Learn How By Trusting the Plan You Will Have the Strength to Live Full Out

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You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Silari. As
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a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
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through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
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have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
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at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
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Hello, and welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My
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name is Nancy Silari. And today for me talking about
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trusting the plan. Now for all of you planners, my
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heart rejoices. For all of you who don't love a plan, well,
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maybe we should think of a plan or maybe there
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is one already designed for your life that's kind of
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under the radar and making all that magic happen, or
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the things that are teaching you lessons happen. We're going
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to be talking about that throughout today's show. Also coming up,
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we have our inspirational guest, Ashley Wayne. Honestly what I
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feel like we're kindred spirits are and I She too
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is blind and has an amazing story of adoption, which
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I won't give it all away, but it's a good one.
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I want to make sure that beyond today's show, you
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do stay supported. Make sure to go to Livingfullout dot com,
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share this episode with a friend who you feel needs
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to stick to that plan, or someone who maybe is
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swirling around in life who just feels like man. Everybody
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else knows what they want to do, but I don't
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know this is going to be the show for them.
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So I'd like to go into our next segment mainly
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with you being ears and eyes open. And when I
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say that, I don't mean that lightly. It could just
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be one thing I say. A guest says. A caller
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who listener rings in says, it's important that as you
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move along at today's show that you grow, that you
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feel a little bit taller, a little bit wiser. That's
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the whole point of why we do this show. Now,
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I am getting word for our producer that we do
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a listener on the line. Let's check in with them. Hello,
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welcome to the Living Full Out Show.
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Hi, Nancy, I have a question.
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Yeah, how can I help you?
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So?
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I currently go to Penn State and I'm doing this
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thing called the two post two plan where basically I
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complete my first two years at a smaller campus and
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my second two years at the main big campus, and
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I'm about to transition to the main campus, and I'm
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kind of nervous because I'm going from like a small
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campus with not that many people to a huge campus
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with a ton of like games, and like, I'm pretty
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nervous about that. So I wanted to know if you
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had any advice about that.
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Well, first of all, congratulations on completing the first two years.
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I mean, let's celebrate that. That's great and a new chapter.
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Although it seems scary, it's actually exciting. I mean, have
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you ever been like really hungry, just starving?
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Yes?
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Yeah, And have you ever like ordered pizza and when
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the pizza came you couldn't open it fast enough to
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have that first piece. So when sometimes when we have
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a big moment in life, a big jump, going from
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a smaller campus to a bigger campus, you're you're taking
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on a big jump. Maybe down the line you end
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up owning your own business. That's a big jump, right.
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It's kind of like having that big pie, that pizza pie,
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and wanting to eat it all at one time. Okay,
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don't let yourself get overwhelmed. Savor the moments. Take one
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slice of that pie and eat it and enjoy it,
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Taste all the flavors. So rather than feeling like this
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experience is going to be overwhelming and scary and oh
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my goodness, I would just kind of slow down and
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I would just think methodically to yourself, Okay, I know
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I've got classes. Okay, that's my first responsibility. Do well
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in school.
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Check.
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And then you want to say to yourself, well, you
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know what, maybe I'll take on something new once a quarter,
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once a semester, you know, once a month, and that
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way you don't get overwhelmed, you don't get distracted. The
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other thing is, when you think about this big jump,
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this exciting jump, what are you most fearful of? What
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is like the in your mind, what is the scariest
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thing that could happen.
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That I just won't really be able to like make
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that many friends. They're get involved as.
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Much, okay, And why would you not be able to
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What would hold you back from that?
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I don't know, just like probably like not that good
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like can interacting skills, like maybe I won't be kind
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of nervous to go off to people and talk to
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people mm hm and buying new things and and join
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a club.
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Right, And so now that you know what the worst
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thing is, right, the worst case scenario is you go
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the next two years, you make no friends, you study hard,
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and you get your degree, and then you're off to
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your next big jump. That's the worst case. That's not terrible.
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Two years is like poof gone. Now we don't want
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the worst case scenario. We want the best case scenario.
