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Speaker 1: I was not on the Minnesota Goodbye all yesterday, and then we didn't do one on Friday because it was just me and Vaunt and there was just too much other stuff going on. So what do you guys do in the Minnesota Goodbye yesterday?
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Speaker 2: Uh, yesterday I talked about my house.
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Speaker 3: Vont talked about he has like this irrational fear of dying.
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Speaker 1: Oh well, somebody brought that up in the first email. They said, Hey, guys listening to the Minnesota Goodbye really appreciated Vont being honest about his fear surrounding death and dying. As a licensed psychotherapist and just as a human who's experienced significant loss young, I wanted to offer a perspective that's helped me both personally and professionally. Part of what makes death so terrifying is that it forces us to confront the fact that our life is temporary. But honestly, I think that also is what gives life meaning in the first place. Without death, life wouldn't really be life as we know it. It would just be some infinite state of being. The fact that our time is limited is what makes moments matter, relationships matter, love matter, and memories matter. Time is the most expensive thing you own. Doesn't matter how rich you are, you can never buy yourself more. One thing I also often say as a therapist is you really don't deal with death. You cope with death, You carry it, you adapt around it. And grief is incredibly personal. There's no right where to grieve, no timeline, no universal experience. Every loss feels different because every relationship was different. I lost a parent and a grandparent at a young la at a young age, and one unexpectedly and one expected. Honestly, neither was easier. They were just different kinds of pain. But both losses shape me into who I am today, and I still continue to discover and understand all this to say, the fear of death is deeply human. But I also think if we spend our entire lives fearing death until the day we die, we risk missing the life happening right in front of us now. Anyway, just want to share my perspective because I thought the conversation was really genuine and so important. Thank you, Vante. That is from a real therapist named Kaylee.
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Speaker 2: Awesome.
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Speaker 3: You should forward that to Vaunt so we can see it now. That's really nice because I like the idea, if we worry about death, then we'll get to the day that we die and we will have missed out on life.
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Speaker 2: So I like, I like that. That's cool.
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Speaker 3: It's cool, and psychotherapists email in because then they actually know and it's not just us talking out of our behinds, you know.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's nice, Thank you very much. Kaylee. Uh, there are a lot of emails, so let me try my best to kind of sort through them. Okay, give me a second as I page two. This is probably the most awkward part, is like Dave looking for emails. If I did a better job at producing the Minnesota Goodbye, because I can't avan the producer, I would have each mail separated and like ready and ready to go.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it kind of gives it, you know, a human quality.
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Speaker 1: Yep. Otherwise, hey, all this doesn't need to be read on the air. Vaunton Bailey can just read it. Well, let's see what we have here. Yeah, yes, I'm kind of with you, Vaunton Bailey on the life reflection part. Right now, I'm forty seven. I just went to a classmates celebration of life of the weekend. It was amazing service and all the story were great, but we also don't know what happened. We assume it was a heart attack, but he also seemed really active and healthy. Today we went to a funeral for a thirty eight year old. No idea what happens to her yet either. Some rumblings it could have been a clot but haven't officially heard from the spouse yet. Things are kind of sucky right now. I appreciate the positivity of Bailey every day in the honesty of vont You two are doing great. And congrats again to Bailey on the offer for your home being accepted. I hope all goes much more smoothly than Colts. I don't know anything about Colts.
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Speaker 3: Well, apparently his inspection was really garbage, and so was someone. I said I was getting my inspection today, and someone texted in and being like, watch out because Colts was apparently really bad.
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Speaker 2: I don't know how that works, but.
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Speaker 1: Interesting that I, you know, I didn't know anything. I really don't listen to Fallon and Colt in the afternoon, and it's not for any reason except that I don't If I worked at McDonald's, I wouldn't come to lunch at McDonald's after my shift. Yeah, if I worked at Olive Garden, I wouldn't be like, you know what sounds good guy, Olive Garden.
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Speaker 3: That's funny because when I worked at Disney, all of our days awfully would just go to Disney.
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Speaker 2: But it's because it was Disney. It was different. Then it's more fun Yeah, okay.
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Speaker 1: Next one and katiewb homies from Justina. First time rider, longtime listener. Like many others, I've been listening to your show for over twenty years. Thank you. Some random things on my mind, Dave, there are no green starbursts. I thought there were. Also, the saying you mentioned last week is two can keep a secret if one of them is dead. Okay, I've heard that before. Two people can keep a secret, like if I say, Bailey, I just want to let you know that I've been stealing money from Susan's four oh one K to gamble.
