Throwback Thursday: The In Between Age ft. Emily Gee

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Welcome to Casually Spiraling with me, Julie Bishop, just a girl in this world trying to make sense of life, dating, money, relationships, identity, culture, you know, all the things.
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I've learned that my thoughts don't always land with the people around me.
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So I'm here to break it all down, talk it out, probably over share, and maybe find some who don't think I'm totally crazy after all.
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Welcome back, everyone.
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Today I am so excited because this is a very special episode.
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Because today we have our first ever guest on casually spiraling.
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She is hot, she's funny, she's successful, she's the baddie of them all.
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It's Emily.
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I love that intro.
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Wow.
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Thank you.
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Of course.
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But like back at you.
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You know, I love you.
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I'm so excited about this.
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Me too.
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I'm so excited.
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I wanted to have guests when I first wanted to do a podcast, and then I just kind of started it, and now you're my first.
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Yay! I'm so excited to be your first.
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I actually uh have a lot of Emilies in my life that whenever I am talking to my non-Emelie friends, they get confused at which Emily I'm talking about, and I have to explain which Emily.
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And the week of your birthday is the same week that my other Emily friend sent me a candle, and so I posted a picture of you, and your your hat was kind of down, so they couldn't see your face.
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So all my friends thought that this was my other Emily, who also has big boobs.
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Your boobs look so good to her birthday, your birthday outfit.
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Oh my god.
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She also has such good boobs, so they thought it was her.
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They're like, Did Emily come from Arizona to give you that candle in person?
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Because I posted both in the same week.
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And I was like, no, no, no, no.
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I'm my LA Emily, I'm my Arizona Emily, I have Emily in Atlanta, all over.
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Wow, I love that.
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Yeah.
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Like the best intro for me ever.
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Yeah.
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I'm just trying to hype you up.
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Yeah, that's what they they always say on these things.
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It's like, I just need you to come with me now and go everywhere with me and say that about me everywhere.
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I would love that job.
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Yeah, it's funny.
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That's like been the case my whole life.
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Like everybody's like, do you go by your like last name, first initial, like last name?
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Like, there's just so many Emily's like born the same year as me.
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So I'm used to that too.
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Yeah.
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Well, you own it, I guess.
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But should we tell them how we met?
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Because so if you guys haven't listened to other episodes of the podcast, which you probably should, because episode two, I talk about making friends as an adult, and I mentioned that I did this little bumble VFFs meetup thing, and that's how we met.
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So I want to hear your thoughts about that.
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And yeah, what did you think when I slid into your bumblebee up DMs and was like, hey, I'm trying to get some girls together.
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Yeah, I mean, um, so much like you, like I moved back out to LA earlier this year, and um just being like later 20s, it's which I'm sure we're gonna talk about, it's so hard to like make new girlfriends and kind of find girls who are looking for the same thing in the city and like different interests and things like that.
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And so I downloaded, yeah, I downloaded Bumble to do just the BFF side of it and hadn't really explored it that much.
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Um, but you know, I think we had matched, and then you reached out with an idea to get like a large group of girls together to do this event.
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And large.
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It was it was large, it was large.
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Not a lot of people joined up.
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If maybe it was a group chat, at least 10, and there were four of us total.
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And yeah, one of them was I made my roommate come with me.
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True, true.
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But I really like the idea.
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I think I texted you, I think we could pull it up, honestly.
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But I think I texted you being like, This is a super fun idea, because I had only done one off connects, like match with a gal, and then we both, you know, plan something, and it's just the two of us.
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But like your idea was so fun to have a large group of girls.
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Well, that was the idea.
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Yeah, have a large group of girls go to an event and like mix and mingle and make friends as a group, or maybe come out with like one friend.
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And I loved the idea.
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So I was like, I'm in.
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Um, plus, it was an event that was like on the street right below my house.
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So I was like, I'm off there.
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Anyway, um, but yeah, I was excited about it.
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That like that was my impression.
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Was I really liked the initiative that you took to like organize the group to do this and like the idea of it?
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Yeah, because I was like, you know what, some people may think I'm weird, but then they're probably not my people.
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If right, you know.
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And I was like, you win some, you lose some.
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I was like, what like I wasn't having success anyway.
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So I'm like, what is there to lose?
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I guess.
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Yeah.
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And yeah, it worked out and it was a fun night.
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I think we popped around, ended up in Jaminson, ends up some house party on Venice.
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Random house party.
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Like, okay, let's walk in.
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Love a random house party in Venice.
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Yeah, yeah.
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We're like, do we take this back alley to get inside of the house?
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And sure enough, yes.
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Like, look, there's an open door.
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I think we just walk in there.
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Walked in.
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And then no alcohol.
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I know.
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So we're like, those guys have white claws, let's go talk to them.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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We're like up on the roof, someone had like a box of white claws, and I think I walked up and I was like, oh my gosh, there's one box here.
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And the guy was like, That's my box so that you guys can have it.
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And we were like, oh, not us being those people.
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Yeah.
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Um, but yeah, it was super fun.
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And I think the night just like kept rolling, and like for me, that felt like a good sign for all of us of like, oh, we're gonna hang out again from here for sure, which we have obviously.
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Here we are.
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Another thing too is like, okay, you can like meet someone and be good, but them then hanging out with you again.
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Sometimes you meet a girl and it's fun, but then getting people to commit to actually seeing each other again is something that I struggle with.
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Not struggle with, but like people get busy and like it's harder to find it working out.
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But fun fact on that day was um, I think we started talking about that day.
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I think you asked me, like, so what made you want to organize this event or whatever?
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And I was telling you that I was just so tired of being a follower, like in so many aspects of my life with my career.
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I was just tired of waiting around for things to happen, making friends.
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I was tired of waiting around for things to happen.
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And I mentioned that day about starting this a podcast.
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Yes, you did.
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Yeah, I didn't do it for months later, but I knew like I had started the process kind of on coming up with ideas and stuff, and it was the first day we met that I mentioned it.
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Yeah, I know, and here we are.
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I know, it's so exciting.
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Yeah, you guys, it was just great.
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Like, we're all sitting around the table and we're sharing all of our ideas about you know what passions we had.
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I think we all kind of shared like it would be so cool to do this, or like it's a dream to do that.
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And you mentioned like doing a podcast, and I was like, life is too short, like you should absolutely try it.
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Like, just start filming it, even if you post nothing.
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I think we had that conversation, and um, and you're doing it.
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And I'm so proud of you, and I'm so happy to be here.
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Dad, you may be the only listeners, but Jesse Wade.
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Shout out, mom and dad.
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Yeah, we love you.
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This is a new Emily for you, right?
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I guess a new Emily because they're tired of trying to keep up.
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Yeah.
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Um okay, so yeah, so I just met you this year, first year in LA.
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So what were you like in high school before I knew you?
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What kind of girl were you?
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I feel like I was always like the athlete.
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I played soccer for 15 years and I played lacrosse for a few years.
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And when I was like very, very young, I was, you know, like performing and doing dances and like organizing little like shows with our friends.
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Oh with your freaking.
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Yeah, all the friends on the street, like at the block parties and stuff.
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And my parents had like the big like shoulder camera, and I would just be like outfit change, outfit change, like new performance every night.
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And um, and then I think there was just a moment where I got into soccer, and um, like my dad started coaching me, and then I played all the way through the end of high school, but um, I feel like I was just going from class to the soccer field and and then going home and watching like The Bachelor and Gossip Girl and waking up and doing it all over again.
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I did the same thing with my friends.
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My mom has a home video of me, and she has like her camcorder.
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And this is when I was really young, and I was like performing in front of the camcorder, and then I would run around, you know how the little screen that you could see?
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I would try, I wanted to see myself, but it's still recording, so I wouldn't be there.
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I'd be like, Where am I?
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Because it's like I'm behind the camera now, and I would be like dancing in front of it and then run behind the camera trying to see myself, and I just didn't get it.
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But I was like, I wanted to see myself on the case.
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That's so cute.
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I did the same thing, yeah.
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But like I would flip my, I think my dad's had like the flip, like the side lens that you can flip and see kind of see yourself.
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Yeah, um, and I would like always do that.
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Yeah, yeah.
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To be like, what do I look like?
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Or I think when I was really young, I would like talk to it uh thinking it was someone else, but it was me.
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Just talking to yourself, but yeah, so I feel like that is a good representation of of me, just kind of the athlete and um yeah, yeah, and now I'm in LA and kind of like re-exploring that artistic side of me when I was younger, of like the kind of performing and things like that.
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I think my my life now like allows me to kind of enjoy like the things that like little Emily loves.
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Yeah, which is so fun.
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So cute.
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I can so see how like you had that in you then and you still have you in you now, which is why I definitely like was like, I need to get Emily on the podcast because she just brings the best energy and like I see that that light in you.
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But uh kind of similar where but I did volleyball, but then high school, like kind of opposite, like you went the soccer route in high school.
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I was like, okay, I'm gonna do theater and like not do volleyball because you can only really do one or the other, at least in my school, because theater rehearsals were every day and volleyball practice was every day, so you kind of choose one or the other.
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Um but yeah.
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Wait, how long did you play volleyball for?
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Only up until high school.
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So fifth grade up until high school.
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Okay, just for fun after that because then I was a theater kid.
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Oh, and now you play for fun too.
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Yeah, now oh, catch me on the beach bottle before it's in Santa Monica.
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Me and the only girl on my team carrying these teams, just kidding.
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Carrying the weight of the team on her back.
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God, my back is broken.
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Broken, broken.
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Yeah, stupid boys.
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I love hearing about your little volleyball adventures.
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They've been they've been a bride.
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Yeah.
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But um Okay.
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You mentioned uh, well, you just turned 27.
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Yeah.
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And I'm 27, and like kind of back on making friends, how we're kind of in this weird in-between age that kind of makes that hard.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It just feels like an interesting time of life because when I first moved out to LA, I was like finishing up college and COVID, and like I think I was maybe 21 and made a bunch of friends out here, like in and around the work I do, but also like through who I lived with.
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And um now being like back out here again with you know, second LA chapter, I I feel like there's so many people in different areas of life.
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Yeah.
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A lot of friends are in very serious relationships, or friends have moved away, or you know, people are just into different things, different parts of their life.
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And so I feel like it's just been hard to navigate like who would have the same interests nowadays and also the same time.
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Yeah.
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And sometimes you have to, you know, look out of your current network for that and make more friends to like build the circle out.
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And yeah, and so that's been, you know, like I think us finding each other around Bumble BFF is a testament to like that you can find someone that way.
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Because I know I've talked to a lot of girls that are like, does that work?
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And oh, how do you find somebody?
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And like Trust me, I went on a few of those Bumble BFF dates before ours.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Did you have any crazy ones?
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Nothing crazy, but it they just felt like dates, like yeah, interview dates that you have with on like with a guy, but it was with a girl, and you're just trying to like be normal and make a friend, but you're what do you do?
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You go out and get a drink that's like normal, and you're sitting across from each other, you're like, So, what are your hobbies?
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And it's like so awkward.
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Where do you live?
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Where are you from?
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Like, what kind of music are you into?
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And it's just like I like I I always came off of them, and my other friends like that don't live here would ask me, like, how'd it go?
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I'd be like, it was fine, like nothing wrong with her, but like, yeah, but it like no, like, how do you I don't know, it didn't feel like making a friend.
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I don't know, felt weird.
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I always came off being like, That was fine, they were nice, but like Yeah.
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Have you seen like this brings up a topic?
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Have you seen like the there's some accounts on there of girls that hey, and like to their credit, they're very transparent up front.
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They're like looking for a friend who like will come along and just take pictures of me.
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No, I had a friend that like went uh actually, it wasn't in the person's profile, but they like it was on Bubble BFF, and she went to go meet this girlfriend, like just how you were just explaining, like you would have no idea, showed up, and like the whole interaction was like this girl was like thinking they were getting together on the pretense of her like taking a photo shoot of her the whole day.
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And my friend was like, Whoa, like I'm here to make a friend, like not be your photographer.
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And I was like, This is kind of like a crazy story of like the bumble like friend side of things.
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You always hear like the crazy ones with dating, but I was like, I've never heard of that.
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Yeah.
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Um, but so like credit to the girls who are up front, yeah.
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Like, this is what I need.
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Like, I don't have anyone to take pictures of me.
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Like, I live in a city where like that's a big thing.
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I need help.
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Like, I I get that.
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I think we should send her a dragon.
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Yeah.
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She knows I can phone up any timer.
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I don't know.
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Maybe there's certain angles that like she needed.
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I don't know.
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I don't pretend to know.
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But like my friend, like, bless her heart, did the whole photo shoot, and like I don't think they ever saw each other again.
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I might have to circle back on on that and get more information, but um I would that made me apprehensive because that was before like I was using Bumble BFF, and I was like, oh my gosh, like what if I end up on that?
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Yeah.
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Um, I don't know, maybe I would just like join in and be like, okay, I I need pictures too.
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I don't know.
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Yeah.
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Is this what we're doing?
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So awkward.
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And I am like, I have people pleaser tendencies, so I would probably go along with it being afraid to be like, uh, and just like walk out or something.
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I don't know.
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But yeah, that's so weird.
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So like tell us what you would do if you were in that situation.
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Leave a comment with what you would do.
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Yeah.
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Um, but yeah, yeah.
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So I haven't had anything like that by any means.
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Um yeah, I don't know.
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Yeah, yeah.
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But I also I have friends who just got married, but friends who are still single, friends, long-term relationships, buying a house together, friends who are like, oh yeah, in a year, we're gonna try and have kids.
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And I'm just like, I we are not in the same place as a life.
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But I love them and we're all still friends.
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But when you're making new friends and you have limited time, it's like you kind of do need to find people who you are interested in the same things because at 27.
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I always say this when I go out, I'm like, where are people our age?
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I swear everyone is 21 years old.
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Yeah, I'm like, do people our age just not go out or earlier or whatever?
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So I'm like, I'm 27 and I still want to go out, but also I go out and it's all 21 year olds.
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So is it like people our age?
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It's either like finding people who are too young who I don't relate to, like me hanging out with 21-year-old.
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I don't know really how that would go.
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I probably like we would have different interests or like maturity levels, but then like people in their 30s, they probably want to stay at home.
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So it's just weird.
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It's weird in your life.
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Yeah, girl, it's weird.
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It's weird when you hit like that after 25 era of like I don't know, me and some of my girlfriends have talked about it too.
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Of like, where do you go?
00:17:16.160 --> 00:17:22.720
I think there's been very few events where like or locations where I've felt like the youngest in the room.
00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:25.279
And I used to feel like that all the time.
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Like when I first moved out here, obviously it was like 21, so that makes sense.
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Yeah.
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Um, but now like it's kind of a treat.
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Like if I walk into a room and I'm like, like one of the youngest people here.
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Yeah.
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Um, I don't know, but yeah, like there was an event that uh we like had last week, I think.
