Release Old Patterns and Live Your Highest Life with Dianne James

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Grab a cup of tea or a glass of wine
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and tune in for inspired conversations with publisher Linda Joy
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on Tuesdays at two pm Eastern. Linda creates sacred space
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for leading female luminaries, empowering authors, heart centered female entrepreneurs, coaches,
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and healers, a soulful venue where guests openly share the
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fears and obstacles they've overcome, wisdom and lessons learned, and
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the personal journey that led them to the transformational work
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they do in the world. Inspired conversations to empower you
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on your path to authentic, soulful living.
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Are you tired of living in the past or maybe
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feeling stuck in your own life? And I'm sure there's
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a pot of you deep within that knows this so
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much more For you, Well, I got to tell you
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something you want, not alone. I've had so many conversations
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about woman feeling just that. The good news is there
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are powerful yet simple tools to identify and clear those patterns.
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And that's why I'm so excited that with me today
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is Diane James, transformational, intuitive counsel and holistic life coach
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who specializes in conducting life reviews based on your current
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situation and journeying through the Akashak records to identify your
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most important life lessons and emotional patterns that have left
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you unfulfilled. Diane is a trans channel tapping healer, a
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Kashagreada and the author of The Real Brass Ring and
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helps women and men reconstruct their future and find greatest success, abundance,
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and bliss by utilizing the world's best coaching techniques blended
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with eft channel guidance and exercises. I've been blessed to
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meet Diane in person, and we've been connected for a
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long time, and I am so grateful that she's joined
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me for the Inspired Conversation show today. So welcome Diane.
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Thank you so much, Linda. I am so happy to
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be here.
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I am so excited because I just love your energy,
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love your message, and I love your deep commitment to helping.
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For the sake of this conversation, I'll keep saying women
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because that's all my listeners, but helping women break through
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the muck, right, the stuff that they think is the
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truth of who they are, But you and I know
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it's not the truth of who they are. So I
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love to start every episode of learning a little bit
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because I found a thread over ten years with all
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the shows I've done, I found that many visionary leaders,
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like yourself, it was their personal journey that led them
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to the work they're doing now. So I want to
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talk a little bit about your journey because, like I said,
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I'm always inspired by stories of women who rose above
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their circumstances to craft a new, empowering story for their lives.
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So let's go back to when you found yourself completely
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off track at forty. Bring us back to that moment
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and how it's tied everything in.
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Well, that was I'm going to fit every single category
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of what you just mentioned, Linda. I was working. I
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was in Chicago, married with three young children, and had
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a business, and I thought I had it all. I
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had the American dream really under my belt. But at
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the same time, I knew something was off, something was
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definitely wrong, having a lot of symptoms and signals. And
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someone actually said to me, you know, you really should
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go see this person called Sonya Shoquette. And I had
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heard of her a little bit, but she was still
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really up and coming. But I did. She was in Chicago.
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I actually went to see her live in her home
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and she just took me down to the ground. And
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so I had this intuitive session with her, and she
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basically said, look, lady, you're living somebody else's life. None
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of your life is your own. You're following all your
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patterns from your parents, and you're supposed to be an
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actor and author, a teacher and a healer, and you're
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none of that. Not a thing is going right in
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your life. And I just like just stared at her,
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and I was like, what, you know, because I was
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this marketing business professional, I had this master's degree, I
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had a house across from Lake Michigan. I had the stuff,
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I had the trappings. But the truth is that when
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she said that, I just started to cry because she
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nailed it. She called it all correctly. I was about
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seventy pounds overweight. I was so depressed I could barely
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get out of bed. I was on antidepressants. I was
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everything to my kids, everything, and a relationship was not healthy.
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It was we were friends, you know, we were friends
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raising children. And there was nothing about my life that
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was satisfying, like zero, except that I was able to
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make money and do the business that I've been trained in.
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And so after our session, you know, I paid her,
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thanked her, and sat outside in my car in February
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and cried for about I don't know, probably about twenty minutes.
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I had to go to a meeting and I like
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had stained my own face with my red gloves because
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it was freezing in Chicago. And I was like sobbing
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because she was right, But how do you do it all?
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How do you? How do you restart everything? I wasn't
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doing anything that she had mentioned. I was so unhappy.
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And it's just like someone goes here, start over, no playbook,
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just start over. So, Linda, that started my journey. That
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was in my forties, my mid forties, and I recrafted
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since then every single area of my life, sometimes more
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than once. I think I'm mom. I third recrafting for
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my career now. And there was no other word that
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I could think of except like resilience and resolve. Those
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are the only two things that over the last decade
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and a half that have just brought me back to joy,
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brought me above the circumstances. And so I became a
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sag actor. I've done over fifty movies. I loved it.
