.
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You can just send me the keyboard.
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No, it's not even in the car.
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What's in the back of my car, which has been there for like a month and a half, is a bunch of clothes that need to go to the donation.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Okay, all right.
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Well, that's hilarious.
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So that's something I've got a box of diapers that is unopened.
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And I have a colleague that just had a baby and I was like, hey, do you want this box of diapers?
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And he was like, Yeah.
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So I carried him around in my car for like three weeks, but he wasn't back from his paternity leave.
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So I finally just took him out because I need to make room for soccer gear.
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And now he's back, and I'm like, they're literally staring at me every day when I go out to work.
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But I just either I don't know if I forget that they're there, or I just am it's too much work to pick them up off the shelf and move them over.
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Okay, I'm going back to work tomorrow.
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Maybe that's what I need to do tomorrow.
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All right.
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So for everyone, sometimes those tiny things just feel impossible.
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And it's funny, as we're going through these, listener, I want you to just think about for you, what is that tiny thing right now in your life that would normally just be so simple to get taken care of that right now you just feel like it is the hardest task in the world.
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And it is just, you know, at your back.
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The next thing we're gonna do, I have some questions for you.
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Okay.
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I am going to, we're both gonna answer them.
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And also for you listening at home, answer along with us and see where you are with your bandwidth right now.
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Okay.
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All right, name something that slipped through the cracks this week.
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Oh gosh.
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I have I'll I'll start.
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So for us, my son started the band this year and he plays the trombone.
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And I've been getting the weekly emails from the music teacher of like the days that he needs to have the trombone, but those are some of those things that are going into the queue where I'm like, okay, this is non-urgent.
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I can read this email later.
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So she sent an email last week that I didn't read until like the very end of the week.
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I think she sent it maybe Monday.
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I read it Friday.
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So by the time I read it on Friday, I realized that we had already missed two days of band practice and he should have had his trombone with him Tuesday and Thursday, did not have it until Friday.
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So, you know, that one just totally switched through clocks.
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Thankfully, it was not life or death.
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Yeah.
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But still, sorry, kid.
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I kind of fucked up there.
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How about you?
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Well, this one's kind of on me.
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It's not, I mean, it is it because it like stops with me now, but this and it has to do with this one agent right now that I'm just like, you are just the epitome of why everybody hates real estate agents.
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You're like the exact real reason.
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But you know, she's been a really challenging person to work with.
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But 10 days ago, we and this has been more than 10 days ago, so it was verbal conversations of you know, the sellers will need until 5 p.m.
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end of day to vacate the property because their concurrent closes.
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So they're closing, they're buying and selling at the same time.
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So I'm like, they need to get their stuff out, you know, and we need by 5 p.m.
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No problem, no problem.
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We get it in writing, no problem 10 days ago.
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And so typically in this process, you actually get it on an addendum as well.
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50% of the time, though, little things like this, agents with our reputations, you know, and our relationships, it's more of like a goodwill, right?
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And her broker who I'm good friends with, that's how we do it all the time.
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In any case, 10 days ago, the email goes out, everybody's in agreement.
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I copy my transaction coordinator on it, who's in charge of all that kind of paperwork.
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And I say, Hey, you know, I need you to get this out, please take care of it.
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And then I go on my family vacation, which tends then turns into a family funeral.
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And so my mindset is very, you know, I'm like, I'm very checked out, despite the fact that I'm trying to manage the work things and my partner's taking care of things.
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And anyways, so I'm gone.
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And I come back today, and she's like, Well, we're gonna show up at at noon tomorrow.
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And I'm like, no, no, we we said five o'clock.
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Well, you never put it in writing.
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So I never told the client.
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No.
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And I was just like, No, are you kidding me?
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And so then I had to go back to my transaction quarter and just say, Hey, you know, like then she had to say, like, that was on me.
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I didn't get that done.
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However, we all agreed and it was in writing, you know.
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And so it really is that agent.
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It really is.
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I mean, that's like a screwed up thing on her part, right?
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Like she's being super unprofessional.
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It just falls onto your plate, but it does, it super falls on me because I should have double checked, but I just got back from the funeral, like, you know, and then I pay these people to do their job, right?
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But it reflects back on me.
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And it's just like it's like one of those little things.
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It's just there's so many little things.
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And so for me today, that was just like a big F today.
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Yeah, really pissed me up.
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Yeah, that's a huge bummer.
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I'm sorry that happened to you.
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That's all right.
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Okay, this one's a little bit lighter.
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How many meals do you have planned and prepped already this week?
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You know, I just got back into town, right?
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I need to get groceries delivered.
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At least you have an excuse.
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Mine is a big fat zero.
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I mean, I've technically been home.
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I've been in the area.
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I have no excuse.
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I mean, also on a normal week, when I my bandwidth is not exhausted, I still plan maybe one to two meals.
00:14:03.919 --> 00:14:06.159
We're not far from baseline, but still.
00:14:06.480 --> 00:14:08.240
Well, I mean, to that answer that question, though, right?
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I'm like, I haven't got my groceries delivered because that's how busy I am.
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So it's like I have to do that, but then I can plan.
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But I mean, my dinner prep is consumed of like, oh, Costco has like the pre-made like rice and beans and for sure.
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So I'm like, that's a dinner.
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Hey, that's more than I've done.
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Like, oh, there's pierogies from the store.
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Like, yeah.
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While I was writing out this question, I actually thought, oh, okay, maybe I'll do beef soup this week.
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So I take it back.
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Maybe I have one meal planned.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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Let's see how quick you can do this math.
