Stop Chasing the Next Thing: How to Build a Life That Actually Feels Good with Sloane

I used to think building the business, hitting the number, and checking every box on the list would eventually add up to feeling good. My guest today spent over a decade as a business attorney, built her own law firm, scaled it, sold it, and by every external measure had made it. Then she realized hitting every goal on the list wasn't actually making her happy, and the whole path she had been running on wasn't built for her.

Sloane is a transformational mentor who helps high performing women create success on their own terms, and she brings something most people in this space don't: a certification in neuropsychophysiology, combining neuroscience, psychology, and biology to back up what she teaches. In this conversation we get into why so many founders sacrifice themselves now hoping to be happy later, why that trade almost never pays off, and what she calls the slingshot effect of building from alignment instead of pure hustle.

We also talk about something founders rarely discuss openly: how the male dominated default of business, the single pointed focus model, differs from what Sloane calls diffuse awareness, and why understanding this matters if you lead a team, run a company, or are building your own version of thought leadership and visibility. If you have ever felt like your linkedin thought leadership or your business success looked great from the outside while something quietly felt off on the inside, this episode is for you.

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00:00 Welcome to Founder Unfiltered
00:45 Meet Sloane, attorney turned mentor
01:22 Building the dream and still feeling empty
03:22 The pattern of chasing the next big thing
07:29 Selling the firm and moving to coaching
09:07 The dinner in Mexico that changed everything
11:31 The two things missing from a fulfilled life
13:59 How this applies to founders
15:16 What happens after you sell the company
16:11 The slingshot effect of building from alignment
20:21 The research behind subjective well being
22:06 Diffuse awareness versus single pointed focus
25:07 Why business culture is built for men
27:11 The four different women in one cycle
28:40 The superpowers hidden in each phase
33:14 Leading with curiosity instead of judgment
36:43 Why true pleasure is profitable
39:40 Sloane's five core beliefs framework
43:07 How to work with Sloane and what's next