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Guilt is about feeling horrible about something
that you did. Shame is about feeling horrible
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by who you are. Thanks for listening to Guidance
in Recovery. I'm Keegan Reed and every week
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I speak with guests to honestly explore recovery,
sobriety, the struggles that come with it
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and find things to help us in our recovery journeys.
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On today's episode, we're speaking to Amy Vinsa.
She is a certified tapping coach and the visionary
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founder of the Soar with Tapping app. We're
speaking about chakras and the shadows that
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they can carry and how we can move through them
to actually better ourselves.
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How are you doing today and what's a hill that
you're willing to die on whenever it comes
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to tapping? Oh my gosh. Okay. So, um, it's
great to be here. Thank you for having me again.
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It's good to see you again. Uh, a hell that
I'm willing to die on for tapping is just about
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any hill. It truly is. I've had so much transformation
in my life because of this tool. I use it
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on absolutely everything. including my pets
with success. And there's just nothing that
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scares me about it. There's there's only good
to be gained in in this arena as far as I'm
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concerned. So I don't think you could you could
present something to me that I would be like,
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Nope, nope, can't do it. So there's nothing
bad with this whole tapping thing. You're saying
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that no one's going to really regress into like
a trauma or something. I think you can go a
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little bit too fast with trauma sometimes. Sometimes
people really need a very slow approach. Like
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sometimes if it's really intense, we can start
with the trauma like in a vault on the other
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side of the city or something like that. And
then once your number gets down to a zero,
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when it's over there, then we bring it a little
closer. And then when maybe it's in the house
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and then you open the door. So it just depends
on the person. um Because some people are
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just willing to go there right away. But only
the individual person can know that about
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themselves, what they're willing to do. Gotcha.
So real quick, whenever it came to tapping
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and trying to figure out how far you're willing
to go with certain subjects, what's one of
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the things that someone needs to look out for
whenever they're exploring an uncomfortable
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emotion? Oh, let's see. um well, is this a good
time to get into the chakras already? Yeah,
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yeah, absolutely. Okay. Have you already like
gone over all of this stuff with it, with your
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listeners at any point, or should I kind of
give everybody a bit of an education about
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chakras? Um, I mean, everyone's got a slightly
different viewpoint on chakras from my understanding.
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So it's going to be better if we get Amy's
idea of chakras and how they work. and how
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they are incorporated with tapping as well.
Okay, perfect. I'm going to reference a book
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here just in case your listeners want to delve
more into it because this, um it's backwards,
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it's called Eastern Body, Western Mind by
Anodeith Judith, and it's like the Bible for
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chakras, basically. And I'll just give you kind
of the standard version of chakras and my
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understanding of what they correspond to as
far as uh different areas of your life, different
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emotions, and then different organs and systems
in the body. So the first chakras, otherwise
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known as the root chakra, which is in the general
vicinity of the tip of your tailbone. are
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other people that like to focus on the glands.
And so there's a gland that's right in between
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like your perineum and your uh tailbone, so
kind of right in that area. if you focus, I
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mean, general area, it's And that area tends
to focus on feelings of belonging, uh feelings
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of community, feeling like you're kind of you're
safe. It corresponds to bigger systems in
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the body, like our immune system, often our
skin. like bigger muscles and sometimes bones,
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that sort of thing. So bigger systems in the
body. Blood is one of the ones that's covered
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with the first chakra. So if you have any disorders
in any one of those things, the first chakra
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is where you want to look definitely. And then
the shadow that each chakra has a shadow, they
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have kind of a lightness. And then they have
a shadow. So the lightness of the first chakra
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is community and belonging and all of those
wonderful things and the physical body. And
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then the shadow side is fear. it's important
mostly to work through all of your fears.
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Those are generally held in that first chakra
area. And it's not just Fears like, you know,
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fear of heights or fear of spiders or something
along those lines. It's really goes a lot
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deeper than that. It's like fear that you don't
belong and fear that of, um, abandonment
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or rejection or, um, you know, fear that
you're not enough, like just really big kind
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of meaty heart of every single issue type of
fears. Mm hmm. Yeah. So that's actually where
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I like to start. A trauma lives there, as
you can probably imagine. And that's where
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I like to start with my clients, because that
is usually at the core of every single issue,
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whether it's physical or emotional that people
are experiencing in fear. And you can't really
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have great success if you start with other
chakras like maybe even the third or fourth
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or fifth, know, everybody likes to focus on
the heart chakra because it's so, you know,
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love, love, love and, or like the third eye
chakra because it's so sexy. Everybody wants
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to have their intuition. Um, but really if
you don't focus in on the fear, everything
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else will suffer as a result. It's like trying
to build a house or a multi-level building
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on a shaky foundation. Like you just can't do
it. Like you need to have that solid base.
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And that's why it's important, really important
to start with the first chakra. Okay. That
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makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. Cause I mean,
and you also said something that I've tried
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to do before too, like, Oh, let me work on the
heart. I want to love other people better.
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I want to love myself more. But if I'm sitting
there and everything is still operating in
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fear, then that's not how love works. And
honestly, all of our human problems that we
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tend to have are mostly centered down in chakras
one, two, and three. So if you work through
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those, the rest of them kind of take care of
themselves a little bit. So it's really important
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to focus our energy down in the first three
chakras. as we're doing the bulk of our healing.
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So most important, start with number one. Gotcha.
And I'm gonna say this too, you're gonna be
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dealing with your fears in layers. um You will
get to a point where you feel like I'm not
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afraid of anything and then you kind of expand
into the space that you've created for yourself
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by clearing some fears out. And then... As
you expand, you're going to bump up against
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your own boundaries again with fear. And
so then you'll need to clear another layer
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and then expand even more into the person that
you are supposed to be. And it just kind of
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keeps happening that way. So we're never done
with this work as much as I would love to be.