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How many after-school activities do you need to get the kids to this week?
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Ooh.
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Okay.
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So I think you've got the three boys, the one girl, I've got two kids.
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I've got soccer, one, two, three, cross-country one.
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I've got, I mean, for each day or just like total for the week.
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For the week.
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Yeah.
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So I've got six after school activities I've got to get them to.
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Yeah, I think I'm at six.
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Or I guess if you count all of them, there'd be like eight.
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Well, exactly.
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So there's multiple kids.
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Exactly.
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And there's to be fair, there's five days in the in the school.
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So we're already exceeding days of the week with activities that we need to get to.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Some of the days definitely have two to three activities.
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We call those the busy shit days.
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All right.
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Okay.
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Name a responsibility that you would get rid of if you could.
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Something that's on big or small.
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That's a good question.
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I mean, I had a big answer.
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I'm going to go with a small answer, but I've got a couple.
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Oh.
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No, I'll give you time to think.
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I had time to think about this because I wrote them out.
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So you can hear mine.
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It's so stupid.
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But my children have fish that they begged me and begged me for.
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And I knew it was going to happen.
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I knew as soon as we got these fish that mom was going to be responsible to keep yet another creature alive.
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Yeah.
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If I could just like wash my hands of those fish and like flush them down the toilet, I would.
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Except that I'm too compassionate.
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I cannot kill these fish.
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I feel so sad.
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So instead, I've loaded the fish tanks with shrimp, and the shrimp are just keeping it clean.
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Oh.
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And like my husband was like, you should put the shrimp on the payroll because right now they're keeping that shit going.
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That's fantastic.
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I love that.
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That's smart.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I think mine would have to do something to do with the cleaning, right?
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Like it would definitely be a permanent offload of not just cleaning the organization, just people putting shit away.
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I think that would really be it's not even the cleaning.
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I think it's more the organization.
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Like if I had someone magically that came in my house and constantly put everything away.
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Oh, I mean, what a gift, right?
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Yes, can I?
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That would be amazing.
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That would be what I want.
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If I catch the leprechaun on March 17th, can I put him to work doing that?
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That sounds good.
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Okay.
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All right.
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This one, you might have to open your phone.
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How many unanswered texts do you have right now?
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Mine's gonna be way smaller than you because I'm not nearly as busy or important as you.
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Well, granted, it's nine o'clock at night.
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If you asked me this earlier today, I was at 99.
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Yeah, that's so crazy.
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So right now it's only at six.
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Even at my peak today, I was at five.
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Of course I'm at zero right now, because like I said, I am not busy or important.
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I was telling my husband before we sat down to record, I was like, Oh, I need to put my phone on, do not disturb, so I don't get any calls or texts, but also I'm on call, so I can't do that because I have to have the volume on.
00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:24.559
And he was like, Love, no one's gonna text you.
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It's nine o'clock.
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And I was like, Well, okay, you're right.
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No one's gonna text me.
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I can leave my phone on for call.
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If I wasn't here, there's a chance that I might text you.
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Yeah, see, okay, thank you.
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And give some love.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Name something that you are dreading having to deal with.
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And again, this can be anything.
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This can be with the kids, with the family, this can be with work.
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Just something that when you think about having to deal with it, it just kind of stresses you out.
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Taxes.
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Oh.
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Wait, taxes.
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That's not for a while.
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Oh, girl.
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I this is like a extension.
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No, no, this is just like a prep.
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Like, you know, like I work with my CPA and like we we tax prep in like September, August.
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Like if we start to like August, September, October, this is like our start to prep for the end of the day.
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So to make sure you're on track.
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Yeah.
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Where else can I put money so I'm paying less?
00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:17.519
Oh wow.
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But no, it stresses the shit out of me.
00:18:20.480 --> 00:18:22.880
Yeah, your problems are like big grown-up problems.
00:18:23.039 --> 00:18:25.200
Mine are like, I'd get rid of some fish.
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Mine are kind of dumb.
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I would love your problems.
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Let's switch problems.
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Let's do it.
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No, mine is that I have to coordinate this kind of like it's I don't want to say counseling.
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It's like a growth session or like a coaching session.
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I have to coordinate a coaching session.
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But there's five of us that have five different schedules.
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I definitely have the most complex schedule because of the kids and my job and my committee meetings.
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So it's just been a string of emails and text messages of when are you available?
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This is when I'm available.
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And it's really stressing me out and just trying to think about getting this coordinated.
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I'm just really dreading it because it's gonna take, it's gonna be several hours of coaching.
00:19:09.440 --> 00:19:15.039
So I'm already thinking, like, when do I even have a free day when I can block out four to five hours to do this?
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And it's just damn because it's something that has to be done.
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So inevitably, I am gonna have to deal with it.
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Yeah.
00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:23.279
But all right, last one.
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And yours, I don't know how you categorize these, but how many meetings do you have this week?
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Yeah.
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Your meetings are probably different than mine.
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The amount of meetings, I mean, because it goes from whether that's like a Zoom call or you know, going to a show in person or showings, yeah, different things like that.
00:19:42.640 --> 00:19:45.519
I mean, it can be like 15 a day plus.
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Okay.
00:19:46.720 --> 00:19:46.880
All right.
00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:56.880
Or it turns into an hour just a meeting phone call with a client that was supposed to be like a five, and I consider that a meeting because I'm like, that was just we went over everything over the phone.
00:19:57.119 --> 00:20:00.720
So yeah, no, I mean, I can average 15 meetings a day sometimes.
