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I'm Peedifoo, I'm Peteriful, I'm a big dude, I'm Kindness.
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This is porn Talk Live. Here's your host, Eric Zuzak.
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Hey everyone, welcome to coorn Talk Live. Wink wink. You'll
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figure it out whether you're joining me live on social
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media or listening later on the podcast. I want to
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thank you for being here. This is a safe place
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for men who are ready to reclaim their power and
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break free from the secret struggle that no one wants
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to talk about. I am Eric Zuzak. I am a
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sacred energy and urge control coach, and I help men
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quit the habit, that secret habit that's rusting in your
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browser history and silent durraining their energy, confidence and purpose
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and help them to channel it into their goals and dreams.
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Today's episode is called Escaping the Secret Struggle. Let's get
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into it before we dive, and make sure to follow
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me and click the link in my bio or show
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notes to get a free copy of my book that
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helps with this topic, that helps you overcome this addiction.
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So let's be real. Most guys don't even talk about
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this habit, you know, the one I call I call
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it corn. Here because many platforms don't like when we
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say the real word. But you know what I what
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I mean, corn is everywhere, It's accessible, private, and it
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gives that instant dopamine hit. But what most guys don't
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realize is how much it's costing them, not just in time,
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but energy, clarity, motivation, even their relationships. And thank you
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all that have joined me. Live here. So the struggle here,
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the struggle is real, but it's hidden. And you might
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be a you might be a great dad, a great employee,
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maybe even a spiritual man, but still feel like a fraud.
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Still feel like a fraud. That's the secret struggle. You
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know what I'm talking about, That that fraud, feeling a phony.
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Like people would say, oh, you, he's such a nice person,
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and then you think, well, boy, you wouldn't say that
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if you saw what I viewed last night. But I
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know it because I lived it and I talked to
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him in every day. We're in the same place. Some
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of them have been stuck for decades like I was.
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But the moment they name the struggle, that's when the
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healing starts. If you're if you're here live, let me
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know in the chat. Have you ever felt that struggle,
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and you can you can just drop that, you know.
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If you're not here listening on the podcast, you can
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drop me a line at Eric at powerfuleric dot com,
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or you can do that now too if you like.
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But anyway, hey, if you're just joining me, follow follow
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me and grab your free my free book using the
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link in the bio or the show notes. But I
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want to share something very personal with you. There was
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a time when I couldn't go a day without this,
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or even a couple hours. I had the best intentions.
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I was married, I had a good life, love was
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my family. But I just kept slipping, and I kept
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it a secret, and that secret wore me down spiritually, emotionally, physically, yes, physically.
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There was a night where I hit bottom. I looked
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in the mirror and thought, is this who I really am?
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Is this what I've become? And that was a turning point.
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I didn't get perfect overnight, but I got honest, and
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that honesty started to unlock everything. The shame began to lift,
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and that's when the healing really started. If you're listening
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to this and you've had that moment, maybe this is
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your mere moment, and if it is, let this be
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the day you start climbing out. What keeps you stuck?
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So why do we stay stuck? There's three big reasons.
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The biggest one of all shame. I can talk about
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this for several podcasts. Shame alcohol and drugs doesn't. Yeah,
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people aren't happy about that. But this particular addiction that
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lives in your browser history has a tremendous amount of
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shame with it. Have you experienced that shame? The habit.
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The habit thrives in secrecy. The more we hide it,
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the more power it has. Next one is stress. Most
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guys don't have an emotional outlet. They turn to the
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habit because it's easy and it gives them that release,
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But it's a short term fix for a long term wound.
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The next thing is false beliefs, Believing things like I'll
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never beat this or I'm just wired this way. That's
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not true. Have you heard of neuroplasticity? Can't say the
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word neuroplasticity is real. Your brain can change, your spirit
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can grow, but it starts with a belief. If you're stuck,
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it's not because you're broken, it's because you haven't learned
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how to channel that passionate energy. Yet how to escape.