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uh We just never arrive. We just continue to...
it gets easier and easier as it goes, but we
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never really arrive at a destination point with
it. um So, first chakra is shadow is fear
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that we need to work through. The second chakra,
sacral chakra, is all about our relationship
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to different things in the world. So, it's our
relationship with other people, it's our relationship
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with money, our relationship with creativity.
um sexuality, all of those things. And with
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all the chakras, it's really important to have
a balance between power and vulnerability.
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And especially in the second chakra, this is
where people with addiction, maybe a lot of
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your listeners, this is generally where they're
going to spend the bulk of their time. definitely
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years first, always fears first, but then the
bulk of their time is going to be spent in
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the sacred chakra kind of balancing out. Um,
between power and vulnerability and all of
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these areas. Um, yeah. So the, the light part
of it is, you know, being able to have that
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balance between power and vulnerability, like
B you can comfortably be in a place of, um,
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stating your needs and desires. And, but you
can also be really vulnerable by letting somebody
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else lead. sometimes because both are necessary
in and partnerships and in life. But the
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shadow side is guilt and guilt thing that needs
to be worked through in the second chakra.
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So if you have guilt about what you do or don't
do sexually, you have guilt about what you
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do or don't do in a relationship or you do or
don't do with money. You know, these are really
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big issues that most people find themselves
either lacking in or they just go overboard
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with it. Yeah. Yeah. So it's all about finding
that balance and ridding yourself of guilt.
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So the goal is to be unapologetic about whether
or not you, you know, cry at uh sad movies
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or sad situations and unapologetic about asking
for a big race, you know, something along
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those lines. So it really is about being able
to just be whoever you are without an apology
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in any way, shape or form and know that and
know that you have strengths and you have weaknesses
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and everybody does and that doesn't make you
feel like less of a person in any way. Yeah.
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So that's cool with the second chakra. Okay.
Okay. So third chakra, do you have any questions
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about that one? Well, that one's kind of interesting
because I didn't really realize that it was
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so tied to relationships and like creativity
and stuff as well. and it was interesting too,
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because whenever you first said like the power
versus vulnerability aspect, part of me was
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like, okay, so the power is the light, the vulnerability
is the shadow, but it's not that way. No, didn't
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seem to judge that, right? Like that's what
we assume. We don't always want to be in the
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power mode at all. That is not balance. That
is not a balance. So I get that. think that
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that's probably a common misconception about
what it should look like. And I think that
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we're kind of fed an idea by our culture about
what is acceptable and what isn't. And in our
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culture, vulnerability is not acceptable in
most ways. Yeah, unfortunately. So that's why
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you would automatically consider it a shadow,
but it's not. the whole society thing being
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like, all right, we have to be in charge of
our lives. It's like, no, there's some things
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that I'm definitely not in charge of. And I
just have to kind of go with the flow. Yeah,
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absolutely. Huh. OK. So, ah, man, that's interesting.
And so with the chakras, they really go from
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bottom up, not top down. When you are working
through trauma. And, and, you know, disempowering
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beliefs, issues with your body, that's the
place that you should start. Yeah. Yeah. Second
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chakra organs are all reproductive organs
and also lower back like a lot of people have
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lower back pain, they probably feel really vulnerable
around money. And so that's an area to focus
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on. Like I mentioned, it's also heavily associated
with addiction, food addiction, any kind of
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addiction, you know. Yeah. And I mean, that
one's kind of weird too, because in the whole
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healing journey, it's definitely the root
and sacral I can tell are integral in healing
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all that because one, you need community of
some sorts, at least connection with yourself
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up. of foremost and then you also have to be
vulnerable to heal and you have to be willing
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to do this kind of stuff and if we're if we're
like running in that fear mode if we're sitting
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there and isolating and just wanting to be disconnected
then there's no real hope of actually getting
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out of addiction so that makes a lot of sense
kind of blows my mind yeah yeah it's a real
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revelation when you think of it in those terms
yeah uh and Also, whenever before we got
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started recording, I had a moment where I was
getting overstimulated and I was like, I just
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wish my skin would stop touching the air whenever
you said root chakra. I was like, huh, I
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wonder if I like I'm anticipating a package
coming in and it's like, I wonder if I'm just
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so like shooken by that, that my root chakra
is just like, all right, everything just tap.
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Don't touch nothing. But yeah, yeah. It's very
strange. Any different directions can get you
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dysregulated too. It doesn't take much, right?
No. Right. Yeah. So third chakra solar plexus
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is kind of right. If you wear your ribs come
together, it's right underneath that spot,
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like just below your ribs right there. And that
is all associated with our complete digestive
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system. So other than like the sigmoid colon,
which is down at the very bottom, it's basically
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mouth to lower intestine. Okay. So if you
have any kind of like people with Crohn's or
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um even like food sensitivities or colitis,
you know, even constipation, those type of
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things, that's um this is an area that you're
going to want to focus on. indigestion, whatever
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it is. this area is all about our sense of self.
On the power side, it's being willing to
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be seen out in the world, being willing to kind
of have people see all of our good and bad
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aspects of our health. And on the vulnerability
side, it's about feeling shame about who we
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are. So just to make it that distinction between
guilt and shame, guilt is about uh feeling
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horrible about something that you did. Shame
is about feeling horrible by who you are.
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Yeah. And that's a big distinction. Yes. Yes.
um That's a very big deal. And people with
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a lot of trauma, especially like sexual trauma,
women with sexual trauma, often have significant
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problems in their solar plexus or in their
digestive system because they feel so much
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shame around the aspect of their trauma.
