Francesca is My Priority + Self Sabotaging Behaviors

Benedicte Kalala: But like that's true about most white men that be spiritualists, especially when they go down in the East of the ages and the things, just scammers. Welcome back to Let's Plug It In podcast. I'm your host Benny and we are back in the living room because we are still watching Love is Blind UK. This is my final one. Thank you all so much for indulging me. A lot of y'all been in the comments on some like, I don't even watch this show, but I'll be watching you. I thank you. Thank you so much. And somebody also commented a show that I'm going to be, you know, checking out on own, believe it is. So look out for that as well, but thank you so much. And now we go on. You know, think it's like only three episodes, three to four episodes left and then the reunion. So we're going to try to let it do what it do. I may not stop as much just because I feel like I've said all that I need to say, unless something comes up, we're going to let it do what it do. Okay. Grab you a drink, grab your little one, two, one, three, and this going to be the couture edition. Okay. Get into it. It's giving vogue with it. ⁓ increasing because he just didn't say much. actually really like you. Now don't lie to this baby. Francesca is to be like all the parents really like you. It's just the marriage part. Don't lie to this man, please. And so they're reflecting on that and it's just kind of like, you know, the parents are right. They do agree that the parents are right to be concerned. It's coming from a place of love, blaze, blaze. And I'm just kind of like this experiment, just, this experiment don't make sense. Like it's fun to watch, but like this is a lot. This is a lot. so now we have what's her name, Sophie showing Taylor her house. And it's always amazing to see just how well off these girlies be. Like it's always amazing. Whenever we be on Love is Blonde, the girlies homes just be giving like, yes, we put some thought into this. We put a lot of, you know, a little bit of one-to-one three into our spaces. Her home is beautiful. The grass is cut. Yes. Yes. And in contrast, whenever you see domains, I watch Macaulay domains homes. It's always giving nothing and a half. It's gonna be a table, half of a chair and barely a headboard. It just be like, now. Now it's going to be Adrian and Kiara and they got into a big argument about what? What happened? Did you not put the socks in the right place? Did you call her boring? Like what happened? That's why she got upset. That's at least that's how the argument started. It's very valid. Like don't pull me on no camera. That is very much valid. You, our son met you 2.5 seconds ago. We don't know you. If we don't want to be on no camera, we don't want to be on no camera. Why would that start an argument? You know what? Let me just, let me play. I didn't receive the empathy that I should have been received. That is Kiara for you. Okay. That is Kiara for you. going to be over here like, yeah. ⁓ Like she's somebody that wants the entire world centered around her. I've noticed with the episodes, like she's somebody that wants the entire world to revolve around her. And it's like, some degree that be Cuba, like he can get overbearing really fast. And the crazy thing is I believe him. he going to talk about how like, you know, we had the conversations about my parents not being comfortable with the meat. Whether it's just a general meet or even the meet in front of the camera, either way to me, that's valid. Comment down below and let me know. Don't have me meeting somebody that you done met 2.5 seconds ago. Don't do that. Like I reserve the right to be like, I love you, but also like I'm not ready for this. You carry on when this feels a little bit more secure, then involve me in as, as a base thing. But when you add the cameras to it, absolutely not. Like that is, that is a fair request. So now he going to talk about how like, you know, we went to dinner. We started having discussions and arguments there as well. And I try to diffuse it until we got home. I believe him because remember the table at the dinner table when they were down there in Ibiza, when she got upset about the whole thing about, you know, Jack calling her boring and Jack sort of kind of lied this out in the third. Jack did lie. We've established that. But like this man was like, okay, we could park this. We can have this discussion, you know, at another time. Kiara will not let up. So when he says we were arguing, I try to diffuse the, the, the, you might call it, the, the, the, argument. believe him. Comment down below and let me know. And so now, you know, he's going to talk about how like, you know, she has walls up. And remember, Kiara told us that in every relations that she's been in, men have cheated on her. So I don't know if there's a little bit more hurt when it comes to that, but like he's referring to there being like, you know, walls being up. And now he going to talk about the finances. Remember again, in the pods, he was like, you know, my concern is now like, you know, because I'm in between jobs is the finances going to be financial with it. To which Kiara had responded on something like, Hey, I work to be able to afford the nice things for myself, but like, I need to know that you are a man with a vision. You are a man with a plan. You are a man that's going to move us forward. I agree with that. You need to be able to have a plan. You need to be able to have a plan. You need to be able to move things forward, right? But with them being in between jobs, right? I maintain that he should have been down there in indeed, indeed.com. Okay. Jobs USA or whatever they got for the UK people in it, proper job search in it. That's what he should have been. Right. But if you accepted this man on something like, okay, he's in between jobs, but he has a vision. He's going to go ahead and open his, what you might call it, fitness center, whatever the case is. Then in between him. having in between jobs, he probably cannot be spending the minimum of what you expect the dates to be. The dates can still be intentional and the dates can still be meaningful within a price point that's going to make sense. man that has financial literacy will not always just like, you know, be spending money lavishly on dates. Now, if you're a millionaire and you're happy to spend, amazing, do all of the things, spend on the girlies. But like, If you, if you're of modest means and you have a plan to open like a fitness center, the wisest thing for me to do would not be to spending lavishly on dates. We can have dates. We can spend quality time with each other without me putting both of us in a financial bind. That is a man still. Some of us online, we'd be like, ⁓ you know, we went out there, he bought the bottles. did this and the third blaze, blaze. EBQ for the Instagram rules, but like real life, you need you a man that's going to be financially sound with it. Maybe we don't have the money to go to all of the dates, all of the dog on time. And it doesn't mean they cheap. It doesn't mean they do not care about you. It means they're thinking about your future and they want to make sure that things are aligned. She says she got a minimum spend of 300 pounds for. any first dates. Okay, so let's figure out how much exactly 300 pounds finn would be with the US equivalent. The proper US, okay, in it. 300 pounds in US dollars, that's at least 400, 400 dollars in some change. That's the minimum. Like we're starting at 400. Which again, depending on the restaurant that you go to, that's not, it's not hard. It's literally not hard to essentially rock up the bill to that much. Like $400, it's not hard, right? But again. AJ, you also knew this though. This girl told you exactly where she stood. And I don't know if you didn't believe her because she was seeing it very much kind of like very damn near like, you know, 300 pounds, ain't it proper? Maybe because she said it very like, you know, fluffily and very softly. I don't know if you didn't believe her because it's like, if you knew that that's what she was expecting, maybe that doesn't become a thing that you're going to do every time. But like if her expectation is that for the first date, You gon' do it one, two, one, three, beloved, why didn't you prepare at least for the first date? Comment down below and let me know. Is it a difference in opinion or is it a difference in values? Is it a difference in opinion or is it a difference in values? Yes. And at this point, I'm going to let you know right now, it's a difference in values. Cause while you are willing to spend on the person that you love, having a minimum. You know, a minimum amount that a guy has to spend that to me is just a little, don't want to say ridiculous because everybody has to have the standard that they want to have and everybody has to be able to keep that right. But like, it doesn't seem as though you guys are aligned in that because other people in her past, they spent thousands on her. No problem. I mean, they cheated, but like they had the thousand and some change to spend on her. So at this point, if you're talking about how like, you know, If I don't spend that much, is she gonna think differently from me? Even if you want to spend that much, you may not be able to spend that much consistently given that again, you should have been down there on indeed.com, but yet and still you are on my screen trying to find proper love in it blindly. Okay. Because you're in between jobs, you may not be able to afford this consistently. And if that's not something she's going to be okay with, you guys are then not aligned in terms of values. And I also love that he went to Jordan with this conversation because there's something just immature about Jack as a whole. Obviously he can go to Jack because Jack not going to have the nicest thing to say about Kiara. And you know, Taylor just giving a little childish with it as well. like Jordan, Jordan has. Again, I don't know how this man gonna turn around, like so far Jordan seems a little bit more like calm, collected, the same way I think AJ is very much calm and collected. And I'm just gonna let it do what it do. I love that. And let's see how Kiara gonna tell the story. Is she gonna try to mince words around and the same way she's been doing with Joseph? Let's see. Okay. So she's approaching this having reflected on something like, Hey, when he told me about the parents not coming, he too was upset that the parents are not coming to support him in this situation. Again, rightfully so. The parents have the right, like I said, to be like, we're not going to get on no camera yet alone, meet somebody that you should not met five seconds ago. Right. The parents have the rights to feel that way. But as a child, your parents not wanting to meet the person that you say you should not marry. after meeting them blindly on my screen, not having your parents support, I'm sure that upset him too. And he has the right to feel however way he wants to feel. And so Kiara is now reflecting on something like, Hey, I missed the part where I should have just been there for him, showed him a little bit more empathy. And I can see this now in a way that I didn't see then. Kiara, you have a way of making everything a value. But I'm glad you've had a moment to sit and actually reflect and realize that you, you could have been more empathetic to that man. And then we went for dinner. For some reason I just wanted to pick a fight. And for some reason I just wanted to pick a fight. Remember in my last I Watched Macaulay episode that I did on this year, I Watched Macaulay Love is Blind UK in it. She had said like, Hey, we're having a good time. But right now I feel as though. I'm just trying to kind of like, you know, push boundaries a little bit to see how far I can go. I remember saying, and you could play my video back and I remember saying like, what the hell? Like, why are you trying to be childish? Because the experiment is already hardest is why would you put undue pressure and undue stress to an already stressful, very delicate situation? ⁓ I'm trying to do a little bend, a little one, two, one, three. It is that same mindset that then led her to go down to the dinner after invalidating and not being empathetic to this man. Not because you want to, you want to be pressing boundaries. It is that same mindset that probably led you to go down there and then pick up a fight for no reason. And you kept pressing and pushing the boundaries. Eventually the man is going to be like, ⁓ you