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I do it whenever I can. That's a little bit
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more of a side project for me. Now, I wrote
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a book, which you were so gracious to give me
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one of the Book Awards for so thank you so
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much for that. It's called The Real Brass Ring. Oh
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my god. It was such a joy, and I captured
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what I called the shortcuts for happy living. And those
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shortcuts really because I came from business and everybody's like,
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just cut to the chase, tell me what I need
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to know. And these shortcuts are what helped me recraft
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my entire life. They're fundamentals. If you live by them,
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they make your life peel away what's not real and
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then they bring back to you what is authentic and joyful.
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And so I wrote the book toward the country, and
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so I did the actor, wrote the book, became the author,
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and then I was teaching, and I taught all over
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the country. I was in most states at most events.
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Still love it, still do The Natural Living Expo will
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be doing that in November, and it's just my greatest
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joy in the world to have a room full of
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people who can walk away knowing how to begin to
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transform their lives and manifest in according to their own
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authentic self. And then and then what happened is I moved.
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I ended the relationship amicably and found a new relationship.
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And the children phenomenally love my children, They're the best
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in the whole world. What can I say. I'm just
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so joyful and so so gratus. I'm so so happy
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that I have such wonderful children. And then that relationship
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ended so quickly, and I moved to Massachusetts because I
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wanted to be by the water, and so the story
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kept evolving. So the book takes you to the time
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that I moved, and the next book will pick up
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where I left off. But things did not go on
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a straight trajectory. They're the biggest zigs you could ever
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imagine in your life. That relationship ended abruptly. He decided
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he wanted to have children. I had already had three
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grown children. That wasn't going to be something that I
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was going to be a part of or could be,
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even if I wanted to. And so that just abruptly ended.
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So I had to start over again and pull myself
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out of a huge hole, put my son through college,
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and start over. And now the newest chapter, which I'm
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so excited about, is I'm reverse engineering everything I've been
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a coach for ten years, I've helped people with transformation.
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I do a Kashak record readings and now I'm adding
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in becoming a licensed therapist. So I'm adding all the
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pieces together to help people identify what and how they
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are truly stuck in their patterns and triggers and how
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to remove them and what I hope is permanently so
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those are no longer factors in your life. It would
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be my greatest joy if we could all do our
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little menu of what has a stuck, what is making
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us unhappy, how are we pulling in these toxic relationships,
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and what do we really need to do to move forward?
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Because at the end of the day, we're living from
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lack in many areas and that is not something that
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is healthy or good for us. And this life is
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about identifying your lack, breaking free and getting exactly what
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you want and deserve. And it's just a process. It's
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a tricky process. It doesn't have to be a long process,
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but it can be the most successful process of your life.
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I always love love reinvention stories.
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You know my story because I've reinvented myself and danced
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in the darkness for the first thirty years of my life.
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So I just love when women share their journeys as
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you just did, with such vulnerability and authenticity, because many times,
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as you know, Diane, women walked around thinking, I can't
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I can't have these thoughts, I can't believe this is
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possible for me because they have so much damn self judgment.
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But when women share their stories, they're like, oh, I'm
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not the only one that feels like she's not living
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her true self, you know, living as her true self.
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So thank you for sharing that. Now we're gonna we
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have a few moments before our first break, and I
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really want to talk about because you mentioned Akashak records.
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So in the time we have for this segment and
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we will come back for the second segment and dive deeper,
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just explain what the Akashak records are for those who
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have never heard of it, or maybe not haven't experienced it.
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Well. I really appreciate you bringing that up because I
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have been and probably as many women, most women, if
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not all, are very intuitive, and I was always having
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abilities to hear messages and feel things. It's truly empathic,
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and I didn't really have a container to put it in,
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so I actually studied with Linda Howe, who wrote How
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to Read the Akashak Records, phenomenal book. I love Linda,
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she is an amazing person and I went to her
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class and just found that it offered a structure for
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me that allowed me to be able to take all
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these gifts and put them in a kind of like
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an understanding. So what the Kashak Records are, in my view,
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is that we all came here with a book of life.
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Before we even entered into our journey here on this world,
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we wrote down I want to meet this person, I'd
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like to have these encounters. This is my skills, this
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is how it's going to support my purpose. These are
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my challenges, and these are my toxic relationships perhaps that
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I need to get through heels so we can put
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karmas away. And so before you jump into this world,
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you write all this stuff down and then you come
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in and we forget everything. We have really no actual
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recollection of what it is we agreed to do or
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didn't do. So when we go into the Acashak Records,
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that is your book of life. It is the story
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that you wanted to have here. And sometimes we're spot
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on and where we tracked along. And I always admire
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people who had like one career and that was their
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greatest gift. And there they're an accountant from you know,
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twenties to sixties and they loved it. That was my dad.
