Episode 1 - The Year That Changed Everything!

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So if you'd have been told at the beginning of the year how this year was gonna go, Vicky, what would you have done?
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I would have said, no thank you, 26.
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I'm gonna stay right here.
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Because I wouldn't want to go forward, because then I'd be coming up to 40.
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So it's a lose-lose situation.
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So you just have to stay in 2025 for a sanity.
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Yeah, that would have been good.
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But uh here we are.
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Here we are.
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If it hadn't have happened, we wouldn't be doing this.
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This is true.
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That's all I think about.
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Welcome to Keep Me Wild, Keep Me Sane.
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Keep Me Wild, Keep Me Sane.
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Are we recording?
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This week we're gonna be talking about our year, basically, so far.
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And how horrific it's been.
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What a tremendous eight months we've had.
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I'll go first.
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I'm gonna go first.
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Okay.
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Let's just get the ball rolling.
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Yeah, strap in.
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Get your iced coffees because it's freaking boiling today.
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Oh, why are we recording in a heat wave?
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It's ridiculous.
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So, um, and it's too early for a white wine, unfortunately.
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So we have to break up the kids later, so iced coffee is so um well January was fabulous.
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I was getting ready, obviously, to launch my app.
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Yep, putting all the final pieces in place, getting excited about it, and then it was the 5th of February, wasn't it?
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Yes, the day before Nya's day before Naya's birthday.
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Um I had my car accident and absolutely mangled my arm.
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The day before the app launch, I'd done a two-week promotional countdown to get everyone, you know, the buzz of oh my god, we're we're opening in 10 days, nine days, eight days.
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And the day before, I was like from my hospital bed, high as a kite.
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Yeah, I remember that story.
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We've had to adapt and change, but we're we're okay, we're alive.
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I'm grateful I'm alive.
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That's the most important thing.
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I'm grateful.
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There was about 30 seconds of that day where I thought you were dead, so that wasn't ideal.
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I thought I died at one point.
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So, yeah, what happened then?
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Talk us through the accident if you want to.
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Yeah, so obviously it was my initial fault.
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I pulled out, it was a real awful foggy day, and I was on my way to pick up the kids.
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So thank God, obviously, the kids weren't there.
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I apply that junction twice a day, every single day.
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I look left, you look right, you look right, blah blah.
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And I was like, I'm good.
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Pulled out.
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Um, and I think the weird thing was I still didn't know I'd pulled out in front of someone.
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It's not like I pulled out and instantly was like, shit.
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I literally was just pulling out, I'm sure I was singing, so that's normally what I do.
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And I had didn't see anything.
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I just suddenly suddenly bashed, spun the car around a couple of times.
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Um he hit you at like 65 miles away.
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Yeah, so he was yeah, he was going very fast.
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Like I say, it was overall, it was all it was my fault.
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Um, but it was a very foggy day.
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It was a white car, an old car with no lights on, and I just literally just didn't see him.
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And and then there was a lot of crossover of was he on his phone because there was no break marks, he didn't initially try to break, and I was in a big black car, so he would have seen me pulling out.
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Yeah um the angle he hit me, it was all very technical.
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Very technical, yeah.
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Well, I mean, your the angle is important because I wasn't T-boned.
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I wasn't um if you'd have left it like half a second longer, he would have literally smashed into you, T-bone.
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Into my door, yeah.
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And that probably would have killed you all.
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Um the whole of me.
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Well you and and him and his family, I meant.
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I'll say well, it was just me.
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Just killed your entire person, yeah.
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Um but I meant like all of you, you know.
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Um but because you did pull out when you did, um, you managed to get across the road and it was your wing and his wing, so that was why the the damage was minimal.
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I say minimal, I mean his leg was buggered and your arm is buggered.
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Um but comp in comparison to you know the phone call we could have got, it was actually very minimal injuries.
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Yeah.
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And the fact that it was 65 miles an hour, that's a that's not anything to sort of gloss over, you know.
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That's a that's a big impact.
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Yeah.
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So um, but yeah, like I said, mum mum rang me obviously hysterical and wasn't making any sense.
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I mean she knew you were alive because but she wasn't telling me that you were alive.
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She was just blubbing and saying you've been in an accident, and I I spent 30 full seconds thinking that she was trying to tell me that you were dead, um which was horrific.
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And never do that to me again.
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Ever, please.
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I don't know if I could deal with it a second time.
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So yeah, that wasn't good at all.
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Yeah, that's the thing, isn't it?
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Plates, screws, yeah, bionic arm.
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And um yeah, you're a fitness queen, so that's not ideal.
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No, no.
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You just get any monkey bars on literally with a monkey barring, and now I can't.
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Um fit by 40, that's the motto.
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Uh 12 to 15 month recovery, they said, uh, to hopefully be back to somewhat of where I was.
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Yeah.
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So and this is the thing, like with now six months post accident, but I'm actually only three months back at the gym because I wasn't allowed to do anything for 12 weeks.
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Of course.
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Only lift a cup of tea.
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Yeah.
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Which I could barely do.
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At the beginning, I was like, oh god.
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Um now look at me.
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Look at me go.
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Um fly that glass around everywhere.
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Woo! So uh so yeah, obviously it's stronger in some things and really weak in other things.
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It depends on the angle, how I'm trying to hold things.