nothing to keep pushing my boundaries. It's the same mindset. Alohehielo ha ha. But it's like, these are people's lives. That's his heart as well. That's his future as well. Okay. We are in the early stages of getting to know each other. So choosing, intentionally choosing to push boundaries and be an asshole for no reason. That is a choice that I cannot find the reasoning for. Literally. I might have been potentially... I may have been self sabotaging. just will not let, I just will not leave this man alone. I was speaking in argument, pushing, pushing just to see how much he could take. And now he done let you know, beloved, I'm not going to take a whole lot. Okay. Blessed be the fruit, but I'm not going to take a whole lot. I will gather my belongings and be gone in Jesus name. Rightfully so. So when I be telling y'all girlies that y'all need to go ahead and gather your belongings and be gone in Jesus name, this is what I mean. This man has been nothing but kind, patient and all of the things. And you have Kiara over here, pushing boundaries, pushing, pushing, pushing, pushing. He gathered his belongings and left. Sometimes it takes somebody removing themselves from the situation to actually see, for you to actually see the ways in which your toes are rolling and gyrating on their feelings and on their boundaries. Now, Kiara, not going to say a whole lot more to you because it seems as though You done said with yourself and you reflected. This will probably be really good for AJ to hear because you're taking such accountability. And so he asked me, go and be like, Hey, I love that you're taking accountability. Go tell that to AJ. Like, why are you talking to me about it? Go apologize. Okay. The same way you was out here pushing boundaries, pull the boundaries right back. Go and apologize. I've wanted to give him the space to come to me and he's ready. Girl, she's going to be talking about how like, you know, I just was afraid of getting hurt. I can understand how like anxiety can make people act a little bit more irrational, right? Like whenever you've been hurt in the past, like that self-sabotage can be a real thing. That self-sabotage really can be a real thing for sure. For sure, for sure. And she's going to be like, you know, I just wanted to talk to him, but I also wanted to give him space so that he could come to me. I'm not gonna lie to you. This is not the time where he comes to you. This is a time where you go to him. You pick the fight. You argue this man down. You push these boundaries for no reason. This is not the time that now he has to be the most mature person and come and be meeting you. This is the time that you, you go to meet him. Comment down below, let me know. Now we have, I watch him call it Jack and Faye meeting. Jack's family is gonna be the mother and I watch him call it. Jack's, what you might call a brother in Jack's wife. Now, these are the kind of parents that's gonna be like, so long as my child is happy, we do not give a damn. What I told you are, some of the parents, don't know how to parent, honestly. Like, some of the parents, they don't be knowing how to parent for real, for real. But I can respect that because again, you are dealing with your adult child. And if your adult child is making decisions, regardless of how dumb you think they may be, sometimes you got to let people make the decisions the way that they want to make the decisions. But I will always be appreciative of the parents. Like Francesca's parents that's going to be like, this is dumb. Like go ahead and make your own decisions, but understand that this is dumb. This is stupid. Literally. And so you got Jack of all talking about how like, you know, this is the happiest he's ever been. Friend, the housekeeper does have a way of making people feel happy. Now AJ done come back into the apartment. So let's see how Kiara gonna act or she gonna try to be cutie and mindful and dainty with it. So she apologizes, like she takes accountability and ages like, you know, he became an attack on my character. I'm just curious as to what exactly she said, right? Like, if the parents not finna come, why are you, how would that lead to an attack on his character? Like, why would you attack his character for his parents to not want to come? Like, I'm just curious as to what was actually said. But again, she's apologized. So let's see if he's going to receive it. And even if you receive it, this is data, collect the data and keep it at the back pocket. It shouldn't just be her words. It should be the actions. Like next time when you guys disagree, how will she react? Okay. You forgive, but you do not forget. That's my policy in life, child. ⁓ What? So she's going to be like, I took this whole thing from like a different angle. When we was out here having a conversation and I was on my phone, when you told me not to be on my phone, I felt upset as though you were telling me what to do. What? Like, Kierra, you, you, you, you might be even more childish than Jack. Somebody's talking to you. You pick up your phone and start to be on your phone. That's disrespectful. for no reason. And then when they ask you to not be on your phone as you guys are having this conversation, now you want to be getting mad that they're asking you to do the most adult thing. Beautiful skin. I'm just really scared. think like, you so she gonna read it again. It's like, you know, I, I think low care or just want to self sabotage because I'm afraid of getting hurt. And the thing with self sabotage again, the mindset do be like, at least whenever I've, whenever I've self sabotage before you could come and be hurting me, me, I will, will beat you to it. Like I will go before you and I will hurt you 10 times more than what you could have thought about hurting me. why that was a reaction in that situation. And yes, I love that he's pushing and he's not pushing in a way to be mean, but like he's really trying to understand. Yes, I can understand that the self sabotage, but like, why, why are we trying to self sabotage? Like let's stop the dainty, the, like, I want to get to like, what is the thing? Like, why would you eat? What would that even be the reaction that goes to your mind? The first reaction to go to your mind was to like pick an argument, tear down my character and do all of that. Like, I need to understand that. Yes. So she apologizes. She's like, okay, what's in my best moment? She's really taking the accountability. So yes, girl, I'm going to give it to you. Like you've reflected. I've been cheating on in the past. So like, I really just was trying to just argue somebody to some degree so I can empathize with that. Like I can understand that because child, I have my own reasonable moments now. Blessed be the fruits, right? And so now AJ going to bring up the whole thing again on, know. ⁓ the dinner thing, like how important are the nice dinners to you? Cause that's also a concern that he brought up with, watched Macaulay Jordan. I'm so glad that all the things that he's concerned about, he's bringing it up to her to at least give the relationship a chance to see if he's gonna work. But I'm gonna let you know right now, it's not. But kudos to you for Trump. I like AJ again, these men, I will say I like them. They gonna piss me off the next scene. But like, not only is he bringing up the issue, he brought up the issue, but he also brought up what that's bringing up out of him. I can't keep feeling as though I must do these things because now it's gonna make me feel insecure. It's gonna bring on about insecurities a part of me. He's not approaching it on some like I'm so angry, like, ⁓ these girlies, just go because he's not approaching it on some that. Because again, a girly wanting nice thing does not mean that they're gold diggers, blaze, blaze. You not being able to afford the things that the girly, the fan babes, the things that the fan babes be wanting, that doesn't necessarily mean that the fan babes are trying to be gold diggers, right? So he's literally bringing the conversation from like his own perspective. If I feel as though that's like a requirement and whenever I'm not able to like, you know, do that, it's going to make me feel insecure. Right? It's not coming from a place of anger, from a place of insult. It's coming from a place of genuine feelings. Because the men that will go online arguing you down, calling you a gold digger, this and that, at the core of fear, they're insecure. They're insecure that they cannot afford the things that some of the girlies that they do want to be with desire. So instead of actually dealing with the insecurities that they do have, they will now come and start insulting the girlies for just wanting nice things. So I appreciate this as an, ⁓ as an approach. Comment down below, let me know. Let me stop singing the men's praises. Cause as soon as I sing their praise, somebody aggravates my spiritual. I love you and of the other stuff matter. I genuinely mean that. Okay. I just hope I can see it in action. It's like, I need to see it in actions. Okay. He was very honest and very kind with it. I appreciate that. He was very honest with his feelings. So now you have spiritual Ryan who came back and you know, a good sister, spiritualist Cuba, then hugged up on that man, like just, you know, giving him all the love, like I miss you, like I genuinely miss you, blaze, blaze. And he gonna be like, yeah, you know, I miss you too, but like I was preoccupied all day long. So my mom was kind of like busy and it was like nice for us to kind of have that little time apart to sort of kind of see how we feel. Earlier on, said that it's nice and healthy for couples to have some time apart so that they can be able to pour into each other. Right. That's a healthy thing. But at this one, I'm beginning to feel as though this man don't legitimately really like Cuba like that, like that for real. Or at least he's not ready to commit. It's like a legitimate relationship because it's feeling as though it's almost like now Cuba is begging him a little bit. I understand it's work, but like it's beginning to feel to me like This is not just like a little personal space, a little one-to-one-through. It's almost feeling as though this man is trying to escape these here relations. We did have like a couple showing off, you know, the different couples doing their little dates, know, Kiara and what's his name. AJ seems to be doing a little better. He made her coffee. Joseph and them, they're doing okay. And so now we have spiritual Ryan and spiritualist Cuba. And Cuba can walk into the room and Ryan is on his phone. For somebody that be going all the dog on time, I do not want to see you on your phone. Okay. When we're together, you, you post to be on my skin. Okay. He's on his phone. She walks into the room and she's kind of just kind of like, okay, looking around like he's equal, acknowledge my presence on something like, Hey babe, how you doing? Like spiritual round, when you be meditating down there, I watched my calling in India and then you went, you went meditating her face. Like you ain't remember to just like be present whenever she's around. Sweetheart Ryan, something about this guy is giving a scheme. But like that's true about most white men that be spiritualists, especially when they go down in the East of the ages and the things, just scammers. I've noticed since Ryan come back from his trip that there's an energy shift. It's giving silent night. Hold the side, the side. Look around, everybody on mute. Like she's chewing so loud. Even I can hear it. She's just chewing and trying to get like, you know, his attention. I gave him a little wink, nothing. This baby goes right back on his phone. That's not giving spiritual now, spiritual Ryan. You're not being present with the energy. Now she's going to be like, it's going to be an energy shift. Yes. The energy, the energy is in Yemen. The energy is not, the energy is not under my couch. Well, let's Energy, energy, energy, energy. Ciao, it's Nahir. ⁓ I usually like have a couple of days to just like, you know, recoup and like get myself back together. Okay. So what made you then come on Love is Blind knowing how fast-paced the experiment is to actually connecting with somebody like why are you on my screen? And nobody was spiritual down there in India, huh? Cedra Ryan. How are you going to refuel on your phone though? Or I just gave a lot and I need to refuel myself, but you are on your phone. Ain't you supposed to be out there touching grass and the things. Just, just a load of crap. A load, a ball, a ball