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We don't just go to the word to know what God said, but to know God.
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Welcome to the Created To Be Podcast.
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We're back for another week.
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I'm one of your hosts, Bethany Pigett, and Brandy is with me today.
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Hey.
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Thanks, Brandy, for being here and help me host this podcast today.
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Yeah.
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And we normally we introduce like a guest, but since our third person at the table has already been a guest, I'm gonna call him a guest host.
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Wow.
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Not a guest guest.
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Wow.
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This is Brad Smith.
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Hey.
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He is back with us this week.
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We um, you know, I keep saying Justin's gone, and when he listens to the podcast, he's like, you really gotta stop saying that.
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He's like And yet you said it again.
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And I said it again.
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Uh but anyways, later in the week is very hard for him uh to be here.
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So uh and then Darius is out, but I like that we have, you know, we might have to come up for a name for this setup because our names all start with B.
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Sounds like the three B's are at the table.
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There you go.
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Yeah.
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So um today's gonna be a lot of fun.
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We're gonna talk about Brandy's topic that she would have covered by the time this comes out at the huddle the night before.
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So we're gonna get to that in just a minute.
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The last podcast, we talked about mascots because we did not have a huddle the day before the podcast came out.
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So we deviated a little bit to revisit a conversation that happened in episode three, which was very fun to talk about if mascots are athletes.
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And Spiffy did a great job.
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So if you have not listened to that podcast, um, you know, go ahead and listen to that.
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One of the things that stood out to me in that podcast, it was more of like a serious thing because a lot of it was very fun and just information and uh fun stories, but was like Spiffy described who he could be in the suit that he wasn't necessarily outside of the suit.
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Like he it sounded like a lot more freedom to just be expressive and things like that.
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And so kind of the takeaway from me was as far as like as it relates to our relationship with Christ, is like a lot of times we think we lose ourselves when we're in Christ, you know, like we have to deny ourselves whatever, but actually it's like permission to become more of who we really are.
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Yeah, and so that it just some of the podcast towards the end like took a different turn than I anticipated with like things to take away when we started talking about secrets and like him having to be somebody different in the suit, outside the suit.
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Like he talked a lot about um unity, like that it was there was nine mascots that would exchange turns being bully, and so they all had a unit.
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I didn't realize there was nine.
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There might not currently be, but when he was doing it, and so like they all have to learn how to express themselves similarly as bully, walk like bully, and so like it really was such a good analogy of like denying himself and what he wanted, and he's like, I have to be bully when I'm in the suit because there has to be uniformity anytime any of us get in the suit.
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They probably had like practice.
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Oh, yeah.
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I just never really thought of having practice for that.
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Like I could just get out there and wing it.
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That's what I'm thinking.
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Yeah, they but the part when you were talking about that it they they have to move the same way, they have to give the same expressions, the same nod, the same, you know, kind of bounce to them and uh and how how coordinated that was.
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I'd never thought about that before.
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I knew that there were multiple you know, people, right, but I never thought about how they were all the same, yeah.
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So that takes my brain like a whole different direction with even like how we express ourselves like as believers, you know, like how much is consistent across the board because we all are different stories, different denominations.
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Anyways, we don't have to get into that today, but that's where my brain, of course, like making drawing some conclusions and um but we did do a rapid fire question that I wanted to ask you guys and see if y'all had any other um answers.
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So when Justin, when we revisited the podcast, and like I was like, you gotta listen to it.
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It it was so funny and it was a lot of fun.
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Uh, we talked about how, like, in in the stretch time, we talked about mascots and the different companies that like use mascots or the teams and stuff like that.
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But more in particular, it was like businesses that use mascots instead of maybe people to do their branding or marketing.
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So, one of the things a few things I wanted to revisit just because I looked them up.
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So the Michelin man was mentioned.
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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And we were trying to figure out what are those tires that he's made up of.
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And it said on the internet, per the internet, yes, it's white tires that makes up the Michelin man.
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Looks like marshmallows.
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Yeah.
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I was gonna say he's he's kind of the tire version of the Pillsbury doughboy.
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Yeah.
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You know, I mean the same kind of thing.
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Yes.
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And then um, Spider-Man, I'm gonna have to revisit whenever Darius comes, but I'll have to remind him he had not seen the most recent ones with Tom Holland, and I was a little offended.
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I know that I have.
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I'm sorry.
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I don't really watch, I don't watch movies much.
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Well, we were just talking about did you do you know, like, do you have a version that you like the best?
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Um well, not necessarily one that I like the best, but I have seen, you know, all the different versions there.
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So And you don't have a preference?
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I don't have a preference.
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I don't have a preference.
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Okay.
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I never really could get into them before it switched.
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Um, okay, and then Auburn, which y'all probably already know this, but we were like, do they let an eagle out?
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Do they not?
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That's so cool.
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I thought that they had.
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My sister happened to be at the Auburn Bandy game, because she was, anyways, had a presentation to do on campus.
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And so they went to the game, and so she actually, between that podcast and today, like she sent me an act a video of it happening.
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So I was like, clearly they do this, but it just felt crazy to say without me knowing for it.
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Right, for sure.
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Yeah, no, I felt I feel like there's one other school that does that, but I I can't think of who it is.
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I knew Auburn did, but yeah, they had mentioned the Philadelphia Eagles do the same thing.
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That could be it, that could be what I'm thinking about.
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But I think I mean, in this video she sent me, that Eagle was getting like close to people.
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I went when I guess Brett's senior year, they played at Auburn and I went, and it's really cool.
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Yeah, I was anyway.
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So then, so I had to just follow up on that because we said that in the last episode.
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So Justin's mascots that he thought of were Lucky Charms, which we did not mention, uh Ghostbusters, uh Honey Nut Cheerios.
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He was like, you know, the bee.
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And I was like, Oh yeah, that's like probably the most obvious cereal.
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No, I was thinking, I didn't think of that.
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Yeah.
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Um, Count Dracula for the chocolate what are they called?
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The cereal that's like the chocolate something.
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I said, mm-hmm.
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Uh-huh.
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We're all thinking of it and we can't think of it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And then Captain Crunch.
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All of his are cereal, you see.
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He ate a lot of cereal growing up.
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Um, and then do y'all remember the fruit stripes gum, the zebra gum?
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Yeah.
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He if he was here, he would say all these like the little jingles and stuff that went with it because he was reminding me.
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And then Kool-Aid.
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Yeah.
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I didn't think about that.
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I did remember.
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There was uh Tony the Tiger.
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Yes.
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And I'm gonna go back.
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I'm gonna go back.
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It's Count Chocula.
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It's Count Chocula that that that that's on that cereal.
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So okay, so I was wrong, but that's okay.
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Uh yeah, that's that's why we couldn't come up with the name of it.
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That's what it was.
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That's why, yeah.
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And then I remembered Smoky the Bear.
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So even outside of you know, these like some of these branding, you have these other areas where people are using, you know, some kind of mascot.
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You're smiling about that, Brad.
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You have a story.
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Oh, yeah.
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I don't I don't have a Smoky Bear.
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Stalja, you have this stallion.
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I was thinking there's probably more like school-related ones if we could really think about it.
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Yeah.
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I just can't think of any off the top of my head.
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Which one of the things that Spiffy did mention that I did not realize, I mean, it kind of seems obvious, but like I mentioned, the Texas mascot we served there with FCA, so I was like, yeah, Bivo.
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And he was like, it's actually not Bivo, like in the suit.
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Bivo is the the longhorn cow.
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The live mascot.
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Yes, but like that the live mascot and the one in the suit are not necessarily the same name name.
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Oh yeah.
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So that was new.
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New news to me.
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But y'all y'all think of any others?
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Can you I've already I should have probably asked you before I gave you all these that Justin said.
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I thought of Tony the Tiger, but yeah, yeah.
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My mind's on cereal now.
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That's all I can think of, really.
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Yeah, just very interesting uh how the mascots, like even how it originated, how it's used now, you know.
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A lot of those, which this is not probably like a mascot per se, but like if businesses are trying to get, they'll put the you know, the big suit.
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What it there's a person in there sometimes, but it'll blow like air.
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But sometimes there's a person in there, not just air.
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I've wondered how those work.
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Like I think that the Georgia Bulldogs have like one of those types of suits that have the air, but then there is somebody walking around.
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Um, and I just I've never like gotten it gotta be some kind of fan or something.
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Yeah, probably be cooler.
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Yeah, it probably would be for me.
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Um, yeah.
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And I can't that's that's my other thought from the whole mascot discussion was I cannot imagine how hot being in one of those suits would be on you know, field side and it's a hundred degrees.
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So hot, yeah, that I'm like, this is insane.
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Um I wonder, do they ever change in the middle of the game?
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That's that's what I I think.
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I didn't I didn't ask Spiffy either, but I've talked to others that have been in that role before, and I think that's like you know, you do the first quarter, I'll do the second quarter, you do the third quarter, you know.
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I mean, that they can kind of alternate back and forth, especially on on games like that.
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You know where my mind went?
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I actually thought you meant like bring a change of clothes because they're so sweaty.
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Yeah, well, that too.
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If they get a break, more questions.
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We thought we got them all answered.
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We don't.
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Um, anyways, he was a great guest.
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It was a very fun episode.
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Um, so today's topic is gonna be about what matters.
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We're gonna get back on that topic and we're gonna talk about scripture.
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So we've talked about salvation and worship, and I just wanted to remind people listening that we're we're talking about like it's like super broad, but it's like if you were to go to any denomin Christian denomination and see what they include in their services, these components are gonna be there.
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You're gonna have like salvation in Jesus is gonna be central, worship, a a structure, some type of expression of worship, and then scripture.
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And that can look a variety of different ways.
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Uh, so we're gonna talk about that a little bit later, but I'm super excited to do this next section of the podcast.
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Brad is shaking his head.
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I'm I'm less excited.
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But but I'm gonna I'm gonna fake it for Bethany now.
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So no, no, no, no.
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I'm excited.
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No, no, no.
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Okay, so um unfortunately, you weren't able to make the huddle when we kind of started this idea of uh let letting Brad have some space to be able to speak to certain things to the audience.
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Because how old are you, Brad?
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You want to share with the world?
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Well, you can put me on the last word here, but you can give a range, maybe a range of 52.
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That would be the range.
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Um, so you know, he's got wisdom and experience, and we've talked about that on the adventure episode, the comments episode.
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These were Brad's stories, so um we wanted to give him a space where he can like speak just reminders that are important, what things that matter to the students, and so we had hoped to do that live at a huddle, and it will happen.
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I already made a graphic and you know it's in cue.
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Um, but we have you know a moment today to to be able to do something fun with this segment.
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So Justin was actually going to announce Brad at the huddle and had like a speech for it, but I'm having to sub in for Brad.
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I did not know that.
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So I had to ask Justin.
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I was like, what were you gonna say?
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Um and so we wanted to, you know, this might change, but Brad, for right now, we feel like you need to be the fun uncle that people listen to.
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Yeah, you know, fun uncle.
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Okay, yeah.
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But you know, a lot of times the the fun uncle in a family can be the one that's like crazy or saying crazy things, but you're the type of person people need to listen to.
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So, um, so I like this little list here.
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It says gives you advice you didn't ask for, uh, knows a weird amount about random things.
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True, true.
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Says things your parents wouldn't say.
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I'm gonna take that as like maybe they'd want to say but can't say, maybe you wouldn't receive from your parents, but you might listen to Uncle Brad.
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Um, is somehow both incredibly wise, maybe questionable at times, but why?
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Questionable.
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Um will absolutely help you out.
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I don't know about this part, but might roast you first.
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I don't know you maybe well enough to to say that you would do that.
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Well, get ready.
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You know, I mean, I I might do that.
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I don't know.
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Maybe I do that to Brad.
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Um, and then has a story for everything, which has proven true.
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That might be my most true experience of Brad.
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Yeah.
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Um, so I don't know if y'all are familiar with this.
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There's been like radio shows, even TV shows, probably, where it's like ask so-and-so.
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Do y'all have any that come to mind?
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I have some in the show notes, but like anything that comes to mind as like a familiar or popular, maybe pe people that listen to this might not even know what these are.
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We might be that old, but I'm gonna I'm gonna have to, you know, start with there's there used to be these things called newspapers, you know.
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And I'm sure nobody here has seen or heard of those.
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Yeah, you would open them up and and they would have um there was uh what was it, Dear Abbey.
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Yes, I have that on my list, yep.
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Dear Abbey, and so and and um and maybe Ann Landers, I think was like a uh uh you know same type of thing.
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And and and people would mail in questions, and it was, you know, whatever, my mother-in-law is doing this, or what do I do when my kids do this, or my boss is like that, you know, and um and mail in these questions.
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And I guess, you know, six weeks later when the Pony Express mail, whatever got to Chicago or wherever this was originated out of, um then they would pick some of the good questions and answer them.
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And so I can't imagine having some question that I'm just every day running out to the paper to see did my question out of a thousand get get answered, you know, six weeks later.
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Yeah.
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But then you could also see the crossover of how many people have this question.
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Because it's like this question got answered, and I want to know that actually that's a question I have that I didn't ask, but I want to know.
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Um, do you know about those shows?
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Yeah, there was that one on the radio, um, 98.7 was the radio station.
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Was it a lady or a guy that would answer?
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It was a lady.
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Delilah?
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Was it Delilah?
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Yes, okay.
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Yes.
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I don't, I just I I there's a jingle, I think, that goes with it.
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Because I don't know that I I'm not gonna sing it, but I know it's a good thing.
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It's just her name, right?
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Is it just her name?
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It's just her name.
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It's just her name.
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Yeah.
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I'm not gonna sing it.
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But I'm not gonna hit those three notes.
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Me either, but I remember.
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Oh Brad, come on, man.
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I have a hot take on Delhi.
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I have a hot take on Delilah.
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Okay, what's your hot take?
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So, like, you know, we we used to um you know, just driving back and forth.
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We it there was a period of time we were driving between Nashville and Starkville a lot, like virtually every weekend we'd have to come back and forth.
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And um, for whatever reason, that was the radio station that would be on late at night, Delilah would be on somewhere on the Natchez Trace, you know, making making the drive.
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And um usually I I somebody would, you know, write in or call in with some question, and Delilah I think would give, generally speaking, pretty good advice.
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And then she'd say, I'm gonna pick out a song for you.
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And my wife and I used to laugh about this all the time because like the song the the advice would be great, but the song would be like the worst choice.
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It has nothing to do with whatever the question was, you know, and you're like, Well, you know, someone is talking about, you know, I've lost my you know, my boyfriend or my whatever, you know, I had this bad breakup, and she's like, Well, let me play the song for you, and it's Metallica with whatever, you know, and you're just like, I have no idea where she came up with that.
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Yeah, that is hilarious.
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The scene is great though that you just said, like on the Natchez Trace.
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It's like probably the only thing you could like get in the car.
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Um, okay, so there's also the Dave Ramsey show, which I don't know how many people in this next generation would know Dave Ramsey.
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I mean, he's still going strong, I think.
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Yeah.
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And his program and stuff, but you know, people that primarily is about financial advice, and so people will call in and ask and get, you know, pretty direct advice from Dave Ramsey.
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So that was one that's like super familiar to me.
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Um, but all these have like There's one on the radio now, but it's um like about plants and stuff.
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Oh really?
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It's from uh maybe New Albany or something.
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Brett Brett listens to it.
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He's like, I never even know what they're talking about, but I like listening to those shows like garden.
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It's just like the nostalgia of it all.
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Okay.
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If I'm remembering right, I've listened to it like a piece of it once when I was riding with him in the truck, but I can't even remember what it's the weekend.
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Okay.
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On on Super Talk, there I mean they do all kinds of different you know, there's sports shows in the afternoon and political shows in the morning, but I think there's one there's like a handyman show on the weekends, and I think there's a is it Garden Mama?
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Garden Mama, I think that's who you're talking about.
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So that would make sense.
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That is awesome.
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What kind of time?
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One time he was like, um, somebody said a question, it was Walt from New Albany, and his cousin is Walt from New I and I wonder if he ever asked him if he's like, hey man.
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Um yeah, I don't know.
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I don't know what time it comes on.
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This is a tangent, but did y'all ever call in and try to like win tickets and stuff on radio?
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You you have a story.
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Uh so in like in like junior high.
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I mean, like, I'm talking about like 12 years old, 11 years old, whatever.
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Um, they would do they were kind of transitioning.
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I mean, I'm old, okay?
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We've already established that, but they were transitioning a lot of the radio stations were transitioning from like albums to either cassettes or or to CDs or something, you know, different different media.
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So they were getting rid of a lot of their like library of music stuff.
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Yeah.
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And so because of that, and plus they got promos from from artists and stuff, they would give away albums all the time.
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And I would win stuff off the radio like all the time.
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I would sit there and and you know, because I was boring, um, and just sitting at home, you know, whatever.
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But uh, I would win stuff off the radio.
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Well, they had a one time there was um like a big prize, you know, toward Christmas, and it was like 12 days of Christmas prize, and and you had to be over the age of 18 to win.
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And I was not, and I'm about to confess to lying right here on FCA podcast.
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And so I was like maybe 13.
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Yeah.
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Oh my gosh, you had to be 18.
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You had to be 18 to win because I mean there were uh because the prizes, the dollar amounts were were bigger or whatever.
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And so I I was the ninth caller or whatever, yeah.
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Well, not not well enough, I don't think, you know, but it was like um I was like the ninth caller or whatever you had to be.
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And so the guy's like, you know, who are we talking to?
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And so I give my dad's name.
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I'm like, this is Gary Smith.
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And he's like, How old are you, Gary?
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And I was like, uh 40.
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And and the guy's like, you know, I mean, literally on the radio, you can hear he's like, You don't sound 40.
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And and I'm sitting here thinking, Well, how's he gonna know?
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I'm not just on the phone.
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I'm like, Well, I am.
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And so they're like, Well, congrats, Gary Smith.
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You won, you know, come by and pick up whatever.
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So is that your dad?
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Yeah, so I go up there with my dad.
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My dad's like, I cannot believe that you did this, you know, it's but you know, it I was like, Well, you can keep the wallet I won, you know, or whatever.
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So we we went and picked up my prize package.
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What did you win?
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It was a lot of cool stuff.
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But um the other thing cool that came of that was one of the things was uh to a local jewelry store.
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It was a wallet, it was like an you know, a a decent eelskin wallet.
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I remember that.
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Okay.
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And so we go to the the jewelry store and there's a guy in there, and I'm like, I just I recognize this guy, but I can't figure out who it is.
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Yeah.
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But he's in here looking at at um diamonds, you know, things a lot bigger than a wallet, you know, and I and I was like, Man, that guy looks so familiar, I just can't figure out who it is.
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I'm 13 year old.
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And um, so the guy walks out and and we're we're walking out and headed to the parking lot, and and the guy starts backing out and his Corvette with the license plate Rice 80.
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Um I was like, Oh, that's Jerry Rice.
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Uh he was just on the cover of Sports Illustrated this week.
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That's why I recognize him, but he was in there at the same time with me flicking stuff.
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That's crazy.
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I've met um uh Tony Dungey on accident in a sprint store.
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We were just next to each other, like he was in there to do something for his get his daughter a phone or something.
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And we're literally the only two customers in there.
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And so I'm like, in my head, I'm like, do I do this?
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Do I not?
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And I was like, Yes, I do this.
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So weird.
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It is.
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I know, but I'm like, I'm totally gonna talk to him.
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Like, when else?
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He's not gonna remember me.
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Wandy would never.
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I would not.
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Would you not?
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No.
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Never.
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I might say, hey, how are you?
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We have thankfully we had an FCA event in Tampa like coming up, and he was the speaker.
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I was actually not gonna be there, but I was like, that's what I'm gonna say, hey, thanks for coming to our breakfast.
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Like, I actually won't be there, but um, speaking of Tampa, that's where I won.
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Probably the coolest thing that I can remember winning on the radio was Bush Garden Tickets, which if you're not from but we moved to Mississippi College to serve an FCA, so I had to give them away to somebody, but that's probably that would be like, have you been before?
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It's like a six flags, right?
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Yeah, it's a long time ago.
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But also, maybe like they have animals like a zoo, maybe not a full-blown zoo, but like I think it's kind of a combo.
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I was so pumped.
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I was like, yes, and then I was like, no.
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But I we used to do that growing up, like me and my sisters, we'd be like, let's just keep calling.
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So I've won, I think I've won some other things, but it's it's been a minute.
00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:15.359
Um, okay, so we want to kind of make this a Ask Uncle Brad segment.
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Um, and then we might chime in, Brandy, and just see.
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I hope so.
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What we think before I I went back, it's 8 to 10 a.m.
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for that garden mama on Saturday.
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That's a long time.
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But I need to call with all your horticulture.
