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Welcome to Igniting Inspired Inquiry, a space for real conversations with incredible humans.
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I'm your host, Jay, and I'm here to open the door to reflection, resonance, and revelation.
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This is a space for truth, trust, and the kind of insight that comes from simply being human.
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Thank you for being here.
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Let's begin.
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I'm excited today because I get to invite a guest back.
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So we get to see and play and explore inquiry with a dear friend Georgia today.
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So thank you so much for coming back.
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Can't have been too bad if you were here again.
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I'm really excited to see where we go, but where I want to open it up for you is to share with us.
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And yes, we asked you this on the first podcast, but maybe it feels a little different to answer today.
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Who is Georgia?
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Well, thank you for having me again.
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Having me back.
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You're welcome.
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It's so nice to be back in your presence, even virtually.
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It's I'm very grateful for your yeah, for your friendship for this relationship.
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But um yeah, I feel like I know myself just you know a little bit better, a little bit more.
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I think that's you know what life is about.
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You know, we just we continue to get our to know ourselves a little bit better.
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You know, I'm I'm a 29-year-old Georgia turning 30 this year, so that's a a pretty big kind of milestone.
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But yeah, I'm I think if there's any similarities from like last time I was here, I'm still a movement facilitator, that's really important to me.
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A dog mom to a grudel and explorer.
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I think those are the yeah, there's some pretty big words there, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And that's all good.
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I love it.
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So here we get to to and even in season two, and even with people coming back, I still love asking this question because there are always more than one moment, and so the first question, the common thread what is one moment, belief, or experience that change the way you see the world.
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I feel like the last few months I've been able to just inquire a little bit more of my the dialogue in my own mind.
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Like I've actually been able to really access it a little bit better.
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Whereas for a long time, I feel like I was just blocking it off.
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I just kind of numbed, you know, distracted from actually getting to know like George's mind.
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And I think the one of the things I was really inquiring about and reflected on was just my own happiness and my own uh like this sense of needing to have control over others.
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And it it just it felt really uncomfortable and it just got me really stressed and really angry.
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So one of the things that really kind of has changed uh well the my relationships mainly and also just how I see well the world is that like I I really can't control anybody, like I can't change anybody, and I know it it sounds like it might be like a kind of cliche for some people or really like a common piece of information that for me I feel like I just I hadn't really learned that yet, you know, and that like just giving myself that that constant like reminder has brought like a lot of peace to my my soul, you know.
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Yeah, so it's probably the one of the the biggest kind of the main takeaways for me, you know, coming into the second season and you know having a bit of time off like at the beginning of the year.
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Just a lot of that round reflection around yeah in my like how my happiness, like this result of my happiness based on letting go of this control of others and you know wanting to change them because you know that's their own journey, and I cannot base my happiness around others.
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That's incredible.
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It's kind of to shift that.
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I yeah, I think what I was hearing is like it's it's interesting with with perspectives and big shifts like this within our awarenesses because when you say like it sounds cliche, I think that the difference there is like we can know it logically, but when we like really have an embodied experience of like, oh, this is how it's showing up for me, that's when it really truly lands.
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Like when we understand how that concept or perspective for ourselves is limiting us, or what I see as creating suffering, that's when we really like this has got to change, and it's so powerful.
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And I can connect to that because I I really had the same experience of understanding not necessarily controlling others, but how I was trying to control how everything went, and that perception, because it's not real, of control was creating my own suffering, it was making me unsafe in those environments, which is all my own doing, like and and the again, the perception that I could control an outcome was actually just blocking me from seeing what the universe was bringing forward for me.
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Yeah, exactly.
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And that's and you, you know, you're just saying controlling an outcome as well, like not only others, but just that's why I said to you at the beginning, you know, you asked me, you know, how are things?
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And like I I guess I'm you know, I mentioned that I'm you know, I'm unhappy.
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There's parts of my my lifestyle right now where my work life balance, it's just not working, but I'm trying to more so manifest this like feeling I want to cultivate, but letting go of like planning and like you know, being like I have to like live here one day, you know, because I've just been through you know too much.
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There's been so much that's happened to me that has really taught me that like I I really can't plan, like so um so but also I think that when we try to plan too much, we're in the way.
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Yeah, like and we we really are being called to personally and as a society to be in the listening of what's coming through, to trust where we're being guided and be available for that because there's an absence of that when we're trying to control and we're trying to plan or and it's okay to plan, but that plan still needs to be malleable.
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Yeah, yeah, sometimes we need that, we need to like have little pieces figured out, and it's like, oh well, if this happens, I'll go and I'll do this, but not hyper plan.
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But also, like if that doesn't happen, it's like okay, I I see where I'm being guided now, and this is okay.
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Exactly.
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Like, I think I guess there's so there's so many different things you could, there's so many different aspects of our life, there's so many different, like, I guess, avenues of our of our, you know, just day-to-day, right?
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Like, I I can still write down plans, like, okay, I have this to do this week, you know, I have to get this done on this day.
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So I guess it's just trying to find a balance of, you know, even if for some reason I I missed like a really important task that I actually planned for, to also like kind of be able to release that control as well.
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Like that's really yeah, even if it was like an admin responsibility of my life that was like very adult that I just completely I don't know, yeah, forgot or something else got, you know, had to happen or you know, came in front.
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Anyways.
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So I think it's just applying, it's it's really it's really beautiful because you can apply that to so many things in your life, you know, like absolutely.
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And one of the things, yeah, it's like it does revolve around the let them theory because I finally with Mel Robbins, and and my mom was always for so long being like, you should listen to this, you should do this, read this.
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I'm like, no, I just don't I I don't have the the the focus right now to be able to want to read that or listen to that.
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I just I just don't.
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And so and it had to happen in my own time.
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Like it was like it just wasn't the right timing, and I really believed that.
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And then when I was ready to receive it, I was I was ready.
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And I'm not saying like I'm I'm not saying like I'm fully healed, I'm this perfect understanding person of letting go of control, and I don't get like a little bit wound up if something happens, but it's it's the idea that it's now it's in my brain, I'm rewiring the thoughts, like it's it takes time.
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That's another really not something we perfect, it's it's absolutely a practice that we keep coming back.
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That's a beautiful thing, and yeah, you know, that's that saying, right?
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Even with book or a podcast or or an information that people have told us repeatedly when the teacher, you know, when the student is ready, the teacher appears.
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But I also think it's the same as like we hear these pieces, we hear these pieces, we hear these pieces, and it doesn't land because we're not ready, or we there's certain pieces of the understanding that have to happen first, and then when it lands, then you're like, ah yeah.
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And I think it it really truly lands when we embody it, when we put it into practice.
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We can't just conceptualize it, it has to be played with.
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Exactly.
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It's a beautiful thing.
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Now, like when I had a guest who's been here before, or when I know them a little, or depending on where we go with our episode, I like to dial into where I feel like I want to go next.
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So actually, it kind of adds on to what you've just shared, but also perhaps a different piece of it universally.
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And what I'm seeing and feeling with others in conversation is do you also feel like like there's an element of not just people are stressed or people are too busy, but there's an element of life is moving a lot faster.