of nonsense. Nothing and a half of a man. It's a big step. It's a big life long decision. I don't want to jump into anything. I'm just curious. Like have they actually even had sex? Not that that must be a requirement, but like at this one, I feel like in my help a little bit, I'm not going to lie to you. Like, you know, don't know one, two, one, three, throw that, throw that thing in a prayer circle. Now. Okay. Give, give her a couple of pumps. Who's a military man? Okay. Shoot up the club. Do a little one to one through that might be helpful. Cause it's like, they just seem a little bit more like, like in theory they're working, but like in real life, it doesn't give like this. This is actually making sense. Like there's no, like he's not obsessed with her and her mentioning the last time that she's pulled back. To me, I'm also like, okay, you two, you're not that upset. You're not that convinced either. So what will it take? I just don't know. Like I want to be able to give as much as I can to us, but it's like, can't, like, I've got nothing to give. And so now he gonna come, so now we're gonna have spiritual Ryan who comes to Spiritualist Cuba, gonna talk about how, like, you know, I just wanted to address, you know, how my energy being low, I need to recharge and do all of the things. And I'm like, you need to go ahead and take a vow of celibacy. You need to become a monk. Do the monks not be married? The monks don't be married, right? Since you wanna be so spiritual, give all your energy, okay? And when you need to release some things, go down there, take a long shower and massage your balls by yourself. Leave the women of God alone. Since you need need you a five to six business days before you could actually talk to somebody every time you do a retreat down there in the India and the East of the Asia and them get off my screen. But you got spiritualist Cuba who's just so understanding like, Hey, like, you know, I get it. I love that you're communicating. Kinnecon, Kinnecon. Girl, listen, like she was there offering you apples, like just give, like giving you the silence, giving you the space that you need. And you was down there on your phone. Get off my screen. Like spiritualist Cuba, please then go find the tree. Hug a tree and the tree gonna give you guidance to go ahead and gather your belongings and leave these relations. Please. You've not been getting nothing back. So go ahead and find you a tree, hug a tree. A tree gonna give you back now. The tree gonna do like whoosh, whoosh. The leaves, the leaves gonna do like whoosh, whoosh. And let you know that you are special. and deserving of all the love and the things that she was down there journaling in the journal. Leave this man alone. Now we have the whole party where everybody meets up and where all the drama typically unfolds. Yes, I am seated. What? So they had the meet up and of course, know, again, Jack is always going to talk out of the side of his neck, right? He gonna talk about how like, you he's gonna meet Faith's family and you know, he wants to ask, I guess, you know, Faith's dad for his blessing, which that to me is always meant to be like, almost like a little symbol, right? But some of y'all be treating women as though they're property of the men in their lives, like their dad or, you know, their husband ultimately. I know it's like, you know, patriarchy rooted to some degree, But he gonna be like, If I don't get the blessing of the dad, then I'm going to feel like, Hey, I can't do it. It's up to your dad. is a human person. Fay is a human person who can make decisions on her own. She's not a property. She's literally not a property. But again, that's Jack. Or like that Jack is always going to say some things. That's just always going to be like on the other side of history. Yeah, you got age like hey man like control your dream because like what the hell like what are we talking about? Like are you drunk right now? Like what are we talking about? I Didn't mention this because I didn't think was memorable but like you had Jack who did honestly I went to get myself some toast. Yeah Listen, I got hungry but like apparently it's gonna be Faye's birthday and he did like balloons and he done wrote, you know wrote her poem And it's like, this is the second time that now they talked about, you know, Jack and you know, his alcohol essentially, cause like the boys were like, Hey, like, you know, you might want to chill up on the drinks. And now you got fit talking about how like, ⁓ I think he may have been drunk when he wrote me the poem in the morning. Like in the morning, like there was, we was already drunk in the morning. Like when were we drunk? And she's always just like, girl, that is a red flag. Like, how you not seen that? how we not, like this man, like he was drunk. It was like chewing gum on the side to hold the balloons. I mean, it's like hee hee ha ha, but like, you know her birthday was coming. Like you couldn't go ahead and get you like proper tape in it. But she's just in bliss because again, in her former relations, she was a maid. So of course this feels like heaven to her. Faye's family came at this here meeting and grieved. Why? Why the hell would y'all wanna meet y'all in-law, potential in-law, at a bar like this with their fellow cast? I guess what, to surprise y'all daughters for her birthday? Like y'all couldn't surprise her for like lunch or something? Jog on go ahead and pick up face mom. Literally like grab her like this. He didn't know the quorum. He didn't know the quorum on the horizon. It's a lot of blunts on the horizon, but like he didn't know the quorum. Like the quorum. Maybe the quorum is in my studio down there. Like what the hell? That is your in-law. Like what are we talking about? And the in-laws, what the hell would y'all come and meet this man over here? Comment down below. That ain't weird to y'all. Now it's music playing. Jack, this is my dad. Production, y'all allowed this too? This is stupid. Like this, this is stupid. Like as a family, this is stupid. This is completely lunatic. This is completely lunatic. That's going to be Faye's dad. No wonder Faye, no wonder Faye has had men walk all over her, her entire life. This, the dad and the mom. We're gonna be down there at the bar. Where me's like pew, dun dun, dun dun. Hi Jack! This is my- That's how you meeting your potential son in law that's gonna take your child into holy matrimony after meeting your child 2.5 seconds ago on my screen. Just like, just backwards with it. We're friends. We're friends. That's gonna be like we're friends. The music gonna be in the background. The background is the music. The background is the alcohol. This man has already taken like three shots already as is. In the morning when he was down there getting his Maya Angelou, he was already drunk with, I watch him call it gum and the balloons and the poem. That is the background. What are we? Hey. And we even have Jack beat that wants to be like, you know, your daughter is gray, blaze, blaze, because it's like, you ain't asking no real questions. Like, so what is it about my daughter? Cause you can't. Cause in the background it's going to the blacks on the horizon. So do this right here. Cause you know how the blacks, that's how the blacks they be dancing. Just like bobbing, just bobbing their necks. Ow. I had to come down with that a little bit. It wasn't no questions or something like, hey, like, you know, what is it about our daughter? Like nothing. You got your boat or we gonna tell you at the back because you're a safer. Hey, hey, kitty, come. Mmm. Mmm. Mm-mm. Mm-mm-mm. Mm-mm. Mm-mm-mm. ⁓ The mama gonna have the nerve to be like, ⁓ you know what I really like about you? You got really kind eyes. that is supposed to be your your son-in-law that's gonna take your child into holy matrimony the thing you like about him gonna be the ass like the thing the thing you like about it the thing you like about him gonna be the ass Such an unserious bunch. And of course now we have messy boots Kiara who gonna be letting, watch my colleague, Sophie and Fay know like, ⁓ you know, I saw chef and they were like, ⁓ you know, what did chef say? She gonna be like, ⁓ you know, I'm gonna let her speak for herself. Then why didn't you? Kiara, why did, like, does your mouth have to move? Like, does your mouth have to move and talk about other people all the dog on time? So now you're have Ryan talking to one of the pod bros whose name I don't know, but he gonna be like, ⁓ I've been in such a pressure time. Like, okay, let's see. Cause y'all just be talking out of the side of your mouth for me. Like I just don't like that. Hold on. Hey babe, I miss you so much. I'm here, everything is so busy, but I'm thinking about you. I love you so much and I hope you're having a great day. That was six seconds. That was six seconds. It literally took six seconds for me to go and make that low note. Six seconds. You miss her so much and you love her so much and you have so much, know, you're so drained from the energy. was six seconds. Your kidney, your kidney, your kid, he's going to be like his body's going on overdrive. Heal me and your liver is going on overdrive because you went down there. Okay, to get your spiritual on down there in India and shed the energies energetically in it, proper energy. You are sweating because you're gonna spare five seconds, five to six seconds to check in on this girl. Your liver is failing. This girl has given you space. This girl has shown up for you. This girl has loved on you. gave you the energy via the phone. She's done all of the things and you are struggling to shoot her common text. You are struggling to spend a good load 30 minutes uninterrupted with her. That's what's causing your liver to fail. Ryan. Your mama is a hoe. I would never want you to waste uni and medical school. And so now you have Yasmin who goes to ask, you know, Jordan, hey, like, are you okay? So I wasn't bugging. And he brings up the conversation about him being in Birmingham and she being in London. I'm willing to make it work if you are. He's having doubts. He's having doubts. it's like, Yasmin wasn't crazy. I never thought she was crazy, but like she felt as though ever since they came back, things have felt a little bit more real. a little bit more real for her. And so she found herself pulling back because, you know, she's not sure if this man is as obsessed with her as she is him. I've attributed that to lack of like, you know, sexual chemistry and sexual intimacy and whatever the case is. But like, I'm going to call it. Jordan is not, Jordan is not sure about, you know, marrying Yasmin for whatever the reason he's not sure. And so he's getting, I guess, cared and maybe he's using Not that it's invalid to want to be in your own, you know, hometown, but like Yasmin is like, Hey, I'm willing to make it work if you are. But like, he's like, ⁓ you know, if we were dating, it would have been like a low one to one three, but like marriage is massive and all of the things. So if they get on the altar and he says, yes, I feel like it would be a yes out of sympathy almost. And not out of genuinely like I want to do this. It will be a yes on some like. in front of the cameras, let's just let it do what it do. And when we are now away from the camera, we can just figure out a way to dissolve this by ourselves. That's, that's what it's feeling like to me. This man does not actually want to get married to this lady. He does not. You see, this is why again, I'm thinking that the whole move thing, he's trying to use it as a clutch. Cause now Yasmin is going to be like, okay, the solution to the whole moving thing is either you move to London or I move to Birmingham. One of us has to move. I am willing. Did she say I'm willing? But like, I think she said, okay, let's play back. I don't know, words in her mouth. What did she exactly say? She said, so then it will be that I would move to Birmingham. She didn't say, okay, I will move to Birmingham. She said, It will be that I will have to move to Birmingham. And before she even finished the sentence, he gonna be like, ⁓ but I don't want you to kind of like waste your time in his mind. Either way it's going to be a waste. If that makes sense. Cause she's like, I'm willing to make this work. If you are, if he came down to it, I'm a what's my colleague physician, you know, associate. Maybe I could move to Birmingham, but he's like, ⁓ I don't want you to waste your time. and have these things not work out. He's kinda, he's already calling it to, in my mind, he's calling it that this