Yeah, that would make a lot of sense. And
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oof. So uh what's the shadow aspect of the solar
plexus? It's the shame. It's shame. Oh, it
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is a shame. So that's the thing that you want
to focus on with your tapping. So it would
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be shame about, you know, anytime, a lot of
times there's perfectionism and, or people
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pleasing. And so there's shame if you don't
do that, there's shame if you're not perfect,
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shame, if you make a mistake, shame, if you
have an addiction that you don't want people
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to see, I mean, there's just a million things
to feel shameful about. Um, and those all
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need to be neutralized with tapping in order
to achieve. really good balance and in your
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chakra and your solar plexus. Okay. Oh, that
makes a lot of sense. I'm, oh, man, that
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that's interesting to me, because whenever
I think about like showing up for myself, I
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always kind of get that feeling right there
where it's almost like butterflies in the
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stomach, but it's not quite butterflies in the
stomach. And it's like, part of me is like,
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it's recognizing that, oh, I'm having to be
seen and a lot of me is like, hey, I don't
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want to be seen because last time I was seen
bad things happen. Super risky. Uh huh. Yeah.
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Yeah. It feels so scary. I totally went through
this when I was, you know, in the place where
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I had to start marketing my, business and my
app. And, I, I didn't like you. I don't. want
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people to see me. I don't want to be in the
spotlight at all. And I had to work through
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that a lot, work through that fear of people
seeing the fact, you know, probably the fact
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that I am not perfect. And there are, I do
have issues, you know, even with all of the
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tapping that I do, it's still just, you know,
something that em I've, I want to keep private.
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I don't want anybody to see it. No, I have
some compassion and empathy for other people
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when they feel that way. I don't seem to have
it for myself a lot of times, you know what
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I mean? Yeah. And so the solar plexus, guess
whenever you work on that, it's being able
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to show compassion for yourself too. Oh, absolutely.
Absolutely. I actually think that we should
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come first in all of these things. We should
come first. Like if we're going to work on
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your heart chakra, I think you have to work
on loving you first before you can work on
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giving it away to other people. Having compassion
and even a measure of pride in who you are.
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Pride. That's a tough one. know. It almost sounds
like arrogance to us to struggle with it.
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Exactly. Yeah, but again, there should be a
balance. Moving forward to number four, correct?
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To the heart chakra. Yeah. The one that people
love, love, love to work on because I want
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to feel more love too. oh Totally do. That is
definitely the power side and being able to
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um kind of the power side of that is being
able to reach for what you want, reach for
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love and know that you deserve it. And then
the shadow side is the inner critic that tells
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you that you don't deserve it. Ouch. Yeah.
And it really is. And grief, there's a lot
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of grief around that. There's so much deep
sadness that's associated or that's just underneath
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the surface of that inner critic. And that
is the true shadow, but it's the inner critic
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that prevents us from reaching it and having
compassion for ourselves. So we have to work
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through that inner critic first. And it is literally
the harshest shadow that we have in all of
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the chakras is that inner critic. And yeah,
it's so noisy and bitchy. Yeah. I know. And
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it does some serious damage. em Yeah, it really
does. It's interesting too, because I've spoken
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to Emma Lyons and she talks how our inner critic
is really just inner shame. And it's just
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essentially like an inner narcissist of sorts.
And whenever we spoke, it really just made
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a lot of sense. And I was like, oh, okay. And
so whenever I've kind of taken that angle
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of like, okay, so this is more of someone else
put this programming in me to shame myself
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for things that I feel or did or so on and
so forth and how I view myself, it's really
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like change the game on healing because I can
not sit there and be as harsh anymore. I can
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sit there and kind of change the angle of like,
okay, well, this is how I think, or this is
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how I feel. And that's just kind of what it
is. Like I can explore that for sure, but I
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don't have to beat myself up for just having
a feeling. Yeah. You know? Yeah. So there's
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no closely intertwined. Like the minute you
feel that shame, then the inner critic gets
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triggered and starts telling you you're a POS.
Um, so, but if you can see how, if you work
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through the shame in your solar plexus, then
the inner critic doesn't have any ammunition
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anymore. there's nothing there for it to latch
onto and dig its claws in and, um, yeah. and
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do damage. Yeah. So. Oh, OK. So the shadow
of the heart is the inner critic. Got it. Inner
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critic and below that is uh really deep seeded
grief, like really such deep, heartbroken sadness
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over the uh the disconnection that that that
creates in our heart to ourselves, to being
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able to love ourselves, but also the disconnection
that it creates. in our relationships because
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it's almost impossible to love somebody else
when you don't love yourself. It's just really
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hard. It's more performative at that point
and not a real um authentic love. I'll just
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say it that way. Yeah. Yeah. And I know whenever
I was on that spectrum of stuff, that performative
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love also did come back to the inner critic
being like, oh, Well, now you can feel guilty
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for this because it's not all there. And I was
like, damn it. I thought I'm doing the right
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thing. It's never ending. Oh, I totally know
what you mean. Yeah. Yeah, it's brutal. not
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only is it the organs, it's not only is it the
heart, but it's also the lungs, upper shoulders
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and arms. So like if you have a lot of tension
in your upper shoulders and stuff like that.
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It's usually, usually has to do more with like
anger and resentment, but it's about anger
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and resentment that other people have something
that you don't sort of thing. The ability to
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love themselves, the ability to ask for what
they need, the ability to like do that we
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ourselves want to do and don't feel entitled
to it because we don't love ourselves enough.
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Yeah. Self advocacy. That's a really hard lesson
to learn. Yes. Damn. I know. And I guess that
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would go right up next to the throat chakra,
right? Yeah. Is that next? Throat chakra is
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next. And as you can imagine, the throat chakra
is all about, uh, power side is truth, truth,
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and then lies is the shadow. And you might
think that it's really obvious what the lies
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would be lying to other people. Um, but it
really is much more about the lies that we
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tell ourselves about what's really going on
for us. Um, and I'll give you a great example.