00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:07.440
I I've done showings where I've gone and shown 12 homes, and then I've got to go and do a bunch of other client appointments in one day.
00:20:07.519 --> 00:20:07.759
Yeah.
00:20:08.079 --> 00:20:08.799
That is wild.
00:20:08.960 --> 00:20:09.279
Okay.
00:20:09.440 --> 00:20:11.759
Well, again, my number pales in comparison.
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I'm at five and I'm like, I'm so stressed out.
00:20:15.039 --> 00:20:16.640
I have so many meetings.
00:20:16.799 --> 00:20:18.559
But again, I'm at all relative.
00:20:18.960 --> 00:20:19.200
Exactly.
00:20:19.359 --> 00:20:20.240
I do shift work.
00:20:20.319 --> 00:20:26.240
So, like when I am at work, I punch in, I do my 12 hour, I guess 10 hours of work, and then I punch out.
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And then my meetings are all mostly related to city council and committees and things like that.
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But okay, what do you think?
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Would you say that that was therapeutic to unload some of that?
00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:39.680
Or was it more stressful because you're like, wow, thanks, Krista.
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You brought all of this shit to light that I need to get done.
00:20:43.039 --> 00:20:45.119
No, I mean, it's it's already there, right?
00:20:45.200 --> 00:20:53.359
Like today, um, you know, we've talked about this before where it's like I I really just should pick the kids up at a certain time so I can finish my work.
00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:54.000
Yep.
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And because I had the week that I had this last week.
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You wanted to pick them up early.
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Yeah.
00:21:00.720 --> 00:21:02.559
So I wanted to pick up the littles early.
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You know, I thought I could manage, you know, like working from home to ours.
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And I told them before I dropped them off at school, I was like, look, we'll all work at the same time, right?
00:21:10.480 --> 00:21:13.119
And if you need help was a fucking shit show.
00:21:13.279 --> 00:21:13.599
Yeah.
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And I was just sitting there, I'm like, why did I do this to myself?
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Because I'm so overly done right now, and everything's setting me off.
00:21:21.200 --> 00:21:23.599
And my sweet little girl is just sitting over here, mom, mom, mom.
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And everything she's saying, she just is she sang with love and attention.
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And then, and then I'm still just getting annoyed because I'm like, I really need to do this.
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And then I have to help her with homework, and then she's getting overtired because she just got back from her trip and it's three hours difference, and so then she's getting burned.
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When did they get back?
00:21:36.480 --> 00:21:37.440
Yeah, Saturday.
00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:39.119
Oh, so they just barely got back.
00:21:39.279 --> 00:21:39.440
Yeah.
00:21:39.599 --> 00:21:41.599
So you've just kind of barely been reunited with them.
00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:41.920
Yeah.
00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:43.519
Well, I mean, okay, this makes sense.
00:21:43.599 --> 00:21:48.000
And this also kind of keys into last week's episode when we talked about mom guilt.
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Yeah.
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And it's like, that's why you picked them up early, right?
00:21:50.559 --> 00:21:54.000
Because you've been missing them, you're feeling bad because you haven't been with them.
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And so you go and pick them up, which is like perfectly good and normal thing to do.
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And how are you to know that it's Gonna go sideways and that it's not gonna go smoothly.
00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:07.039
You go in with the best intentions and you hope, you know, maybe tomorrow you pick them up at 4 30.
00:22:07.119 --> 00:22:08.079
And that's okay too.
00:22:08.319 --> 00:22:08.799
Totally.
00:22:09.039 --> 00:22:11.680
Whatever your day calls for, you do it.
00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:12.559
Yeah.
00:22:12.880 --> 00:22:13.440
All right.
00:22:13.759 --> 00:22:21.440
Well, as we close this down now, I think this has been just a nice little midweek unload.
00:22:21.920 --> 00:22:45.680
And as we get ready to come back and be with you next week, we're gonna leave on the note of sometimes when you are so busy and life is so chaotic, it is okay to just let something go and say, you know what, I had the best of intentions to pick up my kids early, to go to the gym, to cook all of my meals, but life got busy, life got in the way, and I'm just stretched too thin.
00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:48.799
So this week I'm gonna let something go and I'm gonna be okay with it.
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I'm gonna say it is okay for this not to happen today.
00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:55.119
So you listening at home, think of something this week.
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If you are in this place, if you can match this energy that we have right now, where you just feel like you've got too much on your plate, you're balancing too many things.
00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:09.279
And if you don't unload something, then something else is gonna come crashing down and it's gonna be a much bigger mess.
00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:09.599
Yeah.
00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:13.839
So, what is something you're gonna give yourself permission to let go?
00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:16.000
And you're asking me that question.
00:23:16.319 --> 00:23:16.720
Oh, okay.
00:23:16.799 --> 00:23:17.279
I was like, I don't know.
00:23:17.519 --> 00:23:19.200
Give yourself permission, something to let go.
00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:21.519
And maybe it is saying, not picking up the kids early.
00:23:21.759 --> 00:23:23.440
Yeah, leaving the kids in aftercare.
00:23:23.599 --> 00:23:28.160
Yeah, I think that's gonna be it because I have a trip coming up at the end of the week still, right?
00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:29.279
And so that's right.
00:23:29.519 --> 00:23:38.799
I have like this compounded like need to, you know, feel like, oh, I need to be with them, but at the same time, it's also there's so much now to catch up from being gone and then also gonna be gone.
00:23:38.880 --> 00:23:52.480
So I feel like there's this challenging stress and balance that the best option for me that I know will be to just get the work done and then be fully present versus just trying to do a really bad job like to do it.