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Um we had like a little masquerade event that was hosted at our house.
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And um, guys, Emily lives with like eight people.
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I also when I found out this about her, I was like, that must be a cool person because not a lot of people can do that.
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And I'm like, oh my god, a new girl over here.
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I think that's such a fun fact.
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It's it's a fun fact.
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Um and that it works out too.
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Good or new.
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It works out.
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Every okay, so this is like a little side note about this topic is I've always lived in a house with like many people.
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I need a front yard, I need a backyard, I need one or the other.
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Like, I just am not an apartment girly.
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Diva.
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Um, she needs she needs a yard.
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Um, no, but she the thing is, is like I just love, I'm a social butterfly.
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And I love always like having energy around the house, always having like a plan or an event or like something to join in on.
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And um, every house I've lived in um, you know, since I since college with roommates has been, gosh, I think almost all of them have been four people or more.
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I lived like four people, then I lived five people, and now I'm now it was just seven, now it's six people.
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Okay.
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And um it just lends a hand to like these awesome events and parties.
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Yeah.
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And I love that.
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I love that.
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Like I just I feel like that lights my soul on fire.
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And uh we love hosting it.
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You've been to some of these things, and it's so fun.
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And we're all so nice and like welcoming people, at least any time I've experienced that.
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Yeah.
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Did they all go to Vegas with you for your birthday?
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Yeah, so uh that's my roommates, yeah.
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My roommates did.
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Um, and yeah, sometimes we open our doors to have like other people host events at our house, and occasionally we'll be allowed to like attend them.
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Um, and one of the events was a masquerade event.
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Yeah.
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And the whole it kind of blends into this topic actually, because the whole premise of the event was like connecting with people in real life.
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And how do you do that?
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Like off apps, and that's been my me and like one of my roommates, and I I feel like you're like the same.
00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:52.480
Yeah.
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I have a lot of friends that are like real meets only, like whether it's a friend or someone you're dating or something like that, like real meets, real life, like let's get off social media, let's get off the apps.
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So I kind of loved it.
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This event was like black tie, it was like all masquerade, everyone was in these super cool masks.
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It felt like the um Hillary Duff, like Cinderella story, like scene where they're like, yes, and it's like no one knows who you are, but it's crazy because like it's still you, yeah.
00:20:17.119 --> 00:20:18.319
But just this part's covered.
00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:20.240
Oh wait, and then that's kind of helpful.
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Like, if you are anxious meeting people in person, you can, you know, there's like a little bit, right?
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There's like an element of that.
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You're aware.
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The lady hosting it um is like starting her own coaching business to like kind of I think it's like help people, maybe it's life coaching or something like that.
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Um, but she told us that the questions you ask, like when you walk around, the whole point is to like walk up to people you don't know, is to ask a question that's more than just like a yes or no, or where are you from?
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Or where what do you do for work?
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Like to get you off these topics.
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So they have to foster like more of a conversation.
00:20:56.559 --> 00:21:01.759
So some of them are that were asked of me were like, what are you most excited for in the new year?
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Um, if you could start like any fast food restaurant that doesn't exist, what would you start?
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Um things like that, right?
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That are like make you think and maybe that you wouldn't ordinarily share with somebody right off the bat.
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So yeah, and and again, if I don't didn't live in that house, I wouldn't have that opportunity.
00:21:20.319 --> 00:21:23.759
So just like yeah, it's just like these crazy things that happen and they're just fun.
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And honestly, need to start like chronicling it.
00:21:26.400 --> 00:21:35.759
And like I feel like a lot of people would be really interested in this because there's not a lot of people, especially our age, that are living in housing situations like this.
00:21:36.400 --> 00:21:42.960
Um so yeah, I think it's fun to like be in the house and offer it to like my my friends to come and enjoy too.
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Yeah, and you guys could chart your own little reality show, I feel like.
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Yeah, I think it's been talked about with previous iterations of the house, like previous people that have lived in it, but no one's executed it yet.
00:21:54.720 --> 00:21:56.480
So one day stay tuned.
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Yeah, it may happen.
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Maybe I'll just head over there with the camera.
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It's organic supported.
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And come be like the eighth roommate and be like, and I'm here.
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Are we shooting?
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Tell me your secrets.
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Are we shooting?
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Did you hear that Emily said this about and just start the job?
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Yeah, probably the producer starting the colored stuff.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Stirring stuff up.
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So since you're like, you know, have this intention of like meeting people in person, did you ever use dating apps?
00:22:22.720 --> 00:22:22.960
Yes.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I did.
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I did.
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I used, I feel like between college and like maybe five years, four years ago, I was using them like pretty regularly.
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I went on a lot of dates that a lot of first dates.
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I went on a lot of first dates.
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I went on a lot of first dates.
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And I'm sure you're a lot to say about this.
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Um, I feel like a lot of people have a lot of stories.
00:22:51.279 --> 00:22:53.279
I think that's what I've heard.
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I've I I went out with some really interesting people, and at a certain point I was just like, you know what?
00:23:00.559 --> 00:23:02.559
I don't think this is for me anymore.
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Like said with love.
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I think that there are so many people that have success.
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Like I one of my friends is getting married that met on the apps, and you know, people are dating that have met through the apps, and that's amazing and wonderful, and everything, but I don't know.
00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:24.559
I I'm the meet people in real life, and in the past four years, like I've kind of kept that mentality.
00:23:24.799 --> 00:23:29.200
Maybe I need to come to that realization because everyone in my life has met on Hinge.
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That's what keeps me coming back.
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Live update from literally right before you came here.
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Oh my gosh.
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I try, I I paid for Hinge trying to make it successful.
00:23:39.759 --> 00:23:41.759
And you want to know what happened today?
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I matched with someone, right?
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Cute whenever.
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First, I have like one match, and it's him.
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He's like, When are you free next week?
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And I'm like, I'm free Sunday, but then I fly out Monday for a week for Christmas, and I'll be back after that.
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He unmatched with me.
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It's the week of Christmas.
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I wasn't free the week of the world.
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No way.
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That's free in the week of Christmas.
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Sorry.
00:24:03.359 --> 00:24:06.319
It feels really crazy because no one's free.
00:24:06.480 --> 00:24:06.559
Yeah.
00:24:06.720 --> 00:24:09.359
Like, and by the way, you're not even gonna be like around.
00:24:09.440 --> 00:24:09.599
Yeah.
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Like they're gonna be busy.
00:24:11.839 --> 00:24:14.559
You're not even gonna be like in town in the same town.
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Yeah, that's how that's how it's going for me.
00:24:17.599 --> 00:24:19.039
So this is my thought.
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Let's Julie's gonna go and do real meets in real life.
00:24:24.559 --> 00:24:25.359
I'm trying.
00:24:25.519 --> 00:24:34.319
Um, which uh, you know, yeah, actually has happened when you know I've we've been out, people have come up and regularly.
00:24:36.480 --> 00:24:36.720
Yeah.
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That's the issue.
00:24:37.920 --> 00:24:39.759
Yeah, you know what type of people that is.
00:24:39.920 --> 00:24:40.160
Yeah.
00:24:40.400 --> 00:25:04.319
The other night we were at Q's, and we know one of the bouncers there since we're regulars because we live down the street from it, and I was talking to him because so in a previous episode of podcast, I like brought up statistics from this past year, and one of them is pretty much saying, like, guys want more relationships, but they're afraid of like being too vulnerable or like saying they want a relationship.
00:25:04.400 --> 00:25:05.359
And I was talking to him about it.
00:25:05.440 --> 00:25:11.519
He's like, All the time, I will overhear a group of guys saying they think a girl is pretty, and they will never go up to anything.
00:25:11.759 --> 00:25:13.359
Yeah, he's like, it happens all the time.
00:25:13.519 --> 00:25:16.160
Guys just don't you guys want to up with this?
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Stop being scared.
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Somebody, someone chime in and let me know because I have a lot of conversations with my sisters and my mom and my friends about this, and we all wonder like what's the issue with coming up?
00:25:29.920 --> 00:25:30.559
What's changed?
00:25:30.640 --> 00:25:32.400
What's just say like one thing.
00:25:32.640 --> 00:25:36.319
I used to get approached all the time, and now I don't, and I'm like what has changed?
00:25:37.039 --> 00:25:37.839
But like, why?
00:25:38.079 --> 00:25:39.599
Just come up, you know what I mean?
00:25:39.759 --> 00:25:40.640
Yeah, I don't know.
00:25:40.880 --> 00:25:42.400
And is chivalry dead?
00:25:42.559 --> 00:25:43.119
It can't be.
00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:46.799
Yeah, it can't be dead, and we're not gonna give up on it.
00:25:47.039 --> 00:25:51.920
At the same rate though, we can as women should feel empowered to walk up as well.
00:25:52.559 --> 00:25:53.599
I've done it once.
00:25:53.839 --> 00:25:54.799
How'd how'd that go?
00:25:55.039 --> 00:25:58.319
He said he was not single, but I was very proud I did it.
00:25:58.559 --> 00:25:59.599
I'm proud of you for doing it.
00:25:59.680 --> 00:26:04.400
Yeah, I feel like it's it is nerve-wracking.
00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:08.880
I think that there's a lot of us who still want chivalry.
00:26:08.960 --> 00:26:09.279
Yeah.
00:26:09.440 --> 00:26:11.119
And I think that's fair to ask for.
00:26:11.279 --> 00:26:11.599
Yeah.
00:26:12.000 --> 00:26:15.920
I'm just saying just come up and say something first and kick it off.
00:26:16.240 --> 00:26:18.000
You know what's a way to not go about it?
00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:20.480
Someone left a note on my car at the gym.
00:26:20.720 --> 00:26:21.279
No way.
00:26:21.519 --> 00:26:23.519
I don't know how he knew what car I had.
00:26:23.680 --> 00:26:25.599
Because I just feels a little creepy.
00:26:25.839 --> 00:26:32.240
Yeah, I was friends with the people at the front desk, so I texted the girl and I was like, hey, can you well first pull the footage up?
00:26:32.400 --> 00:26:32.559
Yeah.
00:26:33.119 --> 00:26:36.160
I was like, pull the parking lot footage up right now.
00:26:36.640 --> 00:26:38.160
Can you look up what person this is?
00:26:38.240 --> 00:26:40.960
Because first I didn't know what person it was, and they but they left their phone number.
00:26:41.039 --> 00:26:42.400
So I'm like, can you look up their phone number?
00:26:42.559 --> 00:26:43.440
Send me a picture of who it is.
00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:48.799
She sent me a picture of who it is, and I'm like, okay, when did they check in and when did they check out?
00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:53.839
So they checked in after I was already there and left before I left.
00:26:54.240 --> 00:26:56.079
So my car was already there parked.
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They couldn't have seen me.
00:26:57.599 --> 00:26:59.119
So they've seen you a previous time.
00:26:59.440 --> 00:27:01.920
I guess so, but like, I don't know.
00:27:02.240 --> 00:27:07.680
So there's a borderline here of creepy as cute and chivalrous.
00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:23.440
Yeah, like maybe just say hi to me in in person at the gym, then there's so many stigmas though, because I feel like a lot of guys have been scared off of like approaching women at the gym because I've seen a lot of videos on social media of like don't approach a woman at the gym.
00:27:24.000 --> 00:27:30.400
So in his defense, maybe he felt like I don't want to be creepy and this is less creepy, but then at the same rate, it's so creepy.
00:27:30.640 --> 00:27:36.640
So there's like a world of like, there's like, yeah, this world of like what do I do then to not be creepy?
00:27:36.720 --> 00:27:37.920
But so I'm gonna tell you now.
00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:40.880
If it was at night, it's like not, it just feels like not a good idea.
00:27:41.039 --> 00:27:43.440
But maybe they like say something in the parking lot.
00:27:43.680 --> 00:27:44.000
Yeah.
00:27:44.160 --> 00:27:45.839
Like so it's not coming up to you mid-set.
00:27:46.400 --> 00:27:48.799
But do they like wait for me?
00:27:49.279 --> 00:27:50.000
That's also true.
00:27:50.240 --> 00:28:01.759
I don't know, because I did once upon a time have somebody follow me out of the gym and approach me in the parking lot at night, and I had my headphones on, like blasting.
00:28:02.000 --> 00:28:02.319
I can't.
00:28:02.720 --> 00:28:17.200
And I literally like couldn't hear anything, and this guy comes up, like, I think I see, because you know, as women, we're like super aware, we're hyper aware, and I feel I don't even look, I just feel like someone in my peripheral, and I'm I like jump.
00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:20.559
I'm like, oh my god, and the guy's like, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry.
00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:27.680
I whatever, what whatever, getting to getting the number, but in my mind, I was like, let's not scare people.
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:29.680
Like, I don't know.
00:28:29.839 --> 00:28:32.640
I don't have a rule book on how to do it.
00:28:33.039 --> 00:28:33.920
Just say hi.
00:28:34.160 --> 00:28:40.400
I don't have a rule book on how to do it, yeah, but I know that there's things that are like that could scare somebody.
00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:44.799
Like you might, if this for you might have had like a safety concern.
00:28:45.119 --> 00:28:50.480
And so I don't I think that there's ways to do it where you're not freaked out, but it's still chivalrous.
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:50.960
Yeah.
00:28:51.200 --> 00:28:56.480
My dad just went up to my mom and asked her to dance at a bar, but that was back in, you know, that's so cute in the old days.
00:28:56.559 --> 00:28:56.799
I know.
00:28:56.880 --> 00:28:59.200
And I'm like, that's super cute.
00:28:59.359 --> 00:29:01.359
My parents were set up on a blind date.
00:29:01.599 --> 00:29:02.720
Oh, yeah.
00:29:03.039 --> 00:29:03.279
Cute.
00:29:03.599 --> 00:29:05.839
And they went to breakfast, and the rest is history.
00:29:06.240 --> 00:29:06.960
Breakfast date.
00:29:07.119 --> 00:29:07.279
Yeah.
00:29:08.640 --> 00:29:09.440
Breakfast day.
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Wholesome.
00:29:10.240 --> 00:29:11.200
That's the word I was looking for.
00:29:11.359 --> 00:29:11.599
Yeah.
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:12.559
Oh, that's right.
00:29:12.720 --> 00:29:14.240
And they're just, you know, still together.
00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:14.799
Yeah.
00:29:15.119 --> 00:29:15.759
Very cute.
00:29:16.000 --> 00:29:16.559
Yeah.
00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:19.519
Well, we had some people send in a few stories.
00:29:19.599 --> 00:29:20.480
Do you want to read fun?
00:29:20.720 --> 00:29:21.200
Do you want to read them?
00:29:21.359 --> 00:29:22.000
Yeah, let's read them.
00:29:22.160 --> 00:29:23.359
Okay, I have three different ones.
00:29:23.519 --> 00:29:26.559
The first one's a hot take, and I'm keeping them anonymous.