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Most women that have a lot of, um, our, our
moms, they take care of other people a lot.
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They have a lot of people pleasing tendencies,
that sort of thing. they will deny to the end
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that they have needs. Oh, ouch. That everybody
has needs and invariably those women struggle
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with slow thyroid. So our thyroid glands are
very much associated with the throat chakra.
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Obviously if you have any problems speaking
or, um you know, any thing happening in that
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area. would also be associated with the throat
chakra, but the thyroid is also a big portion
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of that. So the shadow to work through there
is the lies that we tell other people. Definitely
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we don't want to, you know, tell mistruths
to other people, but the ones that we tell
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ourselves are the ones that are the hardest
to swallow. Yeah. This is also kind of the
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area where the Our outer world connects with
our inner world. So it's our ability. This
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is our ability to release emotions that are,
that have plagued us for a long time. So speaking
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them out loud actually helps to release them
from our body. Um, and you know, being able
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to speak our truth, like if we're really angry
about something, being able to say it is a
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very cathartic thing for somebody that has,
um, blockages in their throat chakra. So it's
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all about kind of speaking our truth, what we're
feeling, what we really want, all of those
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things. Ooh, okay. I love that. And I mean,
like you said, some of the truths, some of
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the lies that we tell ourselves are the hardest
ones to kind of overcome. And you know that
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saying that uh to tell a good lie, you have
to believe it. Well, I don't know about you,
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but I believed every time I said I wasn't worth
the damn or this that or another. And so all
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those other shadow chakras. Yeah. Oh, ouch.
Yeah. Damn. I know. I know. But then again,
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I'm going to I'm just going to go back to this
because this is the thing that gives me hope.
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You work through fear and you work through guilt
and you work through shame. And then there's
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hardly anything there other than. an old pattern
maybe that you need to let go of to be able
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to speak your truth without fear, without guilt
and without feeling shame about whatever your
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truth is. So it's just a matter then of changing
a pattern for yourself and you know, going
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outside of your comfort zone a little bit to
try something new and actually speak your
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truth. to safe people, not, you know, don't
go with a megaphone out there. yeah, so it's
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the working on that alone sometimes can feel
really overwhelming working on whatever the
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issue is for the throat chakra. But you've already
worked through the majority of it if you've
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gone through chakras one, two and three. um
So that's good news. Yeah, that is good news.
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And what is that saying that you have to really
air your grievances to kind of get them out
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of you anyways? Absolutely. Absolutely. Air
all the feelings. All your all the guilt,
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all the shame, all the joy when there's a part
of you that thinks you shouldn't feel joy or,
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know, whatever it is. Grief. Yeah, all of it.
Being able to talk through it, get rid of
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it, which is why You know, just having a friend
that you can talk to can be such a huge help
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in times of struggle. Yeah. Okay. Ooh. So
I think that one, I still kind of need to work
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on a little bit myself, but anyways. Me too.
Yeah. So the next chakra is our... Third
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Eye Chakra. And this is where most people associated
with it. Dr. Joe Dispenza will tell you that
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it's the pineal gland, which is kind of right
at the top of your spine and the uh kind of
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like the base of your skull and the top of your
spine meat. It's kind of right in the middle.
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And that is all about intuition, imagination,
ability to dream, ability to kind of...
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Maybe see stuff that isn't necessarily there.
Just see the reality, which isn't always just
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the physical world. Right? Yep. Have you listened
to the telepathy tapes by any chance? It's
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a podcast. I've heard of it, but I have not
listened myself. OK. The telepathy tapes are
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just a great example of a really powerful third
eye chakra because there's all of these kids
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with autism and I won't go too deeply into it.
um But they have the extraordinary ability
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to um communicate with people telepathically.
And it's because their light body is so disconnected
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from their physical body. Most of us are so
grounded in the physical world, it's hard to
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imagine. the lightness and the spirituality
aspect of things sometimes. But they're so
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connected to spirituality that they have trouble
um having control over their physical body.
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But they have this amazing ability to have
telepathic communication with people that they're
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closest to. It's really cool. It's really cool.
That is really cool.
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Thank for watching part one with AmyVinza. Be
sure to stick around for part two as we finish
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talking about the chakras, their shadows, and
how we can move through all that with tapping
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to make ourselves even better.
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Guilt is about feeling horrible about something
that you did. Shame is about feeling horrible
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by who you are. Thanks for listening to Guidance
in Recovery. I'm Keegan Reed and every week
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I speak with guests to honestly explore recovery,
sobriety, the struggles that come with it
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and find things to help us in our recovery journeys.
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On today's episode, we're speaking to Amy Vinsa.
She is a certified tapping coach and the visionary
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founder of the Soar with Tapping app. We're
speaking about chakras and the shadows that
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they can carry and how we can move through them
to actually better ourselves.
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How are you doing today and what's a hill that
you're willing to die on whenever it comes
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to tapping? Oh my gosh. Okay. So, um, it's
great to be here. Thank you for having me again.
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It's good to see you again. Uh, a hell that
I'm willing to die on for tapping is just about
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any hill. It truly is. I've had so much transformation
in my life because of this tool. I use it
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on absolutely everything. including my pets
with success. And there's just nothing that
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scares me about it. There's there's only good
to be gained in in this arena as far as I'm
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concerned. So I don't think you could you could
present something to me that I would be like,
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Nope, nope, can't do it. So there's nothing
bad with this whole tapping thing. You're saying
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that no one's going to really regress into like
a trauma or something. I think you can go a
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little bit too fast with trauma sometimes. Sometimes
people really need a very slow approach. Like
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sometimes if it's really intense, we can start
with the trauma like in a vault on the other
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side of the city or something like that. And
then once your number gets down to a zero,
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when it's over there, then we bring it a little
closer. And then when maybe it's in the house
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and then you open the door. So it just depends
on the person. um Because some people are
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just willing to go there right away. But only
the individual person can know that about
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themselves, what they're willing to do. Gotcha.
