Mindset Monday - "Adversity"

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Hey, this is doctor Amber Selkin, host of the Building
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This is coach Louholtz and you're listening to Building Championship
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a better person, a better leader, coach, athlete, paarent or
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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to Building Championship Mindsets the podcast.
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I am your host, doctor Amber Selking, and we are
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in season two entitled Mindset Monday. So every Monday we
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are coming at you with a different mindset or a
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way of thinking about different scenarios that we go through
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in life, from sport to business. Right, So, here at
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the Selking Performance Group, we are all about helping teams, businesses,
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organizations and individuals from the locker room to the boardroom
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understand the power of mindset and leadership to drive sustainable excellence.
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to you again helping you understand sort of the brain
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science behind dominating life. That's how I like to refer
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to it with some of my clients. Right, how do
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we be great at life? It all starts. It all
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starts with our thoughts, It all starts in our minds,
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and so as a brief refresher, right, a mindset is
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a patterned way of thinking about anything. And if we
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can start adopting championship mindsets or patterned ways of thinking
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like a champion towards every endeavor or situation that we
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go into, we are going to better position ourselves, our team,
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and our organization for success. And so today in episode five,
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we're going to look at the championship mindset on adversity
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because again, champions view things differently than average or normal
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people do in this life, and we want to equip
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you to approach again adversity the way a champion does.
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And when we say champion, right, that has it as
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a sports connotation because we're really ingrained and endeavor in
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the field of athletics. I'm the mental performance coach for
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the University of Notre Dame football program and we work
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with businesses, like I said, in organizations around the country,
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but really using sport as a launching pad to understand
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these concepts in our everyday lives. And so before we
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go too much further, because this topic is really in
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alignment with what the two books that we've just released
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on Amazon as ebooks are all about. So again we
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released two ebooks. One is called a Dream Come True,
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the Buzz on Greatness, and the second is called A
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Winner Circle.
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And so it's sort of a fable or a fairy tale,
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not fairy tale, a fable.
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I guess about this little bee named Zip who starts
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out with a short deck, right, and she has just
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this dominant mindset on the adversity that she faces. And
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so in book one, again a Dream Come True the
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Buzz on Greatness, we learn about how can we take
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a dream that we have, however lofty and a adopt
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the mindset principles that it takes to achieve that dream.
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And so again you follow this little b through this
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story and through her encounters with other forest animals, and
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she really learns what it takes to be successful and
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to accomplish her dream. And although again a fable setting,
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it's really grounded in the fields of positive psychology and leadership,
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and there's some key takeaways from those scientific perspectives that
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you can begin to integrate into your life to help
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you overcome that adversity. And the second is called winner circle, right. So,
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once we sort of get going on our dream and
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we really gain footage, how can we start to give
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back to others and build winners right in every domain?
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And so in that book you really learn some key
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takeaways that you can integrate into how you think, into
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how you function to really accomplish the goals in your life.
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So I want to encourage you to check those out.
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They are in Amazon and there will be a link
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in the episode notes for you to get those. They're
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really cheap nine ninety nine again that you can get
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as ebooks and a great start if you're just getting
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into this whole mindset thing, or really great refreshers for
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those of us that are reading leadership books, that are
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reading psychology books that are really in depth in Harvest,
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Harvard Business Review and all of these sort of higher
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level readings. Sometimes it's great to go back and look
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at some of these concepts that we read a lot
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about very in depth to very basic level and sort
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of strip away all of the fluff, not really fluff
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in some of those reports, but all of the extras, right,
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and come back to just basic understandings of how we
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know and what we know about being great in this world.
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So please check.
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Those out, love your thoughts and feedback on those again,
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check them out on Amazon and let us know your thoughts.
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But that really tees us up then to looking at
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the mindset markers on a championship mindset around adversity. So
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the first right The first reminds me of an old
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Billy Currington song because the first mindset marker that champions
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think when they face adversity is must be doing something right. Okay,
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Because when champions encounter adversity, and instead of freaking out
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and saying, oh my.
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God, why is this happening? Am I not good enough?
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Am I?