not finna work out. So don't even bother, don't even worry about trying to move to no Birmingham. He doesn't actually want to be married. ⁓ And your ⁓ husband is not letting him talk her around in circles. One of us has to move. If you're saying that I shouldn't move because you don't want me to waste time and you're also not moving, then this is not going to work because the solution is one person has to move. I probably have to move to Birmingham, but your response to that is like, ⁓ don't even worry about it. Now he wants to be tooth rolling and like cutting into the corner. One thing about Yasmin, Yasmin is very much like she's present and she's aware with what's happening. She is. She's not in Lala land. I'm saying I'm not gonna move. I'm just kinda like, I don't know. Then if you really want her, then be like, hey, a move for me right now doesn't seem feasible, but I wanna be with you. Can you move? Can you move? And we make it a point that, I don't know, every weekend, we are, not every weekend, every month or something, we go to London so that you can also have a little bit of that London life, like your friends and your family, if you really wanted her. But the reality is you actually don't want to get married. At least not right now. At least not to her. Cause if you really wanted to, you would. And we're using the whole move as a way to kind of like hide behind that. Yasmin is clacking. Like that girl is clacking. Is it just the distance or is it something else? Is it just a distance or is it something else? I'm talking about the eye contact is right there. Is it just a distance or is it something else? Cause come out and say it. She's already told you, she's not begging for somebody to be with her. She's already told you when she said it, you could tell in her eyes that she meant it. She seems as though she's done so much work to really like love on herself and accept herself for who she is. And she's not begging a man to be a part of her life. Jordan, don't, something has been missing and it's like, y'all have been giving brother, like y'all been giving, you know, brother and sister in Christ, Loki. And I just don't think it's not there. The chemistry is not there. It's not there. Like you're not in love with this woman. You're not. And Loki, she feels that though she is, but she's trying to like gather herself and be sure about how you feel before she can actually allow herself. to feel like that. Why do you say that though? She's going to be like, I'm just checking. Maybe it's my own insecurities. Girl, it's now. It's now. You're right. Like your intuition is right. Like everything you've asked this man, I literally thought the same thing. You're not wrong. You're not wrong, girl. You're not. I'd like to say cheers guys. To having us all together. ⁓ my God. Remember how I said, I know where the parents went. I guess the camera just wasn't on them because here they are again on my screen trying to little cheers. Get off my screen, please. This is so just like, this is embarrassing. Like, are you not embarrassed? Are you not embarrassed as a family? Are you not embarrassed in the club? We all family, but this not what they meant though. This, this not what they didn't mean. Bring your papa and your mama to the club. Now! I like him, he's so nice. What do you know about him? Y'all know that he's a surfer. Like what do y'all know about him? Just an embarrassing bunch. Proper embarrassing, innit? I don't actually know. Jack is watching my colleague. He does everything. He be doing buildings. He be doing like a whole bunch of stuff. Like, okay. So if, you know, if he moves to London, what would he actually do? I don't know. Everybody's laughing. Like, it ain't no playing on the horizon. It ain't no like... There's not, nothing has been thought out. Nothing has been planned. There's nothing in place. And I'm not saying everything, every detail has to be planned to the T, but this man is talking about marrying your daughter. Everything is just vibes. You don't know nothing. She don't know nothing. He don't know not a damn thing. Even I don't know. But everybody laughing. I'm just seeing teeth. Everybody teeth, teeth, teeth, teeth. Meaning, God meaning with ee, ee, ee. Why? ⁓ I don't, I do not agree with what he's saying in any way. Cuba is calling it. Like I don't agree with what he's saying. I think there's more to this. Yes. The girl is a clock thing. The girl is a present. Everybody is present except for Faye. Everybody is clocking except for Faye. Faye is out here chilling with gum and the poem about the meat that Jack gave to her. Just like, but. I'm calm. Yes, it's an excuse. Now I will say Cuba, you have a lot of energy, but I feel like a little bit more of your energy should be directed at Ryan now. Cause we have a little bit more smoke for what's his name for a watch Macaulay for Jordan. Yes, Jordan is using this as an excuse, but like you guys to come a little bit more, you know, with that little extra spice, you need to bring that to watch Macaulay spiritual Ryan. That's where you need to bring all this energy to. Because you said initially. that you want to live in London and he'll move. Cuba you were clocked in. Yes, I agree. But go ahead, put in, put a little bit more shift, put a little bit more pepper and a little bit more salson down there to spiritual Ryan, who over here doesn't even have six seconds to text you and he's giving you the energy. ⁓ watch my only the lack of energy energetically in it. And so the reason why, so all this smoke that you have for Ryan Ryan. All this more that you have for Jordan, which I agree you're clocking. Yes. Give it to, give it to, give it to, give it to spiritual Ryan. Let Yasmin figure out her battles. Cause Yasmin is also not an idiot. maybe I'm just like, this is how I would be. could be, you're saying. Cuba is upset. Cuba is upset and more than just the thing that Yasmin is saying. Cuba is upset. about the whole situation with what's his name, with spiritual Ryan, at this point you're projecting, because Yasmin trying to jump in and say, ⁓ one, one, three, Cuba won't let her have a word in. And also, he could have been tried. And also, my, uh-uh, beloved, Ryan should have been tried. Okay? Go down there and yell at Ryan. Leave Yasmin and Jordan alone. Although I agree with everything you're saying. Yes, girl. But also, do not be a Kiara. Okay? Do not, do not. do not be a Kiera now. Okay. Don't listen to your heart right now. Listen to your intuition. Don't listen to your heart right now. Listen to intuition. Yes, Cuba, you are clocked in, but unfortunately you are clocked in at the wrong job. Okay. You, you are clocked in at the wrong job. You need to go down there as spiritual Ryan agency and give him all this pepper. Please. That's where you need to go. Yes, you need to trust intuition and you need to trust yours and leave spiritual Ryan the hell alone. Go find you a tree that's gonna validate the intuitions that you have. Okay. And go yell at Ryan. That's what you need to do because for you to sit over here as a gorgeous woman to let a one man spiritual Ryan that being got his spirituality down there in India and the Eastern parts of the angels and them in it. to come over here and be disrespecting you and treating you like your yesterday's bread. Spiritually, please stand up. The same way you're asking, you ask me to stand up, you need to stand the hell up, please. I'm calm, I need to chill. Okay, I need to chill, because this is my house. Now we got Joseph over here, hydrating. Yes. You gonna need to hydrate. Are you recording all the conversations about her being in a black dress and in boots? Yes. Shevonique is gorgeous. Yes. Hydrate. Don't be poached now. Yes. Suddenly, Francesca has to pee. Yes. Your man got so hydrated, you got to release yourself. Yes. And Cuba goes with her. Yes. Cuba, Cuba is a girl's girl. Cuba is a real friend. She really is. She's a real friend, particularly to Francesca. She's a real friend. She hasn't been messy. She hasn't, like, she hasn't done none of those things. Yes. Joseph don't know what to do, because now the boys done came to, you know, introduce themselves to Chevronique and Zelenia. I guess Zelenia is the other girl that was out here, Booboo Crown, when Chevronique been left apart. You got Joseph over there palpitating. ⁓ Show me your ambulance. You are the ambulance man. Do woo. Okay? Do the woo. Hmm? This is ambulance. Do woo. Do it now. He finally comes to say hello, like, you doing? And of course, Shevonique gonna hug him real good, put the hand right on the neck. And I'm like, Shevonique, please, this man is about to pass out already. Stop aggravating his spirit, please. Take it easy, girl. Now you have Francesca down there in the bathroom and know, Cuba is asking like, how are you feeling? And she's like, ⁓ I feel embarrassed. And it's like, nobody understands. Cuba is like, I... understand you. Not for nothing. If you don't end up with the man, at least I'm glad you have each other because Cuba really is a good friend to Francesca and vice versa from what we're seeing at least. It just embarrased him to me. But why are you embarrassed? Like we went on the experiment. We dated the man. The man chose who he chose. You are together. Like why are you embarrassed? Like I understand feeling a little awkward, like embarrassed, that's like, that's a particular feeling in it. That's a proper feeling in it. Now Joseph pulls Shevanik down for a chat and you know, Shevanik is on some like, hey, you know, we could have a chat if you want. But mind you, when she was down there in the, watched Magali at the restaurant with Yasmin and I believe Kiara, when Kiara was trying to be messy, that's another thing I lost in my last footage that I had, right? But like Shevanik was like, ⁓ you know. he kind of like owes me like a little bit more of an explanation. And I'm like, explanation on what? Like what explanation do you want up out of Joseph? Like what do you want this man to explain? Like I'm not understanding that at all. Right? And then, know, sure it's going to be like, ⁓ I have no, you know, I have no issues against friend, but I just want to make sure that Francesca doesn't have any, you know, ill feelings. So it's me. Why would Francesca have any ill feelings? So it's like, why? Like why would she have any ill feelings towards you? She's over there in the bathroom embarrassed. When you had left the part, she literally was like, hey, I'm really sorry that things played out the way that they did. Like there's no feelings to be had. You and Kiara have been dragging this whole situation with Joseph the whole time, unless again, unless there were certain things that were left up out of the edits. But from what we saw. Y'all are not telling that story accurately. You got Joseph over here confused like me and Kiara. Like chef is not explaining it right. So Joseph, listen to me. Let me explain to you. Listen, Joseph, listen, listen. Okay. So when you was down there by the pool in ejecting yourself in the whole conversations, we jack. Mercy boots Kiara felt vindictive. So she went down there, started some drama. with ⁓ Cuba about you and your potential connection with Chevronik. To which Cuba, being a good friend to Francesca, went back there down to Francesca and told Francesca about it. And then now Francesca came and told you, and you were annoyed that Kiara then came over here and started the whole conversation and even went and told Cuba. That's what she's referring to. It ain't no situation like this man is like, he's here, y'all are in Yemen. Leave this man alone. Now they're calling Kiara. ⁓ maybe we should bring Kiara. Now Kiara, here you come again. Kiara, you are one of the most aggravating people I've ever seen on My Love is Blind Screen. You see how much meds she started for no reason. Literally for no reason, just out of her trying to be vindictive over something that Joseph didn't even do. Now she's going to be like, I heard from Francesca that you were not happy with me. And what she's referencing is when they were all, you know, down there in Sophie's house and Francesca brought up the conversation that you started. asking you about the conversation that you started and letting you know how we landed. Kiera, you are my miwata. You are my miwata. I just want to know what was said there. You got Joseph of, I literally just like deflated on some like, Lord have mercy. I feel for him. Like, am I missing something or are the girlies like this season just like doing the most? Like, I'm not gonna lie to y'all. Like, Kiera, Shev, y'all