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He was phenomenal with numbers and he never had any
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issues with his work track or his career track. And
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then there's others who are like, I really really wish that,
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you know, I could find my person, and they're on
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you know, they're they're in their sixties and they're still
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looking for their person. Well, all of those might have
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been something that either you wrote down that you wanted
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to have multiple experiences before you found your person, or
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perhaps you're not getting your message, which is you get
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what you believe you deserve. It's just the way it is.
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And Linda, I know you know this. When they deserve,
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we deserve love and care and attention and being treated
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like the goddesses that we are. That's what you pull in.
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But if you're willing and you're not getting it to
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accept someone who's giving you bits and pieces, dribs and drabs,
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comes and goes, that's exactly what you're getting. So the
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ACACIC records tells you. And what I see when I
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go into them is your guides come in and they say, hey,
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this is going great. Love the fact like I lost
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seventy pounds and I've never put it back on. I
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still struggle with the ruminations almost every day, but I
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found a way to manage it. So the team, your team,
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your guides come in and go, hey, you know what,
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You're going to be able to lose this and you're
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going to be able to maintain it because you found
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what it means to have your hunger switch. When the
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hunger switch is on, I'm hungry, and when I hunger
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switches off, I don't eat. It's kind of simple for me.
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For others it can be very complicated. But they come
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in and they're saying, you're doing great on this, you
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really need to work on that. Or they kind of
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ring the bell, which I love, and they'll say, you
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know what, if you don't move this cheese, move this
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piece of cheese, you're going to be going down a
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dark road. And recently I had a client where it's
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we've talked about several things, and we've talked about it
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from the Acashak records, and the team actually said and
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wrote sometimes I see words, sometimes mostly I hear, but
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wrote the word danger down and I said, wow, I'm
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just telling you d A n g e R d
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A ng r. I just see this for you, and
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and we knew what it was about, but the person
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just said, I'm going to flatly let that happen. And
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I said, that's yours. That's up to you. You got
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to own that. If you want to go into a
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zone that's considered dangerous and your team is telling you
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that you can, you are welcome to have it. But
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I'm just telling you this summer might end up having
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a really rough, rocky experience and that's powerful.
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Well, we got to go to break, but this is
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powerful because we all have this information waving for us.
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We just don't know how to access it right. So
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it's there, so to me, it's like a soul map
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to our life. So we're going to take a first
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break and we will be back in a moment.
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I'm with Diane James.
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Welcome back, you're listening to inspired conversations. I'm with Diane James,
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transformational intuitive counselor and holistic life coach. So the Kashik Records,
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as you said, just beautifully described, like in my energy
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feel it's like this giant web, Like that's how I
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see it anyway, giant, I don't know, almost like a
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spider web.
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But it's all.
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Like like it's a life experience. Past and present are
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all in there. I'm just waiting for us to access it.
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Do you see it in that way? Like this giant
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interconnected web really shimmrie And that's how I.
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Feel it is.
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You know, that's such an interesting thing, the amazing part
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of the Akasha Records. I think we all have a
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slightly different interpretation, just as you know, it's probably very individualized.
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And that's where when first studying it, I saw and
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it's this beautiful room and it's hard to describe it. It
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almost looks like cathedral, like you're inside a cathedral. The
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walls are sparkly and beautiful and gold type of gold
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and silver kind of colors, and there's this table, and
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on the table is this it's gorgeous table is a
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book literally a book, and the book is something that
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when clients work with me, I see how they approach
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their book, If they approach their book, how they feel
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in the room, what their shape is in the room,
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their size in the room. And then all their guides
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walk in, and I can see how many guides are there,
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and I can hear the guides. Sometimes the guides are
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like look like individual form. Sometimes they look kind of amorphous.
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Sometimes they're larger than the person, which usually means that
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individual if the if the guides are in the room
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and the person is very small, I was like to say,
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like a shrinky dink. That means that the person thinks
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that the guides are more important, are bigger than they are.
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That is not accurate. The guides want you to understand
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that we're all the same. We are all of the
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same energy, we are all of the same love, and
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we're all the same size. In our importance and our
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desires and our interests, everything is all one and so
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usually over the course, if someone starts really small in
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the room, by the time we're having our conversation, which
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typically goes on for at least an hour, the person
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starts to build their own size up within the room,
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and then I can see Sometimes clients come in and
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if they're on their knees, sometimes they're in a completely
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folded over position, heads down, hands crossed on their knees.