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Yeah, I need to start listening so that like I'll just remember for next year because all my experiment in the backyard is pretty much done now.
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It's been so hot all through September.
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Eli I mentioned he's got to do a science fair project, and we did not even talk about this, but he came home and his like three or four ideas are a variation of soul testing.
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And I was like, perfect, because I need to know this very much.
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And your dad can help you.
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I know, right?
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And maybe Mississippi State.
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I know that they do like you can send in samples and stuff.
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I don't know if he'll need to do that.
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But hopefully it'll help me because this year was pretty bad for everything died, but it has been hot.
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Okay, so we uh we asked for some questions from some students, and we've got a bag here in front of us that you can't see, but they're there with these questions.
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And I'm gonna pull one uh here in a second.
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But Brad already had a question that he had a good story for, so we want to talk about this question because this might happen.
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And correct me if I'm wrong, but the question basically is if your friend or someone you care about is dating someone you know is not good for them, what do you do?
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What do you say?
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Is this the question?
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That that that that is, I mean, and I think that's a common question.
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I mean we're just from the jump gonna get into it right now.
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Well, so all three of us are around college students a lot, and that that's a common question.
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It's probably one that we saw when we were in that age group too, and it might even see now.
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You know, sometimes um, but um, you know, what should we do?
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What what do we want to do?
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I mean, like, I think we're all kind of nervous about that because you don't want to go up to somebody and say, hey, you are I I know you are just you know love blind right now, you know, for I don't I don't know what the better word would be, but you know, like you know, you are you were just you know fascinated by this person, and so therefore you're not seeing the things that everybody else does.
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But we also want to be careful with that because like that's not my place for I mean, like it might mean that that that that girl is somebody I wouldn't want to date, but that doesn't mean it's not somebody my roommate shouldn't date.
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So there's a careful balance on that.
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But I will give you a personal um story on that.
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Uh and and the names will be changed to protect the innocent, and you know, and I'm pretty sure statute of limitations are all up on all this.
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But yeah, once upon a time, uh I had a couple of roommates, and and one of my roommates was dating a girl and they'd been dating for uh, you know, two, three, four months.
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And um, and and and the other roommate and I were like, man, I I just don't see it.
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You know, I these two are and and I mean we can talk about it in spiritual terms, you know.
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I mean, like unequally yoked, but um, but you know, it's just this is I just don't I I don't I don't know that this is gonna last, this is not gonna be good, and we sure hope that roommate A um, you know, kind of figures this out.
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But we we were quiet about it.
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So y'all didn't ever say anything?
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We did not.
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We and I'm just giving I'm not giving it, um this is not advice.
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I'm just telling what actually happened.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So so uh you know, the two of us, we would talk about it, you know, when it was just the two of us, which is that's not a good good idea.
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Again, not advice, but we would talk about like, man, what is he seeing her and what how's this going?
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And so anyway, our roommate that was dating a girl went out of town one weekend.
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It's like a three-day weekend.
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He lived a couple hours away, and so uh, you know, this is pre-cell phones.
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Again, we're we're gonna beat the theme to death that Brad is old.
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And so um, you know, so over the weekend we started getting calls from the girl to our apartment saying, Hey, we need to speak to, you know, uh her her boyfriend.
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And she, I mean, she wanted, you know, him to call her back, and we're like, Well, he's not here, he's not, he's out of town, he's coming back, you know, whatever.
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And she's like, he's gotta call me as soon as he gets back.
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He's gotta call me, gotta call me.
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So finally he gets back on Sunday afternoon, and we're like, Yeah, you need to call her back.
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And so he goes to his room and and he calls her back, and and uh he comes out a little while later looking just like completely dazed, like he had just been hit right in the forehead.
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And uh and we're like, What's up?
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And he was like, Well, apparently she met someone Friday night, um, and they got engaged Saturday, and we were like and how old, like this was like we were in college.
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I mean we were like 21.
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Oh wow probably.
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That is wild.
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Um, and so um, you know, and and and the every time he looks away, me and my other roommate are looking at each other going, you know, we knew it, we knew it.
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You know, but but also like so here's the deal.
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He he had it, you know, I mean, obviously, like anybody else, brokenhearted for two or three days and felt, you know, rejected and all the all the things, you know.
00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:11.440
Um in the long run, that was a good thing that happened to him.
00:26:11.599 --> 00:26:17.039
I mean, you know that that probably was not a relationship that was built to last anyway.
00:26:17.519 --> 00:26:28.240
So um, you know, I'm I'm not trying to make light of that, but like when we see things, sometimes I mean we we need to we need to speak up and and and speak in life and into other people.
00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:31.039
Now we don't need to say, hey, you need to break up with that girl.
00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:31.680
Right, right, right.
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You need to break up with that girl.
00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:38.559
Um, we need to just like talk it out and say, hey, where do you see y'all's relationship going?
00:26:38.720 --> 00:26:39.599
I mean, what are y'all thinking?
00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:45.359
Well, just the I think that benefit of the doubt in any situation, like, okay, like this person has given this thought.
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They obviously find this person, you know, like that somebody that they could be with.
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So, like, assuming that they have thought through certain things, it's like approaching a conversation like that, like where you put yourself in the situation where you're like, I could be wrong.
00:27:01.279 --> 00:27:13.279
Yeah, like I'm assuming you've thought through certain so like hear me out, you know, and I don't know how you word it, but like that would be the posture I would hope to have to be like to start a conversation that would be hard like that.
00:27:13.359 --> 00:27:35.200
Because I've also seen, and I won't go into detail, but situations where things weren't said to people and then they did get married, and I've witnessed fallout, yeah, because things there wasn't some kind of intervention, or there was, and the person was really resistant, and so sometimes it's unfortunate because it is delicate because you could lose a friendship over it, and that's what's really hard.
00:27:35.440 --> 00:27:50.640
Yeah, that's what I was gonna say because I I mean this was in a movie or TV show, not a movie, but I was watching and that's they were like addressed with it, and they ended up not being friends, but then once the boyfriend and her broke up, she came back and was like, Yeah, you're right.
00:27:50.799 --> 00:27:56.000
I should have seen that that one that's what's hard, is like that it will play out over time, right?
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And you have to trust it was the right thing.
00:27:58.319 --> 00:27:59.599
But I had a follow-up question.
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What can make someone love blind?
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You use that word love blind, like what can infatuation?
00:28:06.079 --> 00:28:06.960
Yeah, yeah, that's it.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Uh I I don't know.
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I mean, like, I mean, what what do you what do you guys think?
00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:22.400
Like, I mean, I'm just trying to think of scenarios, even that maybe I was in, like the the willingness to believe or valued or seen in some way.
00:28:22.720 --> 00:28:22.880
Yeah.
00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:26.400
And so like you're like, no, they really care about me and they want what's best for me.
00:28:26.640 --> 00:28:28.000
Because you could see things.
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:44.480
I mean, I could see guys that I liked, well, say high school, so I mean super, you know, immature age for everybody, but um, I could see how they were treating me, but then I could see how they were still flirty with other people, but then still believe like, oh, but maybe they'll be different from me.
00:28:44.720 --> 00:28:54.880
Yeah, like, and so it's that's like weird because like, no, if they're that willing to be like that in front of you and hiding it, like move on.
00:28:55.279 --> 00:29:00.559
But I mean, it is hard because there's a lot of like emotions and feelings going into all that to sort through.
00:29:00.880 --> 00:29:15.599
And and I mean, uh to be honest, uh, since we're talking to primarily a a college age group, you know, um there's a lot of I mean, like literal chemicals in your body that are really firing off at high levels at that age and in that in that time.
00:29:15.759 --> 00:29:20.079
And so, um, you know, and they are some of the most powerful drugs on earth.
00:29:20.400 --> 00:29:21.920
Yeah, and you sell drugs, so you would know.
00:29:23.200 --> 00:29:23.599
Legal.
00:29:24.559 --> 00:29:25.200
He's like legal.
00:29:25.599 --> 00:29:26.400
How do we get that in?
00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:30.640
That was actually part of Justin's intro of you, something about how he sells drugs.
00:29:30.799 --> 00:29:32.000
But yeah, pharmaceutical drugs.
00:29:32.240 --> 00:29:32.880
Pharmaceuticals.
00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:39.279
But but I have I have worked with uh medications in the past that were dopamine and serotonin and you know, those kind of things.
00:29:39.359 --> 00:29:49.200
And you got that stuff going through your mind and your body, and you are um much more willing to um not see things that are that are problems.
00:29:49.359 --> 00:30:00.559
And and so um, and I think back to where where y'all were saying, you know, like you know, hey, I feel right now, I feel loved, I feel desired, I feel, you know, uh um seen.
00:30:00.799 --> 00:30:00.960
Right.
00:30:01.119 --> 00:30:03.279
You know, you said seen, you know, I feel seen.
00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:09.759
And maybe I haven't felt that way before, or I haven't felt that way in a long time, and I'm desperate for that.
00:30:10.000 --> 00:30:18.960
And this person in front of me just happens to be the one that is giving me those feelings, and so then I'm attaching to them thinking they are the right person.
00:30:19.200 --> 00:30:22.000
I mean, I think that's super helpful because that is the case.
00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:37.039
I remember, I mean, I mentioned high school, I do remember there was this guy that I liked, but like I remember feeling all those, all the things that are changing in you, and like my very logical, practical side that is there, like would be like, this is dumb.
00:30:37.359 --> 00:30:37.759
Move on.
00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:39.440
But then, you know, so it's a lot.
00:30:39.599 --> 00:30:44.960
And I think that having people around you that you can receive truth from and help sort through is helpful.
00:30:45.119 --> 00:30:45.680
Yeah, absolutely.
00:30:45.920 --> 00:30:47.440
Um if you listen, if you listen to it.
00:30:47.599 --> 00:30:50.079
And if you if you surrounded yourself with the right people too.
00:30:50.400 --> 00:31:00.160
I mean, you know, because like if your if your four roommates are also idiots, then they're not gonna give you good advice about getting rid of your your your boyfriend or girlfriend that's also an idiot.
00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:00.400
Right.
00:31:00.559 --> 00:31:01.359
You know, right.
00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:04.559
So um, you know, surround yourself with the right people.
00:31:04.720 --> 00:31:04.880
Right.
00:31:05.680 --> 00:31:13.519
Well, and I think too, like you were saying, if you think about the positive, like, you know, like you have to kind of kind of give everybody benefit of the doubt when you go in.
00:31:13.839 --> 00:31:14.720
Yeah, when you approach.
00:31:14.960 --> 00:31:16.480
Yeah, and that's something I wish I knew.
00:31:16.640 --> 00:31:23.920
If I was speaking to myself in college, I wish I knew that like information, but also how to do that then.
00:31:24.079 --> 00:31:38.640
Cause like it's taken me a long time uh to get to the point where I can even like start there in my thinking, even to approach my kids or another person, like trying to start with assuming they've already thought through like they're they've come to a logical conclusion.
00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:48.880
Because normally that's what happens is it's offensive that someone on the other side like it's offensive to already jump to conclusions because that's insinuating like you haven't really thought through this.
00:31:48.960 --> 00:31:49.839
And maybe they haven't.
00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:53.200
Maybe they are just going on their feelings, but they'll probably be more receptive.
00:31:53.599 --> 00:31:55.519
I feel like that's like just a respect thing.
00:31:55.599 --> 00:32:00.640
Like, I'm gonna respect and honor what you've decided to do, and then let's, you know, maybe.
00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:02.319
But I'm not saying it's gonna go smooth.
00:32:02.400 --> 00:32:06.240
I'm just that's what I hope that I've learned in my old age of 39, Brad.
00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:07.200
Old age.
00:32:08.079 --> 00:32:09.680
Just but only 39 in one day.
00:32:10.000 --> 00:32:10.960
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:12.079
I know it doesn't count right.
00:32:12.319 --> 00:32:14.160
It's very it's very I'm still 38.
00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:15.200
I'll just yeah.
00:32:15.440 --> 00:32:17.279
Um, okay, so I'm gonna grab a question.
00:32:17.359 --> 00:32:19.599
Or actually, actually, you can hear this bag.
00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:21.119
We really are grabbing from the bag.
00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:22.480
Brandy can grab a question.
00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:26.559
This is gonna be Brad's seen these questions, he just doesn't know what it is.
00:32:26.880 --> 00:32:28.319
Um okay.
00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:34.480
I wanna we might come back to this original one that you pulled, but what's this one that you pulled?
00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:36.640
Is it wise to date as a freshman?
00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:40.240
Okay, that kind of goes along with our topic here by accident.
00:32:40.720 --> 00:32:43.359
Well, you know, not all freshmen are created equal.
00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:44.240
I will I will say that.
00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:49.680
There I mean, like I I know some ninth graders that are more mature than 25-year-olds.
00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:49.839
Right.
00:32:50.079 --> 00:32:53.359
You know, I mean, but that's also not usually the case.
00:32:53.839 --> 00:32:59.920
You know, I mean, we're all we're all developing um and developing rapidly around that stage in life.
00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:21.759
So um I you know, I think the hard thing about dating as a freshman to to me in a college setting, like we'll just say at Mississippi State, um that most of these people are coming from, most of these students are coming from a school where m whatever, there were a hundred people in their class, maybe twenty-five, maybe, maybe four hundred, but but you know, there were some smaller number.
00:33:21.920 --> 00:33:25.200
And then all of a sudden, they're the pond has gotten bigger.
00:33:25.519 --> 00:33:26.960
The pond got way bigger.
00:33:27.440 --> 00:33:33.839
I mean, all of a sudden, there's 25,000 people out there, and 12,000 of them are the ones that I'm interested in.
00:33:34.000 --> 00:33:41.920
You know, I mean, like, you know, and and that's and that is a whole different thing for for for dating.
00:33:42.079 --> 00:33:46.559
And um, again, that can be overwhelming for for a lot of freshmen.
00:33:47.039 --> 00:33:54.559
And so, um, you know, there is some wisdom in in going very slowly and cautiously into a dating relationship at that time.
00:33:54.640 --> 00:33:55.359
What do you guys think?
00:33:55.680 --> 00:34:16.239
What would you look for maturity-wise in anyone that you could date, but especially if they're like that's what came to mind with this question is like because there's a vast difference in like who the person is coming in, like I feel like there would be markers maturity, like what are they already doing that can demonstrate they could potentially be mature in a relationship.
00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:19.920
Yeah, you know, yeah, like I think even how they handle their time.
00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:22.159
Are they like going to class?
00:34:22.320 --> 00:34:23.440
Are they on top of stuff?
00:34:23.599 --> 00:34:34.159
Like just that alone would be a huge like I'd be like, okay, maybe I mean, obviously a good person, but I would have to observe some things I think about their life.
00:34:34.639 --> 00:34:36.079
Whether they're a freshman or not.
00:34:36.320 --> 00:34:38.719
Like, you know, what are those things that you would like observe?
00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:44.719
I wouldn't put it to an age because if you're dating to Mary, you just need to have boundaries set and then go from there.
00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:53.840
Like, because like you said, people are mature at different points, and just because they're that way at 18 doesn't mean they're gonna stay that way.
00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:56.960
Because goodness, I matured a whole lot from 18 to 25.
00:34:57.119 --> 00:34:57.280
Yeah.
00:34:58.159 --> 00:34:58.639
Absolutely.
00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:01.760
So the um I was actually a freshman who dated.
00:35:01.920 --> 00:35:04.800
So that's really funny that this question at the end of my freshman year.
00:35:04.960 --> 00:35:09.679
Lee Parker said yesterday, Mom, or maybe two days ago, Mom, you were 19 when you and dad started dating.
00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:10.480
And I was like, Yeah.
00:35:10.639 --> 00:35:12.000
She's like, Oh god, I got two years.
00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:13.280
I was like, No, you don't.
00:35:13.519 --> 00:35:14.719
You're not on my time frame.
00:35:14.880 --> 00:35:15.360
You're not.
00:35:15.599 --> 00:35:22.239
So I was I was a grade ahead, not for any special reason other than I mean, I don't even know.
00:35:22.400 --> 00:35:28.559
Like my parents held my younger sister back for her like size, her physical size, and she had a July birthday.
00:35:28.800 --> 00:35:29.840
Mine's September.
00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:36.880
So just how things panned out, where we were going to school, a variety of factors, I just ended up like in the I should have been in the grade below me.
00:35:36.960 --> 00:35:40.400
But anyway, so I'm coming into Mississippi State, 10 hours from home, 17.
00:35:40.719 --> 00:35:41.840
Turning same.
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:42.880
So I was October.
00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:43.679
So same thing.
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:44.239
Yeah, okay.
00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:45.519
Brad, look, we got something coming.
00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:49.519
So I turned 18 at the end of September, my freshman year.
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:51.679
And you were 12 days later.
00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:52.000
Yeah.
00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:52.239
Right.
00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:57.519
Um, whenever that so uh so I met Justin that fall.
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:03.360
I actually crushed on his friend first, but then met Justin anyways, and that changed things for me.
00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:05.199
It's a very brief story.
00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:06.880
We've told some of it on the podcast.
00:36:07.199 --> 00:36:09.760
And then um in the spring we started dating.
00:36:09.840 --> 00:36:12.079
So I was like pretty fresh, 18.
00:36:12.320 --> 00:36:18.960
Um, and I had never I definitely had like crushed, you know, had crushes on guys, like light guys, but I was not allowed to date in high school.
00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:22.159
Um so Justin was my first like boyfriend.
00:36:22.400 --> 00:36:32.320
Um so I don't know, like just thinking about like if he had some kind of rule that he couldn't date a freshman, then I mean I guess we would have just been friends and like waited.
00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:38.400
But I think it's I mean, thankfully he saw enough about me, but I'm trying to think, like if he was here, I'd ask him.
00:36:38.480 --> 00:36:49.360
But I mean, I, you know, I came to FCA, like there were things I would guess about my life he could see that I valued and were a priority, uh, that he valued and were a priority to him.
00:36:49.599 --> 00:36:53.599
So the age wasn't really like a big, you know, factor, maybe.
00:36:53.840 --> 00:37:01.360
Yeah, I would I I mean, and obviously that is one that 20 years later we would say that was a good decision, you know, that you two started dating.
00:37:01.760 --> 00:37:16.880
Um I think that the key is not focusing on the superficial, yeah, you know, I mean, at that point, because um, you know, 19, 18, even 22, whatever, I mean, you you are definitely at the prime of your life, you know.
00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:24.480
I mean, physically you are, and energy, and just and you're trying to impress each other and all these little things, you know.
00:37:24.559 --> 00:37:32.800
I mean, so um, you know, I looking for more depth and looking for I I love what you're saying, like, hey, how are they handling the rest of their life?
00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:33.760
Are they going to class?
00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:35.760
Are they um staying on top of things?
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:37.679
You know, is this somebody that pays their rent?
00:37:37.840 --> 00:37:40.559
Is this somebody that cleans up their you know, apartment?
00:37:40.639 --> 00:37:42.719
You know, I mean, that you know what are their friends like?
00:37:42.880 --> 00:37:43.920
What are their friends like?
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:44.719
Yeah.
00:37:45.039 --> 00:37:50.559
Um, you know, also like with going to church or different things, like are they doing that without you?
00:37:50.719 --> 00:38:00.480
Like, do they, you know, because a lot of people will date and be like, uh, I mean, they're fun to be around, and then they're like, but they weren't already doing some habits before they got interested.
00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:04.880
And it's like all of a sudden they're the straight and narrow because they're interested in you.
00:38:04.960 --> 00:38:06.800
Like I would think that's kind of a red flag.
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:07.679
Like, absolutely.
00:38:08.000 --> 00:38:13.360
Um, so, anyways, but yeah, maybe not confined to an age, but maybe some things to look for.
00:38:13.599 --> 00:38:16.079
Okay, so this is a we'll end on this question.
00:38:16.239 --> 00:38:20.880
Um, but because I don't really know how to answer this question, so I want to know how Brad would answer it.
00:38:21.039 --> 00:38:26.079
So this is not relationship, um, you know, a relationship question, but is Camario Taylor the truth?
00:38:26.320 --> 00:38:28.000
Is Camario Taylor the truth?
00:38:28.159 --> 00:38:29.840
So this is one of the questions we got.
00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:34.880
Um Camario Taylor is a really good football player.
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:36.960
What does the truth mean in this statement?
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:44.000
Yeah, yeah, uh there's you know, there are different levels of the truth, and I'm not gonna uh uh uh you know put him at the top level of the truth.
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:47.199
I think we'll talk about that in a little while, you know, maybe with this podcast.
00:38:47.440 --> 00:38:58.400
But but um as the person that is listening to this right now, I'm sure, that has been to more Mississippi State games than anybody else, that is a fantastic football player.
00:38:58.639 --> 00:39:12.239
Camario, uh, I've never I've never met him, hadn't talked to him, but um, it seems like he's doing really well um physically, uh mentally, you know, he's handling everything, and um and so th he is definitely making a turn.
