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Have you ever felt like losing someone you love also meant losing a part of yourself? Maybe you've been struggling to move forward, pursue your dreams, or feel like yourself again after experiencing grief.
In this deeply emotional and transformative episode, Thais Gibson sits down with Shalaka to explore how unresolved grief, subconscious core wounds, and the loss of emotional safety can create patterns that feel like self-sabotage.
After losing her mother, Shalaka found herself struggling to reconnect with her creativity, confidence, and sense of purpose. Through their conversation, Thais helps her uncover how grief can impact our identity, self-worth, and ability to take action toward the life we want.
You'll discover why grief isn't just about missing someone, how to reconnect with the parts of yourself that feel lost, and practical ways to rebuild emotional security, self-trust, and intrinsic worthiness.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
- Why unresolved grief can show up as self-sabotage and difficulty pursuing your dreams
- How losing an important attachment figure can impact your identity and emotional security
- The connection between subconscious core wounds, unworthiness, and feeling undeserving of happiness
- How to release guilt and the belief that you should have done more for someone you lost
- Why reclaiming your authenticity and self-expression is an important part of healing
- How to rebuild self-belief without relying on external validation
- Practical exercises to reconnect with your intrinsic worth and cultivate emotional safety
- How to build a trustworthy support system while honoring your boundaries
Timestamps:
00:00 – How Grief Can Make You Feel Lost and Disconnected
01:50 – Why Self-Sabotage May Be Blocking Your Dreams
05:11 – Three Root Causes of Subconscious Blocks
09:19 – Losing a Parent and the Impact on Emotional Security
12:18 – Understanding the Emotional Needs Behind Grief
15:03 – Why Grief Can Create an Identity Crisis
17:46 – Releasing Guilt and the Belief You Should Have Done More
24:29 – How Loss Changes Your Sense of Self
27:15 – Reclaiming the Parts of Yourself You Feel You've Lost
29:07 – Rebuilding Authenticity and Self-Expression
34:43 – Developing Self-Trust and Asking for Support
37:26 – Learning to Be Unapologetically Yourself
45:37 – Healing Core Wounds of Unworthiness
47:47 – An Exercise to Build Intrinsic Self-Worth
54:34 – Rebuilding Emotional Safety After Loss
56:03 – Nervous System Regulation and Creating a Support System
59:30 – Moving Forward With Confidence and Purpose
Meet Thais
Thais Gibson, PhD, is a Best-Selling Author, Pastoral Counselor, Relationship Coach, and the founder of The Personal Development School (PDS). Between 2013 and 2019, she developed Integrated Attachment Theory® (IAT), the Six-Step Method to Becoming Secure, a framework rooted in neuroscience, attachment theory, psychology, and spirituality, trademarked in October 2021. IAT works across six pillars:
✔ Rewire Your Attachment Core Wounds
✔ Learn Your Attachment Needs
✔ Regulate Your Nervous System Somatically
✔ Learn Healthy Boundaries
✔ Improve Communication
✔ Rewire Your Unhealthy Protest Behaviors
Since opening in 2020, PDS has grown to serve over 70,000 students in 145 countries, achieving a 97% satisfaction rate and helping people reprogram their subconscious patterns and build thriving, secure relationships.
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