The Morning That Changes Everything: Small Gestures, Big Impact

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What's going on everybody and what's going on folks My name is David and I'm
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your legendary Your legendary host of this legendary podcast The Deconstructing Topic Podcast,
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In this podcast we talk about a little bit of everything We have a topic,
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we kind of deconstructing I'm not going to say,
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kind of, we do In the deep way as we can to deconstruct,
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a topic And we talk about a little bit of everything And today we got a good
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one, we got a two in one life lesson,
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Ooh, we're going to make it happen Let me tell you something If 25 years ago
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I was doing a podcast If there was such a thing as a podcast 25 years ago Which
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my understanding that perhaps not,
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Or perhaps there was only two But the fact is this That if I exist and you wanted
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to hear my voice And wanted to get some motivation I would have guaranteed That
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as you're listening to this episode Or any episode Or even 25 years ago,
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I would not tell you Hey listen You got all of my CDs here Because this volume
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of this Is going to be life changing And I'm going to help you unlock The ultimate
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secret of success To your life And then when the last CD ends.
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I end up telling you Well you know what,
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That's another way to do and to unlock the success. But you got to get volume
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My podcast is not about that life. I appreciate people hitting that subscribe
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And show love and feel free to share. So I'm not about that life,
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but hey, listen, I'm all about helping people.
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And, you know, today, you know, shout out to our colleagues,
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sister in arms, and a couple of people out there in the last kind of couple
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of weeks. It's been interesting, to say the least, and many emotions.
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And I kind of remind myself that it was not too long ago, and I want to say that in this podcast,
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We're going to live, or not live, but remind ourselves that the way we start
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the day, now I'm going to be loosely say the word morning because there are
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people that their time schedule is different, their day is different.
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For me, what's morning, you know, it could be the night for somebody else and vice versa.
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You know, because, hey, listen, so to me, I'm one to say, and in my case,
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the way that you start the morning, The first thought, and especially if it's
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positive, is what's going to help transcend the rest of the day.
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And I'm one of those people that I say to myself, you know what?
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That's why I wake up early. I do my good deeds in the gym. I give a shout out to the good Lord.
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Be grateful and remind myself that there's others that need help.
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There's others that need that little extra hand.
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And I'm more than willing to do it.
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But sometimes your boy D sometimes he wake up like what the hell is going on I don't feel good.
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You know, certain parts of my body's hurting. You know, I got the,
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you know, ailments and all that good stuff. And I said, what is going on?
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And the other day I was at work and it actually started in the gym and I was
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just not feeling up to par.
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And, you know, when you're not feeling up to par and, you know,
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I got a couple of things going on in my life that I want to take care of because,
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hey, listen, we're moving, we're on a mission.
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So that means that your mind hits this chatterbox. Like, you know how they always
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say that. Sometimes, hey, when you start talking to yourself,
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as one famous rapper said, hey, I talk to myself because I'm my own consultant, right?
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And that's what's happening to me not too long ago in the morning.
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I'm at work, and there's a lot of chatters.
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You know, I'm just in my mind. And then I see there's other chatters of other
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people, and for some reason.
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I thought that somebody, I overheard somebody that might have need help from
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my department on where I work at.
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And I'm like, did I hear that correctly? Maybe I'm bugging out.
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I just don't know. And I'm like, I'm asking a couple of questions here because
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I was having that type of morning.
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Because, you know, when we kind of wake up and we're not feeling good physically
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neither. Sometimes we're just not, you know, under the weather.
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And then it seems that your immune system is taking a shot. But sometimes it
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could be spiritually, mentally, whatever it is.
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That you just become sensitive, like your radar, like of everything.
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Like, what did you say? You were talking to me? No, no, I'm on the phone.
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I thought, I'm sorry. You know, one of those moments.
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So I reached out to a colleague in arms, and I kind of was like wondering,
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do you need my help or something like that? You know, I'm just curious here,
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you know, because I could have sworn.
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But interesting how that little moment of randomness, of life being life,
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where that moment, it's two people, two individuals.
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And then, you know, I'm reaching out to the, you know, to the individual and
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then, you know, to the colleague in arms and we're having a conversation or
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at least, you know, kind of like, hey, listen.
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And one thing that we agree on that, you know, little exchange is that sometimes,
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you know, we're going to have those rough mornings where everything seems like,
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okay, you know, you're trying to do so much.
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We get limited to physically, mentally, whatever it is that's going on.
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And then I start to think like, wow, because I'm going to say,
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listen, how do you start the day?
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If you start the day in some awesome, positive, whatever, not just positive,
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but just wanting to do something, wanting to just be out there.
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That's telling a lot to the day. And that's telling a lot to the people that
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you come across throughout the day.
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And in this individual, you know, in this case, we have a conversation and we
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kind of, you know, was in the same page.
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In regards to that belief. But then I start to realize, and I've made a comment,
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and the individual agreed, and it's like, you know what?
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As much as we, and even myself, we humans, sometimes we tend to not, how can I say it to you?
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You don't know what life you're changing, or you're helping, or you're saving.
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And sometimes I find myself in that situation, that I might be having a bad
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day, but just because you reach out to me,
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hey, I got, you know, who knows if I'm just having so much issues and this random
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person happy, whatever it is, hey, how are we doing today?
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That right there, that little gesture could change somebody's life.
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And I started to think, wow, this kind of reminds me to this other lesson in
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life. Once again, we are here.
