Beyond Mindset Limits - Tisha Marie Cain JD, CHt September 02, 2026 Every Problem has a Teacher

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Welcome to Beyond Mindset Limits with Tisha Marie Cain. Here,
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we explore how unlocking your mindset can pave the way
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for unlimited success. Discover how to create opportunities through legal
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challenges and transform your business and life with effective public
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relations strategies. Get ready to elevate your journey and maximize
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your potential. Now, let's welcome your host, Tisha Marie Cain.
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Hi, you guys, and welcome back to Beyond Mindset Limits,
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where we go beyond surface level thinking and into real transformation,
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the kind that changes your life, it changes your business,
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and it changes who you become. I am your host,
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Miss Tisha Marie Kane. I am the CEO and founder
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of Beyond Mindset Limits. I'm a publicist. I'm a publisher.
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I'm a transformational expert. And I've gone from the courtroom
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to the microphone. I'm helping people win in life, in business,
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and beyond that. And this platform is about elevating voices,
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expanding perspectives, and bringing you tools to truly step into
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your power. And today, the conversation is personal because we're
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going to talk about... Every problem has a teacher. And
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I have been seeing this show up this week. Interesting
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how the synchronicities of life just like show up out
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of the ether when I develop these radio shows to
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come to you because I'm a teacher and I'm a
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preacher and I'm here to help. elevate uh humanity's vibration
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and perspective so that we can come correct and start
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living on the new earth and it's interesting now these
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synchronicities i've had a lot of teachers this week so
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let's dive in and i want to begin with a
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question what if the problem keeping you up at night
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is not your punishment but it's your teacher Think about that.
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Think about that for a second. What if the problem
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keeping you up at night is not your punishment, but
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as your teacher? What if the difficult client, that delayed payments,
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that misunderstanding, the person who triggered you? Ooh, I love triggers.
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The email that annoyed you this week, the conversation that
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made you go, what? The mistake in your systems, the
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things that made you say, are you kidding me right now?
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Was not the problem. What if it was the classroom, right?
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I've been talking about this to my clients and my
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family all week. We've had to pause and look at
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all these little annoyances, all these little distractions, things that
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are just like, are you kidding me right now? And
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ask ourselves, what if this was teaching me something? Why
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does this always happen to me is what my client
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said this week. Or you can say something I told her.
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I said, you can keep saying, why is this always
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happening to me? Or you can say, thank you, coach.
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What am I supposed to learn here? And I'm telling
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you right now, I have a lot of education, 17
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years in college. It's annoying, right? And that stems from
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hustling from my worth, being a middle child. I mean,
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I've gone deep, right? I've gone to the jungle. I've
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gone to the courtroom, to the boardroom. I've done all
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of the spiritual retreats and transformational things to really dive
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deep into life. who Tisha Marie Cain is. And I
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come to you today with this radio station to be
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able to preach to you and teach to you and
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be able to elevate your life. So I have the
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wisdom and the experience and the education to bring this
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to you. If you want to pick it up today,
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I'm throwing down some nuggets. Are you guys ready? Like,
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if you're ready, reach over to that radio station and
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turn it up because today's show is going to be
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freaking awesome, okay? The shift is the difference between victim
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consciousness and student consciousness. That shift is the difference between
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suffering in the problem and extracting the wisdom from the problem.
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And I don't know about you guys, but I spent
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my whole 40s All of my 40s suffering until I
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realized I was the cause of all of my suffering.
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I moved out of the effect of my life into
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the cause of my life and that transformed everything for me.
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So I want to bring this concept to you today
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to transform your life into thinking things differently. differently, instead
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of being annoyed at something, you should revert back is
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what is this teaching me from a victim consciousness to
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a student consciousness? I'm a lifelong learner, right? Everyone is
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teaching me something. And I normally say, thank you, coach.
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Thank you, teacher, right? The shift is how we alchemize negativity.
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The shift is how we transmute the things that could
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take us down and use them to build our next level. Now,
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let me be clear. This is not spiritual bypassing. No,
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this is not pretending harmful behavior is okay because it isn't.
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This is not saying you should allow people to mistreat
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you because we shouldn't. This is not saying you should
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not hold your boundaries because I believe in boundaries. And
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this is not saying that everything happens, feels good to us. No,
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some things are frustrating. Some people are difficult. Some experiences
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are unclear. Some situations require correction and some people need
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to be told no. But the deeper question is, can
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I hold the boundary and still take the lesson, right?
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Can I say, no, you don't get to violate me
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and also say, Thank you, coach. I see what you're
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teaching me because that's where the real power is. And
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I believe in personal power. Like no one could take
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your power away from you unless you give it away.
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I'm like, oh, you don't get my power today, honey.
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Right.
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And I revert back to me like, nope, I'm not
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giving you any attention. And that's the real work. That's
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personal development in real time. And I'm really, what's the word, aware.
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Like I'm so self-aware that it's so annoying to me
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when others aren't self-aware. And let me give you a
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little example that happened to me this week. It was
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so great. My husband and I went out to a
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local coffee shop to get coffee in the morning. And
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we're sitting there, we're enjoying our coffee. I'm journaling in
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my journal. I'm just kind of going through a three
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page mind dump to get everything out of my mind
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and then call in what's meant for me. And all
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of a sudden about five people came to the local
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coffee shop and they were laughing and joking and being
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so loud. And they were outside of their awareness. Like
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they weren't even considerate of our space and our personal
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time there. Like they weren't even considerate of the space.
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And I'm like, I looked at them and I like
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glared at them and I'm like, are these guys so, uh,
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you know, unaware, so unselfaware of what's going on that
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it's outside of their purview. And, and sure enough, it was,
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they didn't care. They, they thought they were the only
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people there at their coffee shop and no one else mattered.
