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Well there, hello everyone, and welcome to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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It is Monday, it is October 5th, and
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welcome to the show.
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It's so great to have you here.
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If this is your very first time here,
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I want to take the opportunity to say
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welcome.
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Of course, I want to say the words
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thank you to you.
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I really do appreciate you for being here.
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If you've been here one time, five times,
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ten, a hundred, a million, maybe more, maybe
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not a million, but many more than a
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hundred or a thousand, I'd like to say
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thank you.
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But I'd also like to say the important
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words welcome, welcome, and of course the words
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welcome back.
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It always means something when people really enjoy,
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you know, content and the quality that I'm
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producing here.
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So great to have you here on the
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show with me.
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If you're thirsty, if you're hungry, feel free
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to go grab yourself something.
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I have an RO water here with fresh
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lemon.
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Yeah, so let's dive in, shall we?
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All right.
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Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com, guys,
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at the end of the show.
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So welcome everyone, once I said, to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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And I'm so grateful to have you guys
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here.
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It's really great to have everybody here and
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that you're wanting to enjoy the show with
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me.
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In case you guys did not know, I'm
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your host.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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I am an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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So today I'm continuing our series, Momentum Changes
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Everything.
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With small wins, change everything.
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Okay?
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A lot of people think confidence has to
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come first.
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They think they need to feel confident before
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they act.
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But confidence often works in the opposite direction.
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You act, you create, and that's evidence.
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And that evidence begins changing what you believe
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about yourself.
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So let's get in the show.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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It's going to be another great show.
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Number one, confidence grows when you collect.
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Confidence grows when you collect.
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Confidence isn't built by repeatedly telling yourself you're
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amazing.
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It grows when you have experiences that say,
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I did it.
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Every complete action gives you another reason to,
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then again, guys, trust yourself.
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And I think that's a real important one
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for us to understand, that we need to
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trust ourselves.
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Sometimes it's hard for us to do things
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in life.
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But when we trust ourselves, life becomes just
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a little bit easier.
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Right?
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A little bit easier.
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And I think that's a very important one
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for us to realize.
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Number two, small wins.
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Yeah, small wins give your brain proof of
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progress.
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Your brain needs something concrete.
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Well, small wins says, you're not standing still.
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You move something forward.
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And that proof can make the next steps
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easier for us.
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Now, I know sometimes it's hard because we're
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like, well, this isn't going the way I
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I get it, right?
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I get that.
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And I think once you've gone through things,
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you've had some challenges, you're like, wait a
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This isn't as hard as it actually seems,
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right?
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It's not as hard as it actually seems.
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That's probably the biggest thing that I can
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tell you.
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Number three, stop dismissing progress because it looks
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ordinary.
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Number three, stop diminishing progress because it looks
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ordinary.
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We often ignore progress because it isn't dramatic
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enough.
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But ordinary progress is still progress.
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The email sent, the workout completed, the phone
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call that you made, the progress you started
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for the project, the page that was written.
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And yeah, the email or the letter that
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you did all counts.
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But I think sometimes we're hard on ourselves.
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We've got this perfectionist streak.
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for a lot of people, why that happens.
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Number four, guys, number four is a really,
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really good one.
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And that is completing something matters.
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There's power in finishing.
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Completion closes a loop.
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And reminds you that you can take something
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from intention to action.
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That matters more than we sometimes even realize.
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Number five, make your first daily win achievable.
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Don't begin every morning by demanding something enormous
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from yourself.
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Choose one meaningful win you can realistically achieve.
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Give yourself an opportunity to create momentum early.
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Don't do it later.
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Because if you do it later, you'll be
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like, you know what, I don't really believe
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in myself.
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I don't know that I really can do
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this.
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But you know what?
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You really can do the things.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, they miss out on life.
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They don't realize that they can do things.
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And that can do is something that a
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lot of people say to me, hey, John,
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where's this coming from?
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Or how am I embracing this?
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I think that comes down to us saying
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there's a lot we can do in life.
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There's a very lot we can do in
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life.
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Number six, finish small tasks.
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Can unlock larger ones.
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I've often said that when we do something
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and it requires some effort, that's preparing us
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for an even bigger accomplishment.
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A reward.
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One completed task changes your state.
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Suddenly the next thing doesn't seem quite as
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intimidating.
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Small, right?
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Doesn't seem small at all.
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And that small action can become a doorway
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to much larger actions in the future.
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But I know what you're saying.
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I know you're saying, hey, John, you don't
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understand my life or what's going on.
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I get it.