So real quick, whenever it came to tapping
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and trying to figure out how far you're willing
to go with certain subjects, what's one of
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the things that someone needs to look out for
whenever they're exploring an uncomfortable
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emotion? Oh, let's see. um well, is this a good
time to get into the chakras already? Yeah,
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yeah, absolutely. Okay. Have you already like
gone over all of this stuff with it, with your
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listeners at any point, or should I kind of
give everybody a bit of an education about
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chakras? Um, I mean, everyone's got a slightly
different viewpoint on chakras from my understanding.
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So it's going to be better if we get Amy's
idea of chakras and how they work. and how
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they are incorporated with tapping as well.
Okay, perfect. I'm going to reference a book
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here just in case your listeners want to delve
more into it because this, um it's backwards,
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it's called Eastern Body, Western Mind by
Anodeith Judith, and it's like the Bible for
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chakras, basically. And I'll just give you kind
of the standard version of chakras and my
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understanding of what they correspond to as
far as uh different areas of your life, different
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emotions, and then different organs and systems
in the body. So the first chakras, otherwise
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known as the root chakra, which is in the general
vicinity of the tip of your tailbone. are
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other people that like to focus on the glands.
And so there's a gland that's right in between
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like your perineum and your uh tailbone, so
kind of right in that area. if you focus, I
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mean, general area, it's And that area tends
to focus on feelings of belonging, uh feelings
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of community, feeling like you're kind of you're
safe. It corresponds to bigger systems in
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the body, like our immune system, often our
skin. like bigger muscles and sometimes bones,
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that sort of thing. So bigger systems in the
body. Blood is one of the ones that's covered
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with the first chakra. So if you have any disorders
in any one of those things, the first chakra
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is where you want to look definitely. And then
the shadow that each chakra has a shadow, they
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have kind of a lightness. And then they have
a shadow. So the lightness of the first chakra
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is community and belonging and all of those
wonderful things and the physical body. And
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then the shadow side is fear. it's important
mostly to work through all of your fears.
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Those are generally held in that first chakra
area. And it's not just Fears like, you know,
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fear of heights or fear of spiders or something
along those lines. It's really goes a lot
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deeper than that. It's like fear that you don't
belong and fear that of, um, abandonment
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or rejection or, um, you know, fear that
you're not enough, like just really big kind
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of meaty heart of every single issue type of
fears. Mm hmm. Yeah. So that's actually where
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I like to start. A trauma lives there, as
you can probably imagine. And that's where
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I like to start with my clients, because that
is usually at the core of every single issue,
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whether it's physical or emotional that people
are experiencing in fear. And you can't really
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have great success if you start with other
chakras like maybe even the third or fourth
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or fifth, know, everybody likes to focus on
the heart chakra because it's so, you know,
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love, love, love and, or like the third eye
chakra because it's so sexy. Everybody wants
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to have their intuition. Um, but really if
you don't focus in on the fear, everything
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else will suffer as a result. It's like trying
to build a house or a multi-level building
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on a shaky foundation. Like you just can't do
it. Like you need to have that solid base.
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And that's why it's important, really important
to start with the first chakra. Okay. That
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makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. Cause I mean,
and you also said something that I've tried
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to do before too, like, Oh, let me work on the
heart. I want to love other people better.
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I want to love myself more. But if I'm sitting
there and everything is still operating in
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fear, then that's not how love works. And
honestly, all of our human problems that we
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tend to have are mostly centered down in chakras
one, two, and three. So if you work through
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those, the rest of them kind of take care of
themselves a little bit. So it's really important
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to focus our energy down in the first three
chakras. as we're doing the bulk of our healing.
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So most important, start with number one. Gotcha.
And I'm gonna say this too, you're gonna be
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dealing with your fears in layers. um You will
get to a point where you feel like I'm not
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afraid of anything and then you kind of expand
into the space that you've created for yourself
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by clearing some fears out. And then... As
you expand, you're going to bump up against
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your own boundaries again with fear. And
so then you'll need to clear another layer
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and then expand even more into the person that
you are supposed to be. And it just kind of
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keeps happening that way. So we're never done
with this work as much as I would love to be.
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uh We just never arrive. We just continue to...
it gets easier and easier as it goes, but we
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never really arrive at a destination point with
it. um So, first chakra is shadow is fear
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that we need to work through. The second chakra,
sacral chakra, is all about our relationship
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to different things in the world. So, it's our
relationship with other people, it's our relationship
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with money, our relationship with creativity.
um sexuality, all of those things. And with
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all the chakras, it's really important to have
a balance between power and vulnerability.
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And especially in the second chakra, this is
where people with addiction, maybe a lot of
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your listeners, this is generally where they're
going to spend the bulk of their time. definitely
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years first, always fears first, but then the
bulk of their time is going to be spent in
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the sacred chakra kind of balancing out. Um,
between power and vulnerability and all of
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these areas. Um, yeah. So the, the light part
of it is, you know, being able to have that
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balance between power and vulnerability, like
B you can comfortably be in a place of, um,
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stating your needs and desires. And, but you
can also be really vulnerable by letting somebody
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else lead. sometimes because both are necessary
in and partnerships and in life. But the
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shadow side is guilt and guilt thing that needs
to be worked through in the second chakra.
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So if you have guilt about what you do or don't
do sexually, you have guilt about what you
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do or don't do in a relationship or you do or
don't do with money. You know, these are really
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big issues that most people find themselves
either lacking in or they just go overboard
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with it. Yeah. Yeah. So it's all about finding
that balance and ridding yourself of guilt.