00:29:26.799 --> 00:29:42.319
They said, if if you ask someone out on a first date on a weeknight, so Monday through Thursday, not including Friday, and set it at a time between 5 and 7 p.m., then it's expected to be a dinner date and not just meeting up for drinks.
00:29:42.480 --> 00:29:46.079
Who wants to go straight from work to getting a drink on an empty stomach?
00:29:46.319 --> 00:29:47.039
Not me.
00:29:48.480 --> 00:29:48.799
Okay.
00:29:49.359 --> 00:29:50.400
How do you feel about that?
00:29:50.640 --> 00:29:58.319
Because sometimes first dates I feel like are good to just be drinks because then you can you can dip if it's not going well.
00:29:58.640 --> 00:29:59.279
Yeah.
00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:06.319
But I will say I had a first date once that was, I think it was set at like 5 p.m.
00:30:06.480 --> 00:30:07.119
or 6 p.m.
00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:08.319
And I was like, perfect.
00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:09.440
It'll be an hour or two.
00:30:09.519 --> 00:30:10.480
I'll come home and eat dinner.
00:30:10.559 --> 00:30:11.759
So I didn't eat.
00:30:12.079 --> 00:30:14.880
This man talked for hours.
00:30:15.359 --> 00:30:16.079
And hours.
00:30:16.240 --> 00:30:18.000
We were there till midnight.
00:30:18.240 --> 00:30:20.079
And I was starving.
00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:26.559
And I I the first hour or two, yeah, the conversation was fine and he was nice.
00:30:26.720 --> 00:30:31.039
But getting on hour four, I started like, I swear, I was dozing off.
00:30:31.119 --> 00:30:32.799
I didn't say a word, I think the last two hours.
00:30:32.880 --> 00:30:34.480
I think he just talked the whole time.
00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:35.039
Oh no.
00:30:35.279 --> 00:30:36.720
And I was so hungry.
00:30:36.960 --> 00:30:37.440
But I don't know.
00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:38.240
Oh no.
00:30:38.559 --> 00:30:39.440
Do you do dinner dates?
00:30:39.759 --> 00:30:41.039
And by the way, that's reasonable.
00:30:41.359 --> 00:30:41.519
Yeah.
00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:42.880
You're like, I'm starving.
00:30:42.960 --> 00:30:43.119
Yeah.
00:30:43.359 --> 00:30:44.799
I have to, I must get home.
00:30:45.039 --> 00:30:46.079
We're on hour five.
00:30:46.240 --> 00:30:48.799
I must get home and do more than a girl dinner.
00:30:49.279 --> 00:30:49.680
Yeah.
00:30:50.240 --> 00:30:50.880
Well, I don't know.
00:30:50.960 --> 00:31:10.799
My upfront thought is that I think a lot of dates these days are drinks because I think that on both ends, people think that, like you said, like drinks are more, it lends more of a hand of like leaving early if it's not working, or it's just not as much of a commitment, like even financially for either party.
00:31:11.039 --> 00:31:12.880
So I feel like that's why they're suggested a lot.
00:31:12.960 --> 00:31:20.480
And also there's like maybe there's just like more of an energy with I've always felt like there's more of an energy with drinks than a sit-down dinner.
00:31:20.640 --> 00:31:25.359
Like usually if you're going to a bar, it's like a little more loud, a little more lively, which like I appreciate.
00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:34.079
So there's a part of me that's like I would want that because I want like I'm like someone who like feeds off of energy in a room.
00:31:34.160 --> 00:31:40.799
So if I'm in a bar and there's a bunch of energy, like maybe I'll be more because dating is like a date is could be very awkward.
00:31:40.880 --> 00:31:49.279
Like you're meeting someone for the first time and you're expected to kind of be like a hundred percent yourself on display, but you don't know this person.
00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:52.799
So unless it is someone that you've known before, right, right, right.
00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:53.119
Yeah.
00:31:53.359 --> 00:32:03.759
But I feel like there's advantages to it, but for sure, like I'm I'm someone who's lightweight, and like two, three drinks, like I'll be feeling good, I'll be feeling fancy.
00:32:04.079 --> 00:32:07.279
So I concur with like the needing food thing.
00:32:07.519 --> 00:32:09.680
I feel like there's extra planning that goes into it.
00:32:09.759 --> 00:32:17.519
Like before you leave work, you're like having some snacks to that are substantial, and then I don't know.
00:32:17.680 --> 00:32:17.920
Yeah.
00:32:18.079 --> 00:32:20.720
I feel like there's there are a lot of benefits to a drink date.
00:32:20.880 --> 00:32:22.000
Yeah, I feel the same way.
00:32:22.079 --> 00:32:28.480
And I feel like speaking of that, like so much thought I feel like goes into girls for a first date that guys just don't put in.
00:32:28.559 --> 00:32:33.039
It's like, okay, if I'm going straight from work to a date, I need to pack a refresher makeup.
00:32:33.119 --> 00:32:33.920
I need to pack my outfit.
00:32:34.000 --> 00:32:35.200
I'm getting changed in the car.
00:32:35.359 --> 00:32:35.599
Yes.
00:32:35.839 --> 00:32:37.599
My hair had might have been back for work.
00:32:37.680 --> 00:32:41.680
I need to like figure out maybe I need to keep my hair back so I don't have, I don't know, whatever.
00:32:41.759 --> 00:32:43.039
Like, I feel like girls think about that.
00:32:43.119 --> 00:32:44.400
I'm packing my snacks.
00:32:44.559 --> 00:32:44.799
Right.
00:32:45.039 --> 00:32:45.680
This and that.
00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:47.759
And then guys just show up.
00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:50.000
Yeah, there's a lot of steps for us.
00:32:50.319 --> 00:32:55.119
There's a lot of backwards girl math going on of like, so I have to get to the table at five.
00:32:55.200 --> 00:33:01.039
So that means I have to like start driving at 4 30, because anywhere in LA takes like 30 minutes or more.
00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:05.759
And then that means I need to be like ready by four and like eat by 3.45.
00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:15.200
Like, there's so much backing out that like you when you do do the math on it, you're like, wait, but like if I sit down for drinks at five, then I am eating at like 3.30 and it's gonna wear off.
00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:31.759
And so it's like, yeah, I think if it's somebody I know that I've hung out with before, been on a date with before, like, I would like it to be a dinner, but there's a level of comfortability there of like being at a dinner and like doing like a one to two hour upwards commitment, depending on where you dine.
00:33:31.839 --> 00:33:32.000
Yeah.
00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:38.640
Where like a drink could realistically be like if you get there at five, you could technically leave at six and still get home for dinner at a reasonable time.
00:33:38.799 --> 00:33:40.319
So I don't know.
00:33:40.480 --> 00:33:40.720
Yeah.
00:33:40.880 --> 00:33:41.440
I don't know.
00:33:41.599 --> 00:33:42.319
I don't know.
00:33:42.400 --> 00:33:43.119
I don't make the rules.
00:33:43.599 --> 00:33:47.519
I've been in that situation before where like I knew this guy was not for me.
00:33:47.680 --> 00:33:50.559
So when he when the waiter kept asking, like, do you want to order another drink?
00:33:50.640 --> 00:33:56.160
I kept like giving this look to the waiter, like, no, no, like, and he immediately like got it and brought the check.
00:33:56.400 --> 00:33:58.640
He didn't even ask if we wanted the check, he just brought the check down.
00:33:58.880 --> 00:34:00.720
Did you just like I am down like daggers?
00:34:01.200 --> 00:34:03.279
Like wow.
00:34:03.519 --> 00:34:03.920
Yeah.
00:34:04.160 --> 00:34:05.279
So that was handy.
00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:06.240
But more power to you.
00:34:06.400 --> 00:34:06.480
Yeah.
00:34:06.720 --> 00:34:07.279
Know what you want.
00:34:07.359 --> 00:34:08.320
And know when it's time.
00:34:08.400 --> 00:34:08.480
Yeah.
00:34:08.639 --> 00:34:09.599
Know when it's time to call it.
00:34:09.679 --> 00:34:10.719
And it's that's okay.
00:34:10.960 --> 00:34:11.360
Exactly.
00:34:11.519 --> 00:34:12.559
That's okay.
00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:13.280
That's okay.
00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:14.880
This one is meant for everyone.
00:34:15.119 --> 00:34:16.719
Okay, so this is a first date story.
00:34:16.960 --> 00:34:20.719
I went on a date with a guy my grandma found and tried to set me up with.
00:34:20.960 --> 00:34:22.239
He was awful.
00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:23.199
Wait.
00:34:24.400 --> 00:34:25.519
I'm like, wait, that's cute.
00:34:25.679 --> 00:34:26.079
Oh my god.
00:34:26.239 --> 00:34:28.079
Followed by the next sentence, that's like it was awful.
00:34:28.960 --> 00:34:30.960
There's a lot of great steps to this one.
00:34:31.199 --> 00:34:34.320
Okay, so first he pushed the start time back to 8 p.m.
00:34:34.480 --> 00:34:36.079
just a couple hours before.
00:34:36.239 --> 00:34:40.480
When I showed up, he had already ordered a drink, which I thought was a little odd.
00:34:40.719 --> 00:34:44.480
He asked me maybe five questions, but just kept talking about himself.
00:34:44.719 --> 00:34:50.639
We had one drink and then he wanted to walk to a different bar, but wanted to say hi to his client on the way.
00:34:50.800 --> 00:34:55.039
We ended up stopping at a cigar bar with his extremely drunk client.
00:34:55.199 --> 00:34:57.119
I stayed for a few minutes and then just left.
00:34:57.199 --> 00:34:58.719
It was so smoky.
00:34:59.920 --> 00:35:00.400
Whoa.
00:35:00.639 --> 00:35:01.199
It's a lot.
00:35:01.440 --> 00:35:03.440
First off, grandma setting you up.
00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:05.519
Okay, can we just like okay?
00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:08.239
I I need to stop on that on the top line there.
00:35:08.480 --> 00:35:11.280
That is so cute that your grandma set you up.
00:35:11.440 --> 00:35:19.440
Like she was out thinking of this person and was like, I just want to do this thing.
00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:21.519
Maybe saw this guy, thought he was cute.
00:35:21.679 --> 00:35:23.440
Like I would love that.
00:35:23.519 --> 00:35:25.280
Like I know I miss my grandma.
00:35:25.440 --> 00:35:27.039
Like I like I would love that.
00:35:27.360 --> 00:35:28.639
My grandma would have never.
00:35:28.800 --> 00:35:28.960
Yeah.
00:35:29.840 --> 00:35:30.960
My grandma would have not.
00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:31.440
No.
00:35:31.679 --> 00:35:40.800
I feel like my grandma would have, but I but then I love that the second sentence though, it's like this really wholesome thing about like my grandma set me up, followed by and it was awful.
00:35:41.039 --> 00:35:42.079
He did, he was awful.
00:35:42.239 --> 00:35:43.440
And you know what?
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:49.679
Grandma like keep doing it for this person, but it sucks that it was awful.
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:52.000
And also, by the way, the rest of the story is super weird.
00:35:52.239 --> 00:35:52.480
Yeah.
00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:56.079
Like, why are we seeing a client on a date?
00:35:56.400 --> 00:35:57.679
Why is it a cigar bar?
00:35:57.920 --> 00:36:00.559
Are there where even is a local cigar bar?
00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:02.559
Like I can't even think of one.
00:36:02.800 --> 00:36:06.159
I'm not a cigar connoisseur, but I'm like, is that a thing still?
00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:07.199
People I don't know.
00:36:07.360 --> 00:36:09.199
And by the way, people meet their clients there.
00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:10.800
Like, what what kind of job are we talking?
00:36:11.119 --> 00:36:12.960
Yeah, and why on a you're on a date.
00:36:13.119 --> 00:36:16.960
Why would you think to meet a client and get wasted with him?
00:36:17.360 --> 00:36:19.519
What do you think about yeah?
00:36:19.760 --> 00:36:23.280
It says when I showed up, he had already ordered a drink.
00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:25.119
Does that bother you?
00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:26.079
Hmm.
00:36:26.480 --> 00:36:32.400
I need to know like, did he then say let's get a drink together?
00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:36.159
And then or did he like just get his own and was like you get your own?
00:36:36.400 --> 00:36:36.719
Yeah.
00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:39.440
If it's the latter, I'm really put off by it.
00:36:39.519 --> 00:36:45.599
But if he's like, hey, I just kicked it off like while I was waiting for you, but now like let's go get one together, I'm like, great.
00:36:45.760 --> 00:36:46.000
Yeah.
00:36:46.159 --> 00:36:52.159
But if it was like you go get your own, or I don't know, that feels like a little weird.
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:59.039
It feels like a little individualized, like when you're supposed to be coming together over a date, so don't love that part.
00:36:59.119 --> 00:37:01.199
And the rest of it is just like horrible.
00:37:01.360 --> 00:37:02.719
Let's not see this person again.
00:37:02.800 --> 00:37:04.719
Yeah, that's just my thought on the rest of the story.
00:37:04.800 --> 00:37:04.960
Yeah.
00:37:05.119 --> 00:37:06.719
Is like we don't need to see this person.
00:37:06.880 --> 00:37:07.199
Yeah.
00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:07.760
Again.
00:37:08.159 --> 00:37:13.920
Was there any like super crazy first dates that just kept taking turns and turns and turns that you've had?
00:37:14.079 --> 00:37:16.480
I've had so many crazy first dates.
00:37:16.800 --> 00:37:18.800
Shouldn't we just go date for date?
00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:21.039
I have to tell us one.
00:37:21.199 --> 00:37:21.760
I won, yeah.
00:37:21.920 --> 00:37:22.159
Yeah.
00:37:22.719 --> 00:37:23.679
Do you want to kick it off?
00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:24.159
Sure.
00:37:24.320 --> 00:37:25.280
So I show up.
00:37:25.519 --> 00:37:29.039
So okay, so the it was off a hinge or whatever.
00:37:29.280 --> 00:37:33.840
And he was like, Me and my friends all like a group of friends usually play pool at this bar.
00:37:33.920 --> 00:37:35.440
And like that idea could be fun.
00:37:35.519 --> 00:37:37.199
Like a group hang as a first date.
00:37:37.280 --> 00:37:40.719
I feel like you get to know someone, see how they are around their friends, see what their friends are like.
00:37:40.800 --> 00:37:44.480
It kind of can make it less awkward in the right scenario.
00:37:44.880 --> 00:37:45.679
I show up.
00:37:45.920 --> 00:37:47.760
Fine print in the right scenario.
00:37:48.000 --> 00:37:52.000
I show up, and um, his friends are all like 45.
00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:53.119
Oh, no way.
00:37:54.400 --> 00:37:58.800
Which he has a broken hand, and I'm like, oh, what happened there?
00:37:59.280 --> 00:37:59.679
Interesting.
00:37:59.920 --> 00:38:03.920
The night before he had gotten in a bar fight and broke his hand from Hussein.
