ABOUT THIS EPISODE
After 15 years together and raising a blended family of nine kids, Ern and TaTa ask a surprisingly difficult question: Are we actually still compatible—or are we just comfortable being together?
Compatibility isn't only about what brought two people together. People grow, priorities change, children enter the picture, responsibilities pile up, and before you know it, a romantic relationship can start feeling more like two business partners running a household.
In this episode, Ern and TaTa talk about the “roommate phase,” why couples have to keep dating each other, whether compatibility changes over time, unrealistic relationships on social media, taking responsibility for what you accept from a partner, and why being different from your spouse isn't necessarily a bad thing.
They also turn the conversation inward and discuss where their own relationship could use more effort—from getting out of the house and trying new experiences to exercising together and intentionally finding new ways to connect.
After 15 years, maybe the goal isn't to stay exactly the people you were when you fell in love.
Maybe it's learning how to keep finding each other as you change.
Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. — Ern & TaTa Podcast