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Even the lessons within ourselves are moving a lot faster.
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So there's a piece that comes in and we're like, oh, I see it, oh, I got it, I can transform it, boom.
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And then there's another piece comes in and I'm I'm aware of that, I'm gonna emotionally transmute.
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It's like, do you feel like that is an element for you, like for yourself, and then also for the work that you're doing or for who you're working supporting in your movement practices and things like that?
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Do you feel like people are transcending?
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Is it a good question?
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Yeah, can you ask the first part of it again?
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Because I just feel like just generally like that life is moving faster, but that's not necessarily all bad.
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It's just like the pace and the way we're leveling up and the way we're coming to our decisions, but also in our own integrations, is just generally moving faster.
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Yeah, I mean, yeah, I guess I feel I feel like it I don't know if it's faster.
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I feel like you know, when you do some something so many times, you start to do it without really thinking about it.
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You know, like it becomes like an autopilot, you know.
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So I feel like if anything, it feels like that.
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So maybe I feel like I'm losing time because I feel like I'm disconnecting from those moments that feel really repetitive, you know, like my like my drive to work, you know.
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Yeah.
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So do you feel like that's because of the the pace in which things are going, or do you feel like that is a shift in presence?
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Yeah, I feel like it could be it could be both, like it can be a shift in presence, but then I feel like there's times where like there's almost like more things just added, you know, it's like we're trying to get the most out of, you know, a certain time frame to just get more done.
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Like, you know, even yeah, like with, for example, my job, it feels like the role I started with is just like not what I thought because it it just things keep being added, but it's not realistic to the amount of time I actually have in my week to work, so it's like you know, I feel like that was a real that will be a lot, a lot of people will be listening, will be feeling the same way.
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Yeah.
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So how do you feel like negatively or positively?
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How do you feel like that is affecting you?
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Oh, I just I mean yeah, like it's it's teaching me a lot to you know to learn to communicate with my team, to to ask for help, to to communicate like how much time something is going to take me, so that you know I can be realistic and you know, we can work together and you know, try to, you know, yeah, get something done.
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But yeah, because sometimes it's just like you know, you want to go for the moon, right?
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In a way, you want to just like do like go above and beyond, and that's amazing as well, but it there also has to be like a logical, you know, ex you know, these expectations, right?
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Yeah, but like even in my yeah, you're good.
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Even in my own life, sometimes I'm like, oh, I gotta like do more.
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You know, and it's it it's just like okay, yeah, cool, but like but but why?
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Like what's your intention?
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Like, is that gonna make you feel like more successful?
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Like, what does be feeling successful even mean anymore?
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Like everybody has their own kind of definition of what that looks like, you know?
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Yeah.
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So something I I'm exploring with kind of this this if we go back to presence, like we go back to the idea of like disconnecting from being present, I've been exploring like as a movement facilitator, like uh exploring more of the micro moments.
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Like usually uh lately have been saying in the yoga practice, uh how does this first down dog feel?
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Because it's actually the first one.
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Yeah, like it's it's the it's the it's this first moment, like you're not gonna get this back.
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So maybe there's something new about it that you've never felt before, like it is going inward, like more inward into the inner sensations.
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That's really beautiful.
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So I I feel like I just kind of bring that up, you know, in terms of movement, because it might relate to some people, well, and it can relate to life outside of moving as well.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And that's such a beautiful thing.
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I think there's a couple of things like when you were saying it, you're less present because you feel more like it's more natural, it's more on innate, right?
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So yeah, it I don't know that sometimes sometimes it's not that we're less present, it's just that we're not thinking about it, naturally going through the movements, and it feels good and we're embodied and all of that.
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And then the other piece is like it's embodied, it's like innate within us.
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So there isn't that process, like we're we're naturally reacting to life in our environment, which is just so powerful.
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And then I think what I also hear and what you're sharing is like just having awareness of when we're busy for the sake of busy, we're busy because that's the energy that we've been in, and not noticing when we can step out of that.
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So then you were like your answer to that was like, why?
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Why, why, why do I need to do that?
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And just so much of that.
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But what I heard in that was I think a core belief that a lot of people are challenged with, and myself as well, if I'm not present and like aligned with my authentic self and just sort of buying into the energy, is have I done enough?
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Or am I doing enough?
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And that conditioning is coming up for a lot of us, and I think one of the easiest ways to question that is to ask, like, what is enough?
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Yeah, because often we're striving for enough or for more, but we don't even know what that looks like.
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So we're actually striving for something we haven't even decided or we haven't put a marker on.
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And so it's like the same with perfection.
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It's like when I work with my clients, they're like, Oh, that needs to be perfect.
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I'm like, okay, great, what does perfect look like?
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And they're like, I they don't know, and I'm like, so then you're striving for something that you haven't decided, therefore you can't reach it.
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Yeah, and that's a pretty hard part of set on yourself because you can't find it.
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Yeah, it's something I talk about a lot, actually.
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This idea of even like you know, as humans, a lot of us feel like we're not enough.
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Like just us as individuals, like, yeah, because the outside world is measuring us always.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And I talk about like another thing I kind of talk in kind of as a side branch to that is like it's really hard, and you you mentioned like I think you said something about measuring.
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Did you say the word measure?
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What is enough or something like that?
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If I'm correct, yep, but it's really hard to measure.
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Your progress for that reason.
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Because you keep moving the bar forward.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Forward, forward.
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Yeah.
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Or you're like, we have new experiences.
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We evolve as humans, as individuals, we change, we we grow, and and yeah, and then the it's always kind of, yeah, it's this little, it's a spectrum.
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Agreed.
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So it and so I, you know, that's why like like I say it's it's not it's not good or bad, it just is.
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Yep.
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I agree.
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It's not right or wrong, it just is like it, and I think there's that measuring, right?
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Because we're in there constantly.
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And even the measuring of whether it's good or bad or whether it went the way you went it to, wanted it to or not, it's like even that is well, it's spending energy we don't need.
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It's like is what it is.
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Yeah, I love that we're talking about this now because it really is like uh it's like a huge, like if you looked, if I looked at the work I do, and if I like when I've brainstormed of you know what, you know, all the different intentions I've ever set in like my my yoga practices or some of my my movement that where I teach like everything I know, it's kind of like a signature class of mine I teach.
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It's just a fusion of everything and like a celebration of like releasing energy and dynamic movement, and it's very it's along the lines of empowerment, but that core principle is around like radical acceptance and the reminder that you're enough, so much more than enough, yeah, exactly.
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Like there's just like it's just there's there's more to you than you than you think, like so much more, yeah.
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And I think that even just knowing that, just knowing that that is the way our brain operates, but we are more than we think, like the thoughts that come were more than that, and knowing that about ourselves, and then also just understanding that, like because I heard myself say before, it's like the external world, like we're being we're surrounded by measuring and like things telling us that we're not enough.
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And someone might hear that and be like, well, then how to like it's yeah, I can't work with that.
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Like, that's you know, what do I do?
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It's out of my control, it's not out of your control.
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Because what matters the most is that it's not the external world that will influence you, it's the fact that you're listening to that external world and taking it into your internal world and deciding that you're not enough.
