Someone you know shares a massive win. One person hears it and goes, "How did they do that, and what could I learn?" Another starts building a case for why it was easier for them. This week Jodi unpacks what decides which way you go, sparked by Julie Chenell and Cathy Olson's episode on The Gorgeous Effect, where Julie called that second reaction, dare she say it, a victim mindset.
Jodi gets into the research on benign and malicious envy, and how the drama triangle shows you where you've handed over your power. She also looks at where your sense of agency came from in the first place, and how to step back into the part you can actually influence. When a friend's good news lands with a sting you didn't expect, this one's for you.
Chapters
00:00 The Spark
01:00 Where This Came From
03:03 Two Kinds of Envy
05:13 So What Makes the Difference?
07:35 The Drama Triangle
10:36 Knowing You're On It Isn't the Same as Getting Off
13:06 Stepping Out of the Triangle
15:54 But Where Does That Lens Come From?
20:56 So Which One Are You?
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🔗 Full show notes, references and transcript: https://minddrophq.com/post/he-ep19-why-someone-elses-success-triggers-you
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