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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you're getting ready to go somewhere.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You dress, you're excited, you actually want to go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then, here comes the pain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, you've got to be kidding me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not today, I have plans or maybe you're already at work and you feel it that moment when you realize, okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: something has to change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now the negotiation starts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it'll go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How bad is it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can I make it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me just get through this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to have to cancel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't miss another thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And eventually the whole decision becomes, do I push through or do I give up the plan?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what I want to talk about today, because if you've ever felt like you only have those two options, of course you're going to push through, you have a life you want to live.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you know that exact negotiation, drop a debt in the chat, A-D-A-P-T, a debt in the chat.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because today I want to talk about what happens when your body changes the plan without automatically handing your whole day over to the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But before we dive into this episode, y'all already know what time it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That'll put me up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to the Empower Plinks Empower
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[SPEAKER_00]: y'all welcome back to another episode of the empire plates empire last podcast issue healthy habits and life side coach joe body this episode is brought to you by forward vibrations helping women with painful periods and pelvic pain staff symptoms from disrupting their lives and we're continuing with the patterns behind the pain solo series.
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[SPEAKER_00]: exploring the everyday patterns that become so normal.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We start realizing how much their shape and the way we navigate life with pelvic pain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So earlier in the series, we talked about this connection, that automatic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we ask, do I actually know what I need?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But knowing something is happening isn't the same as knowing what to do about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So today we're taking the next step that notice and then we're going to get into the response.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because here's what I think gets missed when somebody tells you just listen to your body.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but I have a J.O.B.
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[SPEAKER_00]: a job.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have plans.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People are expecting me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I already booked the ticket.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am dealing with lots of responsibilities.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There are things I want to experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, when your body says, I need something different today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You may hear
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're about to lose something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I respond to this, I might miss work, miss the event, cancel dinner, fall behind, disappoint somebody, lose another day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when you've already had symptoms, take enough from you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, part of you wants to say no, I'm going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing the thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm showing up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The problem is, we can start treating responding to ourselves like surrender.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want you to notice how quickly this becomes all or nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Either I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing it or.
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[SPEAKER_00]: can't do anything, you got to push through or I can't so, you got to keep the plan or paying wins, but what those aren't the only choices.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if the question is that can I force myself through this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it isn't automatically, do I have to cancel?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it's what does taking care of me require right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that answer can look different every time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean stopping.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean changing something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean getting medical care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean actually,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm okay to continue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal isn't to always choose less.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to actually have a choice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And here's where I think is really underneath it all for so many women.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't necessarily fear listening to your body.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You fear what listening might cost you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, because what if it tells you not today?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it tells you I need help?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it tells you, I can't do all of this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if acknowledging what you need means something doesn't get done?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why I'll just push through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can actually feel safer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At least I know what happens next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get through it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I handle my responsibilities.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody gets what they need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I deal with me afterward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sounds familiar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that's a pattern.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Look at how much of this series just showed up in one moment, push through out there with it later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Disconnection.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Always on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I keep everything going?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self abandon me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll get to me later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Stuck in the cycle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What else can I trust so this
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[SPEAKER_00]: standing there thinking, I just want to live my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why this conversation matters.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because the goal isn't to build a life where you constantly stop everything because of pain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to build more ways to respond when life doesn't go according to the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to give you three simple words.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not another complicated system, just pause, ask,
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[SPEAKER_00]: When something changes pause before the automatic I'm fine, before I'll just push through, just create a little space.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then ask, what do I need right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not what should I be able to handle, not what will everybody else think, not even cannot technically keep going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then a debt, what does that information change?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe nothing, maybe a little, maybe a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a debtation doesn't have to be dramatic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I can still go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just not staying as long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's, I'm gonna eat before I leave.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need 10 minutes before I decide.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need help with this part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe that can wait until tomorrow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need to be home or maybe it's no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Something about this feels different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need medical attention.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Adaptation isn't cold for final way to keep going no matter what.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's just a push through where the new outfit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, sometimes a death thing means stop STOP.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put it in the comments so you remember.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The difference is that the response came from what you needed, not simply from what you were afraid to lose.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna say that one more time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The difference is that the response came from
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not simply what you were afraid to lose and this is where I think we need to redefine what a win looks like Let's say you plan to go to dinner Pain shows up, you pause, you check in and you decide I'm going, but I'm leaving early Was the win that you went?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, maybe another day you do the same, it's checking and you decide, I'm staying home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was that a failure?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The win in both situation was you responded instead of automatically reacting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You responded instead of automatically acting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we're building.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not a perfect answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A better relationship with the decision because I know what you already actually want.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't want a whole week revolving around how you feel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to wake up every morning wondering, what is my body going to let me do today?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me do today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You want to work, move, make plans, travel, show up for the people you love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Take care of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Experience your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: fully.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think the answer is pretending symptoms aren't there, but I also don't think the only alternative is letting symptoms make every decision.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's another possibility.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You become better at responding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You notice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You assess.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You make a decision.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you adapt and over time, you learn more about what actually supports you, why, oh, you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's lifestyle for support, not another rigid plan, building the ability to navigate your actual life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to be responsible about this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot necessarily predict every flier.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot control every symptom and not every difficult day means you missed a signal or did something wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Persistness or changing pelvic pain deserves appropriate medical evaluation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're not replacing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're talking about the part of the experience that belongs to
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this week, don't try to overhaul anything, just catch one moment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One moment when your body's dead, something is different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And instead of immediately, I'll just push through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Try pause, ask a debt, pause, what's happening?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ask, would do I need a debt?
