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I have a tendency to overwork, to make the list too long, to try to fix everything at once, to believe that if I just push a little harder, do a little more, and keep going a little longer, finally feel caught up.
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Except, of course, I never do.
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And that's why one of the simplest strategies I've ever created has become one of the most powerful in my life.
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I call it just one.
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It's helped me when I'm overwhelmed.
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It's helped me get things done without running myself into the ground.
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And maybe most importantly, it's taught me that progress doesn't have to be dramatic to count.
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Sometimes you really do just need to do one.
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That's what this episode is all about.
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Welcome to Just Getting Started, a podcast about growing from right where you are, especially when you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, uncertain, and wondering what comes next.
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Every day is an opportunity to take one small step, to try again, to try something new, and to give yourself the gift of a fresh start.
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I'm your host, Lindsay Seeley.
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If you want to get started on your journey when it comes to healing, health, work, confidence, relationships, grief, purpose, or simply becoming a little more attuned and aligned with yourself, you're in the right place.
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I believe growth happens one small step at a time.
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So let's figure it out together.
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Are you ready?
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Let's get started.
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So I've had packages and bags hanging from each of my arms, my purse thrown over my shoulder, my keys in my hands.
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I usually have to go to the bathroom and I'm usually starving.
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And I've stood there frozen because I don't know what to do.
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And I think that's happened enough to me that I just got really sick of this feeling of being overwhelmed.
00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:37.680
And so now on these kinds of days, I stand at the front door.
00:02:37.840 --> 00:02:50.639
I've learned to take one big grounding breath and create a strategy which starts with one thing at a time and specifically the next best thing.
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So that might be to put my bags down, to put my purse on the table, to take my shoes off, to go to the bathroom, to, you know, maybe put the kettle on for tea, to unpack one bag at a time, to put things away, get organized, and then just take another moment for myself.
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But I think the overwhelming feeling led to the strategy.
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And the strategy led to the just one thing at a time approach.
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And it's such a silly example, but I think this has also transferred to all areas of my life, whether it's work or with friends or even how I do my fitness.
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Like sometimes I just have to like step by step myself through these overwhelming moments.
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So yeah, that's what we're jumping into today.
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And I think sometimes I just wonder if overwhelm isn't an invitation for us all.
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It is a sign that our body is sending us that it is too much.
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There is too much stimulation, or too much caffeine, or too much to do, or too much responsibility, or whatever the too much is for you.
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And the invitation could be to slow down, to take something off your plate or off your to-do list, to reduce stimulation, to give yourself permission to pause.
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We don't do that enough.
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To maybe make your life a little smaller or simpler or easier, even if it's just for a moment.
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And then from that place of calm, you can ask yourself and be ready for that just one.
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What is the next thing I need to do?
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What is the next best thing or the next right thing I need to do?
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And this just one could really be anything.
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It could be a step, a question, an ask, a task, a hard thing.
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I mean, the the list is really endless.
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For me, it's usually just one email or pay just one bill or do just one tour, or maybe write just one paragraph for a book, or create one invoice and send it to a client.
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Like it is really that simple.
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For you, it may be a phone call or a workout, or maybe you want to take a risk or embrace a challenge, or just do that one journal entry, or that one boundary you need to set, that one cancellation or meeting.
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It is whatever.
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But here is why I think it works.
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I think that I learned, of course, the very, very hard way that just one makes life feel way less overwhelming and way less manageable.
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Just one is small enough to be something and help you feel you've accomplished or achieved or grown or moved forward just a little.
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But I think just one isn't so big that you feel chronically stressed, stretched, overwhelmed, like life is just too much.
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So I think it's just that perfect amount.
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You just do one thing and then you do the next thing, and then you do the next thing as long as you're able, as long as you're capable, as much as you want, of course.
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This is all your choice.
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But I think the strategy definitely works.
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And this is not like a watered-down version of ambition or like some trick where you think, oh, just do one thing at a time, but do a lot of one thing in a day, and then you've achieved great things.
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I think ambition is great, but I think sometimes ambitious people can stop overwhelming themselves long enough to move.
