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Many people feel a quiet pull toward something more meaningful, yet stay stuck trying to make life work through effort, logic, and the external approval.
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Dear listeners, today's conversation is about what happens when we stop forcing and start trusting.
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Right.
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So hey everyone, welcome back to another powerful episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, a podcast for honest conversations about mental clarity, emotional well-being, and living with intention.
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And today I'm joined by a lovely guest.
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Please welcome Anzul Kelly.
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Welcome to the show.
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Hi, thank you for having me, Avic.
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Amazing.
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So, dear listeners, before we delve deep into a discussion today, I'll quickly love to introduce with Anzu.
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So, Anzu is a spiritual guide, intuitive, and the honest, I'd say, uh honestly, I'd say she's the host of the Spirit Club podcast.
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Yes.
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And in this episode, we will explore the intuition, surrendering to God's path, and also how releasing limiting beliefs can support mental peace and a healthier relationship with ourselves and our lives.
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So why do you wait?
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Let's get started.
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Welcome to the show again.
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Thank you.
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And great, great intro.
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I love what you had to say about you know, thank you, not forcing and allowing flow.
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That's what I'm all about.
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Yeah, definitely.
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Definitely.
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So to start with your journey includes the burnout and uh feeling deeply stuck and eventually learning to trust your intuition and God uh in a new way, right?
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So, um what was life like mentally and emotionally just before that inner shift happened?
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Yeah.
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So that was at a time in my life where I was um, I had recently graduated university, I'd studied to be a geologist, and I was trying to get a job, and I could not get a job.
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I was like, I was so dead set on this career.
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I had struggled through university.
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You know, little did I realize at the time I was getting signs from God all the time that that wasn't the direction for me, but I was forcing and I was pushing, and then I couldn't get a job, and that was devastating.
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Devastating because I had put all of my worth into that career, into that path.
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And God was trying to redirect me.
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And so it was a real dark night.
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It was a real um difficult time, but luckily it pushed me to turn inward.
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I I I I would say here that um like many people think that intuition is a kind of vague or unreliable.
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Uh but from your experience, what do you think?
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Like, what is the biggest misunderstanding that people have about trusting themselves?
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Biggest misunderstanding people have about trusting themselves.
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Well, I would um I would rephrase that and say the biggest blocks people have about trusting themselves.
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Um because that's what's really getting in the way of the possibility.
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And I would say the biggest blocks off the top of my head, the first one would be the belief that if I trust myself, something bad will happen.
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I'll make a mistake, I'll fail, something like that.
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The second one would be if I trust myself, uh, like I have to make the most perfect decision.
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I have to make the most right decision.
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And that's really blocking them from trusting themselves.
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And then the third big one, and this one's a little um surprising, but if you the the third block would be if you believe that the needs of others is more important than the needs of yourself, you are not likely to trust yourself because you're always putting someone else before you and your needs.
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So I would say those are the three biggest things I've seen in my work getting in the way of people trusting themselves and their intuition.
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Got it.
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Got it.
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And how does ignoring that intuition affect the mental health over time?
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You are likely going to walk a path, live a life that is not truly aligned.
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Because your intuition is going to lead you down the path that is the most aligned.
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But if you are ignoring it, you're likely going to be forcing different paths that need a blueprint that is not yours.
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It's more like a blueprint that was designed by the family you grew up in, the society you grew up in, the community, whatever that happens to be.
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That's the going to be the blueprint you try to live.
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And that is quite likely not the blueprint you're meant to live.
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Got it.
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So I mean, I have to say that that disconnect between the, I would say, inner knowing and daily choices often shows up as anxiety or restlessness.
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Am I correct?
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Oh, yeah.
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How does that show up?
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The disconnect.
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I love what you said about restlessness.
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There's a lot of that because there's this, there's this unease with like, I'm not quite living the way I want.
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So restlessness, also disappointment, which can look like depression in a lot of cases, right?
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If we're really not on a path that's meant for us.
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Um, other mental health challenges.
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I mean, if you're ignoring your intuition, then you're less in your heart and your body, and you're more in your mind.
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So that might look like anxiety, erasing thoughts, over-analytical, all that sort of thing, stress.
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Okay.
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And like uh, let's uh say that let's talk about the uh root causes or maybe the deeper patterns.
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Why do you think like why do you think so many people struggle to trust God or themselves even when they feel like called to something more?
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah, okay.
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So there's trusting God and there's trusting ourselves.
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Yeah.
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And like they're a little bit intertwined.
