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Today's episode is for the homeschooling mom ready to get over anything stopping you from living out your soul's calling, even if you don't know what that is. Right now, I'm going to help you transform your limiting beliefs so you can stop being paralyzed by fear and start living a life you love. If you're tired of seeing others use their gifts and talents. At the same time, you stay stagnant because you're paralyzed by self-doubt and fear, continue listening to this episode because building a business is hard work, especially while you homeschool. And it's no secret that you must learn different marketing, video, and tech skills. Goodness, gracious.
[00:00:51]
It's a lot. And you must be able to bounce back from challenges you will face along the way, both externally and internally. And I know this all too well because I've had to do it this year. In the past two years, my husband and my family have experienced the loss of loved ones and different things going on in our families, and it's been a challenge. In addition to being able to continue homeschooling, all the financial things going on in the world.
[00:01:33]
So a lot can paralyze us, stop us from living out our purpose, and even make us feel like we have a reason not to continue. Because honestly, it's been challenging for me. This past year. 2022 has been hard for me to step out and walk out into my purpose of serving other enterprise and home school moms in their career and business endeavors because I felt like I was in survival mode myself. I'm going to share with you some of the tips that have worked for me in getting myself together, dealing with my mindset, and helping me move forward.
[00:02:26]
I had to realize that I had developed many limiting beliefs that were starting to lead me to believe that maybe this isn't the season to run my business. Maybe I needed to fall back and focus on other things because of all the challenges. But then I realized I had to transform my mind because even though at the time it felt as though I was in a comfort zone by not stretching myself to continue forward with my business so well, I started to not be satisfied with that comfort zone. I knew I needed to make some changes. Instead of being plagued by negative limiting beliefs, I had to turn those negative beliefs into positive ones and start reciting these beliefs every time those negative beliefs appear. And I knew that if I was dealing with these challenges, other home school moms who are stepping into a new career or starting their businesses or running their businesses or even scaling their businesses have some of these challenges that come and try to bombard their minds as well.
[00:03:47]
Because we are human and we are all living this human experience. And so, let me share some of my beliefs that I had to transform with you. The first belief I had to change was that I can't work and home school because you could fill in the blank with whatever is for you. I'll just list some of my reasons, and these are some that I thought I had overcome and I thought had got delivered. But life seemed to pull me back because my family needs me right now, so I have to be there for them.
[00:04:31]
I had different extended relatives needing my support, and they still do. However, I realized that if I continue to put my personal goals on the back burner, I was falling further, further behind in life, and I was starting not to like what my life was becoming. I had to do the hard thing, and that was to make myself a priority again. Make my goals a priority again. A lot of times, as a homeschooling mom who stays at home, there's this sense of feeling that if someone needs your support, especially your loved ones, your help, then you feel the obligation to be there for them because you do have more flexibility in your schedule than most people who have a corporate job who work outside the home.
[00:05:36]
That's okay sometimes, but if you continue to do that and do not advocate for yourself before you know it, your time will be taken up, and you won't have time for the things that matter to you. I had to realize that I'm worth being a priority even as it relates to my children, my spouse, and all of those things. I had to get back to putting myself as a priority to have the strength and the mindset to move forward with my business. The second limiting belief I was starting to develop was that I can't get things done with my kids at home. And I know I'm not the only one that feels this way.
[00:06:26]
I hear this from many other homeschooling moms, and for a while, it was true, and it's still something I struggle with. And although my kids are older a while, and I still do, sometimes I watch my nephew, who lost his mom recently in a car accident. And so that stage kind of took me back to the days when it was very hard to get things done with a toddler around. It seemed like my kids were starting to regress where they were when it was time for me to get things done. And I would ask them to be quiet, like when I needed to record a podcast episode.
[00:07:12]
It was like they had gone backward. So I had to turn my limiting belief around from I can't record my podcast episodes consistently because my kids won't let me. And how unempowering is that statement? That's how I was starting to feel. That's what I believed, and I started to accept and expect that to be my new reality.