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So let's think about how can you meet people? What
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could that feel like look like? And if communication is
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where you think you're going to get stuck, take this
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time now to study, Oh my gosh with AI it's
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right at your fingertips. Think about memorizing icebreakers. So a
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lot of times why people don't talk to others is
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they don't know what to say, and and you know, like,
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how's the weather right? How exciting is that?
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Right?
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But there actually are ice breakers. There's ones that you
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can ask of other people, and there's ones where if
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you don't want to make the first move, maybe you
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provoke an icebreaker. So sometimes when people go to let's
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say a networking function, they might wear a hat that
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stands out, ear rings that stand out, a necklace that
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stands out. Are bro for sure? You know, whatever it is,
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it could be their briefcase stands out, you know, And
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then people will come to you and be like, oh
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my gosh, what a beautiful necklace. And you didn't have
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to say anything, but you're you're pulling them in with
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something that is a talking point. You're giving them something
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to ask you about. You might you could wear a
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crown if you wanted to, although that might look a
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little silly, but you know what I mean. On the
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flip side, you want to think about what are some
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questions that are not silly but are interesting. It could
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be you could vice versa. Find something that they're wearing
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or doing and ask them about it. Curiosity is a
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great way to ice break. Another one can be rather
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than the here's the weather, do you come here? Often
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stay away from those. Another one could be so not
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just like what do you do or what are you studying?
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But gosh, so you know, I know you're studying something.
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What is that? And what brought you into that? Okay?
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Or somebody you might see that maybe I don't know,
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maybe they're talking in an accent. Oh my gosh, I
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love your accent. It is beautiful. Where are you from originally?
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Right?
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Or you know, maybe someone you know has an accent
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like I love the New York accent. I love it,
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and I love a good Southern accent. Right, So if
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I hear that they're pulling me in and I'm like,
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where are you from?
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Right?
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And so you can easily just segue to those. But
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having those on hands, also think about pulling together because
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I know, I know sometimes jokes and quotes are hard
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to memorize. But think about what would be a quote
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that is near and dear to your heart? What is
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you know, maybe a joke that's easy to remember. So
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take this time now to think about, Okay, what are
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icebreaker questions that I can memorize? What are jokes? What
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are quotes? And then right there, you know, when there's
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this moment of I gotta say something, You're ready? Have
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you tried that? Yeah? Is that make you still nervous?
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No?
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I think I feel a little bit more confident now
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and I know what I need to work on.
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Well, And let me ask you one last question before
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I let you jump. Do you want to be friends
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with you?
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Yeah?
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I would too. So the silent game that I'm nervous game,
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I'm going to sit at the table and not talk
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to you and look at my phone.
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Game.
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What you actually do is you prevent somebody else from
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having a new best friend. You prevent somebody else from
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meeting you. And what if you say something, What if
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you're a pivotal, wonderful, inspirational person in their life, by
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you playing it safe, you take away that opportunity for
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them to meet you. So in some ways you are
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a gift all in yourself to that person that's equally
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going to school nervous, wanting a friend. I think you
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can find camaraderie in having a shared experience. Do you
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see that?
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Yeah?
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So are you still nervous?
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Not as much anymore?
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Okay? Can you do this? Can you be personable? Can
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you be an icebreaker?
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Yes?
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All right? I love that. Stay in the yes lane.
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If somebody invites you to something, say yes. So remember
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in these next two years, yes is your mantra. Okay,
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thank you so much for calling in and for everybody today.
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You got it. We are talking about trusting the plan, right,
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We've got this plan of yes, we're yes people. We've
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got this plan of coming up with icebreakers and quotes
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and jokes. And if you do that, the nerves will
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start to disappear. You will find that you've got some
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swagger in the way that you walk, your head is
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lifted high, your eyes are wide open, and you are
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spunky and ready to rock. And that is the vibe.
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That is the lane you want to be in so
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you can live full out.
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Life looks a little different during these times. We're doing
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our best to keep our minds and bodies strong, and
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getting a flu shot helps us stay healthy so we
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don't miss out on what matters, like having game night
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at home. Yeah, can't do that, we'll sick with the flu.
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Now imagine family movie night that your daughter can't live without. Well,
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that's ruined. And don't forget your uncle's socially distanced cookouts. See,
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that's why it's important to be at our strongest. Every year,
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millions of people in the US get the flu, especially now.