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Like, you know, you've been coming to the gym, deadlifts, I'm getting really heavy on my deadlifts.
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Yours is um fit by 40, mine is fit trying to get fit at 40.
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Crawling back to fitness at 40, kicking and screaming.
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So just give us a year.
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Yeah.
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And then your side.
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Ah yes, my side has been delightful.
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No life-threatening injuries, thank god.
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Uh so January for me.
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Well, I was, you know, married.
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Technically, I'm still married.
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Um, just without the wife.
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But where's my wife?
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I have no wife.
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Um, yeah, so yeah, so I'm I'm going through a divorce at the moment.
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It's been very um turbulent.
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Because that all kind of came to a head June.
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Came to a head in May, really.
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Yeah.
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Uh, and then yeah, the we sort of ended things uh sort of in in the middle of June.
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Basically, it's it's sort of hadn't been right for a while.
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Yeah.
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Uh, and then from Christmas it it basically nosedived into chaos.
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Um and so now I am solo parenting, which I thought would be kind of awful and it's and hot.
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I really like it.
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Yeah, I really love it.
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Um, you know, Naya obviously things have affected her, it's been a massive life change for her, but moving in with mum and dad.
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She's amazing.
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I mean, yeah, living with mum and dad is not ideal at 40, but they have been phenomenal.
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Um Hotel Mum and Dad is great because I lived there five weeks after my accident.
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Poor mum and dad are semi-retired, and we've both just moved back in this year.
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And now I'm like, here's the grandkid.
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I gave you a good I gave them a good review, and you're like, I could sign in there.
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Yeah, TripAdvisor.
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Uh yeah, so no, bless them.
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They they have been phenomenal.
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Um, I secretly love it because you're only 10 minutes from us now.
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Yeah.
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Whereas before it was like a good 30 minutes to get to the book.
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40 minutes, yeah.
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Yeah, so yeah, we're getting to see each other more.
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I mean, that's um there's many reasons why we started the podcast now.
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I mean, we've been we've been talking about it for such a long time.
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We actually did a logo over a year ago.
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Yeah, well over a year ago.
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And we got our tattoos nearly three years ago.
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Yeah.
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Which is madness.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Which is where it all stemmed from.
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But obviously, it's sort of taken a a bit of um upheaval in both of our lives to be like, why are we talking about it?
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I think we were too busy.
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I mean, yeah, I mean, this is the this is the other thing, is like we were 40 minutes away from each other.
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We had very young children, they were like babies.
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Very busy lives.
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Um, you know, both working.
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Sadly, I've had to leave my my job, which I was really good at, and I had a very good team that I worked with, because it's just not it's not feasible to keep doing a nine to five job at the moment with my situation living so far away from um lower stuff now, and obviously having nine full-time, just wasn't gonna work at the moment, so it's made me chuck myself into my media business, which I've also been wanting to do for a while, a long, long while.
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Yeah, um, and obviously I started that in April not realizing that my marriage and everything was gonna end.
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I was doing it to eventually build something, you know, for the for the family.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I'm glad that I had made that start really because it's it's you know what I'm effectively trying to do full-time now.
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So yeah, it's been cra it's been crazy.
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And then we're here.
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We're here.
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But we wouldn't be here if these situations wouldn't have happened because we've been talking about it for a long time, but time-wise, you worked all the time.
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Yeah, so we'd only then be able to do evenings, which then by the time you drive backwards and forwards from each other was a ballake.
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So they're just you know commitment, we wouldn't have been able to.
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We wouldn't have been able to commit to it, you know.
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Well, we are lucky that all of this crap has given us time together.
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Yeah, you know.
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And weirdly, like people say when they have accidents and stuff like that, like you have this whole new lease for life.
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Um, but I generally feel like I've done that because like I've changed so much, yeah, in the sense, like work-wise, even.
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So I now don't do in-person personal training anymore.
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No, you were teach you were teaching spin fucking.
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I was teaching classes every week, I don't do that anymore.
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And the whole time I it wasn't like I mean, for ages Joey's been like, you know, you I don't need to do them, but I love doing them.
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Yeah, um, and obviously I only did like one class back after my accident, and I I don't want to say I don't want to say I hated it because that's not right.
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It was lovely to see everyone and be back in the studio, but I can't do it.
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Yeah, I physically I can't lift any of the weights over the street.
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You were just having to yell things at them, yeah.
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Which is fine because that's actually how some people instruct their classes, they don't actually do it, but that's not my style of teaching.
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My style of teaching is if I'm not working hard enough, they're not working hard enough.
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Do you know what I mean?
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How can you yell at them to do more if you're doing nothing?
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If I'm doing nothing, and I I just feel awkward just standing there, like looking at them.
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Do you know what I mean?
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That's just yeah, it's not who I am.
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Um taking it upon yourself to yell at me in the gym at the end.
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So I just go around the whole gym and tell people individually you're not working hard enough.
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I don't get paid for it.
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I just walk around the gym now.
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Like what are you doing?
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Have we gonna do three more of those?
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I can't.
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Yes, you can.
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So yeah, so I don't do in-person like classes or or PTing anymore.
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Obviously, the app did launch, questionably at the beginning, because obviously I was in and out of hospital with a head on drugs.
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I was yeah, just high as a kite for a while.
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But yeah, that's now obviously picking up, which is amazing.
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That's now growing.