[00:07:45]
So I went months without recording any podcast episodes because the noise would be in the background every time I wanted to record a podcast episode. You may even hear a little noise right now. And if I tried to record at night when all the kids were supposed to be sleeping, it seemed like they would stay up even later, and then I would have to stay up later, and then when I would try to record, I wasn't as energetic or anything like that, so I just said forget it. How many times have you thrown your hands up and said, forget it, I can't work while my kids are home? So I said, okay, I don't feel empowered at all, this is frustrating, and I don't like this.
[00:08:38]
I had to turn it around and start to say to myself again and say to my children. I had to remind myself of my goals and dreams for myself and my business and start having those conversations with my children so I could set expectations and let them know why my business matters. What I do, how I do it, and what I need to get done so that they could be more cooperative, thoughtful, mindful, and supportive of my goals and dreams. A lot of times, we tried to build our business away from our family, yet we were in the house, and we failed to get them on board with our goals and dreams and everything our aspirations. And we expect them to collaborate with us, but they're in the house with us, so we need their buy-in.
[00:09:37]
I had to stop saying I can't work while my children are home. When I say that, I mean things that require a quiet background, like me recording this podcast episode or me trying to record a video or course content or anything like that, just quiet to think about what your plans are, what your vision is. So I had to turn those limiting beliefs around and be bolder with myself and my children and let them know that my inability to work and home school is not an option. The second limiting belief I had to overcome is this linear path to making money from home and homeschooling. When I first started monetizing my skill sets and different things like that, as a homeschooling mom, it was always okay, you have to start and build an online business, and I still believe that.
[00:10:54]
However, every homeschooling mom isn't in the season where that is something they would like to pursue. And thankfully, the world of opportunity has opened up for us, especially in the last couple of years, where there are so many other options as far as remote work and freelancing work, which can also be a business if you build it a certain way. There are side gigs and different things like that depending on what your goals are. There are multiple ways to make money while homeschooling. So don't feel like if you're not making money right now in your business that you cannot look elsewhere, that you're a failure if you take a remote job or freelance for another business owner, that is okay.
[00:11:52]
And I had to tell myself that that's okay. I recently went back to freelance teaching because it was one of the most lucrative gigs since being a homeschooling mom. And it was hard for me initially because I feel like I failed as an entrepreneur if I do. But it is contract work, freelancing work, so it's still a way to operate it as a business. But I had to let go of that limiting belief that the only way to make money from home is to start an online business.
[00:12:38]
At the time this past year, it's been difficult to do everything I needed to do to make that online business as profitable as I would like it to be because there are so many facets to running an online business, and I love it. But sometimes you're just not in a mental. Physical. The financial state of being able to do everything as a solopreneur if you don't have a team yet regarding marketing. Creating offers or products or services.
[00:13:17]
Email marketing. Having some sort of authority platform, such as a podcast. A YouTube channel or a blog. Doing social media. You must do all the things to be a successful online entrepreneur.
[00:13:35]
That's a lot. And it's a lot for one person, especially a homeschooling mom. So I had to let go of the limiting belief that I'm not a failure if I pursue other ways to make money from home while homeschooling, I can still be an entrepreneur and pursue other paths to make a consistent income. That doesn't make me feel like I'm being pulled in a gazillion different directions where I'm a social media manager, email marketer, a blogger, a podcaster, all these things to make income and still have my sanity and still have the energy to be there, to home school and to be there for myself as well as my husband and my extended family when it makes sense. Okay?
[00:14:39]
So I want you to give yourself permission to pursue income as a homeschooling mom in a manner that makes sense for you. So I want you to dream of new opportunities. What do you envision happening or opening up for you if you get rid of these limiting beliefs forever, what opportunities do you want in life? Start to embrace that it's possible for you to have opportunities even if you're a homeschooling mom. I have struggled for years, and I still sometimes struggle with the idea that I can only make so much money while homeschooling my children or that there are only certain career paths I can choose while I homeschool my children.
[00:15:34]
And as I mentioned before, thankfully, with technology and, unfortunately, due to the pandemic, many opportunities open to working from home that is very legit and financially rewarding. Because let's be real, you may be unmotivated by certain career paths that don't meet your income goals or just aren't worth the hassle because they won't increase your income to the level you would like. We often look at it like, I'll just be satisfied with a couple extra hundred dollars a month, different things. We kind of limit ourselves at times. I know I have been homeschooling mom where you just get accustomed to living on less, being content with what you have, and there's nothing wrong with that.