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No one has time to miss out on moments that matter.
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Stop you're texting your boss by mistake.
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Heh oh brah, that's buzzed.
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Oh yeah yeah, he's starting with the woots.
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And now a speech.
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I just want to say that friendship is about heart,
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heart and brain.
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Who's with me?
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Good thing is he knows when he's buzzed, and my
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brain is saying when it's time to go home, Somebody.
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Call me a ride.
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Love that guy, me too, know your buzzed warning signs,
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call for a ride when it's time to go home.
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Buzz driving is drunk driving. A message from MITSA and
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the AD Council.
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True out.
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You got me Galaxy safe once again.
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In the pretend universe, kids play with preten guns. In
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the real world, it's up to us to make sure
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they don't get their hands on a real gun. If
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you have a gun in the house, keep it locked, unloaded,
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Welcome back. I'm Nancy Silary and this is the Living
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Full Out Show. And today we're talking about trusting the plan.
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we know illustrate what we're trying to really ignite in
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you today get you into action. Today and I'd like
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to welcome Ashley Wayne to the show.
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Hi, thanks so much, glad to be so.
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Happy, so happy to have you, and for everybody listen.
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You know my story. I'm legally blind right to retinitis pigmentosa,
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but Ashley is blind too. I feel like we are
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soul sisters, different mothers, but kindred spirits. And honestly, Ashley,
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although I have retinitis pigmentosa and lost my vision from
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sixteen on, you were born actually without vision? In what way?
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What happened?
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I was born three months premature, only weighed like two
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pounds in one ounce I think it was, and I
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could see for the first couple of months, but I
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was in the incubator for most of that time, and
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then when I finally was able to come home, lost
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by sight pretty quickly after that. Both rettin is attached
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from the optic nerve. We don't really know why. There's
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a few different theories, but well, for sure.
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I give you a lot of credit because I think
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it's all already just awkward, growing up as an adolescent
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teenager and beyond. I mean, I'm still trying to grow up,
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right you too? You know, we're just big kids now,
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but to go through things, you know, feeling different. You
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know you're one of the only blind people in your school,
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you know, trying to go through those years of wanting
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to date and make friends and learn Braille and white
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cane training. I mean, I Burill is so hard. Everybody listening,
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I just think it's so hard. And I know you
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explored a guide dog. I have my Frosty, you know,
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my little my big boy, my guy dog. But along
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the way, I think a lot of times for people
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who are who do have a disability of different kinds,
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we wonder, gosh, well everybody, well, anybody ever love me?
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Right?
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There's this love piece because we are so different and well,
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life has given you some challenges. It gave you Luke
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your husband, and that is a treasure. And at such
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an early age you met him and I know you
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had about six years or so together really to cement
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that romance. But then you wanted to start to build
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a family. And again, for many who have disabilities of
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different kinds, that can be kind of scary of you know,
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can I what does that look like? Can I do it?
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And you decided that you wanted to adopt. It has
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kind of been a thing that you and your husband
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had talked about. Why adoption, Well, for a.
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Couple of reasons.
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We so it was pretty prevalent in Luke's family. So
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growing up he was very familiar with and had a
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lot of you know, family that was adopted, and so
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it meant a lot to him personally. And before Luke
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and I were married, I worked a stint in child
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welfare and just saw the need of so many kids
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without homes, and so it was always on my heart.
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And so when we were finally in a place you know,
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financially and a good living arrangement, it was you know
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it really it didn't take a lot of thought to realize,
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you know, this is this is the direction we want
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to go.
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And when you started that journey, you know, looking at
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adoptions here in the States, or adoptions you know, internationally,
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how hard was that?
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It proved to be a bit more challenging than I
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would have thought.
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We had to We ended.
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Up meeting with different families from our church who had
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gone through the various routes for adoption in state, private adoptions,
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and a good friend of ours actually is the one
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who suggested that we look.
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At overseas adoption.
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And particularly focus on blind children, you know, who would
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be growing up in very difficult environments with no access
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to the technology that we have and the cane training
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and all the things that I know I can really
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take for granted, you know, living in the twenty first
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century and being in the United States. So we started
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looking into that. But even there, a lot of agencies
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wouldn't accept us because we didn't make enough money, or
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some countries considered my blindness a deterrent and that I
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wouldn't be a safe parent. So it took us a
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while to find an agency and a country that would
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work with us.
