ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Meet Millie.
She is soft, lavender, and long, with iridescent silver spines and a glittering tail. And she has been lying in wait in your brain, probably since childhood, ready to lock onto something magnificent and not let go for five hours.
Millie is the Hyperfocus Dragon. And she is the character I want you to stop apologizing for.
If you have ever lost an entire afternoon to something you love, not because you were avoiding something else, not because you were being irresponsible, but because your brain locked in and the rest of the world simply ceased to exist...Millie was there. That was not a flaw. That was a dragon doing exactly what she was built to do.
In this episode we talk about what hyperfocus actually is, why it is one of the most extraordinary features of the AuDHD brain, how to work with Millie rather than against her, and how Tonya personally manages her own hyperfocus so it works for her life rather than running it.
In this episode:
- Meet Millie, the Hyperfocus Dragon, the fourth character in the Inside the Pickle Jar neighborhood
- What hyperfocus actually is and what is happening neurologically when Millie locks in
- The gift inside what everyone called a problem, why this is a genuine superpower
- The honest complication when Millie arrives uninvited on the wrong thing at the wrong time
- What actually helps and working with Millie intentionally rather than being run by her
- Personal examples from Tonya on how she manages her own hyperfocus in real life
FREE RESOURCE
If there is someone in your life who cannot understand why you can spend five hours on one thing and cannot start another — I made something that might help explain it.
Four Things I Need the People in My Life to Know About My Brain A free guide that does the explaining for you.
https://www.insidethepicklejar.com
MILLIE'S STICKER
Millie has a sticker in the Inside the Pickle Jar shop. She is soft purple with iridescent wings and she belongs wherever you do your deepest work.
Start your collection at insidethepicklejar.com
MISSED PREVIOUS EPISODES?
Episode 6: Meet Emily - The Time Blindness Goblin https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19588342-meet-emily-the-time-blindness-goblin-and-why-it-s-not-your-fault-you-re-late
Episode 7: Meet Lily - The Executive Function Gremlin https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19621364-you-re-not-lazy-meet-lily-the-executive-function-gremlin
Episode 8: Meet Rosie - The Stress Monster https://www.buzzsprout.com/2378499/episodes/19654247-meet-rosie-the-stress-monster-and-why-you-need-rest
Emily explains why you are always late. Lily explains why you cannot start. Rosie explains why you are exhausted before anything has even happened. Millie explains why you lost five hours to something magnificent and feel absolutely no regret about it.
MEET THE REST OF THE NEIGHBORHOOD
The Inside the Pickle Jar neighborhood has six characters, each one representing a real part of the neurodivergent experience:
- Emily - The Time Blindness Goblin
- Lily - The Executive Function Gremlin
- Rosie - The Stress Monster
- Millie - The Hyperfocus Dragon
- Eleanor - The Focus Sprite
- Little T - The Inner Child Archivist
One more character episode coming next. Subscribe so you do not miss her.
CONNECT WITH TONYA
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Be gentle with yourself, pickle friend. I'll see you next time inside the jar.
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