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Don't know really what I'm calling this
one at this moment in time. I
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appreciate that's a really good start to
a podcast, but it's about aligning your
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motivations, I guess, with the
belief that you can actually make it happen,
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and they have to be aligned.
I was reading this article earlier in
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the week about to give yourself the
best chance of you know, achieving your
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big goals, then you need to
clearly visualize the end result and how that
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makes you feel when all this type
of thing, and I then read something
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else later on in the week that
actually said, no, that's a little
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rubbish, because because what you should
be doing is focusing on the specific action.
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Forget the end result and focus on
the steps required in the journey and
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visualize those feelings, and that creates
the motivation to make it happen. And
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they both have their place in the
world. And that's down to what's it
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down to. It's down to how
realistic your dreams and goals and aspirations are.
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And neither is right or wrong.
This is the Confidence and Self Seen
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podcast. By the way, I
appreciate I've just turned on and started recording,
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but these are my thoughts on the
subject. It's thing's been sort of
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going round and round in my head
and I just needed to articulate it,
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I guess. So this is why
both can be true and both may not
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be true. Let's where do I
start here? We go? So number
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one, If your goals are massive, then so let's pretend I mean that
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the average person doesn't know what it's
like to have a million pounds in their
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bank account, right, me included. So let's say that's the goal.
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It'storying a million pounds. If you
just start closing your eyes and dreaming of
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what it feels like to have a
million pounds in your bank account, right,
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it's very realistic. The average person
doesn't know how that feels. So
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to be able to create that feeling
and those emotions and that be sort of
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motivational and inspirational and something that then
creates, you know, there's thoughts and
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feelings, create the actions required to
achieve that. It's a long ass because
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people are just like sooner or later
are just going to go, well,
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this ain't happening. So it means
that the true feelings that you have towards
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it, you don't believe it yourself
subconsciously, and therefore the chances are happening
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are quite remote, aren't they.
But you know, we probably all know
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what it feels like to have,
you know, a ten pound note in
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your hand or a ten dollar bill
in your hand, depending on which country
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you're in, etc. Right,
So you can recreate those feelings quite easily
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because you can probably you probably know
how what it feels like. You probably
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can identify the emotions and the feelings
that it would create that you would have
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in your mind if you wanted to
recreate that now, and you could probably
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clearly articulate that to yourself or maybe
to others in a lot of detail,
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And the chances of that therefore happening
are greater because you can get better clarity
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on that thing. Right, And
in both instances, the only difference here
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is the amount that we're we're trying
to visualize or create. You know,
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the concept is exactly the same.
The concept is we are creating money,
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we are visualizing having money, we're
manifesting money where we're visualizing being in a
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place where we have that money.
The only difference is the amount, and
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that's what the saying rules apply to
to anything you're looking to visualize and create
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a lot of people struggle on a
day to day basis with taking action,
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with losing weight, with success in
a relationship. What are you serious about?
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You know, where are you on
this journey and what are you serious
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about doing? Because if you're if
you're visualizing, I don't know, the
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perfect marriage and having a loving family, and yet you're somebody who's not even
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dating, then then you're you're you're
maybe setting your targets too big. Maybe
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what you need to do is just
pull them back in and start thinking about
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do you know what I'm going to
start dating. I'm going to start,
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you know, buying some clothes and
some nice perfume or after shave and just
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get out there and and you know, see what's out there and start dating
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a few people and seeing the types
of personalities I like or dislike. Right,
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that is what you need to be
doing. You need to be pulling
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it back vice versa. If you're
somebody who's in a place where you know
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what, I've been on twenty dates
in in you know, I don't know,
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maybe I've been in twenty relationships in
the last twenty months, and none
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of them seem to be going anywhere. Then maybe you need to start thinking
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a bit further ahead and start thinking
about what's your bigger aims and objectives,
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because maybe you need to now start
thinking about that and ensuring it aligns therefore
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with the actions you take with your
next date, with your next relationship,
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etc. There's et cetera, et
cetera saying that a lot today. So
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this whole yeah, it's just an
interesting concept that I think lots of people
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in the world we live in like
to define that you should not do this
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and you should do this. And
I think what I've concluded from all this
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it's it's horses for courses, isn't
it. Some of these things are right
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for certain people, they're not right
for others, and no one piece of
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advice is right for everyone. And
that's probably the takeaway from this podcast today,
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from this particular episode, is from
a confidence and self esteem point of
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view, the important thing is doing
what's right for you and not you know,
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watching one hundred YouTube videos or TikTok
videos and taking the advice of and
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assuming that that has to be the
way it is because that's the way one
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person who's successful does it. That's
what has to be done for you.
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Because ultimately they are on a different
part of their journey, They're in it
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a different stage. We're all at
different stages. Arguably, the right thing
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to do with all of this is
forget that, start focusing a bit more
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on the immediate where you are,
get clear on that, and then you
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can start setting the goals that you
can buy into that motivate you because you
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can see the reality of them playing
out and you can buy into the fact
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that, yeah, this really could
happen. That is today's Confidence and Self
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Esteem Podcast. Have a fantastic weekend
no matter where you are. Good Bye,
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Don't know really what I'm calling this
one at this moment in time. I
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appreciate that's a really good start to
a podcast, but it's about aligning your
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motivations, I guess, with the
belief that you can actually make it happen,
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and they have to be aligned.
