Networking Without the Performance

It all started with the BIG question on the table.

 

How do we network like actual humans instead of robots collecting contacts?

 

This Coffee Chat tackled the awkwardness, fear, and internal dialogue that makes networking feel like pulling teeth. We kicked off identifying the barriers—introversion, social anxiety, imposter syndrome, fear of rejection, and that nagging voice asking "What can I possibly offer these grown-up professionals?" One person admitted they reach out, start a conversation, then it fizzles into silence. Another said networking events make them feel like a kid at a classroom birthday party who wasn't invited. The room nodded hard.

 

The conversation turned to practical strategies. Show up first—liking posts is the baby step, but commenting is where you stretch. Share what you found valuable and tag people you trust. Ask relatable questions. Look for opportunities to give, not take. One person shared their approach: go to conferences during peak lunch times so you're forced to sit with strangers, read their badges for conversation starters, and ask why they came to that session. Another admitted they despise networking but power through by listening for moments to jump in.

 

We explored tools and mindset shifts. Use HiHello to swap contact info at conferences instead of collecting business cards nobody carries anymore. LinkedIn's algorithm recently changed—it now feeds you content based on your expertise, so post about what you want to see more of. Hit the notification bell on profiles of people you want to stay connected with. And stop treating networking like something you only do when job searching—that's not authentic, and people can tell.

 

The group talked about starting from a place of giving. Share someone else's gold nuggets, not just your own. Repost articles that resonated with you and tag people in the conversation. Offer shout-outs. Help someone. Take the focus off yourself by making it about what you can contribute. And remember—most people want you to reach out. That barrier you're imagining? It's in your head.

 

The takeaway? Networking isn't about being perfect or having all the answers. It's about showing up, being yourself, and connecting with people in spaces that feel comfortable. Start small. Build the habit. Reflect on what worked and what held you back. And stop telling yourself you're not good enough—because you are.

 

So what's your first right step this week?

 

Stay curious! -Shannon

 

Video VimeoCoffee Chat: Networking Like A Human

 

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Resources: Learning Rebels Virtual Networking Planner 2026 Learningrebelslearningrebels.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Virtual-Networking-Planner-2026-revised.pdf

 

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Hi Hello App www.hihello.com

 

Books: Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrrazzi AAmazon.com: Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time: 8601411271779: Ferrazzi, Keith, Raz, Tahl: Books

 

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie AAmazon.com: How to Win Friends and Influence People: 9780671027032: Carnegie, Dale: Books

 

The Laws of Connection by David Robson AThe Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network: Robson, David: 9781639366484: Amazon.com: Books

 

Relationships at Work by Rachel B. Simon ARelationships at Work: How to Authentically Network within Your Company: Rachel B. Simon: 9781637555378: Amazon.com: Books

 

The Introvert's Edge to Networking AmznAmazon.com: The Introvert’s Edge to Networking: Work the Room. Leverage Social Media. Develop Powerful Connections (The Introvert’s Edge Series) eBook : Pollard, Matthew, Blount, Jeb, Lewis, Derek: Kindle Store   Be part of the Community. Gain more valuable resources to build your skills! Learn more here.   Join the conversation  Be part of the live chat! Sign up here.     Hire Learning Rebels  When you need learning that sticks, we’ll fight to make performance results happen. Visit the Learning Rebels website to learn more   Host: Shannon Tipton  Podcast produced by: Obsidian Productions