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Yeah, the reason I share that is because you decided that you can undecide that, you can decide that you're not on a measure and that you just are who you are and you're doing what you're doing, and you're loving it or you're not loving it, but it isn't a measure, yeah.
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And it's so, I mean, you know this, that's why you're sharing it in your classes, and I'm so freaking glad to hear that because that's where our power comes from, right?
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Yeah, it's from understanding a, we're all fucking different, so there isn't any possible way, like it's actually delusional to think that you can compare yourself with another human because not one of us is the same, not one, not one, you cannot measure there.
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There isn't anything to measure with.
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But then also, what are you measuring yourself against?
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And is it a lie for you?
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Like, is that on purpose?
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Yeah, it's so special.
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I really like everything, right?
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Yeah, and I really like the idea or the reminder of the external world.
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It's not that the external world will influence you, it's how you listen.
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And it's not your perceive it.
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And so that was it's a really good reminder because it kind of goes into this like the idea that you can't control what other people do.
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And so it's like it's like let them, you know, yeah.
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And so I try to like, you know, when it when I'm when I'm looking at, you know, looking at my happiness and like assessing, you know, or evaluating my like my current state, my this, you know, this this moment I'm in in my life, where I'm like, you know, I feel like something has to change, you know, I feel like something doesn't feel quite right or in alignment.
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Another there's a part of me that's like I want to honor that part, but then another part where I'm like, okay, but you know, you know, are you actually are you happy?
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But do you need to kind of remind yourself that you know of the external factors around you?
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Maybe they're just influencing you a bit too much, maybe you're letting them influence you a bit too much.
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So it's just that trying to find that balance of okay, what it what is it that in your heart that you feel like you really need to like make a make change, or is it how you're kind of listening to that those external parts, if that makes sense at all?
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Well, it makes complete sense.
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It also just means that you're being really discerning about the decision that you're making and that what you're coming to, but it's also really important because I think another thing that happens with a lot of humans is that they look at what you're sharing, this like point of conflict or this moment of of pivot that you're being called for, right?
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And and they look at that as meaning that they're not doing life right, but what you're experiencing is exactly what we're meant to have often again.
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Like we go through seasons within ourselves, so we're not we're not gonna have every single season and every single year is like this.
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It's like we've got to get to these points, but they're there for a reason, yeah.
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And whether you pivot or whether you don't, maybe it's just there so you don't pivot, but you're like, actually, I needed this reminder to make these stronger decisions or to really get clear my core values.
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So I think it's like for me, like from listening to you, it's like it's not a bad place to be.
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If really you're just deeply assessing where you want to get to within yourself.
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Yeah.
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No, yeah, of course.
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I think I said it in my description, like my you know about me is like I don't see, you know, I don't like the you know, the obstacles that I've been through, the suffering, like it's not like it's not bad to me.
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You know, like the things I've been through, they're not they're not bad.
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Um like I see them more as a positive because like you know, we know like like to suffer, we we then have compassion.
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Yep, right.
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So yeah, and we get to know ourselves even deeper each and every time.
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Yeah, so that's why I really do want to share because I think it's like if we don't, I I feel alone if I don't share, and then when we share, we create connections, we we learn about others, we yeah, we create these new relationships, and that's really cool.
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Yeah, new relationships, or when we're willing to share, we can yeah, we can deepen existing relationships, which is really beautiful, and I think that's what people are pining for is that deeper connection and wondering how to do that, and how to do that is easy to share, share on a deeper level, share on a more vulnerable level, let yourself lean and let people see you more, not in your strengths and your positives and all the shiny well bells and whistles, but in your challenges and in your vulnerabilities like that's that is literally the recipe for deeper connection.
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Yeah, it's a beautiful thing.
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Now, reflecting light question three, Georgia.
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You have a question for me.
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What is kind of the most challenging experience you've been through lately?
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How did you find your way through?
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Or not even lately, but it could be recently, right?
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But something that you felt was you know challenging for you, an obstacle you might have you know not known how you were gonna get through it.
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And if you don't want to share details, that's okay.
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But yeah, even if it's just some you know wisdom in how you've kind of found your way through, because lately I feel like I'm trying to have hope and to find my way through a difficult time.
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So I I felt like I needed to ask somebody that was just full of wisdom, you know, a question that could maybe support you know me in my journey, but also hopefully help others too.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Well, there's many.
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Yeah.
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And it's actually what as you ask, like when you say the most challenging experiences, I also just want to reflect back something you just said about if I if I look back, I don't see any of them as bad or negative, even the scariest, heaviest parts.
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Like even it doesn't mean I didn't see them as that way at the moment in the moment, but I don't see them that way now.
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Even losing my sister, I don't see that as bad.
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I don't see that as I don't see me as a victim of that, and I think that's probably the biggest piece.
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But I think honestly, the most challenging times are when you can't see the way forward.
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But one of the reasons why it's so challenging is because you can't see the way forward, you go into I'm failing.
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And then you're in this self-deprecating I'm a bad person, just such deep lack of self-support.
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And when you're in that space, you're basically feeling like you're not cutting it, which is like coming back to other pieces of our conversation today.
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It's like that we're not enough, and that we're that we're and then all of these reasons and excuses come in.
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I'm not this, I'm not that, I'm just that, and it's just like you're looking for the evidence of why you're failing or why you're not why you're not moving forward.
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And this is a hard concept to get until you really let yourself dive into it, but to trust that whatever is happening for you is meant and to lean into the feeling because I think that one of the most challenging things of life is resisting feelings.
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It's I'm feeling this, but I don't want to feel it, so I'm gonna do whatever it takes not to feel it.
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But wondering why you can't get through the feeling, it's like because you've got to go in.
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It's like it's a it's a a tunnel, not a cave.
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But we when it's really bad, we think it's a cave and we think that we're not gonna be able to get out.
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But we actually have to understand that in order to get through, we have to feel it.
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Is that making sense for you?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But I'm also trying to answer it in a way that people can really, no matter where they're at, they can feel that, right?
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And they can trust that I think that the coming back to that measuring, right?
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Is like the moment things aren't going right, we make it mean something rather than look at what it's offering us.
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So, what is this here to teach me?
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What can I how can I sit with this or how can I move it, or what can I do to support myself?
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And that is not usually where humans go.
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How can I support myself?
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How can I work through this?
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How can I explore this?
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That's not usually where they go.
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They go to I'm a bad person, I shouldn't be feeling this way, I don't want to feel that, I'm gonna go do that, and I'm gonna make myself feel this and that.
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You know what I mean?
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And you and I have talked about this in other ways before, but all of that that I was saying, like the measuring, the failure, the like all the evidence of how you're the bad person not doing it right, da-da-da-da.
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I mean, that all takes you away from finding the solution.
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But at the most, the deepest part is it has you forgetting to trust in your capability and your capacity, it has you forgetting to trust in yourself and forgetting that you're not alone and that you're always guided.
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Yeah, I mean, like, and that's the thing is like there's a a large, you know, there's a a part of life if I think that people that like for me, I'll speak about me.