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Obviously that person is in pain. Look, they're in despair,
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they're you know, they're heartbroken in some cases. And then
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the guides immediately rush in and they start to put
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I mean it's even hard to say it. They put
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their hands on this person, and I can see it
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and feel it in person. Typically can be very emotional,
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and they're coming in and they're saying, look, we've got
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this together, whatever it is, we can work through this together.
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And they give information, but they also support you emotionally
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while you're in there. So mine is a little different.
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And this is where in originally doing this work. This
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room has just stuck with me, and so you know,
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I think every person probably does it differently, but that's
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how mine come in. So I love to say, you know,
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it's not me, it's them. I'm just I can just
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hear and feel and see, and I'm telling you exactly
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what they're saying. And I'll be honest with you, Linda.
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Sometimes they say things people don't want to hear, okay.
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But the one thing they are, and at least I've
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found for my clients, is they seem to be incredibly
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accurate with timetables, with windows of time with clear direction.
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For example, you know, I had this one client who
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was with who was in a let's just say, a
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toxic relationship and was very emotional and very upset about it.
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And the guide said, look, you have six months. You
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need to stop this, and you have six months in
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which you're going to do individual personal light building. You
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need to get your light on, you need to feel
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good about yourself, you need to clear that person's stuff
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out of your home, out of your heart, out of everything.
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And so she came back and she saw me like
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the year later, because the next message was next year,
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you got this four month window and someone's gonna walk
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straight in. There's nothing you need to do except be
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yourself and be out and be friendly and have the
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light on. And she over this person to me when
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I saw her like six months after that, and she's like,
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I met him, I met my person. This is exactly
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exactly what was shared with me. And because I had
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she's like, I am so proud of myself that I
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had the strength and the resilience to actually walk away
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from something that was not working. And this is the
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hard part, Linda in trust, trust that somebody else was
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going to come in that was going to be my match.
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And so and I, you know, got to meet this person.
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She was thrilled, thrilled beyond belief. Her smile was ear
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to ear. The two of them look so happy together,
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and he was. She was also found somebody who was
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more into you know, this our metaphysical world, who was
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into spirituality, who was into growth and personal development. We're
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the person person the previous person had not. So that
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was all just you know, beautifully reinforcing that your guides
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are there for you, they have this information for you.
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It's all there to help you. And like as you'd
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mentioned to me, this is like I not have a
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life review. Well, you're healthy and young and have decades
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ahead of you to fulfill it. Because I've always said
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the one thing that I've always seen is when we
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do pass, and I know many people from you know,
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studying and near death experiences and ease as they call it,
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you get to greet someone on the other side and
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I guessing that they're just going to say, how did
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you do? How'd it go for you? And you want
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to say, when I get over there, look.
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I nailed it.
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If I got to be an actor, I love that.
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I you know, I raised my kids, I gave everything
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to make sure they're healthy, happy human beings, worked on
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my traumas, worked on my patterns, and eventually all the
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check marks were there on you know, like I just
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moved to a new town. I love my new town.
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I just got a boat. I love my boat. Whatever
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it is, the word love is attached to it. And
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that's where I think we get a high five. On
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the other side, and Saint Peter or your grandmother, whoever
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meets you, lets you in and they're like, law exalted, right,
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you know, you did an amazing job in a tough world.
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And that's that's what I think we're trying to do.
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We're trying to get that information now, not when it's
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so late that you know, not when you can't do
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anything about it, or not when you're not well, or
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you know, you do it now and then then allow
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us to work through it together. And that's that's the
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that's the best part. And you know this, London, because
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you have an amazing team. But you know we I
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wish we had it. I wish somebody gave us a book.
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I wish I was like, here, here, finally, five year
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old Na, here's your book. This is what you're gonna.
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Here's a journey. Here's the things that you're meant to do.
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I mean, I think we only have. But what's what's
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beautiful too, is.
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On all of our personal journeys is we get the
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power of choice. Like that moment of awareness for me
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when I have spiritual awaken in two thousand and nine,
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was we think that our thoughts in our past experiences.
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Are our truth.
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And on that day I just I heard the words
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it's you have the power to choose the lens you
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view life with. You can look at the victimhood energy
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of your past from all the lived experiences, or you
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can choose a new path. And what I'm here and
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I did and what all roses and butterflies, because I
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still had to learn awareness, learn how to navigate from
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this new lens, but it completely changed the trajectory of
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my life. So what I say to what you just
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said was we all have that power to change the lens.
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In a Kashak records. In working with that, what I
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heard is Heydland, here's.
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A little bit of a map.
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This is what you were here for. And then you
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get to choose what you're going to follow. And so
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many don't want to choose. They just want to stay.
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This is more comfortable. I'll just stay right where I am.