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So I now just have more free time, yeah.
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And the kids are away.
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And the kids go to school for what three weeks is it now?
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School! Not for nine.
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Not that I'm counting, but yeah, obviously they're still going to nursery over the summer because I don't want to look after my own children.
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I mean, it's exhausting.
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It's exhausting, and there's two of them.
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Um and it's just too hot.
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Like I can barely keep myself alive through the day at the moment, let alone two other little children.
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So they're some nurseries to make sure they're drinking water and creaming them up.
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Because I hate creaming people up.
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Luckily, Naya's really good with a sun cream, but she doesn't want to do it all herself.
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And I'm like, we just don't have time.
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All in the eye.
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It's like, stop it.
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Just let me jump me down.
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Yeah, the nightmare.
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But anyway, this has been a depressing 15-minute start.
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So, one question then advice to people that might have had a terrible year like us.
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Because we can't be the only two, please tell me we're not the only two people that have had a terrible 23 years.
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I mean, I know loads of people that have separated this year, so you know the goodwill has spread.
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The year of the divorce.
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Well, look out, Joe.
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I'm coming.
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You better come home with flowers, Mister Wherever you are, husband.
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That's so funny.
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What what do you do when life literally decides to just rewrite all the plans?
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You have to ride the storm.
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Obviously, it's it's I mean, I think we both went through the same emotions.
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You cry a lot.
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Crying.
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You cry, I'm a right crier.
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Just crying for weeks.
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I'm a real crier.
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Yeah, I I don't I mean, I I am now.
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I never used to be a couple of things.
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But the difference between me and you is I'm a petty poly and you aren't.
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Like if I was getting a divorce, like Joe should hide because I would be not I wouldn't know, that's not say nasty.
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I'm a petty polly.
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You are I'd be really petty, and you're not like that.
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No, which is good for you.
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I mean it it sucks sometimes.
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Sometimes I want to be sometimes I want to be like, oh no, I'm awful.
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Even if there were kids involved, I'd be very petty.
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But Joe says to me all the time, if anything happens, he's like, but we're not those people, we don't need to chat.
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I was like, no, you're not that person.
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You very much are.
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I am.
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You're a judge.
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Give it to me.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I didn't get the judge streak.
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You definitely did.
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But then you're loud.
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Um you can shout.
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Oh yeah.
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Whereas I'm not a very argumentative person.
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No, you're just a wait till your wait until your back has turned and I'll stab you.
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Sneaky pelly potty, yeah.
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I'll just yell in your face and I just said a sneaky pelly potty.
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Sneaky pelly potty.
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Sneaky pelly potty.
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I know that mic's gonna pick that up because I've missed it.
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Sneaky pelly potty.
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That's what we're calling it now.
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You're a pelly potty.
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That's made me cry.
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Oh god, I'm gonna have to bring it up.
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Otherwise, I'd have noticed in the edit, I'd have been like, Nicky Pelly Potty, can we take a minute just to remember the pelly potty?
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Oh, that's well funny.
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Um what even am I trying to say?
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Petty Polly.
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Polly, not a pelly potty.
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Pelly potty?
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Yeah, I'm one of them too.
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Yeah.
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But yeah, yeah, and then it's getting to me.
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Yeah, that's where we're different, but yeah, but we do both cry.
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I I've cried I've cried more this year than I think I have done in 40 years, to be honest.
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Yeah, that's the other thing.
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With it being all around my.
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Oh, I was gonna ask a mean question then.
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I was thinking, did you cry more about this divorce or the last?
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Definitely this one.
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Yeah, this one was this one was way worse.
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This one was savage.
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So yeah.
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But it's harder, I think, because there's nigger involved.
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Yeah, yeah, there's a lot more, a lot more involved this time around.
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Last time I was young and Naive.
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Stupid crazy.
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But um apparently I I decided two divorces, Ross from Friends.
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No, that's three divorces.
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FYI.
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They're all you're still tired.
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Three is the magic number.
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Ten years is coming around.
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Wait till you're 50, we'll be back here having the same conversation.
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So yeah, we've worked out that life tends to throw me a curveball every decade.
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So at 29, my first marriage broke down and I literally left the country and moved to Australia.
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I just met Joe.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Uh, and then um I had quite a lovely 11 years, and then here I am.
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Time for switching out again.
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On the uh But you're not allowed to go back to Australia, isn't it?
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The therapy couch.
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I will I can't go back to Australia now.
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I'm too old, they won't let me in.
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You have nothing to offer us.
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I definitely haven't checked that out.
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Anyone anyone from Australia want to sponsor me?
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I'll be very me and Naya, we'll be there.
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Oh god.
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So yeah, so to answer that question, we've gone off skirt again.
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We cry a lot.
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Yeah.
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Then we'd probably get mad.
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So I got quite mad.
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I was actually very mad for a little while.
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See, I said, I mean, normally I would get I couldn't get mad when I suppose it's my technically it was my wrong.
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Oh yeah, but I would have been mad at myself.
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I mean I've been mad at myself a lot this year.
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I don't know.
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I don't want to say no, I don't think I have been mad at myself.
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I think it was just it was I still.
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Because you didn't say I didn't say I didn't say Do you know what though?
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I don't know what else to say.
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At least fundamentally for your recovery, that's probably the best thing.
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You know, when people have accidents and they they have blackouts and they don't remember the actual entire thing, like dad.