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Number seven, progress creates emotional energy.
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Does that make sense to you?
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Hopefully it does.
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And hopefully that means something to why you're
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thinking about something a certain way.
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I think that's a really key point.
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So, number seven, progress creates emotional energy.
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But how does it do that?
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How does it do that?
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I think that's a very important thing.
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A very important thing.
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And these are things that I think a
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lot of us need to realize.
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I'm just asking.
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Right?
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Maybe you're saying, John, I don't get it.
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But I want to tell you that you
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can get it if you really believe.
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So, movement changes how you feel.
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When you see yourself progressing, you often gain
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energy instead of losing it.
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That emotional lift can help you carry it
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forward.
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It can help you be more proportionate in
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life.
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That's important, guys.
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Very important.
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And maybe it means something to you, but
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maybe it doesn't.
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I think that's important.
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Right?
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It's very important to understand that.
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Maybe to you it doesn't mean that.
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But it really does.
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That's important.
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That's a very important thing.
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So what I want to say about that
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is number eight.
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Track what you complete instead of only what
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remains.
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If you only stare at what remains, unfinished,
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you can convince yourself if you accomplish nothing.
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Look backward occasionally.
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Notice what you actually completed.
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Number nine.
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Celebrate movement without becoming, well, without becoming complacent.
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I think that's hard for a lot of
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people to understand what that means.
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Complacent is a word I think sometimes that
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we shove under the rug.
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But it's something I believe that a lot
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of us need to understand.
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Number nine.
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Celebrate movement without becoming complacent.
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And giving yourself credit doesn't mean you stop
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growing.
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Recognize the win.
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Appreciate it.
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And then use that energy to continue.
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Celebration and ambition can coexist together.
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Number ten.
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One successful action can challenge an old belief
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about yourself.
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Maybe you've told yourself, I never finish anything.
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Then you finish something.
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That one action becomes evidence against an old
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story you've been carrying.
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I think sometimes, you know, we get stuck
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in these dull dreams of saying, hey, what
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am I doing?
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Or why am I doing it this way?
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And it's not to scare you.
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But it's just to say, wait a minute.
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Are we doing the right thing?
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Am I on track with my life?
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I think these are the questions that we
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want to be asking ourselves.
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Number 11, guys, I think is a very,
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a very, very important one.
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And that is confidence is strengthened through experience.
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Confidence isn't merely an idea.
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It's something you develop through doing.
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Experience gives you memories of handling situations, solving
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problems, and moving forward.
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Right?
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Number 12.
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Build promises to yourself that you actually keep.
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You might have heard the word make promises
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to yourself, but I'm saying build.
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I think build is more important.
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Stop making enormous promises you repeatedly break.
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Start smaller.
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Make commitments that challenge you but are realistic
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enough for you to honor.
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Every kept promise adds evidence.
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When you tell yourself you do something and
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then do it, you strengthen self-trust.
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Each kept promise becomes another piece of evidence
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about who you are becoming.
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Number 14.
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Create wins before demanding breakthroughs.
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Breakthroughs are exciting, but they're not the only
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form of success.
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Build smaller wins first and they create the
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foundation that makes larger breakthroughs possible.
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Number 15.
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Stop comparing your beginning with somebody else's highlight.
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You're seeing someone else's polished results while living
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through your own beginning That comparison is unfair
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for a lot of people.
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Stay focused on your own path and progress
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at your own level at your own pace
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and speed.
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Number 16.
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Measure progress against where you started.
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I think that's one that requires some explanation.
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Ask yourself a better question or questions.
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Am I further ahead than I was before?
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Or am I further behind?
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That comparison gives you information you can actually
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use.
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Is what am I doing right now is
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it helping in doing something for the greater
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good of all concerned?
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Or no.
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Number 17.
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Tiny improvements compound.
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A tiny improvement may feel insignificant today.
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Repeat it over weeks, months, and years.
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Those improvements can create enormous differences.
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Small doesn't mean powerless.
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18.
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Consistency makes ordinary actions powerful.
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An ordinary action performed once might not change
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much.
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Perform it consistently.
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Its impact multiplies.
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Consistency turns simple behaviors into momentum.
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That's something a lot of people miss in
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life.
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Why?
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Because people are racing to get to the
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end and they don't take the time to
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understand what's going on in their life.
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I think that's probably one of the biggest
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things that I can actually tell you.
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Number 19.
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A difficult day can still contain a win.
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Not every day will be productive or easy.
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On a difficult day, you win and you
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may simply be doing the one thing that
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mattered most.