00:39:12.320 --> 00:39:13.760
And and the whole team is making a turn.
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:15.679
You know, I don't want to put it all on one now.
00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:19.119
One thing I would say is for all of us, caution.
00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:25.199
Um, we are culturally of of the time where it's like everybody is either the best thing ever or the worst thing ever.
00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:26.480
That there's only two speeds.
00:39:26.880 --> 00:39:27.840
Yeah, there's not a middle.
00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:29.199
There's there's not a middle.
00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:40.639
And so um, you know, someday, one day, you know, and we and and and we're certainly not hoping for it, but I mean, you know, Kamari's gonna have a bad time, a bad half, a bad pass, a bad game, whatever.
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:43.920
And that all of a sudden doesn't make him the worst ever.
00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:46.000
And and we've got to we've got to be careful on that.
00:39:46.079 --> 00:39:48.559
But I think he's doing fantastic, and I'm a fan.
00:39:48.880 --> 00:39:50.639
I'm gonna be Darius in this moment.
00:39:50.719 --> 00:39:53.679
He's always talking about how he's asking questions for the people.
00:39:54.800 --> 00:39:58.400
So I'm asking questions maybe for people that are older, I don't know.
00:39:58.480 --> 00:40:01.440
But to use the phrase the truth, what does that mean?
00:40:01.679 --> 00:40:02.880
The best, the the guy.
00:40:03.599 --> 00:40:04.559
I mean it's the real deal.
00:40:04.639 --> 00:40:07.599
This is not just a flash in the pan, this is something for real.
00:40:07.760 --> 00:40:12.239
So and that probably this question probably came from like on college game day.
00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:20.639
Like they were, I think it was Nick Saban that was like either him or um, I can't think of the other guy's name that played at Michigan that's on the panel.
00:40:21.199 --> 00:40:27.440
Yes, yes, anyways, um, that they were like he's the the truth and uh something else.
00:40:27.599 --> 00:40:36.639
Anyways, I feel like they originated this like phrase, so or maybe it was a phrase already and they just borrowed it, but Nick Saban was the one that like definitely said something about him.
00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:45.280
And fun fact, I I mean, I heard from a pretty solid source that Camario does not really like the whole Super Mario theme.
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:50.960
Yeah because at the last football game, I was like surprised we don't have more signs or things like that.
00:40:51.119 --> 00:40:52.559
I heard he's more of a Batman guy.
00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:53.039
He is.
00:40:53.119 --> 00:40:55.679
He the he was I saw him questioned after a game.
00:40:55.760 --> 00:41:02.239
One of the post-game, you know, reporters was like, uh, so they're calling you Super Camario, and he's like, No, that's not me, I'm Batman.
00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:11.280
You know, I mean, and so um, but it it's it's just such an easy, you know, back to the the mascots, it's such an easy tie-in, you know, to get to go with the Super Mario.
00:41:11.440 --> 00:41:17.599
But but uh but for if he wants to be called Batman, if we keep winning, be Matt Batman.
00:41:17.760 --> 00:41:25.199
Well, I just wanted to like get creative before we have another home game that we can come to and with our kids because I was so um impressed with Fluff.
00:41:25.360 --> 00:41:28.880
Like, I'm like, dude, this guy, talk about he's also the truth.
00:41:29.039 --> 00:41:32.719
I'm like, this dude carried tons of Missouri players.
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:35.599
He's like, I was like, this is unbelievable.
00:41:35.679 --> 00:41:39.679
He got kind of injured, hurt, whatever, went off the field, came back doing incredible stuff.
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:46.159
So I was like, I feel like there's more than just them two, obviously, like that are just dynamic, but they were incredible.
00:41:46.239 --> 00:41:48.639
And so I was like, I need to come up with something for a sign.
00:41:48.719 --> 00:41:53.199
So I was glad that I got some feedback before I went and did something crazy with this Mario thing.
00:41:54.320 --> 00:42:00.559
Well, to me, I think like with him and a lot of them, but him, I don't know him.
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:07.599
He knows our family because of Brett and playing against him, and he's really good with my kids, but is he's himself.
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:09.920
Yeah, like I love that he's so genuine.
00:42:10.079 --> 00:42:25.840
Um, he came, him and Fluff came to Charlie Kate's class because they're doing stats on the team, and they all chose a player, and um they came outside and talked to all the players and signed cowbells, but he he doesn't know where we live, but he knows, like he knows who we are.
00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:27.599
He's like, You really want me to sign this?
00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:28.639
I can just come to your house.
00:42:28.800 --> 00:42:38.800
Like, and for him to say that to her in front of everybody, I was like, he just really doesn't change who he is, no matter like if he's at the fields, he'll throw the football with Brett Daniel, Brett Daniel will jump on his back.
00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:39.840
He just is himself.
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:41.440
Like, even in the interviews, you can see it.
00:42:41.920 --> 00:42:46.800
And that's probably gonna give him more value than anything else that he can do with his legs or his arm, you know.
00:42:46.880 --> 00:43:01.119
I mean, is just being who he is on that, and and man, that is a hard position to be in as a 19-year-old because of all those things that we were talking about earlier, you know, that the you know, what's going in your brain and the dopamine and the serotonin and all you know, all that stuff.
00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:03.360
I mean, that stuff's pumping for these guys to stay.
00:43:04.480 --> 00:43:06.400
To stay grounded is is hard.
00:43:06.480 --> 00:43:10.079
And so uh, you know, I'm I'm hopeful that he can continue to do that.
00:43:10.400 --> 00:43:11.199
Shout out to his parents.
00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:12.239
Absolutely.
00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:18.239
Like, there's just that's evidence of some parenting right there, and I'm sure some good coaches and teachers in his life.
00:43:18.639 --> 00:43:20.719
Um, okay, Desmond is the one on college game day.
00:43:21.119 --> 00:43:21.440
I'm sorry.
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:22.880
I just remembered that.
00:43:23.119 --> 00:43:27.280
And then also, like you mentioned this, and I'll just mention this real quick before we transition to the next part.
00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:34.079
But um, so Justin and I had a chance to go see Nate Bargetsey at Mississippi Christian, former Mississippi College.
00:43:34.159 --> 00:43:38.320
It's very hard to call it something different, but we served there, yeah, MC.
00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:41.280
We served there from 2010 to 2016 with FCA.
00:43:41.360 --> 00:43:45.039
And so we got to be at that event, which was really awesome to be part of.
00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:59.119
But something that kind of goes along with what you were saying with Camario that just stood out to me that Nate said, because he did some stand up and then he had a QA when you don't always get to hear from him like that, you know, like normally he's got several acts and then he does his thing and that's the show.
00:43:59.360 --> 00:44:02.320
Um And then I followed his podcast and stuff.
00:44:02.400 --> 00:44:08.000
So I've heard some background stuff, but to hear him in that environment, in a Christian environment, it was just different.
00:44:08.639 --> 00:44:15.760
So he was talking about how he tries to like look at the success, because everybody asked him about that.
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:16.480
Like, what is it?
00:44:16.559 --> 00:44:19.039
You know, how do you do this with this much success and stuff?
00:44:19.119 --> 00:44:22.559
And he was like, I just really try to make it about serving other people.
00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:31.920
Like, make it about like 20 years from the time he thought, I want to be in Bridgestone, which is the huge arena in Nashville, to the time that he got there.
00:44:32.159 --> 00:44:34.159
He was like, I want this night.
00:44:34.320 --> 00:44:39.920
Like, I think you would think when he first had that thought, like he was thinking about what his goals and dreams were.
00:44:40.000 --> 00:44:43.599
But when it got to that night, he was like, This is about my friend who's excited for me.
00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:44.639
This about my family member.
00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:48.079
So making it more of like, it's not just me.
00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:55.440
And he was saying when you live from that place, a lot of the pressure is off because you're not making it about like yourself.
00:44:55.679 --> 00:44:57.760
So I and then he also said, be yourself.
00:44:57.920 --> 00:44:59.519
So kind of what you were saying with Camario.
00:44:59.760 --> 00:45:03.679
It's like when you know who you are, I'm not saying that it's still easy.
00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:04.000
Right.
00:45:04.400 --> 00:45:09.840
But I do feel like it kind of feels, at least his interviews and stuff, like it feels in stride.
00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:11.360
It's not anything.
00:45:11.519 --> 00:45:19.199
Um, and even Nate tries to say this without coming across like prideful, but it's kind of I start seeing kind of this theme with people like this.
00:45:19.519 --> 00:45:23.119
They're they're not really so shocked that they're in the place that they are.
00:45:23.360 --> 00:45:23.599
Yeah.
00:45:23.760 --> 00:45:27.440
It's like I expected to be here, like this is what I've always wanted to do.
00:45:27.599 --> 00:45:28.960
And so I don't know.
00:45:29.039 --> 00:45:33.119
Like it's it's kind of like David in the field in the Bible, like and he kills Goliath.
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:38.000
It's like to other people, this looks massive, and it is, but he's like, I mean, I've been doing this.
00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:38.960
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:44.239
So it's not like I mean it's on a bigger stage, but I it's not some big jump for me.
00:45:44.320 --> 00:45:45.840
Yeah, and I expected to be here.
00:45:46.000 --> 00:45:48.159
This is what I've dreamed of and like what I've worked towards.
00:45:48.239 --> 00:45:48.719
So I don't know.
00:45:48.800 --> 00:45:49.360
Does that make sense?
00:45:49.519 --> 00:45:50.320
Yeah, it absolutely does.
00:45:50.480 --> 00:45:54.079
I think that's what's gone a long way for both Nate and for Kamario.
00:45:54.400 --> 00:45:59.039
But I mean, uh and and it's just can you maintain that sense?
00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:04.880
Because that that gets harder and harder every day because more and more people try to try to see you get involved.
00:46:04.960 --> 00:46:08.480
I mean, like, yeah, now like his name's in the hat for all these other things.
00:46:08.639 --> 00:46:11.119
It's like, yeah, on what stage.
00:46:11.199 --> 00:46:14.000
And so um, I'm thankful he's got some really good people around him.
00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:19.760
And then the teammates, like, I just there's other people doing incredible things performance-wise on this team.
00:46:20.320 --> 00:46:29.760
I was even watching um Isaac, like he's battled injury over and over, but like he was so encouraging even when he was out.
00:46:29.840 --> 00:46:34.320
Like, I feel like they all just have like come together and taken a step forward together, right?
00:46:34.480 --> 00:46:39.360
Yeah, but I did think that catch that San Frisco made is that his last name?
00:46:40.000 --> 00:46:42.320
Well, he had a couple San Frisco McGee.
00:46:42.559 --> 00:46:45.280
No, the diving catch was Anthony Evans on the side like that.
00:46:45.599 --> 00:46:49.440
Yeah, so he that catch, I was like, how fun.
00:46:49.760 --> 00:46:56.719
Like, that's the cool thing when somebody's really good at their craft, like Camaro has to be good, yeah, but also this receiver has to be that good.
00:46:56.880 --> 00:46:59.599
But like, how fun when you get to play with people like that.
00:46:59.760 --> 00:47:02.480
Like, that's what I was thinking whenever they're doing these incredible things.
00:47:02.559 --> 00:47:03.599
I'm like, how fun.
00:47:03.760 --> 00:47:05.280
This is like kids in candy shop.
00:47:05.360 --> 00:47:07.679
Like, yeah, what can we possibly do together?
00:47:07.920 --> 00:47:09.440
Um, it's very fun to watch.
00:47:09.599 --> 00:47:14.239
So, okay, well, that was our Uncle Brad segment that we might have to bring back from time to time.
00:47:14.320 --> 00:47:15.119
We have a lot more questions.
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:16.000
You never know.
00:47:16.239 --> 00:47:17.039
You never know.
00:47:17.280 --> 00:47:22.800
No, I'm sure that I'm sure that people will enjoy um hearing some of these very relatable questions.
00:47:22.960 --> 00:47:27.119
Um, but it did remind me just thinking about how we do like to ask questions.
00:47:27.280 --> 00:47:39.679
And I I think uh one of the things even Nate Bargetsi mentioned the other night, he was asked about mentors, and he said it it kind of changes over time, like depending on what stage of life you're in, your mentors will most likely change, or his has.
00:47:39.920 --> 00:47:48.639
Um, but he kind of alluded, he didn't say it super clear, but he kind of alluded to like at a certain point though, sometimes those people can't answer your questions.
00:47:48.800 --> 00:47:52.079
Or like for him, he's kind of in a space, he's almost one of one now.
00:47:52.159 --> 00:47:57.679
Like, yes, there's great people that have come before him, but they're not doing the same type of comedy in the same type of space.
00:47:57.840 --> 00:48:03.199
So, like he's kind of, you know, so he was basically saying, you have to ask God.
00:48:03.679 --> 00:48:05.280
You have to go to him for help.
00:48:05.440 --> 00:48:08.400
Like people can only know or take you so far.
00:48:08.880 --> 00:48:15.360
Um, and I'm kind of filling in the words that, you know, he didn't use those exact words, but like I think that's what his point was.
00:48:15.440 --> 00:48:22.400
And so we're talking about scripture and what matters, and that our engagement with reading scripture um matters.
00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:29.760
And some people have grown up in, you know, uh persuasions or denominations where scripture was read to you.
00:48:29.920 --> 00:48:36.239
You didn't necessarily maybe interact with the Bible, and then you have other places where they encourage own personal study.
00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:50.559
And that's a whole church history question, too, because like Martin Luther 95 Thesis, like there's a lot of things that have happened to kind of decentralize this holding of the scripture in a sacred place where only certain people could read it.
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:52.719
To now we have Bibles.
00:48:53.039 --> 00:48:56.000
I mean, we have so many Bibles in this office that we're sitting in.
00:48:56.079 --> 00:48:57.679
There's a ton of different versions.
00:48:57.840 --> 00:49:00.719
Like I'm making it accessible on your phone, yeah.
00:49:01.360 --> 00:49:02.320
Which is every translation.
00:49:02.800 --> 00:49:08.480
Crazy because I used to be so like, ah, you know, you gotta have, and now I'm like, uh, that's most of the time how I read.
00:49:08.719 --> 00:49:18.079
Um, but anyways, I just wanted to say for scripture, I've been doing this where I just like put the topic in um Bible hub and read a little bit about it.
00:49:18.239 --> 00:49:23.280
So the scripture, the term scripture refers to sacred writings of Christianity contained in the Bible.
00:49:23.360 --> 00:49:27.119
The word itself is derived from Latin, um, meaning a writing.
00:49:27.280 --> 00:49:36.079
And so um in the Christian faith, scripture is considered the divinely inspired word of God serving as the ultimate authority for doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction.
00:49:36.159 --> 00:49:38.239
That's 2 Timothy 3, 16.
00:49:38.559 --> 00:49:39.840
Um, it's very cool.
00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:54.159
There's some, I'm not gonna probably link them in the show notes because there's so many different videos you could watch on Bible Project, but they do pretty deep dive of how the scriptures were assembled into the Bible that we hold now, and also how the Hebrew Bible was read.
00:49:54.239 --> 00:50:02.079
So that's a breadcrumb trail you can follow if you go to Bible Project, their website or their app, and you can just type in Bible, scriptures, whatever.
00:50:02.239 --> 00:50:07.119
Um, but essentially all these things were all these writings and books were separate.
00:50:07.280 --> 00:50:11.760
They weren't all they weren't woven together as one book, like we know it.
00:50:11.920 --> 00:50:20.400
That was not their original form, but they were people divinely inspired to write them, and then they were like scrolls essentially, and then assembled.
00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:30.559
Um, so lots of people making lots of decisions, um, but believed that divinely inspired by the Holy Spirit to bring all this stuff together.
00:50:31.039 --> 00:50:36.880
So, anyway, I'll link the my notes in the show notes if people want to kind of see uh more about that.
00:50:36.960 --> 00:50:49.360
But Brandy, you're gonna talk about the importance or you would have, by the time this comes out, the importance of scripture of reading, why we go to the Bible for answers, um, you know, who scripture tells us we are, things like that.
00:50:49.440 --> 00:50:55.039
So do you want to kind of give a brief like recap of what you would have talked about?
00:50:55.360 --> 00:50:56.000
Yeah, sure.
00:50:56.159 --> 00:51:03.760
Um, well, I think to me, and I don't know if I'll say this or not, but Bible reading is so important because it truly transformed me.
00:51:03.840 --> 00:51:12.639
I know that I was saved at a younger age, but I pretty much just I read when I was in church, or I might have read as like a checklist thing.
00:51:12.800 --> 00:51:20.159
Even when I was older, um, probably my first year into marriage, second year into marriage, I was still just reading because that's what we were supposed to do.
00:51:20.400 --> 00:51:31.440
And so um actually our preacher at our church challenged us to do a Bible reading plan, and we all did it together, and on Wednesday nights we just kind of had open discussion.
00:51:31.599 --> 00:51:34.800
He would start us off, and then we all would read.
00:51:34.880 --> 00:51:38.400
Um, I mean, we'd all kind of just say like what we got from the reading that week.
00:51:38.639 --> 00:51:43.039
And um, it's actually the foundations thing that I still do to the day.
00:51:43.199 --> 00:51:52.320
Um, it's really cool just because I started putting stuff together, or like the Lord would highlight something in scripture, and I would follow this whole little rabbit trail.
00:51:52.559 --> 00:51:59.760
And um, kind of like I did in the spring, sometimes I just something comes to your mind and you just follow it, like the olive tree and olives.
00:51:59.840 --> 00:52:02.400
I got all into that and obsessed with that.
00:52:02.639 --> 00:52:06.880
But they all have so much meaning that you don't know if you don't dive in.
00:52:07.440 --> 00:52:11.440
Um, and even like knowing their other resources to help you.
00:52:11.599 --> 00:52:34.480
Um, I try not to go first to buy study Bible, but having that as an option or having like um, I don't know, have like an illustrated Bible thing, or there's so many different options that you can pull from, but reading scripture first and letting the Lord speak, but then like checking other things like what was happening in the world at that time, history, what was going on.
00:52:34.719 --> 00:52:44.880
And so when I really started digging in and started even like realizing all the um, there's that really cool picture where you can see like all the prophecies from the old testament being fulfilled in the new.
00:52:44.960 --> 00:52:49.360
Like when I started putting all those connections together, I was like, like, it's truly incredible.
00:52:49.599 --> 00:52:56.400
And to know like that same God is the same guy that talks to us now, that's been like such a powerful thing for me.
00:52:56.559 --> 00:53:03.119
And just knowing like when Jesus died, he knew he was dying for me, then he knew all the things I was gonna do.
00:53:03.199 --> 00:53:10.000
So I just feel like it brought it like so much life, and there was more of like a relationship there, yeah, instead of just come and get this and leave.
00:53:10.159 --> 00:53:29.760
Yeah, I feel like there's definitely a a knowledge transfer, something about knowing things that does give us a security and a comfort, but there's also like a knowing of like the relational intimacy side of that how you engage with scripture is like to you learn, but then also you're being transformed at the same time.
00:53:30.000 --> 00:53:38.400
But I could see where you could be, you could maybe get a lot of either, not like a mix of both, you know, depending on how you grew up and like how you interact with scripture.
00:53:38.480 --> 00:53:48.880
So yeah, and I I was thinking through, especially while Brandy, while you were talking about like kind of your arc of where you started, you know, and and I think that that's the same arc for like all of us.
00:53:49.039 --> 00:54:02.000
You know, it to some extent, you know, you're you're you're being read, you know, if you're if you're fortunate enough, if you're blessed enough to have grown up in a Christian household, you know, which not everyone listening was, but maybe somebody read to you.
00:54:02.159 --> 00:54:20.719
And then maybe you had your your Bible that you read while you were at church or while you were in a Sunday school class, and and then maybe you got to a point where you were, you know, you m you promised your your seventh grade youth minister or whatever you you would read your Bible, you know, seven consecutive days, you know, or whatever.
00:54:20.800 --> 00:54:22.960
I mean, like, you know, I'm just being real, you know.
00:54:23.199 --> 00:54:35.679
And and you did it, and and maybe all you got out of that was checking it off in your little book thing, but but um, but still all those things were part of building you and building who you were and and moving forward.
00:54:35.840 --> 00:54:43.280
Um and and uh and and that that head knowledge started to become heart knowledge, you know, and moving forward.
00:54:43.519 --> 00:54:51.920
Yeah, I remember when we were in college, um actually the Bible reading plan thing, that's what our FCA director, Josh Gilreath, encouraged us to do.
00:54:52.079 --> 00:54:55.199
Um, and being a freshman and being like, I don't know what I'm doing.
