Aug. 17, 2026

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

We're recording this one from the Maidstone in East Hampton, which means we're relaxed, slightly sleep-deprived, and ready to get into it.

The topic: scorekeeping in relationships — what it actually looks like, why it's so easy to fall into, and how defensiveness is basically its evil twin. We get into the detail-oriented partner debate (Erin has thoughts, Abe has counterpoints, neither fully wins), why how you ask for help matters as much as asking for it, and what it actually means to operate as a unit instead of two people keeping tabs.

We also go on a tangent about the algorithm, cancel culture, comment section wars, and why people who curse at old ladies in their cars are the same people saying unhinged things online. It made sense in the moment. Enjoy!

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