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Yeah.
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Um it was such a weird situation because even now I think about it, like I say, it it was so weird to not see it coming.
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At no point did I think I was going to be hit.
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It's like one of those movies where they're driving and having an argument and all of a sudden you see the truck coming and they panic and they go, ah ah.
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No, no, no, the ones where they're just wiped out, they just get wiped out, yeah.
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That's what it was.
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Yeah, yeah, there was no panic or anything, no fear.
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Yeah.
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But then also I wasn't braced, because I suppose if you see some, if you're gonna get hit, you you lock in, which was my issue as to why my arm broke, because I was merely like pulling out, you pull out, you go into second gear, and then it was BAM.
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And it just the had the force of it broke it because I went into second, it broke out of the back of my arm.
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So it broke out and up.
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So a little sexy scar.
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Um, so both the bones snapped.
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I mean, your your arm was literally not connected.
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No, it was completely disconnected from here, from like midway up my arm.
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Um so when when everyone was like trying to get me out of the car and all that jazz, I was frantically trying to open my door with this arm and get my seatbelt off because I was panicking, you know, that initial I need to get out, I need to get out.
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Um, and I was trying to undo my seatbelt, opening the door, and I realised my door was completely jammed.
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I was like, I can't get out, I can't get out.
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And then I was like, why is my seatbelt not coming off?
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And I looked, and there's me thinking I'm undoing my seatbelt.
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Yeah.
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But my arm was literally stretched across my passenger seat, just flapping because in my my arm was trying to, you know, the shoulder was moving, trying to bring it over to undo, but because nothing was connected, it was just all twitching on the seat, and then I was like, Wow, I'm broken! And I literally picked up my arm like this, and I cuddled it, and I was like, Oh my god, I'm already broken, I'm already broken a little more, and I was honestly convinced it was all broken.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I don't yeah, I suppose you don't in the moment you don't think it's just disconnected from the top.
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I was like, my wrist because I couldn't control anything.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I couldn't move my wrist, I couldn't bend it.
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Yeah, it just felt like everything had broken.
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But it was one like big bit.
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It was because both bones were broken, because obviously if one was still attached, there might have been a little bit of reaction, but um yeah, so two plates, one down one bone, one down the other, a third across the middle to hold them all in place, and then like a dozen screws to basically rebuild me an elbow.
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Um I mean that's a lot, yeah, a lot of scar tissue.
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So yeah, we don't straighten.
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That's cool.
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I've just got a bit an inch shorter now.
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I mean, you're still lifting heavier weights than me with that arm sometimes.
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But yeah, like I was saying earlier, it's the motion, isn't it?
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Like if I have to do anything bringing it to my face, that's where I struggle.
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Like bicep curls, I'm really like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And then I'm on like a double the size on this arm.
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But deadlifts, yeah, deadlift.
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Yeah, because it's all proportioned around your body, you know, and it's just hanging down.
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It's not like it's not much pressure, it pulls, obviously, but so yeah, your sun's creeping around, isn't it?
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And we're gonna have to move our broly.
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Yes.
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Leave key lean forward a bit.
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There you go.
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How's this?
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You're owning it, you're owning it.
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I told you that pesky sun.
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So this is the part where we have a little look.
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Um I'll put that there.
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That's some uh viewer questions that people have sent in to us.
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Of course.
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Love that.
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Maybe we could take.
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Oh, I hope they're not savage.
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There's only four of them, so I think we can we're very delicate at the moment.
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Yeah, please, my mental state.
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Just be kind.
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Uh right, so are you ready?
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Yeah, hit me.
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Is it for me or for us?
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It's for us.
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I think I think we should both answer them.
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Personally victimised.
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Victoria! Number one, what was your dynamic when you were children?
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You were a bully.
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You were a brat.
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A teacher.
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You were a brat.
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Yeah.
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Petty Polly.
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Oh yeah.
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That's what it is.
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The polypeti.
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It's the younger sibling syndrome.
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Pelly potty.
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Pelly potty.
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Yeah, you definitely had younger child's syndrome.
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Yeah.
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So yeah, I did bully you a bit though.
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You did bully me a bit.
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But you were a very big brat and used to get me in trouble all the time.
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Yeah.
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Because you bullied me.
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It was a vicious cycle, really.
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It was, it was never ending.
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You were nasty, so I was mean.
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You were nasty, so I was mean.
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The prime example of Becca being a bully is uh you and Matthew, our cousin, used to Oh no, it wasn't Matthew, it was you and Amanda.
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You and Amanda used to bully me and Matthew.
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And you used to sing around the garden.
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Vicki and Matthew smelled today.
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Vicki and Matthew smelled today, papa.
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And we were like, we don't smell.
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And she used to make us cry.
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You did used to both go running and crying.
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And then you used to tell us stories because when we lived at Brampton, we had that dike.
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There was a dike at the bottom of the garden.
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Running through the garden.
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Claws.
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And you used to tell me that there was a monster in there called Claus.
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And if I left my when my mum would call us in for dinner, you would she'd be like, tidy all your toys away, get inside.
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And you wouldn't ever tidy the toys away, but you would say, I would do mine, and then you'd be like, Well, if you don't do mine, Clause is gonna come out and take all of your toys, and then I'd panic and tidy up all your shit too.
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That's true, I definitely did that.