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That's what breaks my heart with women. They stay in
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the patterns when they so hard, when they can choose
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a new path. And so I like to bring guests
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like you, and even in my own personal work, just
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to have conversations to say, you get you have so
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many choices you could make other than the story you're
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telling yourself.
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I can give you a quick example I have.
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Yeah, we have another minute before the next break.
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Client worked with her for years and the guide said,
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you need to get your education in order to free
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yourself from financial burden and and and not create toxic
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relationships to support yourself. And came back the next time,
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same thing, You need to get your education. And the
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person was working on it a little bit, just a
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little bit, all of a sudden came back like the
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fourth time, and and the message was really strong. And
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sometimes they're sometimes they're kind of in your in your
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space a little bit going, Hey, we told you three
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times that this is really important for you to change
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your life, and you won't have these worries and concerns
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once you do this. So this person got serious. They
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went back to school full time, lived with their parents,
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didn't love all that change, changed everything, focused and got
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the degree. Next thing, you know, the person's making really
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good wages, loves her career the whole thing. So we
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can choose. Like you said, Linda, you can choose when
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you want to get your lesson, and you can choose.
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I always say willing and able. She was able, but unwilling.
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And when she was fine willing, that's when she got it.
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That's when she got the real brass ring is the
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name of the book. But that's when she went for
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the real brass ring. Despite the difficulty and the pain
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of having to live in an uncomfortable situation for about
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twelve months, it all worked out when you're willing to,
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you know, I call it heads down. I've had to
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be in heads down. I can't even tell you how
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many times. Heads down focus get what you need to
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get accomplished. Accomplished and not fun. But ninety nine point
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nine percent of the time works out in your best interest.
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I have found that to be true myself. Every when
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I look back at my life, Oh my, what I
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would have called at the time down to my knee
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moments were really my greatest breakthroughs. So I no longer
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I have such trust in surrender in my heart because
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I'm like, girl, look at all the stuff you already
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lived through. This little thing in front of you right
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now is nothing, girl, because you already showed what you
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can do. So we're going to take our next break again,
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and when Diane James stay tuned, we're going to talk
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more about why people feel stock.
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Even when they know, as that client, there is a
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better way to live. Will be back in a moment, my.
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You're listening to inspired conversations. Thank you for joining me
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and Diane James for this conversation. So it's so funny
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because you just mentioned that in the previous segment about
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that woman who I love the word, you said she
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was able but not unwilling. Do you feel that's one
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of the layers that keeps so many people feeling stuck
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because intellectually.
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They know there's a better way, But what.
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Is it energetically on mindset wise stopping them from making
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the more supportive decision.
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That is my favorite question of all times. And yes,
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I do believe, and I've found in almost all cases,
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ask yourself, am I willing and am I able? Because
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they're too complete. They can be two completely different things.
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And so it's the unwilling that let's look at that
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for a second. Unable sometimes you may not have a
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physical strength, or there's actually a real live situation that
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is challenging and you can't do it sometimes at least now.
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But it's the willing part that gets me. So the
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willing is the part that I love to say comes
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in three buckets, usually based as you know, Inda, in
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the position of lack right. So we have patterns and
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our subconscious is based on patterns of protection of ourselves.
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Part of my work now and my specialty now is
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going to become removing trauma. And I'm not talking just
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massive or significant trauma. I'm talking they call it our
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they tell it tiny teas. So the tiny tea traumas,
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which is what I had at a really tough upbringing,
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and I write all it's all in the book of
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really never being seen, heard and being moved all over
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the country like a piece of luggage. Okay, so that's
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my trauma, right, never important, never significant enough to be chosen.
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And those small teas over time can equal more than
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a big tea. For example, someone had an accident or
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had abuse or something like that. These traumas are there
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trying to protect you as you're subconscious, and that subconscious
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unfortunately does not serve your best interest long term or
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as we said, getting back to your life review, oftentimes
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it keeps you small, It keeps you stuck, it keeps
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you afraid, anxious, depressed. All of those feelings tie it
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to a trauma. I guarantee, I don't care if it's
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a tiny tea, a big tea, or a massive tea.
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And all of those things is where we get stuck.
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So what happens is in a quick nutshell is there's
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three buckets of lack. You can either lack something about yourself,
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meaning for me, let's just say it was I'm not
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worthy of being chosen. That could be one of them
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or another person. There's never gonna be anybody who loves me,
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or for another person, I'm just never going to be successful.
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This is just never going to work out. Whatever it is.
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You made a decision based on a trauma, completely untrue,
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but you made a decision. Then there's a second category.