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Well, you are so loving, but I just want to
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tell you. Let's hear it full Bulgaria, right, and if
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travel and ticket sales go up there after today's show,
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then awesome. Right, Well, you tell us about Lexi and
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John real quick here. I would love to have them
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understand those two.
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Oh definitely, don't have to ask me twice to brag
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about my kids. Lexi when she came home, she was
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two and a half and I will never forget she
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only weighed twenty one pounds, so tiny, so tiny, dude
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to malnutrition. She had a Bessie Gudell. We met them,
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a loving foster family Bulgaria. They just didn't have a
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lot of resources, and so they did what they could
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for her. She is thirteen now, which is just crazy.
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She's thirteen and she is really into tech anything tech.
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That's her passion right now. John, he came home when
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he was eight and also, you know, very malnourished. He
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was not mobile when we brought him home. We found
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out fairly quickly, not out of inability to walk, it's
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just no one had been able to work with him.
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They had a lot of other charges and they or
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finished to tend to, and so he spent a lot
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of his time just on a couch listening to the radio.
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And so he came home and a lot of work.
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But he's walking now, and he's he's seventeen, and he
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is a wonderful gifted piano player.
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You know, I love that. I love that and piano playing,
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you know, Alexi, she's doing her tech thing. Where they're
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successful at the age as they are, despite bull Hat
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having blindness, John even having cerebral paals on top of it.
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I mean, they just they could have gone so many directions,
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but you and Luke being open to that Interronet adoption,
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you pressing forward, accepting all those no's until you got
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a yes. I mean, the family was born, and if
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you had just had those two you probably would have
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been just a perfect family of four. But you did
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decide to to try to adopt again. But while you
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were in that adoption, you got some news.
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Who was that I did?
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I was found out I was pregnant, and it was
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it was surprising, to say the least. We've been trying
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that route for a long time and just nothing, you know,
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whatever happened, and well you know why and so and
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and the and the reason why I say that, Ashley
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is because for everybody who's.
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Like I can't get pregnant, give it some time. Okay,
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Now stay with us, because Ashley didn't just get one gift,
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she got too. So we'll be coming right back after
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this break.
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Today, in school, I learned a lot. In Chemistry, I
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learned that no one likes me. In English, I learned
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that I'm disgusting, And in Physics, I learned that I'm
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a loser. Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly
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and useless.
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In jim I learned that I'm pathetic.
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In a joke.
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In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
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Today.
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In school, I learned that I have no friends. In English,
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I learned that I make people sick. And at lunch,
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I learned that I sit on my own because I smell.
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In Chemistry, I learned.
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That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
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and stupid.
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And in math, I learned that I'm trash.
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The only thing I didn't learn in school today, the
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only thing I didn't learn today.
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The only thing I didn't learn is why no one
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Thank you for joining us today. I am Nancy Solarian.
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This is the Living Full Out Show and we're talking
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about trusting the plan and our inspirational guest today, Gosh,
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Ashley Wayne. What a superstar mom, and I'd like to
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welcome her back to the show.
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Thanks so much.
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Glad to be here.
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Yep. And we were just talking about how Bulgaria gave
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you two gifts right in terms of Lexi and John,
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and then the natural bibi is started coming right we
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had William and Lizzie and that was after almost thinking
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you couldn't do it naturally you did. Now, Ashley, here's
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the thing you went from, you know, having to not
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beg and plead, but the struggles of adoption to all
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of a sudden being a mom of four and with
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special needs, and even Lexi had her own special needs
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early on, and so here you are doing your best.
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But is it and how did you have Is it hard?
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And how did you find the strength as a blind
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mom yourself to look after all these kiddos. I mean
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I would, I would wonder what are they eating? Are
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they choking? Can I find them on the playground?
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It is very hard. Some days it's good when just
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everyone's dressed and fed and gotten the school done. You know,
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I just take it one day at a time and
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do a lot of praying, and I do rely on
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you know, my husband and friends, and it all manages
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to get done. Maybe a bit messier than the sighted mom,
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but you know, it all gets done well.