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I've been doing that work of trying to reframe the narrative of like where I want my brain to start to go into when these moments come up for me.
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But then there's a there's sometimes it just feels like really difficult where it doesn't matter.
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All that what I know, that work I've done, it doesn't matter.
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It just it's it can't the brain can't actually compartmentalize it.
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It's just feels like yeah, the log you can't see the logic behind it, you can't see that logical uh breakdown, right?
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Do you know why though?
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And sometimes it might not be true for you, but it could be.
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Sometimes it's because we're going into the reframe before we felt the feelings and understood why they're there.
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Because when we feel the feelings and understand why they're there, that energy is no longer in the way.
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So then when we reframe, it actually feels right.
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But if the feeling's still there and we're trying to move past it, we're trying to like, I'm just gonna drive around here and get around it and reframe, then part of the reframe is making us feel fake.
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Yeah, because I've still got this feeling here, and it needs to be acknowledged, and it needs to, as you know, with your movement practices, it needs to be moved.
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Well, that's what I that's what I talk about.
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That's basically what radical acceptance is.
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It's it's it's it's acknowledging, and that's why whenever you know someone tells me, like, you know, for example, my friend comes to me, you know, like I I feel this way about my body, you know, I usually say, look, I I validate that you feel that way.
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Like I want you to know that I I actually greatly like have compassion that you feel I have compassion that you feel that way.
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It's that part of you that feels that way.
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But if it, you know, if there's any part of us that helps at all, I just want you to know I don't see you that way.
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But I want people to know, like, because there are times that I feel, you know, not good about myself.
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And because I've done a lot of that work as well, accepting that, you know, that part of you that feels that way, right?
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Because it's not all positive poly crap, you know, like it's just not like that.
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Like you just so part of our brain that is is a winning wired to give us all of that.
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Yeah.
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So it's so funny that you talk about that.
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Because the other day, I actually, you know, I was talking to my partner, I was like just talking out like some emotion and just just crying.
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I was just like needing to let it out and like telling her how I felt, I couldn't see a way forward, I didn't know what to do.
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And he's just like, you almost like giving me this motivational, like a few kind of words of like, you know, you have options, you have, you know, blah blah blah, basically the logic.
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And I was like, You don't want that.
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And I think I think I just said to him, I said, I'm done with this conversation.
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And I just walked upstairs and then I came back down.
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He said, Are you upset at me?
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I said, No, I just don't need that right now.
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I don't need you to fix me.
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I need I need to be held, I need you to reaffirm how I feel.
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Because he's like the logic person in the relationship, and I'm like the feel, the big feeler person, the dreamer, the whatever.
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And like, not that he doesn't feel no.
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I mean, it's a beautiful thing to understand about your partner, right?
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Is to know that that that is not something that's available for him, and that doesn't make him less than it just means that's that's not where I go when I need reassurance.
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Yeah, that's not where I go when I need to just be honored and say, Yeah, this sucks.
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Yeah, I just because I told him I said, Look, I've done I've been doing so much of the work, and I and I'm proud of the work I've been doing, but right now in this moment, I don't I don't want to, I can't, I can't think like that's beautiful.
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That's beautiful, so but at the same time, you're doing the work by being in that expression, yeah.
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You're doing the work by letting yourself feel it and being frustrated and being honest, like that is the work, yeah.
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And I hope that more people understand that and receive that because they think that when they're feeling that way, they're doing something wrong, and it's not true, it's human.
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It's such a beautiful thing, yeah, you know, but it also what I hear, and what I think is is maybe if someone's listening or for yourself, and I want to come back to another point that came up in your question one, is like asking yourself in that moment too, is this mine?
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Especially when it's someone that comes to you and says, I'm thinking about this in my body.
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Is that yours?
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And what I mean by that is maybe that was something that someone passed on to you and then you repeated it in your mind and it's become a belief.
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Or is it an external perception based on what you're watching, viewing, comparing yourself against?
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Or literally, is it your amygdala, your threat detector?
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Like, is it that doubt that you've just fed for a long time?
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And if you open that up, is it true?
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And that's really powerful because when we look, I do that with a lot of my clients, it's like when we look at the way we're thinking, we wish we weren't thinking, and then ask ourselves, is it ours?
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It can a lot of things can dissolve.
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And that comes back to what you were saying like, is it because of external perception?
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Is it because of a measure that I feel like I need to meet that isn't even mine?
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And that might be why it feels so uncomfortable within the body, because it's like doesn't even fit your mold, dude.
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Dude though, I love it, yeah.
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Well, I mean, this is often the way I just said that, that's often how I call myself out.
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Like I'll hear something and I'm like, dude, that's not an alignment with you.
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What are you doing?
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Or you I'll hear a really big fear, and I'm like, that is like delusional.
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Come on now, and then I will answer myself in a loving way.
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And I think, yes, some people might be like, that's crazy.
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It absolutely works, and my clients will tell you that it does.
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You've got to reason with those parts of yourself that you've given too much noise to, you've listened for too long, and it's like, no, yeah, not hearing that anymore because it's not true, it's not of service to me, and it ain't moving me forward.
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Exactly.
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Yeah, those are really important questions I started asking myself too.
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So beautiful, so good.
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I love where I love where this went today.
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Me too.
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Me too.
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And so I think with what I loved hearing were your intentions and your offerings within your classes, and I'm really, really stoked and grateful, and just yeah, that you're offering that.
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to like we need to be receiving that and and and from aligned people who really are sharing from experience and i and i think we're lucky to have that in your movement classes so that's where i wanted to go now it's like if people are listening where do they find you well i'm i'm currently in melbourne australia yeah like i'm affirmative resident now so there you go but i uh yeah i'm just in like kind of the the you could say the the the inner west of this like of the city of melbour a studio might called my mama said studios the name of it my mama said okay cool so and we have like two different oh sorry two different online as well yeah so at the moment like I don't have any new online stuff but they have I have some online videos with them like their with the studios digital studio which is through the their website and then I have some stuff on YouTube from like a few years ago still but I might be adding to those at like the idea in the next few months might be I might be doing some more online content.
00:45:33.760 --> 00:45:49.840
So uh maybe yeah yeah that's kind of where I'm at currently yeah and we'll share that in the show notes so if people are around you or if they want to chat tune into some of the things you've done online and keep an eye out for when the new stuff comes.
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Yeah yeah so that people can be great yeah yay I think it's absolutely just so on point for what people need to receive and what they need to shift within themselves is that really aligning with their self-worth and becoming their best teammate is like one of my favorite things is we get to be our best friend we get to be our best cheerleader and we get to treat we oh no one knows like what we need to hear like we do and so why not be our best mate yeah exactly we're talking to ourselves the most so exactly so why not let it be highly of service and deeply supportive and kind and maybe even a bit fun.
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Yeah that's great.
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Yay Georgia thank you so much thank you for having me back it's always my pleasure and I'm excited I'm excited about people getting to get to know the guests by coming back and and maybe even excited about what we talk about next and just really honored to have you here.