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Am I not smart enough? I'm not strong enough? Are
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we not good enough to accomplish this? No, it's hey,
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we must be doing something right. If we're starting to
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get a little pushback here, or we're starting to engage
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in some challenges along the way, well we must be
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on the right track then. And So one way to
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help develop this mindset marker for you, instead of sort
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of hit the panic mode button to this mindset of okay,
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must be doing something right, let's sort of hunker down
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and get into this, is to really step back and
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remind yourself who you are and why you are doing
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what you are doing. So, to give a personal example
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of this, when I entered graduate school, I had a
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heart to work in business and in football, right, so
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two very predominantly male dominated spaces, right, And immediately I
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was told you'll never work in football and business hasn't
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really dove into this quite yet. And you know, my
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first thought was, well, that's where my heart is, that's
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what I feel like I'm being called to do, So
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why why not? Right? And the more I talked about it,
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the more pushback I got. And so you know what
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I did. I just stopped talking about it and I
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started working on it. And so every paper, right, every project,
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everything that I have done or I did throughout my
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entire graduate study career was centered on mindset and leadership
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as it relates to either the business world or the
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football world, and specifically the college football world. And so
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I just realized that, hey, this is who I am,
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this is what I feel called to be doing, and
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so the pushback that I'm getting must mean that I'm
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on the right track. And instead of keeping all the
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pushback coming by talking about it, I'm just going to
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quiet down and do my work and start building right
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my mentality and my processes and how I want to
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do my work one day in the business settings and
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in the football space. And needless to say, here we
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are today, you know, five seven years later, looking at
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and doing on a daily basis, applications of mindset and
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leadership in business and in football and other sports, you know,
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across the board, but predominantly those two. And so again
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that first mindset marker of a champion when they face
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adversity is not the panic mode. Is not oh am
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I doing it right? Or should I do it differently?
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It's I must be doing something right. So thank you,
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Billy Currington. If you don't know that song, go check
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it out. It'll just it'll it'll put lyrics and music
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behind that phrase.
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Okay, all right.
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So that leads us then into the second mindset marker.
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So when when champions encounter adversity, they recognize immediately, hey,
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there's a purpose in this pain, right, there's a purpose
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to this pain, or there's a purpose to this struggle.
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And you know, they really don't try to avoid the
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pain right and think it's a bad thing, but rather
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they recognize it as an opportunity to get better, to
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develop grit. Right.
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Eric Thomas has in his speech.
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Like don't quit now you're already in pain, get a
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reward for it, right, Like, if you've gone this far
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and you've done the things necessary to get you to
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this to this place, now embrace the pain, right, recognize
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that this is going to be a part of your
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story and a part of your journey, and this pain
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there is purpose in it, and there there's a honing
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process in it.
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Okay.
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So again, if you're experiencing that pain, recognize that there
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is a purpose in it, right, which then leads us
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to the third mindset marker, which is this is part
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of the process. Okay, champions understand that pain, that struggle,
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that adversity is part of the process, and it is
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here that we need to hone our focus to develop
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the hardwired skill it takes to be successful at the
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neurological level.
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Okay.
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So again, when we're in pain, we're in adversity, we're
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in struggle. What it does is it sort of alerts
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all of our senses, right, It makes us more aware
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of everything going on around us and within us. And
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what we need to allow that to do in order
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to develop this championship mindset is not to remove ourselves
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from that pain or to jump out of the process,
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but rather to hone our focus on the necessary elements
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it's going to take for us to be successful. And
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what this does is literally build skill at the neurological level.
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So the book The Talent Code, written by Daniel Coyle
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is one of my favorite books. It'll be in the
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episode notes for you to check out. But he talks
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about how skill is actually developed and when we really
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hone our attention onto specific elements that we're working on,
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it actually hyper milinates, right, and my l nation is
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the process that leads to talent and skill development. And
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so at the neurological level, we are going to be
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building skill that we need to be successful if we
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allow our attention and our mindset and in our heart
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set to really go to that place right and not
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avoid the pain or step out of the process, but
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rather again hone your focus onto the elements necessary for
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you to be successful and to get better, and that
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is going to hardwire skill.
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Again.
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Let's use my example of me writing all of my papers,
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doing all of my projects on business and football, right,
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that was narrowing my attention and honing my skill literally
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at the neurological level, to understand the individuals with whom
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I would be working and to develop processes and programs
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and opportunities to teach and to train these individuals to
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develop championship mindsets. The fourth mindset marker of a champion
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in terms of adversity is they view adversity as preparation
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for the next phase. So a lot of people they
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face adversity and what do they want to do. They
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want to jump out, They don't want to engage in
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the struggle because it's scary, it's hard, and their mindset
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is I can't wait to get through this adversity, so
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I never have to think about it again.
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Right.
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Rather, champions see that as, hey, this is going to
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be part of my story.