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That still counts.
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Number 20.
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Define what winning means before the day actually
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begins.
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If you never define success, you can accomplish
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plenty and still feel behind.
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Decide what a meaningful win looks like before
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the day even starts.
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21.
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Give yourself credit for meaningful efforts.
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I think that's an important one guys.
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A very important one.
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Meaningful efforts.
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Results matter, but meaningful effort matters too.
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Sometimes you do everything correctly and the result,
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well, unfortunately guys, it takes longer to actually
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accomplish and I think that frustrates some people.
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That it takes longer.
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Recognize the work you're putting into and being
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able to move forward.
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That's really powerful.
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Number 22.
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Use yesterday's progress as today's starting point.
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You don't have to restart from zero guys
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every morning.
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Yesterday taught you something and moved you somewhere.
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Build from that position today.
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Small victories can restore motivation.
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Number 23.
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When motivation disappears don't always wait for inspiration.
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Create a small victory.
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Completing something manageable can restart the emotional engine
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you thought had stalled on you.
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Number 24.
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Success does not always arrive dramatically.
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Sometimes success, guys, it does something interesting.
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It doesn't come with applause, announcements, or a
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giant breakthrough.
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Sometimes it quietly appears through dozens of small
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decisions made consistently.
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Number 25.
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Learn to recognize quiet progress.
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Maybe you react differently than you did six
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months ago.
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Maybe something difficult has become easier.
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Maybe you recover faster after setbacks.
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Those are wins too.
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I remember when I was in Toastmasters a
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long time ago and I remember getting to
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the very end and I remember this one
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part that was a little bit confusing to
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me.
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So what I did for a while was,
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to be honest, I procrastinated.
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This was after I graduated college.
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I procrastinated.
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I was very close to the end but
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I just procrastinated.
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One of my team leaders said, Hey, John,
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what are you stuck on?
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I'm like, everything.
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Well, what do you have left?
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Well, the last speech.
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Well, where are you?
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I don't really know because the book is
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confusing.
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Oh, so you don't know how to do
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the last speech.
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I don't know what they want in the
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last speech.
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Okay?
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That's an important thing to understand.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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you may not understand.
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And we've got to be mindful of it,
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right?
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And when we're mindful of things, we're able
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to change our perception, which changes our action,
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which is ultimately going to change our result.
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What we did six months ago is different.
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Like I said, something difficult happens but then
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something gets easier.
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You can recover, right?
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But it doesn't seem like when you're doing
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it that you're going to recover.
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I think that's the fear.
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We're worried that we're going to fall.
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Right?
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We're worried that we're going to fall.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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I think a lot of people stop in
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the middle.
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You know what I've heard?
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They fall because they stop in the middle
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of something.
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If they would just go through with it,
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they're not going to fall.
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Okay?
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They're not going to fall.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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It's an important realization for us to make.
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Because you react differently and then your perceptions
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change.
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Your actions change.
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And then your results change.
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Number 26.
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Let one win lead naturally into another.
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It's kind of like the ebbs and flows
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of life, right?
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Let one breath lead naturally to the other.
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And that breath lead naturally back into the
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other.
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People do something.
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They panic.
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They panic.
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Big problem.
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There was no reason to panic.
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Right?
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After completing something, ask, what's the next reasonable
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step I should take?
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Don't immediately demand a giant leap.
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Let momentum carry you naturally into another achievable
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action.
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Don't expect to get to the other side
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of the planet or the universe, right?
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Don't.
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You're going to be, unfortunately, guys, you're going
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to be disappointed.
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And I don't want to see anybody here
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disappointed.
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But that's actually what's going to happen.
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Take baby steps.
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Baby steps get us to the main part
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of our life.
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Consistency.
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Number 27, evidence is stronger than empty self
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-talk.
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I always say to people, you know, the
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talk sounds great, but are they walking the
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talk or are they just talking the talk?
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Are they living, breathing, and acting with their
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own concepts?
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Positive words can help, but evidence is powerful
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instead of only saving and saying out loud,
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I can do this.
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Create experiences that allow you to say, I
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know I can because I've done it before
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and I'm going to do it again.
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That's a very, very important thing, guys.
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Very important thing.
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Number 28, build confidence through things you can
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point to.
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Create tangible evidence.
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A finished product, a project, a completed workout,
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a difficult conversation, a paper, a thesis, a
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book, a song, a program, one that you
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had in your head and you finally completed.
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A commitment you kept and you built confidence
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around reality and now your body's like, hey,
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you know what?