00:23:52.880 --> 00:23:53.200
Exactly.
00:23:53.279 --> 00:24:01.279
And maybe even if you just started with tomorrow saying, I'm gonna pick them up later, then maybe you get a lot done and that prepares you know a little bit of time for the next day.
00:24:01.440 --> 00:24:04.799
Maybe not, but you know, you can start with one day and take it from there.
00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:05.200
Yeah.
00:24:05.519 --> 00:24:08.319
For me, I really like to go to the gym.
00:24:08.480 --> 00:24:16.880
And I usually during the summer, going to the gym just goes to shit because I don't get to do it because I've got the kids with me and my gym doesn't do child care.
00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:21.920
But when they're in school, I always try to make a really big effort to get back on a routine and go to the gym.
00:24:22.400 --> 00:24:24.480
But I've told myself that's not gonna happen this week.
00:24:24.640 --> 00:24:28.160
I will try and go once, but leg day is already that's not gonna happen.
00:24:28.319 --> 00:24:29.119
That's a long day.
00:24:29.279 --> 00:24:30.559
I don't have that kind of time.
00:24:30.799 --> 00:24:38.000
But you know, if I can get in for a one 30-minute session, I'll be happy and it's okay because maybe next week I'll get back on it.
00:24:38.079 --> 00:24:40.240
And if I don't, that's okay too.
00:24:40.480 --> 00:24:40.799
Yeah.
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So we're gonna leave you with that note.
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It is okay to say not today.
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And it is okay to let some things go.
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It is okay to leave the laundry unfolded in the basket.
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It is okay to order takeout more than two times a week.
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It is okay to do whatever you need to do to survive and to have your family happy, safe together.
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So that's the note we're gonna leave you on.
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We hope you have a great week.
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We hope you come back and join us next week.
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And until then, stay messy.
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Bye.
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Bye.
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Thanks for listening to Messy as Hell.
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Until next time, stay messy.
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What you gonna do when your circuits being bird eye?
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Stay in the
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All right.
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I should warn you that I am on call tonight.
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So I have my phone mostly on silent, but if it were to ring while we were here, there's a chance that I would have to jump up, run to my car, and drive the hour back to the hospital.
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Okay, sounds good.
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That is just part of being an on-call nurse in the cat lab.
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But that's okay, because for right now, we're out in the shed.
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We're at the end of the day.
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Hopefully we're pretty cozy and we're gonna sit down and we're gonna record an episode.
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Yeah.
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Are you ready?
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Mini episode.
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Yes.
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Okay, yes.
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Emphasis on the mini.
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Yeah.
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All right, well, let's get into it.
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Welcome to messy as hell with Krista and Kim.
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No filters, no fixes, just real life.
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Welcome to Messy as Hell.
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I'm Krista.
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I'm Kimberly.
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All right, well, I'm gonna just lay out the truth for you.
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Today we had every intent of doing a full-length, fully researched episode, but then life got in the way.
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And we thought, why not just be real?
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We don't have the bandwidth right now.
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Shit happens and things come up.
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So for today, we're gonna do a special, shorter episode.
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We're calling it When You Don't Have the Bandwidth.
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And I can imagine that this is something that everyone listening right now can resonate with.
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Your plate is full, you're maxed out, and you just do not have the energy for anything extra.
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Would you say that's where you are right now?
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Oh yeah.
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Would you say that's where you were three days ago?
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Uh yeah.
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I feel like the past week plus has been, yeah.
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Stretching the bandwidth.
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Well, I just want to say to start out, I appreciate you being here with me.
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Just seeing you just seeing your smile is already making my day so much better.
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I'm coming off a long day at work.
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I got up at five and got my 22,000 steps in.
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Some of that is at work and some of that's intentional.
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Some of that's me like taking walk breaks.
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That makes my, you know, 6,500 look like shit.
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No, hey, anything is good.
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I mean, I am also in a job that focuses on standing and moving.
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Sure.
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Wow.
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Walking.
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That's impressive.
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What was your work day like today?
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Oh, you know, it's my first day back in like a week.
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Oh, it was your first day back.
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Okay.
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Yeah, managing all the things that from just this past week, which was a lot.
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So I was trying to play catch up.
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Yeah, catch up.
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We have like, I think like 12 different properties we're prepping right now for the market.
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And so a lot of them are different, you know, hand holding.
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And then I've got three closing this week.
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And one of them has been really challenging with a challenging agent on the other side.
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So it's just lots of stuff.
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So you came back to a bit of a shit storm, would you say?
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Okay.
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That's a fair assessment.
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Super fair.
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All right.
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So today we're just going to kind of move through some segments of basically just highlighting how busy a woman's life can be in everything that we're dealing with as we go.
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So we're going to start out with our usual, with our messy moments, and we're just going to share some of those moments from the week that just are not the most buttoned up and the most tidy, but they're real life.
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And this is what it's like to be a woman.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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Do you want to go first or should I go first?
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If you have something, please, by all means.
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I mean, this is more embarrassing because I just felt stupid in general, but that's messy.
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Yeah.
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So I spent some time with family over the past few days that I have not seen in a decade.
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One of which is my sister.
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You know, it was all for, as I told you, um, uh family funerals.
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We ended up, her and I ended up locking ourselves out of this short-term rental.
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We we like did the code like five times.
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Yes.
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And then it locked us out of the house.
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And we had just gone grocery shopping.
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So we got an ice cream and chocolate, basically all the things that you drowned your emotions in.
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Yes.