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And I think that's really important.
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I'm not saying don't have goals.
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I'm not saying don't accomplish a lot in a day.
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I'm just saying it's the strategy with which we do it that can be done in a more manageable way, in a kinder way, in a way that just prevents that crazy overwhelming feeling that I get every time I come home from a day of running errands and just being a little wild-eyed and crazy.
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That is not a good feeling.
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So it really does help.
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Like it really does.
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And yeah, this comes from a lot of experience, a lot of the same kind of day, the same overwhelming moments where I just had to ask myself, is there a better way?
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I can't continue this way.
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And I think my core belief is that we can always do something.
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We can always like make some changes to make life again a little easier, a little more manageable, a little less overwhelming.
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And also, I think I've learned that small steps do matter.
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Sometimes we can only do one thing, and that is it for the whole day.
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Someday one thing leads to the next thing, leads to the next thing.
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And we can kind of, you know, go from one step to the next throughout the entire day.
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And there are days when we can do so many steps and we might not even need the strategy.
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We just feel we have more energy, more capacity that day.
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So it does really depend.
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But I think just knowing that one thing matters, that we can celebrate that, give ourselves credit, like that's really essential, I think, for our own mental health, sense of well-being, sense of self, just feeling good about accomplishing what we can do that day.
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And we don't need to do the whole plan or achieve all of our goals in a day.
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We can simply take that one step.
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One step matters, one step at a time, go from one step and then decide okay, can I do another step?
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Or what's the next step that I need to take?
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But I think that we kind of undervalue how much we actually probably get done in a day.
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We underestimate ourselves.
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And I think just the most beautiful strategy that has so much self-love and self-care in it is using this just one strategy.
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So the question that I want to leave you with as I wrap up here is pretty simple.
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Probably not surprising.
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It is this What is one small step that you can take to grow even just a little?
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And that is again to help you feel good, to help you feel capable, to grow your confidence, and to help you also feel a little less overwhelmed.
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So give it a try.
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I would love to hear from you.
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You can always find me on Instagram at Lindsay Seeley M E-D, and I will definitely see you in the next episode.
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Bye for now.
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Thanks for listening to Just Getting Started.
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Remember, you are not behind.
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You are not finished, and it is never too late to get started.
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Until next time, keep going and keep growing.
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One small step at a time!
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I have a tendency to overwork, to make the list too long, to try to fix everything at once, to believe that if I just push a little harder, do a little more, and keep going a little longer, finally feel caught up.
00:00:16.000 --> 00:00:18.160
Except, of course, I never do.
00:00:18.719 --> 00:00:25.839
And that's why one of the simplest strategies I've ever created has become one of the most powerful in my life.
00:00:26.079 --> 00:00:27.440
I call it just one.
00:00:27.920 --> 00:00:29.920
It's helped me when I'm overwhelmed.
00:00:30.079 --> 00:00:33.600
It's helped me get things done without running myself into the ground.
00:00:33.759 --> 00:00:40.719
And maybe most importantly, it's taught me that progress doesn't have to be dramatic to count.
00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:44.719
Sometimes you really do just need to do one.
00:00:45.200 --> 00:00:47.679
That's what this episode is all about.
00:00:49.840 --> 00:01:03.280
Welcome to Just Getting Started, a podcast about growing from right where you are, especially when you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, uncertain, and wondering what comes next.
00:01:03.520 --> 00:01:13.920
Every day is an opportunity to take one small step, to try again, to try something new, and to give yourself the gift of a fresh start.
00:01:14.159 --> 00:01:16.560
I'm your host, Lindsay Seeley.
00:01:16.719 --> 00:01:33.280
If you want to get started on your journey when it comes to healing, health, work, confidence, relationships, grief, purpose, or simply becoming a little more attuned and aligned with yourself, you're in the right place.
00:01:33.599 --> 00:01:37.599
I believe growth happens one small step at a time.
00:01:37.840 --> 00:01:39.920
So let's figure it out together.
00:01:40.159 --> 00:01:41.200
Are you ready?
00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:43.120
Let's get started.