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So the goal is to be unapologetic about whether
or not you, you know, cry at uh sad movies
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or sad situations and unapologetic about asking
for a big race, you know, something along
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those lines. So it really is about being able
to just be whoever you are without an apology
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in any way, shape or form and know that and
know that you have strengths and you have weaknesses
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and everybody does and that doesn't make you
feel like less of a person in any way. Yeah.
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So that's cool with the second chakra. Okay.
Okay. So third chakra, do you have any questions
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about that one? Well, that one's kind of interesting
because I didn't really realize that it was
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so tied to relationships and like creativity
and stuff as well. and it was interesting too,
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because whenever you first said like the power
versus vulnerability aspect, part of me was
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like, okay, so the power is the light, the vulnerability
is the shadow, but it's not that way. No, didn't
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seem to judge that, right? Like that's what
we assume. We don't always want to be in the
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power mode at all. That is not balance. That
is not a balance. So I get that. think that
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that's probably a common misconception about
what it should look like. And I think that
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we're kind of fed an idea by our culture about
what is acceptable and what isn't. And in our
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culture, vulnerability is not acceptable in
most ways. Yeah, unfortunately. So that's why
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you would automatically consider it a shadow,
but it's not. the whole society thing being
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like, all right, we have to be in charge of
our lives. It's like, no, there's some things
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that I'm definitely not in charge of. And I
just have to kind of go with the flow. Yeah,
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absolutely. Huh. OK. So, ah, man, that's interesting.
And so with the chakras, they really go from
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bottom up, not top down. When you are working
through trauma. And, and, you know, disempowering
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beliefs, issues with your body, that's the
place that you should start. Yeah. Yeah. Second
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chakra organs are all reproductive organs
and also lower back like a lot of people have
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lower back pain, they probably feel really vulnerable
around money. And so that's an area to focus
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on. Like I mentioned, it's also heavily associated
with addiction, food addiction, any kind of
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addiction, you know. Yeah. And I mean, that
one's kind of weird too, because in the whole
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healing journey, it's definitely the root
and sacral I can tell are integral in healing
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all that because one, you need community of
some sorts, at least connection with yourself
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up. of foremost and then you also have to be
vulnerable to heal and you have to be willing
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to do this kind of stuff and if we're if we're
like running in that fear mode if we're sitting
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there and isolating and just wanting to be disconnected
then there's no real hope of actually getting
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out of addiction so that makes a lot of sense
kind of blows my mind yeah yeah it's a real
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revelation when you think of it in those terms
yeah uh and Also, whenever before we got
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started recording, I had a moment where I was
getting overstimulated and I was like, I just
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wish my skin would stop touching the air whenever
you said root chakra. I was like, huh, I
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wonder if I like I'm anticipating a package
coming in and it's like, I wonder if I'm just
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so like shooken by that, that my root chakra
is just like, all right, everything just tap.
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Don't touch nothing. But yeah, yeah. It's very
strange. Any different directions can get you
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dysregulated too. It doesn't take much, right?
No. Right. Yeah. So third chakra solar plexus
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is kind of right. If you wear your ribs come
together, it's right underneath that spot,
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like just below your ribs right there. And that
is all associated with our complete digestive
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system. So other than like the sigmoid colon,
which is down at the very bottom, it's basically
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mouth to lower intestine. Okay. So if you
have any kind of like people with Crohn's or
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um even like food sensitivities or colitis,
you know, even constipation, those type of
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things, that's um this is an area that you're
going to want to focus on. indigestion, whatever
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it is. this area is all about our sense of self.
On the power side, it's being willing to
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be seen out in the world, being willing to kind
of have people see all of our good and bad
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aspects of our health. And on the vulnerability
side, it's about feeling shame about who we
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are. So just to make it that distinction between
guilt and shame, guilt is about uh feeling
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horrible about something that you did. Shame
is about feeling horrible by who you are.
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Yeah. And that's a big distinction. Yes. Yes.
um That's a very big deal. And people with
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a lot of trauma, especially like sexual trauma,
women with sexual trauma, often have significant
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problems in their solar plexus or in their
digestive system because they feel so much
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shame around the aspect of their trauma.
Yeah, that would make a lot of sense. And
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oof. So uh what's the shadow aspect of the solar
plexus? It's the shame. It's shame. Oh, it
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is a shame. So that's the thing that you want
to focus on with your tapping. So it would
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be shame about, you know, anytime, a lot of
times there's perfectionism and, or people
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pleasing. And so there's shame if you don't
do that, there's shame if you're not perfect,
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shame, if you make a mistake, shame, if you
have an addiction that you don't want people
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to see, I mean, there's just a million things
to feel shameful about. Um, and those all
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need to be neutralized with tapping in order
to achieve. really good balance and in your
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chakra and your solar plexus. Okay. Oh, that
makes a lot of sense. I'm, oh, man, that
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that's interesting to me, because whenever
I think about like showing up for myself, I
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always kind of get that feeling right there
where it's almost like butterflies in the
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stomach, but it's not quite butterflies in the
stomach. And it's like, part of me is like,
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it's recognizing that, oh, I'm having to be
seen and a lot of me is like, hey, I don't
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want to be seen because last time I was seen
bad things happen. Super risky. Uh huh. Yeah.
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Yeah. It feels so scary. I totally went through
this when I was, you know, in the place where
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I had to start marketing my, business and my
app. And, I, I didn't like you. I don't. want
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people to see me. I don't want to be in the
spotlight at all. And I had to work through
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that a lot, work through that fear of people
seeing the fact, you know, probably the fact
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that I am not perfect. And there are, I do
have issues, you know, even with all of the
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tapping that I do, it's still just, you know,
something that em I've, I want to keep private.