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Let me give you some practical tips for escaping the
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secret struggle that lives in your browser history. Awareness. Just
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start tracking your triggers, know your patterns. You may feel like, well,
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I just do it when I want to. Well, it
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may seem that way that your subconscious mind is saying, hey,
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why don't you act out right now, I'm feeling really
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stressed out. Let's just get online and knock one out
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real quick. It's it may seem like it's just this
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quote unquote fun thing that feels good that you want
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to do. But if you're to the point where it's
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an addiction, it's much deeper than you might seem. So
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you have to track what triggers you and it could
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be anything. Really stress being a big one. To track
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your triggers. What sets you off next is accountability. Get
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around others who are on this journey. You don't need
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to do this alone. Don't do this alone. You really
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can't do this alone. If you get to the point
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of being addicted to this, then doing it on your
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own is virtually impossible. I haven't met anyone that it
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was addicted that we're able to overcome it on their own.
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Are there people. Sure, I'm sure there's some enigmas out there,
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but for the most part, you need somebody. You need
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to find a therapist, a maybe a spiritual leader. Maybe
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maybe it's a parent, Maybe maybe it's a school counselor
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maybe it's a coach like myself. But find find someone.
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Find a coach, a group, a mentor someone who understands.
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I went to traditional route and none of these people.
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Traditional route meaning getting a therapist, going to twelve step meetings,
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and taking some type of antidepressing. I did all those things,
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and I actually got worse. Believe it or not, but
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I I couldn't find somebody that was actually struggling with
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what I was doing. I did in the twelve step meetings,
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but as far as therapist, no, But anyway, I digress.
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The next one is action. Replace the habit channel that
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passionate energy. Work out. And I say this to my
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clients when we start working together. I said, if you're
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not willing to work out your physical body, meaning like
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go for a jog, go lift weights, do yoga, least,
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go for a walk, do something like. If you're not
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willing to do that, then we don't need to bother
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doing our sessions because that is the no umber one
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way you can channel that energy. So if you're not
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willing to work out, then I don't know what to
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tell you. You have to move your body in a
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healthy way, so work out or do something to build
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a business, serve someone, help someone. That energy is sacred,
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use it. I call myself now well for social media
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I do. I normally call myself a X and porn
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addiction recovery coach, but here I say I am a
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urge control and sacred energy coach because that energy is sacred,
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like it's not. It's not supposed to be just shot
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all over the place. But don't wait for perfection. Just
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commit to progress one day, one urge, one decision at
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a time, and if you're serious about making that shift,
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follow me. Click the link of the bio or in
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the show notes to get your free copy of my book.
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It's a guide that really helps you take you to
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the next step. And also you can reach out to me.
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You can send me an email at Eric at Powerfuleric
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dot come. If this hit home for you today, I
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want to I want to invite you to take the
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next step. You don't have to do this alone. Reach out,
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find support and start building a new path. And if
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you're looking for deeper support, check out the resources looked
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linked in the show notes or bio or depending on
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where you're at or where you're turning in from, or
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just go to my website Powerfuleric dot com. I've got
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a lot of stuff, free stuff under resources. And if
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you're listening to this on the podcast, don't forget to
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leave a review and share it with someone who needs
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to hear this, because trust me, there are millions of
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men and women that are struggling with this. I know
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I have men literally reach out to me from around
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the globe, from countries that I have never heard of.
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So follow me. If this message is resonates with you,
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and don't forget. You can get your free copy of
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my book by clicking the link in the bower show notes.
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So I beat that horse to death. So I want
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to open this up to people that have questions. I
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stop feeling bad about watching Corn when I was fifteen.
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Get over it, dude. I wish I could. I wish
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I could. I carried a tremendous amount of guilt and
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shame about it. Like there are some guys that can
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drink alcohol and be totally fine. And there's other guys
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that drink drinking alcohol and they're like they can't stop,
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and that was me, Like I could not stop once
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I started. I would edge. Do you know what edging is? Edging?
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You know, you get yourself dressed right to the brink
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of you know here on live on on uh social media.
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Have to choose my words carefully otherwise they block me.
