ABOUT THIS EPISODE
When we talk about IVF, we tend to talk about the basics. Most people know there are injections and the egg collections involved, but we talk far less about the detail on how it actually works and everything that happens around it - including how you maintain a relationship, and how you can manage hearing a friend's happy pregnancy news whilst still in the middle of your own journey.
This week, Jo sits down with Ami for a conversation about the parts of IVF that nobody prepares you for.
Ami and her partner dealt with male infertility, three rounds of IVF, a pregnancy loss at nine weeks, developing postpartum depression and anxiety, and then PMDD, the guilt of providing a sibling for her son and then a final decision to close that chapter.
What We Cover in This Episode
- 💊 Twelve years on the pill — and how Ami's body felt when she came off it
- 🔬 The test results: male factor infertility, type of IVF they went for, and what that cost them
- 🏥 The NHS IVF postcode lottery — what disqualified them entirely from receiving funding
- 💉 What ICSI actually involves — explained honestly and clearly
- 🧠 The psychological weight of IVF
- 💑 What IVF does to a relationship — the conversations, the fractures, and the things that held them together
- 😔 Postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and PMDD — and the GP who told her to "wait two weeks"
- 🎄 A Christmas Day egg collection, a chest infection, and round two that felt nothing like round one
- 💔 The nine-week scan she went to alone — and what happened next
- 🌿 Choosing to stop — and how Ami and her partner decided to stop, and built a life they genuinely love
- 👦 The guilt of the sibling that never came — and how she holds that grief alongside genuine gratitude
- 💬 What Ami wishes she had known at the start
💛 Resources & Support
- Fertility Network UK — UK's leading patient fertility charity, including support for those who stop treatment: fertilitynetworkuk.org
- The Miscarriage Association — support for pregnancy loss at any stage: miscarriageassociation.org.uk
- More to Life — support network specifically for people living without children after infertility: moretolife.co.uk
- IAPMD — International Association for Premenstrual Disorders (PMDD): iapmd.org
- Mind UK — mental health support including postpartum depression: mind.org.uk
- NHS IVF information — eligibility and funding guidance: nhs.uk/conditions/ivf
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