00:54:55.440 --> 00:55:27.360
Like, I mean, I had my mom had showed me how to like kind of read and journal kind of thing, but that we had a same setup where it was like we were all kind of in the same reading plan on leadership team, and we would that was our leadership meeting, is like you got you came, you shared what you read and what you were learning in that week, and normally you start seeing like other people, like you would end up leaving encouraged, even though that wasn't necessarily the aim of that, but somebody would inevitably say something that you're like, man, I really needed to hear that this week, you know, and kind of point you in the right direction.
00:55:27.440 --> 00:55:29.519
So that's where that like started for me.
00:55:29.599 --> 00:55:30.400
Were you gonna say something?
00:55:30.559 --> 00:55:40.719
I was just gonna say, I think the main thing from um Monday night is just to know that we don't just go to the word um to know what God said, but to know God.
00:55:41.119 --> 00:55:49.360
I think for the longest time, like, yes, it has very good things that we need to know in it, like answers to questions and what if I'm having a hard time and all that.
00:55:49.679 --> 00:55:55.840
But like I'm going to the word to get God and know more about him and his character and all the other things fall in that.
00:55:56.159 --> 00:55:56.639
I love that.
00:55:56.719 --> 00:56:07.599
And I and I mean, you know, that I don't know if this ties into where we were earlier, you know, asking for advice type stuff, but but I mean, um, you know, who do who do we take advice from?
00:56:07.840 --> 00:56:17.039
And and once we know God and hear his thoughts on what our situation is, that you know, that's obviously the ultimate source of advice and guidance.
00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:22.400
Um, how are we going to know his voice if we haven't been in his word?
00:56:22.800 --> 00:56:25.519
Um, you know, I I got a call a couple of days ago.
00:56:25.679 --> 00:56:28.079
My wife had to call from a different number.
00:56:28.239 --> 00:56:29.760
I mean, it was like a work phone or whatever, right?
00:56:29.920 --> 00:56:31.199
I don't know, her phone was dead or something.
00:56:31.360 --> 00:56:32.800
So I got a call from a random number.
00:56:32.880 --> 00:56:34.559
A lot of times I don't pick those up, but I did.
00:56:34.719 --> 00:56:38.480
And immediately when she said, Hey, it's me, I knew I knew her voice.
00:56:39.039 --> 00:56:39.280
Okay.
00:56:39.519 --> 00:56:53.199
You know, but if it had been somebody that's not one of the hundred people that I'm around regularly, and especially somebody that is the person I'm around the most, my wife, I might not have recognized that voice saying, Hey, it's me.
00:56:53.519 --> 00:56:54.880
Can you go do this thing for me?
00:56:55.039 --> 00:56:56.639
Hey, it's me, will you go do this?
00:56:56.880 --> 00:56:58.960
And uh it it's very much the same with God.
00:56:59.199 --> 00:57:12.480
You know, if you if you don't know his voice, and then you hear, I need to change majors, I need to break up with this person, I need to do whatever, uh whatever the thing is, is that God telling me that, or is that me in my own head telling me that?
00:57:12.719 --> 00:57:12.960
Right.
00:57:13.199 --> 00:57:17.840
And and that's how you're gonna know God's voice is by r you know consistently meeting with him.
00:57:18.159 --> 00:57:18.400
Right.
00:57:18.559 --> 00:57:25.519
That's a great point you said that because that was that's one of the things is um like how do you genuinely know someone intimately?
00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:27.360
You spend consistent time with them.
00:57:27.519 --> 00:57:34.960
And same thing, like you say with your wife, like you showed up over years, years, years every day, like and so you know her.
00:57:35.199 --> 00:57:36.000
Same with the Lord.
00:57:36.159 --> 00:57:44.639
I can't just show up one day and be like, I mean, he's gonna be receptive if you do, but like how I truly know it's him is my consistent discipline over and over.
00:57:45.039 --> 00:57:49.360
And I think sometimes too, you're a lot of times his voice is comes in thought form.
00:57:49.519 --> 00:57:56.559
Like, I mean, I'm sure there have been people that have heard him, like heard an actual voice, but a lot of times it's comes in the sound of your thoughts.
00:57:56.639 --> 00:57:56.880
Yeah.
00:57:57.039 --> 00:58:02.480
So one thing that was super helpful, somebody worded to me, is it like something for him to say?
00:58:02.639 --> 00:58:05.840
So, like Brad, you've been around your wife, how many years have y'all been married?
00:58:06.159 --> 00:58:06.639
29.
00:58:06.880 --> 00:58:09.360
Okay, and then you knew her a couple years before that.
00:58:09.599 --> 00:58:10.000
Yeah, right.
00:58:10.159 --> 00:58:11.119
So 30 plus years.
00:58:11.280 --> 00:58:11.360
Right.
00:58:11.599 --> 00:58:19.599
So if somebody came up to you and said, She said this, and it was like, that doesn't really sound like something she would say.
00:58:19.760 --> 00:58:20.079
Exactly.
00:58:20.239 --> 00:58:25.119
You would already kind of know, like, okay, I I'm gonna have to kind of figure this out.
00:58:25.360 --> 00:58:34.880
And you can the more familiar you are with what scripture says, the more I think you should be able to recognize this is like something he would say versus not.
00:58:34.960 --> 00:58:40.880
To be so I notice a lot of times that comes in forms of when people feel guilt or shame.
00:58:41.199 --> 00:58:46.079
Um, it can sound like something my version of God might say.
00:58:46.159 --> 00:58:57.199
But if you get in scripture and see see that he's close to the brokenhearted, that he's forgiving, that he's caring, then you have that's where you can start being like, well, is that like what he would say?
00:58:57.360 --> 00:58:57.519
Yeah.
00:58:57.760 --> 00:59:04.719
And we are giving presented different versions of like his nature, his character, that that makes it a little tricky sometimes.
00:59:04.880 --> 00:59:09.440
Um, but the more you read and discover for yourself, the more confident you're gonna be.
00:59:09.599 --> 00:59:25.920
If you do have those thoughts that, because a lot of times I would associate God with authority figures I had in my life, because ultimate authority being God, like I would respond in relationship to him like I would in relationship to other adults that I knew.
00:59:26.000 --> 00:59:26.159
Yeah.
00:59:26.400 --> 00:59:33.440
And so if they were demanding or if they were controlling or they, you know, then I would like have this impression that God was the same way.
00:59:33.599 --> 00:59:45.039
So it's taken a long time to like sort through that to get to a place where it's like you can actually hear what he actually is like, things that he would actually say that are consistent with his character.
00:59:45.119 --> 00:59:45.360
Yeah.
00:59:45.519 --> 00:59:47.760
Um, but it's kind of hard to tell the difference sometimes.
00:59:47.840 --> 00:59:48.320
Yeah, for sure.
00:59:48.480 --> 00:59:56.719
Whenever those things feel true, like if I feel like I should be ashamed, then like, and I'm having thoughts, and then I can kind of piece together like he's probably not gonna be happy about that.
00:59:56.960 --> 00:59:58.159
I can be like, yeah, that's God.
00:59:58.239 --> 01:00:01.679
And then I'm I'm gonna probably miss forgiveness and I'm gonna miss the grace in that.
01:00:01.760 --> 01:00:04.800
And so, um, anyway, those are just some things.
01:00:04.880 --> 01:00:06.639
And I also think it can be overwhelming.
01:00:06.719 --> 01:00:09.039
Like the Bible is a really big book, yeah.
01:00:09.519 --> 01:00:12.559
And what the resources we have, crazy.
01:00:12.639 --> 01:00:24.719
So I liked what you said of like something might intrigue you, and you might just start praying about it or like reading some scripture, seeing what you can discover for yourself, yeah, and then you might add some resources later.
01:00:24.800 --> 01:00:33.440
But I always think that's a good place to start, is like what can God show me first before I'm just running to all these other things to tell me what I should think about it.
01:00:33.679 --> 01:00:33.840
Right.
01:00:34.239 --> 01:00:36.159
Because I mean, ultimately that's somebody else.
01:00:36.400 --> 01:00:38.559
You know, that's not God, it's somebody else's thoughts.
01:00:38.960 --> 01:00:47.679
And they're gonna have all their as much as we want to be unbiased about or objective as we come to the word, you have experiences that have shaped you.
01:00:47.760 --> 01:00:52.000
You have parents' origin that has shaped you, you've had church experience that have shaped you.
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So it's very hard as much as I would love to be like, oh yeah, I'm objective about it.
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Like it's very hard to be like 100%.
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Right, that's right.
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And mine is like, whenever I do research, uh mine is more like like what's going on in that time period or what's happening, what happened before to lead to this.
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Give you some context.
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Yes, and that's what that's what I feel like makes helps me understand more like why the author said that and the Lord chose to speak it through them.
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Right.
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And I think that that that's tremendous, and I think that's something we should all work I I know I need to work more toward because um, you know, you pull a verse out of context, you pull uh even a chapter out of context, and and and um and and you end up weaponizing it against yourself or others or or whoever, you know, um, when that's not that that's not maybe not what that was intended for.
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So I mean or justifying.
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Like it is crazy the gymnastics people will do to justify honestly sin.
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That's pretty obvious.
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Yes.
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You laughing at my turn.
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But I was going there, Brad, because in your notes you said something about that, like when you like, oh, I feel this way or whatever.
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That's why scripture was really meant to be read in community so that you could kind of hear the dissection of it or the interpretation or revelation in it.
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And so I do think there's a a great place of personal time, but also in community, yeah, because you can get off on these.
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Well, because it's like I think one of the things that I said was um, what does it mean to me?
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Well, it really doesn't matter what it means to me.
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It's like what does it mean?
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Right.
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You know, that feels like And then maybe how is it speaking to you or encouraging you?
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Yeah, yeah.
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That would be the next step.
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Like, how can I apply this, or what does this mean for me now that I know what it means?
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Which might be the good combo of like knowledge and devotion or formation, like because there is some kind of knowing, but then there's also like the like how am I how is this gonna change how I go out there and live today?
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Yeah, you know, that you need to think through, like the application of it.
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Yeah, for sure.
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Yeah, and I mean I'm I know I'm kind of circling back to one thing, but I I think that that if we're not careful, we will just find what we want to verify what we already believed or what we already wanted.
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Uh you know, I mean the I I use my my Bible app on my phone a lot, and um uh that's primarily where I'm I'm reading.
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So if if I'm going into something, whatever, let's say I'm having um uh you know issues with my my children or whatever, you know, and and I go and I do a search on there for you know verses about children obey your fathers, you know, or whatever, um, or you know, wives, this or whatever.
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I mean, you know, if I go look for that and I go, well, here it is in Colossians 3, you know, this is it says this is what the kids should do, or this is what the wives should do, or whatever.
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And and I don't go up one verse where it says, here's what the husband should do.
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Right, you know, and and and um, you know, that goes back to like looking at like all these pieces fit together.
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I'm I was I think I was convicted of that whenever I always said my favorite verse was Philippians 4 13.
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I think it's a lot of people's favorite verse.
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And I was like, you know, I can do this, like I can win this game, or I can play my best, or I can score the goals because God is in me.
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And that's true.
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But then I read it and I was like, Paul's been shipwrecked, he's been beat, he's been like, that's nothing on what I'm doing.
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Like, there's not him on the free throw line saying I can make his shots.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And so I was like, golly, I've been using that out of context a lot.
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And so I agree with you on that.
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There's other ones probably in the sports world too.
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Like I immediately thought Jeremiah 29, 11, when he said that, which is it is true that God has good plans for you.
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But what if it's not your plans?
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Yeah.
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Oh, I use that verse probably more than any others, but it's usually when somebody has got stuff going on that's not what they would have designed.
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Right.
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Yeah, and that and that's that's where it's that's where to me that verse becomes useful.
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It's like, this I know that this is not how you planned it.
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It doesn't feel good.
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Good.
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Yeah, you know, which is God's in control.
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Which is also there's a lot of like phrases that sometimes are used that sound like scripture, like everything happens for a reason.
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Yeah um is a scripture or not a scripture, but it's like a phrase that's used a lot when people are going through a hard time.
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Well, everything happens for a reason, but it's interesting because you can kind of see where it might have originated from, like Romans 8 28 says, Yeah, for God causes all things to work together for the good of those who are called.
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And I I I'm messing up the last part of that, but anyways, it's just really interesting because some things do sound good, um, but they might not be scripture or it could be taken out of context.
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But um, anyway, so those are some things that um we'll have talked about, and then hopefully with the um, you know, idea of of giving some ideas of how to uh get in scripture to, you know, be able to have confidence that you can read and you might not understand everything, but that you can there can be this teaching, personal teaching that you can take from the Lord and have confidence of that.
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But then also, you know, hopefully encouraging also finding a community where those things can be worked out too, and that there's teaching.
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From a different place where you can hear thoughts.
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I love to, my kind of thing that I realized was like my own personal time with the Lord would often like He would lead me to something, and then I just kind of hold that loosely.
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But then I would go to like church or I would go to FCA or different things like that.
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And then somebody would say something that would uh a very uh Christianese type word would be like bear witness.
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Basically, like it's it's saying the same thing that I had read and understood, even if I didn't understand the whole book of Nehemiah or whatever, you know, there's some leadership truth in there that I've like, okay, I think this is what how I need to like walk or like handle this decision or whatever, and then I would go.
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And so that always kind of helped me.
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And so it's like there's gotta be a place where both things are important.
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It's just like kind of the order.
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Like if I'm always running to other people first, I might not know for sure that's from the Lord.
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But then, like, if I was doing my own personal study and then it was kind of like there was this other testimony of it somewhere else, that would give me a little bit more confidence.
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Yeah, that's what I was gonna say too.
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Um, at our old church, before we started the Bible reading plan, I had already been plugged into a group of women and we were all about the same age, and we would do a Bible study per se, but it would be a book, like one of them was seamless, and it talked about scripture and order, but it was really neat because we studied the Bible on our own, but then on Sundays, kind of like a Sunday school, it was a Sunday night class.
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We would we'd come in and discuss together like what had been revealed, or you know, there might be questions we would answer based on what we read, and that's always really cool just to have that, like you're saying, we can all kind of converse and talk about what we read.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and that's I mean, that's our discipleship groups that we do.
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We'll we'll do that.
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You know, we've got um you know, a study coming up.
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We just ordered books for Titus, I believe, you know, we're gonna be going through here, you know, as our next one, and we're just kind of working through different stuff.
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And hey, you read these these couple of chapters and and and we might text back and forth some during the week, but it at the end of the week, we're gonna go over like yeah, all of that.
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Yeah, and it's very cool.
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There's like I was even saying, whenever, you know, we might not have read exactly the amount, the same amount or something like that, like at that group whenever I was a freshman at Mississippi State, but you would ultimately leave with something.
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And that always fascinated me.
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I was like, I don't understand how this happens.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But uh obviously God is very much in the middle of that.
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And and I've I've I've found, you know, and talking about like when we're talking to friends or mentors or your preacher that's preaching whatever on Sunday, and the time after time, it when I'm really in the word, which is not all the time.
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I mean, you know, there's definitely seasons where that's up or down.
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Um, but when I'm really in the word, that Sunday, the preacher will say something like, Oh my goodness, that was I I that that was Wednesday.
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I I listened to that, or I'll hear a podcast and they were talking about the same thing.
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Or, you know, um at FCA on Monday night, we'll be in the same kind of area.
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And um it always makes me just kind of you know smile and know that God is is looking out for me on that.
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That like Brad needs to hear this, you know, two times, three times, five times.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So it tells us that scripture is alive and active.
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So I was gonna say I wrote down Hebrews 4 12, yeah, because yeah, I was thinking about how that's what it is.
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It's like an a it's alive, you know, and moving.
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One of the things I want to end on, because I thought it was a really good analogy, um, was the whole thing about you eat food every day.
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You might not remember your meals, but I mean I can't tell you what I ate two, three weeks ago, but you can tell by looking at me that I've been I've been full.
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And same thing with scripture.
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Yeah, same thing with scripture.
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I might not be able to tell you the verse I read or the book or the chapter, but I'm the sum of the time that I put in of that.
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So and that does take time.
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Yeah.
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Like it it really takes, and that's why it's kind of hard when you do get in community because oftentimes it's easy to compare.
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Like I've seen that with leaders through the years, is like say someone grew up in a Christian home and they've already been studying God's word for however many years, and then they come into an environment, maybe somebody's kind of a new Christian, and you get them in the same space, and then now you've got things that you could have the person that has been around the word a long time, like be challenged with a little pride.
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Yeah.
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And then you have the one that's not feel like I'm an imposter.
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What am I doing in here?
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And so anyway, those things will like surface, but it's you can't like that's why it's like you really can't compare.
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That's not fair.
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Well, that's even been a battle like with different phases of life.
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Like, I might only have five minutes, but take those five minutes because it's what you have.
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Motherhood.
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Hashtag motherhood for sure.
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I was like, oh Lord, I really want to, but I know they need me.
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Yeah, and also I'm exhausted and I need a nap.
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Um, so just like that is a thing to just watch out for is that it is your own story.
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And hopefully, I mean, my my hope is any community that's here at FCA that we can grow.
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I think that's a maturity thing.
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Like for the people that might have had more experience with these things, is that you've equally not just grown in knowledge but maturity to know how to help someone, but also realize you need to know things from them too.
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Yeah.
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That's right.
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Like there are certain things that they might can see that you cannot see because of your experiences that you can still learn from.
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Your community is so important.
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I mean, what you go back to who your roommates are, who who your friends are, who you're you know, are you in a local church?
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Are you, you know, participating in Bible studies with others that are like you and others that are not like you, you know, to to get that different stories, different perspective, different time of life.
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And uh, you know, I would encourage uh you know, anybody out there that you know, if you're a college student, um don't look at this as a time to be in neutral.
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You know, I mean, th this is a time for you to to move forward.
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And so uh, you know, find a local church, get in the word every day, um, you know, make community with others around you that are gonna hold you accountable and and voice the things that they are hearing directly from God that maybe sp are speaking into your life.
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I mean, I I you know, I I can think of one night at Huddle when Brett was leading, you know, this last year, and I had something going on in my life, um, just a work thing going on right then, and it was not the same as what he had going on, but it was similar.
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And and he was up there and I was like, Man, I needed to hear this from that guy today.
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I'm glad that he was in the word enough to have shared that with me.
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And and it changed what went forward for me in the next week or two.
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You know, so and I don't know if this is a struggle for people, but I know that I've battled this at various times, is that like none of this is like a race to accomplish anything.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And I think that's very, very hard and efficiently.
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Yeah.
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And then you obviously, I mean, whether you're even a student, like you could see somebody else is doing all these internships or all this, like there's so much like angst over all these things.
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Oh, I know.
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It's like I gotta be the best athlete, the best at following Jesus, the best student.
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Like it's just, it can be a lot.
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Um, and so it's just not a race.
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I think the greatest thing is to maintain as best as you can a learning posture, and that will save you a lot of frustration.
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Like, sure.
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And no, not everybody's gonna have that same posture, and so you're gonna come across people that are gonna treat you different ways for what you can, can't do, know, or don't know.
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But um, I if I just keep the posture of I can learn anything from anybody in any space that has helped me tremendously and get out of that, like comparing and where somebody it doesn't really matter, you know, for sure.
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Anyways, any parting shots as we wrap up today?
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No, no parting shots.
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No parting shots.
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Uncle Brad is good.
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Uncle Brad.
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That's great.
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Brandy, we thank you for speaking at the huddle and leading us in this topic.
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We don't just go to the word to know what God said, but to know God.
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Welcome to the Created To Be Podcast.
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We're back for another week.
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I'm one of your hosts, Bethany Pigett, and Brandy is with me today.
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Hey.
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Thanks, Brandy, for being here and help me host this podcast today.
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Yeah.
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And we normally we introduce like a guest, but since our third person at the table has already been a guest, I'm gonna call him a guest host.
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Wow.
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Not a guest guest.
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Wow.
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This is Brad Smith.
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Hey.
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He is back with us this week.
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We um, you know, I keep saying Justin's gone, and when he listens to the podcast, he's like, you really gotta stop saying that.
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He's like And yet you said it again.
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And I said it again.
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Uh but anyways, later in the week is very hard for him uh to be here.
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So uh and then Darius is out, but I like that we have, you know, we might have to come up for a name for this setup because our names all start with B.
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Sounds like the three B's are at the table.
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There you go.
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Yeah.
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So um today's gonna be a lot of fun.
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We're gonna talk about Brandy's topic that she would have covered by the time this comes out at the huddle the night before.
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So we're gonna get to that in just a minute.
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The last podcast, we talked about mascots because we did not have a huddle the day before the podcast came out.
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So we deviated a little bit to revisit a conversation that happened in episode three, which was very fun to talk about if mascots are athletes.
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And Spiffy did a great job.
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So if you have not listened to that podcast, um, you know, go ahead and listen to that.
