ABOUT THIS EPISODE
What if everything you've been told about healing from loss is a lie? We're all searching for 'closure,' that definitive end to our pain, but what if that very search is keeping us trapped?
Chasing answers might be the biggest obstacle to true peace. We're holding onto ghosts (waiting for closure) while failing to nurture the living. We're stuck in the past (chasing answers) while the present atrophies.
What if we've been doing this whole thing wrong?
Remember that ache, that burning need to understand 'why' that person left you, why they broke your heart, why they didn't want to take things to the next level? You're not alone.
We've been conditioned to believe that finding a perfect answer will finally set us free. If only you knew why...But what if that lifelong quest for 'closure' is actually an endless loop, preventing us from ever truly moving forward?
Because even if they told you why:
"I fell out of love" - doesn't make it hurt less
"I met someone else" - doesn't explain why you weren't enough
"I wasn't ready" - doesn't give you back the time you invested
"It's not you, it's me" - is both true and completely unsatisfying
The closure you're chasing is just another way to avoid sitting with the discomfort of unanswered questions. Of ambiguity. Of loss that doesn't have a neat explanation.
Prepare to rethink everything you thought you knew about healing.
It’s a rant. I am not a licensed therapist. Enjoy with discretion Until next time, it’s Every Shade.
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