00:38:04.079 --> 00:38:05.199
He shared that one, yes.
00:38:05.519 --> 00:38:05.760
Wow.
00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:06.480
Yeah.
00:38:07.199 --> 00:38:09.920
Transparency can go really far sometimes.
00:38:10.159 --> 00:38:10.880
Yeah, yeah.
00:38:11.039 --> 00:38:14.480
And then he needed me to drive him home at the end because he didn't have a car.
00:38:14.559 --> 00:38:18.079
And I was like, uh nothing wrong with like that.
00:38:18.320 --> 00:38:19.760
But like this was just going, I don't know.
00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:20.960
Wait, no.
00:38:21.199 --> 00:38:23.199
Like if you're taking and then it was just weird.
00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:24.719
Like it just keeps getting weird.
00:38:25.039 --> 00:38:26.480
45-year-old friends.
00:38:26.639 --> 00:38:28.159
He got in a bar fight.
00:38:28.639 --> 00:38:29.119
Interesting.
00:38:29.360 --> 00:38:30.719
I'm worried about your own safety.
00:38:31.039 --> 00:38:31.199
Yeah.
00:38:31.360 --> 00:38:33.360
And now he's asking me for a favor.
00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:35.280
Like, you could call an Uber, you know.
00:38:35.440 --> 00:38:36.480
Like I drove him home.
00:38:36.559 --> 00:38:40.320
I'm I'm a nice person, but it was just one thing after another.
00:38:40.400 --> 00:38:42.400
I was like, this it's just like this wasn't the vision.
00:38:42.639 --> 00:38:46.639
Can it's like, can it get, can we add something to make it like crazier?
00:38:46.880 --> 00:38:52.000
And then sometimes like it's those things that you're like, in the moment, it's like this is awful.
00:38:52.159 --> 00:38:55.360
And then later you can tell it and it's like this kind of funny.
00:38:55.840 --> 00:39:07.280
Or like you can laugh about it and be like, like, you know, because now you have a crazy story, like for the plot, but in the moment it's like my mom is gonna freak out when I tell her, like, that's always my first thought.
00:39:07.360 --> 00:39:08.320
It's like, I'm gonna call my mom.
00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:10.239
My mom's gonna be like, what is going on?
00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:10.880
That's cute.
00:39:10.960 --> 00:39:13.440
You're telling your mom about your I do, I do.
00:39:13.599 --> 00:39:20.320
My mom is like, she just I have two sisters, there's three of us, and so I feel like there's just so many like girl stories all the time.
00:39:20.639 --> 00:39:23.440
And I think my mom like just left it.
00:39:23.599 --> 00:39:23.840
Really?
00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:24.719
Wait, where are you?
00:39:24.800 --> 00:39:25.119
I forget.
00:39:25.360 --> 00:39:25.840
I'm the youngest.
00:39:26.159 --> 00:39:26.719
Two older sisters.
00:39:27.440 --> 00:39:28.639
Oh my god, we're the opposite ends.
00:39:29.760 --> 00:39:30.719
Yeah, exactly.
00:39:31.039 --> 00:39:33.760
Yeah, um, okay, that's crazy.
00:39:34.159 --> 00:39:51.119
One time I okay, one time I went on a date and I got catfished by like a man who was using pictures of his brother, I believe.
00:39:51.360 --> 00:39:55.920
So there was like a resemblance for sure, but it like wasn't him.
00:39:56.159 --> 00:40:00.639
Um it's not like it was him, you know, in any of them, by the way.
00:40:00.800 --> 00:40:03.519
It was like just the brother in all the pictures.
00:40:03.840 --> 00:40:17.920
And the reason that I found that out is because I kind of addressed it like after the fact because we like obviously didn't hang out again because I just felt like that's a weird way to come into a date like on a false pretense.
00:40:18.079 --> 00:40:18.239
Yeah.
00:40:18.400 --> 00:40:32.960
So we didn't go on any follow-up dates, but I was just like, hey, I thought I thought it was a little odd that you know, like, because I feel like there was something, and I can't remember because this was years ago, there was something that like was very key to them, like it not being him.
00:40:33.039 --> 00:40:40.000
Like maybe the hair was like brown and dirty blonde or something, and I found a way to get it out of him, and he was like, you know what?
00:40:40.079 --> 00:40:49.039
I I've been like pretty uh open about or or maybe not open, I don't remember exactly at what, but he was like, I I've been using pictures of like my brother.
00:40:49.360 --> 00:40:52.159
What is the like what I just don't get it?
00:40:52.400 --> 00:41:01.199
I don't get it, and I was like, I was like, okay, well, I think it might be a good idea to like use some of you like going forward.
00:41:01.679 --> 00:41:03.760
Um that's like you know what I mean.
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:04.800
Like, I I don't know.
00:41:04.960 --> 00:41:13.519
I'm like, I I'm not gonna be coming back out on another date, but I think I was like trying to lightly be like as you move forward in your dating journey, yeah.
00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:17.360
Said by someone who's experienced this, like it just feels weird.
00:41:17.599 --> 00:41:18.559
That's so kind of you.
00:41:18.639 --> 00:41:19.360
Yeah, yeah.
00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:23.599
But I never expected to get catfish myself.
00:41:23.760 --> 00:41:26.239
Like, I was like, this is a crazy experience.
00:41:26.480 --> 00:41:27.840
But what is the plan?
00:41:28.079 --> 00:41:30.320
Because you're always gonna have to see them in person.
00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:33.840
So, like, how does that ever work out?
00:41:34.159 --> 00:41:34.719
I don't know.
00:41:34.960 --> 00:41:39.360
Is it like they just want to lure a girl in and then they think with their charm or something?
00:41:39.679 --> 00:41:47.280
Maybe they think maybe, yeah, maybe they think that like it gets you in the door and then something will happen, or you maybe they think you won't notice.
00:41:47.440 --> 00:41:50.719
Like, I feel like some people are just are delusional.
00:41:50.960 --> 00:41:51.360
Delusional.
00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:56.480
They're like delusional city, like sometimes you have to be a little delusional, yeah.
00:41:56.639 --> 00:42:06.480
But to this extent, to this extent, I'm just like maybe we don't use pictures that are of our sibling, yeah.
00:42:07.039 --> 00:42:10.480
Like if I did that with my sister, I just don't even think I could show up on the date.
00:42:10.719 --> 00:42:12.880
Yeah, wait, that's so cute.
00:42:13.119 --> 00:42:15.679
Like, because then I would have to address it and be like, oh, that's my sister.
00:42:16.000 --> 00:42:16.320
I don't know.
00:42:16.639 --> 00:42:17.679
I'd be embarrassed.
00:42:18.000 --> 00:42:18.639
That's so cute.
00:42:18.719 --> 00:42:19.679
We both have two sisters.
00:42:19.760 --> 00:42:20.320
I didn't know that.
00:42:20.480 --> 00:42:20.880
Yeah.
00:42:21.119 --> 00:42:21.760
Oh my god.
00:42:21.920 --> 00:42:22.480
I love that.
00:42:22.639 --> 00:42:22.960
Yeah.
00:42:23.199 --> 00:42:23.920
All girls.
00:42:24.159 --> 00:42:26.400
Girly girlies and my dad.
00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:27.280
I know.
00:42:27.920 --> 00:42:29.199
Do you have a great girl dad?
00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:29.760
Mm-hmm.
00:42:30.079 --> 00:42:30.639
The best.
00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:31.920
I call him all the time.
00:42:32.159 --> 00:42:35.599
I I think every episode of this podcast, I was like, so I called my dad.
00:42:35.920 --> 00:42:38.400
Hi dad! I love that.
00:42:38.559 --> 00:42:39.920
My dad is a girl dad too.
00:42:40.079 --> 00:42:40.239
Yeah.
00:42:40.400 --> 00:42:41.679
And girl dads are the best.
00:42:41.840 --> 00:42:42.079
Yeah.
00:42:42.239 --> 00:42:42.480
Yeah.
00:42:42.719 --> 00:42:43.840
They know how to do it right.
00:42:44.000 --> 00:42:46.480
The next story actually was a catfish story that we call some.
00:42:46.880 --> 00:42:47.199
No way.
00:42:47.760 --> 00:42:48.079
Yes.
00:42:48.320 --> 00:42:52.960
So it says, one time I catfished my ex that felt like a spiral.
00:42:53.119 --> 00:42:56.800
I knew he'd be on Tinder, and I was within one mile of him.
00:42:56.960 --> 00:43:00.079
So I swiped until I found him and then started a combo.
00:43:00.400 --> 00:43:00.719
No way.
00:43:01.440 --> 00:43:09.599
Then I changed my own name in my contacts and texted myself the proof and said, Why did this girl just reach out to me?
00:43:09.920 --> 00:43:10.559
No way.
00:43:10.800 --> 00:43:11.360
That's insane.
00:43:11.599 --> 00:43:13.199
Wait, so this is while they were together.
00:43:13.760 --> 00:43:14.320
Her ex.
00:43:14.559 --> 00:43:16.400
So she was catching no, no, no, no, no.
00:43:16.480 --> 00:43:22.800
But like, was she dating him at the time because she reached out to him and said, Why'd this girl reach out to me?
00:43:22.960 --> 00:43:26.239
Like, was this to catch him in something?
00:43:26.559 --> 00:43:29.760
But sh the girl that reached out, that's herself.
00:43:30.239 --> 00:43:32.079
I think it was just to mess with him.
00:43:32.400 --> 00:43:32.800
I don't know.
00:43:33.039 --> 00:43:33.440
Wait, wait, I think.
00:43:33.679 --> 00:43:35.599
I changed my own name, my contacts.
00:43:35.840 --> 00:43:38.000
So she was like under a false profile.
00:43:38.719 --> 00:43:39.599
The proof.
00:43:40.000 --> 00:43:42.880
And then I think she was acting like that girl.
00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:43.760
Oh, proof.
00:43:43.840 --> 00:43:45.760
So maybe you're right, they were together.
00:43:46.480 --> 00:43:47.840
That's how I'm interpreting it.
00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:52.239
Like that they were together and she like knew he I don't know.
00:43:53.440 --> 00:43:55.840
But had I wouldn't even think to do this.
00:43:56.480 --> 00:44:01.760
But I mean, this is really Interesting.
00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:03.440
Taking it step by step.
00:44:03.679 --> 00:44:09.440
But she's talking to him as someone else, but it's still her, so it's not another girl.
00:44:10.159 --> 00:44:13.519
And then texts herself as if the girl texted her.
00:44:14.159 --> 00:44:14.480
Okay.
00:44:14.960 --> 00:44:15.280
Right?
00:44:15.920 --> 00:44:19.199
Saying is that it was just a way to mess with him, I think.
00:44:19.519 --> 00:44:20.159
Maybe.
00:44:20.400 --> 00:44:24.320
And like then she found a way to reach out to him.
00:44:24.800 --> 00:44:31.679
Why'd this girl reach out to but my my thing is like if they're broken up, like why would why would we be saying that?
00:44:31.840 --> 00:44:37.360
Like I I guess like the way I interpreted it was like maybe she was trying to catch him cheating or something.
00:44:37.599 --> 00:44:38.480
Him being on Tinder.
00:44:38.719 --> 00:44:39.360
Being on Tinder.
00:44:39.440 --> 00:44:40.400
Oh, that makes sense.
00:44:40.800 --> 00:44:42.880
That's like how I first interpreted it.
00:44:43.039 --> 00:44:43.360
Yeah.
00:44:43.599 --> 00:44:44.880
But again, I don't know.
00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:51.440
But if we're if we're gonna address it that way, I'm like, that's kind of a smart, honestly.
00:44:51.679 --> 00:44:51.920
Yeah.
00:44:52.239 --> 00:44:57.039
She said it felt like a spiral, so maybe it was recent X and she was like just crashing out.
00:44:57.280 --> 00:44:59.199
Or if they were together, that makes sense.
00:44:59.280 --> 00:45:02.400
Like he she was catching him being on Tinder.
00:45:02.960 --> 00:45:03.360
Maybe.
00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:04.960
Maybe or girls are.
00:45:05.199 --> 00:45:05.679
Hey, you know what?
00:45:05.760 --> 00:45:06.239
It's creative.
00:45:06.800 --> 00:45:08.239
Props for creativity.
00:45:08.639 --> 00:45:10.000
Props for creativity.
00:45:10.559 --> 00:45:13.519
Um I'm like now wondering what he said.
00:45:13.679 --> 00:45:15.599
Like, I think I need to I want the follow-up story.
00:45:15.760 --> 00:45:16.400
Like what happened.
00:45:17.519 --> 00:45:18.239
What happened after this?
00:45:18.800 --> 00:45:19.840
Screenshots, please.
00:45:19.920 --> 00:45:27.039
Yeah, we need to read through the like let's do this on the next episode where we read through like the follow-up here because now I'm curious of where this went.
00:45:27.199 --> 00:45:27.360
Yeah.
00:45:28.079 --> 00:45:32.400
Or maybe we could get some clarification on like, was this to catch him in something?
00:45:32.480 --> 00:45:33.920
Or we need more details for sure.
00:45:34.079 --> 00:45:40.000
We need more details, but like off the bat, I think it's hilarious that we just talked about a catfish story and here we are reading one.
00:45:40.880 --> 00:45:41.519
Yeah.
00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:49.360
Um, but I feel like yeah, sometimes you do just gotta do things for the story.
00:45:50.079 --> 00:45:51.039
For the plots.
00:45:51.199 --> 00:45:51.760
For the plots.
00:45:51.920 --> 00:45:55.760
So if things don't work out, like with all these, at least they all had a story.
00:45:56.000 --> 00:45:59.519
Wait, I need to ask you, have you ever done anything for the plot?
00:46:00.320 --> 00:46:04.079
Um, I don't know if I have done anything crazy.
00:46:04.559 --> 00:46:14.480
Definitely like with my friends out at bars, like pretended to like be other people or we were in a relationship or stuff like that.
00:46:14.719 --> 00:46:14.880
Yeah.
00:46:15.199 --> 00:46:16.800
When like meeting guys out.
00:46:17.119 --> 00:46:17.760
Yeah.
00:46:18.559 --> 00:46:19.599
I've definitely done that.
00:46:19.920 --> 00:46:20.800
I feel like, yeah.
00:46:20.960 --> 00:46:21.920
Yeah, yeah.
00:46:22.320 --> 00:46:24.400
It's kind of fun to do that, honestly.
00:46:24.800 --> 00:46:24.880
Yeah.
00:46:25.119 --> 00:46:35.360
I feel like I saw this interview with Aubrey Plaza where she was talking about how she used to do that all the time, like uh either before or when she was just getting into acting, I'm not sure.
00:46:35.599 --> 00:46:43.119
And she would go out and just like love to create these fake stories of like who she was, what her name was, what her job was, what her background was.
00:46:43.280 --> 00:46:54.559
And like it was honestly just fun for her to like continuously prove to herself that she could keep having like these real conversations with people, fully thinking she's someone she's not, and it would like just be for the bit.