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Speaker 2: You text my mom that.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. See now, then two of us can keep a secret if one of us is dead.
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Speaker 3: Yes, I didn't realize there were no green Star I thought there were. Now I wish there were because that could be some really cojuicy flavors.
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Speaker 1: Next one, have you guys ever had problems with stalkers or weirdos who keep messaging you guys or showing up places. I always wondered, since you guys are local celebrities and don't have security, I can see Dave having some crazy lady stalkers. The worst I ever had, I would say one of the worst I ever had was a guy and he wasn't a stalker. He was just annoying. And this was twenty five maybe thirty years ago. A guy thought that we were friends, and I gave him my phone number, my home phone number for some legitimate reason, and he would call me just like hey, what's going on. I'm like, yeah, I mean, I wasn't friends with you. But then he called me one night and he was at a party and he wanted to show off that he knew Dave Ryan. He's like, hey, day, yeah, it's me. Hey, can you say hi to the room here? Because I told him I know you? And so I was kind of pissy, like, no, we're not friends like that. And so he actually call my boss and told the complain to the boss about what a jerk I was because I wouldn't let him call me and be his friend weird, And so I always kind of keep people at arms distance, you know, if somebody becomes a little bit too overly familiar. I love meeting people, I really do, and nearly everyone like if I'm like, okay, let's say that you want to get a copy of my book and I need you to email me or text me your email address, I give you my text number. I never hear from you again, but once in a while I will give somebody my phone number for a legitimate reason, and then out of the blue, it's like, hey, little Timmy's having a birthday party this weekend. Can you come by and do magic?
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Speaker 3: Yeah? And I'm like, no, yeah, I remember when you gave me your phone number, like thirteen years ago. And I would only ever text you if there was like a not a jingle Baller Star party, but like a girls night out yeah, or Booty Cruise. I'd just be like hi, I would like Booty Cruise tickets and you would say great, I will put you on the list, and then you never did, so I would show up and I'd have to show people the text message, Oh really you.
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Speaker 2: Sent me And I was like, no, you don't understand.
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Speaker 3: I know, Dave, and he said I could be here, but I always got in so, okay, good.
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Speaker 1: Next one, she says, I absolutely love No Phone Screener Friday. I wish there was more of it, but I understand why it's risky. I also love think Fast and I play along. Okay, good. We love No Phone Screener Friday too. We did an abbreviated version last week, and it was one of the weirdest ones, because I'll be honest with you, without your wit here to kind of like cushion the weirdness.
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Speaker 3: Me.
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Speaker 2: Yes, I didn't know if you were saying no, it's true because we had it.
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Speaker 1: Was a weird one and the callers were not necessarily good, and they were weird, and I don't remember that they were like stupid or anything. It just wasn't a good No Phone Screener Friday. So Vaunt and I are trying to handle it, and we're trying to be like, oh, but without you here, you really do cushion the weirdness sometimes because you laugh and common at the right places.
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Speaker 2: Oh well, that's good, So let me write that down so I can put that on my resume when I ultimately get fired. Yes, laughs and comments at the right time.
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Speaker 1: Push in the weirdness. Yeah, next one things that keep me up at nights all from the same person. Remember when humans thought they were going to create a super honey producing bee by crossing two types of docile honeybees, but they escaped and mutated into what is now known as the African killer bees. What they are the most aggressive bee there is, known for attacking in large numbers, responding ten times faster. And we'll follow a threat one quarter mile away. What well, Justina, I'm gonna guess you're older, and I'm going to tell you why. Because the killer bees. This is true. They had a hybrid of very aggressive bees and they let them out of the hive. And when I was a kid, like fifth grade on up, they would keep track of how far the killer bees had approached toward America, and it was like y two K Bailey, remember why two K?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: And when they got here, they were going to kill everybody. And the killer bees were going to be so aggressive and kill everybody. And it never really happened, and people never mentioned the killer bees anymore.
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Speaker 3: Honestly, I googled the killer bees and they're actually quite cute. They got like little jackets on, they got furry little jackets. That's so sweet.
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Speaker 1: All right. That is going to wrap it up for today's Minnesota Goodbye and a little again. It's shorter than we usually go, and I don't like that, but without Jenny here to kind of like handle things and stuff, it's we're short staffed, we are, so it'll be a little bit shorter maybe this week. But we love your emails on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send those to Ryan's show at KDWB dot com.
Speaker 1: I was not on the Minnesota Goodbye all yesterday, and then we didn't do one on Friday because it was just me and Vaunt and there was just too much other stuff going on. So what do you guys do in the Minnesota Goodbye yesterday?