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And I said, Ooh, thank you coach. And what I
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did is I turned that back inside. Okay. Where am
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I not aware of violating other people's spaces? So all
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day it became a spot where, okay, when I got
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in line at the grocery market, I made sure there
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was enough space between me and the person. I was
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just like really acutely aware of what was happening because
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what I saw in the morning was these people were
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so unaware of how they affected everyone that I was
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annoyed at that. So what I did is I took
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that teaching and And then carried it throughout the day
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and was acutely aware of how I was operating. And
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it was great, right? So I transmuted that annoyance from
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the morning to like, ooh, thank you, coach. One of
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the core ideas that I wanted to bring to you
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about this conversation today comes from A Course in Miracles.
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And A Course in Miracles, I don't know if you
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guys have ever, it's been around, I think, since 1972.
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But it teaches again and again about that perception matters.
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The way that we see something determines the way that
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we experience it. And the miracle is often not the
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outside situation that instantly changes. The miracle is that our
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perception about it changes. We see it differently. We begin
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to ask differently. We begin to interpret differently. And when
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our perception changes, our experience changes. And that's why today's
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teachings matter because most people don't suffer only from what happened.
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They suffer from the meaning they attach to what happened, right?
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The event is one layer. The story is another layer.
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And often the story becomes heavier than the event. Someone
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sends a difficult email, right? Let's give that example. And
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that is the event. But then the mind says, hmm,
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they're disrespecting me. People always take advantage of me. I
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cannot trust anyone, right? All this stuff goes on in
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your head. Why does this always happen to me? See,
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they're disrespecting me again. They harmed me. I have to
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defend myself. Now that event has become a whole identity
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and that's where suffering multiplies. Trust me. I know. I
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just put out on my social media a couple of
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days ago, I used to be an injustice collector, right?
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When I looked at the anti-family court, the criminal justice court.
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These systems need so much reform. And I was so
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angry at these systems. And I was like, see, more injustice. See,
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more injustice. See, they don't even follow their own rules. See,
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they make you follow all the rules and make sure
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all the paperwork is perfect and you can't miss a
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single box. But the moment... They miss a single box.
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It's okay. It's like that hierarchy of I'm the parent
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do as I say, not as I do. And I
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hate that.
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Right.
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So I used to be an injustice collector and I'd
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just collect all of these injustice. And you know what
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I found out about myself? I was getting madder and
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madder and I was angry and my mindset was in
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the gutter and it wasn't helping me at all. It wasn't.
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It became a whole identity where that suffering was multiplying
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over and over and over. And the problem is no
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longer just the problem. The problem becomes evidence. Evidence that
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you're unsupported, evidence that people are bad, evidence that these
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judges suck, like nobody cares about my family, evidence that
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business is hard, right? Evidence that you can't trust clients,
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all the things. Evidence that life is against you. But
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let me ask you this. What if you stopped collecting
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evidence for your victim story? What if you collected evidence
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for the lesson? And that's what I'm talking about today.
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I get excited about this because when I transmuted this
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and turned this in my mind, my whole life opened up.
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What if the question became, what is this teaching me
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about my systems? What is this teaching me about my
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boundaries or communication about my pricing? Right? Right? What is
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this teaching me about how I allow people into my space?
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What is this teaching me about slowing down? What is
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this teaching me about what needs to be clarified? And
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that's the miracle inside this lesson. The miracle is the
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shift from this is against me to this can be
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used for me. Okay. Okay. So I got to share
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another little example because Tisha Marie Cain is a woman
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of a thousand stories. It's like, you know, I am
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collecting evidence of these social experiments every day in my life.
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And I'm like, why did this appear in my reality? Right.
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So just the other day, I do all things. As
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you guys know, I am a registered process server and
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a client paid me one hundred and fifty dollars to
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go out and serve a hospital in a certain area.
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So they were suing the hospital for like a medical
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malpractice thingamajig. And I had to serve the agent for service.
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And so I did the job. I drove out there.
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It was 45 minutes away from my office. I served
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it to the agent of service. I printed out the documents.
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There were 17 pages. I went into the hospital. I
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served the correct agent for service. I handled the process professionally.
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Then I drove approximately 45 minutes back to my office.
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In addition to that physical act of service, He received
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something very important, my signature as a registered process server
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confirming that the service had been handled, right? As a
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registered process server, according to the evidence code, if you
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have a registered process server on, it holds more weight
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in these courthouses. So that matters, right? It's not just nothing.
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This is the work that I do. So now I
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charged him through one of the Square apps, the $ 150.
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But what I didn't realize was the stinking Square app
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had added 3% fee, but it labeled it as a
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California tax. And that's not right. Right. It wasn't accurate.
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And I didn't know. It was mislabeled. It should have
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been labeled as a service charge for using the credit
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card over the phone, but it wasn't. So fast forward,
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the client later figured out that the person he needed
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to serve was not the right person and that he
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needed someone served up four hours away. And I was like, okay,
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I explained that that's outside my service area. I'd be
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happy to go if you want to pay for it,
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of course. But he needed to find another process server
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to go and handle that job there. And then... He
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asked for a refund. I'm like, what? He wanted the
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whole hundred and fifty dollars back. Now, let's pause there.
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This is where life starts coaching me, because in that
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moment I had a choice. I could become reactive. I
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could become defensive. I could become angry. I could absorb
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that victim story. I could let him create chaos inside
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my nervous system. And heck, no, nobody gets that kind
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of power anymore. Or I could slow down and ask,
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what is actually mine here? And this is the powerful question.
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What is actually mine here? Was it mine that he
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asked me to serve the hospital? No. That was his instruction.
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Was it mine that I completed the job? Yes, I
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did complete the job. Was it mine that he later
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realized he needed someone in another county? No, that's not mine.