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Second category is lack of understanding or working with others
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and or being judged by others. So others could be
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those people are gonna judge me, They're not gonna like me,
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they're going to kick me to the curb and that
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and also create lack in the form of really not
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having successful relationships or being a people pleaser. I did
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everything for them, but you never get anything back. You
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just served to keep that lack at bay. But you're
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a people pleaser and you're miserable on the inside. Okay,
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not good. Third category and Linda, you just brought this up.
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Lack in the area of the universe, lack a lot
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of times that looks at looks like trust, And I'll
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be really honest, I struggle in this category. I've had
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so many things happen to me that were tough, really tough,
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that I've had to pull myself out of so many holes,
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big holes, small holes, medium holes, that it's sometimes has
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been my challenge to trust that the next window is
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going to look better. It really has been challenging for me.
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So I'm still working on that one, and it's getting better,
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but I'm still working on it. And so it sounds
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like you have won that trust category, But what that
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means from a lack perspective is there won't be anybody
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else there for me. I'm not going to get a
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better job. There's no way I'm going to be you know,
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get enough financial support to find my great home or
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whatever it might be. Area of passion. All of those
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things fall in the third category. Well, all of those
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are based on these wonderful little traumas that happened to
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us growing up because we were kids. And when you're
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a child, authority figures did not know a fault of
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their own, but did not meet your basic needs. In
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many ways they tried, but they were dealing with other
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things and they just couldn't meet the needs of this child.
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So this child has a trauma. Child makes a decision
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on the trauma. And that's what I want to develop,
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you know, for the rest of my life. I want
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to work on helping us get rid of that. When
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you get rid of that lack, you get get rid
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of that issue, you get rid of that thought, and
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it's called you know, it's obviously a distorted cognition when
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you get rid of that cognition. And this is what
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I specialize in, which is tapping. I've used a lot
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of tapping to do this. I'm also now being trained
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in EMDR. There's one hundred different acronyms, but DBT, CBT,
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ACT and all of those things will remove that trauma
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and that messaging for good. So another example, So I
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have a client you know who was just could not
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wasn't didn't feel safe at work, felt like nobody liked her,
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she was being judged, her clients hated her, her boss
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hated her. Came in and we worked on through tapping
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a te multiple t's that happened growing up where she
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was really ostracized in school and was picked on and
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told she was no good, and she was I'm gonna
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air quote you can't see it, but air quote stupid, right.
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And so this client we went in and we got
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that I am stupid message out of her emotional core.
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We tapped on it. It took about an hour and
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a half. We worked on it, very little emotional, maybe
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a little emotional at the beginning, but it became a
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really clear cognition that her humiliation in really early kindergarten
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in grade school created this message that was untrue and unfounded.
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And she called me like. She called me probably about
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four weeks later, and she'say, like, I want to know, like,
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what did you do to me? And I'm like, oh
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my god, what do you mean. I tapped on your
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I tapped on you. We worked on your drama. And
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she goes, no, Like, my boss just said, I'm the
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best employee ever had. This girl who has ignored me
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at work forever just invited me to go get coffee
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with her. She has my clients. She was in customer service,
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which is a tough job. They're they're like, I just
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don't care. They're complaining and yelling and saying things. But
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she said, I don't. I don't, I don't. I'm not
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attached to it anymore. I'm just handling my job though
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i'm supposed to, and I'm getting a raise. And I said, well,
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look what happens when you get rid of these erroneous
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messages that we have stored away in the emotional core.
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I call them thorns. There's little thorns. Well, look what
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happens when you flatten it out. Nothing sticks to it anymore.
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And that's what's happened to you. And since then I've
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stayed in touch with her. She's had this like amazing career,
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is doing phenomenally well, got into tech, got way out
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of you know, got way out of being just a
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customer service provider, and has become a specialist in her
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own field, and feels the same way, not too super
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attached to the outcome. Does her work hard, but never
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it doesn't impact her emotionally anymore when things aren't perfect
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at work, where before she would have been devastated and
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crying and really upset because it just reinforced a wrong message.
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And so that's just one example. When you get rid
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of the thorns, it goes smooth. And what happens is
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it just need to become I love it, teflon right,
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teflon pleasure, teflon happiness where you're like, it's okay, that
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didn't go right today, it'll go better tomorrow, and she
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believes it, so it never. It just has given her
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a tremendous joy and tremendous career satisfaction.
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You just mentioned about me and trust and felt like
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I have that, But my title is recovering micromanager of
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the divine aka control freak right, and that used to
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come from my wounds, as you were just saying, like
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I couldn't figure out why I needed to feel control
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And that was all small tea in quite a.
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Bit of big tea. So my question is, as those
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I like how you said that.
