Quick Script Flip: When Perfectionism is Loud

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We're doing a script flip today.
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And this one's for the woman whose perfectionism is loud right now.
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Welcome to Flip the Inner Script, a podcast for female founders who are over their inner critic showing up when they are scaling to bigger things.
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This podcast is for the woman who has built something and still finds herself wondering why success doesn't feel the way she thought it would.
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We'll dive deep into inner stories, social conditioning, self-leadership, identity, and what it actually takes to master being the woman who meets her next level.
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This is your permission slip to finally flip the script so that you can unlock the success you dream about.
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Let's go.
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Close your eyes if you can, or just soften your gaze and take a breath in.
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Maybe the first breath you've taken all day.
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And let it go.
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And this one's for the woman whose perfectionism is loud right now.
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Like ringing in your ears, can't turn it off loud.
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The one who's rereading the email for the fifth time, the one who hasn't launched the thing because it's not ready.
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The one who can feel good about her business exactly zero days because there is one more thing to fix and one more thing to do.
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Yes, this one is for you.
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Here's the old script.
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If it's not perfect, it's not good enough.
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And if it's not good enough, then I'm not good enough.
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Perfectionism isn't actually about the work that you're doing or the amount of time you're spending on it to make it feel good enough.
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It never is.
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It's a defense mechanism, a faulty programming.
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It's your nervous system going, if I can control every detail, nothing can go wrong.
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And if nothing goes wrong, then I can't be criticized.
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And if I can't be criticized, then I am safe.
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Here's what I need you to actually feel in your body right now.
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Not just here, feel.
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Perfectionism was never about excellence.
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It was never about doing good work.
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It's about control, dressed up as high standards.
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And if you can control, then you can feel safe and you can feel worthy and you can feel accepted.
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That is a story, and it's not yours.
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Here's the flip.
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Say this with me, even if it's in your head.
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Done and honest beats perfect and hidden.
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My worth was never on the line, and it never will be.
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Feel that right in your chest, in your soul, right where you've been holding your breath, waiting for the exact moment where it finally feels right.
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Let your shoulders drop an inch, stop wearing them as earrings, unclench your jaw.
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Maybe you give your whole body a shake.
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This is the flip.
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Perfectionism isn't your standard.
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Perfectionism is your fear wearing a really good outfit.
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Very convincing.
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But it's just someone else's projection.
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It's just a way for you to feel safe.
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But you are always safe.
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You are safe.
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And the woman you're becoming, she shoots the thing at 90% sometimes.
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Not because she doesn't care, because she does, but she's okay to be seen as unpolished and human.
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She sends the email without rereading it for a sixth time.
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She posts the story without proof reading it.
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Guilty.
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She lets herself be seen mid-process, not just in the polished, perfect, final form.
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So here's your dare for today.
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Somewhere in your life, right now, there's a thing that you've been sitting on because it's not ready.
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A post, a launch, a conversation, a website, an ask.
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Do it anyway, today, imperfectly, loudly even.
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And again, it's not because perfect doesn't matter, but it's because waiting is actually not protecting you.
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It's just keeping you small.
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And small isn't necessarily safe, but it just feels familiar.
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I am not my output.
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I am not my perfection.
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I am not my mistakes.
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I lead from within, not from fear of what people will think.
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Take one more breath.
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And when you're ready, go be gloriously unapologetically unfinished.
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That's it for this script flip.
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And I'll see you in the next one.
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That's a wrap on today's episode.
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Love you for sharing your time with me today.
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Now go flip that inner script.
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See you next time.