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I don't want anybody to see it. No, I have
some compassion and empathy for other people
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when they feel that way. I don't seem to have
it for myself a lot of times, you know what
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I mean? Yeah. And so the solar plexus, guess
whenever you work on that, it's being able
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to show compassion for yourself too. Oh, absolutely.
Absolutely. I actually think that we should
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come first in all of these things. We should
come first. Like if we're going to work on
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your heart chakra, I think you have to work
on loving you first before you can work on
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giving it away to other people. Having compassion
and even a measure of pride in who you are.
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Pride. That's a tough one. know. It almost sounds
like arrogance to us to struggle with it.
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Exactly. Yeah, but again, there should be a
balance. Moving forward to number four, correct?
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To the heart chakra. Yeah. The one that people
love, love, love to work on because I want
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to feel more love too. oh Totally do. That is
definitely the power side and being able to
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um kind of the power side of that is being
able to reach for what you want, reach for
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love and know that you deserve it. And then
the shadow side is the inner critic that tells
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you that you don't deserve it. Ouch. Yeah.
And it really is. And grief, there's a lot
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of grief around that. There's so much deep
sadness that's associated or that's just underneath
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the surface of that inner critic. And that
is the true shadow, but it's the inner critic
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that prevents us from reaching it and having
compassion for ourselves. So we have to work
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through that inner critic first. And it is literally
the harshest shadow that we have in all of
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the chakras is that inner critic. And yeah,
it's so noisy and bitchy. Yeah. I know. And
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it does some serious damage. em Yeah, it really
does. It's interesting too, because I've spoken
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to Emma Lyons and she talks how our inner critic
is really just inner shame. And it's just
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essentially like an inner narcissist of sorts.
And whenever we spoke, it really just made
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a lot of sense. And I was like, oh, okay. And
so whenever I've kind of taken that angle
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of like, okay, so this is more of someone else
put this programming in me to shame myself
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for things that I feel or did or so on and
so forth and how I view myself, it's really
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like change the game on healing because I can
not sit there and be as harsh anymore. I can
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sit there and kind of change the angle of like,
okay, well, this is how I think, or this is
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how I feel. And that's just kind of what it
is. Like I can explore that for sure, but I
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don't have to beat myself up for just having
a feeling. Yeah. You know? Yeah. So there's
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no closely intertwined. Like the minute you
feel that shame, then the inner critic gets
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triggered and starts telling you you're a POS.
Um, so, but if you can see how, if you work
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through the shame in your solar plexus, then
the inner critic doesn't have any ammunition
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anymore. there's nothing there for it to latch
onto and dig its claws in and, um, yeah. and
00:23:09.718 --> 00:23:20.015
do damage. Yeah. So. Oh, OK. So the shadow
of the heart is the inner critic. Got it. Inner
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critic and below that is uh really deep seeded
grief, like really such deep, heartbroken sadness
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over the uh the disconnection that that that
creates in our heart to ourselves, to being
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able to love ourselves, but also the disconnection
that it creates. in our relationships because
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it's almost impossible to love somebody else
when you don't love yourself. It's just really
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hard. It's more performative at that point
and not a real um authentic love. I'll just
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say it that way. Yeah. Yeah. And I know whenever
I was on that spectrum of stuff, that performative
00:24:02.637 --> 00:24:08.530
love also did come back to the inner critic
being like, oh, Well, now you can feel guilty
00:24:08.530 --> 00:24:13.730
for this because it's not all there. And I was
like, damn it. I thought I'm doing the right
00:24:13.730 --> 00:24:23.270
thing. It's never ending. Oh, I totally know
what you mean. Yeah. Yeah, it's brutal. not
00:24:23.270 --> 00:24:30.570
only is it the organs, it's not only is it the
heart, but it's also the lungs, upper shoulders
00:24:30.570 --> 00:24:38.167
and arms. So like if you have a lot of tension
in your upper shoulders and stuff like that.
00:24:38.168 --> 00:24:44.901
It's usually, usually has to do more with like
anger and resentment, but it's about anger
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and resentment that other people have something
that you don't sort of thing. The ability to
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love themselves, the ability to ask for what
they need, the ability to like do that we
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ourselves want to do and don't feel entitled
to it because we don't love ourselves enough.
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Yeah. Self advocacy. That's a really hard lesson
to learn. Yes. Damn. I know. And I guess that
00:25:16.040 --> 00:25:21.114
would go right up next to the throat chakra,
right? Yeah. Is that next? Throat chakra is
00:25:21.114 --> 00:25:28.460
next. And as you can imagine, the throat chakra
is all about, uh, power side is truth, truth,
00:25:28.500 --> 00:25:35.135
and then lies is the shadow. And you might
think that it's really obvious what the lies
00:25:35.135 --> 00:25:42.037
would be lying to other people. Um, but it
really is much more about the lies that we
00:25:42.037 --> 00:25:49.299
tell ourselves about what's really going on
for us. Um, and I'll give you a great example.
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Most women that have a lot of, um, our, our
moms, they take care of other people a lot.
00:25:56.831 --> 00:26:02.015
They have a lot of people pleasing tendencies,
that sort of thing. they will deny to the end
00:26:02.435 --> 00:26:14.722
that they have needs. Oh, ouch. That everybody
has needs and invariably those women struggle
00:26:14.743 --> 00:26:21.586
with slow thyroid. So our thyroid glands are
very much associated with the throat chakra.