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The thorns and all that are smoothed out, do you
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find that people open themselves to trust in surrender more
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to life instead of going it's if it's not going
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my way, then everything's wrong. But the truth is sometimes
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our path is being cleared and we have a one
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minute before we go to the next break. But does
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trust in surrender become easier for people once they clear
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those thorns.
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Once they clear the thorns? Yes, from my personal experience,
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the trust might be the biggest well for some people.
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For some people, trust is the hardest because it really
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involves believing that your future is going to be better.
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You know, you have to have a tremendous hope, but
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you also have to believe your future is going to
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be better than today. And we have a tough world here.
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You know, we won't even talk about it, but you know,
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economy and politics and tough things happen. People fall down,
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we get injured. You know, we're maturing. I mean, there's
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an aging and all those things, and it's tough. So
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I would say once the thorn is removed, though, and
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this is where the blessing comes in, and your team
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will do this. If you're not getting it after a while,
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they're going to remove for you. And that's kind of
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the beauty of the whole thing. Your team wants you
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to be on track, they want you to be following
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your script, and if you're not. Sometimes I think we've
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all had this. Okay, the job just your boss came
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in and fired you, boom, but it was the biggest
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blessing of your life. Or I had a twelve year
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relationship walk out on me. One day saying I'm not
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staying here anymore. Gone, And yeah, was that probably the
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most devastating thing that's happened to me in my life? Yes,
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But what happened after is I pulled myself. It took
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two years. I pulled myself out of a hole and
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became so strong and financially secure and everything that. And
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it wasn't fun and it wasn't pretty, and there were
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a lot of tears. But at the end of the day,
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I don't know if I'm more proud of anything in
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my whole life. And no one gets to take that away.
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You know, I pulled myself out of another crater and
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here we are, and here we are, here we are
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having this conversation about how everyone can do this and
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it can be beautiful.
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It's so true.
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That's what these ten years that I've been doing the
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Inspired Conversation show, it's about conversations with women, and yes,
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we're talking about the sacred gifts and what they offered
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to the world, but it's really a sacred reminder that listen,
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we can all rise from the ashes of life, right,
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but you have to believe in trust. And I think
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I've gone through so much in my life that like
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my trust. Now let me cla before I jump over
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to the final break. I have such a strong sense
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of trust and surrender and when life gets lifey my
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favorite saying, I also have tools to go, oh Lynn, this,
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this big thing is setting off that old little thread
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that still exists there and I can reach. I can
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shift very quickly compared to thirty years ago. So I
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do trust, and I still have moments of what the hell.
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So I'll be back in a moment.
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We are here for a final coming up for a
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final segment, I am with Diane James, Transformational Intuitive Council
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Holistic Life Coach, and I invite you to learn more
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Welcome back.
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You're listening to inspired conversations. So Diane, we just covered
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a lot, so let's talk with you a final segment,
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what are some of the best techniques for healing the
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deep wounds that have really stolen the show in someone's life.
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Well, one of the things that I've found to be
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so incredibly helpful is to allow yourself. I call it
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leap frog. Allow yourself. If you have an issue, let's
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say an issue is in present day, allow yourself to
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leap frog back to the very first time you had
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and we could say experience, and some people can't remember that,
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So go with the feelings. When is the first time, Well,
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I'll just use my example, when is the first time
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I felt not chosen? And allow yourself. And it's usually
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best if this is really done with another person who
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can help guide you, but you can also do it
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on your own and just say, hey, I was mine five.
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I was five years old. We were told we were
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moving to Arizona. I wasn't even going to get to
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finish kindergarten. Had all these wonderful little girlfriends, and I
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even had like I thought it was my first crush.
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I was like, it's so happy and we're leaving. You're leaving,
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So what happened in that moment? Is it triggered this
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you know being a victim. It triggered not being cared for,
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not being considered, and that feeling of kind of just
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an internal twisting. Where is it? What does it feel like?
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Mine's kind of solar plexus. The first time that came
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up is the very place we go, and the younger
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the better, because what happens is that because we have
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that trigger and that pattern, it loves to recreate itself.
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So let's just say the next time we moved, and
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then we moved again, and then we moved again. So
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by the time I start to pull in adult relationships,
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they're doing the exact same thing. I don't need to
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stay here, we can do something different. You're not important
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to me. How you feel it doesn't matter. And I
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could leap frog all the way back to being five
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years old when that started. And what happens is, because
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we have these erroneous messages, we lower our issue, we
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lower our ask, is what I'll put it. I didn't
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ask for these new relationships to treat me well. I
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didn't ask for them to consider me. I didn't ask
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for them to put me first because I didn't think
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I here we go deserved it right. And that started
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at five so on first thing you do is go
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back to the beginning, go back to the first time
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you had this kind of sick feeling, twisted, feeling, hurt, pain,
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whatever it is, and really let yourself journal. If you're
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by yourself, journal when is the vast, very first time
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you felt that. And then this is always the part
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that kind of ties in with Linda. Your expertise is
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the storytelling how many times has that repeated itself in
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your life? And I'm pretty much guarantee you it's well
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over sometimes five, sometimes ten times, it could be twenty
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two in your life. And it's just because your core
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wound wants to make itself real, It wants to make
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it self, it wants to authenticate itself, and so you
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prove it to yourself. This guy didn't treat me right,
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this friend walked out on me, this person told lie
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about me. Whatever it might be that has happened in
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your life, it's the same core wound. So track it,
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track it back, but try to do it without the emotion.
