ABOUT THIS EPISODE
What if the person grooming you to be trafficked wasn't a stranger? What if they were someone you trusted, someone who made you feel loved, someone who gave you the attention, affection, and security you had always wanted? Human trafficking doesn't always look the way we imagine it. And sometimes, the most dangerous forms of exploitation happen through relationships built on manipulation, grooming, emotional dependency, and coercive control.
In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode of Intrepid Storytelling, host Deanna Powell sits down with Misti Spencer, author, speaker, human trafficking survivor, and Director of Development and Partnerships for the Empowerment Access Foundation. Misti shares her extraordinary journey through childhood exploitation, human trafficking, grooming, narcissistic abuse, and the complicated process of rebuilding her life after years of trauma. Her story challenges common misconceptions about human trafficking and reveals how predators can use trust, attention, gifts, isolation, shame, and emotional manipulation to establish control over their victims. Together, Deanna and Misti explore why survivors often struggle to recognize abuse, why leaving an abusive relationship isn't always as simple as walking away, and how coercive control can continue long after the relationship ends. They also discuss the connection between childhood trauma, neurodiversity, autism in women, addiction, complex PTSD, and the lifelong work of healing.
THIS CONVERSATION SHINES A LIGHT ON:
- Human trafficking and child sexual exploitation - Grooming tactics and how predators build trust - Coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation - Why trafficking doesn't always involve kidnapping or strangers - The psychology of trauma bonds and abusive relationships - How shame and victim-blaming keep survivors silent - Recognizing red flags and protecting children from exploitation - Neurodiversity, autism in women, and vulnerability to manipulation - Addiction, alcoholism, sobriety, and trauma recovery - Somatic healing, breathwork, and nervous system regulation - Rebuilding self-worth, boundaries, and the ability to trust again - Turning painful experiences into advocacy and prevention
Misti also discusses her work supporting survivors and their children through the aftermath of exploitation, when the immediate crisis may be over but the financial, emotional, and practical challenges of rebuilding life are just beginning. She is the author of Drinking Beauty and the Seven Narcissists: A Musical Journey, a deeply personal book that combines memoir, music, memories, and self-reflection to explore trauma, addiction, relationships, and healing. One of the most important messages from this conversation is that survivors are not responsible for the choices of the people who exploited them.
Understanding how manipulation works, recognizing our vulnerabilities, and learning to establish healthy boundaries can help protect future generations. And perhaps most importantly, there is life after trauma. You are not alone. You are not broken. And what happened to you does not have to define the rest of your life.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 – Meet Misti Spencer: Survivor, Author & Advocate 01:56 – Why Misti Is Sharing Her Story 04:36 – Childhood Trauma, Grooming & Exploitation 13:01 – Coercive Control & Human Trafficking 25:17 – Trauma Bonds & Why Survivors Stay 30:46 – Boundaries, Self-Worth & Protecting Children 38:52 – Survivor Silence, Shame & Victim Blaming 49:27 – Recognizing Red Flags & Manipulation 52:26 – Autism, Neurodiversity & Exploitation 1:03:06 – Motherhood, Relationships & Trust 1:10:55 – Addiction, Sobriety & Breaking Generational Patterns 1:16:28 – Trauma Recovery & Somatic Healing 1:22:09 – Drinking Beauty and the Seven Narcissists: A Musical Journey
CONNECT WITH MISTI:
Facebook: misti.o.spencer
Instagram: misti_spencer
Linkedin: mistispencer
TikTok: mistispencer22
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