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Was it mine that the app mislabeled the service as
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a California tax? Yes, that was what needed correction. And
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so what did I do? I refunded him the $ 5. 25
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fee because he was absolutely right. There should not have
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been a labeled California tax. So if you guys use
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any of these payment apps, make sure it says what
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it is because that's not accurate, right? And I deal
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in equity. I deal in fair dealings. And that was
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the fair thing to do. That was clean. That was accountable.
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But I was not refunding the full $ 150 because the
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job had been performed. And this is the difference between
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responsibility and over responsibility. Responsibility says, I will correct what
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is mine. Over responsibility says, I will absorb what is
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yours so that you don't feel uncomfortable, which is crap.
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You know, like, no, I'm not doing in the past.
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I would have done that. And it wasn't mine. I
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performed the job that he told me to do. I
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went to the hospital that he told me to do.
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I served the agent. And then arbitrarily, willy nilly, he
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found out that it wasn't you know, the correct hospital.
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And this is where the teaching gets deeper. The client
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was serving a lawsuit because he believed he had been
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harmed by the hospital. And now he believed he had
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been harmed by me. So I automatically knew I was
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dealing with someone in victim mentality. Of course, he'd been harmed.
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He was, you know, he was asking for, I think
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it was three point something million dollars for this hospital.
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And I was serving service of process. And now he's
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being harmed by me. And I was like, okay. And
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what I could see was he was looking through a
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very narrow lens, the victim lens. a silo, tunnel vision, right?
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When someone in that state, they often cannot see the
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whole picture. They often only see harm or they only
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see the offense. And I see this time and time again,
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because I do all things, right? I coach, I have
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our legal business, I do all the things. And so
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I see clients who come to me who have actually
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been harmed, right? So it doesn't mean that their original
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pain was not real. It does mean that they have
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been harmed, but it doesn't mean that they do not
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deserve justice. But if a person begins to filter every
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experience through the question, how am I being harmed now?
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They will find evidence everywhere. And this is dangerous, you guys,
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because the mind is powerful. Whatever you focus on, and
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this is the core principles of my teaching, whatever you
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focus on grows. My family and me, we focus on gratitude.
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We are just so grateful, right? And the prayer that
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I pray every day is, may all the clients who
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need me find me. That's it. I'm available and open.
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So you could do this prayer too, right? I'm available
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and ready and open to serve on levels, you know,
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beyond my wildest dreams.
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Right.
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And I just say this prayer may, may all the
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clients who need me find me. Right. And, and it's
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so powerful. If you focus on being victimized, your mind
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will find evidence of victimization. If you focus on being unsupported,
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your mind will find evidence that you're unsupported. If you
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focus on the lesson, your mind might just find the
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wisdom that, If you focus on the teacher, your mind
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might find instruction, right? So I look at it like, okay,
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I was a bit annoyed that he asked for the
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whole $ 150 back. I should have charged him more for service, actually,
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because it was a lot of time and money and effort.
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But I didn't because I believe in equity. I believe
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in doing the fair thing I believe in doing the
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right thing My last name, Kane, is congruence, authenticity, integrity,
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and no agendas. So I live up to that standard.
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And someone told me yesterday, Tisha, you're the most integral
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person I've ever met. Yes, I am. Because I will
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look deep and see where my systems are failed. I
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will look deep and see if there's something I could
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correct to be better because maybe there was a miss.
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And I tell you right now, This client who hired
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me for the service, he was absolutely right. That should
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not have been labeled as California tax. And it was.
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So my systems were broken. He was teaching me. He
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was teaching me. And I went in there. Guess what?
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It's fixed. So now it's like dialing in my systems.
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So everything's a well-oiled machine because the last thing I
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want to do is harm anyone. I'm here to help
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and teach people. And, and get you guys to the
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next level. The last thing I want to do is
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harm anyone. But I told the guy, the client, I said,
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get on the phone right now. I said, I want
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to talk to you in person. And you and I
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are going to have a little discussion about this because
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if I've harmed you, I want to make it right,
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right now. Right. And this goes back to biblical teachings, right? You, uh,
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you ask your, you don't harm your neighbor, right? You
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ask for forgiveness. Hey, neighbor, you know what? I messed up.
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Please forgive me. You just don't take their butt straight
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to court. You have to ask. That's why the court's like,
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did you give them notice? You have to go over
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there and say, hey, you know what? You harmed me.
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Is there anything you could do to help make this right?
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You got to do that first before you haul their
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butts off to court. So I told my client, get
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on the phone. And of course, my client, because he's
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in a victim mentality, he didn't want to talk to me. Why?
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Because I'm a woman of a thousand words and I
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would have made him come correct. And I refunded his money.
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And now I just wait to see if he'll harm
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me in any way. And I just hope he won't.
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But whatever, people are going to do what they're going
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to do. And guess what? I'm going to do what
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I'm going to do because I'm going to be there
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to help humanity rise. I'm going to show people how
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to behave because that's one thing that law school taught me, right?
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School doesn't teach you how to think. Law school taught
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me how to think, how to put nuts and bolts
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together to back away from things so I can see
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holes in things very, very quickly. So I said, thank you, coach.
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So in this situation, I kept saying to myself, thank you, coach.
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Thank you, coach. Thank you, coach. Because here is what
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the client actually did for me. He made me slow down.
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He made me go inside the app and fix it.
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He made me correct the labeling. He made me make
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sure that no one in California would ever get charged
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that tax. That wasn't accurate. He made me clarify that
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it was a service fee for using a credit card.
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He made me tighten up my business process. He made
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me clean up something that could have created future confusion
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for myself. And I didn't want that. So was he pleased? No.
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Was the exchange comfortable? No. Would I choose the energy again?
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Heck no, right? But did the situation teach me? Abso-freaking-lutely.