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So but anyway, I would edge. So that's awesome that
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if you can stop feeling bad about it, because that
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just feeds it. Talking through the biz here. So thank
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you for your comment, and I'm glad you were able
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to get over it. But for a lot of us,
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it's not that easy. If it were that easy, then
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we could just stop. But here's what happens. Here's the
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the addiction cycle in a very simple, simplified form. We
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have trigger thought action, trigger thought action. So you're on
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social media, you see some beautiful woman, that's your trigger.
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Your thought is, oh wow, she is beautiful. I'm just
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gonna go click open a new tab here and take
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care of things. And your action is taking care of things.
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And so that uncomfortableness that you felt you took care
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of briefly but then you have that uncomfortableness come again
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because of what you just did. You feel guilt and
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shame about it. Fortunately for my friend, you're the BIZ
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does not feel that and is not get stuck in
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that cycle. But that's the cycle trigger thought action. But
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here's the quote unquote secret between the trigger trigger thought action. There,
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between those three things, there is some space. And if
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you can get yourself, like when you're online and you
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see that jiggly video, you see that jiggly video, you
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have an opportunity where you can make change your mind.
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You can say, you know what, stop, stop, cancel, I
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release this spot and you take a different action. You
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take a different action. And I teach guys to wear
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a rubber band so they will. This is this is
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psychology one on one here. So you're triggered by something
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like WHOA, I wasn't expecting to see that. I'm triggered
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by that. You snap, snap yourself back to reality, say stop, cancel,
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and do something else. So you remember here you are
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not alone, you are not broken. See that's why I
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do what I do for a living as a sacred
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energy and urge control coach. I went to all these
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different programs and they had you say that you are
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a power less you are powerless over whatever the addiction was.
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That did not work for me, and it was not
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working for most of the guys in these programs. So
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I went off on my own, became found tools that
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actually work, that actually work, and I started to call
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myself powerful instead of instead of pitiful, beautiful, powerless.
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I'm pitiful, I'm pitiful, I'm addicted, I'm cordless.
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So instead of that, I just on one day, I
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was creating a login for an addiction recovery program and
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I thought, I'm gonna put my log in is powerful, Eric,
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and you are powerful too, and the best days are
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ahead of you. Thanks for listening. If you're struggling with
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porn or sex addiction, reach out to Eric at powerfuleric
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dot com.
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I'm Peedifoo, I'm Peteriful, I'm a big dude, I'm Kindness.
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This is porn Talk Live. Here's your host, Eric Zuzak.
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Hey everyone, welcome to coorn Talk Live. Wink wink. You'll
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figure it out whether you're joining me live on social
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media or listening later on the podcast. I want to
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thank you for being here. This is a safe place
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for men who are ready to reclaim their power and
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break free from the secret struggle that no one wants
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to talk about. I am Eric Zuzak. I am a
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sacred energy and urge control coach, and I help men
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quit the habit, that secret habit that's rusting in your
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browser history and silent durraining their energy, confidence and purpose
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and help them to channel it into their goals and dreams.
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Today's episode is called Escaping the Secret Struggle. Let's get
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into it before we dive, and make sure to follow
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me and click the link in my bio or show
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notes to get a free copy of my book that
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helps with this topic, that helps you overcome this addiction.
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So let's be real. Most guys don't even talk about
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this habit, you know, the one I call I call
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it corn. Here because many platforms don't like when we
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say the real word. But you know what I what
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I mean, corn is everywhere, It's accessible, private, and it
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gives that instant dopamine hit. But what most guys don't
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realize is how much it's costing them, not just in time,
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but energy, clarity, motivation, even their relationships. And thank you
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all that have joined me. Live here. So the struggle here,
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the struggle is real, but it's hidden. And you might
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be a you might be a great dad, a great employee,
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maybe even a spiritual man, but still feel like a fraud.
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Still feel like a fraud. That's the secret struggle. You
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know what I'm talking about, That that fraud, feeling a phony.
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Like people would say, oh, you, he's such a nice person,
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and then you think, well, boy, you wouldn't say that
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if you saw what I viewed last night. But I
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know it because I lived it and I talked to
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him in every day. We're in the same place. Some
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of them have been stuck for decades like I was.