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Right, it's this.
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It is this adversity that I am going through that
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is making me and literally molding me into the man
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or woman that I need to be for the next
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phase of whatever I'm going to be called to do.
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Right from a business standpoint, from a sports standpoint, from
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a relationship standpoint, it is the adversity that we go
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through that literally hones us and builds us and strengthens
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us from the inside out to be prepared for whatever
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it is we have next. If we never go through adversity,
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if we never go through challenge, we come out we
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don't get that strong, right like to do great things
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in this world. We've got to have a sense of
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strength to us from the inside out, right, and it's
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adversity that helps us build that. I always use the
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analogy right of a diamond. I mean, diamonds are one
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of the most precious stones in the world, But how
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do they get formed? Right at the start, diamonds are
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just coal. But if they go through the process of
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extended pressure and heat, they turn into diamonds. Now, if
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we pull that coal out before it really gets forged,
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then it's it's a cheap diamond, right, and it's not
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as valuable. We as humans are the same thing. If
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we go through the process, and we go through the
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adversities in the struggle, and we really engage in that,
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engage in the pressure and engage in the heat of
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whatever it is that we're going through, and.
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We allow it to mold us at the right time.
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that is that is necessary for us to accomplish the
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next phase in our life. Right for a diamond that
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goes into jewelry or to you know, equipment and to
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sharpening equipment. So you know, whatever this looks like for you,
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keep reminding yourself that this is making you into who
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you need to be for the next phase of your life,
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and when you look back, you can embrace that adversity
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that you went through and see it as part of
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your journey, right of part of your strength, of part
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of why you are qualified or credible to do what
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it is that you need to do in the next
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phase of your world. Rather than pretending like it never happened,
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never looking at it again, and trying to cut it
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out of your life, that's an unfortunate way to live,
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you know. I get that life is an easy, business
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is an easy. Sport isn't easy. But we can't just
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jump through adversity, right. We have to engage in it.
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We have to let the pressure mold us, let the
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heat mold us, and then we have to acknowledge all
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that we've been through because it's in that that we
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gain our credibility to be doing what it is that
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we are doing. Finally, the fifth marker, which is not
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necessarily building on the first four. But a lot of
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times champions have pre planned for adversity, right, So when
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adversity strikes a lot of times people that are that
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are in this mindset right of how things actually work
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in this world in business and sport, they're not surprised
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by adversity, right, because because often they have pre planned
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for that adversity. And so how do we do this?
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This is a really critical element for us to understand.
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So there's everybody knows what feedback is, right, So we
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do something and we get information in a response to
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what it is that we do, we get feedback, right, Okay,
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Now what adjustments do we need to make for the
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next time that we encounter that experience? Well, feed forward
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is something that happens at the brain level, right, and
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at the neurological level, where if we think in advance
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of what adversity we might face or what struggles we
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might encounter, and we plan for what are we going
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to think, say, or do in that moment. Then as
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we're going through our business cycer, or we're going through
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our training session and we hit that wall, right, or
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we run into that adversity. Now, instead of sort of
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bouncing off of the wall and sitting back and saying, oh, no,
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what are we going to do?
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Should we quit?
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Should we divert should we develop another business strategy, should
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we do a different type of training?
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Instead of doing that and sort of losing precious time, right,
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the worlds that we're functioning and happen fast. We're in
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a fast paced environment, and so we have to be
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prepared for that. And instead of allowing adversity to set
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us back or to derail us, rather if we if
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we develop these you know, I'd like to call them ADPs,
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adversity domination plans. Now, as soon as we hit that adversity,
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the plan is already engaged. We've got a blueprint in
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our mind, and so our mind literally subconsciously sets that
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plan into action, which allows us to fight back immediately,
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to break through that adversity and keep engaging through the process.
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And so, you know, a way to develop a better
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championship mindset on adversity is to literally pre plan for it.
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Develop these ADPs, these adversity domination plans for yourself, for
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your team, for your organization, so that when these when
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these adversities strike, we're ready for them. I think, you know,
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this is an extreme example, but I had the op
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opportunity to listen to Rudy Giuliani former Mayor Rudy Giuliani. Jesus, sorry,
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I'm stuttering a little bit. Former Mayor Rudy Giuliani from
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New York City speak at Coach Holtz's Hall of Fame
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event a couple of years ago in Ohio. And you know,
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he said, when he was mayor in New York, they
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planned for everything. They planned for air attacks, they planned
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for tunnel attacks, they planned for mail attacks. And he
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had his men, all of men and women, all of
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the units in New York City. They went through rigorous training,
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and they had blueprints of every building, all the streets,
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and they were they were ready for anything except perhaps
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airplanes going into the twin towers, because that was just
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so unfathomable. Right, And so this is how adversity works.