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And when we talk today about you know, trusting the plan,
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sometimes it's it's hard to wrestle with why can't I
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get pregnant, you know, naturally, like before you did the adoptions,
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or sometimes it's hard to wrestle with man if I
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could just give me Lexi John's sight and Lizzie was
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the healthiest she could be, like like like, why why
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can't everything just be healthy and perfect? And I'm sure
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you've had some conversations with God. I know you're a
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woman of faith. But when we talk today about trusting
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the plan, do you think this is all God's plan?
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And in what way.
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I do in the sense that I think some how
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all This.
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Brings him glory, and it brings me closer to him,
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and it conforms me to the image of Christ. It's
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definitely not the road I would have picked for myself,
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but I do believe that He has a plan for
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all my kids, and that their.
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Specialties and my blindness. You know, none of that.
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Was a random accident, but there is a sovereign God
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behind it. And I may not see that the reasons
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you know, this side of eternity, but but I do
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absolutely believe that.
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Yeah, I have. I'm one of three sisters. We all
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three have RP, and we're all legally blind. And in
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my own truth, I know there's times I don't dwell
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in it, but there are times I wish I could
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see something Like I just went to Las Vegas recently.
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I went to the Spear. I saw the eagles and
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I could hear all the music was great, but I
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wish I could have seen what my mom could see.
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And so how do you sometimes wrestle with wishing you
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could see things your kids are doing, moments of growth
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for them growing up.
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I definitely do wrestle through that. It's been interesting having William,
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who's cited. Lizzy is also but you can't communicate in
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the same way. But in a way I get to
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live through him, like go of hearing his descriptions and
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excitement of things as he observed the world.
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And I try and just.
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Enjoy everything that I do have I can you hear
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them and all the other ways that I can participate
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in their lives. And it's not the same, but it's
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still an amazing gifts. And yeah, do the best that
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I can. But there are days, definitely, yeah, And.
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And on those there are days dot dot dot, question mark,
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exclamation mark, you know, it could fill in any any
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marks there. How do you and Luke keep your love alive?
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How do you keep yourself from being roommates and giving
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it all over to the kids, Because again, I really
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believe it, it takes seeing you know what a mom's
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role is, a dad's role is, you know, loving marriage?
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How do you how do you manage that?
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I think it's a daily process and even from the
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simple thing of we have our tea and coffee, you know,
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together in the morning, you know, listening to our jazz station. Uh,
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you know, just a simple ten minutes start to the
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day to kind of keep us set and centered, you know,
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like this is you know, where our family is rooted.
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We try and make regular dates and you know, just
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try and really be intentional with it because it is
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a daily like reminder that yeah, we're not just roommate.
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It's hard, right, you got to warly work at it,
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and you're not a stranger to work, working hard, work,
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putting in the work. I mean, I think that just
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comes with all the things that I know you and
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I have to mentally learn. Right, It's like everything's work right.
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But at the end of the day for somebody who
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feels like, well, I haven't quite found my luke yet,
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but one day when I do, or if they have
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found their luke and we want to start a family.
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If somebody is considering adoption, what would be your biggest
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tip to them to save them some time or heartbreak?
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That is a good question. I think.
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You know you depending on you decide which route you
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want to go. You know, do your research. There's definitely
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advantages and disdvantage to each way, domestic, international, and then
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just like you said earlier, just keep going until you
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get a yes. You know, you know that you're capable
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and competent and would be a great parent. Just expect
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there might be some rejection at first, but I really
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believe there will be a yes, it just may take
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time to find it.
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And your connection to adoption and your relationship to God
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is actually special in what way well.
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Adoption is mentioned in the Bible as an analogy of
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how we were brought into the family of Christ through
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the Gospel, and so it's an extremely special connection that way.
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And to see John and Lexi in particular who she's
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ethnic Bulgarian and he is Roma in country, those groups
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really don't like each other, and so for them to
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be loving, loving siblings is really incredible as well and
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a great picture.
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See. I love that, And that's something that is, you know,
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a gift, a gift along this stressful journey. And sometimes
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people will say, well, God won't give you more than
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you can handle, and you're not in love with that statement.
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Why I'm surprised you remember that?