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I'm so grateful for the situation that happened. Because I
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was willing to see the teacher inside the problem. I
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didn't have to become the victim of the problem. And
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that's the nugget. When you can find the teacher, you
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stop being trapped by the trigger. And I just want
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to tell you that right now. When you can find
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the teacher, you can stop being trapped by the trigger.
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That is personal development. That is mindset. That's alchemy. And
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alchemy is not saying this negative thing is wonderful. It says,
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I will not let this negative thing stay negative inside me, right?
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So these are some core teachings. Let's pause right there.
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Hi, you guys, and welcome back to Beyond Mindset Limits.
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I am your host, Miss Tisha Marie Kane, I help
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you win in the courtroom. I help you win in
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the boardroom. And I certainly help you win in life.
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If you're competitive, I'm highly competitive. I want to win.
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There ain't nothing going to take me down because my
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mindset is no more victim mentality. In my 40s, I sucked.
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But I tell you, I just had my birthday last
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week and I'm 50. And if you're driving right now
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and you're listening to this radio show and you're 50
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or above, you're going to be able to identify with this.
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No one told me how fabulous this 50 is because
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my tolerance is like, I don't even care anymore. Right.
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But it's about my mindset. Like I am not going
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to let anybody live rent free in my mind. I'm like, OK,
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you're a dumb dumb. I'm not listening to you. Everybody's
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a dumb dumb. I'm just going to keep doing what
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I'm doing because I'm creating my reality moment by moment.
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This is all the spiritual woo woo stuff.
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Right.
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If you haven't had your spiritual awakening, call me when
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you do, because I tell you, it gets to be
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an amazing, wild ride. And you go in some death
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portals and out to, you know, some awakenings and cosmos
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and aliens. And then you find out that you've been
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lied to from the moment you were born. And you
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have this whole resurrection of your life and everything gets
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to be so good. So I'm telling you right now,
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I'm 50. And I'm stepping into this new decade and
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I'm teaching you a little lesson that I got to
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learn in my 40s. Just late lately, though, in my
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late 40s, did I learn this? So I thought it's
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so important to bring this message to you guys today
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that there is a teacher or a coach in every problem.
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And the event is neutral until you assign meaning. Right.
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And that's the major teachings. The event happens. Then we
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assign meaning. The client asked me before we went on
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break for a refund. And then that was the event.
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And I could assign meaning to like he's attacking me
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or he's trying to steal from me or he's unfair. Right.
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I can assign all this meaning to him. But this
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is where a course in miracles becomes practical. If you
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guys have never went down through the course in miracles,
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it's so good. It just really transforms your mind and
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really like shows you how to look at your reality different.
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Because me in the past being an injustice collector, I
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tell you, it was ugly and it sucked my life
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source energy out of me. You know, I was like every.
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day I was just angry. I'm like, see, they would
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do that. I even had a, I had a discovery
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call call with a client this morning and she says, okay,
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I need to do this, this and this. Can you help?
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I'm like, yes, I can. And so I listened about
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her story. She was going through some probate thing. And
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one of her family members had died and she was
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in probate and she was contesting the will and lotty, dotty, dotty. Okay.
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She said, I have been fighting for 12 years. And
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in the process, I've had some medical issues and this
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thing has just almost killed me. And I'm like, yep.
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00:30:18.829 --> 00:30:21.869
And I'm like, wow. Wow. Sounds like you're a fighter.
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00:30:22.410 --> 00:30:27.269
And she goes, yep, I'm a fighter. And I'm like, okay, well,
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I learned I don't fight anybody anymore. That's too much energy.
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I just want to love you and hug you and
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look at you and just say, oh goodness, there'll come
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00:30:37.940 --> 00:30:39.759
a time that you'll figure it out or you won't.
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And you're not going to take all that energy and
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00:30:42.740 --> 00:30:45.710
feed off of my energy. But what she didn't realize,
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what she was the battery source for these cord systems.
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00:30:50.329 --> 00:30:53.309
Every piece of document that she was filing into this
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00:30:53.390 --> 00:30:57.009
probate case kept the attorneys in business, kept the court
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00:30:57.089 --> 00:31:00.809
clerk in business, kept the judge in business. And she, too,
492
00:31:00.970 --> 00:31:05.269
as of today, is an injustice collector. And she's like,
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00:31:05.609 --> 00:31:08.869
can you believe they harmed me? I'm like, yes, I
494
00:31:08.970 --> 00:31:11.950
can believe it. That's what they're there for. And I
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00:31:11.990 --> 00:31:13.869
told her, I said, well, it sounds like you're going
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00:31:13.890 --> 00:31:16.099
to continue to fight. And she goes, yep, I'm going
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00:31:16.119 --> 00:31:19.359
to fight until my death. And I'm like, whoa. You know,
498
00:31:19.380 --> 00:31:22.619
those are some strong words. Like, no, I had to
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00:31:22.880 --> 00:31:26.789
really come correct and like, okay, what are we fighting for?
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00:31:26.809 --> 00:31:28.970
I don't want to fight. You know, sometimes you see
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00:31:29.009 --> 00:31:31.670
those little signs on the side of a building that
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00:31:31.710 --> 00:31:35.349
says fight world hunger or something like that. I'm like, no,
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00:31:35.930 --> 00:31:38.430
can't we just change those words up to say fight?
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00:31:39.089 --> 00:31:42.119
Let's have equal distribution and take the fight out of it.
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00:31:42.170 --> 00:31:44.289
I'm not fighting anymore. Do what you need to do.
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00:31:44.809 --> 00:31:46.910
Guess what? I'm going to do what I need to do.
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00:31:46.930 --> 00:31:49.839
And she's probably going to, this is probably going to
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00:31:49.880 --> 00:31:52.960
snow her. She's probably going to live the rest of
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her life, getting up every morning, thinking about this probate case.