[00:16:36]
However, there are other times when you realize that this limiting belief is holding you back from seeking out new opportunities or even considering a career or business path that will meet your income goals and keep you motivated and inspired to work from home and home school. Because it is a lot. And in those times and on those days when it's truly frustrating, and you just want to throw in the towel, if you're not making the income that you would like to make to meet your needs, it's easier to throw in the towel and get burnt out. So it's okay to look for opportunities to meet your income needs and motivate you to keep going. There's nothing wrong with that.
[00:17:35]
Yes, you want to love what you do, and you want to be interested in what you do and, of course, have the skill set to do what you do, but it's okay to be concerned about your income and how much money you're making. So that's a limiting belief that I had to get rid of. I even went into my college degree and focused on the mission and the purpose of what I was doing. And I didn't look at the income-earning potential of that degree that I got. I got a degree in sociology, and later on, I added on African American Studies, but I was very passionate about social services and helping the African American community.
[00:18:32]
But I wasn't looking at, okay, how much money will this degree earn me after I receive it? What kind of jobs are out there for this degree? And when I started working in social services, I did not have enough money. It didn't motivate me to continue working, but maybe it worked out because it made it easier for me to decide to stay at home and homeschool because I couldn't afford to pay for childcare and work. It just didn't make financial sense.
[00:19:08]
So as an entrepreneur, I kind of continued on that path of really not paying attention to the numbers and following my passion and following a mission and not putting money into the equation as much as I should have because I felt like that was a dirty word or dirty motivation, I realized that was a limiting belief. So if you have been struggling with any of these limiting beliefs that I struggle with, I hope that you have found this episode helpful. And I will continue to share limiting beliefs because I believe it's an internal thing that we could control because there are a lot of external factors, like what's going on with our family, that we can control. So if you can master your mindset and I know it sounds so cliche, but it's true if you can master your mindset, then you can keep going in your work when things are hard. So I hope you have found this episode helpful, and I will share more on this topic.
[00:20:28]
So, subscribe and share this episode with another homeschooling mom. If you found this helpful and continue to be an enterprising homeschool mom. Talk to you next Tuesday.
Today's episode is for the homeschooling mom ready to get over anything stopping you from living out your soul's calling, even if you don't know what that is. Right now, I'm going to help you transform your limiting beliefs so you can stop being paralyzed by fear and start living a life you love. If you're tired of seeing others use their gifts and talents. At the same time, you stay stagnant because you're paralyzed by self-doubt and fear, continue listening to this episode because building a business is hard work, especially while you homeschool. And it's no secret that you must learn different marketing, video, and tech skills. Goodness, gracious.
[00:00:51]
It's a lot. And you must be able to bounce back from challenges you will face along the way, both externally and internally. And I know this all too well because I've had to do it this year. In the past two years, my husband and my family have experienced the loss of loved ones and different things going on in our families, and it's been a challenge. In addition to being able to continue homeschooling, all the financial things going on in the world.
[00:01:33]
So a lot can paralyze us, stop us from living out our purpose, and even make us feel like we have a reason not to continue. Because honestly, it's been challenging for me. This past year. 2022 has been hard for me to step out and walk out into my purpose of serving other enterprise and home school moms in their career and business endeavors because I felt like I was in survival mode myself. I'm going to share with you some of the tips that have worked for me in getting myself together, dealing with my mindset, and helping me move forward.
[00:02:26]
I had to realize that I had developed many limiting beliefs that were starting to lead me to believe that maybe this isn't the season to run my business. Maybe I needed to fall back and focus on other things because of all the challenges. But then I realized I had to transform my mind because even though at the time it felt as though I was in a comfort zone by not stretching myself to continue forward with my business so well, I started to not be satisfied with that comfort zone. I knew I needed to make some changes. Instead of being plagued by negative limiting beliefs, I had to turn those negative beliefs into positive ones and start reciting these beliefs every time those negative beliefs appear. And I knew that if I was dealing with these challenges, other home school moms who are stepping into a new career or starting their businesses or running their businesses or even scaling their businesses have some of these challenges that come and try to bombard their minds as well.