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I think I'm going to do more than two lessons in this one Where,
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you know, we want to kind of start doing something positive Even something as
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simple as being grateful to the things,
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that we have That's around us Even if we're going through a little hardship
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or whatever Sometimes just the fact that you're waking up and breathing You'll
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be like, wow, that's a gift in itself.
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And that's actually an opportunity for one to do something about it.
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I'm breathing. What am I going to do?
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So it kind of reminded me of this thing that happened to me at the age of 11 and 12.
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That even at a young age and even as we get, let's say, more experience in life, as we get older,
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is that sometimes we get caught up in these moments that we know that perhaps
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we are in front of a life-changing moment or a life-saving.
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And at age 11 and 12, it started to kind of remind me, at least my memory,
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of one time I remember I was with my older brother and it looks like a friend of family.
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You know, they apparently, how can I say, had no kids?
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So they kind of like, you know, These elder folks need to help with the cutting
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grass and all that good stuff. So, you know, friends of the family,
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they reach out to my mother. Listen, you know, if it's summertime,
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if they can help, whatever. I'm like, hey, I'm down.
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That's about a long time ago, you know.
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What is, you know, $30 for someone who's like 11, 12 back in the early 90s?
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Maybe $40, I don't know. I'm trying to remember. But the fact is,
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there's this interesting moment. I'm with my older brother.
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So this couple picks us up, you know, with me in this pickup truck, if you will.
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And then I was just re-driving. And keep in mind, I was living in the Bronx.
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I was raising the Bronx. And, you know, at that time, I'm in the Bronx.
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And, hey, listen, I love the Bronx.
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But, wow, you know, I was living in some of the ghettos of all ghetto bronze places.
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So for this individual to take us to another site where there was these beautiful
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trees, that I always remember this, like it was yesterday.
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I'm somewhere. And, you know, just to kind of spoil it, we was in another side
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of the Bronx that was nice. The Bronx got some good, you know, nice neighborhood.
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So people out there that, you know, yo, the Bronx is ghetto,
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whatever. Hey, listen, everybody, everything is ghetto.
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The Bronx got some nice neighborhood, hardworking people, let's get it.
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As I'm over here in this parking lot, right there in the parking lot, there's a barbecue.
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And there was a convenience store that later becomes 7-Eleven.
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For those people that know 7-Eleven, you know how that goes.
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And I'm over here looking at this, and then again, to spoil it,
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I was in another beautiful, you know, in another beautiful part of the Bronx,
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and to me, everything was new, and I would just, wow, I'm actually in the Bronx. This is beautiful.
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This is where I love to be at. You know, it seems a little bit,
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you know, there's houses, there's buildings.
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I see the trains, you know, the train station, I just see something different and I'm feeling it.
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And I'm in this parking lot looking at the highway, there's some woods there,
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and I'm just feeling like there's a sense of something happening.
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But I'm young, I don't know how to explain it.
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I just know that something as if life, the universe, God, all the good stuff,
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we're going to compile everything.
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As if somebody was kind of telling you, David, do you see this area right here?
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Not only is it going to mean something to you, but it's going to save your life.
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Ladies and gentlemen, and those people in between, a couple of years later,
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it turned out to be that my high school would have been right across from the
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woods and the trees and the highway that I was looking at.
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And basically, I was foreseeing in my life, because the high school that I attended,
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and it was, it came in during a time where my family was, we had a hardship.
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We was living in the system.
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My mom's who I love to death, you know, single mother doing everything by herself.
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You know, you got young kids in high school and everything. And it's like you
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got to do a lot. So imagine that because my high school, the people that was
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there, the teachers, they helped me shape my life.
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So in this little episode of Deconstructing Topic Podcast, beautiful episode, legendary,
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is that sometimes we might not know consciously or subconsciously when we are
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saving our life or saving other persons, but ultimately saving your life.
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And sometimes those things can happen on a daily basis.
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That's why they say take it day by day. But sometimes that could happen in a
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moment and it might take time to manifest and it might take time to develop.
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And in this case, that's exactly what happened.
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And those reminders of what happened to me not long ago at work,
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having our little, you know, rough day,
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to coming across our colleagues in arms, where we kind of sharing,
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you know, this little, small little talk of, you know, philosophy and age.
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We know how sometimes rough, how rough life can be, especially in the morning.
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You know, we sense that, we know that.
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But sometimes it could be something before that happened to us,
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something presently, and perhaps something in the future where we're just going
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to bask there and look at something and we're just going to sense something that we don't know.
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And it could be anything that's going to trigger this emotion that's going to
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say, wow, I feel like there's a connection.
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And that day, you know, when I was 11, 12 years old in a parking lot,
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you just felt this connection like, what in the world is going on?
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You know, I felt it I always talk about that story,
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Because that happened to me long ago And it still makes an impact in my life
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Because it shaped the way And it got me to where I'm at at this point What am
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I going to do with that power?
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I got a podcast I'm talking to you I'm talking to many people I'm networking,
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Because what's in my hands now The power that I have is to help people.
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And at the end, and in turn, it also helps me.
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So that's what's going on on the Deconstructing Topic Podcast. Hit me up.
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If you feel like you want to reach out, tell a story or two where you felt that,
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and you just couldn't kind of pinpoint what it is, but then it turned out to
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be something legendary, let me know.
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Because it is your boy Deconstructed Topic Podcast I'm all over the podcast
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But together we gotta make it happen Alright I'm outta here Peace Take care.