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But it worked, a tree.
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It did work.
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I did tidy your shit up.
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Okay, yeah, I was a bit of a bully.
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But that's because I'm a big sister.
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Little sister syndrome, prime example.
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Classic Victoria.
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Sitting on opposite sofas watching telly.
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Mum and dad are not in the room, mum's in the kitchen or something.
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And you would just I will never forget this face because you were so smug.
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Such smug little face.
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You do have a very smug face, and when you were little, it was like, I just want to tap.
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So blonde and cute.
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Literally adorable and really annoying.
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So I wanted to, like, I would be watching telly and I'd look and you'd be like this.
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And I'd be looking at you like, what are you doing now?
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And then I'd be like, what are you doing now?
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Ow! Ow, Rebecca! Ow, stop behind me! And I'd literally be sat there like And then Mum would come running through, Rebecca! And I'd be like, How do you think that I got from here over there?
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Battered her and got back into this very comfortable seated position before you came in to yell at me.
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And then you'd be behind her going, basically the kid's version of this.
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Yeah.
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Oh, so yeah, you deserved every battering you got.
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But I think because we're close in age, as we got older, the thing is personality-wise, I think we're very alike.
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Very similar, yeah.
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We're very similar.
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We're actually with polar opposites in there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Well, we do look alike.
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Our images, this is what we should say.
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Our images are completely different.
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Yes.
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I mean, if we literally top clothes right now, and if it wasn't this hot, I probably would do it.
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Yeah, just for a laugh.
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Just sweaty.
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Maybe on a winter episode.
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When it's a bit cooler, we might just swap it, wearing each other's clothes for shits and giggles.
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I'll buy a wig.
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Oh well, your maxi dress.
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Yeah.
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I mean, I tried to get you in there earlier so you weren't in bloody trousers, but I'll buy dreadlocks.
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I'll buy a wig.
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Oh my god, that's that's one episode.
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We'll do an episode.
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We will do an episode where we are each.
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We'll pretend that we're each other.
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Yeah, okay.
00:23:21.519 --> 00:23:22.799
Uh it will blow your minds.
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Maybe we could do that for like a Patreon episode or something.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, that'll be good.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So I'll just act like you and you can act like me for the whole episode.
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That'll be so good.
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So, question two.
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If you could have any other career in the world, what would it be?
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I know this one straight away.
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Pick me, pick me.
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Um we always do this as like a dinner party question.
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Not that we have them anymore, now we have children.
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Um mine would always be something to do with wine.
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And I don't mean like just selling wine, but I'd really want to know a lot about it and be like be able to go to restaurants or supermarkets and know exactly what will match what I'm eating.
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But travelling to all the different vineyards like all around the world and learning about it all because I don't know, I just find it really interesting.
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I said to you, didn't I?
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I went to the hen party last weekend, yeah, and we'd done a vineyard vineyard tour and everything, and it was like they had 52,000 vines, and it takes like 10 years to make the wine, and yeah, it just really fascinates me.
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So I'd love to like get involved in it that way, yeah, and just taste it all, obviously.
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And live on a vineyard and drink.
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I love that.
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Yeah, the dream.
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I mean In another life, maybe.
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You could do that in a retirement.
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Yeah, this is it.
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I mean, I could easily do a course to learn about wine, but I d I wanted, like I say, go more travelling to different places to learn it, if that makes sense.
00:24:40.799 --> 00:24:46.079
Not just we should go to Margaret River in Australia because the wine tours and the wine and the and the sun.
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Start light then.
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Straight to Australia.
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They just have Margaret River is like my one of my happy places.
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It's just so wonderful.
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I've had their wine before.
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Yes, but you haven't had it in Margaret River, that's it.
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With you know an avocado sourdough toast breakfast with cranberries.
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Oh my god, so good.
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What would you do?
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Um, I think something with like animal animal rescue type stuff.
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So, like when we went to Cambodia, uh, we did a day with um it was like called a bear keeper for the day, and you we went to see all the rescued sunbears and moon bears, and we got to like not actually what is a moon bear?
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It's just a breed of bear.
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I've never heard of a moon bear.
00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:27.359
You've heard of a sun bear?
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No.
00:25:27.839 --> 00:25:30.880
Oh, they look just like brown bear and a polar bear.
00:25:31.039 --> 00:25:31.839
Well, most of them are green.
00:25:34.799 --> 00:25:37.839
Um well we'll we'll Google it after the show.
00:25:38.880 --> 00:25:45.759
Um they've got them at um Colchester Zoo have got moon some sunbears or moon bears, I can't remember which one, but they're very cute.
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But they're very abused in in Cambodia and Asia, really.
00:25:49.759 --> 00:25:56.720
Um but anyway, you know, I'd like to go and like go go through the jungles and like rescue all the bears and stuff like that.
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Some sort of animal conservation.
00:25:59.519 --> 00:26:03.200
Um marine conservation would be good, but I'd probably need like three degrees for that.
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Maybe before you jump in with free willing.
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Before they let me go and dive to save some octopuses.
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Octopis?
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Octopuses?
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Octopus octo nunnies.
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Right, question three.
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Will either of you have any more children?
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No.
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No, I will not.
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That's a firmness.
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Wow.
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That is a very firmness.
00:26:29.359 --> 00:26:33.039
Straight in eh- Yeah, I I was not a good pregnant person.