are aggravating my spirit. Y'all are just like mean, like y'all are mean. Y'all are mean spirit that we did a little bit. But then you hide behind the like, ⁓ my God, like y'all are not kind people. Because this is not a situation. It's not at all. ⁓ So now you have, you know, Joseph who's trying to explain himself, which again, he shouldn't have to, but he's trying to explain himself. And you have Kierra talking about how like, ⁓ you know, I had the perspective of because I was close with Shef in the past. If you came with the perspective of Shef and immediately sided with Shef, then why was he so hard for you to understand that because he too was in the past with Jack and he had the perspective of Jack that he too would then just side with Jack. You both did the same thing yet and still. You demonize him for the very same thing that you're doing. You did this because he did the same thing that you are now doing. Vindict, like vindictive, like you are such a vindictive person and that is disgusting. That, that, that, that spirit you cannot pass away. You need deliverance. Okay. You need to be dipped in the river of Jordan to get rid of that, vindictive and evil spirit within you. My Lord in heaven. It didn't come up organically with Cuba. You brought it up out of nowhere. We're speaking about Jack. You, you brought it up out of nowhere. And so now we have Francesca who gonna come and stand by her man. ⁓ And so now it's four of them having the conversation and Francesca is basically saying like, Hey, you went into Kiera. that Joseph said he was still opening, that he was still open, excuse me, to I guess progressing things with you. And I wish you had come and told me that. Loki, Francesca, that's unfair because again, you guys were dating the same man. She couldn't come and be telling you her experience with the man that you two were dating. Like, Chevronik did the right thing by talking about whatever connection she had with, what's his name? To other people and not to you. So as... to not mess up and get in the middle of your connection. Would it have been nice if she said anything to you? I guess maybe, but like she didn't have to, especially because again, you guys are dating the same man. You guys can each have your own perspective of the man so that you guys can make a decision on the man that you're dating, independent on the commentary of the other person that's also dating the man. He's told me everything. Tell me what he said. So now you have a, what's his name? being like, Hey, I remember coming into the past, letting you know that, ⁓ Francesca is my connection because how emotional connection, ⁓ watch my colleague Francesca is my priority because our emotional connection has advanced to where I don't think our connections, you know, go ahead and you know, catch up to and then she's going to be like, but is that how it ended? And I'm just kind of like, okay, the end is that. Ultimately, he came back and said the very same thing that what's her name was still his priority and that he was going to go move things along with her. And now Stephanie going to be like, you know, but is that how it ended though? I just, you know, maybe you don't want to tell her because you know, and so Francesca going to happen or something like, no, he told me everything. You tell me your side. Yes, Francesca, clock in. Cause you're not going to keep talking around the side of your neck. Everybody's saying, everybody's saying, everybody not gonna have to say things to my face. Because y'all are doing a whole lot of toothy rolling and dry reading around my relations and my potential marital commitment. Yes. These things are recorded. Like it's not a case where I'm lying. So then say, yeah, ⁓ you know, I don't want you to be upset. This is Chevronique. And Francesca is like, I'm not upset. You keep saying he said things. But he stole me what he said. He stole me everything. So you tell me what you think he said so that I can decide between what you said and what he said. Now she gonna be like, ⁓ you know, I'm not lying. was recording. Beloved, according to the recording, you're not looking right. You was down there fighting for your virginity and your Gucci juice so that Joseph can give you a relations. Another try, another chance. Cause he told you twice. that Francesca was his priority, and that's why he wants to focus his energy, not because you guys didn't have a connection, but because, again, by the time you guys started to have somewhat of an emotional connection, the connection he had with Francesca already built itself up, to which we're like, uh-uh. We came into this experiment. I don't want us to regret anything. I know you like me. I like ⁓ the vulnerability that we had. I looked at you in a different light, kinikon, kinikon. And to which now he came back on some like, hey, you know, a little bit more confused, like, hey, would it be beneficial if we had an additional date to see how we both felt? Unless something was left in the editing room, this man was not out here fighting to maintain the connection with you. You were, you were, and he gave it the courtesy of another date to potentially sort of kind of see how you guys would both feel. But after the day with Francesca, he came back and as soon as he walked in, he ended things with you. Accept that a man chose another woman over you. You can accept that. It's okay. It doesn't mean you're a loser. It doesn't mean nothing. It just means that he's more aligned with somebody else. Let's not twist the truth. Cause from what we've seen, again, Unless there's something else he said that we didn't see to which point I will apologize. Okay. But from what we saw, girl, please. After that, you said, no, I still want another date with you. That's not how it went down, girl. No, that's not how it went down. And Joseph is like, uh-uh. That's not what I said. Yes, Joseph, defend yourself. Cause your name twinning the Bible was out here letting people just lie on his name. Okay. You the Joseph that's walking on my screen. Defend yourself. That's not what that man said you begged You begged you fought for that man to to give us connection another chance He is being honest He is being honest. So you have you know, watch my colleague joseph essentially explaining again or something like hey I did not say that I didn't know who I wanted to pick. I did not say that at all. You know how he'd be making all kinds of sounds like, ⁓ my gosh. ⁓ to which now he was like, okay, let's give this decision one more date. Let's give this decision one more date. Let's have another date to see how we feel after the end of the date. But when he walked into that date with you, there was nothing else to feel because after being with Francesca again, He went right back to the decision that it was Francesca all along. He's not lying. You're dragging this to just ruin another woman's day for no reason. Is it me? Comment down below. Yeah, let me know. Is it not me that I'm imagining? Because now I feel like you people are gaslighting me because I'm like, I know what I saw and I know what I heard. now. Now chef gonna be like, ⁓ you know, I guess you found your person and I didn't come over here to start no drama. And you know, Francesca gonna roll her eye. Beloved, you just came and started up drama that's like really not founded in nothing. Like you're dropping this bomb and now you want to talk about how like, you didn't mean it. Kini come like, girl, shut the hell up, please. Hello, stand your man yes francesca because she's gonna be like ⁓ you know you're attacking me and joseph's gonna be like uh-uh nobody attacking it's two people on this side it's two people on the other side since i want to be big bullies i'm not gonna let you out bully my girl and my girl not gonna let you out bully me yes yes i don't care then why are you here you want a closure you want an explanation evidently you do care Yes, French is okay. This was unnecessary because it was you're being negative and you're being nasty. So this conversation is finished. Yes, you're being negative and nasty. This conversation is finished. Okay. It was finished at the cross, but it is finished now. Okay. Whatever was left over. It is now finished in it proper finish. Now gather your belongings and be gone in Jesus name and leave this people alone in their relations. That's not actually gone. Okay, it's not gonna work. It's not. But still the facts are the facts. No, you piece of you, you piece of girl piece of ⁓ evidently you do evidently you do. Cause here you came from a engaged this man in a conversation about a potential sort of kind of maybe sort of kind of for no reason. If, if everything is recorded, let everything air out the way it was going. You piece off in it proper piece off. Girl you did in the past and because he wanted you here you come trying to twist your own entire way. There's nothing you said that he didn't already say to her and you twisted it even more to make it seem like it was something that it wasn't girl. Mm-mm. was going to say their names then, but I've no, I'll get it wrong. I've only just started getting Faye's name, right? And so now you have Dragunis confessionals, he's going to be drunk. And I think at this point it's safe to call it. This baby needs to go down to the AA meetings. He's going to be like, I don't think I even know the names of the parents. I just learned Faye's name. very much disrespectful, very much distasteful. Like this man, like Faye girl. And Faye knows he has an issue with drinking because now Faye's gonna be like, you know, how much have you had to drink? Like, hey, you know, let's calm down this another third. And you see him catching an attitude on something like, don't bring me down. Beloved, you are way too turned right now. Way, way too turned. The fact that you have to ask this man to behave, especially on your birthday, lets me know that you have concerns about how he be acting around. He does have an issue with alcohol. Now he gonna be missing six hours later, this gonna be missing and that's how they gonna end this year episode child. Let's go to the next. So now you have episode eight that opens up with, you know, Yasmin going back home with Jordan and then you have, you know, ⁓ Joseph and ⁓ Francesca, they just back at the house and Francesca's like, hey, in public, I'm always gonna have your back, but don't ever make me out here looking stupid. Cause I feel like a clown. I literally feel like a clown arguing with everybody and their mama. Is there anything else? And Joseph gonna be like, it ain't nothing else. And Francesca from what was edited, it ain't nothing else. But Joseph, if you make me to come out like a fool as well. I will have a whole lot more to say about you. Like this is a few way partnership. do we do? So now Yasmin brings up the distance conversation again and you have Jordan on some like, ⁓ I didn't say that. But like, Jasmine keeps saying like, Hey, I'm willing to move. Now she's actually saying like one of us has to move. I can move, but then you telling me that you don't want me to move. So is there something else? And then she's going to be like, maybe it's my insecurities. Beloved it's now it's now your insecurities and you know it. So now we hear from Faye and apparently Jack then went missing for like two, three, four hours. And he said nothing. She woke up and inside of the bed was fully made. She was texting, calling and no word. And then eventually he calls her back and then she found out that, watched my colleague, found my iPhone, that that baby been removed her from found my iPhone. And so now she's obviously upset and she's trying to have a conversation with Jack and Jack being Jack. You cannot be upset at Jack. Everything with Jack, it just has to be jolly. It always has to be like really up there. As soon as it feels as though something is not going maybe the way it's supposed to go in his mind, he feel go ahead and do a U-turn. What I told you, the only reason why Kiara stopped being number one is because Kiara got annoyed at him for not remembering the whole vegan conversation. And so this is the first time where Faye is actually upset at him. And I believe it started. down there at the, watchman colleague, the low bar place when Fay asked him, Hey, how much have you drank? Can you please just like behave? When he was like, don't bring me down. She was like, please just imagine to bring you down. I just want to make sure that, you know, we're okay. It's my birthday. Blase, blase. And she tried to do like a low, you know, the low cheers and he kind of like refused for