ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Licensed Clinical Social Worker Lara Okoloko and Heather discuss the delicate balance of influence and autonomy in parent-child relationships, particularly in the context of addiction. Lara empathizes with parents caught in the bind of being blamed for the negative aspects of enabling without receiving any credit for the positive influence they may have.
She shares personal insights, reflecting on the power dynamics and responsibilities that come with being a helper, the importance of respect and autonomy in relationships, and the need for a balanced approach to supporting loved ones with substance use disorder.
Her passion for reducing stigma and respecting self-determination in supporting individuals with substance use disorders is evident.
With Lara's expertise and relatable experiences, this episode offers valuable insights and a fresh perspective on navigating the complexities of parent-child relationships and supporting loved ones through their recovery journey.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Uncover the impact of mixed messages when supporting a
loved one with substance use disorder, and how to navigate them effectively.
Embrace humility and respect in relationships to
strengthen your role in your loved one's recovery journey.
Explore the influence and autonomy in parent-child
relationships, and how to strike a healthy balance.
Discover the profound impact of helpers' words and
actions on the recovery journey of their loved ones.
Contact Lara: https://www.caresnw.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:02 - Introduction to Laura Okoloko
00:01:26 - Mixed Messages for Parents
00:02:52 - Lack of Positive Influence Recognition
00:05:43 - Influence vs. Control
00:16:36 - Balancing Autonomy and Support
00:18:57 - The Importance of Humility in Coaching
00:22:04 - Finding the Balance of Influence
00:23:36 - Using Influence Deliberately
00:26:33 - Understanding Power Dynamics
00:29:51 - Defining Success in Relationships
00:36:39 - The Power of Words in Helping Relationships
00:38:53 - Power Dynamics in Relationships
00:40:12 - Normalizing Control in Uncontrollable Situations
00:41:45 - Redesigning Support for Substance Use Disorders
00:43:16 - Closing Thoughts and Reflections
She shares personal insights, reflecting on the power dynamics and responsibilities that come with being a helper, the importance of respect and autonomy in relationships, and the need for a balanced approach to supporting loved ones with substance use disorder.
Her passion for reducing stigma and respecting self-determination in supporting individuals with substance use disorders is evident.
With Lara's expertise and relatable experiences, this episode offers valuable insights and a fresh perspective on navigating the complexities of parent-child relationships and supporting loved ones through their recovery journey.
In this episode, you will be able to:
Uncover the impact of mixed messages when supporting a
loved one with substance use disorder, and how to navigate them effectively.
Embrace humility and respect in relationships to
strengthen your role in your loved one's recovery journey.
Explore the influence and autonomy in parent-child
relationships, and how to strike a healthy balance.
Discover the profound impact of helpers' words and
actions on the recovery journey of their loved ones.
Contact Lara: https://www.caresnw.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for moms
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:02 - Introduction to Laura Okoloko
00:01:26 - Mixed Messages for Parents
00:02:52 - Lack of Positive Influence Recognition
00:05:43 - Influence vs. Control
00:16:36 - Balancing Autonomy and Support
00:18:57 - The Importance of Humility in Coaching
00:22:04 - Finding the Balance of Influence
00:23:36 - Using Influence Deliberately
00:26:33 - Understanding Power Dynamics
00:29:51 - Defining Success in Relationships
00:36:39 - The Power of Words in Helping Relationships
00:38:53 - Power Dynamics in Relationships
00:40:12 - Normalizing Control in Uncontrollable Situations
00:41:45 - Redesigning Support for Substance Use Disorders
00:43:16 - Closing Thoughts and Reflections
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