E67 How to Stop Comparing Your Insides to Everyone Else's Highlight Reel

Have you ever looked around a room full of accomplished people and thought, "What am I doing here?" Last week at a conference in Tampa Bay, Lynsey did exactly that, and within ten minutes she had talked herself right out of her own résumé.

Then she walked up to one of the speakers, had a real conversation, and discovered that the woman she admired was carrying the very same worries. In this short solo episode, Lynsey shares what she realized on the walk away: you are comparing what you can see of someone else to what you can feel in yourself. That is apples and oranges, and it is never a fair fight.

If imposter syndrome has been whispering to you lately, this one is for you.

• Why imposter syndrome shows up even after decades of experience, and what the whisper really sounds like (01:32)
• The conversation that changed everything, and the realization behind "outside versus inside" (02:32)
• How to catch the unfair comparison with one simple question (05:10)
• Why pedestals do not survive proximity, and the question to ask someone you admire (05:56)
• The day someone put Lynsey on a pedestal, and what she said back (06:47)
• How to build your identity from the inside out, and why "developing my people" is never just a task on your list (07:41)
• The quiet wins list: three a week, small, unposted, and yours (09:00)

"Her outside was never meant to be measured against your inside."

Ask yourself: "What is the one thing I did this week that nobody will ever post about, but it's exactly who I want to be?" A better mom, a better listener, a leader who built her team up, someone who showed up for her community. Write it down. That is quiet win number one. Then add two more before the week is over.

• Craving a room where the highlight reels get set down at the door? The Audaciously Unapologetic Retreat is October 15 to 18 at CIVANA Wellness Resort & Spa in Carefree, Arizona. A small group, by application only. Apply or schedule a chat with Lynsey at audaciouslyunapologetic.com
• Want to work on this one on one? Book a free discovery session at lynseymulder.com

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