a bit. And then he was like, okay, cheers. And then now he went to go on a walk, removed that from find my iPhone. And then he's sitting over here. Almost like trying to argue her down as to, as to the fact that he just was going, ⁓ I'm a 30 year old man. I don't need to come and, know, essentially explain my every move to you. She's not asking you to explain your every move to her, but we just came home. We had had a whole lot to drink. You just left no texts on the side. I wasn't even thinking like, ⁓ he went to go see somebody else. And as soon as she says that you have Jack that gets mad at, ⁓ why are you accusing me? And she's like, I wasn't accusing you of nothing. Communication to me is just like very easy. again, Fay wasn't coming to him or argumentative or like, you know, or bathtub. Like she came to him very just like, I'm speaking to an adult. I'm speaking to somebody that I love. And you have Jack who literally was getting defensive about nothing. This guy is conflict avoidant. He doesn't know how to handle any misunderstanding. He doesn't know how to communicate. He doesn't know how to deal with the lows of a relationship. He doesn't. That's exactly how he got to be with Faye because again, Kiara got mad at him over the vegan conversation. He doesn't listen. Everything Faye was saying was going through one ear coming out the other. Now he going to try to turn it on her. So I'm like, Hey, you know, my location is back on. And she's like, no, yesterday wasn't. He has the screenshot, I guess. And then he gonna be like, if you don't trust me, that's your own problem. And then he walks away. Mind you this, the morning they're supposed to be meeting the parents that was down there at the club. Hey, Jackie, so great. We have a ball. We're going to, we're going to take to the ball when you go surfing, can you come, can you come? And now we see, you know, fair essentially meeting her parents by herself. So Jack never came back and I'm just not a girl. And now the parents going to be like, ⁓ you know, that sounds a little crazy. Like that's not the guy we met yesterday. And I'm like, beloved, this, this is what was happening yesterday. Like, what are we talking about? Like, what are we actually talking about right now? I've got a lot of love and care for Yasmin, but I've just not found the, you know, that fire and that spark. Now we have Jordan over on his phone with his mama talking about how like, you know, I have a lot of love and care for Yasmin, but like it ain't no fire, it ain't no spark. The fire and the spark not under my couch either, but let's check. Spark? Fire? It's not here either. And do you know I'm probably just using the distance as an excuse. He admitted to himself. I've probably been using the distance as an excuse. I didn't want to admit it because again, the connection, the emotional connection was just so strong in the pods. But then we came outside, the spark just wasn't there. Like the spark just wasn't there. And I think he's just so afraid of hurting her that he's been dragging it. This is going to hurt her more. So say, say the damn thing sooner rather than later, child. seems to be a trust issue for me. ⁓ it seems to be a trust issue like this. Jesus Christ. Hey, that's just going through each other's phones is non-negotiable. ⁓ She's trying to talk. ⁓ I'm gonna let you talk. She's trying to talk He keeps cutting her off. She asked if I remove you from pharma phones How would you like that? ⁓ I'm gonna like it. ⁓ I didn't remove you So then how was I removed though? ⁓ It's a matter of She's that whenever I asked to see your phone. You never let me all Seeing the phone thing will be a breach of trust, a breach of like, you know, what you might call it, privacy, the thing is. Okay, feel how you want to feel, but then explain how she's no longer on your, find my iPhone though, find my phone, find my friend, find somebody. But she's trying to express how she feels. It's going through one ear, coming out the other. Jack keeps interrupting. It's all about what he wants, never really thinking about. how his actions can affect the other person. You either trust me or you don't. But again, where were you? You didn't communicate. That hurt my feelings. Hey, I'm sorry. I didn't even think about doing that in that moment. I just left the house and I just got to walking. You know how I get. I didn't even think about how that could have landed. And I don't know what happened with that. Watch my color with the trust my phone, trust my phone, found my friends. I don't know what happened. You see how easy it is to take accountability for something, but no, he's going to gaslight. He's going to blame. He's going to shift the conversation into what it's not. I'm sorry. Finally, he says, sorry. Right after an argument all day long, after tooth rolling and dry reading, finally he says, sorry. And I'm just kind of like, and you see the look in her eye. It's just like, she feels. All of them be talking about, ⁓ deflated, deflated. Like she actually feels like deflated. She actually looks like she's just tired. This man is good with words because now you have fail over here just like letting go of the whole gaslighting the whole There's no explanation for the pharma iPhone like there's none or sometimes I like to be unplugged. Okay Why? Why? Please Ann, get off my screen. For him to be so open and honest makes me feel a lot more comfortable. What was he open and honest about? None of the things you're concerned about he answered. Why did you remove me from fine my friends? You didn't sound like you were in a car or you were outside. We haven't gotten the answers to that at all. We literally have now. Instead, he spun it on you. Made it feel like you just have trust issues. He's going to draw the line and sing the phones, blaze, blaze. He completely turned this all on you. Gave her a whole bunch of sweetener things. ⁓ I love that you like to fight for us. Why am I fighting though? Like, why am I actually fighting? Like, what am I actually fighting? Nothing was actually addressed. Yet, and still just like in the past, he's going to say a bunch of sweetener things and you're going to carry on. in order for you to like say yes and be like completely content. Francesca is asking all the right questions. I don't know if production sent her, like Francesca, she's asking like, Hey, what would you need in order to be able to say yes and stand Santos down by it? You will need a different man. Cuba, that's your answer. That should be your answer. I would need a different man because Ryan is not your man. A tree has been more present for you than that man has been. I guess I just need to know. He can be selfless? She's going be like, I just want to know that he can be selfless. it's like, child, that baby's not going to be selfless. He's not going to be. And she's in love with him. So that, that sucks. But like, girl, I'm sorry, Q, but like, you don't deserve this chair. So now you have a Kiara who decides to go on a surprise, a good brother with a low setup for, you know, a Diwali celebration. I'm not really sure, but apparently like it's something that's, you know, I guess big within, you know, Indian culture. That was very sweet. And you had age over here almost, you know, broken down to tears and all of the things. And I'm just kind of like, loved it. And so you have what's his name Jordan who finally has a conversation with Yasmin and it's just like it's you know amicable obviously she's heartbroken because she could you know she could see herself falling for this guy and it didn't work out it didn't work out and it's just kind of like yeah I hate to see her cry and I'm so happy with how he handled it though ultimately but it's like yes we have to We have to allow people, you know, a chance to actually have their doubts and he worked through it, called his mama and, know, finally was honest. It took him a second. And I think he was trying to make sure that if he was going to have this conversation that he actually meant it. So I'm glad he finally was able to come out and say it. I hate that they didn't work out, but you know. And Cuba once again nails it. She calls him out for his fear of commitment. Like, Loki, a part of you has been trying to run away and talk about how like, you know, it's the schedule, this and another, because honestly, you feel as though that if you do get married, that somehow you're going to lose your independence. You're going to lose your freedom. And it's like, that's not even how marriage is. It's like, marriage is just about sharing your life with somebody. you can still get to be who you are and share those moments, the good, the bad, and the ugly with somebody. But like the reality is, you're just afraid of that. And he's going to be like, ⁓ I cannot run away from what's true for me. What is true for you? Literally, what is true for you? Get off my screen, please. How do you feel? Disappointed. And so now you have spiritual Ryan who ultimately instincts with Cuba. And I'm just kind of like Cuba. I wish, I wish you had walked away first. Now, Sam, I'm going to beat you to it, but most of just like this guy legitimately gave you nothing all throughout. This guy gave you absolutely nothing. Literally. I just have to trust. And then this man had the nerve to go ahead and offer her some mango. Once she says no. Why this baby gonna sit over there just like eating the dog gone mango by himself? Like, Ryan, please, ⁓ Like, go colonize somebody else. Please, get off my screen. Please. Please. Now we have the bachelor and the bachelorette parties happening. The girlies are celebrating. The men are celebrating. Joseph is not with them. Joseph is not there because he hurt himself. And it's like, they're all having fun. I'm going to skip. ⁓ But of course I can't skip all the way because here comes Kiara pulling a, what you might call it, Francesca for a conversation. Like what is you about to say again? Like Kiara, please, ⁓ Please, you've, you've already done too much. Please stop. She gonna give some kind of apology on some like, ⁓ I never really meant, you know, no harm. for you and Joseph, know, obviously, obviously I think you guys are great for each other. You guys love each other, blaze, blaze. And I don't mean any harm towards you. And I'm like, okay, if you didn't mean any harm towards them, why come start doubt as far as like, ⁓ Joseph wasn't being fully honest with you about his other connection. Like why start that conversation? Because that entire conversation started because of you. Why do it? Why do it? But you said to yourself, like to be, you like to, you know, start up some drama, you like to push boundaries, you like to pick up fights with people for no reason. And this was yet another example of it. And Francesca's like, ⁓ you know, it's okay, let's hug it out, kitty-cong, kitty-cong. And I'm just kind of like, Francesca, be mindful of that girl. She's very conniving, she's very vindictive. Be very mindful of anything you do around her. Did he turn off his fine friends? Yeah. So he like completely went off-road? I don't know. And fair girl, I love you, but like, ⁓ my gosh, now she going to be down there at the bachelorette party. She going to tell the friends about the whole thing about, you know, him removing her off of the farm. Our friends and the friends are asking like, why did he do that? She has no answer for them. But when that baby gave her a whole apology, you was like, ⁓ you know, I'm glad he gave me an explanation. He took accountability. He did not. He didn't really answer your questions for real for real. Why did you take me off? Where did you go? Like it wasn't really clear. ⁓ like I just went for a walk. Why not text me? ⁓ I just didn't feel like it. Like there was not, there wasn't really like a legitimate reason as to why Jack literally behaved the way that he did, particularly the whole find my iPhone thing. And you were questioning whether or not he was even outside. It didn't sound to you like he was outside. So what exactly, what explanation got you on my screen? You know, doing all of the things, you know, trying on your dress, like all of the things that you people be doing, like, why are you here? Literally, why are you here? You don't have an answer for your friends. And the friends gonna be like, you know, that's something you have to be mindful of. You're gonna be like, ⁓ if it happens again, I'm gonna be gone. Really? Really, Fay, you're gonna be gone? And there'll be one other person that I know. I'm just gonna skip through the weddings. You have Adrian and Kiara who say