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That's the important part, especially if you're by yourself. You
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don't want to get all triggered. And so when you
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track it back, just journal what happened how often. And
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I hate to say it, sometimes it's when I see
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my client's eyes become like as big as saucers, be like, wow,
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you literally have been leapfrogging this since five or four
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or three or two, And they kind of their eyes
905
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get big, but not in a bad way, in a
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good way. They're like, that's like, that's incredible. How have
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I done that? That's not what I wanted. I'm like, exactly,
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that's the opposite. So the first thing we do is
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we idy when it started. We identify the circumstances without
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getting into the emotional aspect of it, and just record
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it for yourself. And that's a good place to start.
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And then the second tool is and this is where
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it's really you need to look at your deservability, what
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came across in that message, and just write this down
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for yourself. So I don't deserve to be first. I
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don't deserve to you know, I have to relegate myself
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to second or in some cases, honestly, I'm going to
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say I think I'm fifth below the dog. Okay, I
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mean some cases I've got relationships like I don't even
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know what number I play in ranking here, but it's
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really low. I'm after the guinea pig, I'm after the dog.
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I don't know, and I dealt with that. I kept
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that relationship for a year. It's like you know whoah,
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wake up. So anyway, so you go back and say, well,
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what deservability aspect was not being considered right now? And
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you get to just write that down. I didn't deserve
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to be somebody's goddess. I didn't deserve to get somebody
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to support me. I did whatever it might be, whatever
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it might be, and then just again write it down.
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Be aware, because what this does is this really is
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your toolkit. This is your toolkit for moving forward. And
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once you know what it is, then you kind of
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go back to the erroneous message. So what did you
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say yourself? Say to yourself. It's funny when I say
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this to clients, they'll be like, I don't know, and
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then all of a sudden, usually a cognition pops in
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a message. It's not a healthy message, but it was
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an unhealthy message tied to the event, tied to the issue.
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And that one client, as I had mentioned, she said
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here it is stupid, and she said, because this guy
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handed her something the right answer in school, and he
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goes here, it is stupid, and that message became part
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of her DNA. So ask yourself, what is the message?
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What message am I carrying around? We know it's wrong
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and it may sound even silly, but that's the message
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you're walking around with, all right. So after this, you
947
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get there and you have someone work with you and
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work with friends, work with a counselor work with Linda,
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work with me, with somebody, and we can get rid
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of that. We can get rid of all of that
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with our tapping, with all these amazing tools.
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And I love it because I think sometimes we feel
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trapped where we are, and you just said, like identify deservability, etc.
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There are tools of ladies called Diane to help you
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move through and release all this trauma. And so I
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got to say, this was such a deep dive conversation
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and I know some of you are going to want
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to continue that. So Diane double in dot net Diane
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dot net, check out the Akasha Grecting services, coaching services,
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grab a copy of her book, but stay connected with
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her also on social media too, because I was blessed
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to have Diane as a speaker at my recent Inspired
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Life event and I'm going to tell you she's magical.
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And we met again at the Natural Living Expo previous
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to that, So I think we all need support. These
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is my friend, all of us. Right when you stop
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thinking you can do it alone, but you find yourself
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six months from now in the same exact spot.
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Let it go, girls, Oh I say this.
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My most healing moment was when I stopped wearing the
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Superwoman cape, telling myself I can do it alone. I
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don't need any help. I live in the feminine. Now
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is this Let's put our hands out. Help is all
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around us, but you have to be deserveability and receiving.
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We have to heal those wounds. So Diane, I gotta
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tell you we could go on because this is such
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deep work and it is so needed. So thank you
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for joining me.
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I am so my pleasure. Thank you so much, London.
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I'm so glad we could connect. This has been such
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a treat and such a gift.
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Well, I think it's a message that so many of
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us need right now because many a feeling stuck. So again,
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visit Diane at diane dot net. As always, under the
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whatever platform you're on, all the links will be done.
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And until next time, my friends, Choose love, Choose joy,
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truse happiness.
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Blessings everyone.
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