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Thank you so much and for all of those who of you who are listening there's notes in every show especially this one on how you can connect with Georgia we're both here if you want to if anything that spoke to you you want to have a deeper conversation and we are always here to open the door for reflection revelation and a beautiful resonance for healing for growth and for just getting to know ourselves as a human so thank you thank you thank you thank you
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I'm excited today because I get to invite a guest back.
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So we get to see and play and explore inquiry with a dear friend Georgia today.
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So thank you so much for coming back.
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Can't have been too bad if you were here again.
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I'm really excited to see where we go, but where I want to open it up for you is to share with us.
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And yes, we asked you this on the first podcast, but maybe it feels a little different to answer today.
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Who is Georgia?
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Well, thank you for having me again.
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Having me back.
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You're welcome.
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It's so nice to be back in your presence, even virtually.
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It's I'm very grateful for your yeah, for your friendship for this relationship.
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But um yeah, I feel like I know myself just you know a little bit better, a little bit more.
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I think that's you know what life is about.
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You know, we just we continue to get our to know ourselves a little bit better.
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You know, I'm I'm a 29-year-old Georgia turning 30 this year, so that's a a pretty big kind of milestone.
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But yeah, I'm I think if there's any similarities from like last time I was here, I'm still a movement facilitator, that's really important to me.
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A dog mom to a grudel and explorer.
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I think those are the yeah, there's some pretty big words there, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And that's all good.
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I love it.
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So here we get to to and even in season two, and even with people coming back, I still love asking this question because there are always more than one moment, and so the first question, the common thread what is one moment, belief, or experience that change the way you see the world.
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I feel like the last few months I've been able to just inquire a little bit more of my the dialogue in my own mind.
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Like I've actually been able to really access it a little bit better.
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Whereas for a long time, I feel like I was just blocking it off.
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I just kind of numbed, you know, distracted from actually getting to know like George's mind.
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And I think the one of the things I was really inquiring about and reflected on was just my own happiness and my own uh like this sense of needing to have control over others.
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And it it just it felt really uncomfortable and it just got me really stressed and really angry.
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So one of the things that really kind of has changed uh well the my relationships mainly and also just how I see well the world is that like I I really can't control anybody, like I can't change anybody, and I know it it sounds like it might be like a kind of cliche for some people or really like a common piece of information that for me I feel like I just I hadn't really learned that yet, you know, and that like just giving myself that that constant like reminder has brought like a lot of peace to my my soul, you know.
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Yeah, so it's probably the one of the the biggest kind of the main takeaways for me, you know, coming into the second season and you know having a bit of time off like at the beginning of the year.
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Just a lot of that round reflection around yeah in my like how my happiness, like this result of my happiness based on letting go of this control of others and you know wanting to change them because you know that's their own journey, and I cannot base my happiness around others.
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That's incredible.
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It's kind of to shift that.
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I yeah, I think what I was hearing is like it's it's interesting with with perspectives and big shifts like this within our awarenesses because when you say like it sounds cliche, I think that the difference there is like we can know it logically, but when we like really have an embodied experience of like, oh, this is how it's showing up for me, that's when it really truly lands.
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Like when we understand how that concept or perspective for ourselves is limiting us, or what I see as creating suffering, that's when we really like this has got to change, and it's so powerful.
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And I can connect to that because I I really had the same experience of understanding not necessarily controlling others, but how I was trying to control how everything went, and that perception, because it's not real, of control was creating my own suffering, it was making me unsafe in those environments, which is all my own doing, like and and the again, the perception that I could control an outcome was actually just blocking me from seeing what the universe was bringing forward for me.
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Yeah, exactly.
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And that's and you, you know, you're just saying controlling an outcome as well, like not only others, but just that's why I said to you at the beginning, you know, you asked me, you know, how are things?
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And like I I guess I'm you know, I mentioned that I'm you know, I'm unhappy.
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There's parts of my my lifestyle right now where my work life balance, it's just not working, but I'm trying to more so manifest this like feeling I want to cultivate, but letting go of like planning and like you know, being like I have to like live here one day, you know, because I've just been through you know too much.
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There's been so much that's happened to me that has really taught me that like I I really can't plan, like so um so but also I think that when we try to plan too much, we're in the way.
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Yeah, like and we we really are being called to personally and as a society to be in the listening of what's coming through, to trust where we're being guided and be available for that because there's an absence of that when we're trying to control and we're trying to plan or and it's okay to plan, but that plan still needs to be malleable.
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Yeah, yeah, sometimes we need that, we need to like have little pieces figured out, and it's like, oh well, if this happens, I'll go and I'll do this, but not hyper plan.
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But also, like if that doesn't happen, it's like okay, I I see where I'm being guided now, and this is okay.
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Exactly.
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Like, I think I guess there's so there's so many different things you could, there's so many different aspects of our life, there's so many different, like, I guess, avenues of our of our, you know, just day-to-day, right?
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Like, I I can still write down plans, like, okay, I have this to do this week, you know, I have to get this done on this day.
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So I guess it's just trying to find a balance of, you know, even if for some reason I I missed like a really important task that I actually planned for, to also like kind of be able to release that control as well.
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Like that's really yeah, even if it was like an admin responsibility of my life that was like very adult that I just completely I don't know, yeah, forgot or something else got, you know, had to happen or you know, came in front.
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Anyways.
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So I think it's just applying, it's it's really it's really beautiful because you can apply that to so many things in your life, you know, like absolutely.
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And one of the things, yeah, it's like it does revolve around the let them theory because I finally with Mel Robbins, and and my mom was always for so long being like, you should listen to this, you should do this, read this.
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I'm like, no, I just don't I I don't have the the the focus right now to be able to want to read that or listen to that.
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I just I just don't.
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And so and it had to happen in my own time.
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Like it was like it just wasn't the right timing, and I really believed that.
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And then when I was ready to receive it, I was I was ready.
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And I'm not saying like I'm I'm not saying like I'm fully healed, I'm this perfect understanding person of letting go of control, and I don't get like a little bit wound up if something happens, but it's it's the idea that it's now it's in my brain, I'm rewiring the thoughts, like it's it takes time.
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That's another really not something we perfect, it's it's absolutely a practice that we keep coming back.
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That's a beautiful thing, and yeah, you know, that's that saying, right?
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Even with book or a podcast or or an information that people have told us repeatedly when the teacher, you know, when the student is ready, the teacher appears.
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But I also think it's the same as like we hear these pieces, we hear these pieces, we hear these pieces, and it doesn't land because we're not ready, or we there's certain pieces of the understanding that have to happen first, and then when it lands, then you're like, ah yeah.
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And I think it it really truly lands when we embody it, when we put it into practice.
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We can't just conceptualize it, it has to be played with.
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Exactly.
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It's a beautiful thing.
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Now, like when I had a guest who's been here before, or when I know them a little, or depending on where we go with our episode, I like to dial into where I feel like I want to go next.
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So actually, it kind of adds on to what you've just shared, but also perhaps a different piece of it universally.
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And what I'm seeing and feeling with others in conversation is do you also feel like like there's an element of not just people are stressed or people are too busy, but there's an element of life is moving a lot faster.
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Even the lessons within ourselves are moving a lot faster.
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So there's a piece that comes in and we're like, oh, I see it, oh, I got it, I can transform it, boom.