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I would say trusting ourselves are some of those big blocks I talked about earlier.
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But why people struggle to trust God and where God is leading them, I would say the biggest reason is because of our basic survival instincts, right?
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Our basic survival instincts say, like, the more that I can control and the more that I know, the more likely I'll survive.
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And trusting God requires you to hand over that control to God.
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Hand over that control to God and be like, okay, God, I trust where it is that you're gonna leave me.
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And therefore, they're handing over like a survival in some cases.
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And although that's not true, it's what we perceive to be true.
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If I'm handing over where my career is gonna go, how I'm gonna make money, who I'm going to fall in love with, if I'm handing that over, I may perceive that as a threat to my survival, which is what makes it so difficult to trust in God.
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And what beliefs tend to keep people playing small the longest?
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What beliefs tend to keep people playing small?
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So I would say the first one being beliefs that come with self-doubt, so I'm not enough, I'm not good enough, I'm not special enough.
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Okay.
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Imposter beliefs, so I don't belong.
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Victim beliefs, so like the world is out to get me.
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Things won't work out for me, so that's gonna keep me playing small.
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And then another one that I see a lot of are like the beliefs of I'm gonna call it the martyr, which are like others matter more than me.
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If I do something for myself for my path, I'm gonna be hurting another person.
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Okay, okay.
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So you can say, like, we're talking about beliefs in a lot of different ways, right?
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We're like talking about beliefs that block you from trusting yourself, beliefs that keep you small, beliefs that stop you from trusting the universe.
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And I just want to kind of tie it all together with the reason we're talking about that.
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Yeah.
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Is because when you want change, when you want something in your life that you are not getting, what is standing between you and what you want is this belief, is this block.
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I call them interchangeable limiting belief and a block, same thing.
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And that belief lives in your subconscious, but it creates your thoughts, your emotions, and your behaviors.
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So it's sort of like the the system that's running the show.
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So if I'm holding that, if I don't address the belief, I can address the thoughts, the feelings, and the behaviors all day long.
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But if I don't address what's running them, change won't happen.
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Exactly.
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Exactly true.
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So I mean, those beliefs often sound logical on the surface level, but they feel very heavy in the body.
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Is it true?
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Yeah, that's a great point.
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I think that's a good indicator of a belief that is not serving you, right?
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Because beliefs are not facts, they are not facts.
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We know that because I can believe one thing and you can believe another.
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So they're not facts.
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I had this conversation with a podcast guest the other day.
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And so that means that at some point or another, a belief may serve me, and then at another point it might not serve me anymore.
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And how to know when one is no longer serving me?
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Well, maybe a great, as you said, a great indication would be to see how does it feel in the body when I connect to that belief.
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Agree.
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Totally agree.
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Yeah.
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In our everyday life, how does the mistrust in oneself show up mentally or emotionally?
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Yeah.
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How does the mistrust show up?
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So folks who don't trust themselves, there are some like general habits that I see.
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Um one is they will often look outside of themselves for answers.
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So they're gonna look, they're gonna browse the internet, they're gonna go to podcasts, they're gonna ask all their friends, like they're gonna look outside of themselves for answers.
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So they are externally referenced, which is dangerous, of IC, because the more externally referenced you are, the easier you are to control by the powers that be, right?
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They can just like feed you whatever narrative they want and you'll take it because you don't have the trust within yourself.
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So that's one thing that I definitely see.
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Um another sign that you don't trust yourself is you struggle to make big changes, big decisions.
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If you don't trust yourself, you probably don't make big changes in your life.
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You probably don't instigate them.
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Big changes only happen in your life when they are thrust upon you because you don't trust yourself enough to make that decision.
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So those are two big ones.
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I could go on.
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There's a lot of signs that we don't trust ourselves.
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Definitely correct.
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And what are the subtle signs that uh someone is forcing a path instead of uh being guided?
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Great.
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I love the word that you use subtle signs because it can be subtle, Avic.
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Yeah.
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Um, when we're forcing a path, you could say we are following the ego.
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And when we're being guided, we're following the higher self, the soul, God.
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We can kind of use all those words interchangeably.
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And so the subtle signs that I'm following my ego, um, will achieving this thing, will going down this path like fill a hole inside me, right?
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Like, am I looking to fill a wound of not being good enough, of um being valuable, of whatever that thing may be?
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That is a subtle sign.
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Um, another one would be if you're going down a path and like you keep meeting resistance, things are not working, like similar to the story I was telling you, as I was trying to be a geologist, I was meeting nothing but resistance.