yes. You have Sophie and Taylor who also said yes. And Joseph was essentially talking about how like, hey, I'm not going to go ahead and marry this girl unless I get the blessing of the mama. So you have Francesca down there in the living room, not the living room, the dressing room or something like, Hey mama, like I love this man. You guys don't know him all of the things, but it's like, I love him. Is he going to get the blessing? Yes or no? Like, I don't care what you say. Go ahead and give the blessing so that I can go ahead and carry on with my love. And the mama was like, I guess what I'm feeling to do, go ahead and take the blessing. And the two of them get married moving along. The wedding I wanted to spend a little bit more time on was Faye and Jack. You had Faye down there in the freaking dressing room and she was letting her bridesmaids know that, hey, I told him to behave himself. I told him to behave himself. And I'm like, Faye, are you hearing yourself? Jack is supposed to be your partner. Jack is supposed to be an equal partner to you. But over and over again, you're having to remind this man to go ahead and behave himself. Because Loki, you know that man is childish. You know that you cannot trust him to actually be a standup guy. Why is that not enough of a warning for you? Because the, the, the, the territory that you're entering right now is fun and games, but eventually it's going to be almost like a mother to child type kind of, what you might call it, dynamic. Like, what are we even doing? And she's going to be like, ⁓ you know, I told him to behave himself. You know, he's always there for me. Blase, Blase, this, that, and the third. And then while they're gonna spin to the other side, Jack is not even present. He's like an hour or so late to his own wedding because again, he got drunk. And then you have his friends over there talking about like, ⁓ you know, we were just with him and you know, Jack, know, he's always been able to handle his, you know, alcohol, you know, 20 beers later, he's always been able to handle, you know, his, his freaking, you know, hangover. And they're talking about that and they're laughing. They're literally laughing and I'm like, what kind of friends are you? Like what kind of friends men tend to be that you would watch your friends continuously get drunk, continuously be hung over and y'all are laughing as if that's not something to be concerned about or he's always handling his hangover. If he's always hungover enough so that he has to build the stamina to handle the hangover, it might be time to put down the. But instead of you guys as his friends to actually talk to him about that you guys are gonna be sitting over here laughing on my screen Like what would be going on? And then you have him in a whatever skirt that he had going on. He looked very traditional, right? As far as like their culture and wanna, but like you had him talking about how like, you know, my mom has been everything to me. My parents got divorced when I was young and I promised myself that, you know, I will never, I guess my marriage is not gonna end up in divorce. The reality is when people talk about all the things that they want and do not want, a lot of you don't actually be putting work. towards making sure that you end up with the desired results, right? You could have every intention under the sun for your marriage to work, right? You can have all the intentions under the sun to not end up like your dad. But if your behaviors currently as a single man are not suggesting that you're gonna be a stand-up guy, guess what? You will abandon your wife the same way your father abandoned your mother. You will repeat history because you've done nothing to actually prepare for the life that is awaiting you. The alcoholism. You figure that out before you get on my screen and talk about how you not gonna repeat the divorce the same way your dad divorced your mom. You gonna end up in the same place because again, you've done nothing to actually work towards getting the results that you say you want. Marriage takes work. Marriage takes commitment. Marriage takes you putting the other person above your own needs. Marriage takes you thinking about what they might want before you even think about what you might want sometimes. Sometimes you have to have a certain level of selflessness. You have to have that. But Jack, you have none of that. You've not worked on your communication skills. You've not worked on your conflict resolution. You get upset whenever somebody is upset at you, even if you're wrong. You've not. worked on any of those things. You're consistently drunk, you're consistently making drunk mistakes and drunk decisions. How on earth do you think that combining all those together gonna result in you having a long-lasting marriage? How on earth do you think that's gonna work out? It just don't be making no doggong sense at all. Which now brings us to the reunion. We're going to watch it together. We're going let it do what it do. I'm honestly really tired and it's getting dark. So I'm kind of like, you know, trying to like, you know, not rush through this, but I feel like I've said everything I needed to say. So I just want to see who actually ended up together or not. And why did they ultimately break up? Like that's just at this one. That's just where I'm at. Honestly. Stop wasting my time. Get on with the show. that big fat Indian wedding. So you have, what's his name, AJ and Awashimakali Kiara still together. They stay down there in Australia and they're waiting for their big Awashimakali fat Indian wedding and I'm like, okay, I guess they're still together till today. Like, okay. I thought they would have been done by now, but I'm glad. Okay. Let's talk about the pods right, because we saw you bond over coffee, we saw you over Pilates, we saw you bond over red lingerie, let's just all put our cushions over our laps everybody. We all saw it AJ. That conversation is a bit steamy. Are you buckling Jack? I'm buckling. So then I'm asked, what's her name? Kiara to talk about the whole, know, Jack seeming to think that, ⁓ you said that I am your number one, et cetera. And so Jack already got an attitude. We literally just got here and Jack already got an attitude. Let's see if maybe they're going to give us other previews that we didn't see. I think her words back were, we're on the same track. And I kind of took that and ran with it. And so now, Jaggon let us know that the thing that made him feel as though Kiara said that he was her number one was when he told her that you were my number one, she said, we are on the same track. So he concluded that the same track meant that she said... He was a number one. The two of them, just, and I remember saying this, like, Kiara is playing her words very specifically to not end up in a predicament where anybody could claim that she said the word that she in fact did not say, right? This is a clear example of that. But again, Jack, if you were really listening, you should have known that that's not what she meant. If you really were listening. Some of the choice words that were used when talking about Kiara asked that. So now you have Adrian's, I'm like, hey, you know, I didn't appreciate how you spoke about, I watched my colleague, Kiara, after the whole thing, you know, after the whole thing came about. You're not going to speak, like, you're not going to speak about my woman in no way, no how. Like, yeah, you're not going to call her boring or nothing. Okay, Adrian, stand by your bride. Stand by your bride. Didn't slack you off. There were conversations going on in the lounge about every single man. First time you're meeting a bunch of strangers, you can already feel that people might have a perception of you and you feel like you have to defend yourself. And you have AJ, AJ came in ready. I'm going to defend my bride now. Okay. I'm going to defend my bride because now I watch my colleague, Jack going to be mad at me. I'm like, Hey, you know, ⁓ you called me a liar. You were trying to discredit my character in the lounge and Kiara is like, no, everybody in the lounge was talking. You're not going to pin this on just me. Everybody in the lounge was talking. And so you have AJ stepping in on something like, hey, you're gonna come in my wife no sideways. Because again, in defense to her, we came in here, we ain't met nobody, we ain't did know nothing. So we're all navigating a very crazy experience. So what you're not gonna do is come for my wife. Yes, AJ, it's gonna be a time when your wife was wrong though. But I appreciate you standing by your wife now. What my wife had to go through, how well she handled it. AJ, yes, defend your bra. but also your wife was staring up drama. Maybe with Jack because Jack was lying. Yes. Okay. And now I can see maybe why that could have been seen as lie because in his mind we are on the same track translated to him as like, ⁓ we're actually going to go together real bad. Like you are my number one. Where as she never say that. So him saying that she said you are my number one, that was a lie. But how he came about saying that. I could sort of kind of understand. But it was a point where your wife was staring up drama for no reason. So while it may have been hard for her and she felt isolated, the other people were also new to the experiment, okay, and they too were navigating, dealing with everybody all at once. Your wife now doesn't get to be the one to surrolling and gyrating, aggravating everybody, particularly Joseph and Francesca. We jack yes. She had a ground to stand on. But with the other stuff, I hope they're dressed. Because your wife inserted herself in drama for no reason, literally. That was a little bit of self-sabotage going on. I don't know, I just think... ⁓ Don't cry now. Girl, then why women tears? It be so quick to come out. But she's addressing the whole thing of some like, hey, you know, I think I was self sabotaging all of the things. And the host gonna ask her, do you think that maybe you, did you maybe feel like you didn't deserve good things to happen to you? And now she gonna be crying. And I'm like, yes, girl, cry, but also answer the question. The most incredible wife I could ever ask for. You have age, you're like pulling her clothes. trying to hold her and just kind of like be there for her. Girl, you found you a good man in AJ, and I hope things continue to actually be that way. Like hope as I'm speaking right now that you people are still together. But it seems the universe had other plans for them. It wasn't the universe, child. They gonna talk about Cuba and what's his name, spiritual Ryan. ⁓ they were the most spiritual, but like, know, what you might call it, the universe didn't align for them. It wasn't the universe, it was Ryan. It was Ryan with his fake energy shifting, energy changing, draining, and like, it was Ryan. Have the stars aligned since? No. Have you had any contact? No. Absolutely not. You better not be talking to this weirdo. We said to each other, if there's ever anything big, we're going to talk about off camera. And then you completely vines out of me. Especially, it's Cuba going to let us know that they had agreed that if there was anything major, that they would not, you know, speak about it like on camera. Which is a fair thing because again, once you make things public, I'm going to sit on my couch and I'm going to dissect who said and who didn't like keeping that off the camera was a way to almost protect each other at the very least. This is such a fast paced, you know, environment. And so the very, just like protecting somebody's heart a little bit by just keeping certain things off camera. If you guys agreed on that and he still came forth and still broke up with you on camera, that was just kind of like, yeah. You not only need a whole day for yourself when you got back for half an hour's sleep. Not only it was always about you, but not only did you get an entire day to recover after an half an hour speech. Cuba, yes. Yes. Because it's like, don't give me that whole BS of like, know, I got so much energy that I gave everybody that now I cannot like be beloved, please. was gone for three days. Joseph had a whole new job, but yet Fran knew that he cared about her. Joseph is like, why? Because it's like now Cuba gonna use Joseph as an example like ⁓ Joseph had a job and I'm guessing she's about to say that what even with his job he prioritized Francesca but like girl Joseph is like please I don't want no drama I don't want no smoke please. So alone in that experiment I've never felt