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So we're just sitting outside, there was a box of sea chocolates that I got, and we were just sitting there, just trying each chocolate.
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And then my cousin called and she goes, Well, did you press enter?
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And I was like, No, we didn't press that would have been really helpful.
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And so we turned around after sitting there for 20 minutes and pressed enter, and we could we got in the house.
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So it's just one of those moments where I'm like, you know, it's like that mental overload.
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Yes, where your brain totally failed you.
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Yeah.
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I'm like, well, it's you know, we went through a box of chocolates.
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And you just could not think of what to do.
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No, hey, I can resonate with that.
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You know, so my moment, it's just a highlight of I think of what real life is really like.
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So my husband and I recently celebrated our anniversary.
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We've been married for 15 years, which is, I feel like it's a major accomplishment because you know, marriage is hard.
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And we were able to spend kind of a staycation locally.
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We were here just about an hour away from home, but my mom was really sweet and kind and she came to watch the kids so that we could do that.
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And we had this wonderful weekend.
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It was so relaxing.
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We spent a lot of like really quality time together.
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We ate meals out together, we talked, we sat and read our books together over coffee.
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It was just really lovely.
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And then we came home and we were instantly bombarded.
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As soon as we walked in the door, it's like the kids, the dog, everyone's running at us, everyone has questions, everyone needs their problems solved, everyone wants to tell us about something that was really unfair that happened.
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Always, always.
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And it was just so much.
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And by the end of it, my husband and I ended up in this little tiff.
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It was really small, you know, it wasn't a big deal at all.
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But it was how did we go from being so perfectly in love and feeling so happy, having all the hard hives, to then like two hours later being kind of snippy with each other?
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Yeah.
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And by the end of the night, everything was fine.
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You know, the kids were in bed, we were back to homeostasis where we had been.
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But it was just an example of okay, this is what happens, you know.
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As soon as you throw in the factors of kids and life and responsibilities, it just gets a little complicated and a little messy.
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And you just have to roll with the punches.
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Exactly.
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That's exactly what it's like.
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We came back to real life, we came back to responsibilities, and you just kind of it hits you in the face.
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Yeah all at once.
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Absolutely.
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And sometimes it's hard to recover and to just handle things smoothly.
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Yeah.
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But we managed and I'm very grateful for it.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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So today, as we're talking about, we're both just filled to our maxes.
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We don't really have, you know, for me, it's election season.
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So that means that there's lots of campaigns going on in our town, in the county.
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And so I've kind of been called to help with some of those.
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So I'm helping to campaign.
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I know you were just saying you've got 12 properties that are waiting to be listed.
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I'm guessing that's not even counting the properties that you currently have under contract, or those are those are all active projects prepping for the market.
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So that's yeah, exactly.
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So you've got a whole nother mess of things there.
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So sometimes when you have so much going on, the tiniest things can just like set you over the edge, or the tiniest uh tasks can feel insurmountable.
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So I'm curious for you looking at your week, thinking about like your mental to-do list.
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What is something that's small?
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And that on a normal, like non-busy day would be just the simplest little task to go take care of that.
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Right now, you're like, I can't even deal with this.
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This is my Everest.
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God, there's, I mean, there's there's so many things that this one is, it's kind of, I'm sure every person struggles with this.
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So Amazon is kind of like a lifeline for me.
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Yes.
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And it's not that I support the certain, you know, person or anything.
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It's really just phase of life.
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And I so appreciate the ease and accessibility for my life.
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Well, and it saves your ass a lot too when you forget something.
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Yes.
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I mean, again, next day, right?
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And so, but oftentimes things, you know, as it goes, things need to be returned.
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And so I got this screen for the back of my car to try to keep the dog in the back of the car so he wouldn't always be jumping at me.
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Yes.
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And so I got it and I set it all up, and it was too short for the side so he could still come through.
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And so it's been sitting on my fucking board for like two weeks.
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Yes.
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And every day I walk out, I see it and I'm like, yeah, I'll get to it.
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I'll get to it.
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And but I haven't.
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I haven't.
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Well, that's hilarious because that was actually mine, is that I ordered it's so silly.
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I ordered an iPad cover for my daughter before we went on our trip because hers had broken.
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And I bought the wrong size.
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I ordered it for an old iPad.
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And so I was like, okay, well, I'll just order another one because that's what you do.
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It's still need to be fixed.
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And I was like, and I'll just return this one because it is so simple, right?
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I literally just have to drive to the UPS shop.
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I don't even have to package it.
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I just go and scan the QR.
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But this thing, it's right by my door, it's right by my car keys.
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It's just staring me in the face every day.
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And I'm like, I mean, at this point, fuck it.
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It's probably not gonna get returned because I think I've got 10 days left.
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Like, I'm gonna eat the four window for exactly right.
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I will get it done.
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Okay, maybe that's my goal for Wednesday.
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Yeah.
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I've got a list already of to do for Wednesday, but there you go.
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You know, want to take mine.
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Well, you know what?
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Maybe if you get it to me, if it's still here in the car, maybe I'll throw it in with mine.
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You can just send me the keyboard.
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No, it's not even in the car.
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What's in the back of my car, which has been there for like a month and a half, is a bunch of clothes that need to go to the donation.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Okay, all right.
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Well, that's hilarious.
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So that's something I've got a box of diapers that is unopened.
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And I have a colleague that just had a baby and I was like, hey, do you want this box of diapers?
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And he was like, Yeah.
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So I carried him around in my car for like three weeks, but he wasn't back from his paternity leave.