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And I was bullheaded, full force ahead, going for it.
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Like it was the only thing that mattered in the world.
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So you will often like God will try to redirect you.
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God will try to pivot you, God will try to help you see things differently, whatever that happens to be.
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And if you are just forcing it, um you'll meet a lot of that resistance.
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So those are some subtle signs, maybe not so subtle always, that uh that you're forcing overflowing.
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Exactly.
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For someone who is listening who feels blogged or maybe overwhelmed, um, where does learning to trust intuition practically begin?
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Got a lot of practical exercises.
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I would say Okay, a really great one to start with is in your phone.
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Create a list, call it intuitive hits, and every time you get one, every time you get an intuitive hit, just write it down.
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I'm not even asking you to act on it.
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I'm asking you to just write it down.
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Log it.
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Because what you're gonna do over time is you're gonna write these intuitive hits down, and then you're gonna prove yourself right.
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And now you you may get an intuitive hit and you may do the opposite.
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That's fine.
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You can learn the hard way all day long.
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That's another, honestly, it's a great way to learn.
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So you make this list and you basically like reflect back to yourself that you can trust yourself.
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Does that make sense?
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Makes sense.
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That makes sense.
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Yeah.
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So I would say that's a good, like practical, like very grounded way to start to work with intuition.
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And then the more obvious way, maybe obvious to me, I don't know if it's obvious, is um practicing through meditation.
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So meditation, I'm sure you guys talk about it a lot on this podcast about the healthy mind, after all.
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Um the reason I'm specifically directing towards meditation for intuition is because when you slow those brain waves, you are it's easier for you to access both the subconscious mind and the superconscious mind.
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So we slow those brain waves, we make some quiet time to hear ourselves, to commune with our intuition, our higher self, God, any of the above.
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Um, so starting a meditation practice, I have a little, um, I have a couple of meditations on my YouTube and also on the Spirit Club podcast, I've got one that helps specifically with intuition.
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So I think that's another great place to start.
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That's really amazing.
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And surrender can feel scary sometimes, and especially when mental security comes from control.
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So, um, how do you help people move through fear while also trusting the God's path?
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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So, you know, I'm never gonna ask someone to move where they're truly too afraid to go.
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You know what I mean?
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Like you have to want.
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You have to want to work with God in that way.
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I'm not gonna, I'm not going to pressure anyone to work with God in that way.
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But to your point, the first place you always need to start is the nervous system.
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We need to get that nervous system feeling safe enough to hand over the driving wheel to God, right?
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Like if you are, if your nervous system is in a constant state of fight or flight, no way you're gonna give up that control.
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And that's okay.
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So great first place to start, nervous system.
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Um, and then something, an exercise that has worked really well for me.
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When I am trying to surrender something big.
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For example, Evic, I, you know, less than a year ago, I quit my job, sold everything, and moved from Canada to Greece, all because of God's guidance.
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So I was really surrendering a big life, a big um path that I'd committed to and I'd put a lot of time into in my whole life.
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Um, and in order for me to do that, the exercise that I used was I think of the worst case scenario for me.
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Okay, so let's say the worst case scenario for me at that time was, okay, I'm gonna quit my job.
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Worst case scenario is I'll never be able to find a job again.
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I will spend all my savings and I will have to move back home and move in with my parents.
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Okay.
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So if that's my worst case scenario, I just I start to normalize and get comfortable with my worst case scenario.
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And when I'm able to do that, once that comfort load, once it's not the most triggering, scary thing to me, then I'm able to surrender that control and take the leap because I I've like made peace with my worst case scenario.
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Exactly.
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For the listeners who want to explore your book or connect with you, where can they find you?
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Yeah.
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So come on over to Spirit Club Podcast.
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We're on all the podcast platforms.
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And this is where we do this inner work.
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We do this unblocking work, we do everything that you need to step into this bigger life that you feel called to.
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And if you want some one-on-one support, I open up my calendar once every quarter.
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So you'll find out about that through the podcast or through my Instagram, Angel Kelly.
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Amazing.
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So, dear listeners, what I'll do is I'll put all the links and the details into the show notes for your easy reference so that you can easily reach out to her.
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And thank you so much for listening to Healthy Mind Healthy Life.
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And if today's episode resonated, please take a moment to slow down and listen inward.
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Clarity often comes poetly.
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Right.
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So, with this hope, until next time, take care of your mind and your life.
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Thank you so much.