[00:03:47]
Because we are human and we are all living this human experience. And so, let me share some of my beliefs that I had to transform with you. The first belief I had to change was that I can't work and home school because you could fill in the blank with whatever is for you. I'll just list some of my reasons, and these are some that I thought I had overcome and I thought had got delivered. But life seemed to pull me back because my family needs me right now, so I have to be there for them.
[00:04:31]
I had different extended relatives needing my support, and they still do. However, I realized that if I continue to put my personal goals on the back burner, I was falling further, further behind in life, and I was starting not to like what my life was becoming. I had to do the hard thing, and that was to make myself a priority again. Make my goals a priority again. A lot of times, as a homeschooling mom who stays at home, there's this sense of feeling that if someone needs your support, especially your loved ones, your help, then you feel the obligation to be there for them because you do have more flexibility in your schedule than most people who have a corporate job who work outside the home.
[00:05:36]
That's okay sometimes, but if you continue to do that and do not advocate for yourself before you know it, your time will be taken up, and you won't have time for the things that matter to you. I had to realize that I'm worth being a priority even as it relates to my children, my spouse, and all of those things. I had to get back to putting myself as a priority to have the strength and the mindset to move forward with my business. The second limiting belief I was starting to develop was that I can't get things done with my kids at home. And I know I'm not the only one that feels this way.
[00:06:26]
I hear this from many other homeschooling moms, and for a while, it was true, and it's still something I struggle with. And although my kids are older a while, and I still do, sometimes I watch my nephew, who lost his mom recently in a car accident. And so that stage kind of took me back to the days when it was very hard to get things done with a toddler around. It seemed like my kids were starting to regress where they were when it was time for me to get things done. And I would ask them to be quiet, like when I needed to record a podcast episode.
[00:07:12]
It was like they had gone backward. So I had to turn my limiting belief around from I can't record my podcast episodes consistently because my kids won't let me. And how unempowering is that statement? That's how I was starting to feel. That's what I believed, and I started to accept and expect that to be my new reality.
[00:07:45]
So I went months without recording any podcast episodes because the noise would be in the background every time I wanted to record a podcast episode. You may even hear a little noise right now. And if I tried to record at night when all the kids were supposed to be sleeping, it seemed like they would stay up even later, and then I would have to stay up later, and then when I would try to record, I wasn't as energetic or anything like that, so I just said forget it. How many times have you thrown your hands up and said, forget it, I can't work while my kids are home? So I said, okay, I don't feel empowered at all, this is frustrating, and I don't like this.
[00:08:38]
I had to turn it around and start to say to myself again and say to my children. I had to remind myself of my goals and dreams for myself and my business and start having those conversations with my children so I could set expectations and let them know why my business matters. What I do, how I do it, and what I need to get done so that they could be more cooperative, thoughtful, mindful, and supportive of my goals and dreams. A lot of times, we tried to build our business away from our family, yet we were in the house, and we failed to get them on board with our goals and dreams and everything our aspirations. And we expect them to collaborate with us, but they're in the house with us, so we need their buy-in.
[00:09:37]
I had to stop saying I can't work while my children are home. When I say that, I mean things that require a quiet background, like me recording this podcast episode or me trying to record a video or course content or anything like that, just quiet to think about what your plans are, what your vision is. So I had to turn those limiting beliefs around and be bolder with myself and my children and let them know that my inability to work and home school is not an option. The second limiting belief I had to overcome is this linear path to making money from home and homeschooling. When I first started monetizing my skill sets and different things like that, as a homeschooling mom, it was always okay, you have to start and build an online business, and I still believe that.
[00:10:54]
However, every homeschooling mom isn't in the season where that is something they would like to pursue. And thankfully, the world of opportunity has opened up for us, especially in the last couple of years, where there are so many other options as far as remote work and freelancing work, which can also be a business if you build it a certain way. There are side gigs and different things like that depending on what your goals are. There are multiple ways to make money while homeschooling. So don't feel like if you're not making money right now in your business that you cannot look elsewhere, that you're a failure if you take a remote job or freelance for another business owner, that is okay.
[00:11:52]
And I had to tell myself that that's okay. I recently went back to freelance teaching because it was one of the most lucrative gigs since being a homeschooling mom. And it was hard for me initially because I feel like I failed as an entrepreneur if I do. But it is contract work, freelancing work, so it's still a way to operate it as a business. But I had to let go of that limiting belief that the only way to make money from home is to start an online business.