00:46:54.719 --> 00:46:55.119
Yeah.
00:46:55.440 --> 00:47:02.800
I have done that with my friends, and we've had like a completely different alias, and like it's been like fun.
00:47:02.880 --> 00:47:06.800
I don't know if it's kind of fun sometimes to just be like not taking it.
00:47:06.960 --> 00:47:10.880
Yeah, I don't know, just not taking it too seriously and that's so fun.
00:47:11.039 --> 00:47:12.159
And just have a good time with it.
00:47:12.719 --> 00:47:15.920
Have you done anything else super crazy for the plot or just kind of same?
00:47:16.960 --> 00:47:18.480
Um kind of things.
00:47:19.360 --> 00:47:20.159
I don't know.
00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:38.960
Like, I mean, I feel like there have been times where I have maybe it's just like where I've just like continuously said yes, like in a night out where the night keeps going, and maybe you had an intention to like go home at midnight.
00:47:39.199 --> 00:48:12.559
Is there something the next day, but then the ball keeps rolling of like well, now everyone's gonna go and do like an after party, and then you end up at some crazy person's house, and you're like, Well, now we can't leave, and yeah, and then it's I feel like one time I did that long ago, and we were all at this like after party in Manhattan Beach, and all of a sudden, like people start doing magic tricks, and like I love magic, and um, there's like card games coming out, and it's things like you wouldn't normally see at like a traditional kind of after party or house party.
00:48:12.639 --> 00:48:15.840
Yeah, and I'm just like we this is so fun.
00:48:16.000 --> 00:48:17.119
Like, I didn't have any plans.
00:48:17.199 --> 00:48:30.000
I feel like sometimes the best things are the most unexpected things where you have no idea that the night was going to ever get there, and then like the more fun it becomes and the more crazy stuff unfolds, you're like, there's I'm I don't know when I'm going home.
00:48:30.159 --> 00:48:33.199
Like my plan, like I might be canceling that workout class in the morning.
00:48:33.599 --> 00:48:37.199
And then the next morning you're like debriefing and you're like, what all happened last night?
00:48:37.280 --> 00:48:39.119
And you're like, oh my god, that happened, and then that happened.
00:48:39.199 --> 00:48:40.800
Those are the most best thing to do.
00:48:40.880 --> 00:48:53.760
It's like to wake up and call friends, or maybe like friends slept over, or you're calling like me, like my mom or my sisters, and being like, You have no idea like what happened last night, like still hung over, like just talking about it.
00:48:53.840 --> 00:48:57.519
It's like the best, yeah, some of the best stories and like retells.
00:48:57.599 --> 00:49:06.800
And one one of these episodes we need to do that where like we have go out with the gals and yeah, and do like an and then day um like a day after recount.
00:49:07.039 --> 00:49:07.599
The next morning.
00:49:07.840 --> 00:49:08.880
Yeah, I'm so down for that.
00:49:09.039 --> 00:49:13.199
We can like just order breakfast burritos and just yes, debrieze the night before.
00:49:13.519 --> 00:49:16.320
Live breakfast burritos and Pedia lights.
00:49:17.280 --> 00:49:19.039
That yeah, that'll be essential.
00:49:19.199 --> 00:49:21.360
Essential for sure, for sure.
00:49:21.679 --> 00:49:22.239
Um, okay.
00:49:22.400 --> 00:49:26.239
The last thing I had for us, I found some old magazine dating quizzes.
00:49:26.400 --> 00:49:27.039
If you want to do any.
00:49:27.360 --> 00:49:28.159
Yeah, yeah, like do something.
00:49:28.719 --> 00:49:33.280
This is so fun because this is like used to do this all the time growing up with like Tiger Beat.
00:49:33.840 --> 00:49:35.440
And I feel like 14.
00:49:35.840 --> 00:49:39.360
What were the ones called with like the Disney Channel?
00:49:41.119 --> 00:49:42.480
Yeah, yes, yes.
00:49:42.559 --> 00:49:44.960
I used to go to the grocery store and just like pick them out.
00:49:45.280 --> 00:49:46.800
My wall, first of all.
00:49:47.039 --> 00:49:52.000
Wait, did you pull out the pictures of like the headshots of like everybody from Disney Channel and put them?
00:49:52.320 --> 00:49:54.800
I put them all on my whole massive collection.
00:49:55.039 --> 00:49:59.039
First of all, my childhood bedroom wall was lime green because it was Lizzie Maguire.
00:49:59.280 --> 00:49:59.840
So was mine.
00:50:00.079 --> 00:50:01.360
It was lime green and blue.
00:50:01.519 --> 00:50:02.159
Oh my god.
00:50:02.320 --> 00:50:03.199
Like opposite walls.
00:50:03.360 --> 00:50:03.519
Yeah.
00:50:03.840 --> 00:50:05.280
No, it was all lime green.
00:50:05.920 --> 00:50:06.639
All lime green.
00:50:07.039 --> 00:50:11.119
And I did it because the can had Lizzie Maguire on it, and my mom was like, Your room gives me a headache.
00:50:11.199 --> 00:50:12.559
And I'm like, It's Lizzie McGuire.
00:50:12.800 --> 00:50:13.199
You know what?
00:50:13.280 --> 00:50:22.639
That's so funny you say that because when we moved out of the house that I had that in, I mom, my parents' realtor was like, said, like, this house won't sell with that color.
00:50:22.880 --> 00:50:24.400
Like, we have to remake it.
00:50:24.480 --> 00:50:32.000
We were like nine years old, and I was so offended by that realtor, and I was like, you know what?
00:50:32.159 --> 00:50:32.960
You don't get it.
00:50:33.119 --> 00:50:33.920
Like, you just don't get it.
00:50:34.000 --> 00:50:35.039
You're not with the times.
00:50:35.599 --> 00:50:37.519
Like, you're not with the times, you don't understand.
00:50:38.159 --> 00:50:40.239
And if it just won't sell, I'm like, maybe it'll sell more.
00:50:40.320 --> 00:50:41.119
Like, how do you know that?
00:50:41.360 --> 00:50:49.920
And if you cover your wall wall to wall with posters of Troy Bo Bolton and literally everyone, then you won't even see the colors.
00:50:50.000 --> 00:50:50.480
I saw that.
00:50:50.639 --> 00:50:52.239
It's highly marketable stuff, by the way.
00:50:52.559 --> 00:50:56.719
I had to start like moving to the ceiling to put posters on because I covered my walls so much.
00:50:56.960 --> 00:51:11.840
Okay, I did not move to the ceiling, but I had a whole wall, and it was like it was like everybody from high school musical, like it was it was literally like I had like all my crushes from Disney Channel, like in the direct middle.
00:51:12.159 --> 00:51:13.199
It was amazing.
00:51:13.280 --> 00:51:14.320
Yeah, those were the times.
00:51:14.480 --> 00:51:15.519
Like, do people do that anymore?
00:51:15.760 --> 00:51:18.320
I don't think do girls, young girls do that anymore.
00:51:18.800 --> 00:51:20.480
Is our magazine's even a thing?
00:51:20.800 --> 00:51:22.400
Yeah, it's like it's it's all digital.
00:51:22.639 --> 00:51:26.639
It's all it's like get ready with me's at nine years old, probably.
00:51:26.880 --> 00:51:27.760
It was such an era.
00:51:28.159 --> 00:51:34.480
I had in my room one of my presents for my birthday was like a microphone and a microphone stand and like a karaoke machine.
00:51:34.559 --> 00:51:36.480
Like my dad like built me this microphone stand.
00:51:36.559 --> 00:51:38.960
I wanted to be a pop star so bad.
00:51:39.119 --> 00:51:41.280
I'm sure my parents were tired of me.
00:51:41.360 --> 00:51:44.639
I would scream, act like no one could hear me every single song.
00:51:44.880 --> 00:51:47.119
Oh, if I had a voice, it would be over.
00:51:47.280 --> 00:51:50.320
If I could sing, it would be over, you guys.
00:51:50.480 --> 00:51:52.000
Like it would be done.
00:51:52.079 --> 00:51:56.400
Like Sabrina Carpenter, Tate McCrae, like you'd be up there.
00:51:56.559 --> 00:51:57.360
I'd be, yeah.
00:51:57.519 --> 00:51:58.079
Yeah.
00:51:58.320 --> 00:51:59.840
Yeah, I was the same way.
00:52:00.159 --> 00:52:04.320
I mean, I had the head mic on this year with my Satan McRae Halloween.
00:52:05.280 --> 00:52:12.559
And it was like so fun, just like because I feel like I had the head mic too when I was younger and when I was doing all those video camera performances.
00:52:12.960 --> 00:52:16.880
I would like write songs and perform for my mom, put on little fashion shows.
00:52:17.280 --> 00:52:17.679
The best.
00:52:18.239 --> 00:52:18.719
Just look at me.
00:52:18.800 --> 00:52:20.320
I just childhood.
00:52:20.639 --> 00:52:23.599
And by the way, childhood was amazing when we were growing up.
00:52:24.000 --> 00:52:31.920
Like I feel like we were at the tail end of like when people when kids still like went and played outside and like didn't have phones yet.
00:52:32.239 --> 00:52:34.079
Oh, I was one of the boys in my neighborhood.
00:52:34.480 --> 00:52:34.719
Really?
00:52:34.880 --> 00:52:39.199
Yeah, because my like two next door neighbors were both boys, and I was like, Well, I'm playing basketball with you.
00:52:39.280 --> 00:52:40.079
I'm playing guitar here.
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:40.960
I'm doing everything.
00:52:41.199 --> 00:52:42.480
Like meet me in the cul-de-sac.
00:52:42.880 --> 00:52:43.199
Yeah.
00:52:43.440 --> 00:52:45.280
We had a cul-de-sac too.
00:52:45.760 --> 00:52:46.880
Oh my gosh.
00:52:47.119 --> 00:52:47.840
That's amazing.
00:52:48.159 --> 00:52:50.000
Yeah, we were like the same childhood.
00:52:50.159 --> 00:52:50.239
Yeah.
00:52:50.400 --> 00:52:52.559
Wait, where did you where was your hometown again?
00:52:52.800 --> 00:52:53.280
Pennsylvania.
00:52:53.519 --> 00:52:53.840
Pennsylvania.
00:52:54.400 --> 00:52:55.360
Just outside of Philly, yeah.
00:52:55.599 --> 00:52:55.760
Okay.
00:52:55.920 --> 00:52:56.159
Yeah.
00:52:56.320 --> 00:52:57.599
Up in the Bay Area for me.
00:52:57.679 --> 00:52:59.119
But same thing, cul-de-sac.
00:52:59.280 --> 00:52:59.519
Yeah.
00:52:59.679 --> 00:52:59.920
Yeah.
00:53:00.000 --> 00:53:00.480
That's amazing.
00:53:00.800 --> 00:53:01.039
Thank you.
00:53:01.440 --> 00:53:08.960
I feel like that's the best street like when you're growing up because it's not like a dangerous through street where you're like always worried about cars necessarily.
00:53:09.199 --> 00:53:15.920
Um so we would just always be out like on bikes and like man-made playing and you a man-made neighborhood.
00:53:16.159 --> 00:53:17.119
What's that wait, what was that?
00:53:17.280 --> 00:53:18.719
Oh, you like split up in two teams.
00:53:18.800 --> 00:53:20.239
I don't know, everyone goes hides.
00:53:21.039 --> 00:53:21.920
I feel like we did do that.
00:53:22.000 --> 00:53:22.400
Yeah.
00:53:22.800 --> 00:53:29.920
Like, and then when you found someone on the other team, they like go to jail your jail and like try and tag people on the jail of your own team.
00:53:30.239 --> 00:53:31.280
Yes, we did do that.
00:53:31.360 --> 00:53:33.280
And we did uh Capture the Flag.
00:53:33.440 --> 00:53:33.760
Yes.
00:53:34.000 --> 00:53:36.159
And we did like Sardines in a Can.
00:53:36.480 --> 00:53:45.840
And we had this huge like red wagon that like all the kids would pull each other, like for rides around the street and and like up and down driveways and like sidewalk chalk.
00:53:45.920 --> 00:53:46.639
Like, those are the days.
00:53:46.880 --> 00:53:47.760
Those are the days.
00:53:47.920 --> 00:53:49.840
Those are the days, you guys.
00:53:50.320 --> 00:53:50.960
That's amazing.
00:53:51.280 --> 00:53:51.679
So cute.
00:53:51.840 --> 00:53:52.159
I love it.
00:53:52.320 --> 00:53:52.480
Okay.
00:53:52.559 --> 00:53:52.960
Do you want to do that?
00:53:53.119 --> 00:53:57.599
Can we just like go back for a day and like just do this for like that's what I'm saying?
00:53:57.679 --> 00:53:59.679
Is I talk with my roommates about this a lot.
00:53:59.760 --> 00:54:02.320
Like, we need to do more things that bring out our inner child.
00:54:02.960 --> 00:54:03.199
Yeah.
00:54:03.360 --> 00:54:06.159
And like, is there a version where we can do some of these things as adults?
00:54:06.239 --> 00:54:06.719
Like, we can.
00:54:06.800 --> 00:54:07.599
Like, we could do sidewalk.
00:54:08.079 --> 00:54:09.679
We could like make a little field day.
00:54:10.159 --> 00:54:12.000
That would be ourselves and like plan all these.
00:54:12.480 --> 00:54:13.760
And like have a bunch of people do.
00:54:14.079 --> 00:54:14.400
Yeah.
00:54:14.639 --> 00:54:17.679
And then we could all like wear certain colors, or I don't know.
00:54:18.000 --> 00:54:18.480
I love that.
00:54:18.559 --> 00:54:25.199
Me and my roommate this summer, like when it was really beautiful out, like we went boogie boarding in Santa Monica.
00:54:25.679 --> 00:54:28.159
And we were the oldest people out there.
00:54:28.320 --> 00:54:35.920
You guys, like we were, you know, 26, 27, and there's just a bunch of like kids doing it too.
00:54:36.000 --> 00:54:38.480
And we were like, who cares?
00:54:38.559 --> 00:54:39.280
Like, it's fun.
00:54:39.440 --> 00:54:40.400
And we had a blast.
00:54:40.559 --> 00:54:41.679
We probably did it for an hour.
00:54:41.840 --> 00:54:42.079
Yeah.
00:54:42.239 --> 00:54:44.960
And we're just like, we like on all the waves.
00:54:45.199 --> 00:54:47.920
Like, it's completely like coming in and going back out.
00:54:48.079 --> 00:54:53.039
And like, like it was we had like a whole day after that committed to like bring out your inner child.
00:54:53.199 --> 00:54:54.159
And it was so much fun.
00:54:54.239 --> 00:54:55.519
And we just need more of that.
00:54:55.679 --> 00:54:57.280
Like more reminders of how to do that.