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Many people feel a quiet pull toward something more meaningful, yet stay stuck trying to make life work through effort, logic, and the external approval.
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Dear listeners, today's conversation is about what happens when we stop forcing and start trusting.
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Right.
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So hey everyone, welcome back to another powerful episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, a podcast for honest conversations about mental clarity, emotional well-being, and living with intention.
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And today I'm joined by a lovely guest.
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Please welcome Anzul Kelly.
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Welcome to the show.
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Hi, thank you for having me, Avic.
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Amazing.
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So, dear listeners, before we delve deep into a discussion today, I'll quickly love to introduce with Anzu.
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So, Anzu is a spiritual guide, intuitive, and the honest, I'd say, uh honestly, I'd say she's the host of the Spirit Club podcast.
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Yes.
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And in this episode, we will explore the intuition, surrendering to God's path, and also how releasing limiting beliefs can support mental peace and a healthier relationship with ourselves and our lives.
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So why do you wait?
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Let's get started.
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Welcome to the show again.
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Thank you.
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And great, great intro.
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I love what you had to say about you know, thank you, not forcing and allowing flow.
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That's what I'm all about.
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Yeah, definitely.
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Definitely.
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So to start with your journey includes the burnout and uh feeling deeply stuck and eventually learning to trust your intuition and God uh in a new way, right?
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So, um what was life like mentally and emotionally just before that inner shift happened?
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Yeah.
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So that was at a time in my life where I was um, I had recently graduated university, I'd studied to be a geologist, and I was trying to get a job, and I could not get a job.
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I was like, I was so dead set on this career.
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I had struggled through university.
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You know, little did I realize at the time I was getting signs from God all the time that that wasn't the direction for me, but I was forcing and I was pushing, and then I couldn't get a job, and that was devastating.
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Devastating because I had put all of my worth into that career, into that path.
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And God was trying to redirect me.
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And so it was a real dark night.
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It was a real um difficult time, but luckily it pushed me to turn inward.
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I I I I would say here that um like many people think that intuition is a kind of vague or unreliable.
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Uh but from your experience, what do you think?
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Like, what is the biggest misunderstanding that people have about trusting themselves?
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Biggest misunderstanding people have about trusting themselves.
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Well, I would um I would rephrase that and say the biggest blocks people have about trusting themselves.
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Um because that's what's really getting in the way of the possibility.
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And I would say the biggest blocks off the top of my head, the first one would be the belief that if I trust myself, something bad will happen.
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I'll make a mistake, I'll fail, something like that.
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The second one would be if I trust myself, uh, like I have to make the most perfect decision.
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I have to make the most right decision.
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And that's really blocking them from trusting themselves.
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And then the third big one, and this one's a little um surprising, but if you the the third block would be if you believe that the needs of others is more important than the needs of yourself, you are not likely to trust yourself because you're always putting someone else before you and your needs.
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So I would say those are the three biggest things I've seen in my work getting in the way of people trusting themselves and their intuition.
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Got it.
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Got it.
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And how does ignoring that intuition affect the mental health over time?
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You are likely going to walk a path, live a life that is not truly aligned.
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Because your intuition is going to lead you down the path that is the most aligned.
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But if you are ignoring it, you're likely going to be forcing different paths that need a blueprint that is not yours.
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It's more like a blueprint that was designed by the family you grew up in, the society you grew up in, the community, whatever that happens to be.
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That's the going to be the blueprint you try to live.
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And that is quite likely not the blueprint you're meant to live.
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Got it.
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So I mean, I have to say that that disconnect between the, I would say, inner knowing and daily choices often shows up as anxiety or restlessness.
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Am I correct?
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Oh, yeah.
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How does that show up?
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The disconnect.
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I love what you said about restlessness.
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There's a lot of that because there's this, there's this unease with like, I'm not quite living the way I want.
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So restlessness, also disappointment, which can look like depression in a lot of cases, right?
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If we're really not on a path that's meant for us.
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Um, other mental health challenges.
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I mean, if you're ignoring your intuition, then you're less in your heart and your body, and you're more in your mind.
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So that might look like anxiety, erasing thoughts, over-analytical, all that sort of thing, stress.
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Okay.
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And like uh, let's uh say that let's talk about the uh root causes or maybe the deeper patterns.
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Why do you think like why do you think so many people struggle to trust God or themselves even when they feel like called to something more?
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah, okay.
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So there's trusting God and there's trusting ourselves.
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Yeah.
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And like they're a little bit intertwined.