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00:31:56.880 --> 00:31:59.940
It's going to consume all of her resources, her time,
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00:32:00.029 --> 00:32:04.529
her energy, her money, all the things. And she's going
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to allow it. And until I woke up and I said,
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I was reading the Course in Miracles and I was
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00:32:11.440 --> 00:32:16.609
getting out of victim mentality into student mentality, I transformed
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my whole entire life. I want to tell you also
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00:32:21.980 --> 00:32:25.380
that every trigger is a doorway. When someone triggers you,
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don't waste it. A trigger is an invitation. It's a
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00:32:29.509 --> 00:32:34.329
doorway into a belief, a boundary, a wound, a system,
519
00:32:34.430 --> 00:32:39.210
an old story. Ask, what did this activate inside of me?
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We've talked about this on past radio shows. It's all information.
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Did this activate anger or fear or guilt or shame?
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00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:51.819
You know, when we think about this bag full of emotions, right?
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00:32:51.839 --> 00:32:54.640
And I love the study of human behavior. I spent
524
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many years in college studying human behavior and what that means.
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00:32:58.650 --> 00:33:03.029
But when you have a bag full of emotions, anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame,
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00:33:03.089 --> 00:33:06.250
not good enough, those, if I can reach in and
527
00:33:06.309 --> 00:33:10.000
pull one out, I love anger, right? Anger gets me
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00:33:10.099 --> 00:33:13.720
to move. I will have every baseboard in this house
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00:33:15.420 --> 00:33:20.000
dialed in, right? Every baseboard in my office dialed in.
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00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:23.400
I'll have everything vacuumed and dusted. And I love anger
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00:33:23.420 --> 00:33:27.029
because it gets me going if I'm looking at sadness.
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00:33:27.470 --> 00:33:30.700
Sadness keeps me on the sofa, right? Because sadness doesn't
533
00:33:30.779 --> 00:33:33.980
allow me to move. So I love to see what the, okay,
534
00:33:34.039 --> 00:33:38.579
what is this is activating some anger inside me now? Why? Right?
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00:33:39.059 --> 00:33:43.630
And I asked the question, what is the teacher here? Right?
536
00:33:44.210 --> 00:33:47.940
And the answer was, clean up the payment language on
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00:33:48.019 --> 00:33:52.420
my payment app. Tighten up your service fee. Make sure
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00:33:52.480 --> 00:33:55.480
that the client knows exactly what they're paying for, Ms.
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Tisha Marie Kane. Because the last thing, you're here to
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00:33:58.519 --> 00:34:01.980
help bring people to the new earth. You're a light worker.
541
00:34:02.039 --> 00:34:05.380
I was featured on Awakened magazine and they said that
542
00:34:05.460 --> 00:34:10.449
I was a legal warrior and transformed to light worker.
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00:34:10.650 --> 00:34:13.769
I don't want to harm anyone, right? I want to
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00:34:13.889 --> 00:34:16.929
help humanity rise. And by doing that, I just fixed me.
545
00:34:17.289 --> 00:34:20.469
So I tightened up my business, right? It was very useful.
546
00:34:21.090 --> 00:34:24.829
It was very actionable. And it was a lesson deeper
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00:34:25.030 --> 00:34:28.659
in that. And I want to talk about how accountability
548
00:34:28.719 --> 00:34:32.400
is not self-abandonment. And that's important. Some people think about
549
00:34:33.760 --> 00:34:37.500
being spiritual means giving in. And it's not. Some people
550
00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:43.230
think being loving means refunding everyone. saying yes to everything,
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00:34:43.369 --> 00:34:48.710
absorbing everyone's emotional state. Heck no. That's not love. That's self-abandonment.
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00:34:49.210 --> 00:34:53.929
Love can have a boundary. Spiritual maturity can still say no.
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Compassion can still send an invitation or an invoice. Peace
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00:34:59.840 --> 00:35:03.119
can still enforce the contract and forgiveness does not require
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00:35:03.199 --> 00:35:07.699
financial stupidity. And that matters. I was accountable for the
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00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:11.900
mislabeling of that service fee. And what that guy did,
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00:35:11.980 --> 00:35:15.010
what that client did, he made me tighten up my business.
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00:35:15.050 --> 00:35:19.230
And I could have said, you jerk. Right. And not
559
00:35:19.289 --> 00:35:22.050
refunded anything. Or I looked at it like, oh, no,
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00:35:22.429 --> 00:35:24.090
there's got to be something here. And so I had
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to I had to come correct and refund that portion
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of it because I felt that that was what was fair.
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That is the just and the right and the equitable thing.
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I didn't refund the whole completed work. And that's the teaching.
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Clean accountability means I own my part without carrying his.
566
00:35:44.289 --> 00:35:47.159
That's a life skill. That's a business skill. That's a
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00:35:47.219 --> 00:35:52.059
relationship skill. That's a spiritual skill. Right. And I want
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00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:55.739
to talk about communication because I am an expert communicator.
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I help parents come to private agreements outside of these systems.
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00:36:00.719 --> 00:36:02.300
Because I last thing I want you to do is
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go inside the systems when we are meant to communicate.
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If I harmed you, I have a duty to bring
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a remedy and communication is the remedy. As soon as
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I saw this becoming an issue, I wanted to get
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on the phone because I'm an expert communicator. Get on
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00:36:17.380 --> 00:36:20.920
the phone, please. I want to first ask for forgiveness. Right.
577
00:36:21.590 --> 00:36:25.610
Sometimes an email creates more conflict because people start writing
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00:36:25.730 --> 00:36:28.469
novels with their nervous system. How many of you guys
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00:36:28.489 --> 00:36:32.289
have got one of those long, lengthy emails and you're like, ah,
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00:36:32.789 --> 00:36:36.710
thank God for like Google. What is it? Google AI
581
00:36:36.769 --> 00:36:40.800
right now. I've noticed in my emails lately, they're like
582
00:36:40.969 --> 00:36:43.639
summing them up for me real quick. So it's great.