more alone in my life. And we saw her we saw her alone all the doggone time she was out there stretching on the floors doing a whole lot of two-three rolling and it's like yes Ryan. You give nothing and a half. ain't had no, you have energy for everybody except for a girl sister, Cuba. ⁓ think a lot of the things that were just said weren't factually true. Which one wasn't factually true? It's not going to work. I'm telling the truth. So whatever you think you about to say a part of your mouth, will not, like I will not let you, I will not let you twist the truth. Watch me steal your energy. How about that? Yes. a lot of amazing parts. Word salad. Why did you hurt her? She's an amazing woman. Word salad. Word salad. We're going to have a big conversation. It was going to first be off camera. So what part exactly is she lying about? If you guys did agree that if we're going to end things, it was going to be off camera. What part is factually untrue? And then this all came about on the day that we we happened to have filming in their apartment So you did blindside her you all agreed to have a conversation like this off camera You ended up having it on camera and she ain't so you blindsided her again I asked what exactly did she say that was untrue the decision to leave was heavy Evidently not you was eating a mango right after ⁓ that Mango look good, too. You was eating a mango right after it wasn't heavy It wasn't, it may have been heavy for her, but it wasn't heavy for you, please. The pressure cooker I did find difficult. The pressure cooker of the experiment I did find difficult. The experiment that you were not part of for the most part. You recorded two and a half scenes and was gone doing a little 30, ⁓ 30 minute speech. So now it's going to be a pressure cooker, a power cooker, a rice cooker, all sorts of cookers. We love it. Shut it up. Many stresses I had. Your stresses did not come from Cuba at all. We watched this lady create the safest space for you. Literally, for say how much she was feeling to ensure that you had a safe space. So whatever stresses you had is probably from your fear of commitment. It had nothing to do with Cuba. Yeah, except when you went away, which is a lot of the time. You said the sweats was happening primarily when you were away. When you were with me, you wasn't sweating. And you said that I made you feel safe and I calmed your heartbeat. ⁓ but like it wasn't most of the night. Most of the nights you were not home. What that got to do with her? What was she supposed to do? Kidnap you and bring you back. Trying to build a relationship that could turn into... Trying to build a relationship that could turn into a marriage. What, what efforts did you put outside of the path and the free vacation? What Air Force did you put with Cuba? But when it comes to actually romantic relationships, you don't know how to love. She's dealing with him with a whole lot more kindness than I would have. She was like, you are a lovely person, but like you never allow yourself. You're a lovely person when you allow yourself to open up and let somebody love you, which I'm guessing that's the side she saw in the parts. That's the side that she saw in Ibiza. And then this person just kind of like went ghost. This person that she met, this person that she fell in love with, completely disappeared. And so you have her over there fighting for her life. Creating a safe space for a man that never wanted to exist for real for real in the outside world with her Why come on my screen like please mango? Like yeah Why why the man like why the mango? Offering her a mango and when she said no He literally peeled the mango ate the entire mango as our girl sister was down there fighting for her life and fighting for her tears ⁓ So now we have, I watched my colleagues, Sophie and Taylor still together. ⁓ Yeah, I like them together. This is the one couple that I thought maybe could stay together. So did he get rid of the tattoos on his bambam? Are we still together? Absolutely. They're still together. You have Francesca, our sister, and Josie are still together. Yes, I'm happy. I wasn't expecting it, but I'm happy. Because a lot of these couples, the way they be ending the relations, I'm happy, though. very much happy but let's see now how she's gonna handle this chair we saw you fight for one last day key key key we saw you fight for one last date with joseph we saw you fight for one last date with joseph okay now you have francesca and now what's his name ⁓ joseph literally holding hands we gonna be in this together i love how they pair up When it comes to like, you know, somebody saying or doing anything to them. love how, especially in public, we're going to stick together. If there's anything we got to hash out, we're going to take that issue at home. love that. You obviously going to want to fight for that. I wasn't expecting Chevronique to push back or give me, you know, something to think about as much as she did, because up until that point, it was all sexual. We're going to talk about sex. feel like it was all sexual and all the things that they could do sexually and all the sexual chemistry. That's all he gave. So he probably walked into that part and something like, Hey, I'm feeling this. She's so cool. and collect it. She's not going to say nothing and we just going to carry on her fighting to essentially get a second, you know, chance at their connection with Joseph is essentially what made him be like, okay, should I maybe sit with this decision a little bit longer? I just didn't want to leave no room for error. I didn't want to leave no room for error. Cause the way this story was spun around on some like he went in there and was like, okay, ⁓ Francesca is my priority, but I also want to keep pursuing things with, ⁓ Chevronique is just not true. The way Chevronique and Kiara try to turn it around. That just was not true. Why you would feel upset about me speaking to Joseph. insinuating that he's lying to me. ⁓ huh. ⁓ huh. So Francesca gone clear up cause now you Shefani go something like, I didn't want to embarrass you. Blase, Blase, this and then the third. And I just kind of wanted to sort of kind of have a conversation again with twisting the truth. Because when you were on the lunch date with Kiara and Yasmin, you said you wanted some kind of explanation from Joseph. Why did he have to explain anything to you if things ended amicably? There was nothing to explain. So when you came over here, now talking about how like, ⁓ You know, I, ⁓ I didn't want to embarrass, you know, Francesca wasn't my intention. She wasn't embarrassed because you were having a conversation with him. She was embarrassed because you kept insinuating that Joseph was lying to her about the connections between the two of y'all. Even though Joseph was not, his explanation makes sense to me. It always did. Like I didn't need this to understand what was happening. You fought for a second chance the same way. The host literally say you fought for a second chance. It took him by surprise. So he was like, okay, maybe let's sleep on this. Maybe let me postpone my decision. That's all he was. Let me postpone my decision. But by the time again, he got to Chevronique, not Chevronique. By the time again, he got to Francesca. There was nothing to second guess. There was nothing to wait. Francesca was the one. I can't see him with anyone else besides Francesca. Okay, girl. I'm glad. I'm glad you're not dragging this further and just letting it do what it do. But you were being shady. You and Kiara were definitely being shady. You did not handle that well. It's okay. And Francesca felt embarrassed because she didn't want to be sitting over here defending a man who was over here making her look like Boo Boo the Fool. But the reality is he wasn't. I think that's my whole thing. He wasn't though. ⁓ We have Francesca's parents on some like we're happy our daughter is happy, but like we still have to come correct. Yes. Yeah. As a parent, if this my child, this is exactly how I'm feeling to behave. This is how I'm feeling to behave. Even if it's my sister. This is exactly how I'm feeling to behave. Show more emotion of love. And so now we have Yasmin and Jordan who didn't work out, but they're still kind of like best friends today. I'm not going to lie to you of all the couples that broke my heart that it didn't work out. was the two of them. If there was a couple that I actually wanted to work out, was these two. Like I legitimately wanted these two to work out. And so for them to not have worked out, like you look, you broke my heart. Cause it's like. Jordan was always just like so kind, even when he struggled to like, you know, just stand up and say the things that needed to be said, he was still very kind. He was still very much patient. And so was Yasmin. Like they communicated so well. They were so respectful and so grown with it. Really, I'm really thankful for everyone who's accepted me and supported me. It means a lot. And so you have her talking about, you know, sharing her experience with, you know, Villa Ligo. And first of all, she thanks, you know, Jordan and she calls him like Jodes. And I'm just kind of like, yeah, that's like. That's the best friend nickname right there, but like, you know, she's just like. I'm so happy. I'm like, I'm so happy she got to be able to really show up as herself. I'm so happy that this is something from the first time we saw her in the past, like there was no makeup covering, you know, her skin and whatnot. So I'm so proud of you girl. Like she just seems so calm, so lovely and just so, why didn't it work? ⁓ my gosh. Faye and What's His Name are still married too and I'm just kind of like Faye, did you watch the same show? Like, and she said they married and she's so happy with it and I'm just kind of like girl. Beautiful birdhouse. she's so, like, did you watch the show? Like, is it me? Did you watch the show? He is so kind, so reassuring. Jackie's so kind and so reassuring. If you like it, I love it. But like, when we watching the same show, like... Is it still getting your name right? ⁓ yeah. Yeah. They're literally laughing about the whole thing about him essentially getting her name wrong, like... Really beautiful skin. And so now they asked him, do you see why Kierra Mea thought you were disingenuous? And he was like, yeah, you know, was a once in a lifetime opportunity and I just like took it and just like ran with it. Okay. I'm tired. I'm tired. ⁓ they talk a little bit about him having ADHD. And I had asked in one of my episodes, like, do you think that's partly to do with the way that he is? I'm pretty sure it is, but Because I don't know enough, I'm going to give my thoughts to myself. Yeah. Yeah. I regret it now. And I also regret the way that I handled the situation. Okay. So they're talking about the whole find my friends thingy and he gonna be like, he regrets the way he handled the situation. He just was scared. It was a lot of things going on. So he decided to disconnect to be able to show up for Faye. And so by disconnecting, he ended up doing the opposite, Kini-Kon, Kini-Kon. And at least he's acknowledging that the way he handled it. was not the best. Hey, your mama is doing the laundry for you and your husband. I'm quite deflated, proper deflated innit? Alrighty y'all, that's it on me. All the couples are still together. ⁓ I wish them the best. I'm the saddest that, what's his name? Jordan and Yasmin didn't work out, but the two of them are still friends. So like that does my heart good. ⁓ Faye is still a bird. Jack, I guess, you know, beautiful skin. You know what I'm saying? And I really like AJ. I think because of AJ, we can see ⁓ a more easier side. to ⁓ a more easier side to to Kiara. I love that. And, you know, Taylor and Sophie, I actually thought they would stay together. And I'm glad I was right about that. So thank you so much for indulging me. I'm going to go back to regular, you know, content and all of the things just to take a break. Because, you know, reacting to shows like this can be a lot sometimes because I'm having to watch like a whole bunch and just like, you know. talking and talking and talking, but like, thank you so much for watching. If you have any, please go ahead and subscribe to the notification bell so that you always don't want to upload. And I'm going to go ahead and see you guys on the next one. I've been your host and I'll be your host for a little while longer if you let me, but until then I appreciate you and I'm going to go ahead and see you guys on the next one. Bye for now.