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One of the things that stood out to me in that podcast, it was more of like a serious thing because a lot of it was very fun and just information and uh fun stories, but was like Spiffy described who he could be in the suit that he wasn't necessarily outside of the suit.
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Like he it sounded like a lot more freedom to just be expressive and things like that.
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And so kind of the takeaway from me was as far as like as it relates to our relationship with Christ, is like a lot of times we think we lose ourselves when we're in Christ, you know, like we have to deny ourselves whatever, but actually it's like permission to become more of who we really are.
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Yeah, and so that it just some of the podcast towards the end like took a different turn than I anticipated with like things to take away when we started talking about secrets and like him having to be somebody different in the suit, outside the suit.
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Like he talked a lot about um unity, like that it was there was nine mascots that would exchange turns being bully, and so they all had a unit.
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I didn't realize there was nine.
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There might not currently be, but when he was doing it, and so like they all have to learn how to express themselves similarly as bully, walk like bully, and so like it really was such a good analogy of like denying himself and what he wanted, and he's like, I have to be bully when I'm in the suit because there has to be uniformity anytime any of us get in the suit.
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They probably had like practice.
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Oh, yeah.
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I just never really thought of having practice for that.
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Like I could just get out there and wing it.
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That's what I'm thinking.
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Yeah, they but the part when you were talking about that it they they have to move the same way, they have to give the same expressions, the same nod, the same, you know, kind of bounce to them and uh and how how coordinated that was.
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I'd never thought about that before.
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I knew that there were multiple you know, people, right, but I never thought about how they were all the same, yeah.
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So that takes my brain like a whole different direction with even like how we express ourselves like as believers, you know, like how much is consistent across the board because we all are different stories, different denominations.
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Anyways, we don't have to get into that today, but that's where my brain, of course, like making drawing some conclusions and um but we did do a rapid fire question that I wanted to ask you guys and see if y'all had any other um answers.
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So when Justin, when we revisited the podcast, and like I was like, you gotta listen to it.
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It it was so funny and it was a lot of fun.
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Uh, we talked about how, like, in in the stretch time, we talked about mascots and the different companies that like use mascots or the teams and stuff like that.
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But more in particular, it was like businesses that use mascots instead of maybe people to do their branding or marketing.
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So, one of the things a few things I wanted to revisit just because I looked them up.
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So the Michelin man was mentioned.
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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And we were trying to figure out what are those tires that he's made up of.
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And it said on the internet, per the internet, yes, it's white tires that makes up the Michelin man.
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Looks like marshmallows.
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Yeah.
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I was gonna say he's he's kind of the tire version of the Pillsbury doughboy.
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Yeah.
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You know, I mean the same kind of thing.
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Yes.
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And then um, Spider-Man, I'm gonna have to revisit whenever Darius comes, but I'll have to remind him he had not seen the most recent ones with Tom Holland, and I was a little offended.
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I know that I have.
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I'm sorry.
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I don't really watch, I don't watch movies much.
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Well, we were just talking about did you do you know, like, do you have a version that you like the best?
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Um well, not necessarily one that I like the best, but I have seen, you know, all the different versions there.
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So And you don't have a preference?
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I don't have a preference.
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I don't have a preference.
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Okay.
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I never really could get into them before it switched.
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Um, okay, and then Auburn, which y'all probably already know this, but we were like, do they let an eagle out?
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Do they not?
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That's so cool.
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I thought that they had.
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My sister happened to be at the Auburn Bandy game, because she was, anyways, had a presentation to do on campus.
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And so they went to the game, and so she actually, between that podcast and today, like she sent me an act a video of it happening.
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So I was like, clearly they do this, but it just felt crazy to say without me knowing for it.
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Right, for sure.
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Yeah, no, I felt I feel like there's one other school that does that, but I I can't think of who it is.
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I knew Auburn did, but yeah, they had mentioned the Philadelphia Eagles do the same thing.
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That could be it, that could be what I'm thinking about.
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But I think I mean, in this video she sent me, that Eagle was getting like close to people.
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I went when I guess Brett's senior year, they played at Auburn and I went, and it's really cool.
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Yeah, I was anyway.
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So then, so I had to just follow up on that because we said that in the last episode.
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So Justin's mascots that he thought of were Lucky Charms, which we did not mention, uh Ghostbusters, uh Honey Nut Cheerios.
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He was like, you know, the bee.
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And I was like, Oh yeah, that's like probably the most obvious cereal.
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No, I was thinking, I didn't think of that.
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Yeah.
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Um, Count Dracula for the chocolate what are they called?
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The cereal that's like the chocolate something.
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I said, mm-hmm.
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Uh-huh.
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We're all thinking of it and we can't think of it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And then Captain Crunch.
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All of his are cereal, you see.
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He ate a lot of cereal growing up.
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Um, and then do y'all remember the fruit stripes gum, the zebra gum?
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Yeah.
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He if he was here, he would say all these like the little jingles and stuff that went with it because he was reminding me.
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And then Kool-Aid.
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Yeah.
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I didn't think about that.
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I did remember.
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There was uh Tony the Tiger.
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Yes.
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And I'm gonna go back.
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I'm gonna go back.
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It's Count Chocula.
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It's Count Chocula that that that that's on that cereal.
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So okay, so I was wrong, but that's okay.
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Uh yeah, that's that's why we couldn't come up with the name of it.
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That's what it was.
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That's why, yeah.
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And then I remembered Smoky the Bear.
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So even outside of you know, these like some of these branding, you have these other areas where people are using, you know, some kind of mascot.
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You're smiling about that, Brad.
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You have a story.
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Oh, yeah.
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I don't I don't have a Smoky Bear.
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Stalja, you have this stallion.
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I was thinking there's probably more like school-related ones if we could really think about it.
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Yeah.
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I just can't think of any off the top of my head.
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Which one of the things that Spiffy did mention that I did not realize, I mean, it kind of seems obvious, but like I mentioned, the Texas mascot we served there with FCA, so I was like, yeah, Bivo.
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And he was like, it's actually not Bivo, like in the suit.
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Bivo is the the longhorn cow.
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The live mascot.
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Yes, but like that the live mascot and the one in the suit are not necessarily the same name name.
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Oh yeah.
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So that was new.
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New news to me.
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But y'all y'all think of any others?
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Can you I've already I should have probably asked you before I gave you all these that Justin said.
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I thought of Tony the Tiger, but yeah, yeah.
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My mind's on cereal now.
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That's all I can think of, really.
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Yeah, just very interesting uh how the mascots, like even how it originated, how it's used now, you know.
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A lot of those, which this is not probably like a mascot per se, but like if businesses are trying to get, they'll put the you know, the big suit.
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What it there's a person in there sometimes, but it'll blow like air.
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But sometimes there's a person in there, not just air.
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I've wondered how those work.
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Like I think that the Georgia Bulldogs have like one of those types of suits that have the air, but then there is somebody walking around.
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Um, and I just I've never like gotten it gotta be some kind of fan or something.
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Yeah, probably be cooler.
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Yeah, it probably would be for me.
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Um, yeah.
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And I can't that's that's my other thought from the whole mascot discussion was I cannot imagine how hot being in one of those suits would be on you know, field side and it's a hundred degrees.
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So hot, yeah, that I'm like, this is insane.
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Um I wonder, do they ever change in the middle of the game?
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That's that's what I I think.
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I didn't I didn't ask Spiffy either, but I've talked to others that have been in that role before, and I think that's like you know, you do the first quarter, I'll do the second quarter, you do the third quarter, you know.
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I mean, that they can kind of alternate back and forth, especially on on games like that.
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You know where my mind went?
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I actually thought you meant like bring a change of clothes because they're so sweaty.
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Yeah, well, that too.
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If they get a break, more questions.
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We thought we got them all answered.
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We don't.
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Um, anyways, he was a great guest.
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It was a very fun episode.
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Um, so today's topic is gonna be about what matters.
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We're gonna get back on that topic and we're gonna talk about scripture.
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So we've talked about salvation and worship, and I just wanted to remind people listening that we're we're talking about like it's like super broad, but it's like if you were to go to any denomin Christian denomination and see what they include in their services, these components are gonna be there.
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You're gonna have like salvation in Jesus is gonna be central, worship, a a structure, some type of expression of worship, and then scripture.
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And that can look a variety of different ways.
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Uh, so we're gonna talk about that a little bit later, but I'm super excited to do this next section of the podcast.
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Brad is shaking his head.
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I'm I'm less excited.
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But but I'm gonna I'm gonna fake it for Bethany now.
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So no, no, no, no.
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I'm excited.
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No, no, no.
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Okay, so um unfortunately, you weren't able to make the huddle when we kind of started this idea of uh let letting Brad have some space to be able to speak to certain things to the audience.
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Because how old are you, Brad?
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You want to share with the world?
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Well, you can put me on the last word here, but you can give a range, maybe a range of 52.
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That would be the range.
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Um, so you know, he's got wisdom and experience, and we've talked about that on the adventure episode, the comments episode.
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These were Brad's stories, so um we wanted to give him a space where he can like speak just reminders that are important, what things that matter to the students, and so we had hoped to do that live at a huddle, and it will happen.
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I already made a graphic and you know it's in cue.
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Um, but we have you know a moment today to to be able to do something fun with this segment.
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So Justin was actually going to announce Brad at the huddle and had like a speech for it, but I'm having to sub in for Brad.
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I did not know that.
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So I had to ask Justin.
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I was like, what were you gonna say?
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Um and so we wanted to, you know, this might change, but Brad, for right now, we feel like you need to be the fun uncle that people listen to.
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Yeah, you know, fun uncle.
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Okay, yeah.
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But you know, a lot of times the the fun uncle in a family can be the one that's like crazy or saying crazy things, but you're the type of person people need to listen to.
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So, um, so I like this little list here.
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It says gives you advice you didn't ask for, uh, knows a weird amount about random things.
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True, true.
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Says things your parents wouldn't say.
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I'm gonna take that as like maybe they'd want to say but can't say, maybe you wouldn't receive from your parents, but you might listen to Uncle Brad.
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Um, is somehow both incredibly wise, maybe questionable at times, but why?
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Questionable.
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Um will absolutely help you out.
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I don't know about this part, but might roast you first.
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I don't know you maybe well enough to to say that you would do that.
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Well, get ready.
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You know, I mean, I I might do that.
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I don't know.
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Maybe I do that to Brad.
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Um, and then has a story for everything, which has proven true.
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That might be my most true experience of Brad.
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Yeah.
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Um, so I don't know if y'all are familiar with this.
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There's been like radio shows, even TV shows, probably, where it's like ask so-and-so.
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Do y'all have any that come to mind?
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I have some in the show notes, but like anything that comes to mind as like a familiar or popular, maybe pe people that listen to this might not even know what these are.
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We might be that old, but I'm gonna I'm gonna have to, you know, start with there's there used to be these things called newspapers, you know.
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And I'm sure nobody here has seen or heard of those.
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Yeah, you would open them up and and they would have um there was uh what was it, Dear Abbey.
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Yes, I have that on my list, yep.
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Dear Abbey, and so and and um and maybe Ann Landers, I think was like a uh uh you know same type of thing.
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And and and people would mail in questions, and it was, you know, whatever, my mother-in-law is doing this, or what do I do when my kids do this, or my boss is like that, you know, and um and mail in these questions.
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And I guess, you know, six weeks later when the Pony Express mail, whatever got to Chicago or wherever this was originated out of, um then they would pick some of the good questions and answer them.
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And so I can't imagine having some question that I'm just every day running out to the paper to see did my question out of a thousand get get answered, you know, six weeks later.
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Yeah.
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But then you could also see the crossover of how many people have this question.
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Because it's like this question got answered, and I want to know that actually that's a question I have that I didn't ask, but I want to know.
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Um, do you know about those shows?
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Yeah, there was that one on the radio, um, 98.7 was the radio station.
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Was it a lady or a guy that would answer?
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It was a lady.
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Delilah?
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Oh, yeah, yeah.
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Was it Delilah?
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Yes, okay.
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Yes.
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I don't, I just I I there's a jingle, I think, that goes with it.
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Because I don't know that I I'm not gonna sing it, but I know it's a good thing.
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It's just her name, right?
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Is it just her name?
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It's just her name.
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It's just her name.
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Yeah.
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I'm not gonna sing it.
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But I'm not gonna hit those three notes.
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Me either, but I remember.
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Oh Brad, come on, man.
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I have a hot take on Delhi.
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I have a hot take on Delilah.
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Okay, what's your hot take?
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So, like, you know, we we used to um you know, just driving back and forth.
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We it there was a period of time we were driving between Nashville and Starkville a lot, like virtually every weekend we'd have to come back and forth.
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And um, for whatever reason, that was the radio station that would be on late at night, Delilah would be on somewhere on the Natchez Trace, you know, making making the drive.
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And um usually I I somebody would, you know, write in or call in with some question, and Delilah I think would give, generally speaking, pretty good advice.
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And then she'd say, I'm gonna pick out a song for you.
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And my wife and I used to laugh about this all the time because like the song the the advice would be great, but the song would be like the worst choice.
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It has nothing to do with whatever the question was, you know, and you're like, Well, you know, someone is talking about, you know, I've lost my you know, my boyfriend or my whatever, you know, I had this bad breakup, and she's like, Well, let me play the song for you, and it's Metallica with whatever, you know, and you're just like, I have no idea where she came up with that.
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Yeah, that is hilarious.
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The scene is great though that you just said, like on the Natchez Trace.
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It's like probably the only thing you could like get in the car.
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Um, okay, so there's also the Dave Ramsey show, which I don't know how many people in this next generation would know Dave Ramsey.
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I mean, he's still going strong, I think.
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Yeah.
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And his program and stuff, but you know, people that primarily is about financial advice, and so people will call in and ask and get, you know, pretty direct advice from Dave Ramsey.
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So that was one that's like super familiar to me.
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Um, but all these have like There's one on the radio now, but it's um like about plants and stuff.
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Oh really?
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It's from uh maybe New Albany or something.
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Brett Brett listens to it.
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He's like, I never even know what they're talking about, but I like listening to those shows like garden.
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It's just like the nostalgia of it all.
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Okay.
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If I'm remembering right, I've listened to it like a piece of it once when I was riding with him in the truck, but I can't even remember what it's the weekend.
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Okay.
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On on Super Talk, there I mean they do all kinds of different you know, there's sports shows in the afternoon and political shows in the morning, but I think there's one there's like a handyman show on the weekends, and I think there's a is it Garden Mama?
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Garden Mama, I think that's who you're talking about.
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So that would make sense.
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That is awesome.
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What kind of time?
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One time he was like, um, somebody said a question, it was Walt from New Albany, and his cousin is Walt from New I and I wonder if he ever asked him if he's like, hey man.
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Um yeah, I don't know.
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I don't know what time it comes on.
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This is a tangent, but did y'all ever call in and try to like win tickets and stuff on radio?
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You you have a story.
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Uh so in like in like junior high.
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I mean, like, I'm talking about like 12 years old, 11 years old, whatever.
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Um, they would do they were kind of transitioning.
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I mean, I'm old, okay?
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We've already established that, but they were transitioning a lot of the radio stations were transitioning from like albums to either cassettes or or to CDs or something, you know, different different media.
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So they were getting rid of a lot of their like library of music stuff.
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Yeah.
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And so because of that, and plus they got promos from from artists and stuff, they would give away albums all the time.
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And I would win stuff off the radio like all the time.
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I would sit there and and you know, because I was boring, um, and just sitting at home, you know, whatever.
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But uh, I would win stuff off the radio.
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Well, they had a one time there was um like a big prize, you know, toward Christmas, and it was like 12 days of Christmas prize, and and you had to be over the age of 18 to win.
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And I was not, and I'm about to confess to lying right here on FCA podcast.
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And so I was like maybe 13.
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Yeah.
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Oh my gosh, you had to be 18.
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You had to be 18 to win because I mean there were uh because the prizes, the dollar amounts were were bigger or whatever.
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And so I I was the ninth caller or whatever, yeah.
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Well, not not well enough, I don't think, you know, but it was like um I was like the ninth caller or whatever you had to be.
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And so the guy's like, you know, who are we talking to?
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And so I give my dad's name.
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I'm like, this is Gary Smith.
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And he's like, How old are you, Gary?
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And I was like, uh 40.
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And and the guy's like, you know, I mean, literally on the radio, you can hear he's like, You don't sound 40.
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And and I'm sitting here thinking, Well, how's he gonna know?
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I'm not just on the phone.
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I'm like, Well, I am.
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And so they're like, Well, congrats, Gary Smith.
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You won, you know, come by and pick up whatever.
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So is that your dad?
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Yeah, so I go up there with my dad.
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My dad's like, I cannot believe that you did this, you know, it's but you know, it I was like, Well, you can keep the wallet I won, you know, or whatever.
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So we we went and picked up my prize package.
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What did you win?
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It was a lot of cool stuff.
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But um the other thing cool that came of that was one of the things was uh to a local jewelry store.
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It was a wallet, it was like an you know, a a decent eelskin wallet.
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I remember that.
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Okay.
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And so we go to the the jewelry store and there's a guy in there, and I'm like, I just I recognize this guy, but I can't figure out who it is.
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Yeah.
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But he's in here looking at at um diamonds, you know, things a lot bigger than a wallet, you know, and I and I was like, Man, that guy looks so familiar, I just can't figure out who it is.
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I'm 13 year old.
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And um, so the guy walks out and and we're we're walking out and headed to the parking lot, and and the guy starts backing out and his Corvette with the license plate Rice 80.
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Um I was like, Oh, that's Jerry Rice.
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Uh he was just on the cover of Sports Illustrated this week.
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That's why I recognize him, but he was in there at the same time with me flicking stuff.
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That's crazy.
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I've met um uh Tony Dungey on accident in a sprint store.
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We were just next to each other, like he was in there to do something for his get his daughter a phone or something.
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And we're literally the only two customers in there.
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And so I'm like, in my head, I'm like, do I do this?
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Do I not?
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And I was like, Yes, I do this.
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So weird.
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It is.
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I know, but I'm like, I'm totally gonna talk to him.
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Like, when else?
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He's not gonna remember me.
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Wandy would never.
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I would not.
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Would you not?
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No.
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Never.
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I might say, hey, how are you?
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We have thankfully we had an FCA event in Tampa like coming up, and he was the speaker.
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I was actually not gonna be there, but I was like, that's what I'm gonna say, hey, thanks for coming to our breakfast.
00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:35.519
Like, I actually won't be there, but um, speaking of Tampa, that's where I won.
00:20:35.680 --> 00:20:50.319
Probably the coolest thing that I can remember winning on the radio was Bush Garden Tickets, which if you're not from but we moved to Mississippi College to serve an FCA, so I had to give them away to somebody, but that's probably that would be like, have you been before?
00:20:50.480 --> 00:20:51.759
It's like a six flags, right?
00:20:51.839 --> 00:20:52.880
Yeah, it's a long time ago.
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But also, maybe like they have animals like a zoo, maybe not a full-blown zoo, but like I think it's kind of a combo.
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I was so pumped.
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I was like, yes, and then I was like, no.
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But I we used to do that growing up, like me and my sisters, we'd be like, let's just keep calling.
00:21:07.759 --> 00:21:10.960
So I've won, I think I've won some other things, but it's it's been a minute.
00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:15.359
Um, okay, so we want to kind of make this a Ask Uncle Brad segment.
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Um, and then we might chime in, Brandy, and just see.
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I hope so.
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What we think before I I went back, it's 8 to 10 a.m.
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for that garden mama on Saturday.
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That's a long time.
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But I need to call with all your horticulture.
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Yeah, I need to start listening so that like I'll just remember for next year because all my experiment in the backyard is pretty much done now.
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It's been so hot all through September.
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Eli I mentioned he's got to do a science fair project, and we did not even talk about this, but he came home and his like three or four ideas are a variation of soul testing.
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And I was like, perfect, because I need to know this very much.
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And your dad can help you.
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I know, right?
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And maybe Mississippi State.
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I know that they do like you can send in samples and stuff.
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I don't know if he'll need to do that.
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But hopefully it'll help me because this year was pretty bad for everything died, but it has been hot.
00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:15.759
Okay, so we uh we asked for some questions from some students, and we've got a bag here in front of us that you can't see, but they're there with these questions.
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And I'm gonna pull one uh here in a second.
00:22:18.160 --> 00:22:24.960
But Brad already had a question that he had a good story for, so we want to talk about this question because this might happen.
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And correct me if I'm wrong, but the question basically is if your friend or someone you care about is dating someone you know is not good for them, what do you do?
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What do you say?
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Is this the question?
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That that that that is, I mean, and I think that's a common question.
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I mean we're just from the jump gonna get into it right now.
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Well, so all three of us are around college students a lot, and that that's a common question.
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It's probably one that we saw when we were in that age group too, and it might even see now.