00:00:10
Speaker 2: Uh, yesterday I talked about my house.
00:00:13
Speaker 3: Vont talked about he has like this irrational fear of dying.
00:00:17
Speaker 1: Oh well, somebody brought that up in the first email. They said, Hey, guys listening to the Minnesota Goodbye really appreciated Vont being honest about his fear surrounding death and dying. As a licensed psychotherapist and just as a human who's experienced significant loss young, I wanted to offer a perspective that's helped me both personally and professionally. Part of what makes death so terrifying is that it forces us to confront the fact that our life is temporary. But honestly, I think that also is what gives life meaning in the first place. Without death, life wouldn't really be life as we know it. It would just be some infinite state of being. The fact that our time is limited is what makes moments matter, relationships matter, love matter, and memories matter. Time is the most expensive thing you own. Doesn't matter how rich you are, you can never buy yourself more. One thing I also often say as a therapist is you really don't deal with death. You cope with death, You carry it, you adapt around it. And grief is incredibly personal. There's no right where to grieve, no timeline, no universal experience. Every loss feels different because every relationship was different. I lost a parent and a grandparent at a young la at a young age, and one unexpectedly and one expected. Honestly, neither was easier. They were just different kinds of pain. But both losses shape me into who I am today, and I still continue to discover and understand all this to say, the fear of death is deeply human. But I also think if we spend our entire lives fearing death until the day we die, we risk missing the life happening right in front of us now. Anyway, just want to share my perspective because I thought the conversation was really genuine and so important. Thank you, Vante. That is from a real therapist named Kaylee.
00:01:57
Speaker 2: Awesome.
00:01:57
Speaker 3: You should forward that to Vaunt so we can see it now. That's really nice because I like the idea, if we worry about death, then we'll get to the day that we die and we will have missed out on life.
00:02:09
Speaker 2: So I like, I like that. That's cool.
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Speaker 3: It's cool, and psychotherapists email in because then they actually know and it's not just us talking out of our behinds, you know.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's nice, Thank you very much. Kaylee. Uh, there are a lot of emails, so let me try my best to kind of sort through them. Okay, give me a second as I page two. This is probably the most awkward part, is like Dave looking for emails. If I did a better job at producing the Minnesota Goodbye, because I can't avan the producer, I would have each mail separated and like ready and ready to go.
00:02:39
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it kind of gives it, you know, a human quality.
00:02:42
Speaker 1: Yep. Otherwise, hey, all this doesn't need to be read on the air. Vaunton Bailey can just read it. Well, let's see what we have here. Yeah, yes, I'm kind of with you, Vaunton Bailey on the life reflection part. Right now, I'm forty seven. I just went to a classmates celebration of life of the weekend. It was amazing service and all the story were great, but we also don't know what happened. We assume it was a heart attack, but he also seemed really active and healthy. Today we went to a funeral for a thirty eight year old. No idea what happens to her yet either. Some rumblings it could have been a clot but haven't officially heard from the spouse yet. Things are kind of sucky right now. I appreciate the positivity of Bailey every day in the honesty of vont You two are doing great. And congrats again to Bailey on the offer for your home being accepted. I hope all goes much more smoothly than Colts. I don't know anything about Colts.
00:03:30
Speaker 3: Well, apparently his inspection was really garbage, and so was someone. I said I was getting my inspection today, and someone texted in and being like, watch out because Colts was apparently really bad.
00:03:41
Speaker 2: I don't know how that works, but.
00:03:45
Speaker 1: Interesting that I, you know, I didn't know anything. I really don't listen to Fallon and Colt in the afternoon, and it's not for any reason except that I don't If I worked at McDonald's, I wouldn't come to lunch at McDonald's after my shift. Yeah, if I worked at Olive Garden, I wouldn't be like, you know what sounds good guy, Olive Garden.
00:04:00
Speaker 3: That's funny because when I worked at Disney, all of our days awfully would just go to Disney.
00:04:05
Speaker 2: But it's because it was Disney. It was different. Then it's more fun Yeah, okay.
00:04:11
Speaker 1: Next one and katiewb homies from Justina. First time rider, longtime listener. Like many others, I've been listening to your show for over twenty years. Thank you. Some random things on my mind, Dave, there are no green starbursts. I thought there were. Also, the saying you mentioned last week is two can keep a secret if one of them is dead. Okay, I've heard that before. Two people can keep a secret, like if I say, Bailey, I just want to let you know that I've been stealing money from Susan's four oh one K to gamble.
00:04:41
Speaker 2: You text my mom that.