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I can do this again.
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And you can.
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And then it's like you get this inner
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strength to move forward.
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I think that's such an amazing thing when
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we can get that inner strength to move
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forward.
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That's a very important thing for a lot
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of us to realize, that we've got to
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move forward.
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Very important to be able to move forward.
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So, number 29 says become someone who notices
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forward movement.
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You know, a lot of times the movement
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is going forward, but you're really not actually
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moving forward.
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Train yourself to recognize progress instead of automatically
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searching for everything that went wrong.
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What you notice influences the story.
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You tell yourself about who you are, right?
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Who you are.
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And I think when we start to recognize
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that our life just changes.
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When we're aware of those subtle things in
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life, it's like, oh my gosh, I didn't
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know it was that way.
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If I would have known that, I would
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have changed my actions.
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Number 30, guys.
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Stack enough small wins and your self-perception
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can change.
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Now, not overnight, but it will gradually start
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to change.
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This is where everything comes full circle and
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together.
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One small win may not transform your life
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overnight, as I said.
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But enough small wins create evidence and will
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build a momentum.
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Evidence creates belief.
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Belief changes how you act, and repeat actions
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can change how you see yourself.
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See, we act out how we perceive ourselves
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to be, regardless of how we really are
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or not.
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Stop waiting for one enormous victory to finally
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give yourself permission to feel confident.
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Everyone does it like, well, I don't have
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proof.
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Of course not.
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You're trying to build a Taj Mahal, and
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you can't even build the front door.
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Start collecting evidence.
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Finish something.
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Keep one promise.
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Take one meaningful step, then take another.
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Your progress doesn't have to impress everybody else
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to matter.
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Many people think it does.
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It's not a personality contest.
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Then take another step.
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Be consistent on it.
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Say amounts of steps consistently every day.
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Your progress doesn't have to impress everybody else
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to matter, as I said.
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Small wins create movement.
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Movement creates evidence.
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Evidence strengthens confidence, and confidence makes the next
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move easier.
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That is how momentum begins to compound.
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Similar to compounding money in your bank account.
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This is how momentum begins to compound.
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Remember, you don't have to change everything today.
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You just have to create a win you
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can build on tomorrow.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, serial entrepreneur,
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and this has been another amazing, powerful episode
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of Inspirations for Your Life.
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Now, I know a lot of things that
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we talked about tonight might seem scary or
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worrisome to you.
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They should not.
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The more that you get in and do
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these things, the easier your life is going
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to be.
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When we learn the lesson, our life changes.
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Again, I don't want to promise and tell
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you that this is going to happen overnight,
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because guess what, guys?
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It will not happen overnight.
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I'm sorry.
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It will not happen overnight.
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Get that out of your head.
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If it happens, great, but don't expect it
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overnight.
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We have to remember something.
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We have to remember that we created this
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pattern long ago in our life.
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30, 60, 90, 108 days or longer, we
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created this pattern in our life.
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That's powerful, guys.
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That's powerful.
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Very powerful.
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So powerful that I think people don't really
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understand what's going on or why something is
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going on.
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Right?
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When we step back and say, wait a
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minute, what am I actually doing?
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That's pretty amazing.
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That's how we have to do it.
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We have to take things step by step
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by step.
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We have to align ourselves to the subtle
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differences.
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I have a candy wrapper here.
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If you're listening, you can't see, but I'm
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holding up a Quaker chewy candy wrapper.
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And if I hold this together in a
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certain way, you probably can't tell that it's
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been ripped depending on how I hold it.
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But if I was to move it or
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if you were just to be a little
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closer on a different angle, you could say,
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wait a minute, that candy bar is actually
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already opened or ripped open.
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So subtle perceptions can help us.
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It could be in colors.
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It can be in our work.
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It could be in our relationships.
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Noticing what doesn't fit in can sometimes be
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the real key to helping us grow.
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So remember, ladies and gentlemen, momentum doesn't always
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begin with a massive breakthrough.
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Sometimes it begins with one small win that
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proves you're capable of more.
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Until next time, keep moving forward, keep building
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your confidence and keep becoming, ladies and gentlemen,
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the person you know you can be.
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I know sometimes this sounds scary.
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I get it.
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But you've got to learn the lesson.
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Once you learn the lesson, life is like
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an open oyster.
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You can have, do, or be anything you
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want to be.
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We first got to learn the lessons.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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I'll catch you on another show or piece
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of content real soon.
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Be well, everyone.
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Well there, hello everyone, and welcome to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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It is Monday, it is October 5th, and
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welcome to the show.