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A lot of times. We can think through as many
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options as we can think through, right, and at the
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end of the day, something still might come out of
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the air literally and surprise attack us, something that we
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weren't specifically ready for.
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But here's what he also said.
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He said, it was the rigorous training that we had
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done years and months and days leading up to nine
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to eleven that prepared us to respond in the ways
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that we did. Right, Because again, we had a blueprint
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for every building. We knew where every escape door was,
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we knew where every underground tunnel was, and that was
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that allowed us to save hundreds of people, right, even
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though you know, it was horrific the amount of lives
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that were lost, but the additional catastrophe that they were
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able to mitigate and minimize because of that planning was
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huge for them. And so this was an example of
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feed forward plans. If X happens, we are going to
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do why, If Z happens, we are going to do B.
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Right.
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They had contingency plans and adversity plans for everything, and
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so even when something might come at us that we
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haven't specifically planned for, because we have gone through this
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planning process, we are going to be better positioned to
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deal with that, to fight back, and to immediately respond,
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which is exactly what Rudy Giuliani and.
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His team were able to do on that day. That
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was quite dramatic.
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I wasn't really intending to go there, but you know,
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nine to eleven is a recent day in our history currently,
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and so you know, that's been on my heart and mind,
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and I just wanted to be able to use that
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because I think that you know, in our own lives,
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I think sometimes we feel like we get these air attacks, right,
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we get these sneak attacks and where did that even
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come from?
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What does this mean? How is this happening?
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But if we are intentional about knowing who we are,
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about knowing what resources we have at our disposable, at
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our disposal, and we have the right people in place
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to enact those plans when things happen, we position ourselves
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to dominate even when adversity strikes, and America came out
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stronger on that day, and just like and just like that,
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we can do that in our own lives. And so
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again a recap of the five mindset markers, right and
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mindset and markers are just these triggers, right or indications
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of things that may come. So when we have these
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markers build into our mind we would say, hey, that's
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a championship mindset. So the five markers on a championship
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mindset around adversity our first, you know, it's that mentality that, hey,
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we must be doing something right because we're facing a
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little pushback. We've got a little bit of challenge. So
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people or things might might be after us or on us,
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and that's all right. The second is there is purpose
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to this pain or this struggle, and I understand that,
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and I'm going to engage in it. Because the third
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marker is that adversity pain is part of the process,
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and if I am able to stay in that process,
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I know that it leads me to the next marker, right,
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which this is preparation for the next phase of whatever
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it is that I'm going to be asked to do
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on my team, in my business, in my family. And
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then finally, this re planning around adversity is another marker
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that marks a mindset of champions Right. We pre plan
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for the challenges that we're going to face in our marriages,
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in our in our communities, in our businesses, in our teams. Right,
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And when we pre plan for those things, when those
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adversities strike, we are equipped to respond immediately and to
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continue fighting for what it is that we're after in
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our mission, in our purpose, in our in our vision.
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That we're after.
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That leads us that I'm going to leave you with
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some championship mindset training, right, So some mindset training that
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you can do to build a championship mindset around adversity.
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And as you might have guessed, right, I want you
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to identify what are some potential adversities that you might
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face individually or in your team or in your organization
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and then build a feed forward plan right or this
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adversity domination plan that you are going to enact when
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that happens. And again, these plans are very simple. What
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am I going to think? What am I going to say,
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and what am I going to do when this happens.
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So every scenario or every adversity that you identify that
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you might encounter, I want you to develop this ADP
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very simple. When this happens. What am I going to think?
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What am I going to say to myself? And what
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am I going to do? And so again that's building
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at the neurological level a blueprint for when that thing
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happens that will immediately set that plan into motion so
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that you can better navigate the adversity that you are encountering.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I just want to thank you so
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much for being with us today on episode five of
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Building Championship Mindsets, the podcast where we Are in season
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two of Mindset mondays and today again we looked at
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the championship mindset on adversity. If you'd like some more
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can help your team or your organization by coming to
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like to build championship mindsets in your organization, please reach
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we build the mindsets that can help us achieve that
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from the individual and organizational perspective.
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Thank you so much for.
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building your championship mindset.
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