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And then there's another piece comes in and I'm I'm aware of that, I'm gonna emotionally transmute.
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It's like, do you feel like that is an element for you, like for yourself, and then also for the work that you're doing or for who you're working supporting in your movement practices and things like that?
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Do you feel like people are transcending?
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Is it a good question?
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Yeah, can you ask the first part of it again?
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Because I just feel like just generally like that life is moving faster, but that's not necessarily all bad.
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It's just like the pace and the way we're leveling up and the way we're coming to our decisions, but also in our own integrations, is just generally moving faster.
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Yeah, I mean, yeah, I guess I feel I feel like it I don't know if it's faster.
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I feel like you know, when you do some something so many times, you start to do it without really thinking about it.
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You know, like it becomes like an autopilot, you know.
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So I feel like if anything, it feels like that.
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So maybe I feel like I'm losing time because I feel like I'm disconnecting from those moments that feel really repetitive, you know, like my like my drive to work, you know.
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Yeah.
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So do you feel like that's because of the the pace in which things are going, or do you feel like that is a shift in presence?
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Yeah, I feel like it could be it could be both, like it can be a shift in presence, but then I feel like there's times where like there's almost like more things just added, you know, it's like we're trying to get the most out of, you know, a certain time frame to just get more done.
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Like, you know, even yeah, like with, for example, my job, it feels like the role I started with is just like not what I thought because it it just things keep being added, but it's not realistic to the amount of time I actually have in my week to work, so it's like you know, I feel like that was a real that will be a lot, a lot of people will be listening, will be feeling the same way.
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Yeah.
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So how do you feel like negatively or positively?
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How do you feel like that is affecting you?
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Oh, I just I mean yeah, like it's it's teaching me a lot to you know to learn to communicate with my team, to to ask for help, to to communicate like how much time something is going to take me, so that you know I can be realistic and you know, we can work together and you know, try to, you know, yeah, get something done.
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But yeah, because sometimes it's just like you know, you want to go for the moon, right?
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In a way, you want to just like do like go above and beyond, and that's amazing as well, but it there also has to be like a logical, you know, ex you know, these expectations, right?
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Yeah, but like even in my yeah, you're good.
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Even in my own life, sometimes I'm like, oh, I gotta like do more.
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You know, and it's it it's just like okay, yeah, cool, but like but but why?
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Like what's your intention?
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Like, is that gonna make you feel like more successful?
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Like, what does be feeling successful even mean anymore?
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Like everybody has their own kind of definition of what that looks like, you know?
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Yeah.
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So something I I'm exploring with kind of this this if we go back to presence, like we go back to the idea of like disconnecting from being present, I've been exploring like as a movement facilitator, like uh exploring more of the micro moments.
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Like usually uh lately have been saying in the yoga practice, uh how does this first down dog feel?
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Because it's actually the first one.
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Yeah, like it's it's the it's the it's this first moment, like you're not gonna get this back.
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So maybe there's something new about it that you've never felt before, like it is going inward, like more inward into the inner sensations.
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That's really beautiful.
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So I I feel like I just kind of bring that up, you know, in terms of movement, because it might relate to some people, well, and it can relate to life outside of moving as well.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And that's such a beautiful thing.
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I think there's a couple of things like when you were saying it, you're less present because you feel more like it's more natural, it's more on innate, right?
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So yeah, it I don't know that sometimes sometimes it's not that we're less present, it's just that we're not thinking about it, naturally going through the movements, and it feels good and we're embodied and all of that.
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And then the other piece is like it's embodied, it's like innate within us.
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So there isn't that process, like we're we're naturally reacting to life in our environment, which is just so powerful.
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And then I think what I also hear and what you're sharing is like just having awareness of when we're busy for the sake of busy, we're busy because that's the energy that we've been in, and not noticing when we can step out of that.
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So then you were like your answer to that was like, why?
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Why, why, why do I need to do that?
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And just so much of that.
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But what I heard in that was I think a core belief that a lot of people are challenged with, and myself as well, if I'm not present and like aligned with my authentic self and just sort of buying into the energy, is have I done enough?
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Or am I doing enough?
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And that conditioning is coming up for a lot of us, and I think one of the easiest ways to question that is to ask, like, what is enough?
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Yeah, because often we're striving for enough or for more, but we don't even know what that looks like.
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So we're actually striving for something we haven't even decided or we haven't put a marker on.
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And so it's like the same with perfection.
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It's like when I work with my clients, they're like, Oh, that needs to be perfect.
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I'm like, okay, great, what does perfect look like?
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And they're like, I they don't know, and I'm like, so then you're striving for something that you haven't decided, therefore you can't reach it.
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Yeah, and that's a pretty hard part of set on yourself because you can't find it.
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Yeah, it's something I talk about a lot, actually.
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This idea of even like you know, as humans, a lot of us feel like we're not enough.
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Like just us as individuals, like, yeah, because the outside world is measuring us always.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah.
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And I talk about like another thing I kind of talk in kind of as a side branch to that is like it's really hard, and you you mentioned like I think you said something about measuring.
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Did you say the word measure?
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What is enough or something like that?
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If I'm correct, yep, but it's really hard to measure.
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Your progress for that reason.
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Because you keep moving the bar forward.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Forward, forward.
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Yeah.
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Or you're like, we have new experiences.
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We evolve as humans, as individuals, we change, we we grow, and and yeah, and then the it's always kind of, yeah, it's this little, it's a spectrum.
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Agreed.
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So it and so I, you know, that's why like like I say it's it's not it's not good or bad, it just is.
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Yep.
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I agree.
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It's not right or wrong, it just is like it, and I think there's that measuring, right?
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Because we're in there constantly.
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And even the measuring of whether it's good or bad or whether it went the way you went it to, wanted it to or not, it's like even that is well, it's spending energy we don't need.
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It's like is what it is.
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Yeah, I love that we're talking about this now because it really is like uh it's like a huge, like if you looked, if I looked at the work I do, and if I like when I've brainstormed of you know what, you know, all the different intentions I've ever set in like my my yoga practices or some of my my movement that where I teach like everything I know, it's kind of like a signature class of mine I teach.
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It's just a fusion of everything and like a celebration of like releasing energy and dynamic movement, and it's very it's along the lines of empowerment, but that core principle is around like radical acceptance and the reminder that you're enough, so much more than enough, yeah, exactly.
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Like there's just like it's just there's there's more to you than you than you think, like so much more, yeah.
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And I think that even just knowing that, just knowing that that is the way our brain operates, but we are more than we think, like the thoughts that come were more than that, and knowing that about ourselves, and then also just understanding that, like because I heard myself say before, it's like the external world, like we're being we're surrounded by measuring and like things telling us that we're not enough.
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And someone might hear that and be like, well, then how to like it's yeah, I can't work with that.
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Like, that's you know, what do I do?
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It's out of my control, it's not out of your control.
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Because what matters the most is that it's not the external world that will influence you, it's the fact that you're listening to that external world and taking it into your internal world and deciding that you're not enough.