00:26:33.200 --> 00:26:37.519
Anybody that knows me remembers what I was like as Rebecca the pregnant lady.
00:26:37.759 --> 00:26:42.880
But is it because you don't want to be pregnant again, or is it the fact you generally don't want any more kids?
00:26:43.440 --> 00:26:46.160
Um, it would have been nice for Naya to have a sibling.
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That's the only thing that's the only plus for me.
00:26:52.079 --> 00:27:03.279
Um you know, she loves other kids and it's sad, you know, I just find it a bit sad that she's on her own, but um but no, I I don't want to go through pregnancy again.
00:27:03.519 --> 00:27:06.960
Um I didn't want to do it the first time.
00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:12.079
Yeah, but then there's like adoption or fostering or no, I just don't I just think you're gonna be.
00:27:13.279 --> 00:27:14.480
Yeah, I'm I mean I'm 40 now.
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I don't want to go back to like nappies and and milk puke and um I know that if I foster or adopt, I can I can, you know, there'd be older kids most likely or whatever, but um no, I you know, it's just me and Naya now.
00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:31.039
I think we're set.
00:27:31.279 --> 00:27:39.200
I think I you know, if I'd have had two, I'd I'd probably be um crying a lot more currently than I, you know, trying to trying to be a single mum to two.
00:27:39.440 --> 00:27:40.240
Trying to manage it all.
00:27:40.400 --> 00:27:44.400
You know, um I think women that do that are superheroes, to be perfectly honest.
00:27:44.559 --> 00:27:49.279
So uh so yeah, so um no, I think yeah, I think I'm I'm done.
00:27:49.519 --> 00:27:49.920
Yeah.
00:27:50.079 --> 00:27:51.680
I would like another one.
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Just we can't have any more anyway.
00:27:54.000 --> 00:27:55.279
Obviously, ours were IVF.
00:27:55.359 --> 00:27:57.119
That's a whole other episode that we're gonna go into.
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We'll do a whole episode of all exceptions that weren't natural.
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You were IVF, I was IUI, mine was from a same-sex marriage, yours was from a heterosexual marriage.
00:28:07.920 --> 00:28:08.799
From broken sperm.
00:28:09.119 --> 00:28:11.200
Yeah, from dead from not non-swimmers.
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Sorry, Joe, love you.
00:28:12.720 --> 00:28:13.680
They didn't know where they were going.
00:28:13.920 --> 00:28:14.799
Flappy flappy.
00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:16.480
But we'll go this way or should I go this way?
00:28:16.799 --> 00:28:19.759
One lonely sperm being like, where the hell is everyone?
00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:22.160
Guys, I can't do this on my own.
00:28:22.480 --> 00:28:23.119
Oh god.
00:28:23.519 --> 00:28:26.880
Yeah, so um, yeah, we just can't afford to do any any more.
00:28:26.960 --> 00:28:29.359
Obviously, it costs us 25 grand to have the twins.
00:28:29.680 --> 00:28:33.680
Um obviously we used our last embryo and we miscarried.
00:28:33.759 --> 00:28:33.920
Yep.
00:28:34.079 --> 00:28:37.519
So yeah, there's no no more left in the fridge or the freezer, I should say.
00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:38.960
No more eggs in the basket.
00:28:39.200 --> 00:28:39.599
Nope.
00:28:39.759 --> 00:28:43.920
I would like to have had one more because I just think now I've dealt with two at once.
00:28:44.079 --> 00:28:47.680
I think having one at one at one go would just be so easy.
00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:49.680
Well, you'd be able to enjoy that one.
00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:55.119
And yeah, because I I feel like I missed out on all those like the way everyone talks about the baby cuddles and the baby bubbles.
00:28:55.200 --> 00:29:05.279
I was just in this manic cycle of trying to feed feed them both, burp them both, and then I had to pump ready for the next cycle, and it was also strict for us in the beginning because of their feeding plan.
00:29:05.680 --> 00:29:07.279
There was no enjoyable bubble.
00:29:07.359 --> 00:29:09.359
I don't I was just delirious, I had no sleep.
00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:11.759
I don't I don't even remember it very well if I'm honest.
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:13.279
Those first six weeks were just savage.
00:29:13.440 --> 00:29:17.279
So yeah, I'd like to think if I had one, I'd be able to enjoy it a little bit more.
00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:19.839
And you'd probably get some sleep, you know, that'd be nice.
00:29:20.079 --> 00:29:27.279
That's the other thing about me having any more is Nya's Nia has I mean the same with the twins, they've all slept all the way through from 12 weeks old.
00:29:27.440 --> 00:29:33.759
Um and Nia is a 12 hour and a night, seven till seven, you know, absolute dream in that sense.
00:29:33.839 --> 00:29:34.079
Yeah.
00:29:34.319 --> 00:29:39.359
I just think if I had a second one, I would the karma of that would get me and I would never sleep again, you know.
00:29:39.759 --> 00:29:40.400
That'd be a nightmare.
00:29:40.559 --> 00:29:45.680
I'd have four or four years with no sleep, and I just I'm I like to I like to sleep.
00:29:45.759 --> 00:29:45.920
Yeah.
00:29:46.079 --> 00:29:50.400
And I think the reason I can function so normally is because I get a good sleep every night.