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But the moment they name the struggle, that's when the
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healing starts. If you're if you're here live, let me
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know in the chat. Have you ever felt that struggle,
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and you can you can just drop that, you know.
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If you're not here listening on the podcast, you can
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drop me a line at Eric at powerfuleric dot com,
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or you can do that now too if you like.
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But anyway, hey, if you're just joining me, follow follow
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me and grab your free my free book using the
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link in the bio or the show notes. But I
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want to share something very personal with you. There was
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a time when I couldn't go a day without this,
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or even a couple hours. I had the best intentions.
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I was married, I had a good life, love was
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my family. But I just kept slipping, and I kept
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it a secret, and that secret wore me down spiritually, emotionally, physically, yes, physically.
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There was a night where I hit bottom. I looked
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in the mirror and thought, is this who I really am?
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Is this what I've become? And that was a turning point.
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I didn't get perfect overnight, but I got honest, and
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that honesty started to unlock everything. The shame began to lift,
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and that's when the healing really started. If you're listening
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to this and you've had that moment, maybe this is
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your mere moment, and if it is, let this be
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the day you start climbing out. What keeps you stuck?
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So why do we stay stuck? There's three big reasons.
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The biggest one of all shame. I can talk about
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this for several podcasts. Shame alcohol and drugs doesn't. Yeah,
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people aren't happy about that. But this particular addiction that
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lives in your browser history has a tremendous amount of
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shame with it. Have you experienced that shame? The habit.
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The habit thrives in secrecy. The more we hide it,
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the more power it has. Next one is stress. Most
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guys don't have an emotional outlet. They turn to the
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habit because it's easy and it gives them that release,
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But it's a short term fix for a long term wound.
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The next thing is false beliefs, Believing things like I'll
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never beat this or I'm just wired this way. That's
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not true. Have you heard of neuroplasticity? Can't say the
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word neuroplasticity is real. Your brain can change, your spirit
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can grow, but it starts with a belief. If you're stuck,
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it's not because you're broken, it's because you haven't learned
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how to channel that passionate energy. Yet how to escape.
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Let me give you some practical tips for escaping the
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secret struggle that lives in your browser history. Awareness. Just
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start tracking your triggers, know your patterns. You may feel like, well,
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I just do it when I want to. Well, it
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may seem that way that your subconscious mind is saying, hey,
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why don't you act out right now, I'm feeling really
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stressed out. Let's just get online and knock one out
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real quick. It's it may seem like it's just this
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quote unquote fun thing that feels good that you want
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to do. But if you're to the point where it's
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an addiction, it's much deeper than you might seem. So
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you have to track what triggers you and it could
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be anything. Really stress being a big one. To track
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your triggers. What sets you off next is accountability. Get
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around others who are on this journey. You don't need
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to do this alone. Don't do this alone. You really
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can't do this alone. If you get to the point
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of being addicted to this, then doing it on your
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own is virtually impossible. I haven't met anyone that it
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was addicted that we're able to overcome it on their own.
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Are there people. Sure, I'm sure there's some enigmas out there,
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but for the most part, you need somebody. You need
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to find a therapist, a maybe a spiritual leader. Maybe
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maybe it's a parent, Maybe maybe it's a school counselor
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maybe it's a coach like myself. But find find someone.
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Find a coach, a group, a mentor someone who understands.
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I went to traditional route and none of these people.
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Traditional route meaning getting a therapist, going to twelve step meetings,
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and taking some type of antidepressing. I did all those things,
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and I actually got worse. Believe it or not, but
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I I couldn't find somebody that was actually struggling with
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what I was doing. I did in the twelve step meetings,
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but as far as therapist, no, But anyway, I digress.