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[SPEAKER_00]: needs to change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if anything needs to change?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then choose, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because imagine what changes when paying shows showing up doesn't automatically mean, there goes my whole day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it also doesn't actually mean ignore it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and keep going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have more than two choices.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have options.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have information.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have the ability to adjust.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put a ability down there in case you didn't know that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put a ability in the comments.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have a ability to adjust.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you'll still have to cancel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you'll still be disappointed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes the pain will still disrupt something you really want it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to pretend otherwise, but even then you didn't abandon yourself just to preserve the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the different way of navigating your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So my ADACT women, here's what I want to know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When pelvic pain interrupts your plans, what do you usually do first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What do you usually do first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is it pushed through, wait and see?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can't so change something?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Freeze because you generally don't know what to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell me what you actually do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that is part of this experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanna understand better.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And in painful periods or pelvic pain are disrupting how you work, move, make plans or take care of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Take my 30 second pelvic pain survey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The three questions about what everyday life, what pelvic pain actually looks like for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The link is in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to understand.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the next episode, we're going to zoom all the way out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because maybe you've been asking, how bad is my pain?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's another question I think we need to ask.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's how much of my life has started moving around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The plans you change, the things you don't do, the things you push through, the energy you say, the days you leave open just in case.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because pain doesn't have to stop your life completely to start shaping it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where we're going next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But this week, when something changes, calls, ask a debt.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because taking care of yourself doesn't always mean giving up the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it means changing how you move the rule.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the goal isn't always to keep the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's to stop automatically losing yourself inside of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ya, it should help you have it in lifestyle Coach Joe Bonnie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Host up the empire place, empire at last podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for bothering me, y'all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you're getting ready to go somewhere.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You dress, you're excited, you actually want to go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then, here comes the pain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And you're like, you've got to be kidding me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not today, I have plans or maybe you're already at work and you feel it that moment when you realize, okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: something has to change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And now the negotiation starts.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it'll go away.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How bad is it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can I make it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me just get through this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't want to have to cancel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't miss another thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And eventually the whole decision becomes, do I push through or do I give up the plan?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's what I want to talk about today, because if you've ever felt like you only have those two options, of course you're going to push through, you have a life you want to live.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you know that exact negotiation, drop a debt in the chat, A-D-A-P-T, a debt in the chat.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because today I want to talk about what happens when your body changes the plan without automatically handing your whole day over to the symptoms.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But before we dive into this episode, y'all already know what time it is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That'll put me up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to the Empower Plinks Empower
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[SPEAKER_00]: y'all welcome back to another episode of the empire plates empire last podcast issue healthy habits and life side coach joe body this episode is brought to you by forward vibrations helping women with painful periods and pelvic pain staff symptoms from disrupting their lives and we're continuing with the patterns behind the pain solo series.
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[SPEAKER_00]: exploring the everyday patterns that become so normal.
02:04.819 --> 02:09.404
[SPEAKER_00]: We start realizing how much their shape and the way we navigate life with pelvic pain.
02:09.665 --> 02:13.129
[SPEAKER_00]: So earlier in the series, we talked about this connection, that automatic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And we ask, do I actually know what I need?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But knowing something is happening isn't the same as knowing what to do about it.
02:24.374 --> 02:30.503
[SPEAKER_00]: So today we're taking the next step that notice and then we're going to get into the response.
02:30.763 --> 02:35.269
[SPEAKER_00]: Because here's what I think gets missed when somebody tells you just listen to your body.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, but I have a J.O.B.
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[SPEAKER_00]: a job.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have plans.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People are expecting me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I already booked the ticket.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I am dealing with lots of responsibilities.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There are things I want to experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, when your body says, I need something different today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You may hear
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're about to lose something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If I respond to this, I might miss work, miss the event, cancel dinner, fall behind, disappoint somebody, lose another day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when you've already had symptoms, take enough from you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Of course, part of you wants to say no, I'm going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing the thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm showing up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The problem is, we can start treating responding to ourselves like surrender.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want you to notice how quickly this becomes all or nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Either I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing it or.
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[SPEAKER_00]: can't do anything, you got to push through or I can't so, you got to keep the plan or paying wins, but what those aren't the only choices.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if the question is that can I force myself through this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it isn't automatically, do I have to cancel?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it's what does taking care of me require right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that answer can look different every time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean stopping.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean changing something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean getting medical care.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it might mean actually,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm okay to continue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal isn't to always choose less.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to actually have a choice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And here's where I think is really underneath it all for so many women.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't necessarily fear listening to your body.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You fear what listening might cost you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, because what if it tells you not today?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it tells you I need help?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if it tells you, I can't do all of this?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if acknowledging what you need means something doesn't get done?
