ABOUT THIS EPISODE
You said yes. But what if you were never really free to say no?
Here's the terrifying thing about coercive control: It can look exactly like love. Exactly like consent. And you might not recognize the manipulation until you're already trapped in it.
In this eye-opening episode, I'm joined by forensic researcher AJ Greer, who studies sexual violence, dangerous relationship dynamics, and the psychology of abusers. We're exposing the subtle manipulation tactics, shocking red flags, and dangerous power dynamics that can turn a relationship into something you barely recognize.
You'll learn:
The hidden signs of coercive control that are dangerously easy to miss.
Consent vs. coercion: Why saying "yes" doesn't always mean you had a choice.
Love bombing, jealousy, and manipulation: The red flags you should NEVER ignore.
The open relationship ultimatum: When "agreeing" becomes coercion.
The dangerous bedroom trend that can have deadly consequences.
How to help someone you love who's trapped in an abusive relationship.
If you've ever questioned your partner's behavior, second-guessed your boundaries, or wondered whether something that happened to you was actually okay, you need to hear this conversation.
Ready to get clarity about your relationship? You don't have to figure it out alone. Book a FREE consultation with a member of my team at Growing Self.
Content note: This episode discusses coercion, sexual violence, abuse, and physical danger. If you need immediate support, visit our emergency resources or thehotline.org.
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