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The next one is action. Replace the habit channel that
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passionate energy. Work out. And I say this to my
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clients when we start working together. I said, if you're
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not willing to work out your physical body, meaning like
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go for a jog, go lift weights, do yoga, least,
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go for a walk, do something like. If you're not
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willing to do that, then we don't need to bother
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doing our sessions because that is the no umber one
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way you can channel that energy. So if you're not
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willing to work out, then I don't know what to
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tell you. You have to move your body in a
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healthy way, so work out or do something to build
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a business, serve someone, help someone. That energy is sacred,
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use it. I call myself now well for social media
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I do. I normally call myself a X and porn
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addiction recovery coach, but here I say I am a
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urge control and sacred energy coach because that energy is sacred,
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like it's not. It's not supposed to be just shot
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all over the place. But don't wait for perfection. Just
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commit to progress one day, one urge, one decision at
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a time, and if you're serious about making that shift,
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follow me. Click the link of the bio or in
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the show notes to get your free copy of my book.
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It's a guide that really helps you take you to
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the next step. And also you can reach out to me.
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You can send me an email at Eric at Powerfuleric
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dot come. If this hit home for you today, I
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want to I want to invite you to take the
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next step. You don't have to do this alone. Reach out,
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find support and start building a new path. And if
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you're looking for deeper support, check out the resources looked
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linked in the show notes or bio or depending on
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where you're at or where you're turning in from, or
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just go to my website Powerfuleric dot com. I've got
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a lot of stuff, free stuff under resources. And if
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I have men literally reach out to me from around
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the globe, from countries that I have never heard of.
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So follow me. If this message is resonates with you,
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So I beat that horse to death. So I want
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to open this up to people that have questions. I
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stop feeling bad about watching Corn when I was fifteen.
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Get over it, dude. I wish I could. I wish
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I could. I carried a tremendous amount of guilt and
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shame about it. Like there are some guys that can
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drink alcohol and be totally fine. And there's other guys
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that drink drinking alcohol and they're like they can't stop,
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and that was me, Like I could not stop once
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I started. I would edge. Do you know what edging is? Edging?
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You know, you get yourself dressed right to the brink
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of you know here on live on on uh social media.
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Have to choose my words carefully otherwise they block me.
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So but anyway, I would edge. So that's awesome that
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if you can stop feeling bad about it, because that
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just feeds it. Talking through the biz here. So thank
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you for your comment, and I'm glad you were able
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to get over it. But for a lot of us,
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it's not that easy. If it were that easy, then
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we could just stop. But here's what happens. Here's the
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the addiction cycle in a very simple, simplified form. We
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have trigger thought action, trigger thought action. So you're on
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social media, you see some beautiful woman, that's your trigger.
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Your thought is, oh wow, she is beautiful. I'm just
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gonna go click open a new tab here and take
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care of things. And your action is taking care of things.
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And so that uncomfortableness that you felt you took care
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of briefly but then you have that uncomfortableness come again
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because of what you just did. You feel guilt and
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shame about it. Fortunately for my friend, you're the BIZ
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does not feel that and is not get stuck in
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that cycle. But that's the cycle trigger thought action. But
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here's the quote unquote secret between the trigger trigger thought action. There,
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between those three things, there is some space. And if
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you can get yourself, like when you're online and you
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see that jiggly video, you see that jiggly video, you
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have an opportunity where you can make change your mind.
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You can say, you know what, stop, stop, cancel, I
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release this spot and you take a different action. You
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take a different action. And I teach guys to wear
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a rubber band so they will. This is this is
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psychology one on one here. So you're triggered by something
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like WHOA, I wasn't expecting to see that. I'm triggered
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by that. You snap, snap yourself back to reality, say stop, cancel,
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and do something else. So you remember here you are
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not alone, you are not broken. See that's why I
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do what I do for a living as a sacred
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energy and urge control coach. I went to all these
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different programs and they had you say that you are
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a power less you are powerless over whatever the addiction was.
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That did not work for me, and it was not
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working for most of the guys in these programs. So
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I went off on my own, became found tools that
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actually work, that actually work, and I started to call
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myself powerful instead of instead of pitiful, beautiful, powerless.
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I'm pitiful, I'm pitiful, I'm addicted, I'm cordless.
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So instead of that, I just on one day, I
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was creating a login for an addiction recovery program and
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I thought, I'm gonna put my log in is powerful, Eric,
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and you are powerful too, and the best days are
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ahead of you. Thanks for listening. If you're struggling with
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porn or sex addiction, reach out to Eric at powerfuleric
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dot com.