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So I finally just took him out because I need to make room for soccer gear.
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And now he's back, and I'm like, they're literally staring at me every day when I go out to work.
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But I just either I don't know if I forget that they're there, or I just am it's too much work to pick them up off the shelf and move them over.
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Okay, I'm going back to work tomorrow.
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Maybe that's what I need to do tomorrow.
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All right.
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So for everyone, sometimes those tiny things just feel impossible.
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And it's funny, as we're going through these, listener, I want you to just think about for you, what is that tiny thing right now in your life that would normally just be so simple to get taken care of that right now you just feel like it is the hardest task in the world.
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And it is just, you know, at your back.
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The next thing we're gonna do, I have some questions for you.
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Okay.
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I am going to, we're both gonna answer them.
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And also for you listening at home, answer along with us and see where you are with your bandwidth right now.
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Okay.
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All right, name something that slipped through the cracks this week.
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Oh gosh.
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I have I'll I'll start.
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So for us, my son started the band this year and he plays the trombone.
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And I've been getting the weekly emails from the music teacher of like the days that he needs to have the trombone, but those are some of those things that are going into the queue where I'm like, okay, this is non-urgent.
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I can read this email later.
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So she sent an email last week that I didn't read until like the very end of the week.
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I think she sent it maybe Monday.
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I read it Friday.
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So by the time I read it on Friday, I realized that we had already missed two days of band practice and he should have had his trombone with him Tuesday and Thursday, did not have it until Friday.
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So, you know, that one just totally switched through clocks.
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Thankfully, it was not life or death.
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Yeah.
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But still, sorry, kid.
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I kind of fucked up there.
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How about you?
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Well, this one's kind of on me.
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It's not, I mean, it is it because it like stops with me now, but this and it has to do with this one agent right now that I'm just like, you are just the epitome of why everybody hates real estate agents.
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You're like the exact real reason.
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But you know, she's been a really challenging person to work with.
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But 10 days ago, we and this has been more than 10 days ago, so it was verbal conversations of you know, the sellers will need until 5 p.m.
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end of day to vacate the property because their concurrent closes.
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So they're closing, they're buying and selling at the same time.
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So I'm like, they need to get their stuff out, you know, and we need by 5 p.m.
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No problem, no problem.
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We get it in writing, no problem 10 days ago.
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And so typically in this process, you actually get it on an addendum as well.
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50% of the time, though, little things like this, agents with our reputations, you know, and our relationships, it's more of like a goodwill, right?
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And her broker who I'm good friends with, that's how we do it all the time.
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In any case, 10 days ago, the email goes out, everybody's in agreement.
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I copy my transaction coordinator on it, who's in charge of all that kind of paperwork.
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And I say, Hey, you know, I need you to get this out, please take care of it.
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And then I go on my family vacation, which tends then turns into a family funeral.
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And so my mindset is very, you know, I'm like, I'm very checked out, despite the fact that I'm trying to manage the work things and my partner's taking care of things.
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And anyways, so I'm gone.
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And I come back today, and she's like, Well, we're gonna show up at at noon tomorrow.
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And I'm like, no, no, we we said five o'clock.
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Well, you never put it in writing.
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So I never told the client.
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No.
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And I was just like, No, are you kidding me?
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And so then I had to go back to my transaction quarter and just say, Hey, you know, like then she had to say, like, that was on me.
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I didn't get that done.
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However, we all agreed and it was in writing, you know.
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And so it really is that agent.
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It really is.
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I mean, that's like a screwed up thing on her part, right?
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Like she's being super unprofessional.
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It just falls onto your plate, but it does, it super falls on me because I should have double checked, but I just got back from the funeral, like, you know, and then I pay these people to do their job, right?
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But it reflects back on me.
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And it's just like it's like one of those little things.
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It's just there's so many little things.
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And so for me today, that was just like a big F today.
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Yeah, really pissed me up.
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Yeah, that's a huge bummer.
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I'm sorry that happened to you.
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That's all right.
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Okay, this one's a little bit lighter.
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How many meals do you have planned and prepped already this week?
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You know, I just got back into town, right?
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I need to get groceries delivered.
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At least you have an excuse.
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Mine is a big fat zero.
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I mean, I've technically been home.
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I've been in the area.
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I have no excuse.
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I mean, also on a normal week, when I my bandwidth is not exhausted, I still plan maybe one to two meals.
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We're not far from baseline, but still.
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Well, I mean, to that answer that question, though, right?
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I'm like, I haven't got my groceries delivered because that's how busy I am.
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So it's like I have to do that, but then I can plan.
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But I mean, my dinner prep is consumed of like, oh, Costco has like the pre-made like rice and beans and for sure.
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So I'm like, that's a dinner.
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Hey, that's more than I've done.
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Like, oh, there's pierogies from the store.
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Like, yeah.
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While I was writing out this question, I actually thought, oh, okay, maybe I'll do beef soup this week.
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So I take it back.
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Maybe I have one meal planned.
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Yeah.
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All right.
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Let's see how quick you can do this math.
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How many after-school activities do you need to get the kids to this week?
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Ooh.
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Okay.
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So I think you've got the three boys, the one girl, I've got two kids.
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I've got soccer, one, two, three, cross-country one.
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I've got, I mean, for each day or just like total for the week.
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For the week.
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Yeah.
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So I've got six after school activities I've got to get them to.
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Yeah, I think I'm at six.
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Or I guess if you count all of them, there'd be like eight.
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Well, exactly.
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So there's multiple kids.
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Exactly.
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And there's to be fair, there's five days in the in the school.