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why I'll just push through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can actually feel safer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At least I know what happens next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I get through it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I handle my responsibilities.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't miss out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everybody gets what they need.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I deal with me afterward.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sounds familiar.
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[SPEAKER_00]: that's a pattern.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Look at how much of this series just showed up in one moment, push through out there with it later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Disconnection.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm fine.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Always on.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I keep everything going?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Self abandon me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll get to me later.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Stuck in the cycle.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What else can I trust so this
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[SPEAKER_00]: standing there thinking, I just want to live my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Exactly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why this conversation matters.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because the goal isn't to build a life where you constantly stop everything because of pain.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The goal is to build more ways to respond when life doesn't go according to the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I want to give you three simple words.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not another complicated system, just pause, ask,
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[SPEAKER_00]: When something changes pause before the automatic I'm fine, before I'll just push through, just create a little space.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Then ask, what do I need right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not what should I be able to handle, not what will everybody else think, not even cannot technically keep going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then a debt, what does that information change?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe nothing, maybe a little, maybe a lot.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And a debtation doesn't have to be dramatic.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I can still go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm just not staying as long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's, I'm gonna eat before I leave.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need 10 minutes before I decide.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need help with this part.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe that can wait until tomorrow.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I need to be home or maybe it's no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Something about this feels different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need medical attention.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Adaptation isn't cold for final way to keep going no matter what.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's just a push through where the new outfit.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, sometimes a death thing means stop STOP.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put it in the comments so you remember.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The difference is that the response came from what you needed, not simply from what you were afraid to lose.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm gonna say that one more time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The difference is that the response came from
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not simply what you were afraid to lose and this is where I think we need to redefine what a win looks like Let's say you plan to go to dinner Pain shows up, you pause, you check in and you decide I'm going, but I'm leaving early Was the win that you went?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, maybe another day you do the same, it's checking and you decide, I'm staying home.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Was that a failure?
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The win in both situation was you responded instead of automatically reacting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You responded instead of automatically acting.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we're building.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not a perfect answer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A better relationship with the decision because I know what you already actually want.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't want a whole week revolving around how you feel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't want to wake up every morning wondering, what is my body going to let me do today?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let me do today.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You want to work, move, make plans, travel, show up for the people you love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Take care of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Experience your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: fully.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't think the answer is pretending symptoms aren't there, but I also don't think the only alternative is letting symptoms make every decision.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's another possibility.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You become better at responding.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You notice.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You assess.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You make a decision.
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[SPEAKER_00]: you adapt and over time, you learn more about what actually supports you, why, oh, you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's lifestyle for support, not another rigid plan, building the ability to navigate your actual life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I want to be responsible about this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot necessarily predict every flier.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You cannot control every symptom and not every difficult day means you missed a signal or did something wrong.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Persistness or changing pelvic pain deserves appropriate medical evaluation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're not replacing it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're talking about the part of the experience that belongs to
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[SPEAKER_00]: So this week, don't try to overhaul anything, just catch one moment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One moment when your body's dead, something is different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And instead of immediately, I'll just push through.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Try pause, ask a debt, pause, what's happening?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ask, would do I need a debt?
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[SPEAKER_00]: needs to change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What if anything needs to change?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then choose, that's it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because imagine what changes when paying shows showing up doesn't automatically mean, there goes my whole day.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it also doesn't actually mean ignore it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and keep going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have more than two choices.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have options.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have information.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have the ability to adjust.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put a ability down there in case you didn't know that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Put a ability in the comments.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have a ability to adjust.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And sometimes you'll still have to cancel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes you'll still be disappointed.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes the pain will still disrupt something you really want it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to pretend otherwise, but even then you didn't abandon yourself just to preserve the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the different way of navigating your life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So my ADACT women, here's what I want to know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When pelvic pain interrupts your plans, what do you usually do first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What do you usually do first?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is it pushed through, wait and see?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Can't so change something?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Freeze because you generally don't know what to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Tell me what you actually do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because that is part of this experience.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I wanna understand better.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And in painful periods or pelvic pain are disrupting how you work, move, make plans or take care of yourself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Take my 30 second pelvic pain survey.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The three questions about what everyday life, what pelvic pain actually looks like for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The link is in the show notes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to understand.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the next episode, we're going to zoom all the way out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because maybe you've been asking, how bad is my pain?
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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's another question I think we need to ask.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's how much of my life has started moving around it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The plans you change, the things you don't do, the things you push through, the energy you say, the days you leave open just in case.
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[SPEAKER_00]: because pain doesn't have to stop your life completely to start shaping it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's where we're going next.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But this week, when something changes, calls, ask a debt.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because taking care of yourself doesn't always mean giving up the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes it means changing how you move the rule.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the goal isn't always to keep the plan.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's to stop automatically losing yourself inside of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Ya, it should help you have it in lifestyle Coach Joe Bonnie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Host up the empire place, empire at last podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for bothering me, y'all.