00:02:08.080 --> 00:02:16.800
So I've had packages and bags hanging from each of my arms, my purse thrown over my shoulder, my keys in my hands.
00:02:16.879 --> 00:02:19.919
I usually have to go to the bathroom and I'm usually starving.
00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:25.759
And I've stood there frozen because I don't know what to do.
00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:33.520
And I think that's happened enough to me that I just got really sick of this feeling of being overwhelmed.
00:02:33.680 --> 00:02:37.680
And so now on these kinds of days, I stand at the front door.
00:02:37.840 --> 00:02:50.639
I've learned to take one big grounding breath and create a strategy which starts with one thing at a time and specifically the next best thing.
00:02:50.879 --> 00:03:09.280
So that might be to put my bags down, to put my purse on the table, to take my shoes off, to go to the bathroom, to, you know, maybe put the kettle on for tea, to unpack one bag at a time, to put things away, get organized, and then just take another moment for myself.
00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:14.479
But I think the overwhelming feeling led to the strategy.
00:03:14.639 --> 00:03:18.719
And the strategy led to the just one thing at a time approach.
00:03:18.960 --> 00:03:30.240
And it's such a silly example, but I think this has also transferred to all areas of my life, whether it's work or with friends or even how I do my fitness.
00:03:30.400 --> 00:03:35.840
Like sometimes I just have to like step by step myself through these overwhelming moments.
00:03:36.080 --> 00:03:39.280
So yeah, that's what we're jumping into today.
00:03:39.520 --> 00:03:45.680
And I think sometimes I just wonder if overwhelm isn't an invitation for us all.
00:03:46.000 --> 00:03:50.159
It is a sign that our body is sending us that it is too much.
00:03:50.319 --> 00:03:59.120
There is too much stimulation, or too much caffeine, or too much to do, or too much responsibility, or whatever the too much is for you.
00:03:59.439 --> 00:04:12.879
And the invitation could be to slow down, to take something off your plate or off your to-do list, to reduce stimulation, to give yourself permission to pause.
00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:14.639
We don't do that enough.
00:04:14.879 --> 00:04:22.480
To maybe make your life a little smaller or simpler or easier, even if it's just for a moment.
00:04:23.519 --> 00:04:30.639
And then from that place of calm, you can ask yourself and be ready for that just one.
00:04:31.199 --> 00:04:33.680
What is the next thing I need to do?
00:04:33.920 --> 00:04:38.160
What is the next best thing or the next right thing I need to do?
00:04:38.319 --> 00:04:41.199
And this just one could really be anything.
00:04:41.360 --> 00:04:48.800
It could be a step, a question, an ask, a task, a hard thing.
00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:51.519
I mean, the the list is really endless.
00:04:51.680 --> 00:05:04.800
For me, it's usually just one email or pay just one bill or do just one tour, or maybe write just one paragraph for a book, or create one invoice and send it to a client.
00:05:04.959 --> 00:05:07.680
Like it is really that simple.
00:05:08.160 --> 00:05:23.279
For you, it may be a phone call or a workout, or maybe you want to take a risk or embrace a challenge, or just do that one journal entry, or that one boundary you need to set, that one cancellation or meeting.
00:05:23.600 --> 00:05:24.879
It is whatever.
00:05:25.199 --> 00:05:28.319
But here is why I think it works.
00:05:28.560 --> 00:05:41.360
I think that I learned, of course, the very, very hard way that just one makes life feel way less overwhelming and way less manageable.
00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:54.160
Just one is small enough to be something and help you feel you've accomplished or achieved or grown or moved forward just a little.
00:05:55.199 --> 00:06:08.399
But I think just one isn't so big that you feel chronically stressed, stretched, overwhelmed, like life is just too much.
00:06:08.560 --> 00:06:11.600
So I think it's just that perfect amount.
00:06:11.839 --> 00:06:23.199
You just do one thing and then you do the next thing, and then you do the next thing as long as you're able, as long as you're capable, as much as you want, of course.
00:06:23.279 --> 00:06:24.560
This is all your choice.