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So we're already exceeding days of the week with activities that we need to get to.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Some of the days definitely have two to three activities.
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We call those the busy shit days.
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All right.
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Okay.
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Name a responsibility that you would get rid of if you could.
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Something that's on big or small.
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That's a good question.
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I mean, I had a big answer.
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I'm going to go with a small answer, but I've got a couple.
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Oh.
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No, I'll give you time to think.
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I had time to think about this because I wrote them out.
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So you can hear mine.
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It's so stupid.
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But my children have fish that they begged me and begged me for.
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And I knew it was going to happen.
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I knew as soon as we got these fish that mom was going to be responsible to keep yet another creature alive.
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Yeah.
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If I could just like wash my hands of those fish and like flush them down the toilet, I would.
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Except that I'm too compassionate.
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I cannot kill these fish.
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I feel so sad.
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So instead, I've loaded the fish tanks with shrimp, and the shrimp are just keeping it clean.
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Oh.
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And like my husband was like, you should put the shrimp on the payroll because right now they're keeping that shit going.
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That's fantastic.
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I love that.
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That's smart.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I think mine would have to do something to do with the cleaning, right?
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Like it would definitely be a permanent offload of not just cleaning the organization, just people putting shit away.
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I think that would really be it's not even the cleaning.
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I think it's more the organization.
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Like if I had someone magically that came in my house and constantly put everything away.
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Oh, I mean, what a gift, right?
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Yes, can I?
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That would be amazing.
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That would be what I want.
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If I catch the leprechaun on March 17th, can I put him to work doing that?
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That sounds good.
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Okay.
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All right.
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This one, you might have to open your phone.
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How many unanswered texts do you have right now?
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Mine's gonna be way smaller than you because I'm not nearly as busy or important as you.
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Well, granted, it's nine o'clock at night.
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If you asked me this earlier today, I was at 99.
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Yeah, that's so crazy.
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So right now it's only at six.
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Even at my peak today, I was at five.
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Of course I'm at zero right now, because like I said, I am not busy or important.
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I was telling my husband before we sat down to record, I was like, Oh, I need to put my phone on, do not disturb, so I don't get any calls or texts, but also I'm on call, so I can't do that because I have to have the volume on.
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And he was like, Love, no one's gonna text you.
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It's nine o'clock.
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And I was like, Well, okay, you're right.
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No one's gonna text me.
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I can leave my phone on for call.
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If I wasn't here, there's a chance that I might text you.
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Yeah, see, okay, thank you.
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And give some love.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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Name something that you are dreading having to deal with.
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And again, this can be anything.
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This can be with the kids, with the family, this can be with work.
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Just something that when you think about having to deal with it, it just kind of stresses you out.
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Taxes.
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Oh.
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Wait, taxes.
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That's not for a while.
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Oh, girl.
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I this is like a extension.
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No, no, this is just like a prep.
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Like, you know, like I work with my CPA and like we we tax prep in like September, August.
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Like if we start to like August, September, October, this is like our start to prep for the end of the day.
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So to make sure you're on track.
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Yeah.
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Where else can I put money so I'm paying less?
00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:17.519
Oh wow.
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But no, it stresses the shit out of me.
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Yeah, your problems are like big grown-up problems.
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Mine are like, I'd get rid of some fish.
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Mine are kind of dumb.
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I would love your problems.
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Let's switch problems.
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Let's do it.
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No, mine is that I have to coordinate this kind of like it's I don't want to say counseling.
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It's like a growth session or like a coaching session.
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I have to coordinate a coaching session.
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But there's five of us that have five different schedules.
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I definitely have the most complex schedule because of the kids and my job and my committee meetings.
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So it's just been a string of emails and text messages of when are you available?
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This is when I'm available.
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And it's really stressing me out and just trying to think about getting this coordinated.
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I'm just really dreading it because it's gonna take, it's gonna be several hours of coaching.
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So I'm already thinking, like, when do I even have a free day when I can block out four to five hours to do this?
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And it's just damn because it's something that has to be done.
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So inevitably, I am gonna have to deal with it.
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Yeah.
00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:23.279
But all right, last one.
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And yours, I don't know how you categorize these, but how many meetings do you have this week?
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Yeah.
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Your meetings are probably different than mine.
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The amount of meetings, I mean, because it goes from whether that's like a Zoom call or you know, going to a show in person or showings, yeah, different things like that.
00:19:42.640 --> 00:19:45.519
I mean, it can be like 15 a day plus.
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Okay.
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All right.
00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:56.880
Or it turns into an hour just a meeting phone call with a client that was supposed to be like a five, and I consider that a meeting because I'm like, that was just we went over everything over the phone.
00:19:57.119 --> 00:20:00.720
So yeah, no, I mean, I can average 15 meetings a day sometimes.
00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:07.440
I I've done showings where I've gone and shown 12 homes, and then I've got to go and do a bunch of other client appointments in one day.
00:20:07.519 --> 00:20:07.759
Yeah.
00:20:08.079 --> 00:20:08.799
That is wild.
00:20:08.960 --> 00:20:09.279
Okay.
00:20:09.440 --> 00:20:11.759
Well, again, my number pales in comparison.
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I'm at five and I'm like, I'm so stressed out.
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I have so many meetings.
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But again, I'm at all relative.
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Exactly.
00:20:19.359 --> 00:20:20.240
I do shift work.
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So, like when I am at work, I punch in, I do my 12 hour, I guess 10 hours of work, and then I punch out.
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And then my meetings are all mostly related to city council and committees and things like that.
