00:00:41The Wisdom of Not Making Things Worse
00:01:35Grief and Its Impact on Health
00:02:46The Journey to Change
00:03:28The Role of Community and Support
ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Join us as we delve into the teachings of Marcus Aurelius in exploring how anger and grief can amplify the challenges we face. Highlighting the timeless wisdom encapsulated in the adage, "The first rule of holes is, if you find yourself in a hole, stop digging," this episode invites you to pause, reflect, and approach life's hurdles without adding more complication to them.
Discover personal revelations about grief and its impacts, as one individual's story reveals the transformation that follows when we choose to stop making things worse. From personal relationships to well-being, learn the importance of community support and common sense practices as tools for navigating emotional trials. Tune in to understand how stopping, breathing, and planning are essential in overcoming adversity without making the situation more tumultuous.
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Music.
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Hello it's june 11th and we're reading from the daily stoic just don't make things worse,
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how much more harmful are the consequences of anger
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and grief than the circumstances that arouse them in us marcus aurelius meditations
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11.18.8 the first rule of holes goes the adage is that if you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.
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This might be the most violated piece of common sense wisdom in the world.
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Because what most of us do when something happens, goes wrong,
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or is inflicted on us is make it worse.
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First by getting angry or feeling aggrieved.
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And next by flailing around before we have much in the way of a plan.
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Today, give yourself the most simple and doable of tasks.
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Just don't make stuff worse. Whatever happens, don't add angry or negative emotions to the equation.
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Don't react for the sake of reacting.
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Leave it as it is. Stop digging. then plan your way out,
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this.
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Is one of the reasons why I like reading this a little later in the evening because,
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usually something that's happened throughout the day it has an answer for it,
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and in this instance I was just talking to someone about grief and how grief changed my life.
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Relationship with food. And as I was going through grief, it caused me to overeat.
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And it led me into being obese. It led me into having a lot of visceral fat.
00:02:30.758 --> 00:02:35.158
And I got a wake-up call in December of last year.
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And I've been on a path to change it.
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And it's working, you know, losing weight, being more active.
00:02:46.638 --> 00:02:52.798
But it's a perfect example of how we just make stuff worse.
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Because instead of just taking a second, grounding ourselves.
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Taking a deep breath,
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and, you know, approaching the situation with a better eye.
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I know they said common sense wisdom.
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I've always been under the belief that common sense is not a common thing.
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If it was, everybody would use it.
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But having some practices in place, whatever that may be,
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having a good community that will keep you motivated, uplifted, and support you.
00:03:46.278 --> 00:03:54.118
And if you have a partner that would be nice too because relationships ebbs
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and flow and having somebody there that understands and recognizes what's going on,
00:04:02.038 --> 00:04:04.918
and can support you that's nice too,
00:04:06.598 --> 00:04:14.178
but just like they said if it's bad just stop digging take a deep breath and.
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Music.
00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:09.520
Music.
00:00:09.707 --> 00:00:18.547
Hello it's june 11th and we're reading from the daily stoic just don't make things worse,
00:00:19.707 --> 00:00:22.827
how much more harmful are the consequences of anger
00:00:22.827 --> 00:00:30.007
and grief than the circumstances that arouse them in us marcus aurelius meditations
00:00:30.007 --> 00:00:41.107
11.18.8 the first rule of holes goes the adage is that if you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.
00:00:41.627 --> 00:00:47.267
This might be the most violated piece of common sense wisdom in the world.
00:00:48.047 --> 00:00:52.927
Because what most of us do when something happens, goes wrong,
00:00:53.087 --> 00:00:56.667
or is inflicted on us is make it worse.
00:00:57.107 --> 00:01:00.767
First by getting angry or feeling aggrieved.
00:01:00.907 --> 00:01:07.787
And next by flailing around before we have much in the way of a plan.
00:01:08.367 --> 00:01:13.107
Today, give yourself the most simple and doable of tasks.
00:01:13.507 --> 00:01:21.387
Just don't make stuff worse. Whatever happens, don't add angry or negative emotions to the equation.
00:01:21.847 --> 00:01:24.827
Don't react for the sake of reacting.
00:01:25.487 --> 00:01:30.147
Leave it as it is. Stop digging. then plan your way out,
00:01:32.267 --> 00:01:32.907
this.
00:01:35.947 --> 00:01:45.067
Is one of the reasons why I like reading this a little later in the evening because,
00:01:47.527 --> 00:01:52.967
usually something that's happened throughout the day it has an answer for it,
00:01:55.807 --> 00:02:08.347
and in this instance I was just talking to someone about grief and how grief changed my life.
00:02:10.058 --> 00:02:18.198
Relationship with food. And as I was going through grief, it caused me to overeat.
00:02:20.578 --> 00:02:27.938
And it led me into being obese. It led me into having a lot of visceral fat.
00:02:30.758 --> 00:02:35.158
And I got a wake-up call in December of last year.
00:02:36.338 --> 00:02:38.978
And I've been on a path to change it.
00:02:41.218 --> 00:02:45.838
And it's working, you know, losing weight, being more active.
00:02:46.638 --> 00:02:52.798
But it's a perfect example of how we just make stuff worse.
00:02:53.498 --> 00:02:58.238
Because instead of just taking a second, grounding ourselves.
00:03:01.558 --> 00:03:03.198
Taking a deep breath,
00:03:05.318 --> 00:03:12.018
and, you know, approaching the situation with a better eye.
00:03:12.298 --> 00:03:14.458
I know they said common sense wisdom.
00:03:16.278 --> 00:03:20.578
I've always been under the belief that common sense is not a common thing.
00:03:20.698 --> 00:03:23.198
If it was, everybody would use it.
00:03:28.378 --> 00:03:33.998
But having some practices in place, whatever that may be,
00:03:34.398 --> 00:03:46.278
having a good community that will keep you motivated, uplifted, and support you.
00:03:46.278 --> 00:03:54.118
And if you have a partner that would be nice too because relationships ebbs
00:03:54.118 --> 00:04:01.258
and flow and having somebody there that understands and recognizes what's going on,
00:04:02.038 --> 00:04:04.918
and can support you that's nice too,
00:04:06.598 --> 00:04:14.178
but just like they said if it's bad just stop digging take a deep breath and.
00:04:15.600 --> 00:04:24.009
Music.
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