00:04:42
Speaker 1: Yeah. See now, then two of us can keep a secret if one of us is dead.
00:04:47
Speaker 3: Yes, I didn't realize there were no green Star I thought there were. Now I wish there were because that could be some really cojuicy flavors.
00:04:56
Speaker 1: Next one, have you guys ever had problems with stalkers or weirdos who keep messaging you guys or showing up places. I always wondered, since you guys are local celebrities and don't have security, I can see Dave having some crazy lady stalkers. The worst I ever had, I would say one of the worst I ever had was a guy and he wasn't a stalker. He was just annoying. And this was twenty five maybe thirty years ago. A guy thought that we were friends, and I gave him my phone number, my home phone number for some legitimate reason, and he would call me just like hey, what's going on. I'm like, yeah, I mean, I wasn't friends with you. But then he called me one night and he was at a party and he wanted to show off that he knew Dave Ryan. He's like, hey, day, yeah, it's me. Hey, can you say hi to the room here? Because I told him I know you? And so I was kind of pissy, like, no, we're not friends like that. And so he actually call my boss and told the complain to the boss about what a jerk I was because I wouldn't let him call me and be his friend weird, And so I always kind of keep people at arms distance, you know, if somebody becomes a little bit too overly familiar. I love meeting people, I really do, and nearly everyone like if I'm like, okay, let's say that you want to get a copy of my book and I need you to email me or text me your email address, I give you my text number. I never hear from you again, but once in a while I will give somebody my phone number for a legitimate reason, and then out of the blue, it's like, hey, little Timmy's having a birthday party this weekend. Can you come by and do magic?
00:06:37
Speaker 3: Yeah? And I'm like, no, yeah, I remember when you gave me your phone number, like thirteen years ago. And I would only ever text you if there was like a not a jingle Baller Star party, but like a girls night out yeah, or Booty Cruise. I'd just be like hi, I would like Booty Cruise tickets and you would say great, I will put you on the list, and then you never did, so I would show up and I'd have to show people the text message, Oh really you.
00:06:58
Speaker 2: Sent me And I was like, no, you don't understand.
00:07:01
Speaker 3: I know, Dave, and he said I could be here, but I always got in so, okay, good.
00:07:07
Speaker 1: Next one, she says, I absolutely love No Phone Screener Friday. I wish there was more of it, but I understand why it's risky. I also love think Fast and I play along. Okay, good. We love No Phone Screener Friday too. We did an abbreviated version last week, and it was one of the weirdest ones, because I'll be honest with you, without your wit here to kind of like cushion the weirdness.
00:07:27
Speaker 3: Me.
00:07:28
Speaker 2: Yes, I didn't know if you were saying no, it's true because we had it.
00:07:31
Speaker 1: Was a weird one and the callers were not necessarily good, and they were weird, and I don't remember that they were like stupid or anything. It just wasn't a good No Phone Screener Friday. So Vaunt and I are trying to handle it, and we're trying to be like, oh, but without you here, you really do cushion the weirdness sometimes because you laugh and common at the right places.
00:07:55
Speaker 2: Oh well, that's good, So let me write that down so I can put that on my resume when I ultimately get fired. Yes, laughs and comments at the right time.
00:08:02
Speaker 1: Push in the weirdness. Yeah, next one things that keep me up at nights all from the same person. Remember when humans thought they were going to create a super honey producing bee by crossing two types of docile honeybees, but they escaped and mutated into what is now known as the African killer bees. What they are the most aggressive bee there is, known for attacking in large numbers, responding ten times faster. And we'll follow a threat one quarter mile away. What well, Justina, I'm gonna guess you're older, and I'm going to tell you why. Because the killer bees. This is true. They had a hybrid of very aggressive bees and they let them out of the hive. And when I was a kid, like fifth grade on up, they would keep track of how far the killer bees had approached toward America, and it was like y two K Bailey, remember why two K?
00:08:50
Speaker 2: Yeah?
00:08:50
Speaker 1: And when they got here, they were going to kill everybody. And the killer bees were going to be so aggressive and kill everybody. And it never really happened, and people never mentioned the killer bees anymore.
00:09:00
Speaker 3: Honestly, I googled the killer bees and they're actually quite cute. They got like little jackets on, they got furry little jackets. That's so sweet.
00:09:07
Speaker 1: All right. That is going to wrap it up for today's Minnesota Goodbye and a little again. It's shorter than we usually go, and I don't like that, but without Jenny here to kind of like handle things and stuff, it's we're short staffed, we are, so it'll be a little bit shorter maybe this week. But we love your emails on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send those to Ryan's show at KDWB dot com.