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Yeah, the reason I share that is because you decided that you can undecide that, you can decide that you're not on a measure and that you just are who you are and you're doing what you're doing, and you're loving it or you're not loving it, but it isn't a measure, yeah.
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And it's so, I mean, you know this, that's why you're sharing it in your classes, and I'm so freaking glad to hear that because that's where our power comes from, right?
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Yeah, it's from understanding a, we're all fucking different, so there isn't any possible way, like it's actually delusional to think that you can compare yourself with another human because not one of us is the same, not one, not one, you cannot measure there.
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There isn't anything to measure with.
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But then also, what are you measuring yourself against?
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And is it a lie for you?
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Like, is that on purpose?
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Yeah, it's so special.
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I really like everything, right?
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Yeah, and I really like the idea or the reminder of the external world.
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It's not that the external world will influence you, it's how you listen.
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And it's not your perceive it.
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And so that was it's a really good reminder because it kind of goes into this like the idea that you can't control what other people do.
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And so it's like it's like let them, you know, yeah.
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And so I try to like, you know, when it when I'm when I'm looking at, you know, looking at my happiness and like assessing, you know, or evaluating my like my current state, my this, you know, this this moment I'm in in my life, where I'm like, you know, I feel like something has to change, you know, I feel like something doesn't feel quite right or in alignment.
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Another there's a part of me that's like I want to honor that part, but then another part where I'm like, okay, but you know, you know, are you actually are you happy?
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But do you need to kind of remind yourself that you know of the external factors around you?
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Maybe they're just influencing you a bit too much, maybe you're letting them influence you a bit too much.
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So it's just that trying to find that balance of okay, what it what is it that in your heart that you feel like you really need to like make a make change, or is it how you're kind of listening to that those external parts, if that makes sense at all?
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Well, it makes complete sense.
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It also just means that you're being really discerning about the decision that you're making and that what you're coming to, but it's also really important because I think another thing that happens with a lot of humans is that they look at what you're sharing, this like point of conflict or this moment of of pivot that you're being called for, right?
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And and they look at that as meaning that they're not doing life right, but what you're experiencing is exactly what we're meant to have often again.
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Like we go through seasons within ourselves, so we're not we're not gonna have every single season and every single year is like this.
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It's like we've got to get to these points, but they're there for a reason, yeah.
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And whether you pivot or whether you don't, maybe it's just there so you don't pivot, but you're like, actually, I needed this reminder to make these stronger decisions or to really get clear my core values.
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So I think it's like for me, like from listening to you, it's like it's not a bad place to be.
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If really you're just deeply assessing where you want to get to within yourself.
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Yeah.
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No, yeah, of course.
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I think I said it in my description, like my you know about me is like I don't see, you know, I don't like the you know, the obstacles that I've been through, the suffering, like it's not like it's not bad to me.
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You know, like the things I've been through, they're not they're not bad.
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Um like I see them more as a positive because like you know, we know like like to suffer, we we then have compassion.
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Yep, right.
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So yeah, and we get to know ourselves even deeper each and every time.
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Yeah, so that's why I really do want to share because I think it's like if we don't, I I feel alone if I don't share, and then when we share, we create connections, we we learn about others, we yeah, we create these new relationships, and that's really cool.
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Yeah, new relationships, or when we're willing to share, we can yeah, we can deepen existing relationships, which is really beautiful, and I think that's what people are pining for is that deeper connection and wondering how to do that, and how to do that is easy to share, share on a deeper level, share on a more vulnerable level, let yourself lean and let people see you more, not in your strengths and your positives and all the shiny well bells and whistles, but in your challenges and in your vulnerabilities like that's that is literally the recipe for deeper connection.
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Yeah, it's a beautiful thing.
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Now, reflecting light question three, Georgia.
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You have a question for me.
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What is kind of the most challenging experience you've been through lately?
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How did you find your way through?
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Or not even lately, but it could be recently, right?
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But something that you felt was you know challenging for you, an obstacle you might have you know not known how you were gonna get through it.
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And if you don't want to share details, that's okay.
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But yeah, even if it's just some you know wisdom in how you've kind of found your way through, because lately I feel like I'm trying to have hope and to find my way through a difficult time.
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So I I felt like I needed to ask somebody that was just full of wisdom, you know, a question that could maybe support you know me in my journey, but also hopefully help others too.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Well, there's many.
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Yeah.
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And it's actually what as you ask, like when you say the most challenging experiences, I also just want to reflect back something you just said about if I if I look back, I don't see any of them as bad or negative, even the scariest, heaviest parts.
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Like even it doesn't mean I didn't see them as that way at the moment in the moment, but I don't see them that way now.
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Even losing my sister, I don't see that as bad.
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I don't see that as I don't see me as a victim of that, and I think that's probably the biggest piece.
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But I think honestly, the most challenging times are when you can't see the way forward.
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But one of the reasons why it's so challenging is because you can't see the way forward, you go into I'm failing.
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And then you're in this self-deprecating I'm a bad person, just such deep lack of self-support.
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And when you're in that space, you're basically feeling like you're not cutting it, which is like coming back to other pieces of our conversation today.
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It's like that we're not enough, and that we're that we're and then all of these reasons and excuses come in.
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I'm not this, I'm not that, I'm just that, and it's just like you're looking for the evidence of why you're failing or why you're not why you're not moving forward.
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And this is a hard concept to get until you really let yourself dive into it, but to trust that whatever is happening for you is meant and to lean into the feeling because I think that one of the most challenging things of life is resisting feelings.
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It's I'm feeling this, but I don't want to feel it, so I'm gonna do whatever it takes not to feel it.
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But wondering why you can't get through the feeling, it's like because you've got to go in.
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It's like it's a it's a a tunnel, not a cave.
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But we when it's really bad, we think it's a cave and we think that we're not gonna be able to get out.
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But we actually have to understand that in order to get through, we have to feel it.
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Is that making sense for you?
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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But I'm also trying to answer it in a way that people can really, no matter where they're at, they can feel that, right?
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And they can trust that I think that the coming back to that measuring, right?
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Is like the moment things aren't going right, we make it mean something rather than look at what it's offering us.
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So, what is this here to teach me?
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What can I how can I sit with this or how can I move it, or what can I do to support myself?
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And that is not usually where humans go.
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How can I support myself?
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How can I work through this?
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How can I explore this?
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That's not usually where they go.
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They go to I'm a bad person, I shouldn't be feeling this way, I don't want to feel that, I'm gonna go do that, and I'm gonna make myself feel this and that.
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You know what I mean?
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And you and I have talked about this in other ways before, but all of that that I was saying, like the measuring, the failure, the like all the evidence of how you're the bad person not doing it right, da-da-da-da.
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I mean, that all takes you away from finding the solution.
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But at the most, the deepest part is it has you forgetting to trust in your capability and your capacity, it has you forgetting to trust in yourself and forgetting that you're not alone and that you're always guided.
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Yeah, I mean, like, and that's the thing is like there's a a large, you know, there's a a part of life if I think that people that like for me, I'll speak about me.
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I've been doing that work of trying to reframe the narrative of like where I want my brain to start to go into when these moments come up for me.
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But then there's a there's sometimes it just feels like really difficult where it doesn't matter.