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It's so great to have you here.
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If this is your very first time here,
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I want to take the opportunity to say
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welcome.
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Of course, I want to say the words
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thank you to you.
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I really do appreciate you for being here.
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If you've been here one time, five times,
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ten, a hundred, a million, maybe more, maybe
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not a million, but many more than a
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hundred or a thousand, I'd like to say
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thank you.
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But I'd also like to say the important
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words welcome, welcome, and of course the words
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welcome back.
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It always means something when people really enjoy,
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you know, content and the quality that I'm
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producing here.
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So great to have you here on the
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show with me.
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If you're thirsty, if you're hungry, feel free
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to go grab yourself something.
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I have an RO water here with fresh
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lemon.
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Yeah, so let's dive in, shall we?
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All right.
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Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com, guys,
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at the end of the show.
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So welcome everyone, once I said, to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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And I'm so grateful to have you guys
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here.
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It's really great to have everybody here and
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that you're wanting to enjoy the show with
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me.
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In case you guys did not know, I'm
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your host.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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I am an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at
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Montclair State University, passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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So today I'm continuing our series, Momentum Changes
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Everything.
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With small wins, change everything.
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Okay?
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A lot of people think confidence has to
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come first.
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They think they need to feel confident before
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they act.
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But confidence often works in the opposite direction.
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You act, you create, and that's evidence.
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And that evidence begins changing what you believe
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about yourself.
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So let's get in the show.
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Are you ready?
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I know I am.
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It's going to be another great show.
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Number one, confidence grows when you collect.
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Confidence grows when you collect.
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Confidence isn't built by repeatedly telling yourself you're
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amazing.
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It grows when you have experiences that say,
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I did it.
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Every complete action gives you another reason to,
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then again, guys, trust yourself.
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And I think that's a real important one
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for us to understand, that we need to
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trust ourselves.
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Sometimes it's hard for us to do things
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in life.
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But when we trust ourselves, life becomes just
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a little bit easier.
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Right?
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A little bit easier.
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And I think that's a very important one
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for us to realize.
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Number two, small wins.
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Yeah, small wins give your brain proof of
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progress.
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Your brain needs something concrete.
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Well, small wins says, you're not standing still.
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You move something forward.
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And that proof can make the next steps
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easier for us.
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Now, I know sometimes it's hard because we're
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like, well, this isn't going the way I
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want it to go.
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I get it, right?
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I get that.
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you've had some challenges, you're like, wait a
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This isn't as hard as it actually seems,
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right?
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It's not as hard as it actually seems.
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That's probably the biggest thing that I can
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tell you.
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Number three, stop dismissing progress because it looks
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ordinary.
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Yeah, that's important, guys.
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Number three, stop diminishing progress because it looks
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ordinary.
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We often ignore progress because it isn't dramatic
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enough.
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But ordinary progress is still progress.
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The email sent, the workout completed, the phone
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call that you made, the progress you started
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for the project, the page that was written.
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you did all counts.
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But I think sometimes we're hard on ourselves.
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We've got this perfectionist streak.
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for a lot of people, why that happens.
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Number four, guys, number four is a really,
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really good one.
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And that is completing something matters.
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There's power in finishing.
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Completion closes a loop.
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And reminds you that you can take something
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from intention to action.
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That matters more than we sometimes even realize.
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Number five, make your first daily win achievable.
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Don't begin every morning by demanding something enormous
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from yourself.
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Choose one meaningful win you can realistically achieve.
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Give yourself an opportunity to create momentum early.
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Don't do it later.
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like, you know what, I don't really believe
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in myself.
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I don't know that I really can do
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this.
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You really can do the things.
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of people, they miss out on life.
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They don't realize that they can do things.
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lot of people say to me, hey, John,
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where's this coming from?
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Or how am I embracing this?
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I think that comes down to us saying
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there's a lot we can do in life.
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There's a very lot we can do in
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life.
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Number six, finish small tasks.
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Can unlock larger ones.
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I've often said that when we do something
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and it requires some effort, that's preparing us
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for an even bigger accomplishment.
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A reward.
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One completed task changes your state.
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Suddenly the next thing doesn't seem quite as
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intimidating.
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Small, right?
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Doesn't seem small at all.
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And that small action can become a doorway
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to much larger actions in the future.
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But I know what you're saying.
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I know you're saying, hey, John, you don't
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understand my life or what's going on.
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I get it.
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Number seven, progress creates emotional energy.
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Does that make sense to you?
