ABOUT THIS EPISODE
You've known him since you were kids. You share years of history. So why do you leave every hangout feeling like he doesn't know you at all?
When you start growing up (drinking less, taking care of yourself, wanting more out of life), old friendships built on watching the game and getting wasted can start to feel empty. And you feel stuck between losing someone you love and staying somewhere that no longer fits. This episode is about the middle path: getting clear on the kind of friend you want, quietly changing how often you hang out and what you do together, testing whether the friendship can get real, and accepting that time spent together doesn't equal depth.
Expect to learn:
- Why you probably notice the disconnect before he does
- "Building your player": getting clear on the friend you actually want
- Changing the cadence and the activity without a dramatic conversation
- The improv rule ("yes, and") for saying no to the hangs you've outgrown
- How to test whether a friend can meet you in something real
- Why glorifying the past keeps old friendships stuck
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