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You know, sometimes um, but um, you know, what should we do?
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What what do we want to do?
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I mean, like, I think we're all kind of nervous about that because you don't want to go up to somebody and say, hey, you are I I know you are just you know love blind right now, you know, for I don't I don't know what the better word would be, but you know, like you know, you are you were just you know fascinated by this person, and so therefore you're not seeing the things that everybody else does.
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But we also want to be careful with that because like that's not my place for I mean, like it might mean that that that that girl is somebody I wouldn't want to date, but that doesn't mean it's not somebody my roommate shouldn't date.
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So there's a careful balance on that.
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But I will give you a personal um story on that.
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Uh and and the names will be changed to protect the innocent, and you know, and I'm pretty sure statute of limitations are all up on all this.
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But yeah, once upon a time, uh I had a couple of roommates, and and one of my roommates was dating a girl and they'd been dating for uh, you know, two, three, four months.
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And um, and and and the other roommate and I were like, man, I I just don't see it.
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You know, I these two are and and I mean we can talk about it in spiritual terms, you know.
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I mean, like unequally yoked, but um, but you know, it's just this is I just don't I I don't I don't know that this is gonna last, this is not gonna be good, and we sure hope that roommate A um, you know, kind of figures this out.
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But we we were quiet about it.
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So y'all didn't ever say anything?
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We did not.
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We and I'm just giving I'm not giving it, um this is not advice.
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I'm just telling what actually happened.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So so uh you know, the two of us, we would talk about it, you know, when it was just the two of us, which is that's not a good good idea.
00:24:34.480 --> 00:24:38.319
Again, not advice, but we would talk about like, man, what is he seeing her and what how's this going?
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And so anyway, our roommate that was dating a girl went out of town one weekend.
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It's like a three-day weekend.
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He lived a couple hours away, and so uh, you know, this is pre-cell phones.
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Again, we're we're gonna beat the theme to death that Brad is old.
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And so um, you know, so over the weekend we started getting calls from the girl to our apartment saying, Hey, we need to speak to, you know, uh her her boyfriend.
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And she, I mean, she wanted, you know, him to call her back, and we're like, Well, he's not here, he's not, he's out of town, he's coming back, you know, whatever.
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And she's like, he's gotta call me as soon as he gets back.
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He's gotta call me, gotta call me.
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So finally he gets back on Sunday afternoon, and we're like, Yeah, you need to call her back.
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And so he goes to his room and and he calls her back, and and uh he comes out a little while later looking just like completely dazed, like he had just been hit right in the forehead.
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And uh and we're like, What's up?
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And he was like, Well, apparently she met someone Friday night, um, and they got engaged Saturday, and we were like and how old, like this was like we were in college.
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I mean we were like 21.
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Oh wow probably.
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That is wild.
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Um, and so um, you know, and and and the every time he looks away, me and my other roommate are looking at each other going, you know, we knew it, we knew it.
00:25:55.839 --> 00:25:58.960
You know, but but also like so here's the deal.
00:25:59.119 --> 00:26:07.519
He he had it, you know, I mean, obviously, like anybody else, brokenhearted for two or three days and felt, you know, rejected and all the all the things, you know.
00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:11.440
Um in the long run, that was a good thing that happened to him.
00:26:11.599 --> 00:26:17.039
I mean, you know that that probably was not a relationship that was built to last anyway.
00:26:17.519 --> 00:26:28.240
So um, you know, I'm I'm not trying to make light of that, but like when we see things, sometimes I mean we we need to we need to speak up and and and speak in life and into other people.
00:26:28.400 --> 00:26:31.039
Now we don't need to say, hey, you need to break up with that girl.
00:26:31.200 --> 00:26:31.680
Right, right, right.
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You need to break up with that girl.
00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:38.559
Um, we need to just like talk it out and say, hey, where do you see y'all's relationship going?
00:26:38.720 --> 00:26:39.599
I mean, what are y'all thinking?
00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:45.359
Well, just the I think that benefit of the doubt in any situation, like, okay, like this person has given this thought.
00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:50.799
They obviously find this person, you know, like that somebody that they could be with.
00:26:50.960 --> 00:27:01.119
So, like, assuming that they have thought through certain things, it's like approaching a conversation like that, like where you put yourself in the situation where you're like, I could be wrong.
00:27:01.279 --> 00:27:13.279
Yeah, like I'm assuming you've thought through certain so like hear me out, you know, and I don't know how you word it, but like that would be the posture I would hope to have to be like to start a conversation that would be hard like that.
00:27:13.359 --> 00:27:35.200
Because I've also seen, and I won't go into detail, but situations where things weren't said to people and then they did get married, and I've witnessed fallout, yeah, because things there wasn't some kind of intervention, or there was, and the person was really resistant, and so sometimes it's unfortunate because it is delicate because you could lose a friendship over it, and that's what's really hard.
00:27:35.440 --> 00:27:50.640
Yeah, that's what I was gonna say because I I mean this was in a movie or TV show, not a movie, but I was watching and that's they were like addressed with it, and they ended up not being friends, but then once the boyfriend and her broke up, she came back and was like, Yeah, you're right.
00:27:50.799 --> 00:27:56.000
I should have seen that that one that's what's hard, is like that it will play out over time, right?
00:27:56.160 --> 00:27:58.240
And you have to trust it was the right thing.
00:27:58.319 --> 00:27:59.599
But I had a follow-up question.
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What can make someone love blind?
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You use that word love blind, like what can infatuation?
00:28:06.079 --> 00:28:06.960
Yeah, yeah, that's it.
00:28:07.119 --> 00:28:07.680
Yeah, yeah.
00:28:07.920 --> 00:28:08.799
Uh I I don't know.
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I mean, like, I mean, what what do you what do you guys think?
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Like, I mean, I'm just trying to think of scenarios, even that maybe I was in, like the the willingness to believe or valued or seen in some way.
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Yeah.
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And so like you're like, no, they really care about me and they want what's best for me.
00:28:26.640 --> 00:28:28.000
Because you could see things.
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:44.480
I mean, I could see guys that I liked, well, say high school, so I mean super, you know, immature age for everybody, but um, I could see how they were treating me, but then I could see how they were still flirty with other people, but then still believe like, oh, but maybe they'll be different from me.
00:28:44.720 --> 00:28:54.880
Yeah, like, and so it's that's like weird because like, no, if they're that willing to be like that in front of you and hiding it, like move on.
00:28:55.279 --> 00:29:00.559
But I mean, it is hard because there's a lot of like emotions and feelings going into all that to sort through.
00:29:00.880 --> 00:29:15.599
And and I mean, uh to be honest, uh, since we're talking to primarily a a college age group, you know, um there's a lot of I mean, like literal chemicals in your body that are really firing off at high levels at that age and in that in that time.
00:29:15.759 --> 00:29:20.079
And so, um, you know, and they are some of the most powerful drugs on earth.
00:29:20.400 --> 00:29:21.920
Yeah, and you sell drugs, so you would know.
00:29:23.200 --> 00:29:23.599
Legal.
00:29:24.559 --> 00:29:25.200
He's like legal.
00:29:25.599 --> 00:29:26.400
How do we get that in?
00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:30.640
That was actually part of Justin's intro of you, something about how he sells drugs.
00:29:30.799 --> 00:29:32.000
But yeah, pharmaceutical drugs.
00:29:32.240 --> 00:29:32.880
Pharmaceuticals.
00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:39.279
But but I have I have worked with uh medications in the past that were dopamine and serotonin and you know, those kind of things.
00:29:39.359 --> 00:29:49.200
And you got that stuff going through your mind and your body, and you are um much more willing to um not see things that are that are problems.
00:29:49.359 --> 00:30:00.559
And and so um, and I think back to where where y'all were saying, you know, like you know, hey, I feel right now, I feel loved, I feel desired, I feel, you know, uh um seen.
00:30:00.799 --> 00:30:00.960
Right.
00:30:01.119 --> 00:30:03.279
You know, you said seen, you know, I feel seen.
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And maybe I haven't felt that way before, or I haven't felt that way in a long time, and I'm desperate for that.
00:30:10.000 --> 00:30:18.960
And this person in front of me just happens to be the one that is giving me those feelings, and so then I'm attaching to them thinking they are the right person.
00:30:19.200 --> 00:30:22.000
I mean, I think that's super helpful because that is the case.
00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:37.039
I remember, I mean, I mentioned high school, I do remember there was this guy that I liked, but like I remember feeling all those, all the things that are changing in you, and like my very logical, practical side that is there, like would be like, this is dumb.
00:30:37.359 --> 00:30:37.759
Move on.
00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:39.440
But then, you know, so it's a lot.
00:30:39.599 --> 00:30:44.960
And I think that having people around you that you can receive truth from and help sort through is helpful.
00:30:45.119 --> 00:30:45.680
Yeah, absolutely.
00:30:45.920 --> 00:30:47.440
Um if you listen, if you listen to it.
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And if you if you surrounded yourself with the right people too.
00:30:50.400 --> 00:31:00.160
I mean, you know, because like if your if your four roommates are also idiots, then they're not gonna give you good advice about getting rid of your your your boyfriend or girlfriend that's also an idiot.
00:31:00.319 --> 00:31:00.400
Right.
00:31:00.559 --> 00:31:01.359
You know, right.
00:31:01.680 --> 00:31:04.559
So um, you know, surround yourself with the right people.
00:31:04.720 --> 00:31:04.880
Right.
00:31:05.680 --> 00:31:13.519
Well, and I think too, like you were saying, if you think about the positive, like, you know, like you have to kind of kind of give everybody benefit of the doubt when you go in.
00:31:13.839 --> 00:31:14.720
Yeah, when you approach.
00:31:14.960 --> 00:31:16.480
Yeah, and that's something I wish I knew.
00:31:16.640 --> 00:31:23.920
If I was speaking to myself in college, I wish I knew that like information, but also how to do that then.
00:31:24.079 --> 00:31:38.640
Cause like it's taken me a long time uh to get to the point where I can even like start there in my thinking, even to approach my kids or another person, like trying to start with assuming they've already thought through like they're they've come to a logical conclusion.
00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:48.880
Because normally that's what happens is it's offensive that someone on the other side like it's offensive to already jump to conclusions because that's insinuating like you haven't really thought through this.
00:31:48.960 --> 00:31:49.839
And maybe they haven't.
00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:53.200
Maybe they are just going on their feelings, but they'll probably be more receptive.
00:31:53.599 --> 00:31:55.519
I feel like that's like just a respect thing.
00:31:55.599 --> 00:32:00.640
Like, I'm gonna respect and honor what you've decided to do, and then let's, you know, maybe.
00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:02.319
But I'm not saying it's gonna go smooth.
00:32:02.400 --> 00:32:06.240
I'm just that's what I hope that I've learned in my old age of 39, Brad.
00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:07.200
Old age.
00:32:08.079 --> 00:32:09.680
Just but only 39 in one day.
00:32:10.000 --> 00:32:10.960
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:32:11.200 --> 00:32:12.079
I know it doesn't count right.
00:32:12.319 --> 00:32:14.160
It's very it's very I'm still 38.
00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:15.200
I'll just yeah.
00:32:15.440 --> 00:32:17.279
Um, okay, so I'm gonna grab a question.
00:32:17.359 --> 00:32:19.599
Or actually, actually, you can hear this bag.
00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:21.119
We really are grabbing from the bag.
00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:22.480
Brandy can grab a question.
00:32:22.720 --> 00:32:26.559
This is gonna be Brad's seen these questions, he just doesn't know what it is.
00:32:26.880 --> 00:32:28.319
Um okay.
00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:34.480
I wanna we might come back to this original one that you pulled, but what's this one that you pulled?
00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:36.640
Is it wise to date as a freshman?
00:32:36.880 --> 00:32:40.240
Okay, that kind of goes along with our topic here by accident.
00:32:40.720 --> 00:32:43.359
Well, you know, not all freshmen are created equal.
00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:44.240
I will I will say that.
00:32:44.480 --> 00:32:49.680
There I mean, like I I know some ninth graders that are more mature than 25-year-olds.
00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:49.839
Right.
00:32:50.079 --> 00:32:53.359
You know, I mean, but that's also not usually the case.
00:32:53.839 --> 00:32:59.920
You know, I mean, we're all we're all developing um and developing rapidly around that stage in life.
00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:21.759
So um I you know, I think the hard thing about dating as a freshman to to me in a college setting, like we'll just say at Mississippi State, um that most of these people are coming from, most of these students are coming from a school where m whatever, there were a hundred people in their class, maybe twenty-five, maybe, maybe four hundred, but but you know, there were some smaller number.
00:33:21.920 --> 00:33:25.200
And then all of a sudden, they're the pond has gotten bigger.
00:33:25.519 --> 00:33:26.960
The pond got way bigger.
00:33:27.440 --> 00:33:33.839
I mean, all of a sudden, there's 25,000 people out there, and 12,000 of them are the ones that I'm interested in.
00:33:34.000 --> 00:33:41.920
You know, I mean, like, you know, and and that's and that is a whole different thing for for for dating.
00:33:42.079 --> 00:33:46.559
And um, again, that can be overwhelming for for a lot of freshmen.
00:33:47.039 --> 00:33:54.559
And so, um, you know, there is some wisdom in in going very slowly and cautiously into a dating relationship at that time.
00:33:54.640 --> 00:33:55.359
What do you guys think?
00:33:55.680 --> 00:34:16.239
What would you look for maturity-wise in anyone that you could date, but especially if they're like that's what came to mind with this question is like because there's a vast difference in like who the person is coming in, like I feel like there would be markers maturity, like what are they already doing that can demonstrate they could potentially be mature in a relationship.
00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:19.920
Yeah, you know, yeah, like I think even how they handle their time.
00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:22.159
Are they like going to class?
00:34:22.320 --> 00:34:23.440
Are they on top of stuff?
00:34:23.599 --> 00:34:34.159
Like just that alone would be a huge like I'd be like, okay, maybe I mean, obviously a good person, but I would have to observe some things I think about their life.
00:34:34.639 --> 00:34:36.079
Whether they're a freshman or not.
00:34:36.320 --> 00:34:38.719
Like, you know, what are those things that you would like observe?
00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:44.719
I wouldn't put it to an age because if you're dating to Mary, you just need to have boundaries set and then go from there.
00:34:44.880 --> 00:34:53.840
Like, because like you said, people are mature at different points, and just because they're that way at 18 doesn't mean they're gonna stay that way.
00:34:53.920 --> 00:34:56.960
Because goodness, I matured a whole lot from 18 to 25.
00:34:57.119 --> 00:34:57.280
Yeah.
00:34:58.159 --> 00:34:58.639
Absolutely.
00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:01.760
So the um I was actually a freshman who dated.
00:35:01.920 --> 00:35:04.800
So that's really funny that this question at the end of my freshman year.
00:35:04.960 --> 00:35:09.679
Lee Parker said yesterday, Mom, or maybe two days ago, Mom, you were 19 when you and dad started dating.
00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:10.480
And I was like, Yeah.
00:35:10.639 --> 00:35:12.000
She's like, Oh god, I got two years.
00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:13.280
I was like, No, you don't.
00:35:13.519 --> 00:35:14.719
You're not on my time frame.
00:35:14.880 --> 00:35:15.360
You're not.
00:35:15.599 --> 00:35:22.239
So I was I was a grade ahead, not for any special reason other than I mean, I don't even know.
00:35:22.400 --> 00:35:28.559
Like my parents held my younger sister back for her like size, her physical size, and she had a July birthday.
00:35:28.800 --> 00:35:29.840
Mine's September.
00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:36.880
So just how things panned out, where we were going to school, a variety of factors, I just ended up like in the I should have been in the grade below me.
00:35:36.960 --> 00:35:40.400
But anyway, so I'm coming into Mississippi State, 10 hours from home, 17.
00:35:40.719 --> 00:35:41.840
Turning same.
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:42.880
So I was October.
00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:43.679
So same thing.
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:44.239
Yeah, okay.
00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:45.519
Brad, look, we got something coming.
00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:49.519
So I turned 18 at the end of September, my freshman year.
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:51.679
And you were 12 days later.
00:35:51.840 --> 00:35:52.000
Yeah.
00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:52.239
Right.
00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:57.519
Um, whenever that so uh so I met Justin that fall.
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:03.360
I actually crushed on his friend first, but then met Justin anyways, and that changed things for me.
00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:05.199
It's a very brief story.
00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:06.880
We've told some of it on the podcast.
00:36:07.199 --> 00:36:09.760
And then um in the spring we started dating.
00:36:09.840 --> 00:36:12.079
So I was like pretty fresh, 18.
00:36:12.320 --> 00:36:18.960
Um, and I had never I definitely had like crushed, you know, had crushes on guys, like light guys, but I was not allowed to date in high school.
00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:22.159
Um so Justin was my first like boyfriend.
00:36:22.400 --> 00:36:32.320
Um so I don't know, like just thinking about like if he had some kind of rule that he couldn't date a freshman, then I mean I guess we would have just been friends and like waited.
00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:38.400
But I think it's I mean, thankfully he saw enough about me, but I'm trying to think, like if he was here, I'd ask him.
00:36:38.480 --> 00:36:49.360
But I mean, I, you know, I came to FCA, like there were things I would guess about my life he could see that I valued and were a priority, uh, that he valued and were a priority to him.
00:36:49.599 --> 00:36:53.599
So the age wasn't really like a big, you know, factor, maybe.
00:36:53.840 --> 00:37:01.360
Yeah, I would I I mean, and obviously that is one that 20 years later we would say that was a good decision, you know, that you two started dating.
00:37:01.760 --> 00:37:16.880
Um I think that the key is not focusing on the superficial, yeah, you know, I mean, at that point, because um, you know, 19, 18, even 22, whatever, I mean, you you are definitely at the prime of your life, you know.
00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:24.480
I mean, physically you are, and energy, and just and you're trying to impress each other and all these little things, you know.
00:37:24.559 --> 00:37:32.800
I mean, so um, you know, I looking for more depth and looking for I I love what you're saying, like, hey, how are they handling the rest of their life?
00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:33.760
Are they going to class?
00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:35.760
Are they um staying on top of things?
00:37:35.840 --> 00:37:37.679
You know, is this somebody that pays their rent?
00:37:37.840 --> 00:37:40.559
Is this somebody that cleans up their you know, apartment?
00:37:40.639 --> 00:37:42.719
You know, I mean, that you know what are their friends like?
00:37:42.880 --> 00:37:43.920
What are their friends like?
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:44.719
Yeah.
00:37:45.039 --> 00:37:50.559
Um, you know, also like with going to church or different things, like are they doing that without you?
00:37:50.719 --> 00:38:00.480
Like, do they, you know, because a lot of people will date and be like, uh, I mean, they're fun to be around, and then they're like, but they weren't already doing some habits before they got interested.
00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:04.880
And it's like all of a sudden they're the straight and narrow because they're interested in you.
00:38:04.960 --> 00:38:06.800
Like I would think that's kind of a red flag.
00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:07.679
Like, absolutely.
00:38:08.000 --> 00:38:13.360
Um, so, anyways, but yeah, maybe not confined to an age, but maybe some things to look for.
00:38:13.599 --> 00:38:16.079
Okay, so this is a we'll end on this question.
00:38:16.239 --> 00:38:20.880
Um, but because I don't really know how to answer this question, so I want to know how Brad would answer it.
00:38:21.039 --> 00:38:26.079
So this is not relationship, um, you know, a relationship question, but is Camario Taylor the truth?
00:38:26.320 --> 00:38:28.000
Is Camario Taylor the truth?
00:38:28.159 --> 00:38:29.840
So this is one of the questions we got.
00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:34.880
Um Camario Taylor is a really good football player.
00:38:35.360 --> 00:38:36.960
What does the truth mean in this statement?
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:44.000
Yeah, yeah, uh there's you know, there are different levels of the truth, and I'm not gonna uh uh uh you know put him at the top level of the truth.
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:47.199
I think we'll talk about that in a little while, you know, maybe with this podcast.
00:38:47.440 --> 00:38:58.400
But but um as the person that is listening to this right now, I'm sure, that has been to more Mississippi State games than anybody else, that is a fantastic football player.
00:38:58.639 --> 00:39:12.239
Camario, uh, I've never I've never met him, hadn't talked to him, but um, it seems like he's doing really well um physically, uh mentally, you know, he's handling everything, and um and so th he is definitely making a turn.
00:39:12.320 --> 00:39:13.760
And and the whole team is making a turn.
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:15.679
You know, I don't want to put it all on one now.
00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:19.119
One thing I would say is for all of us, caution.
00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:25.199
Um, we are culturally of of the time where it's like everybody is either the best thing ever or the worst thing ever.
00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:26.480
That there's only two speeds.
00:39:26.880 --> 00:39:27.840
Yeah, there's not a middle.
00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:29.199
There's there's not a middle.