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Hopefully it does.
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And hopefully that means something to why you're
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thinking about something a certain way.
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I think that's a really key point.
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So, number seven, progress creates emotional energy.
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But how does it do that?
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How does it do that?
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I think that's a very important thing.
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A very important thing.
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lot of us need to realize.
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I'm just asking.
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Maybe you're saying, John, I don't get it.
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But I want to tell you that you
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can get it if you really believe.
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So, movement changes how you feel.
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When you see yourself progressing, you often gain
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energy instead of losing it.
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That emotional lift can help you carry it
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forward.
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It can help you be more proportionate in
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life.
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That's important, guys.
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Very important.
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And maybe it means something to you, but
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maybe it doesn't.
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Right?
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I think that's important.
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Right?
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It's very important to understand that.
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Maybe to you it doesn't mean that.
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But it really does.
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Okay?
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That's important.
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Right?
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That's a very important thing.
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So what I want to say about that
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is number eight.
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Track what you complete instead of only what
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remains.
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If you only stare at what remains, unfinished,
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you can convince yourself if you accomplish nothing.
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Okay?
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Look backward occasionally.
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Notice what you actually completed.
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Number nine.
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Celebrate movement without becoming, well, without becoming complacent.
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I think that's hard for a lot of
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people to understand what that means.
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Complacent is a word I think sometimes that
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we shove under the rug.
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But it's something I believe that a lot
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of us need to understand.
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Okay?
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Number nine.
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Celebrate movement without becoming complacent.
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And giving yourself credit doesn't mean you stop
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growing.
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Recognize the win.
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Appreciate it.
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And then use that energy to continue.
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Celebration and ambition can coexist together.
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Number ten.
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One successful action can challenge an old belief
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about yourself.
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Maybe you've told yourself, I never finish anything.
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Then you finish something.
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That one action becomes evidence against an old
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story you've been carrying.
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Okay?
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I think sometimes, you know, we get stuck
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in these dull dreams of saying, hey, what
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am I doing?
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Or why am I doing it this way?
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And it's not to scare you.
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But it's just to say, wait a minute.
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Are we doing the right thing?
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Am I on track with my life?
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I think these are the questions that we
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want to be asking ourselves.
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Number 11, guys, I think is a very,
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a very, very important one.
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And that is confidence is strengthened through experience.
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Confidence isn't merely an idea.
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It's something you develop through doing.
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Experience gives you memories of handling situations, solving
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problems, and moving forward.
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Right?
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Number 12.
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Build promises to yourself that you actually keep.
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You might have heard the word make promises
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to yourself, but I'm saying build.
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I think build is more important.
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Stop making enormous promises you repeatedly break.
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Start smaller.
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Make commitments that challenge you but are realistic
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enough for you to honor.
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Number 13.
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Every kept promise adds evidence.
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When you tell yourself you do something and
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then do it, you strengthen self-trust.
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Each kept promise becomes another piece of evidence
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about who you are becoming.
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Number 14.
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Create wins before demanding breakthroughs.
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Breakthroughs are exciting, but they're not the only
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form of success.
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Build smaller wins first and they create the
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foundation that makes larger breakthroughs possible.
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Number 15.
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Stop comparing your beginning with somebody else's highlight.
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You're seeing someone else's polished results while living
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through your own beginning That comparison is unfair
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for a lot of people.
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Stay focused on your own path and progress
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at your own level at your own pace
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and speed.
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Number 16.
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Measure progress against where you started.
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I think that's one that requires some explanation.
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Ask yourself a better question or questions.
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Am I further ahead than I was before?
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Or am I further behind?
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That comparison gives you information you can actually
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use.
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Is what am I doing right now is
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it helping in doing something for the greater
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good of all concerned?
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Or no.
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Number 17.
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Tiny improvements compound.
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A tiny improvement may feel insignificant today.
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Repeat it over weeks, months, and years.
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Those improvements can create enormous differences.
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Small doesn't mean powerless.
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18.
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Consistency makes ordinary actions powerful.
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An ordinary action performed once might not change
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much.
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Perform it consistently.
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Its impact multiplies.
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Consistency turns simple behaviors into momentum.
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That's something a lot of people miss in
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life.
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Why?
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Because people are racing to get to the
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end and they don't take the time to
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understand what's going on in their life.
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I think that's probably one of the biggest
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things that I can actually tell you.
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Number 19.
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A difficult day can still contain a win.
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Not every day will be productive or easy.
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On a difficult day, you win and you
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may simply be doing the one thing that
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mattered most.