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Yeah.
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We I just I think.
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If if I could could handle it, then I wouldn't
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need him. So I think in a sense, we are
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given more than we can handle on our own, so
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that we'll turn to Him at least. It's definitely been
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my experience.
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And as we kind of round out today's interview. I
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guess my last question I really want to know is
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in terms of, like, you know, because you are a
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woman of faith and just all the different things of
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your kiddo's and your own experience, your own life experience,
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what has living full out or what does living full
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out mean to you?
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I think it means doing.
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What you believe you need to do and learning how
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to For me, at least, you know, learning how to
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accept help when I need it, but also not let
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my blindness in my case, limit me. And I think
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it's it's a combination of that of accepting help and
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also not letting myself be dragged down by my blindness
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and just doing what needs to be done every day.
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You know.
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I love that you said that. I remember there's there
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was that time right when you were dating Luke and
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he opened the door for you and you're like, no,
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I can do it myself. Back off. Maybe not that,
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but and then you had the early time of Lizzie
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and the bathroom experience where you know her do do
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was all over and and you did run to a
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neighbor and asked for help how And I know that
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was hard at the time, But when you look back
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on that you asked for help. Have you grown more
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since then? Are you now asking for more and more
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help or still resistant?
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I would say I'm definitely asking for more help, especially
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as the number of kids has cantinue to grow, you know,
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come to realize there are some tasks for which vision
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is just a necessity or just so much easier. And
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so yeah, hey, you know, I've've gotten a lot. It's
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gotten a lot easier to ask a neighbor or a
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friend if they're coming over anyway, you know, although usually
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try and clean up the diapers myself so that I
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don't lose those friendships.
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Well, boy, isn't isn't the kids going to be all
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surprised when one day you tell them just kidding, I've
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seen you this whole time, you know. But but the
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truth is, I believe humor is so critical when when
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it comes to the life you lead blind, you know,
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mothering four kiddos that are really all still young. And
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you know, I think about things I do, you know,
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all the TV radio stuff. I wish I could see
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behind the scenes of all of it. But that's where
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I also know that you and I we dream in
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color and we see with our minds and our hearts,
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and thank you so much for being on today's show,
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and we just will you keep your family? Was say,
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keep your family growing. I don't think it's going to
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grow anymore, but we just applaud you. You are just
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a shining star. Thank you, Ashley, thanks so much, and
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for everybody listening. Just like Ashley, if you've got a
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story inspirational, you've gone through it, heartbreaks, something you've learned,
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I want to hear from you. Perhaps have you on
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and most of all, we want to know how do
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you want to give back to this community. What do
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you most want to share? Because that's what it's all about,
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It gives me a lot of hope to take a
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step toward bringing our country and your community together by
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having the courage to start a conversation. At Love has
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All Right, grew.
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Let's get her.
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Doug, Honey, you want to give me a hand, I'm
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planning that tree.
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You Remember, no matter how large or small your digging
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project may be, no matter how urban or rural, you
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must always call eight one one before any digging project.
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Eight one to one is our national one call number,
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alerting your local utility companies to come out and mark
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any lines they have near your dig site. You must
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call eight one to one at least two to three
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business days before any digging project so you can avoid
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hitting our essential buried utilities. This includes natural gas and
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petroleum pipelines, electric communication cables, and water and sewer lines.
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So before you do this or this, make sure you
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do this. For digging projects big or small, make the
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call to eight one to one. Brought to you by
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Common Ground the Alliance.
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When it comes to Trusted the Plan, it's just that
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you have to believe that every step that you take,
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even the times you fall, that there's value in that
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that the minute you get up you're more resilient than
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the minute you were when you fell. And when you
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believe in that, when you believe in yourself, well, then
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you're able to live full out, not just in small
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steps but really large ways.
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You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. As
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a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
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through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
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have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
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at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
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Thank you so much for joining us. Today. I am
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Nancy's Hilarry and this is the Living Full Out Show.
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And today we've been talking about trusting the plan and
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oh boy, sometimes do we just have to hold on tight?
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Right?
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That's like the roller coaster of life that won't end.
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Some of you know what I mean, right, Well, the
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truth is, I believe very much in that roller coaster.