00:54:57.840 --> 00:54:58.000
Yeah.
00:54:58.400 --> 00:54:59.920
It's all about the little things.
00:55:00.159 --> 00:55:00.400
Yeah.
00:55:00.559 --> 00:55:01.039
I love it.
00:55:01.280 --> 00:55:02.400
In those moments.
00:55:02.639 --> 00:55:03.599
On cute.
00:55:03.840 --> 00:55:04.079
Yeah.
00:55:04.320 --> 00:55:04.880
Cute cute.
00:55:05.119 --> 00:55:06.719
I don't know where those boogie boards are anymore.
00:55:06.800 --> 00:55:10.000
Like the day after we used them, they like mysteriously disappeared.
00:55:10.239 --> 00:55:15.360
And it became this point of like conversation in our group chat of like someone stole them.
00:55:15.519 --> 00:55:17.920
I think someone also stole our surfboards.
00:55:18.000 --> 00:55:22.960
Because we had like surfboards and boogie boards, and then they all like went missing the day after we used them.
00:55:23.199 --> 00:55:23.840
That's rude.
00:55:24.159 --> 00:55:25.440
And I'm just like, excuse me.
00:55:25.599 --> 00:55:27.280
But I'm such like an ocean girl.
00:55:27.360 --> 00:55:29.840
Like, if we're going to the beach, I love going in the ocean.
00:55:29.920 --> 00:55:30.239
Yeah.
00:55:30.480 --> 00:55:32.559
It's kind of different in LA or on the West Coast.
00:55:32.639 --> 00:55:34.400
At least East Coast, everyone's in the water.
00:55:34.639 --> 00:55:36.400
Like so many people go to the beach and go in the water.
00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:40.079
I'm like, let's go play mermaids and ride the waves.
00:55:40.559 --> 00:55:41.199
I think we did that.
00:55:41.760 --> 00:55:47.199
We are so many like ocean games and like up there on a paddleboard, like whatever.
00:55:47.599 --> 00:55:47.760
Yeah.
00:55:48.159 --> 00:55:49.199
And I'm like, yeah.
00:55:49.519 --> 00:55:50.800
I it's amazing.
00:55:51.119 --> 00:55:51.679
Like to do that.
00:55:51.840 --> 00:55:52.320
We did that too.
00:55:52.400 --> 00:55:53.280
What mermaid are you?
00:55:53.360 --> 00:55:53.760
What color?
00:55:54.000 --> 00:55:56.480
I like blue usually, I feel like is my default.
00:55:56.719 --> 00:55:56.960
Yeah.
00:55:57.119 --> 00:55:58.639
But I feel like that's kind of boring color.
00:55:58.960 --> 00:55:59.280
Are you pink?
00:55:59.679 --> 00:56:00.079
That's boring.
00:56:00.159 --> 00:56:00.320
Yeah.
00:56:00.400 --> 00:56:00.480
Yeah.
00:56:02.800 --> 00:56:03.280
Pink!
00:56:03.840 --> 00:56:04.639
Blue color.
00:56:05.199 --> 00:56:06.000
Like are my go-to's.
00:56:06.159 --> 00:56:06.320
Yeah.
00:56:06.400 --> 00:56:06.480
Yeah.
00:56:06.719 --> 00:56:07.440
Well, your eyes.
00:56:07.519 --> 00:56:07.679
Yeah.
00:56:08.000 --> 00:56:08.320
Makes sense.
00:56:08.480 --> 00:56:08.639
Yeah.
00:56:09.119 --> 00:56:10.079
Aquamarine.
00:56:11.199 --> 00:56:11.679
Oh my gosh.
00:56:11.840 --> 00:56:12.719
Amazing movie.
00:56:13.039 --> 00:56:15.440
Oh, see, they don't even make movies like that anymore either.
00:56:15.519 --> 00:56:17.280
I feel like we had such a movie.
00:56:17.440 --> 00:56:21.039
I can't think of one like that that is nowadays, honestly.
00:56:21.360 --> 00:56:21.760
Yeah.
00:56:23.280 --> 00:56:25.280
I think I watched that movie like a hundred times.
00:56:25.519 --> 00:56:25.760
Yeah.
00:56:26.000 --> 00:56:28.320
Like that was an amazing movie to grow up on.
00:56:28.639 --> 00:56:32.400
I would just play and then rewind and play.
00:56:33.039 --> 00:56:36.639
I did that with Freaky Friday, too, the the original, um, obviously.
00:56:36.800 --> 00:56:37.280
I remember.
00:56:37.519 --> 00:56:38.719
With my VHS.
00:56:39.679 --> 00:56:40.400
VHS.
00:56:40.559 --> 00:56:41.119
Oh my gosh.
00:56:41.199 --> 00:56:41.440
Yeah.
00:56:41.599 --> 00:56:44.000
I did that with like the Mary Kate Nashley movies too.
00:56:44.239 --> 00:56:44.559
Yes.
00:56:44.800 --> 00:56:45.599
Oh my gosh.
00:56:45.760 --> 00:56:46.400
We had them all.
00:56:46.719 --> 00:56:49.360
Like what were the there was like a couple of Amanda Bynes ones.
00:56:49.599 --> 00:56:50.239
What a Girl One.
00:56:50.480 --> 00:56:51.199
What a Girl Once.
00:56:51.679 --> 00:56:54.480
Confessions of a Teenage Drama Queen?
00:56:54.639 --> 00:56:54.960
Yeah.
00:56:55.199 --> 00:56:56.000
Yeah, I think so.
00:56:56.159 --> 00:56:56.480
I think so.
00:56:56.800 --> 00:56:57.360
Wait, what's it?
00:56:57.599 --> 00:57:06.079
Wait, what's the one where she goes to was it What a Girl Once where she where her dad's like in London and is like um a Duke or something.
00:57:06.320 --> 00:57:06.480
Yeah.
00:57:07.440 --> 00:57:09.599
I watched that so many times.
00:57:09.760 --> 00:57:10.079
Yeah.
00:57:10.239 --> 00:57:11.039
Like amazing.
00:57:11.280 --> 00:57:14.239
And that guy Oliver, who, you know, she has a crush on.
00:57:14.800 --> 00:57:15.039
Yes.
00:57:15.280 --> 00:57:15.599
Yeah, yeah.
00:57:16.239 --> 00:57:22.079
And oh my gosh, oh my gosh, another one too is um is wait, the wait, Princess Diaries.
00:57:22.320 --> 00:57:22.400
Yeah.
00:57:22.639 --> 00:57:26.239
Princess Diaries, I would always be like, my grandma's the queen of Chino.
00:57:26.480 --> 00:57:26.719
Yeah.
00:57:26.880 --> 00:57:28.079
Like I'm the princess.
00:57:28.320 --> 00:57:32.559
Like, and uh her character like grew up in the Bay Area, and I was like, it's it's me.
00:57:32.719 --> 00:57:35.039
Like one day I'm gonna wake up and like it's gonna be me.
00:57:35.280 --> 00:57:35.440
Yeah.
00:57:35.599 --> 00:57:37.519
I reference she's the man all the time.
00:57:37.599 --> 00:57:38.960
That one's kind of like a little bit older.
00:57:39.119 --> 00:57:41.599
Literally, yesterday I was just like, I can see you for you, Julia.
00:57:42.639 --> 00:57:43.920
Oh glitch.
00:57:44.159 --> 00:57:44.480
Yeah.
00:57:44.800 --> 00:57:45.519
Just randomly.
00:57:45.920 --> 00:57:47.119
That's my like comfort one.
00:57:47.360 --> 00:57:51.440
I feel like hit the line, and I don't know what he says with like the cheese line gouda.
00:57:51.599 --> 00:57:51.679
Yeah.
00:57:52.079 --> 00:57:52.400
It's guda.
00:57:52.639 --> 00:57:52.960
Yeah.
00:57:53.199 --> 00:57:55.119
I remember that one all the time.
00:57:55.920 --> 00:57:56.639
Oh man.
00:57:56.880 --> 00:57:57.920
Oh, so good.
00:57:58.239 --> 00:57:58.960
Good memories.
00:57:59.119 --> 00:57:59.440
So good.
00:57:59.679 --> 00:58:00.079
Good memories.
00:58:00.239 --> 00:58:00.559
So good.
00:58:00.719 --> 00:58:01.039
Okay.
00:58:01.199 --> 00:58:04.719
So some different titles we have are Are You Boyfriend Ready?
00:58:04.960 --> 00:58:07.440
Do you like sweeties or jokers?
00:58:07.920 --> 00:58:09.599
Uh find your Mr.
00:58:09.840 --> 00:58:10.320
Dreamy.
00:58:10.800 --> 00:58:12.639
Can you keep a guy intrigued?
00:58:12.880 --> 00:58:15.840
Are you a closeted commitment phobe?
00:58:16.159 --> 00:58:17.599
Do any of those intrigue you?
00:58:17.920 --> 00:58:18.800
Interesting.
00:58:19.039 --> 00:58:20.480
Honestly, any dealer's choice.
00:58:20.559 --> 00:58:21.920
I love a dealer's choice.
00:58:22.639 --> 00:58:24.400
Let's um find who my Mr.
00:58:24.559 --> 00:58:25.360
Dreamy is.
00:58:25.519 --> 00:58:27.760
Since I'm now meeting people in person, this is my.
00:58:28.320 --> 00:58:34.159
Yeah, we've uh it's official as of as of this uh night that that is what's happening.
00:58:34.320 --> 00:58:34.480
Yeah.
00:58:34.639 --> 00:58:36.480
So stay tuned for all the updates there.
00:58:36.639 --> 00:58:36.960
Let's see.
00:58:37.039 --> 00:58:38.400
Okay, multiple choice here.
00:58:38.639 --> 00:58:40.960
Are you an ideal girlfriend?
00:58:41.199 --> 00:58:46.079
You accidentally left your iPad and your boyfriend iPod in your iPod.
00:58:46.639 --> 00:58:47.280
These are throwbacks.
00:58:47.519 --> 00:58:49.920
Guys, this is like 2000s criteria.
00:58:50.639 --> 00:58:51.679
Did you have an iPod?
00:58:51.840 --> 00:58:52.159
Oh yeah.
00:58:52.400 --> 00:58:52.719
What color?
00:58:53.360 --> 00:58:53.679
What color?
00:58:53.760 --> 00:58:54.320
I think it was green.
00:58:54.400 --> 00:58:55.119
I think it was lime green.
00:58:55.199 --> 00:58:56.000
I had a lime green one, too.
00:58:56.079 --> 00:58:58.079
But like I'm like, what is up with us in lime green?
00:58:58.400 --> 00:58:58.639
I know.
00:58:58.960 --> 00:59:01.840
I don't, by the way, don't even like have anything lime green nowadays.
00:59:02.079 --> 00:59:04.400
But back then it was like everything.
00:59:04.480 --> 00:59:07.199
Like I had the nano, the like the whiter one.
00:59:08.320 --> 00:59:09.679
No, I think it had like a smaller screen.
00:59:09.840 --> 00:59:10.239
Okay, yeah.
00:59:10.400 --> 00:59:16.480
But it was a little bit, it I had like a flip case that when you like flipped it up, you could see the iPod.
00:59:17.119 --> 00:59:18.639
I went everywhere with that.
00:59:18.960 --> 00:59:24.239
I didn't have a smartphone until I think like my high school graduation.
00:59:24.320 --> 00:59:28.079
So I was the girl with the iPod Touch and my little slidey out phone.
00:59:28.239 --> 00:59:33.360
I had I was two device girl because everyone else had iPhones, but I didn't know an iPod kid.
00:59:33.679 --> 00:59:36.400
Not iPod because it was iPod Touch.
00:59:37.199 --> 00:59:41.199
So I could have my apps on there, and then my phone was just for texting and calls.
00:59:41.760 --> 00:59:42.079
Wow.
00:59:42.320 --> 00:59:42.559
Yeah.
00:59:42.719 --> 00:59:45.039
I remember trying to flirt with my boy and I had her.
00:59:45.519 --> 00:59:48.320
No! I do I have my two device.
00:59:49.119 --> 00:59:50.800
And he was older than me.
00:59:51.599 --> 00:59:52.559
He's like, what's going on?
00:59:52.800 --> 00:59:53.119
Yeah.
00:59:54.079 --> 00:59:54.800
Not a good thing.
00:59:55.039 --> 00:59:56.400
Okay, you're left your iPod.
00:59:56.800 --> 00:59:59.119
My iPad in my ex-boy ex-boyfriend's car.
00:59:59.199 --> 00:59:59.760
What do you do?
00:59:59.920 --> 01:00:02.480
You immediately drive over to his house and break into his car.
01:00:02.639 --> 01:00:04.159
You'll use a bat if necessary.
01:00:04.480 --> 01:00:07.360
B, give him a call and tell him you want your iPod back.
01:00:07.519 --> 01:00:12.400
You'll meet him at a coffee shop before work and you'll switch him for a latte for your iPad.
01:00:12.559 --> 01:00:16.880
Or C, save up to get a new one, as if you'd call that jerk.
01:00:17.119 --> 01:00:17.599
Hmm.
01:00:17.760 --> 01:00:18.079
Wow.
01:00:18.400 --> 01:00:21.280
iPods were valuable in this time.
01:00:21.920 --> 01:00:22.480
You know?
01:00:22.719 --> 01:00:23.360
Yeah.
01:00:23.679 --> 01:00:28.960
Um, my thought is like give him a call and get it back, but I don't know that I'm giving him a latte for that.
01:00:29.199 --> 01:00:29.519
Yeah, no.
01:00:29.599 --> 01:00:30.320
He doesn't deserve a latte.
01:00:30.719 --> 01:00:31.760
Like I just left it in there.
01:00:31.920 --> 01:00:32.719
I just need it back.
01:00:33.119 --> 01:00:33.360
Yeah.
01:00:33.519 --> 01:00:34.000
No, yeah.
01:00:34.079 --> 01:00:37.119
So you know, I think that's reasonable.
01:00:37.360 --> 01:00:37.679
Yeah.
01:00:37.920 --> 01:00:38.880
I need that back.
01:00:39.119 --> 01:00:39.840
Just give it back.
01:00:39.920 --> 01:00:40.239
Thank you.
01:00:40.400 --> 01:00:40.719
Thank you.
01:00:40.880 --> 01:00:45.360
Okay, his family has a Thanksgiving tradition of turkey, then NFL.
01:00:45.519 --> 01:00:47.440
You're a vegetarian and hate football.
01:00:47.519 --> 01:00:48.079
What do you do?
01:00:48.239 --> 01:00:49.199
Oh my gosh.
01:00:49.519 --> 01:00:51.039
Pass on meeting his family.
01:00:51.199 --> 01:00:54.480
You aren't going to pretend to like turkey and football for any guy.
01:00:54.639 --> 01:00:54.960
Okay.
01:00:55.360 --> 01:00:57.679
You can still go and like.
01:00:58.320 --> 01:00:58.559
Okay.