00:26:21.586 --> 00:26:28.925
Obviously if you have any problems speaking
or, um you know, any thing happening in that
00:26:28.925 --> 00:26:34.529
area. would also be associated with the throat
chakra, but the thyroid is also a big portion
00:26:34.529 --> 00:26:41.144
of that. So the shadow to work through there
is the lies that we tell other people. Definitely
00:26:41.144 --> 00:26:46.187
we don't want to, you know, tell mistruths
to other people, but the ones that we tell
00:26:46.187 --> 00:26:53.072
ourselves are the ones that are the hardest
to swallow. Yeah. This is also kind of the
00:26:53.072 --> 00:27:01.700
area where the Our outer world connects with
our inner world. So it's our ability. This
00:27:01.700 --> 00:27:08.755
is our ability to release emotions that are,
that have plagued us for a long time. So speaking
00:27:08.755 --> 00:27:15.390
them out loud actually helps to release them
from our body. Um, and you know, being able
00:27:15.390 --> 00:27:20.924
to speak our truth, like if we're really angry
about something, being able to say it is a
00:27:20.924 --> 00:27:27.692
very cathartic thing for somebody that has,
um, blockages in their throat chakra. So it's
00:27:27.772 --> 00:27:35.668
all about kind of speaking our truth, what we're
feeling, what we really want, all of those
00:27:35.668 --> 00:27:43.934
things. Ooh, okay. I love that. And I mean,
like you said, some of the truths, some of
00:27:43.934 --> 00:27:48.907
the lies that we tell ourselves are the hardest
ones to kind of overcome. And you know that
00:27:49.227 --> 00:27:54.658
saying that uh to tell a good lie, you have
to believe it. Well, I don't know about you,
00:27:54.658 --> 00:27:59.540
but I believed every time I said I wasn't worth
the damn or this that or another. And so all
00:27:59.540 --> 00:28:07.852
those other shadow chakras. Yeah. Oh, ouch.
Yeah. Damn. I know. I know. But then again,
00:28:07.852 --> 00:28:12.253
I'm going to I'm just going to go back to this
because this is the thing that gives me hope.
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You work through fear and you work through guilt
and you work through shame. And then there's
00:28:17.445 --> 00:28:27.636
hardly anything there other than. an old pattern
maybe that you need to let go of to be able
00:28:27.636 --> 00:28:34.958
to speak your truth without fear, without guilt
and without feeling shame about whatever your
00:28:34.958 --> 00:28:44.200
truth is. So it's just a matter then of changing
a pattern for yourself and you know, going
00:28:44.200 --> 00:28:50.402
outside of your comfort zone a little bit to
try something new and actually speak your
00:28:50.402 --> 00:29:00.328
truth. to safe people, not, you know, don't
go with a megaphone out there. yeah, so it's
00:29:00.328 --> 00:29:09.141
the working on that alone sometimes can feel
really overwhelming working on whatever the
00:29:09.141 --> 00:29:13.773
issue is for the throat chakra. But you've already
worked through the majority of it if you've
00:29:13.773 --> 00:29:21.871
gone through chakras one, two and three. um
So that's good news. Yeah, that is good news.
00:29:21.871 --> 00:29:26.473
And what is that saying that you have to really
air your grievances to kind of get them out
00:29:26.473 --> 00:29:33.495
of you anyways? Absolutely. Absolutely. Air
all the feelings. All your all the guilt,
00:29:33.495 --> 00:29:39.678
all the shame, all the joy when there's a part
of you that thinks you shouldn't feel joy or,
00:29:40.258 --> 00:29:47.521
know, whatever it is. Grief. Yeah, all of it.
Being able to talk through it, get rid of
00:29:47.521 --> 00:29:54.287
it, which is why You know, just having a friend
that you can talk to can be such a huge help
00:29:54.807 --> 00:30:03.346
in times of struggle. Yeah. Okay. Ooh. So
I think that one, I still kind of need to work
00:30:03.346 --> 00:30:14.396
on a little bit myself, but anyways. Me too.
Yeah. So the next chakra is our... Third
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Eye Chakra. And this is where most people associated
with it. Dr. Joe Dispenza will tell you that
00:30:19.468 --> 00:30:26.089
it's the pineal gland, which is kind of right
at the top of your spine and the uh kind of
00:30:26.089 --> 00:30:29.811
like the base of your skull and the top of your
spine meat. It's kind of right in the middle.
00:30:29.811 --> 00:30:41.394
And that is all about intuition, imagination,
ability to dream, ability to kind of...
00:30:42.958 --> 00:30:51.418
Maybe see stuff that isn't necessarily there.
Just see the reality, which isn't always just
00:30:51.418 --> 00:31:00.018
the physical world. Right? Yep. Have you listened
to the telepathy tapes by any chance? It's
00:31:00.018 --> 00:31:06.958
a podcast. I've heard of it, but I have not
listened myself. OK. The telepathy tapes are
00:31:06.958 --> 00:31:15.310
just a great example of a really powerful third
eye chakra because there's all of these kids
00:31:15.310 --> 00:31:23.626
with autism and I won't go too deeply into it.
um But they have the extraordinary ability
00:31:23.626 --> 00:31:35.404
to um communicate with people telepathically.
And it's because their light body is so disconnected
00:31:35.404 --> 00:31:40.497
from their physical body. Most of us are so
grounded in the physical world, it's hard to
00:31:40.497 --> 00:31:48.382
imagine. the lightness and the spirituality
aspect of things sometimes. But they're so
00:31:48.382 --> 00:31:56.179
connected to spirituality that they have trouble
um having control over their physical body.
00:31:56.179 --> 00:32:04.306
But they have this amazing ability to have
telepathic communication with people that they're
00:32:04.306 --> 00:32:08.246
closest to. It's really cool. It's really cool.
That is really cool.
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Thank for watching part one with AmyVinza. Be
sure to stick around for part two as we finish
00:32:15.349 --> 00:32:21.533
talking about the chakras, their shadows, and
how we can move through all that with tapping
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to make ourselves even better.