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That still counts.
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Number 20.
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Define what winning means before the day actually
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begins.
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If you never define success, you can accomplish
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plenty and still feel behind.
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Decide what a meaningful win looks like before
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the day even starts.
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Give yourself credit for meaningful efforts.
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I think that's an important one guys.
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A very important one.
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Meaningful efforts.
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Results matter, but meaningful effort matters too.
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Sometimes you do everything correctly and the result,
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well, unfortunately guys, it takes longer to actually
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accomplish and I think that frustrates some people.
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That it takes longer.
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Recognize the work you're putting into and being
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able to move forward.
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That's really powerful.
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Number 22.
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Use yesterday's progress as today's starting point.
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You don't have to restart from zero guys
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every morning.
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Yesterday taught you something and moved you somewhere.
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Build from that position today.
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Small victories can restore motivation.
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Number 23.
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When motivation disappears don't always wait for inspiration.
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Create a small victory.
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Completing something manageable can restart the emotional engine
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you thought had stalled on you.
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Number 24.
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Success does not always arrive dramatically.
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Sometimes success, guys, it does something interesting.
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It doesn't come with applause, announcements, or a
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giant breakthrough.
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Sometimes it quietly appears through dozens of small
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decisions made consistently.
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Number 25.
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Learn to recognize quiet progress.
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Maybe you react differently than you did six
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months ago.
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Maybe something difficult has become easier.
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Maybe you recover faster after setbacks.
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Those are wins too.
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I remember when I was in Toastmasters a
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long time ago and I remember getting to
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the very end and I remember this one
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part that was a little bit confusing to
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me.
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So what I did for a while was,
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to be honest, I procrastinated.
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This was after I graduated college.
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I procrastinated.
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I was very close to the end but
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I just procrastinated.
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One of my team leaders said, Hey, John,
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what are you stuck on?
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I'm like, everything.
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Well, what do you have left?
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Well, the last speech.
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Well, where are you?
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I don't really know because the book is
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confusing.
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Oh, so you don't know how to do
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the last speech.
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I don't know what they want in the
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last speech.
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Okay?
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That's an important thing to understand.
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I think that's a very important thing that
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you may not understand.
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And we've got to be mindful of it,
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right?
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And when we're mindful of things, we're able
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to change our perception, which changes our action,
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which is ultimately going to change our result.
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What we did six months ago is different.
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Like I said, something difficult happens but then
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something gets easier.
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You can recover, right?
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But it doesn't seem like when you're doing
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it that you're going to recover.
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I think that's the fear.
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We're worried that we're going to fall.
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Right?
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We're worried that we're going to fall.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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I think a lot of people stop in
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the middle.
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You know what I've heard?
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They fall because they stop in the middle
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of something.
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If they would just go through with it,
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they're not going to fall.
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Okay?
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They're not going to fall.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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It's an important realization for us to make.
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Because you react differently and then your perceptions
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change.
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Your actions change.
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And then your results change.
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Number 26.
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Let one win lead naturally into another.
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It's kind of like the ebbs and flows
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of life, right?
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Let one breath lead naturally to the other.
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And that breath lead naturally back into the
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other.
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People do something.
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They panic.
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They panic.
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Big problem.
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There was no reason to panic.
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Right?
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After completing something, ask, what's the next reasonable
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step I should take?
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Don't immediately demand a giant leap.
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Let momentum carry you naturally into another achievable
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action.
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Don't expect to get to the other side
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of the planet or the universe, right?
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Don't.
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You're going to be, unfortunately, guys, you're going
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to be disappointed.
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And I don't want to see anybody here
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disappointed.
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But that's actually what's going to happen.
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Take baby steps.
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Baby steps get us to the main part
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of our life.
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Consistency.
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Number 27, evidence is stronger than empty self
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-talk.
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I always say to people, you know, the
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talk sounds great, but are they walking the
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talk or are they just talking the talk?
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Are they living, breathing, and acting with their
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own concepts?
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Positive words can help, but evidence is powerful
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instead of only saving and saying out loud,
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I can do this.
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Create experiences that allow you to say, I
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know I can because I've done it before
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and I'm going to do it again.
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That's a very, very important thing, guys.
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Very important thing.
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Number 28, build confidence through things you can
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point to.
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Create tangible evidence.
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A finished product, a project, a completed workout,
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a difficult conversation, a paper, a thesis, a
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book, a song, a program, one that you
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had in your head and you finally completed.
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A commitment you kept and you built confidence
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around reality and now your body's like, hey,
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you know what?