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All that what I know, that work I've done, it doesn't matter.
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It just it's it can't the brain can't actually compartmentalize it.
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It's just feels like yeah, the log you can't see the logic behind it, you can't see that logical uh breakdown, right?
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Do you know why though?
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And sometimes it might not be true for you, but it could be.
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Sometimes it's because we're going into the reframe before we felt the feelings and understood why they're there.
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Because when we feel the feelings and understand why they're there, that energy is no longer in the way.
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So then when we reframe, it actually feels right.
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But if the feeling's still there and we're trying to move past it, we're trying to like, I'm just gonna drive around here and get around it and reframe, then part of the reframe is making us feel fake.
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Yeah, because I've still got this feeling here, and it needs to be acknowledged, and it needs to, as you know, with your movement practices, it needs to be moved.
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Well, that's what I that's what I talk about.
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That's basically what radical acceptance is.
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It's it's it's it's acknowledging, and that's why whenever you know someone tells me, like, you know, for example, my friend comes to me, you know, like I I feel this way about my body, you know, I usually say, look, I I validate that you feel that way.
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Like I want you to know that I I actually greatly like have compassion that you feel I have compassion that you feel that way.
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It's that part of you that feels that way.
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But if it, you know, if there's any part of us that helps at all, I just want you to know I don't see you that way.
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But I want people to know, like, because there are times that I feel, you know, not good about myself.
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And because I've done a lot of that work as well, accepting that, you know, that part of you that feels that way, right?
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Because it's not all positive poly crap, you know, like it's just not like that.
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Like you just so part of our brain that is is a winning wired to give us all of that.
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Yeah.
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So it's so funny that you talk about that.
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Because the other day, I actually, you know, I was talking to my partner, I was like just talking out like some emotion and just just crying.
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I was just like needing to let it out and like telling her how I felt, I couldn't see a way forward, I didn't know what to do.
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And he's just like, you almost like giving me this motivational, like a few kind of words of like, you know, you have options, you have, you know, blah blah blah, basically the logic.
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And I was like, You don't want that.
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And I think I think I just said to him, I said, I'm done with this conversation.
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And I just walked upstairs and then I came back down.
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He said, Are you upset at me?
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I said, No, I just don't need that right now.
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I don't need you to fix me.
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I need I need to be held, I need you to reaffirm how I feel.
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Because he's like the logic person in the relationship, and I'm like the feel, the big feeler person, the dreamer, the whatever.
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And like, not that he doesn't feel no.
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I mean, it's a beautiful thing to understand about your partner, right?
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Is to know that that that is not something that's available for him, and that doesn't make him less than it just means that's that's not where I go when I need reassurance.
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Yeah, that's not where I go when I need to just be honored and say, Yeah, this sucks.
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Yeah, I just because I told him I said, Look, I've done I've been doing so much of the work, and I and I'm proud of the work I've been doing, but right now in this moment, I don't I don't want to, I can't, I can't think like that's beautiful.
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That's beautiful, so but at the same time, you're doing the work by being in that expression, yeah.
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You're doing the work by letting yourself feel it and being frustrated and being honest, like that is the work, yeah.
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And I hope that more people understand that and receive that because they think that when they're feeling that way, they're doing something wrong, and it's not true, it's human.
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It's such a beautiful thing, yeah, you know, but it also what I hear, and what I think is is maybe if someone's listening or for yourself, and I want to come back to another point that came up in your question one, is like asking yourself in that moment too, is this mine?
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Especially when it's someone that comes to you and says, I'm thinking about this in my body.
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Is that yours?
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And what I mean by that is maybe that was something that someone passed on to you and then you repeated it in your mind and it's become a belief.
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Or is it an external perception based on what you're watching, viewing, comparing yourself against?
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Or literally, is it your amygdala, your threat detector?
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Like, is it that doubt that you've just fed for a long time?
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And if you open that up, is it true?
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And that's really powerful because when we look, I do that with a lot of my clients, it's like when we look at the way we're thinking, we wish we weren't thinking, and then ask ourselves, is it ours?
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It can a lot of things can dissolve.
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And that comes back to what you were saying like, is it because of external perception?
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Is it because of a measure that I feel like I need to meet that isn't even mine?
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And that might be why it feels so uncomfortable within the body, because it's like doesn't even fit your mold, dude.
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Dude though, I love it, yeah.
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Well, I mean, this is often the way I just said that, that's often how I call myself out.
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Like I'll hear something and I'm like, dude, that's not an alignment with you.
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What are you doing?
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Or you I'll hear a really big fear, and I'm like, that is like delusional.
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Come on now, and then I will answer myself in a loving way.
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And I think, yes, some people might be like, that's crazy.
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It absolutely works, and my clients will tell you that it does.
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You've got to reason with those parts of yourself that you've given too much noise to, you've listened for too long, and it's like, no, yeah, not hearing that anymore because it's not true, it's not of service to me, and it ain't moving me forward.
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Exactly.
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Yeah, those are really important questions I started asking myself too.
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So beautiful, so good.
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I love where I love where this went today.
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Me too.
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Me too.
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And so I think with what I loved hearing were your intentions and your offerings within your classes, and I'm really, really stoked and grateful, and just yeah, that you're offering that.
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to like we need to be receiving that and and and from aligned people who really are sharing from experience and i and i think we're lucky to have that in your movement classes so that's where i wanted to go now it's like if people are listening where do they find you well i'm i'm currently in melbourne australia yeah like i'm affirmative resident now so there you go but i uh yeah i'm just in like kind of the the you could say the the the inner west of this like of the city of melbour a studio might called my mama said studios the name of it my mama said okay cool so and we have like two different oh sorry two different online as well yeah so at the moment like I don't have any new online stuff but they have I have some online videos with them like their with the studios digital studio which is through the their website and then I have some stuff on YouTube from like a few years ago still but I might be adding to those at like the idea in the next few months might be I might be doing some more online content.
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So uh maybe yeah yeah that's kind of where I'm at currently yeah and we'll share that in the show notes so if people are around you or if they want to chat tune into some of the things you've done online and keep an eye out for when the new stuff comes.
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Yeah yeah so that people can be great yeah yay I think it's absolutely just so on point for what people need to receive and what they need to shift within themselves is that really aligning with their self-worth and becoming their best teammate is like one of my favorite things is we get to be our best friend we get to be our best cheerleader and we get to treat we oh no one knows like what we need to hear like we do and so why not be our best mate yeah exactly we're talking to ourselves the most so exactly so why not let it be highly of service and deeply supportive and kind and maybe even a bit fun.
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Yeah that's great.
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Yay Georgia thank you so much thank you for having me back it's always my pleasure and I'm excited I'm excited about people getting to get to know the guests by coming back and and maybe even excited about what we talk about next and just really honored to have you here.
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Thank you so much and for all of those who of you who are listening there's notes in every show especially this one on how you can connect with Georgia we're both here if you want to if anything that spoke to you you want to have a deeper conversation and we are always here to open the door for reflection revelation and a beautiful resonance for healing for growth and for just getting to know ourselves as a human so thank you thank you thank you thank you