I was reading this article earlier in
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the week about to give yourself the
best chance of you know, achieving your
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big goals, then you need to
clearly visualize the end result and how that
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makes you feel when all this type
of thing, and I then read something
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else later on in the week that
actually said, no, that's a little
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rubbish, because because what you should
be doing is focusing on the specific action.
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Forget the end result and focus on
the steps required in the journey and
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visualize those feelings, and that creates
the motivation to make it happen. And
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they both have their place in the
world. And that's down to what's it
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down to. It's down to how
realistic your dreams and goals and aspirations are.
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And neither is right or wrong.
This is the Confidence and Self Seen
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podcast. By the way, I
appreciate I've just turned on and started recording,
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but these are my thoughts on the
subject. It's thing's been sort of
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going round and round in my head
and I just needed to articulate it,
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I guess. So this is why
both can be true and both may not
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be true. Let's where do I
start here? We go? So number
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one, If your goals are massive, then so let's pretend I mean that
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the average person doesn't know what it's
like to have a million pounds in their
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bank account, right, me included. So let's say that's the goal.
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It'storying a million pounds. If you
just start closing your eyes and dreaming of
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what it feels like to have a
million pounds in your bank account, right,
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it's very realistic. The average person
doesn't know how that feels. So
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to be able to create that feeling
and those emotions and that be sort of
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motivational and inspirational and something that then
creates, you know, there's thoughts and
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feelings, create the actions required to
achieve that. It's a long ass because
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people are just like sooner or later
are just going to go, well,
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this ain't happening. So it means
that the true feelings that you have towards
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it, you don't believe it yourself
subconsciously, and therefore the chances are happening
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are quite remote, aren't they.
But you know, we probably all know
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what it feels like to have,
you know, a ten pound note in
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your hand or a ten dollar bill
in your hand, depending on which country
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you're in, etc. Right,
So you can recreate those feelings quite easily
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because you can probably you probably know
how what it feels like. You probably
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can identify the emotions and the feelings
that it would create that you would have
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in your mind if you wanted to
recreate that now, and you could probably
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clearly articulate that to yourself or maybe
to others in a lot of detail,
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And the chances of that therefore happening
are greater because you can get better clarity
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on that thing. Right, And
in both instances, the only difference here
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is the amount that we're we're trying
to visualize or create. You know,
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the concept is exactly the same.
The concept is we are creating money,
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we are visualizing having money, we're
manifesting money where we're visualizing being in a
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place where we have that money.
The only difference is the amount, and
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that's what the saying rules apply to
to anything you're looking to visualize and create
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a lot of people struggle on a
day to day basis with taking action,
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with losing weight, with success in
a relationship. What are you serious about?
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You know, where are you on
this journey and what are you serious
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about doing? Because if you're if
you're visualizing, I don't know, the
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perfect marriage and having a loving family, and yet you're somebody who's not even
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dating, then then you're you're you're
maybe setting your targets too big. Maybe
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what you need to do is just
pull them back in and start thinking about
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do you know what I'm going to
start dating. I'm going to start,
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you know, buying some clothes and
some nice perfume or after shave and just
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get out there and and you know, see what's out there and start dating
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a few people and seeing the types
of personalities I like or dislike. Right,
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that is what you need to be
doing. You need to be pulling
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it back vice versa. If you're
somebody who's in a place where you know
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what, I've been on twenty dates
in in you know, I don't know,
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maybe I've been in twenty relationships in
the last twenty months, and none
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of them seem to be going anywhere. Then maybe you need to start thinking
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a bit further ahead and start thinking
about what's your bigger aims and objectives,
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because maybe you need to now start
thinking about that and ensuring it aligns therefore
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with the actions you take with your
next date, with your next relationship,
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etc. There's et cetera, et
cetera saying that a lot today. So
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this whole yeah, it's just an
interesting concept that I think lots of people
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in the world we live in like
to define that you should not do this
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and you should do this. And
I think what I've concluded from all this
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it's it's horses for courses, isn't
it. Some of these things are right
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for certain people, they're not right
for others, and no one piece of
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advice is right for everyone. And
that's probably the takeaway from this podcast today,
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from this particular episode, is from
a confidence and self esteem point of
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view, the important thing is doing
what's right for you and not you know,
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watching one hundred YouTube videos or TikTok
videos and taking the advice of and
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assuming that that has to be the
way it is because that's the way one
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person who's successful does it. That's
what has to be done for you.
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Because ultimately they are on a different
part of their journey, They're in it
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a different stage. We're all at
different stages. Arguably, the right thing
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to do with all of this is
forget that, start focusing a bit more
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on the immediate where you are,
get clear on that, and then you
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00:07:45.600 --> 00:07:49.560
can start setting the goals that you
can buy into that motivate you because you
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can see the reality of them playing
out and you can buy into the fact
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that, yeah, this really could
happen. That is today's Confidence and Self
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Esteem Podcast. Have a fantastic weekend
no matter where you are. Good Bye,