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I can do this again.
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And you can.
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And then it's like you get this inner
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strength to move forward.
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I think that's such an amazing thing when
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we can get that inner strength to move
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forward.
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That's a very important thing for a lot
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of us to realize, that we've got to
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move forward.
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Very important to be able to move forward.
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So, number 29 says become someone who notices
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forward movement.
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You know, a lot of times the movement
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is going forward, but you're really not actually
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moving forward.
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Train yourself to recognize progress instead of automatically
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searching for everything that went wrong.
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What you notice influences the story.
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You tell yourself about who you are, right?
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Who you are.
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And I think when we start to recognize
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that our life just changes.
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When we're aware of those subtle things in
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life, it's like, oh my gosh, I didn't
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know it was that way.
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If I would have known that, I would
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have changed my actions.
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Number 30, guys.
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Stack enough small wins and your self-perception
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can change.
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Now, not overnight, but it will gradually start
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to change.
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This is where everything comes full circle and
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together.
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One small win may not transform your life
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overnight, as I said.
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But enough small wins create evidence and will
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build a momentum.
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Evidence creates belief.
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Belief changes how you act, and repeat actions
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can change how you see yourself.
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See, we act out how we perceive ourselves
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to be, regardless of how we really are
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or not.
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Stop waiting for one enormous victory to finally
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give yourself permission to feel confident.
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Everyone does it like, well, I don't have
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proof.
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Of course not.
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You're trying to build a Taj Mahal, and
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you can't even build the front door.
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Start collecting evidence.
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Finish something.
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Keep one promise.
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Take one meaningful step, then take another.
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Your progress doesn't have to impress everybody else
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to matter.
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Many people think it does.
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It's not a personality contest.
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Then take another step.
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Be consistent on it.
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Say amounts of steps consistently every day.
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Your progress doesn't have to impress everybody else
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to matter, as I said.
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Small wins create movement.
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Movement creates evidence.
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Evidence strengthens confidence, and confidence makes the next
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move easier.
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That is how momentum begins to compound.
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Similar to compounding money in your bank account.
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This is how momentum begins to compound.
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Remember, you don't have to change everything today.
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You just have to create a win you
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can build on tomorrow.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, serial entrepreneur,
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and this has been another amazing, powerful episode
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of Inspirations for Your Life.
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Now, I know a lot of things that
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we talked about tonight might seem scary or
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worrisome to you.
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They should not.
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The more that you get in and do
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these things, the easier your life is going
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to be.
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When we learn the lesson, our life changes.
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Again, I don't want to promise and tell
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you that this is going to happen overnight,
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because guess what, guys?
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It will not happen overnight.
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I'm sorry.
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It will not happen overnight.
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Get that out of your head.
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If it happens, great, but don't expect it
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overnight.
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We have to remember something.
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We have to remember that we created this
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pattern long ago in our life.
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30, 60, 90, 108 days or longer, we
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created this pattern in our life.
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That's powerful, guys.
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That's powerful.
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Very powerful.
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So powerful that I think people don't really
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understand what's going on or why something is
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going on.
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Right?
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When we step back and say, wait a
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minute, what am I actually doing?
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That's pretty amazing.
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That's how we have to do it.
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We have to take things step by step
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by step.
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We have to align ourselves to the subtle
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differences.
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I have a candy wrapper here.
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If you're listening, you can't see, but I'm
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holding up a Quaker chewy candy wrapper.
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And if I hold this together in a
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certain way, you probably can't tell that it's
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been ripped depending on how I hold it.
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But if I was to move it or
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if you were just to be a little
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closer on a different angle, you could say,
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wait a minute, that candy bar is actually
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already opened or ripped open.
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So subtle perceptions can help us.
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It could be in colors.
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It can be in our work.
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It could be in our relationships.
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Noticing what doesn't fit in can sometimes be
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the real key to helping us grow.
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So remember, ladies and gentlemen, momentum doesn't always
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begin with a massive breakthrough.
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Sometimes it begins with one small win that
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proves you're capable of more.
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Until next time, keep moving forward, keep building
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your confidence and keep becoming, ladies and gentlemen,
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the person you know you can be.
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I know sometimes this sounds scary.
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I get it.
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But you've got to learn the lesson.
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Once you learn the lesson, life is like
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an open oyster.
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You can have, do, or be anything you
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want to be.
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We first got to learn the lessons.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for
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00:27:54,700 --> 00:27:56,560
more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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I'll catch you on another show or piece
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of content real soon.
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Be well, everyone.