583
00:36:43.699 --> 00:36:46.570
I'm like, oh, that's a blessing. Thank you for like
584
00:36:46.659 --> 00:36:50.460
summing up this lengthy email from a client of, you know,
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00:36:50.639 --> 00:36:53.039
all the legal documentation that I need to know about.
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00:36:53.059 --> 00:36:56.559
But Google just like put four bullet points. I'm like, cool. OK,
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now I know what to do.
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Right.
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00:36:58.159 --> 00:37:02.900
So they send long emails. They make accusations. They over explain.
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00:37:02.940 --> 00:37:07.280
They escalate more times than not. What I've seen in
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the common denominators, if you're going through the legal system,
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00:37:10.690 --> 00:37:13.969
You're you know, you're probably still in that victim mentality,
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00:37:14.030 --> 00:37:18.789
still being harmed, still seeing that everything's life is against you. Right.
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00:37:20.210 --> 00:37:22.179
So I so I'm very I put my kid gloves
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on and I'm like, OK, I know, you know, I
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00:37:24.719 --> 00:37:26.559
know you're going through it right now. Some lady called
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00:37:26.579 --> 00:37:28.820
me yesterday. She said, can you help me with my divorce?
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I'm like, yes. And she goes, I can't believe I'm
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00:37:31.460 --> 00:37:35.840
getting a divorce. And she goes, oh, my goodness. You know, crying.
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00:37:35.900 --> 00:37:37.860
I'm like, great. How can I help? And she knew
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00:37:37.889 --> 00:37:40.789
that I wasn't going to plan that because basically I
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00:37:40.829 --> 00:37:43.050
told her you probably shouldn't have got married in the
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first place. And there was probably all of these red
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00:37:46.190 --> 00:37:49.380
flags sticking out that you ignored. And just because you
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00:37:49.420 --> 00:37:53.539
ignore the red flags doesn't mean they go away. And
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00:37:53.619 --> 00:37:57.039
she said, Miss Tisha Marie Kane, you are right. And
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I said, I know. And I don't say this to
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00:37:58.500 --> 00:38:00.380
be right. And I don't say this to be mean.
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I just say this because I'm not playing in that.
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00:38:02.500 --> 00:38:05.360
You should probably, you never got married in the first place.
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So let's get you divorced. Let's come to some agreement.
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00:38:08.090 --> 00:38:11.030
Let's get a private. We'll break the marriage contract. We'll
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00:38:11.050 --> 00:38:12.860
just do a new contract. And then you'll be on
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00:38:12.889 --> 00:38:15.050
about your way. And then, you know, things will be
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00:38:15.070 --> 00:38:17.969
totally great. And she goes, oh, I just love this.
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00:38:18.090 --> 00:38:21.369
Of course. It's how you look at it. How you
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00:38:21.449 --> 00:38:27.429
look at it becomes... The way, right? Changing your mindset
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00:38:27.489 --> 00:38:32.380
for clarity. And I can move people from a story
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00:38:32.539 --> 00:38:38.239
into a solution every day. I see solutions. My brain
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00:38:38.980 --> 00:38:43.059
sees patterns. I see by the language that you use,
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I know where you're at. I know where you're going.
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00:38:47.329 --> 00:38:49.550
I read the energy when you're on the phone and
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you don't have to say anything. Sometimes people just don't
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00:38:52.969 --> 00:38:56.079
want a resolution. They want to stay in the story.
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00:38:56.579 --> 00:38:59.000
They want to keep writing. They want to keep proving.
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00:38:59.039 --> 00:39:02.849
They want to keep building their case. That's victim consciousness.
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00:39:02.929 --> 00:39:06.070
And I, I can't stand it, but I help people
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00:39:06.170 --> 00:39:08.590
in victim consciousness all day, every day. And then I'd
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00:39:08.610 --> 00:39:12.429
give them a little nugget because student consciousness says, let's
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00:39:12.489 --> 00:39:17.199
resolve this. We have, there's some clear remedies here, right? Dr.
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00:39:17.400 --> 00:39:22.179
Wayne Dyer, he says the quickest way to, what did
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00:39:22.219 --> 00:39:25.760
he say? The quickest way way for healing is to
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00:39:25.949 --> 00:39:31.429
erase your personal story, right? The moment I mean, I
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00:39:31.510 --> 00:39:34.050
stayed in this story for years and this was a
635
00:39:34.239 --> 00:39:36.460
story not to bore you with all the things, but
636
00:39:37.019 --> 00:39:44.320
I had 283 court dates in six years. Miss Tisha
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00:39:44.340 --> 00:39:49.440
Marie Kane had been to court 283 times I ran
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00:39:49.519 --> 00:39:51.760
right to law school to figure out what was happening
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00:39:51.820 --> 00:39:54.030
to me. And I stayed in that. I was like,
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00:39:54.130 --> 00:39:56.969
I was a victim. And then I'm a survivor. And
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00:39:56.989 --> 00:40:00.070
then it became like, if I say that out of
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00:40:00.150 --> 00:40:05.360
my mouth again, it's just like disgusting that I erased
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00:40:05.420 --> 00:40:08.820
my personal story. That was a past iteration of myself.
644
00:40:09.239 --> 00:40:12.630
I no longer play on that. Whatever. There are some
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00:40:12.690 --> 00:40:15.719
bad actors in the past. You guys go do you.