00:39:29.360 --> 00:39:40.639
And so um, you know, someday, one day, you know, and we and and and we're certainly not hoping for it, but I mean, you know, Kamari's gonna have a bad time, a bad half, a bad pass, a bad game, whatever.
00:39:40.880 --> 00:39:43.920
And that all of a sudden doesn't make him the worst ever.
00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:46.000
And and we've got to we've got to be careful on that.
00:39:46.079 --> 00:39:48.559
But I think he's doing fantastic, and I'm a fan.
00:39:48.880 --> 00:39:50.639
I'm gonna be Darius in this moment.
00:39:50.719 --> 00:39:53.679
He's always talking about how he's asking questions for the people.
00:39:54.800 --> 00:39:58.400
So I'm asking questions maybe for people that are older, I don't know.
00:39:58.480 --> 00:40:01.440
But to use the phrase the truth, what does that mean?
00:40:01.679 --> 00:40:02.880
The best, the the guy.
00:40:03.599 --> 00:40:04.559
I mean it's the real deal.
00:40:04.639 --> 00:40:07.599
This is not just a flash in the pan, this is something for real.
00:40:07.760 --> 00:40:12.239
So and that probably this question probably came from like on college game day.
00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:20.639
Like they were, I think it was Nick Saban that was like either him or um, I can't think of the other guy's name that played at Michigan that's on the panel.
00:40:21.199 --> 00:40:27.440
Yes, yes, anyways, um, that they were like he's the the truth and uh something else.
00:40:27.599 --> 00:40:36.639
Anyways, I feel like they originated this like phrase, so or maybe it was a phrase already and they just borrowed it, but Nick Saban was the one that like definitely said something about him.
00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:45.280
And fun fact, I I mean, I heard from a pretty solid source that Camario does not really like the whole Super Mario theme.
00:40:45.360 --> 00:40:50.960
Yeah because at the last football game, I was like surprised we don't have more signs or things like that.
00:40:51.119 --> 00:40:52.559
I heard he's more of a Batman guy.
00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:53.039
He is.
00:40:53.119 --> 00:40:55.679
He the he was I saw him questioned after a game.
00:40:55.760 --> 00:41:02.239
One of the post-game, you know, reporters was like, uh, so they're calling you Super Camario, and he's like, No, that's not me, I'm Batman.
00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:11.280
You know, I mean, and so um, but it it's it's just such an easy, you know, back to the the mascots, it's such an easy tie-in, you know, to get to go with the Super Mario.
00:41:11.440 --> 00:41:17.599
But but uh but for if he wants to be called Batman, if we keep winning, be Matt Batman.
00:41:17.760 --> 00:41:25.199
Well, I just wanted to like get creative before we have another home game that we can come to and with our kids because I was so um impressed with Fluff.
00:41:25.360 --> 00:41:28.880
Like, I'm like, dude, this guy, talk about he's also the truth.
00:41:29.039 --> 00:41:32.719
I'm like, this dude carried tons of Missouri players.
00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:35.599
He's like, I was like, this is unbelievable.
00:41:35.679 --> 00:41:39.679
He got kind of injured, hurt, whatever, went off the field, came back doing incredible stuff.
00:41:39.760 --> 00:41:46.159
So I was like, I feel like there's more than just them two, obviously, like that are just dynamic, but they were incredible.
00:41:46.239 --> 00:41:48.639
And so I was like, I need to come up with something for a sign.
00:41:48.719 --> 00:41:53.199
So I was glad that I got some feedback before I went and did something crazy with this Mario thing.
00:41:54.320 --> 00:42:00.559
Well, to me, I think like with him and a lot of them, but him, I don't know him.
00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:07.599
He knows our family because of Brett and playing against him, and he's really good with my kids, but is he's himself.
00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:09.920
Yeah, like I love that he's so genuine.
00:42:10.079 --> 00:42:25.840
Um, he came, him and Fluff came to Charlie Kate's class because they're doing stats on the team, and they all chose a player, and um they came outside and talked to all the players and signed cowbells, but he he doesn't know where we live, but he knows, like he knows who we are.
00:42:25.920 --> 00:42:27.599
He's like, You really want me to sign this?
00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:28.639
I can just come to your house.
00:42:28.800 --> 00:42:38.800
Like, and for him to say that to her in front of everybody, I was like, he just really doesn't change who he is, no matter like if he's at the fields, he'll throw the football with Brett Daniel, Brett Daniel will jump on his back.
00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:39.840
He just is himself.
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:41.440
Like, even in the interviews, you can see it.
00:42:41.920 --> 00:42:46.800
And that's probably gonna give him more value than anything else that he can do with his legs or his arm, you know.
00:42:46.880 --> 00:43:01.119
I mean, is just being who he is on that, and and man, that is a hard position to be in as a 19-year-old because of all those things that we were talking about earlier, you know, that the you know, what's going in your brain and the dopamine and the serotonin and all you know, all that stuff.
00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:03.360
I mean, that stuff's pumping for these guys to stay.
00:43:04.480 --> 00:43:06.400
To stay grounded is is hard.
00:43:06.480 --> 00:43:10.079
And so uh, you know, I'm I'm hopeful that he can continue to do that.
00:43:10.400 --> 00:43:11.199
Shout out to his parents.
00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:12.239
Absolutely.
00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:18.239
Like, there's just that's evidence of some parenting right there, and I'm sure some good coaches and teachers in his life.
00:43:18.639 --> 00:43:20.719
Um, okay, Desmond is the one on college game day.
00:43:21.119 --> 00:43:21.440
I'm sorry.
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:22.880
I just remembered that.
00:43:23.119 --> 00:43:27.280
And then also, like you mentioned this, and I'll just mention this real quick before we transition to the next part.
00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:34.079
But um, so Justin and I had a chance to go see Nate Bargetsey at Mississippi Christian, former Mississippi College.
00:43:34.159 --> 00:43:38.320
It's very hard to call it something different, but we served there, yeah, MC.
00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:41.280
We served there from 2010 to 2016 with FCA.
00:43:41.360 --> 00:43:45.039
And so we got to be at that event, which was really awesome to be part of.
00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:59.119
But something that kind of goes along with what you were saying with Camario that just stood out to me that Nate said, because he did some stand up and then he had a QA when you don't always get to hear from him like that, you know, like normally he's got several acts and then he does his thing and that's the show.
00:43:59.360 --> 00:44:02.320
Um And then I followed his podcast and stuff.
00:44:02.400 --> 00:44:08.000
So I've heard some background stuff, but to hear him in that environment, in a Christian environment, it was just different.
00:44:08.639 --> 00:44:15.760
So he was talking about how he tries to like look at the success, because everybody asked him about that.
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:16.480
Like, what is it?
00:44:16.559 --> 00:44:19.039
You know, how do you do this with this much success and stuff?
00:44:19.119 --> 00:44:22.559
And he was like, I just really try to make it about serving other people.
00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:31.920
Like, make it about like 20 years from the time he thought, I want to be in Bridgestone, which is the huge arena in Nashville, to the time that he got there.
00:44:32.159 --> 00:44:34.159
He was like, I want this night.
00:44:34.320 --> 00:44:39.920
Like, I think you would think when he first had that thought, like he was thinking about what his goals and dreams were.
00:44:40.000 --> 00:44:43.599
But when it got to that night, he was like, This is about my friend who's excited for me.
00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:44.639
This about my family member.
00:44:44.800 --> 00:44:48.079
So making it more of like, it's not just me.
00:44:48.400 --> 00:44:55.440
And he was saying when you live from that place, a lot of the pressure is off because you're not making it about like yourself.
00:44:55.679 --> 00:44:57.760
So I and then he also said, be yourself.
00:44:57.920 --> 00:44:59.519
So kind of what you were saying with Camario.
00:44:59.760 --> 00:45:03.679
It's like when you know who you are, I'm not saying that it's still easy.
00:45:03.840 --> 00:45:04.000
Right.
00:45:04.400 --> 00:45:09.840
But I do feel like it kind of feels, at least his interviews and stuff, like it feels in stride.
00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:11.360
It's not anything.
00:45:11.519 --> 00:45:19.199
Um, and even Nate tries to say this without coming across like prideful, but it's kind of I start seeing kind of this theme with people like this.
00:45:19.519 --> 00:45:23.119
They're they're not really so shocked that they're in the place that they are.
00:45:23.360 --> 00:45:23.599
Yeah.
00:45:23.760 --> 00:45:27.440
It's like I expected to be here, like this is what I've always wanted to do.
00:45:27.599 --> 00:45:28.960
And so I don't know.
00:45:29.039 --> 00:45:33.119
Like it's it's kind of like David in the field in the Bible, like and he kills Goliath.
00:45:33.280 --> 00:45:38.000
It's like to other people, this looks massive, and it is, but he's like, I mean, I've been doing this.
00:45:38.480 --> 00:45:38.960
Yeah, yeah.
00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:44.239
So it's not like I mean it's on a bigger stage, but I it's not some big jump for me.
00:45:44.320 --> 00:45:45.840
Yeah, and I expected to be here.
00:45:46.000 --> 00:45:48.159
This is what I've dreamed of and like what I've worked towards.
00:45:48.239 --> 00:45:48.719
So I don't know.
00:45:48.800 --> 00:45:49.360
Does that make sense?
00:45:49.519 --> 00:45:50.320
Yeah, it absolutely does.
00:45:50.480 --> 00:45:54.079
I think that's what's gone a long way for both Nate and for Kamario.
00:45:54.400 --> 00:45:59.039
But I mean, uh and and it's just can you maintain that sense?
00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:04.880
Because that that gets harder and harder every day because more and more people try to try to see you get involved.
00:46:04.960 --> 00:46:08.480
I mean, like, yeah, now like his name's in the hat for all these other things.
00:46:08.639 --> 00:46:11.119
It's like, yeah, on what stage.
00:46:11.199 --> 00:46:14.000
And so um, I'm thankful he's got some really good people around him.
00:46:14.320 --> 00:46:19.760
And then the teammates, like, I just there's other people doing incredible things performance-wise on this team.
00:46:20.320 --> 00:46:29.760
I was even watching um Isaac, like he's battled injury over and over, but like he was so encouraging even when he was out.
00:46:29.840 --> 00:46:34.320
Like, I feel like they all just have like come together and taken a step forward together, right?
00:46:34.480 --> 00:46:39.360
Yeah, but I did think that catch that San Frisco made is that his last name?
00:46:40.000 --> 00:46:42.320
Well, he had a couple San Frisco McGee.
00:46:42.559 --> 00:46:45.280
No, the diving catch was Anthony Evans on the side like that.
00:46:45.599 --> 00:46:49.440
Yeah, so he that catch, I was like, how fun.
00:46:49.760 --> 00:46:56.719
Like, that's the cool thing when somebody's really good at their craft, like Camaro has to be good, yeah, but also this receiver has to be that good.
00:46:56.880 --> 00:46:59.599
But like, how fun when you get to play with people like that.
00:46:59.760 --> 00:47:02.480
Like, that's what I was thinking whenever they're doing these incredible things.
00:47:02.559 --> 00:47:03.599
I'm like, how fun.
00:47:03.760 --> 00:47:05.280
This is like kids in candy shop.
00:47:05.360 --> 00:47:07.679
Like, yeah, what can we possibly do together?
00:47:07.920 --> 00:47:09.440
Um, it's very fun to watch.
00:47:09.599 --> 00:47:14.239
So, okay, well, that was our Uncle Brad segment that we might have to bring back from time to time.
00:47:14.320 --> 00:47:15.119
We have a lot more questions.
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:16.000
You never know.
00:47:16.239 --> 00:47:17.039
You never know.
00:47:17.280 --> 00:47:22.800
No, I'm sure that I'm sure that people will enjoy um hearing some of these very relatable questions.
00:47:22.960 --> 00:47:27.119
Um, but it did remind me just thinking about how we do like to ask questions.
00:47:27.280 --> 00:47:39.679
And I I think uh one of the things even Nate Bargetsi mentioned the other night, he was asked about mentors, and he said it it kind of changes over time, like depending on what stage of life you're in, your mentors will most likely change, or his has.
00:47:39.920 --> 00:47:48.639
Um, but he kind of alluded, he didn't say it super clear, but he kind of alluded to like at a certain point though, sometimes those people can't answer your questions.
00:47:48.800 --> 00:47:52.079
Or like for him, he's kind of in a space, he's almost one of one now.
00:47:52.159 --> 00:47:57.679
Like, yes, there's great people that have come before him, but they're not doing the same type of comedy in the same type of space.
00:47:57.840 --> 00:48:03.199
So, like he's kind of, you know, so he was basically saying, you have to ask God.
00:48:03.679 --> 00:48:05.280
You have to go to him for help.
00:48:05.440 --> 00:48:08.400
Like people can only know or take you so far.
00:48:08.880 --> 00:48:15.360
Um, and I'm kind of filling in the words that, you know, he didn't use those exact words, but like I think that's what his point was.
00:48:15.440 --> 00:48:22.400
And so we're talking about scripture and what matters, and that our engagement with reading scripture um matters.
00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:29.760
And some people have grown up in, you know, uh persuasions or denominations where scripture was read to you.
00:48:29.920 --> 00:48:36.239
You didn't necessarily maybe interact with the Bible, and then you have other places where they encourage own personal study.
00:48:36.480 --> 00:48:50.559
And that's a whole church history question, too, because like Martin Luther 95 Thesis, like there's a lot of things that have happened to kind of decentralize this holding of the scripture in a sacred place where only certain people could read it.
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:52.719
To now we have Bibles.
00:48:53.039 --> 00:48:56.000
I mean, we have so many Bibles in this office that we're sitting in.
00:48:56.079 --> 00:48:57.679
There's a ton of different versions.
00:48:57.840 --> 00:49:00.719
Like I'm making it accessible on your phone, yeah.
00:49:01.360 --> 00:49:02.320
Which is every translation.
00:49:02.800 --> 00:49:08.480
Crazy because I used to be so like, ah, you know, you gotta have, and now I'm like, uh, that's most of the time how I read.
00:49:08.719 --> 00:49:18.079
Um, but anyways, I just wanted to say for scripture, I've been doing this where I just like put the topic in um Bible hub and read a little bit about it.
00:49:18.239 --> 00:49:23.280
So the scripture, the term scripture refers to sacred writings of Christianity contained in the Bible.
00:49:23.360 --> 00:49:27.119
The word itself is derived from Latin, um, meaning a writing.
00:49:27.280 --> 00:49:36.079
And so um in the Christian faith, scripture is considered the divinely inspired word of God serving as the ultimate authority for doctrine, reproof, correction, and instruction.
00:49:36.159 --> 00:49:38.239
That's 2 Timothy 3, 16.
00:49:38.559 --> 00:49:39.840
Um, it's very cool.
00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:54.159
There's some, I'm not gonna probably link them in the show notes because there's so many different videos you could watch on Bible Project, but they do pretty deep dive of how the scriptures were assembled into the Bible that we hold now, and also how the Hebrew Bible was read.
00:49:54.239 --> 00:50:02.079
So that's a breadcrumb trail you can follow if you go to Bible Project, their website or their app, and you can just type in Bible, scriptures, whatever.
00:50:02.239 --> 00:50:07.119
Um, but essentially all these things were all these writings and books were separate.
00:50:07.280 --> 00:50:11.760
They weren't all they weren't woven together as one book, like we know it.
00:50:11.920 --> 00:50:20.400
That was not their original form, but they were people divinely inspired to write them, and then they were like scrolls essentially, and then assembled.
00:50:20.559 --> 00:50:30.559
Um, so lots of people making lots of decisions, um, but believed that divinely inspired by the Holy Spirit to bring all this stuff together.
00:50:31.039 --> 00:50:36.880
So, anyway, I'll link the my notes in the show notes if people want to kind of see uh more about that.
00:50:36.960 --> 00:50:49.360
But Brandy, you're gonna talk about the importance or you would have, by the time this comes out, the importance of scripture of reading, why we go to the Bible for answers, um, you know, who scripture tells us we are, things like that.
00:50:49.440 --> 00:50:55.039
So do you want to kind of give a brief like recap of what you would have talked about?
00:50:55.360 --> 00:50:56.000
Yeah, sure.
00:50:56.159 --> 00:51:03.760
Um, well, I think to me, and I don't know if I'll say this or not, but Bible reading is so important because it truly transformed me.
00:51:03.840 --> 00:51:12.639
I know that I was saved at a younger age, but I pretty much just I read when I was in church, or I might have read as like a checklist thing.
00:51:12.800 --> 00:51:20.159
Even when I was older, um, probably my first year into marriage, second year into marriage, I was still just reading because that's what we were supposed to do.
00:51:20.400 --> 00:51:31.440
And so um actually our preacher at our church challenged us to do a Bible reading plan, and we all did it together, and on Wednesday nights we just kind of had open discussion.
00:51:31.599 --> 00:51:34.800
He would start us off, and then we all would read.
00:51:34.880 --> 00:51:38.400
Um, I mean, we'd all kind of just say like what we got from the reading that week.
00:51:38.639 --> 00:51:43.039
And um, it's actually the foundations thing that I still do to the day.
00:51:43.199 --> 00:51:52.320
Um, it's really cool just because I started putting stuff together, or like the Lord would highlight something in scripture, and I would follow this whole little rabbit trail.
00:51:52.559 --> 00:51:59.760
And um, kind of like I did in the spring, sometimes I just something comes to your mind and you just follow it, like the olive tree and olives.
00:51:59.840 --> 00:52:02.400
I got all into that and obsessed with that.
00:52:02.639 --> 00:52:06.880
But they all have so much meaning that you don't know if you don't dive in.
00:52:07.440 --> 00:52:11.440
Um, and even like knowing their other resources to help you.
00:52:11.599 --> 00:52:34.480
Um, I try not to go first to buy study Bible, but having that as an option or having like um, I don't know, have like an illustrated Bible thing, or there's so many different options that you can pull from, but reading scripture first and letting the Lord speak, but then like checking other things like what was happening in the world at that time, history, what was going on.
00:52:34.719 --> 00:52:44.880
And so when I really started digging in and started even like realizing all the um, there's that really cool picture where you can see like all the prophecies from the old testament being fulfilled in the new.
00:52:44.960 --> 00:52:49.360
Like when I started putting all those connections together, I was like, like, it's truly incredible.
00:52:49.599 --> 00:52:56.400
And to know like that same God is the same guy that talks to us now, that's been like such a powerful thing for me.
00:52:56.559 --> 00:53:03.119
And just knowing like when Jesus died, he knew he was dying for me, then he knew all the things I was gonna do.
00:53:03.199 --> 00:53:10.000
So I just feel like it brought it like so much life, and there was more of like a relationship there, yeah, instead of just come and get this and leave.
00:53:10.159 --> 00:53:29.760
Yeah, I feel like there's definitely a a knowledge transfer, something about knowing things that does give us a security and a comfort, but there's also like a knowing of like the relational intimacy side of that how you engage with scripture is like to you learn, but then also you're being transformed at the same time.
00:53:30.000 --> 00:53:38.400
But I could see where you could be, you could maybe get a lot of either, not like a mix of both, you know, depending on how you grew up and like how you interact with scripture.
00:53:38.480 --> 00:53:48.880
So yeah, and I I was thinking through, especially while Brandy, while you were talking about like kind of your arc of where you started, you know, and and I think that that's the same arc for like all of us.
00:53:49.039 --> 00:54:02.000
You know, it to some extent, you know, you're you're you're being read, you know, if you're if you're fortunate enough, if you're blessed enough to have grown up in a Christian household, you know, which not everyone listening was, but maybe somebody read to you.
00:54:02.159 --> 00:54:20.719
And then maybe you had your your Bible that you read while you were at church or while you were in a Sunday school class, and and then maybe you got to a point where you were, you know, you m you promised your your seventh grade youth minister or whatever you you would read your Bible, you know, seven consecutive days, you know, or whatever.
00:54:20.800 --> 00:54:22.960
I mean, like, you know, I'm just being real, you know.
00:54:23.199 --> 00:54:35.679
And and you did it, and and maybe all you got out of that was checking it off in your little book thing, but but um, but still all those things were part of building you and building who you were and and moving forward.
00:54:35.840 --> 00:54:43.280
Um and and uh and and that that head knowledge started to become heart knowledge, you know, and moving forward.
00:54:43.519 --> 00:54:51.920
Yeah, I remember when we were in college, um actually the Bible reading plan thing, that's what our FCA director, Josh Gilreath, encouraged us to do.
00:54:52.079 --> 00:54:55.199
Um, and being a freshman and being like, I don't know what I'm doing.