00:06:24.720 --> 00:06:28.959
But I think the strategy definitely works.
00:06:29.199 --> 00:06:41.199
And this is not like a watered-down version of ambition or like some trick where you think, oh, just do one thing at a time, but do a lot of one thing in a day, and then you've achieved great things.
00:06:41.360 --> 00:06:53.519
I think ambition is great, but I think sometimes ambitious people can stop overwhelming themselves long enough to move.
00:06:54.000 --> 00:06:56.000
And I think that's really important.
00:06:57.040 --> 00:06:59.519
I'm not saying don't have goals.
00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:02.319
I'm not saying don't accomplish a lot in a day.
00:07:02.560 --> 00:07:25.680
I'm just saying it's the strategy with which we do it that can be done in a more manageable way, in a kinder way, in a way that just prevents that crazy overwhelming feeling that I get every time I come home from a day of running errands and just being a little wild-eyed and crazy.
00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:27.519
That is not a good feeling.
00:07:27.759 --> 00:07:29.759
So it really does help.
00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:30.959
Like it really does.
00:07:31.120 --> 00:07:42.079
And yeah, this comes from a lot of experience, a lot of the same kind of day, the same overwhelming moments where I just had to ask myself, is there a better way?
00:07:42.319 --> 00:07:44.000
I can't continue this way.
00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:49.279
And I think my core belief is that we can always do something.
00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:58.399
We can always like make some changes to make life again a little easier, a little more manageable, a little less overwhelming.
00:07:58.560 --> 00:08:02.480
And also, I think I've learned that small steps do matter.
00:08:02.720 --> 00:08:07.199
Sometimes we can only do one thing, and that is it for the whole day.
00:08:07.439 --> 00:08:10.800
Someday one thing leads to the next thing, leads to the next thing.
00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:15.920
And we can kind of, you know, go from one step to the next throughout the entire day.
00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:21.519
And there are days when we can do so many steps and we might not even need the strategy.
00:08:21.680 --> 00:08:26.079
We just feel we have more energy, more capacity that day.
00:08:26.240 --> 00:08:28.160
So it does really depend.
00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:47.440
But I think just knowing that one thing matters, that we can celebrate that, give ourselves credit, like that's really essential, I think, for our own mental health, sense of well-being, sense of self, just feeling good about accomplishing what we can do that day.
00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:55.039
And we don't need to do the whole plan or achieve all of our goals in a day.
00:08:55.200 --> 00:08:58.879
We can simply take that one step.
00:08:59.360 --> 00:09:06.879
One step matters, one step at a time, go from one step and then decide okay, can I do another step?
00:09:07.039 --> 00:09:09.679
Or what's the next step that I need to take?
00:09:09.919 --> 00:09:15.679
But I think that we kind of undervalue how much we actually probably get done in a day.
00:09:15.840 --> 00:09:17.759
We underestimate ourselves.
00:09:18.000 --> 00:09:27.120
And I think just the most beautiful strategy that has so much self-love and self-care in it is using this just one strategy.
00:09:28.080 --> 00:09:34.720
So the question that I want to leave you with as I wrap up here is pretty simple.
00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:37.039
Probably not surprising.
00:09:37.679 --> 00:09:47.120
It is this What is one small step that you can take to grow even just a little?
00:09:48.480 --> 00:09:59.039
And that is again to help you feel good, to help you feel capable, to grow your confidence, and to help you also feel a little less overwhelmed.
00:09:59.759 --> 00:10:01.200
So give it a try.
00:10:01.440 --> 00:10:03.519
I would love to hear from you.
00:10:03.759 --> 00:10:13.519
You can always find me on Instagram at Lindsay Seeley M E-D, and I will definitely see you in the next episode.
00:10:13.679 --> 00:10:14.639
Bye for now.
00:10:16.879 --> 00:10:19.519
Thanks for listening to Just Getting Started.
00:10:19.679 --> 00:10:21.759
Remember, you are not behind.
00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:26.320
You are not finished, and it is never too late to get started.
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Until next time, keep going and keep growing.
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One small step at a time!