01:00:58.800 --> 01:00:59.679
Wait, maybe that's another option.
01:01:00.000 --> 01:01:00.800
B, agree to go.
01:01:00.960 --> 01:01:01.199
Okay.
01:01:01.360 --> 01:01:04.000
You'll just pass the turkey and enjoy time with his family.
01:01:04.079 --> 01:01:04.880
No big deal.
01:01:05.039 --> 01:01:08.719
Plus, there's a book you've been wanting to read and now you have an excuse.
01:01:08.880 --> 01:01:10.400
Okay, now we're throwing a book into the display.
01:01:10.639 --> 01:01:11.920
Wait, how does the book come in?
01:01:12.159 --> 01:01:13.199
Wait, you can't go to someone's.
01:01:14.800 --> 01:01:15.360
No, we can't do that.
01:01:15.599 --> 01:01:16.000
We can't do that.
01:01:16.719 --> 01:01:22.159
C polish off a bottle of wine before dinner and then talk about how disgusting meat is.
01:01:22.480 --> 01:01:23.280
I feel like crazy.
01:01:23.840 --> 01:01:24.480
No, no, no.
01:01:24.559 --> 01:01:39.039
There's like a there's always an invisible like extra option here, which like I'm going with B, which is a version of that, but I'm not like my parents would never let me go to someone's house and like be reading or on my phone.
01:01:39.679 --> 01:01:45.199
Could you imagine you're meeting imagine you're meeting them, your boyfriend's parents for the first time and you get to Is it for the first time?
01:01:45.360 --> 01:01:47.199
I don't know, but this is just how I'm picturing it.
01:01:47.360 --> 01:01:48.400
I'm picturing it too.
01:01:48.559 --> 01:01:51.920
And you pull out a book and you're like, No.
01:01:52.159 --> 01:01:53.199
No, no, no, no.
01:01:53.360 --> 01:01:58.639
Like, why don't you just like talk to someone in the kitchen or start doing a card game or something else?
01:02:00.400 --> 01:02:02.880
You can be in the same room and like not have to watch it.
01:02:03.039 --> 01:02:03.280
Yeah.
01:02:03.360 --> 01:02:06.639
Okay, your boyfriend compliments you on the way you look.
01:02:06.719 --> 01:02:09.280
You thank him and return the favor, laugh.
01:02:09.519 --> 01:02:10.719
Of course, you look good.
01:02:10.880 --> 01:02:12.880
It took two hours to get ready.
01:02:13.119 --> 01:02:13.840
Or yell at him.
01:02:14.239 --> 01:02:14.719
Wow.
01:02:15.199 --> 01:02:18.880
Yell at him for thinking you're fat because that's probably what he was thinking.
01:02:18.960 --> 01:02:19.599
Who wrote it?
01:02:20.639 --> 01:02:21.599
That's crazy.
01:02:22.400 --> 01:02:24.320
I feel like whose job is this to write this?
01:02:24.400 --> 01:02:26.800
I feel like they were just like having so much fun one night.
01:02:27.039 --> 01:02:27.199
Yeah.
01:02:27.440 --> 01:02:29.280
Like posting this in cosmic.
01:02:29.599 --> 01:02:33.519
I remember this being like these being like that, or they're like the answers are kind of crazy.
01:02:33.760 --> 01:02:38.880
Um, for me, it's like it definitely took an hour plus to get ready.
01:02:39.039 --> 01:02:40.559
So, like, but I'm not gonna laugh.
01:02:40.639 --> 01:02:50.159
I think I'm gonna thank him and I don't know, just do a cute smile or yeah, return the compliment and like in a way that feels authentic.
01:02:50.480 --> 01:02:55.119
Do you um use names like babe or like would you be like thanks, babe?
01:02:56.079 --> 01:02:57.280
Those come natural to you.
01:02:57.599 --> 01:02:59.920
I feel like it's situational.
01:03:00.480 --> 01:03:03.360
I don't know that I would throw that in with like a thank you.
01:03:04.320 --> 01:03:06.400
It's like that's sweet.
01:03:06.559 --> 01:03:07.280
Yeah, thank you.
01:03:07.760 --> 01:03:08.159
I don't know.
01:03:08.480 --> 01:03:08.960
Yeah.
01:03:09.280 --> 01:03:10.239
Um, okay.
01:03:10.480 --> 01:03:16.079
Four, your boyfriend of six months calls to cancel a date because he's sick and just wants to stay home alone.
01:03:16.239 --> 01:03:20.000
You hang up on him immediately and call your friends to make other plans.
01:03:20.079 --> 01:03:21.840
You're not sitting home on a Saturday night.
01:03:22.079 --> 01:03:27.280
B, immediately drive over to his house and circle the block a few times to see if he's telling the truth.
01:03:27.519 --> 01:03:29.679
Or if someone else is coming over.
01:03:29.920 --> 01:03:34.639
Or C wish him a speedy recovery and tell him to call you when he's feeling better.
01:03:34.960 --> 01:03:36.960
I mean, I feel like A is pretty reasonable.
01:03:37.039 --> 01:03:37.920
Not hang up on him.
01:03:38.000 --> 01:03:40.400
I think you can end the call, but you can still go out with your friends.
01:03:40.559 --> 01:03:41.599
Like Yeah.
01:03:41.840 --> 01:03:42.320
Why not?
01:03:42.559 --> 01:03:44.159
If you're he's staying home.
01:03:44.960 --> 01:03:46.880
And I think call him when you get home.
01:03:47.119 --> 01:03:47.440
Yeah.
01:03:47.760 --> 01:03:58.400
And you've been together for six months, so I feel like he'd be understanding about that and be like, okay, well then I think I'm gonna meet the girls here.
01:03:58.880 --> 01:03:59.119
Yeah.
01:03:59.440 --> 01:03:59.679
Why not?
01:04:00.000 --> 01:04:02.320
If he's the one canceling, like that's crazy.
01:04:02.400 --> 01:04:07.519
If you ever like don't trust him enough to have to check his phone or circle the block, then it's already over.
01:04:08.639 --> 01:04:12.960
Yeah, I think that there's something else at play if that's your first thought.
01:04:13.280 --> 01:04:17.280
Maybe it's like uh I don't revisit the thought of being together.
01:04:17.440 --> 01:04:17.760
Yeah.
01:04:17.920 --> 01:04:18.880
If that's the answer.
01:04:19.119 --> 01:04:19.360
Yeah.
01:04:19.599 --> 01:04:20.159
Um, okay.
01:04:20.320 --> 01:04:21.440
It's your third date.
01:04:21.599 --> 01:04:24.079
You decide on a quiet night in.
01:04:24.239 --> 01:04:24.639
Ooh.
01:04:24.880 --> 01:04:29.199
You use the one-on-one time to ask him to define the relationship.
01:04:29.440 --> 01:04:32.800
You spend all night on Pinterest, Facebook, and your cell.
01:04:33.039 --> 01:04:38.559
You get ingredients for homemade pizza and rent the comedy you've both been wanting to see.
01:04:38.800 --> 01:04:39.679
Definitely that one.
01:04:39.840 --> 01:04:40.000
Yeah.
01:04:40.159 --> 01:04:52.159
I would definitely do like a cute uh I mean a actually cute idea, like a comedy movie and like maybe making something together or yeah, home it says homemade pizza, that's fun.
01:04:52.320 --> 01:04:52.559
Yeah.
01:04:52.800 --> 01:04:53.519
I love the idea.
01:04:53.840 --> 01:04:57.440
Using the one-on-one time to ask them to define the relationship, that's like it's only three dates.
01:04:57.760 --> 01:04:59.199
Three dates feels like no.
01:04:59.440 --> 01:05:01.840
And I also you're not gonna be on your phone the whole time.
01:05:01.920 --> 01:05:08.400
So it's definitely and were your other dates not one-on-one, like I should say they were in public.
01:05:08.960 --> 01:05:09.519
Maybe.
01:05:09.760 --> 01:05:10.239
Huh.
01:05:10.480 --> 01:05:12.719
Um, what did we mainly answer?
01:05:12.800 --> 01:05:13.280
Let's see.
01:05:13.440 --> 01:05:14.079
Oh, okay.
01:05:14.320 --> 01:05:16.079
The system is really confusing here.
01:05:16.239 --> 01:05:17.039
What are the options?
01:05:17.199 --> 01:05:18.239
Hot potato?
01:05:18.960 --> 01:05:22.000
My girl, my girl, you'll fur find the perfect guy.
01:05:22.079 --> 01:05:26.400
In the meantime, enjoy being an ideal combination of Holly.
01:05:26.800 --> 01:05:27.360
Who's that?
01:05:27.519 --> 01:05:28.000
What's that?
01:05:28.239 --> 01:05:31.840
Marianne from Gilligan's Island and Zoe De Chanel.
01:05:32.480 --> 01:05:33.039
Wait.
01:05:33.760 --> 01:05:35.039
I don't know who this is.
01:05:35.280 --> 01:05:36.400
Wait, who is that?
01:05:36.559 --> 01:05:36.960
I don't know.
01:05:37.360 --> 01:05:38.880
Holly Golly.
01:05:41.760 --> 01:05:42.559
Hot potatoes.
01:05:42.800 --> 01:05:44.719
I mean, we didn't even like add our points up really.
01:05:44.960 --> 01:05:45.360
Yeah.
01:05:46.239 --> 01:05:48.079
But okay, so wait.
01:05:48.559 --> 01:05:48.960
Zero.
01:05:49.039 --> 01:05:49.920
So we are my girl.
01:05:50.239 --> 01:05:52.880
So wait, and then wait, what's the title of the quiz again?
01:05:53.119 --> 01:05:56.400
It's like Oh, um, find out if you are Mrs.
01:05:56.639 --> 01:05:57.599
Ideal or Mr.
01:05:57.760 --> 01:05:58.320
Dreamy.
01:05:58.800 --> 01:06:02.719
And we are I guess is this combination of people, Mrs.
01:06:02.960 --> 01:06:03.440
Ideal?
01:06:04.000 --> 01:06:04.960
Oh, okay.
01:06:05.199 --> 01:06:06.079
I hope so.
01:06:06.320 --> 01:06:08.079
I don't know who that girl is, though.
01:06:08.400 --> 01:06:11.760
Okay, well, the other option is like hot potato or runny mascara.
01:06:11.840 --> 01:06:13.519
So we might have been like the best option here.
01:06:13.679 --> 01:06:14.000
Yeah.
01:06:14.320 --> 01:06:14.960
My girl.
01:06:15.199 --> 01:06:15.440
Okay.
01:06:15.679 --> 01:06:16.400
That feels fun.
01:06:16.559 --> 01:06:17.039
Yeah.
01:06:18.239 --> 01:06:19.119
That means I'm ready.
01:06:19.440 --> 01:06:20.000
That feels fun.
01:06:20.719 --> 01:06:26.400
So that what that means is that, you know, organic meats will happen.
01:06:26.639 --> 01:06:28.320
And we're not taking away from this.
01:06:28.559 --> 01:06:32.480
We're gonna go to the bar and you're gonna be like, well, Cosmo said I'm your ideal girl.
01:06:32.639 --> 01:06:36.320
So And that we're a combination of these three like amazing women.
01:06:36.480 --> 01:06:36.800
Yeah.
01:06:37.199 --> 01:06:40.639
So because of that, catch me in a week with a boyfriend.
01:06:40.880 --> 01:06:41.519
That's all right.
01:06:42.559 --> 01:06:43.119
It's a great catch.
01:06:43.360 --> 01:06:44.079
Yeah, that's all I have to say.
01:06:44.639 --> 01:06:47.039
Cosmo said it, and I don't we don't make the rules.
01:06:47.360 --> 01:06:48.000
We don't make the rules.
01:06:48.239 --> 01:06:49.599
That's like but we enforce them.
01:06:49.760 --> 01:06:51.280
That's so yeah.
01:06:51.519 --> 01:06:53.519
Okay, I have one last question for you.
01:06:54.000 --> 01:06:54.239
Okay.
01:06:54.480 --> 01:06:54.719
Yes.
01:06:54.880 --> 01:07:00.960
I'm gonna I'm gonna ask everyone that comes on the pod this what have you spiraled about recently?
01:07:01.280 --> 01:07:04.159
Anything fun or serious, whatever vibe.
01:07:04.400 --> 01:07:07.760
Yeah, I've spiraled a lot about gluten.
01:07:08.800 --> 01:07:21.599
I this year have like probably like partially consciously, partially subconsciously, have like had less gluten in like my day-to-day, but I am somebody who just loves bread.
01:07:21.840 --> 01:07:23.599
Like I love bread.
01:07:23.760 --> 01:07:31.920
I love cookies, I love like fried stuff, like like fried mozzarella sticks.
01:07:32.159 --> 01:07:33.039
Oh, I love Matamos.
01:07:33.599 --> 01:07:35.039
Like I it's in everything.
01:07:35.199 --> 01:07:51.039
I'm like, it is when you really think about it, so that what I I'm getting at here that I'm spiraling is that I like the less I had of it, the more I was like, when I would have it, like I would feel it more of like, oh no, like I've cut it out and now I'm having it.
01:07:51.119 --> 01:07:57.440
And like before I didn't used to feel like that, and now I feel like my stomach will really hurt, or like whatever.
01:07:57.679 --> 01:08:02.880
And it's just like sucks because I've gone to like get a sandwich, and like, what do you want to do when you go to a sandwich?
01:08:03.039 --> 01:08:04.400
I'll be like, I gotta get the sourdough.
01:08:04.719 --> 01:08:05.199
Like, of course.
01:08:05.679 --> 01:08:07.199
I'm gonna get like the best bread choice.
01:08:09.199 --> 01:08:11.519
Now I'm like, do I need to get gluten-free?
01:08:11.599 --> 01:08:12.719
Like, is it gonna hurt my song?
01:08:12.800 --> 01:08:13.280
You know what I mean?
01:08:13.360 --> 01:08:30.079
Like, I'm at I'm at an Italian restaurant and they bring out like all of our favorite things, like a bac a basket of free bread that you just keep like wanting to have with whatever butter, all oil, and you're like, wait, I maybe only can have like one slice of it, and like that feels really dark.
01:08:30.399 --> 01:08:31.039
That's really sad.
01:08:31.199 --> 01:08:40.720
Like in this day and age with like how life is and how stressed we are, like and I just want to grab for like a pe more than one piece of bread.
01:08:40.960 --> 01:08:42.079
Like, you know what I mean?
01:08:42.239 --> 01:08:43.840
So I'm just spiraling about this.
01:08:44.079 --> 01:08:44.479
Yeah.
01:08:44.800 --> 01:08:45.439
Bagels.
01:08:45.920 --> 01:08:47.039
Do you want to know a fun fact?
01:08:47.279 --> 01:08:47.680
What's that?
01:08:47.840 --> 01:08:53.680
My mom has celiac, and out of her three daughters, I was the one that got the gene for it.