00:54:55.440 --> 00:55:27.360
Like, I mean, I had my mom had showed me how to like kind of read and journal kind of thing, but that we had a same setup where it was like we were all kind of in the same reading plan on leadership team, and we would that was our leadership meeting, is like you got you came, you shared what you read and what you were learning in that week, and normally you start seeing like other people, like you would end up leaving encouraged, even though that wasn't necessarily the aim of that, but somebody would inevitably say something that you're like, man, I really needed to hear that this week, you know, and kind of point you in the right direction.
00:55:27.440 --> 00:55:29.519
So that's where that like started for me.
00:55:29.599 --> 00:55:30.400
Were you gonna say something?
00:55:30.559 --> 00:55:40.719
I was just gonna say, I think the main thing from um Monday night is just to know that we don't just go to the word um to know what God said, but to know God.
00:55:41.119 --> 00:55:49.360
I think for the longest time, like, yes, it has very good things that we need to know in it, like answers to questions and what if I'm having a hard time and all that.
00:55:49.679 --> 00:55:55.840
But like I'm going to the word to get God and know more about him and his character and all the other things fall in that.
00:55:56.159 --> 00:55:56.639
I love that.
00:55:56.719 --> 00:56:07.599
And I and I mean, you know, that I don't know if this ties into where we were earlier, you know, asking for advice type stuff, but but I mean, um, you know, who do who do we take advice from?
00:56:07.840 --> 00:56:17.039
And and once we know God and hear his thoughts on what our situation is, that you know, that's obviously the ultimate source of advice and guidance.
00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:22.400
Um, how are we going to know his voice if we haven't been in his word?
00:56:22.800 --> 00:56:25.519
Um, you know, I I got a call a couple of days ago.
00:56:25.679 --> 00:56:28.079
My wife had to call from a different number.
00:56:28.239 --> 00:56:29.760
I mean, it was like a work phone or whatever, right?
00:56:29.920 --> 00:56:31.199
I don't know, her phone was dead or something.
00:56:31.360 --> 00:56:32.800
So I got a call from a random number.
00:56:32.880 --> 00:56:34.559
A lot of times I don't pick those up, but I did.
00:56:34.719 --> 00:56:38.480
And immediately when she said, Hey, it's me, I knew I knew her voice.
00:56:39.039 --> 00:56:39.280
Okay.
00:56:39.519 --> 00:56:53.199
You know, but if it had been somebody that's not one of the hundred people that I'm around regularly, and especially somebody that is the person I'm around the most, my wife, I might not have recognized that voice saying, Hey, it's me.
00:56:53.519 --> 00:56:54.880
Can you go do this thing for me?
00:56:55.039 --> 00:56:56.639
Hey, it's me, will you go do this?
00:56:56.880 --> 00:56:58.960
And uh it it's very much the same with God.
00:56:59.199 --> 00:57:12.480
You know, if you if you don't know his voice, and then you hear, I need to change majors, I need to break up with this person, I need to do whatever, uh whatever the thing is, is that God telling me that, or is that me in my own head telling me that?
00:57:12.719 --> 00:57:12.960
Right.
00:57:13.199 --> 00:57:17.840
And and that's how you're gonna know God's voice is by r you know consistently meeting with him.
00:57:18.159 --> 00:57:18.400
Right.
00:57:18.559 --> 00:57:25.519
That's a great point you said that because that was that's one of the things is um like how do you genuinely know someone intimately?
00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:27.360
You spend consistent time with them.
00:57:27.519 --> 00:57:34.960
And same thing, like you say with your wife, like you showed up over years, years, years every day, like and so you know her.
00:57:35.199 --> 00:57:36.000
Same with the Lord.
00:57:36.159 --> 00:57:44.639
I can't just show up one day and be like, I mean, he's gonna be receptive if you do, but like how I truly know it's him is my consistent discipline over and over.
00:57:45.039 --> 00:57:49.360
And I think sometimes too, you're a lot of times his voice is comes in thought form.
00:57:49.519 --> 00:57:56.559
Like, I mean, I'm sure there have been people that have heard him, like heard an actual voice, but a lot of times it's comes in the sound of your thoughts.
00:57:56.639 --> 00:57:56.880
Yeah.
00:57:57.039 --> 00:58:02.480
So one thing that was super helpful, somebody worded to me, is it like something for him to say?
00:58:02.639 --> 00:58:05.840
So, like Brad, you've been around your wife, how many years have y'all been married?
00:58:06.159 --> 00:58:06.639
29.
00:58:06.880 --> 00:58:09.360
Okay, and then you knew her a couple years before that.
00:58:09.599 --> 00:58:10.000
Yeah, right.
00:58:10.159 --> 00:58:11.119
So 30 plus years.
00:58:11.280 --> 00:58:11.360
Right.
00:58:11.599 --> 00:58:19.599
So if somebody came up to you and said, She said this, and it was like, that doesn't really sound like something she would say.
00:58:19.760 --> 00:58:20.079
Exactly.
00:58:20.239 --> 00:58:25.119
You would already kind of know, like, okay, I I'm gonna have to kind of figure this out.
00:58:25.360 --> 00:58:34.880
And you can the more familiar you are with what scripture says, the more I think you should be able to recognize this is like something he would say versus not.
00:58:34.960 --> 00:58:40.880
To be so I notice a lot of times that comes in forms of when people feel guilt or shame.
00:58:41.199 --> 00:58:46.079
Um, it can sound like something my version of God might say.
00:58:46.159 --> 00:58:57.199
But if you get in scripture and see see that he's close to the brokenhearted, that he's forgiving, that he's caring, then you have that's where you can start being like, well, is that like what he would say?
00:58:57.360 --> 00:58:57.519
Yeah.
00:58:57.760 --> 00:59:04.719
And we are giving presented different versions of like his nature, his character, that that makes it a little tricky sometimes.
00:59:04.880 --> 00:59:09.440
Um, but the more you read and discover for yourself, the more confident you're gonna be.
00:59:09.599 --> 00:59:25.920
If you do have those thoughts that, because a lot of times I would associate God with authority figures I had in my life, because ultimate authority being God, like I would respond in relationship to him like I would in relationship to other adults that I knew.
00:59:26.000 --> 00:59:26.159
Yeah.
00:59:26.400 --> 00:59:33.440
And so if they were demanding or if they were controlling or they, you know, then I would like have this impression that God was the same way.
00:59:33.599 --> 00:59:45.039
So it's taken a long time to like sort through that to get to a place where it's like you can actually hear what he actually is like, things that he would actually say that are consistent with his character.
00:59:45.119 --> 00:59:45.360
Yeah.
00:59:45.519 --> 00:59:47.760
Um, but it's kind of hard to tell the difference sometimes.
00:59:47.840 --> 00:59:48.320
Yeah, for sure.
00:59:48.480 --> 00:59:56.719
Whenever those things feel true, like if I feel like I should be ashamed, then like, and I'm having thoughts, and then I can kind of piece together like he's probably not gonna be happy about that.
00:59:56.960 --> 00:59:58.159
I can be like, yeah, that's God.
00:59:58.239 --> 01:00:01.679
And then I'm I'm gonna probably miss forgiveness and I'm gonna miss the grace in that.
01:00:01.760 --> 01:00:04.800
And so, um, anyway, those are just some things.
01:00:04.880 --> 01:00:06.639
And I also think it can be overwhelming.
01:00:06.719 --> 01:00:09.039
Like the Bible is a really big book, yeah.
01:00:09.519 --> 01:00:12.559
And what the resources we have, crazy.
01:00:12.639 --> 01:00:24.719
So I liked what you said of like something might intrigue you, and you might just start praying about it or like reading some scripture, seeing what you can discover for yourself, yeah, and then you might add some resources later.
01:00:24.800 --> 01:00:33.440
But I always think that's a good place to start, is like what can God show me first before I'm just running to all these other things to tell me what I should think about it.
01:00:33.679 --> 01:00:33.840
Right.
01:00:34.239 --> 01:00:36.159
Because I mean, ultimately that's somebody else.
01:00:36.400 --> 01:00:38.559
You know, that's not God, it's somebody else's thoughts.
01:00:38.960 --> 01:00:47.679
And they're gonna have all their as much as we want to be unbiased about or objective as we come to the word, you have experiences that have shaped you.
01:00:47.760 --> 01:00:52.000
You have parents' origin that has shaped you, you've had church experience that have shaped you.
01:00:52.159 --> 01:00:56.880
So it's very hard as much as I would love to be like, oh yeah, I'm objective about it.
01:00:57.039 --> 01:00:59.039
Like it's very hard to be like 100%.
01:00:59.679 --> 01:01:00.400
Right, that's right.
01:01:00.559 --> 01:01:08.960
And mine is like, whenever I do research, uh mine is more like like what's going on in that time period or what's happening, what happened before to lead to this.
01:01:09.199 --> 01:01:10.000
Give you some context.
01:01:10.159 --> 01:01:18.960
Yes, and that's what that's what I feel like makes helps me understand more like why the author said that and the Lord chose to speak it through them.
01:01:19.119 --> 01:01:19.360
Right.
01:01:19.840 --> 01:01:43.119
And I think that that that's tremendous, and I think that's something we should all work I I know I need to work more toward because um, you know, you pull a verse out of context, you pull uh even a chapter out of context, and and and um and and you end up weaponizing it against yourself or others or or whoever, you know, um, when that's not that that's not maybe not what that was intended for.
01:01:43.199 --> 01:01:44.800
So I mean or justifying.
01:01:45.280 --> 01:01:50.559
Like it is crazy the gymnastics people will do to justify honestly sin.
01:01:51.039 --> 01:01:52.159
That's pretty obvious.
01:01:52.400 --> 01:01:52.800
Yes.
01:01:53.119 --> 01:01:54.400
You laughing at my turn.
01:01:54.960 --> 01:02:02.239
But I was going there, Brad, because in your notes you said something about that, like when you like, oh, I feel this way or whatever.
01:02:02.320 --> 01:02:11.519
That's why scripture was really meant to be read in community so that you could kind of hear the dissection of it or the interpretation or revelation in it.
01:02:11.679 --> 01:02:18.719
And so I do think there's a a great place of personal time, but also in community, yeah, because you can get off on these.
01:02:19.199 --> 01:02:24.079
Well, because it's like I think one of the things that I said was um, what does it mean to me?
01:02:24.239 --> 01:02:26.400
Well, it really doesn't matter what it means to me.
01:02:26.639 --> 01:02:27.840
It's like what does it mean?
01:02:28.000 --> 01:02:28.159
Right.
01:02:28.400 --> 01:02:31.280
You know, that feels like And then maybe how is it speaking to you or encouraging you?
01:02:31.760 --> 01:02:32.000
Yeah, yeah.
01:02:32.079 --> 01:02:32.880
That would be the next step.
01:02:33.039 --> 01:02:37.440
Like, how can I apply this, or what does this mean for me now that I know what it means?
01:02:37.760 --> 01:02:49.360
Which might be the good combo of like knowledge and devotion or formation, like because there is some kind of knowing, but then there's also like the like how am I how is this gonna change how I go out there and live today?
01:02:49.440 --> 01:02:52.320
Yeah, you know, that you need to think through, like the application of it.
01:02:52.400 --> 01:02:53.119
Yeah, for sure.
01:02:53.519 --> 01:03:02.800
Yeah, and I mean I'm I know I'm kind of circling back to one thing, but I I think that that if we're not careful, we will just find what we want to verify what we already believed or what we already wanted.
01:03:02.960 --> 01:03:12.000
Uh you know, I mean the I I use my my Bible app on my phone a lot, and um uh that's primarily where I'm I'm reading.
01:03:12.239 --> 01:03:28.800
So if if I'm going into something, whatever, let's say I'm having um uh you know issues with my my children or whatever, you know, and and I go and I do a search on there for you know verses about children obey your fathers, you know, or whatever, um, or you know, wives, this or whatever.
01:03:28.960 --> 01:03:37.760
I mean, you know, if I go look for that and I go, well, here it is in Colossians 3, you know, this is it says this is what the kids should do, or this is what the wives should do, or whatever.
01:03:37.840 --> 01:03:41.199
And and I don't go up one verse where it says, here's what the husband should do.
01:03:41.280 --> 01:03:48.480
Right, you know, and and and um, you know, that goes back to like looking at like all these pieces fit together.
01:03:48.800 --> 01:03:54.320
I'm I was I think I was convicted of that whenever I always said my favorite verse was Philippians 4 13.
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I think it's a lot of people's favorite verse.
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And I was like, you know, I can do this, like I can win this game, or I can play my best, or I can score the goals because God is in me.
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And that's true.
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But then I read it and I was like, Paul's been shipwrecked, he's been beat, he's been like, that's nothing on what I'm doing.
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Like, there's not him on the free throw line saying I can make his shots.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And so I was like, golly, I've been using that out of context a lot.
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And so I agree with you on that.
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There's other ones probably in the sports world too.
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Like I immediately thought Jeremiah 29, 11, when he said that, which is it is true that God has good plans for you.
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But what if it's not your plans?
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Yeah.
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Oh, I use that verse probably more than any others, but it's usually when somebody has got stuff going on that's not what they would have designed.
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Right.
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Yeah, and that and that's that's where it's that's where to me that verse becomes useful.
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It's like, this I know that this is not how you planned it.
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It doesn't feel good.
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Good.
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Yeah, you know, which is God's in control.
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Which is also there's a lot of like phrases that sometimes are used that sound like scripture, like everything happens for a reason.
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Yeah um is a scripture or not a scripture, but it's like a phrase that's used a lot when people are going through a hard time.
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Well, everything happens for a reason, but it's interesting because you can kind of see where it might have originated from, like Romans 8 28 says, Yeah, for God causes all things to work together for the good of those who are called.
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And I I I'm messing up the last part of that, but anyways, it's just really interesting because some things do sound good, um, but they might not be scripture or it could be taken out of context.
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But um, anyway, so those are some things that um we'll have talked about, and then hopefully with the um, you know, idea of of giving some ideas of how to uh get in scripture to, you know, be able to have confidence that you can read and you might not understand everything, but that you can there can be this teaching, personal teaching that you can take from the Lord and have confidence of that.
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But then also, you know, hopefully encouraging also finding a community where those things can be worked out too, and that there's teaching.
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From a different place where you can hear thoughts.
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I love to, my kind of thing that I realized was like my own personal time with the Lord would often like He would lead me to something, and then I just kind of hold that loosely.
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But then I would go to like church or I would go to FCA or different things like that.
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And then somebody would say something that would uh a very uh Christianese type word would be like bear witness.
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Basically, like it's it's saying the same thing that I had read and understood, even if I didn't understand the whole book of Nehemiah or whatever, you know, there's some leadership truth in there that I've like, okay, I think this is what how I need to like walk or like handle this decision or whatever, and then I would go.
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And so that always kind of helped me.
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And so it's like there's gotta be a place where both things are important.
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It's just like kind of the order.
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Like if I'm always running to other people first, I might not know for sure that's from the Lord.
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But then, like, if I was doing my own personal study and then it was kind of like there was this other testimony of it somewhere else, that would give me a little bit more confidence.
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Yeah, that's what I was gonna say too.
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Um, at our old church, before we started the Bible reading plan, I had already been plugged into a group of women and we were all about the same age, and we would do a Bible study per se, but it would be a book, like one of them was seamless, and it talked about scripture and order, but it was really neat because we studied the Bible on our own, but then on Sundays, kind of like a Sunday school, it was a Sunday night class.
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We would we'd come in and discuss together like what had been revealed, or you know, there might be questions we would answer based on what we read, and that's always really cool just to have that, like you're saying, we can all kind of converse and talk about what we read.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and that's I mean, that's our discipleship groups that we do.
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We'll we'll do that.
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You know, we've got um you know, a study coming up.
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We just ordered books for Titus, I believe, you know, we're gonna be going through here, you know, as our next one, and we're just kind of working through different stuff.
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And hey, you read these these couple of chapters and and and we might text back and forth some during the week, but it at the end of the week, we're gonna go over like yeah, all of that.
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Yeah, and it's very cool.
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There's like I was even saying, whenever, you know, we might not have read exactly the amount, the same amount or something like that, like at that group whenever I was a freshman at Mississippi State, but you would ultimately leave with something.
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And that always fascinated me.
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I was like, I don't understand how this happens.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But uh obviously God is very much in the middle of that.
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And and I've I've I've found, you know, and talking about like when we're talking to friends or mentors or your preacher that's preaching whatever on Sunday, and the time after time, it when I'm really in the word, which is not all the time.
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I mean, you know, there's definitely seasons where that's up or down.
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Um, but when I'm really in the word, that Sunday, the preacher will say something like, Oh my goodness, that was I I that that was Wednesday.
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I I listened to that, or I'll hear a podcast and they were talking about the same thing.
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Or, you know, um at FCA on Monday night, we'll be in the same kind of area.
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And um it always makes me just kind of you know smile and know that God is is looking out for me on that.
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That like Brad needs to hear this, you know, two times, three times, five times.
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Yeah, yeah.
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So it tells us that scripture is alive and active.
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So I was gonna say I wrote down Hebrews 4 12, yeah, because yeah, I was thinking about how that's what it is.
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It's like an a it's alive, you know, and moving.
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One of the things I want to end on, because I thought it was a really good analogy, um, was the whole thing about you eat food every day.
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You might not remember your meals, but I mean I can't tell you what I ate two, three weeks ago, but you can tell by looking at me that I've been I've been full.
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And same thing with scripture.
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Yeah, same thing with scripture.
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I might not be able to tell you the verse I read or the book or the chapter, but I'm the sum of the time that I put in of that.
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So and that does take time.
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Yeah.
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Like it it really takes, and that's why it's kind of hard when you do get in community because oftentimes it's easy to compare.
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Like I've seen that with leaders through the years, is like say someone grew up in a Christian home and they've already been studying God's word for however many years, and then they come into an environment, maybe somebody's kind of a new Christian, and you get them in the same space, and then now you've got things that you could have the person that has been around the word a long time, like be challenged with a little pride.
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Yeah.
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And then you have the one that's not feel like I'm an imposter.
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What am I doing in here?
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And so anyway, those things will like surface, but it's you can't like that's why it's like you really can't compare.
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That's not fair.
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Well, that's even been a battle like with different phases of life.
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Like, I might only have five minutes, but take those five minutes because it's what you have.
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Motherhood.
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Hashtag motherhood for sure.
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I was like, oh Lord, I really want to, but I know they need me.
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Yeah, and also I'm exhausted and I need a nap.
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Um, so just like that is a thing to just watch out for is that it is your own story.
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And hopefully, I mean, my my hope is any community that's here at FCA that we can grow.
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I think that's a maturity thing.
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Like for the people that might have had more experience with these things, is that you've equally not just grown in knowledge but maturity to know how to help someone, but also realize you need to know things from them too.
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Yeah.
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That's right.
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Like there are certain things that they might can see that you cannot see because of your experiences that you can still learn from.
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Your community is so important.
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I mean, what you go back to who your roommates are, who who your friends are, who you're you know, are you in a local church?
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Are you, you know, participating in Bible studies with others that are like you and others that are not like you, you know, to to get that different stories, different perspective, different time of life.
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And uh, you know, I would encourage uh you know, anybody out there that you know, if you're a college student, um don't look at this as a time to be in neutral.
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You know, I mean, th this is a time for you to to move forward.
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And so uh, you know, find a local church, get in the word every day, um, you know, make community with others around you that are gonna hold you accountable and and voice the things that they are hearing directly from God that maybe sp are speaking into your life.
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I mean, I I you know, I I can think of one night at Huddle when Brett was leading, you know, this last year, and I had something going on in my life, um, just a work thing going on right then, and it was not the same as what he had going on, but it was similar.
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And and he was up there and I was like, Man, I needed to hear this from that guy today.
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I'm glad that he was in the word enough to have shared that with me.
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And and it changed what went forward for me in the next week or two.
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You know, so and I don't know if this is a struggle for people, but I know that I've battled this at various times, is that like none of this is like a race to accomplish anything.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And I think that's very, very hard and efficiently.
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Yeah.
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And then you obviously, I mean, whether you're even a student, like you could see somebody else is doing all these internships or all this, like there's so much like angst over all these things.
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Oh, I know.
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It's like I gotta be the best athlete, the best at following Jesus, the best student.
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Like it's just, it can be a lot.
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Um, and so it's just not a race.
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I think the greatest thing is to maintain as best as you can a learning posture, and that will save you a lot of frustration.
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Like, sure.
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And no, not everybody's gonna have that same posture, and so you're gonna come across people that are gonna treat you different ways for what you can, can't do, know, or don't know.
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But um, I if I just keep the posture of I can learn anything from anybody in any space that has helped me tremendously and get out of that, like comparing and where somebody it doesn't really matter, you know, for sure.
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Anyways, any parting shots as we wrap up today?
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No, no parting shots.
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No parting shots.
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Uncle Brad is good.
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Uncle Brad.
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That's great.
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Brandy, we thank you for speaking at the huddle and leading us in this topic.
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