00:29:50.480 --> 00:29:52.400
So I wouldn't want to risk that at my ground.
00:29:56.240 --> 00:30:01.759
If we could draft somebody in that has swimmers, you'd be open to it.
00:30:02.559 --> 00:30:03.359
Sorry, Joe.
00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:04.400
Sorry, Joe.
00:30:05.200 --> 00:30:07.200
This one is an absolute doozy.
00:30:07.599 --> 00:30:08.400
Thanks, guys.
00:30:08.559 --> 00:30:11.759
As in As in, I think they're trying to split up the pod.
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:12.480
Oh god.
00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:13.200
Are you ready?
00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:13.680
Right.
00:30:13.920 --> 00:30:16.720
What annoys you the most about the other sibling?
00:30:16.960 --> 00:30:18.079
You're always late.
00:30:18.559 --> 00:30:19.599
Straight in there.
00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:21.680
So we're gonna tone it down.
00:30:21.759 --> 00:30:23.039
We're not gonna be nasty to each other.
00:30:23.200 --> 00:30:23.839
That's outrageous.
00:30:24.079 --> 00:30:24.799
Assholes.
00:30:25.039 --> 00:30:26.640
We're not gonna be nasty.
00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:30.240
I mean, my feelings are still very hurt by that comment actually.
00:30:30.559 --> 00:30:31.759
Because it's true.
00:30:32.160 --> 00:30:32.400
Yeah.
00:30:32.799 --> 00:30:33.680
You're always late.
00:30:34.079 --> 00:30:36.319
Or it's always frantically on time.
00:30:36.640 --> 00:30:39.839
It's not very often you arrive on time and you're like chilled.
00:30:40.079 --> 00:30:42.000
Actually, I think I have been better the last couple of years.
00:30:42.240 --> 00:30:44.799
Have you mummy got a bit better being of mum because she kicks you out of the door?
00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:47.039
No, I I leave the house of my own accord.
00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:54.880
I actually you know, I don't want to slander my ex-wife, but she was notoriously late for everything.
00:30:55.119 --> 00:30:59.119
And I before I was with her, I was actually on time for things back in the day.
00:30:59.440 --> 00:31:00.160
I don't ever yeah.
00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:05.200
I was never a late person and I became a late person, and now I'm trying to rectify the ways.
00:31:05.519 --> 00:31:08.319
But while we're on that, you're always fucking early anyway.
00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:08.960
This is true.
00:31:09.119 --> 00:31:09.920
I don't like to be late.
00:31:10.079 --> 00:31:10.640
But annoys me.
00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:11.839
But I'm always early.
00:31:12.000 --> 00:31:16.000
Yeah, I literally I'm like, she's like, oh, come and pick you up at nine, quarter to nine.
00:31:16.079 --> 00:31:21.200
I'm outside, I'm like, well, I'm I don't have any trousers on because you said nine o'clock, Victoria.
00:31:21.440 --> 00:31:22.559
Yeah, I'm always early.
00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:26.880
Yeah, maybe it's because I have to be so organised rallying up two children.
00:31:27.039 --> 00:31:28.319
Yes, you do have to be regimented.
00:31:28.400 --> 00:31:43.920
You when you do the backwards maths, you have to accounter for suddenly a wee break or something else and something else, and then the backwards maths happens, and you think, right, well, if I leave it this time, we'll be in the car at this time, and you know And then I'm just always 10 minutes early because I accounter for anything because the amount of time.
00:31:44.319 --> 00:31:46.480
You do the backwards maths and then you add an extra 10 minutes on that.
00:31:46.960 --> 00:31:49.519
Just in case, because there's always something that you don't counter for.
00:31:49.599 --> 00:31:56.319
Yeah, like the amount of times that even if I drive back from nursery, it's like a 15-minute car journey, and Hugo might be like, I need a wee mummy.
00:31:56.559 --> 00:32:02.799
So then you've got to pull over, but then as soon as he gets out, Harper suddenly needs a wee, and she doesn't need a wee, it's just because he's got out of the car and had a wee.
00:32:02.880 --> 00:32:05.920
So then that literally will take 10 minutes of like are you weeing?
00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:06.480
Are you having a wee?
00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:07.680
Have you a wee jet, Harper?
00:32:07.759 --> 00:32:09.440
Uh no, no, do you actually need a wee?
00:32:09.759 --> 00:32:14.400
No, and then like so it can be something like where did we go with Jo?
00:32:14.640 --> 00:32:26.240
We're on our way somewhere, and Hugo needed a poo, and we actually had to poo a wild poo in a field, and then Harper said she needed a poo, and wish we know for well she didn't need a poo, but if you didn't get her out, for the love of God was she gonna scream the card out?
00:32:26.400 --> 00:32:26.720
Oh, of course.
00:32:26.799 --> 00:32:31.599
So, do you I mean you waste 20 minutes all these unexpected, and she's like, I need to poo, and you're holding her.
00:32:31.759 --> 00:32:32.720
You're like, Well, are you gonna poo?
00:32:33.200 --> 00:32:33.759
Maybe.
00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:41.359
Fun fact about Pooh, Naya decided she was gonna have a she calls them a they're Rachel Wee's and Rachel Pooh's because she can't say nature.
00:32:41.599 --> 00:32:48.240
So I was gonna say he's nature wee and nature nature poo, but wild would have been a better one, an easier one to teach her.