01:08:53.760 --> 01:08:55.760
So I may have celiac in my food.
01:08:56.000 --> 01:08:58.239
Wait, do you also react to gluten?
01:08:58.640 --> 01:09:00.640
Not yet, but I could in the future.
01:09:00.960 --> 01:09:01.199
Wow.
01:09:01.359 --> 01:09:04.239
So I'm like, So, like eating the bread while you can.
01:09:04.640 --> 01:09:06.479
That is my message here.
01:09:07.039 --> 01:09:11.439
It's just yeah, it's I'm like, I'm that girl who's like, keep the bread rolling.
01:09:11.600 --> 01:09:17.199
Like let's not cancel the bread, like pasta, like I want to have like a pasta dish.
01:09:17.359 --> 01:09:17.600
Yeah.
01:09:18.159 --> 01:09:21.119
And maybe I want to end with a dessert that has gluten in it.
01:09:21.439 --> 01:09:21.680
Of course.
01:09:21.840 --> 01:09:22.800
And like sue me.
01:09:22.880 --> 01:09:23.039
Of course.
01:09:23.359 --> 01:09:36.000
And like sue me about that, because it's my night out, and I'm gonna spend money on a night out, and I'm not doing groceries, and I'm not cooking for myself, and I just want to be treated, and I I just want to have it.
01:09:36.239 --> 01:09:40.159
Do you remember when we went out, and I think me you and Krista got pizza sometimes?
01:09:40.319 --> 01:09:40.479
Yes.
01:09:40.720 --> 01:09:42.880
It was so necessary to keep going.
01:09:43.199 --> 01:09:45.680
It was amazing by the gluten.
01:09:46.000 --> 01:09:46.319
Yes.
01:09:46.800 --> 01:09:47.520
It's a power through.
01:09:47.760 --> 01:09:48.960
We were out and we were hungry.
01:09:49.119 --> 01:09:49.279
Yeah.
01:09:49.439 --> 01:09:56.720
And there was this amazing little like window pizza place where you like walk up, walk in, pick a slice, and sit on this super cute bench.
01:09:57.520 --> 01:09:58.000
We got the last one.
01:09:58.800 --> 01:10:01.039
Yeah, there were only three left, and we got the last three.
01:10:01.279 --> 01:10:03.439
We're like, okay, who's gonna take what?
01:10:03.520 --> 01:10:03.600
Yeah.
01:10:05.199 --> 01:10:07.359
Interview was like, I'll have whatever, and it worked out.
01:10:07.520 --> 01:10:10.560
We all we all sat on this super cute bench, like in front of the restaurant.
01:10:10.800 --> 01:10:12.239
It was that was such a cute moment.
01:10:12.399 --> 01:10:19.520
Yeah, like happy to report that like my stomach was fine that night, but I needed that to like because I think we started early at midnight.
01:10:19.680 --> 01:10:23.840
It might have been a Penmar night, I want to say, then turned into a going out.
01:10:24.000 --> 01:10:27.840
So when you're starting that early, it's like you need a gluten break.
01:10:28.079 --> 01:10:30.479
Now where we are in life, like we have to be responsible adults.
01:10:30.640 --> 01:10:35.520
Like we have to think about like earlier, we have to think about eating before or during drinking.
01:10:36.079 --> 01:10:39.680
We're 27 if you didn't hear water, we have to do water.
01:10:39.920 --> 01:10:42.079
Like, this is just you used to not be like this.
01:10:42.479 --> 01:10:43.279
It used to not be like this.
01:10:43.600 --> 01:10:48.399
You should just go out and like keep going the whole night, and it's like, oh I don't wake up.
01:10:48.720 --> 01:10:49.039
Food, what?
01:10:49.600 --> 01:10:52.319
Fine late night snack is good enough.
01:10:52.479 --> 01:10:53.199
Like no.
01:10:53.279 --> 01:10:54.800
Now it's like, did you eat before you go out?
01:10:54.960 --> 01:10:55.520
You have to prepare.
01:10:55.760 --> 01:10:57.279
Are you having water throughout the night?
01:10:57.439 --> 01:11:00.479
Like set yourself up for success the next day.
01:11:00.960 --> 01:11:06.239
You run, you're a runner, so like you I feel like sometimes you get up early after nights out.
01:11:06.399 --> 01:11:07.279
Like, I could never do that.
01:11:07.359 --> 01:11:08.399
I'm just like not cut out.
01:11:08.560 --> 01:11:08.880
Yeah.
01:11:09.199 --> 01:11:10.239
But respect.
01:11:10.399 --> 01:11:11.039
Yeah.
01:11:11.359 --> 01:11:16.319
I am I I I understand this spiral because I am quite a bagel fanatic.
01:11:16.479 --> 01:11:23.039
When I was growing up, my mom had to tell my dad to stop buying me bagels because I was eating them so often.
01:11:23.439 --> 01:11:26.319
Oh my god, she was afraid I was eating too many bagels.
01:11:26.560 --> 01:11:30.479
So then he bought me like the thin ones, and I was like, these suck.
01:11:30.640 --> 01:11:31.600
They're not the same.
01:11:32.960 --> 01:11:33.760
Wait, I know the thin ones.
01:11:34.079 --> 01:11:41.840
So now anytime I go home, I bet you like next week when I go home, there's gonna be a full stack of Thomas bagels because of my childhood trauma.
01:11:42.079 --> 01:11:43.039
Oh my gosh.
01:11:43.359 --> 01:11:45.920
And uh wait, what do you get on your bagel?
01:11:46.239 --> 01:11:50.720
So I like a like bacon, egg, and cheese, but I like the cheese to be cream cheese.
01:11:50.960 --> 01:11:51.920
So like cream cheese.
01:11:52.000 --> 01:11:53.279
Yes, yes, bacon and egg.
01:11:53.600 --> 01:11:53.920
Love it.
01:11:54.079 --> 01:11:54.800
Yeah, yeah.
01:11:54.960 --> 01:11:56.880
And sometimes like hot sauce.
01:11:57.279 --> 01:11:57.680
Perfect.
01:11:58.079 --> 01:11:58.800
And how I'm feeling.
01:11:58.960 --> 01:11:59.119
Yeah.
01:11:59.279 --> 01:11:59.680
How about you?
01:12:00.000 --> 01:12:02.239
I love like have you been to Courage bagels?
01:12:02.399 --> 01:12:03.119
No, amazing.
01:12:03.600 --> 01:12:03.920
You need to go.
01:12:04.159 --> 01:12:09.600
I think says the person who like loves and has a bad relationship with gluten.
01:12:09.920 --> 01:12:10.079
Yeah.
01:12:10.239 --> 01:12:10.720
You have to go.
01:12:10.800 --> 01:12:11.359
It's amazing.
01:12:11.520 --> 01:12:19.439
I feel like I love like cream cheese, a little black pepper, a little sea salt, maybe a little olive oil, or like a little butter or something.
01:12:19.520 --> 01:12:22.079
I feel like they have like a something where they do butter there.
01:12:22.239 --> 01:12:22.960
I don't know.
01:12:23.199 --> 01:12:23.600
Amazing.
01:12:23.760 --> 01:12:24.159
That's amazing.
01:12:24.319 --> 01:12:24.960
Like that's all I need.
01:12:25.039 --> 01:12:25.840
I don't need anything else.
01:12:26.000 --> 01:12:26.159
Yeah.
01:12:26.319 --> 01:12:30.159
Like anything else wouldn't be an enhancement, but I'm like, that is enough for me.
01:12:30.479 --> 01:12:31.840
That sounds so and that sounds amazing.
01:12:31.920 --> 01:12:32.720
And now I'm like hungry.
01:12:32.880 --> 01:12:33.359
Yeah, yeah.
01:12:34.239 --> 01:12:34.960
And now I want that.
01:12:35.279 --> 01:12:37.119
My spiral is also about food.
01:12:37.680 --> 01:12:38.239
Okay, yes.
01:12:38.479 --> 01:12:42.159
So there's this place by here called California Chicken Cafe.
01:12:42.560 --> 01:12:42.720
Ben.
01:12:43.119 --> 01:12:44.880
I love their chicken Caesar wrap.
01:12:44.960 --> 01:12:47.199
Like I love a good chicken Caesar wrap.
01:12:47.439 --> 01:12:50.079
They changed the recipe on the menu recently.
01:12:50.239 --> 01:12:50.560
No.
01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:55.119
And they added in avocado and they took out the Caesar dressing.
01:12:55.279 --> 01:12:57.680
Now, my Is the avocado the dressing?
01:12:57.840 --> 01:12:59.520
No, they just put the dressing on the side.
01:12:59.760 --> 01:13:06.560
But what I don't like avocados, and here in California, everything does not need to have avocados.
01:13:07.520 --> 01:13:10.960
This is the one wrap on the menu that didn't have an avocado.
01:13:11.039 --> 01:13:13.600
Do you need an avocado in your chicken Caesar salad wrap?
01:13:13.680 --> 01:13:16.560
No, you need the Caesar dressing in your chicken season salad wrap.
01:13:16.880 --> 01:13:17.359
And that's hard.
01:13:17.520 --> 01:13:18.560
It is hard to take that out.
01:13:18.800 --> 01:13:20.399
Like if you were like, oh just remove it.
01:13:20.640 --> 01:13:22.640
Like it's it's usually gets all over.
01:13:22.880 --> 01:13:25.600
And it, yeah, so that's my I'm not an avocado girl.
01:13:25.760 --> 01:13:26.239
Sue me.
01:13:26.640 --> 01:13:27.840
This feels like a hot take, though.
01:13:28.000 --> 01:13:28.239
Everything.
01:13:28.319 --> 01:13:29.600
Yeah, because everyone loves avocados.
01:13:30.000 --> 01:13:31.760
You usually have to pay extra for avocado, too.
01:13:32.319 --> 01:13:32.960
Everything.
01:13:33.199 --> 01:13:37.199
And now they've probably jacked up the normal price that I now have to pay for.
01:13:37.359 --> 01:13:38.720
Okay, maybe it's factored into the price.
01:13:38.960 --> 01:13:41.840
To say a couple dollars extra that.
01:13:42.000 --> 01:13:43.199
Yeah, I'm sure that's why they did it.
01:13:43.439 --> 01:13:43.920
Interesting.
01:13:44.319 --> 01:13:46.000
Did you like ask anyone what was up with that?
01:13:46.319 --> 01:13:48.399
I was talking to the guy at the window about it.
01:13:48.640 --> 01:13:48.880
Really?
01:13:48.960 --> 01:13:49.439
What did he say?
01:13:49.600 --> 01:13:53.119
Because I like ordered on my phone, just thinking it would be the normal recipe.
01:13:53.359 --> 01:13:53.600
Sure.
01:13:53.760 --> 01:13:54.800
Why would they change it up?
01:13:54.960 --> 01:14:01.600
And then I got there and I saw on like they have a walk-up window with a menu outside, and I was like, oh no.
01:14:02.319 --> 01:14:06.800
And he was like, Yeah, I was like, every single other one you're wraps has avocado.
01:14:06.880 --> 01:14:08.640
This one, it was fine without it.
01:14:08.960 --> 01:14:10.319
Did he like concur with you on it?
01:14:10.479 --> 01:14:16.640
Was he like he gave me like extra dressing without paying for it in like sauces and stuff?
01:14:16.800 --> 01:14:18.159
So shout out to it.
01:14:18.399 --> 01:14:22.079
It feels nice to be heard out sometimes by the people that like know the menu.
01:14:23.680 --> 01:14:24.880
It's not his fault.
01:14:25.119 --> 01:14:29.680
Like it's not his fault, but you know, sometimes it's nice to just like vent it out and be like, you know what?
01:14:29.760 --> 01:14:32.800
I'm a regular here and I'm disappointed by this.
01:14:32.960 --> 01:14:34.960
And I just needed to tell someone close to the source.
01:14:35.039 --> 01:14:36.720
Yeah, and then I just gotta get it off my chest.
01:14:38.000 --> 01:14:39.039
So yeah, I kind of had it.
01:14:39.119 --> 01:14:41.920
I just I just don't I don't get it, but you know.
01:14:42.079 --> 01:14:43.600
Yeah, that's my hot type.
01:14:43.760 --> 01:14:44.319
That's a fair one.
01:14:44.479 --> 01:14:45.119
Yeah.
01:14:45.439 --> 01:14:47.199
Well, how do you feel?
01:14:47.439 --> 01:14:47.680
Did you?
01:14:49.359 --> 01:14:50.239
This was so fun.
01:14:50.399 --> 01:14:54.560
This is like the first time I've ever been a guest on a podcast.
01:14:54.960 --> 01:15:04.159
Like, what more fun than to do it on yours and to also have been a part of the initial conversation when you were just like conceptualizing, you know, what if I did something like this?
01:15:04.319 --> 01:15:08.800
And I think it's amazing like to see you doing it, and I can't wait to see where it goes.
01:15:08.960 --> 01:15:13.279
I'm so excited to like be on it and be chatting with you, and it just feels like us normally.
01:15:13.359 --> 01:15:14.319
But yeah, you know, doing it.
01:15:14.720 --> 01:15:16.960
As we were talking, so many stories like came up in my head.
01:15:17.039 --> 01:15:20.239
I'm like, oh my god, I need to tell Emily about that, and I need to tell Emily that.
01:15:20.720 --> 01:15:22.720
There's probably so much more we could talk about.
01:15:22.960 --> 01:15:28.239
Yeah, like we'll just have to have a part two and do like a morning after night out thing and and all of that.
01:15:28.319 --> 01:15:29.279
But yeah, it's so fun.
01:15:29.600 --> 01:15:30.880
I am so grateful.
01:15:30.960 --> 01:15:33.199
Like, seriously, this means the world.
01:15:33.279 --> 01:15:34.399
Like, it was like Christmas.
01:15:34.479 --> 01:15:41.279
Like last night I was thinking about it, and I'm like, oh yeah, we're gonna talk about this, we're gonna talk about this, and like it means the world that you would like to take your time and come do this.
01:15:41.680 --> 01:15:42.640
I've been excited all week.
01:15:42.880 --> 01:15:44.319
I'm like, what are we gonna talk about?
01:15:44.479 --> 01:15:48.960
Like I yeah, I'm so happy and so proud of you, and thank you for having me on.
01:15:49.199 --> 01:15:52.800
Like, this is so fun, and I'm just like chimpy and you know, like along.
01:15:52.960 --> 01:15:53.760
I just can't wait to see you.
01:15:54.960 --> 01:15:57.359
And like we literally just met this year from day one.
01:15:57.520 --> 01:15:59.840
You just met this girl, and you were the sweetest.
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So I'm really, really grateful.
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And I love you too.
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This is so fun, I love that.
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Cheers.
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Yeah, we've been casually sipping our like hardest throughout.
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Okay.
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Well, that's all.
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We'll see you next time.
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Bye.
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Oh my god.