[00:12:38]
At the time this past year, it's been difficult to do everything I needed to do to make that online business as profitable as I would like it to be because there are so many facets to running an online business, and I love it. But sometimes you're just not in a mental. Physical. The financial state of being able to do everything as a solopreneur if you don't have a team yet regarding marketing. Creating offers or products or services.
[00:13:17]
Email marketing. Having some sort of authority platform, such as a podcast. A YouTube channel or a blog. Doing social media. You must do all the things to be a successful online entrepreneur.
[00:13:35]
That's a lot. And it's a lot for one person, especially a homeschooling mom. So I had to let go of the limiting belief that I'm not a failure if I pursue other ways to make money from home while homeschooling, I can still be an entrepreneur and pursue other paths to make a consistent income. That doesn't make me feel like I'm being pulled in a gazillion different directions where I'm a social media manager, email marketer, a blogger, a podcaster, all these things to make income and still have my sanity and still have the energy to be there, to home school and to be there for myself as well as my husband and my extended family when it makes sense. Okay?
[00:14:39]
So I want you to give yourself permission to pursue income as a homeschooling mom in a manner that makes sense for you. So I want you to dream of new opportunities. What do you envision happening or opening up for you if you get rid of these limiting beliefs forever, what opportunities do you want in life? Start to embrace that it's possible for you to have opportunities even if you're a homeschooling mom. I have struggled for years, and I still sometimes struggle with the idea that I can only make so much money while homeschooling my children or that there are only certain career paths I can choose while I homeschool my children.
[00:15:34]
And as I mentioned before, thankfully, with technology and, unfortunately, due to the pandemic, many opportunities open to working from home that is very legit and financially rewarding. Because let's be real, you may be unmotivated by certain career paths that don't meet your income goals or just aren't worth the hassle because they won't increase your income to the level you would like. We often look at it like, I'll just be satisfied with a couple extra hundred dollars a month, different things. We kind of limit ourselves at times. I know I have been homeschooling mom where you just get accustomed to living on less, being content with what you have, and there's nothing wrong with that.
[00:16:36]
However, there are other times when you realize that this limiting belief is holding you back from seeking out new opportunities or even considering a career or business path that will meet your income goals and keep you motivated and inspired to work from home and home school. Because it is a lot. And in those times and on those days when it's truly frustrating, and you just want to throw in the towel, if you're not making the income that you would like to make to meet your needs, it's easier to throw in the towel and get burnt out. So it's okay to look for opportunities to meet your income needs and motivate you to keep going. There's nothing wrong with that.
[00:17:35]
Yes, you want to love what you do, and you want to be interested in what you do and, of course, have the skill set to do what you do, but it's okay to be concerned about your income and how much money you're making. So that's a limiting belief that I had to get rid of. I even went into my college degree and focused on the mission and the purpose of what I was doing. And I didn't look at the income-earning potential of that degree that I got. I got a degree in sociology, and later on, I added on African American Studies, but I was very passionate about social services and helping the African American community.
[00:18:32]
But I wasn't looking at, okay, how much money will this degree earn me after I receive it? What kind of jobs are out there for this degree? And when I started working in social services, I did not have enough money. It didn't motivate me to continue working, but maybe it worked out because it made it easier for me to decide to stay at home and homeschool because I couldn't afford to pay for childcare and work. It just didn't make financial sense.
[00:19:08]
So as an entrepreneur, I kind of continued on that path of really not paying attention to the numbers and following my passion and following a mission and not putting money into the equation as much as I should have because I felt like that was a dirty word or dirty motivation, I realized that was a limiting belief. So if you have been struggling with any of these limiting beliefs that I struggle with, I hope that you have found this episode helpful. And I will continue to share limiting beliefs because I believe it's an internal thing that we could control because there are a lot of external factors, like what's going on with our family, that we can control. So if you can master your mindset and I know it sounds so cliche, but it's true if you can master your mindset, then you can keep going in your work when things are hard. So I hope you have found this episode helpful, and I will share more on this topic.
[00:20:28]
So, subscribe and share this episode with another homeschooling mom. If you found this helpful and continue to be an enterprising homeschool mom. Talk to you next Tuesday.