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I would say trusting ourselves are some of those big blocks I talked about earlier.
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But why people struggle to trust God and where God is leading them, I would say the biggest reason is because of our basic survival instincts, right?
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Our basic survival instincts say, like, the more that I can control and the more that I know, the more likely I'll survive.
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And trusting God requires you to hand over that control to God.
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Hand over that control to God and be like, okay, God, I trust where it is that you're gonna leave me.
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And therefore, they're handing over like a survival in some cases.
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And although that's not true, it's what we perceive to be true.
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If I'm handing over where my career is gonna go, how I'm gonna make money, who I'm going to fall in love with, if I'm handing that over, I may perceive that as a threat to my survival, which is what makes it so difficult to trust in God.
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And what beliefs tend to keep people playing small the longest?
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What beliefs tend to keep people playing small?
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So I would say the first one being beliefs that come with self-doubt, so I'm not enough, I'm not good enough, I'm not special enough.
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Okay.
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Imposter beliefs, so I don't belong.
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Victim beliefs, so like the world is out to get me.
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Things won't work out for me, so that's gonna keep me playing small.
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And then another one that I see a lot of are like the beliefs of I'm gonna call it the martyr, which are like others matter more than me.
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If I do something for myself for my path, I'm gonna be hurting another person.
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Okay, okay.
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So you can say, like, we're talking about beliefs in a lot of different ways, right?
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We're like talking about beliefs that block you from trusting yourself, beliefs that keep you small, beliefs that stop you from trusting the universe.
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And I just want to kind of tie it all together with the reason we're talking about that.
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Yeah.
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Is because when you want change, when you want something in your life that you are not getting, what is standing between you and what you want is this belief, is this block.
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I call them interchangeable limiting belief and a block, same thing.
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And that belief lives in your subconscious, but it creates your thoughts, your emotions, and your behaviors.
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So it's sort of like the the system that's running the show.
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So if I'm holding that, if I don't address the belief, I can address the thoughts, the feelings, and the behaviors all day long.
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But if I don't address what's running them, change won't happen.
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Exactly.
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Exactly true.
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So I mean, those beliefs often sound logical on the surface level, but they feel very heavy in the body.
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Is it true?
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Yeah, that's a great point.
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I think that's a good indicator of a belief that is not serving you, right?
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Because beliefs are not facts, they are not facts.
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We know that because I can believe one thing and you can believe another.
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So they're not facts.
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I had this conversation with a podcast guest the other day.
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And so that means that at some point or another, a belief may serve me, and then at another point it might not serve me anymore.
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And how to know when one is no longer serving me?
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Well, maybe a great, as you said, a great indication would be to see how does it feel in the body when I connect to that belief.
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Agree.
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Totally agree.
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Yeah.
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In our everyday life, how does the mistrust in oneself show up mentally or emotionally?
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Yeah.
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How does the mistrust show up?
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So folks who don't trust themselves, there are some like general habits that I see.
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Um one is they will often look outside of themselves for answers.
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So they're gonna look, they're gonna browse the internet, they're gonna go to podcasts, they're gonna ask all their friends, like they're gonna look outside of themselves for answers.
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So they are externally referenced, which is dangerous, of IC, because the more externally referenced you are, the easier you are to control by the powers that be, right?
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They can just like feed you whatever narrative they want and you'll take it because you don't have the trust within yourself.
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So that's one thing that I definitely see.
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Um another sign that you don't trust yourself is you struggle to make big changes, big decisions.
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If you don't trust yourself, you probably don't make big changes in your life.
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You probably don't instigate them.
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Big changes only happen in your life when they are thrust upon you because you don't trust yourself enough to make that decision.
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So those are two big ones.
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I could go on.
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There's a lot of signs that we don't trust ourselves.
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Definitely correct.
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And what are the subtle signs that uh someone is forcing a path instead of uh being guided?
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Great.
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I love the word that you use subtle signs because it can be subtle, Avic.
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Yeah.
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Um, when we're forcing a path, you could say we are following the ego.
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And when we're being guided, we're following the higher self, the soul, God.
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We can kind of use all those words interchangeably.
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And so the subtle signs that I'm following my ego, um, will achieving this thing, will going down this path like fill a hole inside me, right?
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Like, am I looking to fill a wound of not being good enough, of um being valuable, of whatever that thing may be?
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That is a subtle sign.
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Um, another one would be if you're going down a path and like you keep meeting resistance, things are not working, like similar to the story I was telling you, as I was trying to be a geologist, I was meeting nothing but resistance.