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If I had to choose between having a life that
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was fully blah and every day was predictable like that
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movie Groundhog's Day over and over and over again, I'd
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much rather have the journey of blindness that I have
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with retinitis pigmentosa because I'll tell you what. When I
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go walk in with my guide dog and I'm holding
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on to that guide dog harness and he's the eyes
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and we're walking together, there's a lot of trust. I'm
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trusting in his plan. I'm trusting that he sees the
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intersection coming up. He's going to stop me. He's not
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going to walk me into a car. And we've been
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walking together for a long time. And I'm still here
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with you today, right because I trust him. But if
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I was to try to override him, if I was nervous,
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if we're nervous in life, then we can't let that
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plan take its natural course. And I share with you
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that particular story, and I sometimes lean on a lot
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that I've learned from my blindness, because, like so many,
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when we have a divorce, when we have a disability,
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when we have a loss of someone in our life
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we love so much, it's really hard to square that
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circle of the why, and sometimes we can't make sense
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of that plan. And I know for for many years
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I kept thinking, well, if it just wouldn't get worse,
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right the visual loss, Or I remember thinking, gosh, you know,
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why does everybody else find that love of their life
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yet I'm still looking, you know? Or I think to myself, gosh,
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why can't I just have the career? Things come super
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easy on a silver platter. But the reason why is
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because All great stories have those roller coaster moments, all
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great novels. The movies you go and pay tons of
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money to watch with that bucket of popcorn in your
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soft drink, right, they're not those blah blah blah movies.
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You wouldn't sign up for that, you wouldn't pay for that.
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You want an adventure, you want thriller, you want romance.
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That's what you sign up for. Well, that's what life
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is scooping up to you as well, those same adventures.
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Ooh yeah, those same thrillers and romance. But you have
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to be willing to trust the plan. It might absolutely
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be God's place. It might be a you might have
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for yourself, a business plan. You might have written down goals,
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your life plan, your bucket lists. Plans are good, and
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you can have a deadline to a plan. You can
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have a benchmark, you have a milestone that you want
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to hit. But part of a plan is meant to
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self correct because sometimes when we try to put something right,
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there's that old philosophy of putting like a triangle in
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a square outlet right a pocket. You can't do that,
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the shape doesn't fit. So you want to constantly have
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that plan. But be willing and open to what it
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might look like, it might look different. And it's so
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funny because I look down memory lane let's just say relationships,
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and I think, oh my gosh, I really want this
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to work. And then afterwards, why didn't work?
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Well?
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Then I think to myself, now in the skin and
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this body and this time that I'm with you, I'm
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actually glad it didn't work, because it's not to say
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that would have held me back, but I needed to
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learn from that chapter with that person what I needed
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to and then move on. And that's true for different
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work adventures. I've been on same thing. It would be
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so easy just to have that dreamy career work situation
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happen and live out the rest of the days. But
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that would be boring. You wouldn't grow, you wouldn't expand
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I haven't grown without those changes. So it's really important
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to me today that it isn't just about me talking
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or the guests talking, or people that call in talking.
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I want you to really sit with yourself and say,
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what is my plan you know, and what is God's plan?
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And at the end of the day, have plans, but
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then be open minded to change to the unknown because again,
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what you think is supposed to happen. It's kind of
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like if we could read the last page of a
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book first, right, How boring is that to know how
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it ends? So leap out of bed every day with
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that sense of adventure, that sense of curiosity, have that
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plan of what you want to do that day. But
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if it doesn't go to plan, if a moment pops up,
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that's an opportunity and it's a good one. It's going
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to better your life, better your day's experience.
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Take it.
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Say yes. And when we are able to merge together
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a plan with flexibility, that is the word, the living
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full out magic happens because I believe that we can
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all find our happy We can all connect the dots
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of what we want and up there. But you can't
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force it. And when you force something, it's like strangling creativity.
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It's like forcing something to happen when really you know, God,
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or the universe or something is saying it shouldn't happen.
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Trust that, trust the plan, and you will live full
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out the entire family. Thanks you for listening. Go out there,
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have a great day.
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Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
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with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
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livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
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Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Instagram,
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and subscribing to our YouTube channel. Here's to you, Living
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full Out.