00:32:48.640 --> 00:32:50.079
Yeah, but so I'll maybe I'll switch it.
00:32:50.160 --> 00:32:52.480
But anyway, so she had a Rachel Wee and a Rachel Pooh.
00:32:52.640 --> 00:33:00.000
Um, she actually uh went and had uh shit in Mum's garden last week and said, Mummy, um I've pooed myself.
00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:01.200
I was like, How have you pooed yourself?
00:33:01.279 --> 00:33:05.119
She was like, I was trying to have a Rachel Pooh and I was like, in Nana's garden.
00:33:05.440 --> 00:33:07.359
I was like, oh my god, where?
00:33:08.000 --> 00:33:08.640
No, yeah.
00:33:08.720 --> 00:33:12.480
I was like, Right, we don't have Rachel Pooh's in people's gardens ever.
00:33:13.200 --> 00:33:14.079
There's a toilet inside.
00:33:14.640 --> 00:33:16.000
If there's a toilet, we use the toilet.
00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:17.279
And she was like, sorry, mummy.
00:33:17.440 --> 00:33:21.039
I was like, that's okay, let's just clear it up, and we never tell Nana.
00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:23.200
Nana.
00:33:24.160 --> 00:33:28.960
I did tell Nana, but yeah, I was like, oh my goodness, no, we're not having Rachel Poos in people's gardens.
00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:30.559
Well, on that note.
00:33:31.200 --> 00:33:35.759
So well, that's all for the questions for this week.
00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:38.000
We survived, we survived our first week of questions.
00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:40.240
Woo! Not for want of trying though.
00:33:40.319 --> 00:33:41.440
Hey everyone.
00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:44.480
Um well, that is actually it for this week.
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:54.079
Um coming up this series, we next week we'll be launching um the weekly spiral segment, which is spiral of the week.
00:33:55.519 --> 00:33:56.480
Thanks for that.
00:33:57.039 --> 00:33:59.119
Were you waiting to see that the whole thing for that?
00:33:59.279 --> 00:33:59.440
Yeah.
00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:01.519
It's the spiral of the week.
00:34:01.839 --> 00:34:04.000
Well, now that you've done it, I'm gonna use that sound clip.
00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:04.880
Theme tune.
00:34:05.039 --> 00:34:08.960
And I'm gonna, every time we introduce the Spiral of the Week.
00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:10.159
That is what it's gonna play.
00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:10.880
So well done.
00:34:11.039 --> 00:34:12.480
Well done for being a little bit of ear.
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:13.280
What is it?
00:34:13.360 --> 00:34:14.159
A little ear.
00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:17.840
What is it called when pi when something gets in your ear?
00:34:18.159 --> 00:34:20.880
I'm gonna call it an ear nugget because I don't remember what the word is.
00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:22.639
I don't even know what you're trying to say.
00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:23.679
An ear nugget.
00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:25.840
Um thanks for being a little ear nugget.
00:34:26.159 --> 00:34:26.719
No problem.
00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:38.880
So yeah, the weekly spiral or the spiral of the week is going to be just something that each of us has kind of got a bit obsessed with that week, or you know, um something that's really annoyed us, or anything like that.
00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:43.119
We're gonna sort of bring one thing to the table each week and have a bit of a chat about it.
00:34:43.280 --> 00:34:53.519
Um we will also be launching our Patreon um account pretty soon uh because we would, you know, we'd love to start giving you some extra content.
00:34:53.679 --> 00:34:56.639
Uh it'd be sort of behind the scenes, maybe bloopers.
00:34:56.880 --> 00:34:58.639
Um extra special episode.
00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:01.280
Maybe some evening episodes where we drink wine.
00:35:01.599 --> 00:35:07.039
Wine! Uh and also we've now got the idea of doing an episode where we dress up like each other and pretend to be the other one.
00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:08.800
So we'll we can do that every now and then.
00:35:08.880 --> 00:35:09.440
That'll be good.
00:35:09.679 --> 00:35:12.800
Um, so we'll give you the details on the Patreon as soon as that's released.
00:35:12.960 --> 00:35:15.760
Um, but for now, um, thank you so much for tuning in.
00:35:15.920 --> 00:35:18.000
We hope we didn't depress you or bore you to death.
00:35:18.239 --> 00:35:20.719
We normally are who, and moving forward we'll be way more fun.
00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:24.159
But obviously, this is that this is what has brought us to this this year, isn't it?
00:35:24.559 --> 00:35:30.559
Yeah, we just wanted to really sort of take a minute to kind of reflect on uh the chaos of 2026.
00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:37.679
Um, but moving on forward, it's gonna be uh lots more laughs and I mean we've still got four months left, so God knows what's gonna happen.
00:35:37.760 --> 00:35:39.039
But it can't get any worse.
00:35:39.360 --> 00:35:41.280
We'd like it to be a bit smooth now.
00:35:41.519 --> 00:35:47.920
Yeah, I think I think the second half, the last third of the year will be a smooth sailing.
00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:50.239
Yeah, um, but yeah, thank you so much.
00:35:50.320 --> 00:35:54.239
Uh we really appreciate you guys being here, and we will see you next week.
00:35:54.559 --> 00:35:55.039
Bye.
00:35:55.280 --> 00:35:55.840
Bye.
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Keep me wild, keep me sane.
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