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And I was bullheaded, full force ahead, going for it.
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Like it was the only thing that mattered in the world.
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So you will often like God will try to redirect you.
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God will try to pivot you, God will try to help you see things differently, whatever that happens to be.
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And if you are just forcing it, um you'll meet a lot of that resistance.
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So those are some subtle signs, maybe not so subtle always, that uh that you're forcing overflowing.
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Exactly.
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For someone who is listening who feels blogged or maybe overwhelmed, um, where does learning to trust intuition practically begin?
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Got a lot of practical exercises.
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I would say Okay, a really great one to start with is in your phone.
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Create a list, call it intuitive hits, and every time you get one, every time you get an intuitive hit, just write it down.
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I'm not even asking you to act on it.
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I'm asking you to just write it down.
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Log it.
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Because what you're gonna do over time is you're gonna write these intuitive hits down, and then you're gonna prove yourself right.
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And now you you may get an intuitive hit and you may do the opposite.
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That's fine.
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You can learn the hard way all day long.
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That's another, honestly, it's a great way to learn.
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So you make this list and you basically like reflect back to yourself that you can trust yourself.
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Does that make sense?
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Makes sense.
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That makes sense.
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Yeah.
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So I would say that's a good, like practical, like very grounded way to start to work with intuition.
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And then the more obvious way, maybe obvious to me, I don't know if it's obvious, is um practicing through meditation.
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So meditation, I'm sure you guys talk about it a lot on this podcast about the healthy mind, after all.
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Um the reason I'm specifically directing towards meditation for intuition is because when you slow those brain waves, you are it's easier for you to access both the subconscious mind and the superconscious mind.
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So we slow those brain waves, we make some quiet time to hear ourselves, to commune with our intuition, our higher self, God, any of the above.
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Um, so starting a meditation practice, I have a little, um, I have a couple of meditations on my YouTube and also on the Spirit Club podcast, I've got one that helps specifically with intuition.
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So I think that's another great place to start.
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That's really amazing.
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And surrender can feel scary sometimes, and especially when mental security comes from control.
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So, um, how do you help people move through fear while also trusting the God's path?
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah.
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So, you know, I'm never gonna ask someone to move where they're truly too afraid to go.
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You know what I mean?
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Like you have to want.
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You have to want to work with God in that way.
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I'm not gonna, I'm not going to pressure anyone to work with God in that way.
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But to your point, the first place you always need to start is the nervous system.
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We need to get that nervous system feeling safe enough to hand over the driving wheel to God, right?
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Like if you are, if your nervous system is in a constant state of fight or flight, no way you're gonna give up that control.
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And that's okay.
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So great first place to start, nervous system.
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Um, and then something, an exercise that has worked really well for me.
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When I am trying to surrender something big.
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For example, Evic, I, you know, less than a year ago, I quit my job, sold everything, and moved from Canada to Greece, all because of God's guidance.
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So I was really surrendering a big life, a big um path that I'd committed to and I'd put a lot of time into in my whole life.
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Um, and in order for me to do that, the exercise that I used was I think of the worst case scenario for me.
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Okay, so let's say the worst case scenario for me at that time was, okay, I'm gonna quit my job.
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Worst case scenario is I'll never be able to find a job again.
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I will spend all my savings and I will have to move back home and move in with my parents.
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Okay.
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So if that's my worst case scenario, I just I start to normalize and get comfortable with my worst case scenario.
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And when I'm able to do that, once that comfort load, once it's not the most triggering, scary thing to me, then I'm able to surrender that control and take the leap because I I've like made peace with my worst case scenario.
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Exactly.
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For the listeners who want to explore your book or connect with you, where can they find you?
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Yeah.
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So come on over to Spirit Club Podcast.
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We're on all the podcast platforms.
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And this is where we do this inner work.
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We do this unblocking work, we do everything that you need to step into this bigger life that you feel called to.
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And if you want some one-on-one support, I open up my calendar once every quarter.
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So you'll find out about that through the podcast or through my Instagram, Angel Kelly.
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Amazing.
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So, dear listeners, what I'll do is I'll put all the links and the details into the show notes for your easy reference so that you can easily reach out to her.
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And thank you so much for listening to Healthy Mind Healthy Life.
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And if today's episode resonated, please take a moment to slow down and listen inward.
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Clarity often comes poetly.
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Right.
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So, with this hope, until next time, take care of your mind and your life.
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Thank you so much.