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00:40:16.380 --> 00:40:19.099
And I'm going to do me. And I'm here to
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00:40:19.139 --> 00:40:23.929
raise the planet's vibration and frequency and bring everybody into
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love and light. And I laugh because. I have some
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00:40:27.289 --> 00:40:31.019
people that actually told me that I'm really upset with
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00:40:31.059 --> 00:40:33.500
you because you have an access of joy that I
651
00:40:33.559 --> 00:40:36.530
can't reach. And they do, but they don't believe it.
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00:40:36.980 --> 00:40:39.300
So I just say, borrow my belief. You can access
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the joy that I'm in. You just have to get there, right?
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00:40:43.110 --> 00:40:46.610
The teacher is not always the person. It's subtle. The
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00:40:46.650 --> 00:40:50.050
client was not my teacher because he was wise, right?
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00:40:50.469 --> 00:40:53.789
The situation around what happened to me was the teacher.
657
00:40:53.849 --> 00:40:56.909
The friction was the teacher. The discomfort was the teacher.
658
00:40:57.389 --> 00:41:02.159
The fee label was the teacher. The communication breakdown was
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00:41:02.579 --> 00:41:05.460
the teacher. The boundary was the teacher. The app setting
660
00:41:05.519 --> 00:41:07.400
was the teacher. I looked at all of this, you guys.
661
00:41:07.500 --> 00:41:10.460
I went down. I'm like, okay, what is this? It's annoying.
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00:41:10.679 --> 00:41:13.639
What is this teaching me? I could be totally mad
663
00:41:13.659 --> 00:41:16.519
at my client. right? He wasn't going to get the
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00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:19.380
refund of the whole money. Heck no, that wasn't right
665
00:41:19.460 --> 00:41:23.469
and equitable. But what is the lesson in this? I said,
666
00:41:23.510 --> 00:41:27.969
thank you, coach. And I also said, he's not my guru.
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00:41:27.989 --> 00:41:32.449
I was saying this experience has instruction inside of it.
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00:41:32.510 --> 00:41:34.679
It has information. And that gave me power. I do
669
00:41:35.940 --> 00:41:40.590
not like to, you know, push all this on the person. Right.
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00:41:40.710 --> 00:41:43.650
But the reality was I owned what was mine and
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00:41:43.769 --> 00:41:46.409
he needed to own what was his. And that was
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00:41:46.469 --> 00:41:51.840
the bigger lesson. This is a lot. I mean, this
673
00:41:51.900 --> 00:41:55.179
gets me fired up because I'm passionate. If you guys
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00:41:55.219 --> 00:41:59.360
cannot hear the passion in my voice, I'm here to help.
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00:41:59.940 --> 00:42:03.719
And I've had to go through the trenches of suffering.
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00:42:03.760 --> 00:42:06.860
You guys, it was disgusting. You know, I had to
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00:42:07.019 --> 00:42:10.280
sit in this sadness and this suffering. And there's still
678
00:42:10.340 --> 00:42:14.159
harms that haven't been corrected. But whatever. I just think
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in divine timing, it's all going to be perfect. And
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until then, I'm just going to live my best life.
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Because the lesson, I took the lesson and I released
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the energy. And that's a big one. After the lesson
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is received, you do not need to keep that energy
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00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:34.989
with you. You do not keep... You don't need to
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00:42:35.030 --> 00:42:37.949
keep replaying the email or reading that email. You don't
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00:42:37.989 --> 00:42:41.559
need to keep defending yourself in your mind. You don't
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00:42:41.619 --> 00:42:44.800
need to keep saying, see, they were the one wrong, right?
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You take the lesson, you make the correction, you hold
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the boundary, and you just release the energy. And this
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is what I mean when I say, thank you, coach. Case, class, dismissed.
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The class is over. The lesson has been received. The
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teacher can leave. And that's clean coaching. And I love
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clean coaching. What I mean by clean coaching is bringing
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it back to you. You have all of the remedy
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00:43:17.849 --> 00:43:20.269
inside of you. We just need to come correct as
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00:43:20.309 --> 00:43:25.880
a humanity, as humans full of colors. Humanity needs to
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come correct and take responsibility and own up. I owned
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up to that myself. App was mislabeled and that was
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00:43:35.539 --> 00:43:39.539
wrong of me. And I refunded the five bucks and
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I corrected it because I don't want that. I don't
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want that in my life and I don't want to
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misconstrue or misrepresent. That's not who I am, right? I'm
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here to lead through congruency. Life is happening through us.
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And there's levels to this. The first level is life
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is happening to me, which is a victim consciousness. The
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second level is life is happening for me. And this
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is empowerment. The third level is life is happening through me.
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And that's mastery. When life is happening through you, you
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become the alchemist. You take the raw material of the
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moment and you turn it into wisdom, into boundaries, into clarity,
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into communication, into growth. And this is the level I
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want my listeners to begin living from. Not denial. Not fantasy,
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not toxic positivity, mastery, mastery. So I invite my listeners
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to say, thank you, coach, as a practice. The next
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time a problem shows up, write down four things. What happened?
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And keep it factual. No drama, no story, just facts. Okay.
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Then number two, what meaning did I immediately give it?
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Right?
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What did I make that mean? Did I make that
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mean that I'm not good enough? Be honest. Did you
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make that mean that they disrespected you or rejection or failure,
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or you are being abandoned or being used or being unsupported?
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That's number two. And what is this teaching me? Look
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for the lessons. What is this teaching me? The moment
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you're triggered, you say, What is this teaching me? What
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is this teaching me? Look for the lesson, the systems,
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the boundaries, the communication, the pricing, the discernment, the self-respect,
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the patience, the trust. And then what's the next clean action?