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But okay, what do you think?
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Would you say that that was therapeutic to unload some of that?
00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:39.680
Or was it more stressful because you're like, wow, thanks, Krista.
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You brought all of this shit to light that I need to get done.
00:20:43.039 --> 00:20:45.119
No, I mean, it's it's already there, right?
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Like today, um, you know, we've talked about this before where it's like I I really just should pick the kids up at a certain time so I can finish my work.
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Yep.
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And because I had the week that I had this last week.
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You wanted to pick them up early.
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Yeah.
00:21:00.720 --> 00:21:02.559
So I wanted to pick up the littles early.
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You know, I thought I could manage, you know, like working from home to ours.
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And I told them before I dropped them off at school, I was like, look, we'll all work at the same time, right?
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And if you need help was a fucking shit show.
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Yeah.
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And I was just sitting there, I'm like, why did I do this to myself?
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Because I'm so overly done right now, and everything's setting me off.
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And my sweet little girl is just sitting over here, mom, mom, mom.
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And everything she's saying, she just is she sang with love and attention.
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And then, and then I'm still just getting annoyed because I'm like, I really need to do this.
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And then I have to help her with homework, and then she's getting overtired because she just got back from her trip and it's three hours difference, and so then she's getting burned.
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When did they get back?
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Yeah, Saturday.
00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:39.119
Oh, so they just barely got back.
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Yeah.
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So you've just kind of barely been reunited with them.
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Yeah.
00:21:42.079 --> 00:21:43.519
Well, I mean, okay, this makes sense.
00:21:43.599 --> 00:21:48.000
And this also kind of keys into last week's episode when we talked about mom guilt.
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Yeah.
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And it's like, that's why you picked them up early, right?
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Because you've been missing them, you're feeling bad because you haven't been with them.
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And so you go and pick them up, which is like perfectly good and normal thing to do.
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And how are you to know that it's Gonna go sideways and that it's not gonna go smoothly.
00:22:02.720 --> 00:22:07.039
You go in with the best intentions and you hope, you know, maybe tomorrow you pick them up at 4 30.
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And that's okay too.
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Totally.
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Whatever your day calls for, you do it.
00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:12.559
Yeah.
00:22:12.880 --> 00:22:13.440
All right.
00:22:13.759 --> 00:22:21.440
Well, as we close this down now, I think this has been just a nice little midweek unload.
00:22:21.920 --> 00:22:45.680
And as we get ready to come back and be with you next week, we're gonna leave on the note of sometimes when you are so busy and life is so chaotic, it is okay to just let something go and say, you know what, I had the best of intentions to pick up my kids early, to go to the gym, to cook all of my meals, but life got busy, life got in the way, and I'm just stretched too thin.
00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:48.799
So this week I'm gonna let something go and I'm gonna be okay with it.
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I'm gonna say it is okay for this not to happen today.
00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:55.119
So you listening at home, think of something this week.
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If you are in this place, if you can match this energy that we have right now, where you just feel like you've got too much on your plate, you're balancing too many things.
00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:09.279
And if you don't unload something, then something else is gonna come crashing down and it's gonna be a much bigger mess.
00:23:09.440 --> 00:23:09.599
Yeah.
00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:13.839
So, what is something you're gonna give yourself permission to let go?
00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:16.000
And you're asking me that question.
00:23:16.319 --> 00:23:16.720
Oh, okay.
00:23:16.799 --> 00:23:17.279
I was like, I don't know.
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Give yourself permission, something to let go.
00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:21.519
And maybe it is saying, not picking up the kids early.
00:23:21.759 --> 00:23:23.440
Yeah, leaving the kids in aftercare.
00:23:23.599 --> 00:23:28.160
Yeah, I think that's gonna be it because I have a trip coming up at the end of the week still, right?
00:23:28.319 --> 00:23:29.279
And so that's right.
00:23:29.519 --> 00:23:38.799
I have like this compounded like need to, you know, feel like, oh, I need to be with them, but at the same time, it's also there's so much now to catch up from being gone and then also gonna be gone.
00:23:38.880 --> 00:23:52.480
So I feel like there's this challenging stress and balance that the best option for me that I know will be to just get the work done and then be fully present versus just trying to do a really bad job like to do it.
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Exactly.
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And maybe even if you just started with tomorrow saying, I'm gonna pick them up later, then maybe you get a lot done and that prepares you know a little bit of time for the next day.
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Maybe not, but you know, you can start with one day and take it from there.
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Yeah.
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For me, I really like to go to the gym.
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And I usually during the summer, going to the gym just goes to shit because I don't get to do it because I've got the kids with me and my gym doesn't do child care.
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But when they're in school, I always try to make a really big effort to get back on a routine and go to the gym.
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But I've told myself that's not gonna happen this week.
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I will try and go once, but leg day is already that's not gonna happen.
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That's a long day.
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I don't have that kind of time.
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But you know, if I can get in for a one 30-minute session, I'll be happy and it's okay because maybe next week I'll get back on it.
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And if I don't, that's okay too.
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Yeah.
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So we're gonna leave you with that note.
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It is okay to say not today.
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And it is okay to let some things go.
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It is okay to leave the laundry unfolded in the basket.
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It is okay to order takeout more than two times a week.
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It is okay to do whatever you need to do to survive and to have your family happy, safe together.
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So that's the note we're gonna leave you on.
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We hope you have a great week.
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We hope you come back and join us next week.
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And until then, stay messy.
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Bye.
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Bye.
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Thanks for listening to Messy as Hell.
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Until next time, stay messy.
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