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Not a reactive action. We don't react. We respond. What's
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the clean action? Make the call, send the email. Like
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I sent him an email and said, hey, I need
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you to get on the phone. I'd like to clear
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this up with you. He says, nope, I don't want
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to talk to you. Of course he doesn't want to
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talk to me because he's going to know that I'm
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not going to be sending him the whole $ 150. But
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in fact, I was going to clean it up and
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make sure that he had already been harmed. And I
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know he did. I don't read any of the process
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of service forms that I serve anymore because I'm so
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empathic that I'm like, oh my gosh, can you believe
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this person's been harmed? But what I did come correct
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on is, hey, there's two sides to every story. And
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I'm not the jury on this case right now. And
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I can't be anyway, because I can't judge my neighbor.
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But I just say, okay, I'll print them out. And
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I'll serve them. That's it. I don't read any of them, right?
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Because I want to make sure that there's some clear boundaries,
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and that things are done equitably, right? I hold my boundary,
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I block their energy, and then I move on. And
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it was simply like, Okay, thank you. Done. Okay, cool.
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I found out that there was a little bit of
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a problem with my system. I corrected it. He's going
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to do whatever he's going to do. That's it. I'm
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moving on. And guess what? He figured it out and
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so did I, right? Use these problems as teachers. And
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I know that some people are addicted to being wronged.
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They are wronged. Right. They are addicted to being wrong.
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And I hope that's not you listening. But if it
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is you, you can turn it around. Right. They may
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sound strong, but let's tell the truth. Some people do
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not know who they are without the problem. Right. Who
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am I? And that was a question I had to
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ask myself for a long time ago. Who am I
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without the sufferings? Right. Because the suffering was what I
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was identifying with. If they took the suffering away. Oh,
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my gosh. I actually had to be a different person. Right.
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Who am I without all of this garbage that I
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was attaching myself to? Right. I needed evidence that the
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world was unfair and I needed that to identify who
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I was. And here was the biggest problem. At what cost?
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If you need to be a victim, you can't be
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a creator. You cannot hold both identities at the same time.
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You just simply can't. And how do you think I know?
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Because I've lived it. I walked it. I talked it.
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You cannot say I'm powerless and also say I am
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consciously creating my life. And I do this from a
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spiritual woo-woo perspective is frame by frame. I believe that
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I'm not, I'm in control, but I really am not, right?
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The more times, the more I know, the more I
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realize I don't know anything. And the more I get
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out of my way is the more that the reality
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that I want shows up, right? And the more I say, okay, cool.
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I'm just going to let things happen frame by frame
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with conscious creation. It does. And it gets to be
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so exquisite. right? Freedom often begins when we stop asking,
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how did this happen to me? And start asking, what
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is this trying to teach me? So this is how
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I help humanity through different lenses. I'm teaching people that
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their perception is a create process. I'm teaching people that
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emotional maturity is not the absence of conflict. Actually, I
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love it when little, I don't like big conflicts anymore.
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I'm too old for that. I'm 50 years old, right?
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But these little things pop up. I'm like, woo, I
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get to see how my avatar is going to behave.
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How are you going to handle this, Miss Tisha Marie Kane?
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I'm teaching people that boundaries and miracles can coexist. I'm
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teaching people they can stop outsourcing their peace to other
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people's behavior, right? And so I'm teaching people that How
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to take responsibility and transmute it into something that could
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be a lesson to be learned. When relationships change, families change.
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When families change, communities change. When communities change, humanity changes.
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And that's the ripple effect into this. So today, I
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want to take this lesson with you. Every problem has
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a teacher. The teacher may not always come dressed up
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like wisdom. And the teacher may come dressed like a
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difficult client or a bad email or a mislabeled service
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fee like me. The teacher may come dressed like a
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delay or a disagreement or a mystery or a mistake
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or a trigger or a conflict. But if you're willing
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to pause and breathe and ask, What is this here
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to teach me? You become so powerful. You stop being
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the victim of the moment. You become the student of
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the moment. And eventually you become the master of the moment.
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And that's the path to really, you guys, that's the path.
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So the next time life irritates you or inconveniences you,
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like even inconvenience, like the other day I was like, okay,
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I have to get my kid out of school, right?
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And there was a train. I'm like, oh, the train.
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I'm like, nope. You know what? The train is slowing
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me down for a reason. Be present in the moment, right?
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Anytime that life challenges you, inconveniences you, exposes a system
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gap or brings someone into your field who is operating
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from victim consciousness, try this. Do not immediately react. Do
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not immediately collapse or attack them or defend. Pause and ask,
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what is mine? What is not mine? What is the lesson?
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And what is the clean next action? And then say, okay,
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Take a moment and say, thank you, coach. Take the lesson.
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Hold the boundary. Release the rest. And say, case dismissed.
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That's what you do. So let's take a couple calls.
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Or actually, Monica wrote in from Pasadena. Monica, she goes, Tisha,
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I wanted to understand the idea that every problem has
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a teacher. But how do I do that without pretending
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the situation didn't hurt me? I don't want to spiritually
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bypass what really happened. Okay. I love that. Okay. What
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would I say to that? I would say, I guess
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that's the exact distinction. We're not pretending it didn't hurt us.
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We're saying everything we're, we're, we're not saying everything is
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fine when it's not the higher teaching here. The higher
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teaching here is feel the hurt, feel the truth, feel
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it in your body. And then ask for the lesson. Spirituality,
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the spiritual maturity is not denial. It's the ability to
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hold both truths at once. This hurt me and it
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can still teach me. So that, thank you, Monica, for
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writing in. There is a teacher in every problem. Get
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out of victim consciousness into more empowered consciousness. My name
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is Tisha Marie Kane. I can be found at www.tishamariekane.com.
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And until next week, you guys have a great week.
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I'm so excited to be here.
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Thank you for joining Tisha Marie Kane for Beyond Mindset Limits.
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Tune in every Wednesday at 4 p.m. as the conversation
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continues around mindset, legal insight, and publishing as a strategic
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tool for business positioning. Visit TishaMarieKane.com or KanesLegalSupport.com for more
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